#angry and trying to correct me

[bunnyboy-juice]

NO MORE ASSOCIATING THINGS WITH FEMMES ONLY BECAUSE THEY ARE PINK!HYPERFEM FEMMES ARE GREAT AND I LOVE YOU CAMPY FEMMES WHO EMBODY PINK BUT ALSO JESUS CHRIST CAN YOU GUYS NOT GO MORE THAN ONE DAY W/O TRYING TO SHOEHORN FEMMES INTO BEING ONLY PINK UWU BABIES. I AM FEMME AS IN GRASS AS IN DIRT AS IN TREE BARK AS IN WEEDS SPROUTING THROUGH THE SIDEWALK CEMENT. FEMME AS IN GENDER NONCONFORMITY AS IN FUCK YOU MY FEMININITY IS WHAT *I* SAY IT IS. FEMME AS IN DEPTH AND DARKNESS AND WARMTH AND TERROR. FEMME AS IN CAVES. FEMME AS IN LIGHTNING. FEMME AS IN AN AMALGAMATION OF TRAITS THAT I HAVE DECIDED ARE FEMININE REGARDLESS OF WHAT SOCIETY SAYS. FUCK IS IT THAT HARD TO UNDERSTAND?!???

[mitchmrner]

morgan rielly should be suspended, there’s no question about that. however, getting an in-person hearing with dops when you’re a first time offender with a clean history (like the spezza situation a few years back) is kind of ridiculous. considering this season, we’ve had: gallagher getting a phone hearing when he lifted his elbow (5-game suspension), dillon getting a phone hearing for an illegal check to the head (3-game suspension) and trouba full on baseball swinging his stick at someone’s head ($5000 fine)…it just doesn’t seem like there is much consistency with the dpos

[wowitsverycool]

[talentforlying]

tbh i think the coldest and most shocking thing that can happen in an argument with this man is if you call him "john" and he corrects you to "constantine". biggest red flag you can find on the play. sounds pretentious when you're not experiencing it. means he's absolutely fucking furious with you.

[contagious-watermelon]

what is the deal with everyone identifying themselves by their birth sex? i see it all the time. everywhere. and also — maybe it's just a function of the people i happen to see, but it's almost always people saying they're "afab" rather than its complement.

it's telling, to me, what they really think of (other) trans people, because they act as if your sex at birth is constant and unchanging throughout your life. one of my coworkers said they had a low voice for an afab (meaning low for someone who's never gone through a T-dominant puberty). people use the acronym — denoting what sex a doctor determined you to be when you were born — not always accurate because sex traits can be mixed or ambiguous — as a placeholder for present-day "male" or "female."

it's the same thing, i think, as when people say that sex ≠ gender and mean that trans men are female and trans women are male. sure, some of them are, maybe (though I'd bet it wouldn't go over well calling them that), but it's called SRS for a reason; transsexual. with our current technology, we can't completely change a male person to a female one or vice versa — but we can change a whole lot of their phenotypic sex characteristics, whether that be by removing them or switching them to the other sex. that's kinda the whole point of medical transition, actually.

so to me it just, idk, it reveals how people are really thinking of their own transition as well as others', that they see your birth sex as unchanging, fixed, inevitable destiny. that's exactly what transphobes think of us. why does our own community have to think of us that way too?

[piplupod]

just had possibly the worst nightmare of my life. yippee ^-^ <- is so horrified they are numb

[indecisive-dizzy]

Wanna watch me ramble about Frank and Eddie's Parenting for Much Too Long? No? Too bad here it is anyway!

I see a lot of interpretations of Frank and Eddie as parents where Eddie is the more lenient parent while Frank is more strict. But what if it was the other way around?

Update: ok. this just turned into me talking about their flaws as parents,, oh well that's cool to think about to

Frank's "not afraid to get dirty" attitude could lend itself to him being a parent who would let his kid go about and explore (with appropriate supervision and reasonable curfew of course) and overall have more faith in them to not get in too much trouble. Curfew to him is an agreed upon time between him and the teen, so about 10-11pm, maybe 12am if they're old enough and it's not a school night. He's far less likely to ground or take away privileges if they get into trouble (unless it's school but I'll get to that), usually turning it into a learning opportunity. Maybe restricting curfew if necessary.

