#attention without intention

[notbecauseofvictories]

hello I just wanted you to know that I stumbled on your blog when I was a kid (I think it was through AO3?) and I looked at your "some things rats won't do" tag for law school adventures in awe, and now I'm a law student, and every so often I'll come back just to reassure myself that yes, the world is this weird, and it's okay to struggle a little bit. and I hope you are having a good day, and if not, then that the bad times end soon for you. stay warm and may all your cookies be perfect

Thank you, anon! Today I answered work emails and made cookies for our office holiday party, and---deliberately did not think, even a little bit, about how I've been posting on this blog since November 2011 or how that's almost 40% of my life right there.

The good news is that it is okay to struggle a little bit. With law school, definitely! But also just with being human. It's a complicated proposition, to be in the world.

Fortunately, sometimes there are cookies.

[caffeinatedopossum]

"Why do you use a wheelchair if you still have legs/you can still move your legs?"

Because sometimes you have a body part that you can't use or doesn't always work well. You, for example, have a brain. But here you are, asking me this question

[heroesriseandfall]

I already knew the new 52 batfam timeline sucks but having them side by side in my timeline spreadsheets really hones it in. They really tried to fit ALL of the Robins (minus Steph) into a time span that is barely longer than how long just Tim was Robin in-universe before Flashpoint.

[thebirdandhersong]

listen I know the bar's on the ground and constantly sinking, but I do appreciate so much that Lex (in his early 20s) is cognizant of the fact that Amy (middle schooler ?) is obsessed with him, and So Clearly indicates non-interest by literally not engaging with her very much at all, and doesn't do anything to encourage her or give her false hope, and doesn't start and maintain vulnerable communications and private interactions, and doesn't embarrass her by confronting her about her feelings. It's not like he's told her directly that he's not interested, but just seeing him not even entertain her crush or take advantage of it in order to get an ego boost is really nice, actually

[wr0ngwarp]

music box

[foolishnpd]

I wonder why I straight up suppress and hide my more arrogant/better than thou/grandiose side of myself? I guess I get the feeling that it comes off as a very assholish way to act, nobody likes a self centered person right? but I also wonder if being more open with that side would just make me look more confident, which does attract people... my old friend was like that, toxic as hell but had that sort of confidence that drew people in

[lucy-moderatz]

I'm not worried about you and Cory, or me and Cory, or you being irreversibly screwed up. Maggie, you've been like this since we were kids. And all I'm thinking is, now that you're aware of it, and that it hurts people's feelings sometimes, maybe it's time to get on with life, and commit to someone of your own.

[notbecauseofvictories]

As someone who previously only thought about book design as font choices and cover art, it’s amazing to me how many more options there are; just how very creative you can get with paper, stitching and ink.

For example, I never questioned how a new book should smell---at least until I received this copy of Cornstalk Fiddle from @fanboundbooks. Opening up the box, I was struck by it---and then when I lifted the book to my nose, I actually laughed aloud. @fanboundbooks had managed to ship me a book that smelled like the Devil’s cigarettes: all smokey, burning leaves and paper underneath. Combined with the burned and jagged edges of the pages, it make the experience of flipping through the book almost sensory in and of itself.

The burnt pages had another effect, whether intentional or not. If you turn the pages, then touch the white cover, you leave the black smudges of fingerprints behind. Given that the Devil leaves mysterious black marks on the passenger seat of Johnny’s truck, I thought this was---if you excuse the pun---cool as hell.

(I also love the textured and delicate green flyleaf paper. I’m not sure whether it’s a deliberate reference to the green of Ava’s garden, or if it was just chosen to be lovely---but it is my favorite color, so I just like it.)

Overall, there’s just something wildly impressive to me about three people taking the same story and turning it into three different books---different paper, different binding styles, different details chosen to emphasize, but all immensely creative in their own right.

[my-current-obsession]

Since we've got a date for the FD (just two and a half more months!!!), Even if Tempest is on my mind again, which means I am Once Again thinking about Crius (as if I ever stop). There are several reasons I love Crius and he'll have his hooks in me forever, but I think a big part of it is how despite Anastasia looking up to him so much, despite her LITERALLY thinking he is perfect and flawless in the beginning... HE is the one to fall for HER first.

It would have been so easy for her admiration to turn to love and for her to have to then try and win him over, but that's not what we got.

Instead, here is this handsome man who is so competent and charming, and he KNOWS it and WEAPONIZES it regularly to manipulate women into funding the Wings. He lowkey whores himself out - sells his time and attention at the minimum in order to keep the Wings afloat.

He is very used to getting attention and lust from women. He is NOT used to Anastasia's straightforward and blunt way of expressing herself. She woos him EFFORTLESSLY just by honestly telling him what she thinks and feels. She's not flirting, she's not trying to seduce him, but her sincere way of caring about him (as her friend and superior) bowls him over and wins his heart regardless. And even though he knows what they already have could be enough and he could just cherish that, he can't stop himself from being a little greedy for once and pursuing more. After years of lies and pretending, he desperately wants something REAL.

[mountinez]

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[bluehairmisfit]

I am really tired of people arguing with me because I’m not professionally, officially diagnosed with autism.

I get that I could be wrong.

My autistic friends see me as one of them even though I don’t have a piece of paper saying so. My therapist understands the barriers to diagnosis that are holding me back. My doctor says “I think you’re autistic, but your insurance won’t cover an assessment and the resources you’d have access to are things you can access with your ADHD diagnosis.”

But people on the interwebs still say “you can’t call yourself autistic until you have a diagnosis. Self-diagnosis is invalid.”

Self-diagnosis is invalid, they say, but I can’t access professional diagnosis. I can’t afford it.

What do they want me to do, exactly?

[hpdgirlfriend]

hello histrionics i have a random question of curiosity again. what kind of attention do you personally prefer? u can take this question however i like hearing ppl talk :-)

[pinguuu-ni]

you know what, mappas been so consistent in their Gojo one eye Satoru agenda that I'm starting to think this really might be foreshadowing for something

[kienium]

i have such a hard time with tone indicators still because i don't know what the fuck i mean either. how am i supposed to fake it until i make it in these conditions

[tj-crochets]

Hey y’all! Weird question time! My mom got hired to teach (among other things) mindfulness and emotional regulation to kids in her local schools. She’s asked me for feedback, and from what she’s said part of what she’s looking for seems to be like stims that people can do or fidget toys that they can use to help self-regulate emotions and calm down. The part I don’t understand is the mindfulness. I just don’t get it? I’ve never understood what it means. My mom tried to explain it to me, but it sounds like a bunch of separate things? Like proprioception, and situational awareness, and emotional regulation, and those are all different things and I just do not get how they are linked. She asked me for feedback on her lesson plan, but I can’t really give her any constructive criticism because I don’t understand what mindfulness means So, I guess two questions? Do you have any suggestions of things kids could do in school to help them if they are overwhelmed/overstimulated/can’t focus to help them be calm and focused, and what does mindfulness mean?

[hellhoundlair]

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