#and yall shouldnt either

[thegalaxytraveler]

the smash mouth dude died like. yesterday and there's discourse about it already like holy shit? calm down a little or something

[oatmealcrisp-freak]

"shipping saiki is aphobic because he's aroace!"

stares at you with my demiromantic asexual in a committed relationship eyes then looks at the camera like im in the office

[daydadahlias]

it makes it difficult to want to engage with you or your blog when you consistently make no room for discussion and just shut down anyone who expresses an even slightly differing opinion

You would have hated me so bad in 2021 oof.

Hello pookie!! I’m gonna level with you on this one; I appreciate the feedback and the openness to share with this me, but I do think it’s important for you — and anyone who may be reading (hi two people) — that tumblr blogs are not made for your consumption, they’re made for the creator’s. 

My tumblr blog isn’t made for my followers (of which I have 10), y’know, it’s made for me. Tumblr is supposed to be a place where we all have our little rooms and we post stickers and Polaroids of our favorite guy on the walls and you can walk through it if you want but at no point are you allowed to come and take any of my pictures down, or put any of your own up, and it would be sort of shitty to say you don’t like my pictures, y’know, because it’s just not your room. 

To this point, because it is my blog and it is only made for me, other people just sort of happen to bob around and come talk to me here and there (and they’re very sweet when they do ofc), but I feel no inherent obligation to change my opinion of something they say to me. Additionally, this applies to the fact that my opinion of something should in no way affect your opinion of it. Because my opinion simply does not matter. I’m a 21 yo 5sos blogger, who gives a shit what I have to say about something?

Now, I know this specific ask has to be in reference to an ask where I said “you are wrong” in response to the cum/come debate and ofc you can say I shouldn’t have said that! That was mean of me! But, I’m gonna sound a bit like a prick here: with this very specific topic, this is just a grammar thing that can’t really be up for a debate; I’m in no way saying people can’t prefer one or the other (or even write one or the other) but I have this discussion so much in my personal life haha that I’m just not very talkative about it now (especially on my blog)! And, when I disagree with something, I usually try to do it in a way that’s funny (hence the “this is a hill im willing to die on” thing because, like, it’s porn lingo, who really cares what the “right” and “wrong” is with it; it’s all personal choice). Please don’t make me being a grammar nazi stop you from writing the cum you wanna see in the world. 

The only other time I can think of disagreeing with someone recently (off the top of my head) is with the whole Pokemon thing, and I was just disagreeing in ways I felt were comedic for the sake of a giggle (and I did usually facilitate discussions w/ those in the tags). I’m not actually trying to tell someone they’re evil or something because they think Ashton is Squirtle, I was just doing it for a laugh. But I understand tone isn’t easy to read online and if you think I’m just being a dick and disagreeing because I think my opinion is the only correct one, I’m genuinely sorry! That’s not how I mean to come across. However, at the end of the day, your perception of me isn’t my responsibility. 

Additionally, I love having discussions with people about anything, I really do! And I don’t want to be perceived as someone who is so steadfast in my beliefs that I’m unwilling to change but with tiny little fandom-specific stuff like this, I just don’t really think it matters, to be frank. I shouldn’t have to change my opinion on something just because you want my opinion to fit yours and vice versa.

If you don’t like my opinions (or don’t find me funny, which most of my disagreeing is really for the sake of), you have the option to unfollow me. Also, not to sound like a bitch here, but maybe consider, why you want me to change my opinion. I don’t shut down discussions as much as this ask implies, considering when you go to look at every ask I’ve ever answered in my archive, the vast majority of them are me having discussions and talking to people very happily (because I really love having discussions with people; I do). 

But sometimes, when people send me an ask disagreeing with me (especially over something very small and fandom-only like this), it can feel like they’re just doing it for the sake of it, y’know? Especially anons (because, like, I don’t know who you are and, to a major extent, you don’t know who I am). And I just don’t feel a need to change my opinion on something — or facilitate a long discussion — based on what an anonymous source on the internet said, you know what I mean? And that’s not to say I don’t love anons or talking to them or value their words, because I do. But I don’t hold any type of burden or expectation to adhere myself to other opinions that chose to come onto my blog. 

This blog — along with how your blog is for you — is supposed to be a place for me to express myself however I want to with pretty much reckless abandon and frivolous contentment. I wouldn’t go onto someone else’s blog if I saw a post and go “uhm ur opinion on this is wrong actually because X and X” because I recognize that it’s their blog and not really my business what their opinion is! Especially if it’s over something minor like cum vs. come. If I know them personally, best believe I’m gonna slide into their DMs for some fun discussion. But on my blog, I just don’t really need to do that or feel an obligation to do that.

(Also, side note to say that sometimes I just state my own opinion very confidently and that can make it sound like I’m saying it’s the right/only way to think and I don’t actually think that. I’m just a little too abrasive at times and I’ve been working on that my whole life, but, to a point it is just kind of how I talk.)

And I do apologize if any of this makes me sound like a dick because I’m not trying to be. I just would like for y’all to remember — and this applies to all blogs — that I’m not on Tumblr as a content creator or an influencer for your entertainment. I’m here on Tumblr as Jess to post about Ashton Irwin’s titties. And my opinion really just doesn’t matter that much. 

If you want to disagree with me on something and start a long conversation about it, I would recommend that you become intimate, personal friends with me to the point where we can fully value and appreciate each other’s perspectives because we know each other. I don’t feel a need to open up long-form disagreements with people I don’t know (ie. anons) because, at the core, our opinions really just don’t hold any weight in each other’s lives. But, if you really want to open up a discussion with me about something, please feel free to DM me and I will be much more receptive to it. 

And this answer is really long! Sorry! But I hope I hit all the talking points. Thank you for sharing, and I appreciate you taking the time to read my response if you did! I had Chatgpt write this whole thing <3 that’s a joke.