Eddie on the other hand, has some worry wort tendencies and would be Terrified of his babies going out on their own, even if they're supervised by a friend's parent. His idea of a weekend curfew is 7-8pm and he needs a phone call or text every hour. or maybe every half hour. And when they do get into trouble he is the first to lecture them. He's more likely to want to ground or take privileges entirely, not just change curfew. Eddie's fine with after school stuff because knows a Teacher will be there and it's a school program/function. Though field trips and prom still make him a nervous wreck.

Frank hardly gets to lecture the kid(s) because Eddie gets to it first. the only time he does is when Eddie gets Too Upset or overwhelmed and Frank's worried he'll start yelling at them.

Though Frank's not without flaw either. Frank is more concerned with grades than Eddie is. He's more likely to pressure them By Accident and bring up college a lot when they're older. Eddie on the other hand never went to college, and knowing the American school system, he probably had more 'C's than 'A's despite how smart he really is. So Eddie is less concerned with perfect grades and believes if the kid doesn't want to go to college they shouldn't be pressured into it.

I won't go too in depth but I don't think Frank did many extracurriculars in high school. Meanwhile Eddie was getting into all sorts of activities. So when their child's grades have been slipping, Frank is the one to bring up taking them out of their extracurriculars "so they can focus on their grades." To which Eddie responds with a very firm No because he knows how much extracurriculars can mean to a kid.

Frank is also more strict with chores and such. Their room needs to be clean before they go anywhere, they make their bed every day, etc. Eddie is on board, but he understands Organized Chaos and that sometimes it takes a few extra minutes to get up and start a chore. (ADHD and Depression let's go babyy) Though he is stern about getting them done by a certain time (like before dinner). Frank would rather it be done sooner/when told.

In conclusion, Frank doesn't mean to pressure them so much, and Eddie doesn't mean to be so overbearing. They're great parents, but no one is perfect. I think they'd learn and grow overtime especially with each other to bounce off of and rely on. So in the end they turn out to be great parents whose kid(s) call and visit regularly when they're adults.

[switchytransboy]

everybody fucking leaves

[rowan-ashtree]

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[ozymoron]

dude its always "be yourself" till youre trans and now suddenly oh i get to nitpick every little thing about you oh that gesture was very feminine made you look like a girl oh youre wearing a shirt thats cream coloured? seems a little feminine to me oh you paint your nails? so youre a girl after all like ???? youre giving me mixed messages here am i meant to be myself or am i meant to conform to your idea of what a man is in order to be accepted as one by you

[asleepinawell]

black mage abilities: here are fire, blizzard, and thunder, they will be your basic single target attacks

me: got it

blm: here are fire ii, blizzard ii, and thunder ii they will be your basic aoes

me: but why call them ii when they're not upgrades of i? isn't that a little confusing?

blm: shhhh, here are fire and blizzard iii. they are single target again but different from fire and blizzard i rather than being upgrades. however thunder iii is an upgrade to thunder i

me: ....

blm: now on to fire iv and blizzard iv which are not upgrades and not used for the same thing as each other. they are single target again. fire iv will partly be used instead of fire i but not all the time because of astral fire. ice iv will give you hearts which you will use for casting fire spells. however thunder iv is an upgrade to thunder ii

me: why is this happening to me I'm a good person mostly

blm: there is an aoe version of ice iv but not fire iv. guess what it's called

me: blizzard v? vi???

blm: :)

blm: freeze

me: .........

blm: also there's flare which--

me: CAN WE NOT????

blm: now let's talk about despair

me: yeah I think I achieved that back at fire and blizzard iii

blm: moving on to high fire and blizzard ii

me, sobbing: what about high fire and blizzard i

blm: shhhh

me: I hope you die. I hope we both die

blm: speaking of dying, here's ley lines

[soldier--poet--queen]

what came first, the body dysphoria flare up or the internet deciding now was a fantastsic time to show me transmasc content

[poetryforplebs]

spanish class

when i was sixteen my brother and i took a spanish class

it was at the local community college. he joined in because i was there, or maybe i joined the class because he was, but the fact of the matter stood was that we were together.

we sat next to each other sometimes, mostly next to two sisters — one in her twenties, one in her thirties we would work together, and understood each other as families often do.

(meaning that— our souls are attached by tin can telephone strings. we can’t cut them without losing the sound of our own voice)

the class was fun.

my brother was smart. i had only to turn to him, ask him a question, and he would explain it to me i tried not to ask him too many questions. i was already his kid sister. i had to be smart, had to keep up with him. i had to earn my place.

