#and the only person that can help u overcome it is urself!!!

[spiderbyhoshi]

junhui talking abt how he dealt with social anxiety and how if u want to overcome it u truly have to force urself out of ur comfort zone and convince urself u aren’t nervous and little by little u will start to believe it and believe in urself and him saying "open the little door to your world and i believe this world will accept you"

[catgumi]

“Fushiguro.”

Formal tones. Distance. So much distance between them. He'd never hated his name so much. He wanted to be Megumi again, he wanted to be the Megumi that Yuuji had made human. Running so fast that the tears dried where they glistened against his cornea, screaming his name like it could buy them time. His hand reached out, thread pulled taut and he knew what it meant but he refused to acknowledge it.

He refused, he refused. Megumi didn't care if the threads wrapped around his neck and suffocated him anymore, he didn't even care if they snapped. Yuuji was his, all his. The only person who'd ever belonged to him, who he gave himself to. The first thing he had ever asked for in this world.

Megumi couldn't reject the notion of soulmates anymore. Half his heart, all his soul — everything spattered before him then and there. Stilled in his tracks, for a moment, his chest didn't even heave. Yuuji's blood on his cheek, trickling past the corner of his mouth. It tasted like a last kiss. His lungs stuttered. Yuuji had just been standing there, and now he was gone.

(my brain isn't working vv well today, so this is just a little extract from an itafushi fic im working on, bc i am working on one!! i have many drafts, but this one is my fav🤧 tysm for saying such nice things tho🥺 currently a bit busy so progress is slow, but if you'd like i can drop a link when i post it eventually🥺 as for an indication of which moot i am, ig we became moots fairly recently?? haven't interacted before that if it helps)

shaking you and crying righr now and ripping out my hair and everything . anonwhat tge fuck this is gorgeous .what happened to yuji😭😭 ur such a talented writer im like actually bawling , i would love a link once its posted..if u have any other works posted i encourage u to overcome ur fear of outing urself so that i can read them 🙏🙏

[neophele]

Being Insecure. - NCT Dream Reaction

Thank u sm for the request !!!!!! <: to anyone who is feeling insecure here u go (づ ᴗ _ᴗ)づ♡ take some love and give it to urself. it is a hard time of year for a lot of people and sometimes just getting through the day is enough okay !!! Words: ~1.5k Genre: Fluff, comfort Warnings: Mentions of insecurity (nothing specific) and anxiety (nothing specific)

Mark

Mark would be so taken aback, like you? Insecure? You are perfect in his eyes, and although he understands everyone has their inner struggles, it just gives him whiplash for a moment that you don’t see yourself the way he sees you. He would hold your hands and look into your eyes, stumbling through the most nonsensical repetitive sentence full of ‘but like’ and ‘just’ before landing on the most heartwarming declaration of his belief in your complete supremacy. He entirely understands and empathises with the feeling of being insecure and knows it isn’t something you can just snap out of, but he will tell you over and over again why he loves whatever it is that you’re insecure about. He absolutely refuses to let you tell yourself that you aren’t good enough in any way and wants to encourage you to be confident in yourself for whom you are rather than trying to change yourself. From there on becomes the voice countering any self-deprecating thoughts, making sure his words remind you of all the charms and goodness you possess every single day. 

Renjun 

Initially, he might not entirely take you seriously because he just doesn’t see the things you’re insecure about. When he realises how upset or anxious you really are, he feels bad for not taking you seriously and sits down with you, hands intertwined with yours as he apologises and hears out every single one of the thoughts in your head. Whilst he knows he could say a million words to remind you how highly he thinks of you, he knows that his words and actions can only go so far and that you need to be able to see yourself in a confident light first and foremost. He absolutely does tell you all those things he loves about you and probably shares some of his own insecurities to show you how he truly empathises with you, but also wants to take action on your feelings. Whether it’s through artistic means to express emotions, reading up self-help books on how to improve your confidence, or just helping you to list everything that is right with you, he wants to use practical means to overcome the root of the problem. 

Jeno

Another confused puppy at first – when he sees the sadness in your eyes and the downturn of your lips as you confess your feelings of insecurity, he can’t understand why on earth you’d feel so upset about yourself when all he sees in you is perfection. Taking you into his arms, he’d hold you together, allowing you to let out all the emotions inside of you and comfort you as they spill over. Once you had let everything out, he would readily remind you of how no one is perfect and that you should be your number one fan since you are the only person who lives with you for your entire life. In the short term, he would want to make you feel safe and secure, treating you to your favourite self-care activity and holding you as close to him as possible because he can’t let you feel like you’re going through anything alone. In the long term, he would try and remind you of the things he loves about you more often, hoping that his love can help you see yourself in a better light.

Haechan

Donghyuck is not letting you feel insecure, ever. As soon as you even hint that you aren’t exactly loving everything about yourself, he makes it his personal mission to tell you how much he loves everything about you, especially those things you are insecure about. Sometimes he’s entirely serious, so serious you’re almost concerned he’s been possessed by the spirit of some grave-though-sort-of endearing motivational speaker, and other times, he’s full of jokes and dramatic confessions of your perfection, complete with the signature pout and hands cupping your face so you can’t squirm away. He firmly believes that health and happiness come before anything else, and if there’s anything that’s making you feel insecure (like a job, bad friends, uni, etc.), then you need to prioritise taking care of yourself first and foremost. He’s not telling you to give up or quit by any means, no. Just reminding you that you are your number one priority, and anything or anyone that makes you feel any less good about yourself should not have that much power over how you see yourself. 

Jaemin

Good luck being insecure about yourself in a relationship with Jaemin; he would constantly be showering you with so much love and attention with those honey-dripping gazes and fervent smiles, no-end to the lovestruck compliments at anything you do, doting hands constantly stroking your hair, face, hands, arms, everywhere. His sweetness and sincere compliments would be delivered at exactly the right time, in exactly the right manner, that it halts whatever insecure thought was growing in your mind as soon as it began to sprout. Confessing to him that you were actually insecure in certain things would break his heart, as wanting you to feel nothing other than love would be his top priority. Patiently listens to you and strokes your hair with your head on his lap or his chest as you reveal your troubled thoughts, and then goes on to explain to you in several different and equally unique ways why those things that are troubling you are entirely false.  If you thought he was doting enough already, he turns it up 100% after hearing you feeling insecure, giving you even more compliments and showering you with even more love than you knew one human could produce. 

Chenle

Not on his watch! The moment you try and express your concerns about whatever you think isn’t good enough about you, he launches into a whole monologue about how he loves you and thinks you’re perfect and can’t imagine you as anything less than some kind of celestial being. When his small outburst is over, however, he listens to you intently and frowns every time you say something bad about yourself – stepping in only to argue against the unfavourable thoughts and feelings before you move on to the next. After breaking down everything that you’re feeling, he decides that rather than complimenting you more or something of that kind, he’s going to subtly show you how to love yourself. Whenever you do something demonstrating your virtues, he makes it a moment to show you your strengths, and after any and every success, he reminds you to take pride in yourself and what you can do. Chenle wants you to be able to be proud of and happy with yourself and will make sure to spare no effort in gently nudging you towards this goal.