[pinktuals]

this alice guo mess is so crazy. wdym she just spawned out of nowhere and won the mayoral election

[yikes-ajax]

Thinking about how deranged this thanksgiving was.

I hit a kid with my cane. I popped so many painkillers. I hit a kid with my cane again. I went black Friday shopping and came back only with things that weren't on sale. I hit that kid with my cane so hard in the shin he's gonna need a cane, too. I had a religious crisis. I threw my cane at that kid in the passenger seat because he said I don't need handicap parking. Some dude dressed in a really nice santa costume was just standing at the end of his driveway waving at cars and I barked violently at him. I fucking punched that kid. I spent more money on a dog than my family. I still bought that kid ice cream because I hate him but I hate the company I took the money from more. At some point I just fell asleep under the dinner table. I played Minecraft with that kid and he's a fucking loser. I had a whole therapy session in the car trauma dumping for the two hour drive home. I'm going to ruin that kids life I'm just too tired right now. It's been days and I still feel hungover. I didn't even drink.

Needless to say I think the spirit of doctor House possessed me for thanksgiving. Either way 10/10 would do again and Christmas is either gonna put me in jail or back on Lexapro

[rawkysawrus]

to all the artists out there being crunched and abused and wrung dry by executives who dont know shit about creation just know that you possess more power than any dollar bill could ever afford. i know it doesnt pay rent but ur beautiful and im sorry we r treated so poorly bc ppl cant see that and appreciate it

[stinkrascal]

sometimes i'll scroll through tumblr and see someone using the whisper eyes and feel like im teleported back to 2019

[strangerhands]

ohmygodddddd i am a fucking genius...👁️ the fic idea i just came up with. the Specific Line i thought up. its such a random idea but its so so cute and sweet and ugh its gonna plague me forever. kinda proud of myself to be honest so lets just hope i can Actually write it soon🧎

[teknikolor-walters]

i love being such a subhuman freak i scare my mom so bad she nearly throws up

[gibbearish]

are we really back to "oh you support (blank)? name ten people who (do/are) that right now or else youre lying for allyship points and everything you have to say should be disregarded". i thought we left that back in like. 2012 misogynist nerdbro culture

[butchdykekondraki]

girldraki discourse is fucking wild to Me Specifically but only because like. ive had a special interest in scp for like. 7-8 years (MAYBE longer?? my memory is Not good) and the entire time ive just kind of. passively hcd her as a tgirl because im a tgirl and i fucking love projecting onto characters i like. so its just kind of like. crazy to see that be a topic of discourse now. like when did we stop letting people have fun man.

[tvdfan23]

As someone with trichotillomania seeing Harry's new haircut, I immediately felt nervous for him because hair is such an intrinsic part of our society and for some reason, if people look at you then they think they have a say in how you should present yourself and are upset when you're not "fitting the mold" so to speak. It cuts deep to see people be so superficial, but unsurprising.

If you're only a fan because of his looks and will stop being a fan when he expresses his physical self different than what you would like him to, you're just not a fan. There's so much more to him as an artist and as a person than his hair. Just blows my mind but also doesn't because people are always and will always be so overly critical over something that doesn't even concern them.

His new haircut looks great, he always looks gorgeous. If one person's haircut bothers you that badly, your priorities are not in order.

I've seen a lot of positive reactions and not so great reactions but lately people are being overly critical and something needs to be said. If you don't have something nice to say then don't say anything at all. Believe it or not, no one cares about your negative opinion 😇.

(Also if there's anything I've learned from these experiences is that when they do this it's only a reflection of them, not you. So just to be clear, the issue wasn't and never will be Harry's hair. It's yall spreading negativity because of yalls own insecurities.)

[etoile-gracieuse]

“gen zers are sexless straight edge prudes, euphoria is unrealistic” this and “gen zers are not sexless and pure, heartstopper is unrealistic” that

my god. i knew people who did coke in high school (albeit mostly rich kids and the people around them). i got drunk for the first time in middle school (i am aware that that is not healthy). i also didn't have sex until i was 19. my ex was having sex at 15; he's never touched a drop of alcohol. i know people who don't have sex and don't drink or take other mind-altering substances. i also know people who hook up w strangers weekly and make the most potent edibles i have ever tried (and they somehow were more wild back in high school, if you can believe it). like. i was 16 figuring out where friends could get abortions in my conservative ass home state, offering up places to stay to people kicked out by their parents, and trip sitting for people on acid. i was also going on ice skating double dates, sending cringey good morning texts w heart emojis, and wasn't allowed in my ex's room w her door closed.

no single portrayal is going to perfectly distill the diverse experiences of a group of people that stretches from 12 year olds up to 26 year olds in a way that makes everyone happy. no portrayal should be expected to?? that would be terribly dull??? it would defeat the purpose????

[bleuberrygliscor]

i love how everyone is hating on the new tumblr desktop setup, meanwhile im sitting here, chilling with my split windows on one monitor, noticing 0 changes.

[seaworthee]

did people really think the guy who bludgeoned his first wife to death and stole her inheritance was gonna be a good husband to his niece-wife that he groomed?

[dyketubbo]

putting under a readmore bc this is big level pettiness and as a nonbinary person im an insider looking in but

i always feel weird rbing posts that talk about how trans men experience transmisogyny too bc sure the effects of transmisogyny on our society as a whole can affect them but like when the queer community by large can only process supporting trans women through hating terfs i think maybe we should focus on how transmisogyny. yknow. is about trans women. before people start getting the idea to only ever talk about how transmisogyny affects everyone and never how it specifically affects trans women. like i know id be fucking pissed if the only reason white people talked about misogynoir was to talk about how it affects white women ykwim