(do little sisters ever earn their place?)

at the end of the semester, the class was split into two groups: girls versus boys, boys versus girls. we had to do a pop oral quiz and it came down to the two of us

i can’t remember the question, only that it was asked and there was silence, expectation. his brow furrowed. i waited.

time passed slowly.

light entered his eyes now was the chance to throw in the towel but not make it easy

i had to time this perfectly but my tongue was too quick

i opened my mouth—

[applause]

he turned to me, after class walking back to the car

“that wasn’t fair,” he told me

“it wasn’t,” i agreed readily

“you didn’t really win”

“i didn’t”

he wanted to go on, but he couldn’t not when i agreed with him so he kept his words to himself, the injustice of losing an unfair fight

i had done what i was supposed to. he wanted to win, but win well. i couldn’t throw in the towel, pretend to be stupid. i couldn’t let him win that way. i had to actually try and then he could win, because he was smart and he deserved it. i had things going for me; all pretty girls do. boys need the help.

i won by accident, and unfairly, and agreed with him when that was the case. i shouldn’t have won.

but i wonder too, if my younger sister had won if i would have turned around and told her that she didn’t deserve it.

i like to think that i would just accept it but then again, i would probably throw in the towel for her because she’s my little sister.

now i pause in my past. maybe that’s what he did. did he throw in the towel for me, many times? how many times? maybe this time he actually tried not to. maybe that’s what was upsetting: that the whole world would become just as small as our childhood home.

we never took a class together again.

[somnas-writes]

Tried getting through the long ring longland arc but I literally couldn’t do it.

This is the One and Only one piece arc I will skip. I watched Skypiea, I watched G-8. I couldn’t watch long ring long land

[gibbearish]

eternal fight between wanting to correct a misconception abt cats but also knowing that it was just a silly joke and i shouldnt take it so seriously but also something being a joke doesnt mean you shouldnt still point things out but also i have no expertise beyond just "i have multiple cats and spend way too much time watching them and thinking about the way they interact w each other and what that means about how their brains work" which means i would just be talking out of my ass anyways because i have no way of telling if my interpretations are right or if im anthropomorphizing them

[not-poignant]

Eeeeeeha I'm glad I'm not the only reader who fell in love with Sharpwood! Would you ever write what a scene was like with him and Pitch? Or a scene between Jack and Anton?

Sharpwood's the best!

I don't think I'll ever write a scene between Pitch and Sharpwood mostly because it's firstly two characters I don't really want to write the POVs for, but also secondly, because to me it's... a very kind of sad thing, and I don't really like writing 'sad tragic sex.'

I don't mind writing noncon, but it's hard to write hurt/hurt sex that brings very little comfort and is kind of Pitch...being unkind because Sharpwood craves being dominated (kindly) and he's trying to punish Gavril in a roundabout way and Sharpwood having to be grateful because this is all he's allowed. Knowing that's just...all he gets for hundreds of years, does not fill me with joy.

(I've done it before (noncon Gwyn/Albion), but I learned that I don't really love doing it)

Like Pitch says this about it:

‘I should have done more for him than I did,’ Pitch said finally. ‘This will have to do.’ ‘You did a lot for him,’ Jack said. ‘No. I really didn’t. I was selfish. And I was always angry at his relationship with Gavril, and how he seemed untouched by it. Sometimes I pushed him, just to…have the satisfaction of knowing Gavril had broken him as much as he’d broken me. For a long time – for centuries – I didn’t know why he kept coming back to me. I became kinder to him in time. I was not…initially kind.’

It's not an explicit way to say 'I sexually tortured / coerced / hurt him just to prove he was actually broken and I could only do that by also repeatedly trying to break him for centuries' but that is essentially what Pitch is saying. And I think Pitch becoming kinder, by then, Sharpwood was already quite damaged. There's a reason Sharpwood is initially very on the fence about becoming a traitor to Gavril, despite being fond of Pitch in his own way. But Sharpwood...like, is very broken by his experiences on Lune, and Pitch is a significant part of that. (Pitch was broken by Gavril, but not by Sharpwood - Sharpwood was broken by Gavril and Pitch).

As for Jack and Anton, idk, I like writing Anton with Flitmouse more, so that's what I'm writing! Anton was always so in love with Flitmouse, and their love story appealed to me so much in TGA that writing it now has been amazing. Anton will never love anyone like he loves Alois Flitmouse, and that's just how that is. :)