Jisung 

Another one who would be absolutely heartbroken hearing of your insecurities. Although he understands it’s only human nature, he’d feel as though he hadn’t done enough to make you feel loved or wasn’t complimenting you enough if you still thought anything hurtful towards yourself. This would be his own insecurities creeping up on him, and you’d have to both sit down and talk through the painful emotions, no matter how tedious or upsetting it is. Makes it something to work on together. Rather than seeing it as his mission or your own internal struggle, it becomes a pact to help each other become more confident in yourselves and accept the things you can’t change. I think growing together would be a huge part of a relationship with Jisung, wanting to help make up for the areas you both lack in, and helping the areas you shine in glow even brighter. Being insecure wouldn’t be a shortfall; it would be an opportunity to evolve and allow yourselves to flourish with the right care and attention.

[sethcertified]

Do you have any fandoms you want to write for but for any reasons you just can’t/don’t? Also any tips on writing any “murderous” scenes? - 🛎️

1. SO MANY !! kinda off topic but I have a lot of crushes on female characters from fandoms im in that I don’t write for simply because writing mlm fan fiction is my main way to overcome my internalized transphobia/homophobia butt like actual fandoms I would say

• genshin impact (not rlly into it but was)

• x-men (characterization fears)

• twisted wonderland (lots of characters + characterization fears)

• some slasher characters (I’ve only written for ones that I’m more comfortable with in personality and even then I hate a lot of my slashers fics cs I think my characterization of them is SOO bad (mainly bo sinclair) + I’m still figuring out how to write characters that are mute in any capacity and have rlly only practiced with Vincent but still that’s in a headcanon format which is easier than actual fics and overall all my slasher character writing fears sucks cause I love characters like bubba sawyer, thomas hewitt, michael myers, jason vorhees, etc and want to write for them but I’m scared to)

that’s mainly it I think ?? I still have these characters on my masterlist tho cs i can write for them and will I just need that push so my requests with those fandoms are cooking (very slowly) but can fun fact I almost discontinued scream for u out of fears my characterization of billy and stu and some other characters such as tatum, randy, etc was AWFUL (I still think it is but I’m not changing it at this point)

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2. these scenes are HARD buttt I would suggest practicing recreating horror videos or movies onto a writing format to learn how to do that. before I wrote scream for you, I did this a lot just to practice for it. for instance, I rewrote the horror video “no through road” into a short horror story and it gave me a really good grasp on how to write that type of scene/story.

i would also suggest reading a lot of different horror or tragedy stories and taking and learning from what you can from that. seeing how different authors use phrases, setting, etc to set up a good horror is a great way to learn. if u want a more sad rather than violent type of scene, tragedy is a great way to learn how to make readers sympathize and feel sad at characters deaths etc (I recently re-read mice of men which I think is a perfect example of a murder-tragedy gone right and how u can make murder sad for both the victims and the perpetrator) Edgar Allen Poe is great too but I just love his work a lot so I might be biased 😭 just surrounding urself in content that is grounded in murder is a great way to familiarize urself whether it’s books, shows, movies, YouTube videos, etc !!

also don’t focus too much on making it insanely busy with murder and stuff. I hate to use this as an example but my friends when writing an horror story for class got into this mindset of “the more grotesque the better” and starting thinking of the most horrific ways for someone to die rather than taking the time to delve into what makes the story scary. focus of characters and the effect u want their death to have on the audience and on the story. imo, u can make death scenes grotesque but don’t rely on that yk? idk if that makes sense but stuff like “he plucked the woman’s eyes out one by one, the wet, slippery sockets squelching in the clenched first of his blood soaked hand. Then he peeled each layer of skin off in a torturous fashion; fueling his momentum on her screams of agony yada yada” wont make ur readers feel scared nor sad but rather uncomfortable

THERES JUST SOOO MUCH AND IM NO EXPERT !! like my murderous scenes were half baked at best 👎 research is ur best friend tho and learning what works and what doesn’t is a process so don’t be afraid to take risks and get feedback !! Hope I could help in my very scattered advice 🙏

[yakultii]

it's okay if you can't sleep; as you've said before, there's many uncontrollable factors that build up to your inability to find rest in a timely manner. however, from another perspective, you are probably the person who is most likely to truly value a good night of sleep the most.

it might not even come in the near future, but i'm sure with all the things you're bound to attempt in the quest to overcome these struggles, you'll slowly but surely find something that works best for you.

it's only our pain and frustration that gives context to the times we are happy. such a cliche is often forgotten, as we fixate more on what is going wrong - many convince themselves it is an inherent problem with themselves, but know you have the power to persevere. you're here, after all.

even if it's neither today nor tomorrow, keep moving forward. surely, there will come a day you can look back at these times and smile, knowing it helped you appreciate life and grow.

I appreciate this <3 you’re right I’ll find a way! Honestly I just get a little tired and a little envious of people who live their worst years for 1-2yrs (not that that’s any less valid of a rough time) and then go on to live their best lives! to be fair I thought this was going to be my story too at one point but now it’s been like a decade and I really have been trying almost all this time like I just get tired in every way I think more so now that I don’t really have any family or friends to interact with irl to keep me afloat, it’s kinda all on me now and what I’m going to choose to make of this existence and I’ve always had goals to keep me going but idk what the goals are anymore (bc I partially achieve all of them and then have to dip bc of my health when I’m just getting started) a bitch is just so tired… still I remain hopeful.. I know I probably come across as rather pessimistic (especially in my writing on my main but remember these blogs are just an outlet for one side of me and don’t rlly represent em irl imo) but there’s always been a tiny glimmer of light in the back of my mind bc unimaginable things can happen in the future we just don’t know - I never lose sight of that (though sometimes I wish I did) anyways soz for tiny rant idk if it’s at all relevant but thank u for ur message !! if ur going through things urself or if anyone reading this is, I hope u can hold onto a barely existent light as well bc while I haven’t found a sense of stability yet, I will say holding onto said light has provided me with a few moments of joy throughout the years (while easy to forget amongst the more prevalent dark) that I wouldn’t have been able to experience without holding onto the light and in those moments u remember why ur alive so pls know some of those moments will come eventually (and then go but then come again) and even for just a moment you’ll be glad u held on <3333 we be goin thru it my dudes but I guess this is just the way things go (and just maybe things will change oneday idk but no point being too caught up in the past which I can’t change, though easier said than done)

[violentviolette]

so, i saw you talk about how people with aspd process and show things like care/affection differently from neurotypicals; and if you had the time to answer wanted to ask, is it the same with other emotions? does aspd make it impossible to feel things other than empathy and remorse, or does it kind of just make emotions duller?

also, does being a little happy that someone you care a lot about is happy (usually if you made them happy) count as empathy? can someone with very low/somewhat lower empathy still have aspd, or is it just for people with absolutely 0 empathy?

I'm gonna answer these a little out of order but hopefully itll make more sense this way and sorry in advance that this got a little long lmfaoo

so officially in the DSM criteria the only emotion that is stated as not being present in ppl with aspd is remorse. which is feeling negative emotions for the harm ur actions have caused others regardless of any consequences to urself.

while its possible for ppl with aspd to have very low amounts of selective empathy, its not as common and most ppl who do not experience remorse also dont feel emotional empathy. although we do feel cognitive empathy because this isnt rooted in emotions but is a logical process u can teach urself and train over time till it becomes almost automatic

other than that we are capable of experiencing all other emotions, altho because aspd is a trauma based disorder and that trauma permanently alters how our brain grows and functions, it does affect our other emotions and our relationship to them. we will not experience or express most emotions the way nuerotypicals do. for example most antisocials I know have a very low threshold and tolerance for others, even partners, and require lots of downtime on our own and are very easily irritated. but everyone is different and our unique experiences and trauma and other disorders will affect how those things all present. some ppl will have dulled emotions and some might have very volatile emotions. it just kinda depends

as for the experience u described of being happy that someone u care about is happy, that isnt empathy because its still based on ur feelings. u aren't feeling happy solely because another person is happy. ur feeling happy because someone u care about is happy and that is a positive thing that u want. esp if its because u made them happy, thats just taking joy and pride in ur own actions so thats still rooted in ur own emotions

empathy would be feeling happy after seeing a stranger happy or someone u know happy for a reason that has nothing to do with u. someone else finds $5 in their pocket and u get excited with them as if u just found $5. emotional empathy is about feeling the emotions of others as if they were happening to u. another example would be someone talks about loosing a parent and u are overcome with grief and sadness as if it was ur parent who had died.

this would be different from say, ur partner looses a parent and u feel bad for them because u know they are upset and since u care for them u dont want to see them in pain. that isnt empathy (its sympathy) because its rooted in how u feel about that person and not simply mimicking their emotional state

I hope that was helpful and again sorry it got kinda long lmfaooo

[menalez]

this is a weird question and i hope it’s not too offensive or anything to bi person but im dating a bi woman and i rlly like her but her bisexuality makes me worried tbh. i worry she will miss men and no longer want to be monogamous with me. her past of dating men kinda grosses me out as well i hate to admit but it is a turn off. how do i overcome these feelings i know they are wrong? any tips for how a lesbian can unlearn biphobia?

it’s hard for me to help here bc ive never dealt w such feelings before… i would suggest not thinking of her sexual or romantic history so much & not seeing it as sth like separate from her? like the person you’re with today lived thru that and it made her the person you’re now with and attracted to and what matters is who she is now not who she was with before. as for the worrying about her wanting to leave ur relationship bc she’d miss men, that sounds moreso like a personal insecurity. there’s enough evidence of bi ppl sticking to the same partner and not leaving them bc they miss being with someone of a different sex. it’s very possible that she will do the same for you, but it’s also possible the relationship will eventually end and she’ll be with a man next. whatever happens isnt a reflection of you and if she does that then she clearly wasn’t the right person for you. i think perhaps reminding urself that her bisexuality doesn’t mean she can’t be committed to you would be good and to try to be critical towards your thoughts in that regard. the only situation i would find it more reasonable in is if she’s literally holding the possibility of her leaving u for a man over ur head and based on what ur said, im assuming she hasn’t done that

[alaezasmystery235]

Hii! Plss take care of yourself n rest well!

When I asked for some bad/evil entities, spirits said no... There's no negative entity surrounding u rn but maybe there's a situation/conflict, persons u need to let go. Walk away from smtg which is no longer serving u for ur higher good n instead sucking ur energy. BE READY FOR THE CHANGE. A big transformation is abt to happen or a change is coming into ur life soon. You are in stress n spirits are suggesting u to let go of smtg/smn n don't be scared, u r ready for that change n it will happen for ur growth only. You hv isolated urself (kind of) n spirits wants u to go out, have fun n most probably be creative. Find a new hobby n do smtg creative. There's maybe a choice u hv to make. Don't wrry jst go for it. Trust ur instincts n everything's gonna be fine.

(let go, change n be creative) these 3 things were coming back again n again.

Take care, you are the strongest n u can overcome any obstacle coming to ur way. Believe in ur urself. You are much more powerful than u think<333

Hmmm you're quite right about channeling those messages . CHANGE IS SCARING . Though I first didn't think about it too much but Im definitely worried. I know my guides being frustrated with me rn but I can't help it 🤧 . And about those evil spirits I was actually watching fear files yesterday night and well you know the rest 🥴🙃.

[yioh]

2020 follow forever :^)

hello it is, but i, ur local frog, yura, i really realllllllllyyyyyyyyyyy wanted to make some kind of post to appreciate everyone on here because , fr, you guys have been such a large part of my life recently and i can not thank you enough... every single person i have interacted with on here has been so wonderful and it’s been such a pleasure to talk with you guys<3

also extremely extremely extremely sorry if i forget anyone, i really really do love every single person i interact with!! this is my first time doing something like this also this is probably filled with typos but im too impatient and lazy to read what i wrote, im so sorry if its weird or something aaaaaaaaaaaa jhdsgjhd

without further ado lets goooooo losers😎

@honeyedmilks sof u are one of the softest people i know, we didn’t get to talk that much this year but i love ur presence in general and it makes me :D when u pop up on my dash/notes hehe, i can’t express just how much i adore ur writing, the vibes and settings and the way u write in general is so my thing and !!!!!!!! <3 

@asianmelodrama faizaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa u are mine and a lot of other people’s sunshine on this hellsite !!!! ur blog is so feel good and pretty and relaxing and i love all ur thoughts and ur gifs are soooooooooo pretty and ur so cool !!!!!!!! thank u for being so kind and creative and wonderful and for creating a place so safe and lovely i love u i love uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu

@muscosus robin robin robin robin ILUSM !!!!!!! ur so fun to talk to and i find it so amusing that we met each other via druck but then consequently found all our interests colliding and we were literally *shook pikachu* kdhigjdghkjf also whenever u tag me in whale stuff it warms my heart so much and i treasure our friendship so so much !!!

@lesbiangoths OLIVIA why are u so adorable :( everytime u send me an ask im :) ur so creative and talented and ur crocheting stuff looks so COOL !!!!! also ur vibe is just immaculate in general and talking with u is so easy, never change ilu bro

@illiterateopossum ELIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ur DEFINATELY one of the people on here that are MOST special to me, all our conversations are so freaking fun and man, u just get me .... and watching u get into all the dramas and anime i reccomend ??? it makes my heart doki doki hiagsjhjh thank u for always looking out for me and sending me the most loveliest messages, im really really bad with words and i am SHITE with keeping up with messaging but i seriously treasure our friendship so so much, i only hope for good things to happen to you next year and all the years after that, you’re such a kind wonderful person and !!!!!!!!!!!! i love u sm :(

@beesnutz KJDFKHIJFHKD GUSTE i wanna be emotional this one time and tell u that ur seriously such a fun person and the way my brain goes on overdrive from creativity when i talk to you is . insane. i want to bonk ur head with as much cereal as i can, never forget that you will always be the dumb sidekick to me, the superior villain and i WILL lead the way to world domination one day. sometimes i feel like u aren’t even real, you could be an anime character and i wouldn’t even bat an eyelash . ilu <3

@rosa-leche kana kana KANA :^) how are u so ???? sweet ???? adorable ???? wonderful ????? i already had so much fun interacting with you, all ur thoughts and messages are always so sweet and u make me smile SO much, and after the secret santa i feel like we have so much in common !!!!!!!!! do tell me if u ever watch bloom into you hehe, keep being the angel u are, ilusm !

@petekaos RAHUL !!!!!!!!!!!!! meeting u this summer feels like so long ago somehow, you sir!!! are one TALENTED person . it really really amazes me with how much passion you get into things and how much love and adoration you put into the things you create, its so so special .... anytime i see u vibing on my dash it fills me with so much joy, keep doing u bro !!!!

@toptaps zeeeeeeeeeeey you are so lovely :) you’re so gentle and soft and i adore talking with u about nanamin, also u are so cool and i was rly rly happy when u followed me lol, lowkey i admired u from afar jdhjkhdijd i love uuuuuuu

@fushiguroo MY LIL OREO CUTIE PATOOTIE oFC i still remember the first ask u sent me, i was so taken aback and honoured :( and the more and more i talked with you and saw you on my dash i was so happy, you have such good taste and you’re so so cute, take care of urself and stay the precious bean u are ok? 

@morksuns sumaya sumaya sumayaaaaaaaaaaaa everytime you interact with me im :D i love all our little convos and ur vibe in general is so peaceful and relaxing, im glad i got to meet you:’) here’s to another year and many more after that, that are filled with only good dramas !!!

@gayvlad NICO (nico niiiiiiiiiiiiii ) YOU DESERVE THE W O R L D. i dont know why but as soon as i had like one convo with u that one time i thought u were such a chill cool person :( im so happy that i get to be friends with you, all ur gifs are so pretty !!!!!!!! ur such a kind person and ur blog is such a warm nice place to be. :) 

@cupidhashorns   peach ........... PEACH !!!!!!!!!! you might be one of the nicest people in the WORLD , whenever u like my posts, regardless of whether u know what im on about lmao, i feel so seen... its just so nice to know that Someone i listening to the shit you throw into the void on this site lmao, i adore all ur asks and i truly truly appreicate all your messages so much. thank you for finding my blog interesting at all man, i cant tell you enough how happy you make me :)

@guihan arloooooooooooooooooooooOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MY CAT FRIEND . THE AMOUNT OF SEROTONIN YOU HAVE GIVEN ME IS IMMEASURABLE your cats ................... are so cute .............. !!!!!!!!!!!!!! im so glad i got into tsomd and got to meet you , whenever u tag me in things im !!!!!!!!! also im defo gonna read  twwtadsl sometime ksdjkdhjksd you make it sound so good aaaaaaaaaaaaa

@otterplush rey many people have probably already told you this but you are someone so ...... so spectacular and special and incredible and amazing ............  so much of your words has given me SO MUCH comfort in the short time i had known you, seriously. i seem to always stumble on your blog whenever im most hurt and your words have really had an impact on me in the best way possible and i love u so so so so much. i only wish for good things to happen for you and i want to be there for you in a way you are for everyone else !!! you are so warm and kind an generous, everything about your vibe feels so soft... also i always wanna rb everything you rb ndjbshs ur blog is so pretty :( 

@aheartandashirt nisaaaaaaaaaaaaaaAAAAAAAA MY KSH THIRST BUDDY KDHJKHDKJHDF fr ive had some of the BEST convos with you, ur taste in dramas is !!!!!!!!!!immaculate !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! its so so so  fun talking with you and everything you gif looks so nice !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! thank you for being such a lovely friend to me, you’re so easy to talk with and so friendly and nice and <3 *pat pat pat* 

@tetsuos dawn dawn !!!! you are !!!!!!!!!! such a talented person !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i love ur little corner on the web, its so nice to read all ur thoughts about the dramas you’re watching, all your thoughts are so well thought out and interesting to read and, in general, i adore seeing you do ur thing :) *hug hug * 

@heartsofsunlight angel ! your drawings are so beautiful !! you are such a beautiful person in general ! whenever u drop by it makes me so happy, its been so lovely getting to know you, thank you so much for talking to me :) i love uuuuuuu

@metawin jay jay jay !!!!!!!!!!!! for some reason whenever i see u im overcome with so much love !!! everything you make is so beautiful and u are defo one of the most elite people here hehe, also ur cats are ........ so adorable ............ 

@metawwin aliiiiiiiiiiiii, its been such a pleasure seeing you on here !! ur so soooooo kind and whenever u sent me those adorable asks it made me so happy, you’re like a little happiness fairy, you eminate so much joy and positivity !! also ur singing ... immaculate 

@87s min min !!!! u are soooooooooooo adorable, i think ive said this before but u seriously give me little sibling vibes lol, its so fun talking to you, and im so happy that you first popped up to me !!!!!!!!!!! iluuuuuuuu

@joblessquinoa JQ :^)    i always associate you with my engineer haha, and that was so long ago !!!!! ur so fun to talk to, and i adore seeing u rb and leave ur thoughts on all the manga and webtoons im reading !!!! in fact whenever u like my posts i aways feel so happy hehe, also . i literally wouldve failed my coding course without u thank u SO much for helping me out * cries* 

@gigiesarocha cata CATA CATA !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  when you first popped up i was so elated to talk to you, u seemed so nice:( and later when u told me u watched joan’s galaxy because of me i was sdhfsgijdfhjkdhjkfh all ur gifs are so unbelieveably gorgeous, i literally go back to the set u made of yioh staring at joan skipping all the time, its so ........ beautiful.......... hopefully we get more wlw content next year and hopefully theyre all as good as joan’s galaxy hehe, iluuuuuuuuuu

@yibobibo aamna my love !!!!!!! how are you so precious ? everytime u reblog any of my posts its an instant serotonin boost, the experience of getting back into mdzs along with u was seriously incomparable, it was so FUN and i wanna go back :( ur such a friendly wonderful and talented person and i adore seeing all ur creativity blossom on this website, ilu aamna !

@brightwin JELLY jelly u are literally the human embodiment of the softest teddy bear in the WORLD . i wanna give u all the hugs and pats i can because u make me so !!!!!!!!! happy and u fill me with so much soft warmth ........... thank u for being u, all ur gifs are so pretty and its been so nice to be able to bask in the light that comes off of u, never change i love u so sooooooooooo much <3

and lastly, some blogs that i really really adore !

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[studylustre]

hey bb!! you're kinda a queen on here for giving advice so I hope you don't mind me seeking your advice.... at the moment I've been feeling really lost, I'm way behind on my peers this age in almost every aspect of life,, a reason for this is that my mental health is really bad and I lost my teen years to depression. Therefore now I can't even seem to be making friends or hold a normal conversation with adults due to my social anxiety. I used to be intelligent but I think now I'm just stupid ~~~

~~~ my dad keeps telling me how much I suck compared to everyone else, not every day but often enough that I know I'm definitely not fulfilling his expectations and I feel like I'm never going to be able to catch up on that. I've spent a lot of time on my own, I still do and I don't know how to change that, how to build my own life so I'm not dependent on my parents anymore and can move out after I've finished high school. I just would love to know your opinion on that. Please don't judge me too harshly skskshvff :')) I just would love to know how to build your own life apart from your own family, how one can be able to live with their own thoughts without getting depressed hehe,, idk I guess I carry a lot of guilt with me and I've never been able to overcome it and that's why I'm stuck not being able to move forward. Thank youu if you've read this!! I apologise that this is so unnecessary long, I'd be really grateful for some advice!! I'm a new anon btw,, :) sending u love🥺✨🌈

hi angel!! i don’t mind at all, thank u for stopping by and opening up to me about this bc it’s definitely not easy to talk to people about ur inner thoughts!! there’s quite a lot to discuss here so apologies if my response is all over the place. i first want to address what u said about feeling behind ur peers - i don’t want to dismiss ur concerns bc ur feelings are always valid and this is a v v v common feeling so ur definitely not alone in thinking this, but it’s honestly okay. this is something that took me a while to start internalising (still working on it) but there really are no rules in life!! there’s no set timeframe for you to have to achieve anything by. everyone’s path is different - we all have different dreams and goals and resources and so we all experience things at differently and at different times. life is not a competition and u don’t have to compare urself to ur peers!! also, don’t forget that even the people who u think are thriving and living their best lives have struggles of their own too. like i said, we all have our own journeys. what u see of other people’s is just a highlight reel - u never know what struggles they’re facing behind the scenes bc i can assure u, we all are going through something. none of us are just floating along life absolutely carefree!! there’s obstacles for us all and they manifest in different ways for all of us so do!! not!! compare!! urself!! to!! others!!

secondly, i’m sorry to hear that about ur dad. that’s an awful thing to hear from a parent. i know this doesn’t make up for it but i just wanted to tell u, if u haven’t heard this from anyone else, u are doing great. u may not be where u want to be right now (which is completely ok!! u have SO much time ahead of u to get to where u want to be) but u are trying, u are doing ur best and u are still here which means u are doing great. look at u, here, despite it all!! u have made it all this way and ur going to make so much more progress. i know it’s easier said than done but please try ur best to ignore the naysayers. all that matters is that u are living up to ur own standards - forget what ur dad expects of u, because ur life is ur own to live and u don’t exist to please him. also, i just wanted to reiterate ur point about ur dad having super high expectations and u feeling like u can’t keep up with them. that’s a rough realisation, but i think it’s also a v important one to acknowledge because it’s one that can set u free. if u know his expectations of u are a) unrealistic and b) too harsh, then don’t feel obligated to try and match up to them. in situations such as these, i find it’s often the case that no matter what u do, it will never be enough bc they will always find something to nitpick on. u can achieve incredible things and do everything to perfection and they will still find something to complain about and be disappointed in u for. this may or may not be the case for u, but if it is, i hope u can one day walk away from these expectations and live ur life freely the way u want without feeling like u have to measure up to any outsider’s expectations for u.

thirdly, u are not stupid!! u have so much to offer simply just by being u. i feel like u maybe think ur best days are behind u but that is far from the case. ur best days are still waiting for u!! u have so much to look forward to and so much to experience and to achieve. it’s okay to be confused and lost when trying to figure out this mess we call life. we’re all confused here bb!! none of us know exactly what we’re doing but we’re all faking it til we make it. think about it from the perspective of ur younger self - idk if this is the case for u but when i was young, i thought people who were 18 were Proper Adults. i’m now 22 and i still feel like i’m fumbling my way through life and i definitely don’t feel anything close to being an adult, but hey!! that’s okay. the important thing is that u try. even if u trip up, it doesn’t matter bc failure is inevitable in life and we all go through it. what matters is how u carry urself through these experiences and how u deal with it. it’s okay if u don’t know which direction u want to go in, or if ur not sure it’s the right path for u. just give it a go and try. u can only find out what’s good for u through actually trying. if it doesn’t work out, then whelp, at least now u know for sure that’s something that’s not for u!! onto the next experience. and the next. and the next. until u eventually find something that clicks for u. at that point, u can look back with all ur wisdom from ur experiences and know that every single trial u faced and overcame has made u a stronger, wiser and better person. we love character development!!

u mentioned that u live with a lot of guilt and u haven’t been able to move forward bc of that. would therapy be an option that u would be open to? otherwise, would u be open to trying to face some of that urself through journalling or something like that? i’m far from a qualified mental health professional so i don’t want to give u too much advice in this area bc i’m not qualified to do so, but as an anxious person and chronic overthinker, i really find that journalling helps for me to work through my thoughts. u might not be able to find all ur answers through journalling (i think that’s something that just comes through time and also potentially having a professional to walk u through it so u can untangle everything) but it does help u to get stuff off ur chest and to help u realise what’s bothering u, which is a step in the right direction. also, this may sound weird, but i hear that saying ur thoughts (the ones that cause u to spiral and feel bad/anxious) aloud to urself or to a friend helps a lot!! sometimes u don’t realise how irrational things are in ur head until u say it out loud and really hear it, or have a friend to talk u down from it.

i hope this helps!! i know this is superrrrr long and ramble-y but i hope it gave u some semblance of comfort. know that ur not alone in any of ur struggles and that there are better days waiting ahead for u!!

[jumpthensfall]

this may sound rude and totally ignore this if u don’t wanna answer, but i just wonder what mental health issues u deal with and how u manage them? i know it’s kind of personal but you post a lot about struggling and i wanted to know how you overcome that :~)

hi anon!!!! the totally isn't rude at all don't worry!!!:)so basically it's kinda difficult to say Exactly what i struggle with AKSKEKDODKDM bc i got some like??? vague diagnoses from camhs but camhs were quite Useless and then from there my uni are also..... even MORE useless and i don't really know where to go from here bc i'm too scared to ask for More JAKSEKKGKRFKKF but the things that camhs told me i have were social anxiety disorder,, panic disorder,, depression + a restrictive ed that i'm trying to recover from (and doing actually really well with atm which is irrelevant but also i'm actually quite proud of myself bc i'm at a point i never ever thought i'd get to so i needed to say it somewhere AJDJSJSJ) :) but yes those are vague things,,, although i defo have symptoms and have noticed a lot of patterns also that i haven't ever spoken to a professional about so basically although i know i have those things..... i simultaneously have No Idea What Is Going On In My Brain And Would Like To Know Now Please KAKDKRKGKEKD

but anyway..... that was super rambly i'm sorry AKDKDKFKD but as for dealing with things!!!! i don't think i can give too much advice as i obviously still struggle a lot but some vague and general things that help me when i'm feeling especially bad just generally like??? not expecting too much of myself????? i feel like personally when i'm feeling Bad™ i make myself feel extra worse when i can't make myself do thingsajsirkfkfk and it takes a bit of practice but convincing urself that you're allowed to take it easy is helpful for me sometimes,,,, like treating mental illness symptoms as if they were physical ones!!

also remember that crying is good,,,, can make u feel a lot better,,,, 10/10,,,,,,, also very specifically to do with my anxiety / times when i'm just feeling supersuper stressed and overwhelmed :: this might sound weird but something that can make me feel so much better and at least just make my head a tiny bit clearer is like????? talking out everything that you're stressed/anxious about???? i do this ALL THE TIME like out loud to myself AKDJFJDJDJ and it's so weirdly helpful,,, like i'll go through everything i'm anxious about in my head and force myself to unpick each of them logically so that i can come to the conclusion of 'see! u don't actually logically need to be anxious about that!' or like 'see! out of the like 10 things u just listed, u are actually only Really that scared for one of them!'

idk if that made any sense at all JAKDKEKFLEFKRKEL but that is some supersuper vague stuff from the top of my head ANDKDKFKGKGK IM REALLY SORRY THOSE WERE SUCH AWFUL AND GENERIC ANSWERS and i'd give more but i am still Not The Best at coping,,,, i'll mayhaps update this in the future if i get any better :))

[pisces-mars]

a taurus take on the signs + some other stuff idk

aries: y'all are so AGGRESSIVE but that's chill, just like don't physically hurt anyone bc they probs don’t deserve it? idk maybe they do huh also when u start a fight w someone maybe ask if it’s worth it? idk u vertically have the energy to fight forever but i don't want u to feel tired :(

taurus: imagine going out of the house when u could just stay at home n watch netflix w a cuddly blanket, tbh idk why other signs say our stubbornness is a bad thing ? can be overly materialistic tho s o. my fellow taurus, pls do ur assingemtn or work or ur essay or ur cooking A WEEK BEFORE ITS DUE sTOP P R O C R A S T I N A T I N G that is almost 100% not spelt right oop.

gemini: idk y'all are pretty tight but from what i see y'all don't like commitment? fucking party animal tho. tbh the two-faced things kinda right, but it goes both ways,,,, some of y'all will spill ur guts wo prompting but others will keep that secret til ur dead i don't make the rules. also yk its okay to be sad, its okay to not be happy n joyful, its okay to not know what ur gonna do with ur life, u don't need to know everything even tho it might feel that way.

cancer: y’all low-key whiney but ur super caring so it’s okay, biggest mum friend pls don't kill me when u get mad, gives me kawaii pastel vibes, do yall actually love the beach ? or is that not a cancer thing ? also. yall care so much but make sure the person who ur giving all ur time and energy is worth it, u need to look after u, not after them.

leo: FUCK YEAH y'all just aren't afraid to express urself n dc about what others say n that's a vibe the rest of the zodiac should be aiming for, idk ive see leos cheat on a board game n called them out n also drop a kid into a pool n then BLAME the kid :/ but yk ur still living ur best life so. also also, ur chill n stuff but make sure ur not always making urself into the victim pls

virgo: y'all are just *chefs kiss* perfectionism is a lil much sometimes but y'all are still great, remember to take care of urself <3 ligit tho y’all could probs defiantly do w some hugs n affections . only thing i could maybe say about y'all is that its okay to not want to do what ur friends want? its okay to have ur own ideas n its defs okay for u to not put up with other peoples bs!!!!! u could literally belittle them into a small pile of broken shards but u don't n that makes u strong !

libra: mAKE UP YOUR MIND PLS, also ur super diplomatic which is good but also like idk how u can live wo ever having something ur way? maybe u don't but like. also. idk stop feeling bad about getting angry, its a human emotion, i think ud value a friendship w an aries

scoripo: ur so deep n so privet, i respect that also ur HUMOUR will KILL me from LAUGHTER also ur sarcasm is >>>>> ur so cool n u would ligit cut someone so FAST n that pretty sick man, n also I think that having someone care about you wouldn't be the worst thing yeah? also idk if this is a myth abt ur sign or not but if y'all are rushing into things maybe you'd benefit from taking it more slowly?

sag: fucking CRACKHEAD y'all but also ur stories are BOMB pls take me on ur next trip to that exotic place pls take me on ur next adventure to that place w those people. u have so much cool shit going on, but pls remember u don't always need to be happy, being sad is okay, in fact its good bc u need to feel ur emotions in oder to overcome them yk? u don't gotta pretend to be happy n opening up to people can help u sometimes <3

cap: i cant even will y'all, i love u sm ur the fucking best like pls get me a cap man that's all I want p l s. ur literally so dedicated to ur work n u seem super caring n compassionate, if u can do it while still feeling okay u should take some time to talk to ur friends n maybe have a day off work or ur projects to look after u, take a leaf from taurus yk?

aqua: idk ig u have pretty good sense of humour but istg if another one of y'all makes a fucking comment about my im gonna cry then how u gonna feel huh. u guys are cool n idk u seem to have humanitarian ideals n stuff but personally ive never seen that, would it maybe be okay if u were a bit less idk, obsessed w being the smartest in the room? u don't have to prove urself to be intellectually superior yk?

pisces: babies, but y'all do cry a lot but im also technically a pisces dom so im w u on that :,) sTOP MANIPULATING EVERYONE  but y'all also got that like,,, cutie pie stuff going on. y'all. are. not. anyones. personal. therapist. you don't have to help anyone w their problems!!!!! especially if it takes away from u !!!!!!!!! u. are. important !!!!!!!!

this got longer than expected oop

[feraldavestrider]

hey i don't usualy like sending these kind of messages but as someone who has beeing doing CBT, that post you reblogged is just... outright wrong? there are people in the notes who word it better than i could in an ask but op is basically describing CBT with other words, the treatment (when done well) should never make you ashamed or guilty of bad thoughts. the whole point of dealing with intrusive thoughts/impulses is accepting you have them and that doesn't define you. 1/2

OP might've had a bad experience but it's dangerous to say those things about CBT (like the relapse, without sources) when it's the only thing that works for many folk like me, and it might put them off to giving it a shot. sorry for the knejerk reaction to it, have a nice day. 2/2

ok first of all i know this isnt a funny thing but for a whole ass minute i fr thought these asks were about cock and ball torture HDSSKDFDJSKFHDSKJFHDSFKJ

so i do this thing on tumblr sometimes where i skim read posts and i dont like... process every part of a post? like i read it all but sometimes i just dont actuall. READ all of it and tbh i didnt even really read the cbt bit and frankly i know like... barely anything abt cbt, i have never and probably will never have therapy and i dont know that much abt various therapy methods. thats on me for reblogging a post w/o properly reading all of it/not knowing or caring abt what was actually the main point of it so my bad

i mostly reblogged the post bc of the last two paragraphs/opening paragraph which doesnt actually mention cbt:

Not being mean to yourself doesn’t mean censoring self-deprecating humor, it doesn’t mean snapping a rubber band on your wrist when you have a negative thought, it means taking time to sit down and think about yourself as if you were another person, to really take stock of who you are from as objective a perspective as you can muster, and if you really want to grow, realizing that this person you see can’t grow if the person closest to them, which is you, spends all their time berating them and making them feel like shit.

Being friends with yourself is not a series of therapeutic exercises, it’s challenging yourself to evaluate why you’re a dick to yourself in a way you aren’t to other people, or maybe you are a dick to other people, and maybe you want to be a dick to yourself, which is goofy as fuck, but if you’re still suffering, maybe ask yourself why the fuck you want to be such a dick, the answers may surprise you.

i dont have a problem w ppl using the rubber band (cause i know it helps for those recovering from self harm) or censoring self deprecating humour, but ive had people before act like bc i make self deprecating jokes or jokes abt killing myself that im not trying to recover. ive kind of jumped around on my opinion on this in regards to myself and others, and i used to fully think those things were just funny and that i didnt have to make an effort to try and get better in regards to my mental health, and then i embraced the idea that if u do things like make those jokes ur only hurting urself n that u hsould try not to say bad things abt urseld ever in order to heal. 

ive tried that and it didnt work for me personally; for me, i can engage in occasional downtalk of myself, serious or joking, but it was more of a process of thinking and meditating on my reasons for my self hatred and suicidal thoughts, and then working on healing the causes for that shit rather than trying to just cut out the symptoms of my mental health issues. if u get me? and im doing a lot better now! 

sorry i didnt mean to go on a rant abt my stuff, but yea so like... i dont really know much abt cbt and if it works for u, ur very valid like i think every one has their own ways which is best for them to overcome their personal issues. i hope u can see y i reblogged the post, those two last paragraphs do rlly speak to me on my view on my own issues but i didnt really read all of it dshfsfjdshfjdskhfdskfdhf

anyway ill delete my reblog, im v sorry and dw abt sending asks like this like... sometimes i just reblog bad stuff that i only partially read or im just stupid or smth so like! when ppl r nice abt it im always happy 2 get asks like this. enjoy ur day anon

[blarhiv]

1I mean its very obvious that hope/kook r very close I didnt know about what rm & sg said yet I could see it. But they said that in 2015 & most km stans agree to say that km relationship changed towards the end of 2015. They got way closer in 2016 etc & that's normal. You can have many friends & depending on ur own growth, evolution & ur friends growth u'll find urself closer to 1 friend & then closer to another. My bff in uni & my bff now are not the same person We change & our feelings as well

2 and its something ppl have a hard time understanding when it comes to kpop idols. If a relationship changes they start thinking that the company is envolved etc which is weird coz we all have friends. We all have gone through phases where we thought we would stay bffs with this 1 person but life changed us & our friendship changed as well. I know a lot of those toxic ppl r super young & easily manipulated but for the oldest shippers just think about ur own life to help u understand it helps. 

Anonymous 2: Not to be that person but all the members had said back in 2014 that vmin are the closest, then in 2015 apparently namgi said that hopekook are the closest. We can see that every year they say a differend pair because people relationships change with time and in a group of people that live and work together who is the closest can change easily. Also hopekook have showed that they are close to each other as any times as for example jihope, people just started paying attention to them this year.

Agreed. I will develop the topic a bit from myself and tell you what I personally think about it...

Throughout life, we grow - not only physically, but also morally. It is a natural outcome that years later our relations can take a different forms.We grow, our thinking and worldview change; we ourselves change - we get more mature with time. For example, as well as friendship,or as well as love can grow into something else, change its content, take shape and facets.

Speaking of boys, they are all close, very close.But even among close people, in my opinion, there are those who are closer to you spiritually, those with whom you converge purely on a mental level. But this doesn't discredit your relationship with others. They have gone through so many years together, shoulder to shoulder, they overcome many difficulties, they just can't be not close with each other.Just as time goes on, as we grow older, our manifestations of emotions and manifestations of relationship may change. Our views too,in some periods we may have more in common with one person, in another period-with another one. The guys are practically family, and even if we don’t see much, the guys still sincerely let us know that they are dear to each other, and I believe them. Speaking of KM...their special bond is obvious. They themselves talk about how close they are. And all these aspects have been discussed many times.

Sorry for ranting! Just random mess thoughts.

[datsmedea-blog]

Yup I'm dat guy that someone blasted on cuz he haten that I get paid to do wat he only wish he could but ain't got the looks or the personality too do it. Man I don't come on here for anything at all but when people like u wanna hate on people like me let's get something str8t I ain't hurt no one I've done no wrong to anyone I do what I have to to support my own and it shouldn't matter what I do to put food on my table so if you ain't feeding me or my family then why you haten. Asks urself did u really do anything by posting me. Yeah you did you just made me wanted by more then I can handle so thankyou. You did me a favor and damn man if you haten that hard that you feel this need to rat then2 things I can think of is 1 you couldn't afford me and 2 you just like cheese so b4 you put people on blast an hide behind your laptop or desktop I'm raising a 5 yr old child whos father left b4 she was born im putting my fiancee through school and help out more then my fair share of people I mind my own and do my own thing I put no one down but speak life cuz that is what we are commanded to do. I work hard and play hard and guess what fuck hard too that's why they keep coming back I'm a remodel to these folks a peer counselor and I help them overcome many different obstacles in their lives shoot if u asks me that sounds alot like a humanitarian or maybe even phlathropist maybe my spelling ain't correct but I don't give a fuck I ain't no dumbie I am a product of the streets and a cool ass motherfucker but just like u I bleed red and breath air so b4 u decide you wanna pic a fight with someone who's done you n

o wrong don't hide behind the screen come on down to the west where it's best and bring ur mouth piece. Oh yeah and by the way let him who is without sin cast the first stone so eat that with some cheese how you doin....

[violentviolette]

So I was on your fandom blog and I saw that you believe Bakugou (at least in assuming) to have ASPD. Is wondering if you could expand on that? I personally see him as NPD but I'd love to hear your side of things

first off anon bless u for being on my fandom blog that takes courage cause it’s a wicked hot mess over there lol and secondly to everyone else yes im about to spend an embarrassing amount of effort overanalyzing an anime man, no u shouldn’t apply this logic to diagnosing real people u don’t know or urself, no its not that deep but yes u can fuck right off if u wanna cry about me headcanoning ur favs with “shitty” illnesses. eat my dick.

But now down to the good shit! So I actually think bakugou has comorbid aspd/npd. But for this since u said u already see him as having npd I’ll just focus on the aspd criteria but im totally down to talk more about npd as well if u wanna. (the rest is under a cut because frankly mobile users would have drawn and quartered me otherwise)

So first im gonna go thru the dsm v criteria that are required for diagnosis that bakugou fits/exhibits (leaving out the few things that don’t pertain to him just for length and also because not every person has to fit every single criteria to qualify)

1. Significant impairments in personality as manifested by

a. identity (self esteem derived from power, pleasure, or personal gain), self direction (goal setting based on personal gratification, absence of prosocial standards and culturally normal ethical behavior)

katsukis entire sense of self is built upon his ability to “win” and to always be number one and come out on top. He absolutely cant stand to be viewed as less than that because if so, his entire sense of self begins to crumble. Part of the reason he’s so antagonistic towards Izuku in the early chapters is the fact that Izuku challenges that identity. He (unintentionally and intentionally) challenges katsuki and wont give way to him (which is the right thing to do, but we see how “well” katsuki handles that). He also doesn’t have a good sense of “prosocial standards.” katsuki has created his own internal sense of morals and values, he’s decided whats worth his time and effort based on his own opinions and not on what society deems worthwhile behavior. He’s constantly getting admonished that his attitude “isn’t that of a hero” because his values are different than the ones of the society around him. But he doesn’t care, as long as he “wins” then everythings good. And its not until he stops “winning” and his behavior begins to get in the way of his goals does he begin to realize that he has a problem.

b. impairments in interpersonal functioning as manifested by lack of empathy (lack of concern for feelings, needs, or suffering of others) and lack of intimacy (incapacity for mutually intimate relationships, use of dominance or intimidation to control others)

I could frankly write a whole essay about just this bit alone but I’ll try to condense my thoughts. So. Lets talk about katsukis lack of empathy. This boy wouldn’t know another person’s emotions if they walked up and punched him in the face. Which they do. On multiple occasions. But I digress. Katsuki is known for his shitty bedside manner, his lack of concern for the feelings of others is literally what cost him his provisional license, but aside from with Izuku (who we’ve established is a source of Baggage for katsuki and shouldn’t be counted among his normal behavior because at the start of the series they BOTH bring out the worst in one another and overcoming that is part of both of their character arcs and growth and a main theme of the damn story. Win and save. Save and win. Ahem. But again I digress) katsuki isn’t vindictive or cruel in an unnecessary way about other peoples emotions. He doesn’t use them against people, it just doesn’t occur to him that they exist. But as we see katsuki grow and begin to try and change his unhealthy behavior, we see that he’s not oblivious of others emotions in the same way todoroki is (who I headcanon as autistic along with izuku (who also has adhd), but that’s a whole nother post lol), he just doesn’t know what to do with them. He can handle things like kirishima feeling insecure, because he can logically talk to him about how strong he is to encourage and support him, but really struggles with more intimate and open forms of emotional support, like with Izuku.

He also struggles with forming prosocial bonds and friends. At the start of the series katsuki doesn’t have friends, he has lackeys he controls with intimidation and fear because he doesn’t know any other way to be. He has trust and intimacy issues and doesn’t like people getting too close to him because he feels displays of vulnerability are what makes someone weak (see those asocial morals and values we talked about earlier). After his time at UA, a few large helpings of some humble pie, and the diligent and hard work of a small group of fearless idiots (aka kaminari whose literally too prosocial for his own good and has zero self preservation instincts, and kirishima who has an endless supply of patience and understands empathy and other peoples emotions to a degree that’s baffling to me) he is able to start deconstructing that idea and realizing that u can be vulnerable and let people close to u and still be strong. That the mortifying ordeal of being known isn’t actually the worst things ever. Also that when confronted with people who aren’t actually afraid of him, he doesn’t know how else to deter them from getting close to him. The fact that none of the other kids in 1-A take katsukis shit and even go so far as to pick on him and mock him and call him out on his bullshit is a MAJOR turning point for his socialization skills.

2. pathological personality traits in the following catagories

a. antagonism, characterized by hostility (persistent and frequent angry feelings, anger or irritability in response to minor slights or insults, nasty mean vengeful behavior), callousness (lack of concern for the feelings and problems of others)

I mean. Do I even have to expand on this point? I feel like no

b. disinhibition, characterized by impulsivity (acting on the spur of the moment in response to immediate stimuli, acting without a plan or consideration for outcomes, difficulty establishing and following plans), risk taking (lack of concern for ones limitations and denial of the reality of personal danger, engaging in potentially risky and self-damaging activities without regard for consequences)

this is a criteria where u have to adjust for the world these characters are living in. but even then, by hero standards, katsuki is still impulsive. His teachers are constantly admonishing him in the early series for charging headfirst into a situation, loosing himself to his emotions and anger, and letting things get the better of him because hes not taking the time to properly assess the situation, this also bleeds into katsukis inability to work with others or ask for help. He charges headfirst into a situation by himself, blows up anything in his way, and then asks questions later. His teammates are often left totally in the dark to his plans, motives, or other moves and have to just play catch up to him the entire time. In the deku vs. kacchan 1 fight we see this behavior come out in full force. He has no plan, he blows up half the building with zero regard for their goals, and leaves iida completely in the dark. Momo pointing this all out and dragging him for filth during the recap is another wakeup moment for him, having to confront the realities of his impulsive and negative behavior whereas before he was only praised for it.

so if we take a look at even just that, which is still about ¾ of the diagnostic criteria, I think u can see where this really starts to explain his personality. Katsuki is hot headed, angry, impulsive, stubborn, selfish, he gets in his own way more often than not, he struggles with prosocial behavior, making friends, and relating emotionally to others. He has a hard time comforting people and usually does so in a blunt and logical way, he isn’t great at sympathy and being soft, kind, or gentle with other people. It takes a considerable amount of effort for him to realize where his world view and his morals and goals are warped and doing him more harm than good, and he absolutely cant stand to be vulnerable or honest about his feelings with others. 

All those things, imo, as someone with aspd & npd, are what make me feel like hes a good character representation of what the complexities of living with these disorders is like. Katsuki isn’t inherently a bad person, and as we see him grow and change, we see the ways in which hes becoming better, but its still hard for him. And despite what a lot of fandom thinks, if u look at the canon, the main person katsuki hurts with his behavior is himself. And I think that’s really important because people with aspd & npd are so often catagorized as abusive villians whose only goal in life is to hurt others. Whereas with katsuki we see where these things and this kind of thinking gets in the way of his goals and ultimately hurts him. and thats what I think makes him the most relatable and makes his growth all the much more satisfying. Katsuki is both fundamentally the same and an entirely different person from when we first meet him. his personality didn’t magically completely change, hes not just a tsundere whose suddenly all mushy feely and hyper empathetic, he’s just learning how to deal with his emotions and the world and getting better at being a healthy person.

So yea, those are my thoughts! There was apparently a whole 1600 words of them so my apologies for writing u a literal dissertation on this lol I just really love this fucking character