#borderattractional

[neopronouns]

bordblurpan: being pan because one's attraction is blurred by being borderline

[pt: bordblurpan: being pan because one's attraction is blurred by being borderline. end pt]

for anon! the outer four stripes are from the borderattractional flag, the inner three are adjusted from the pan flag, and the format is inspired by the borderattractional flag. the term is 'bord' from 'borderline', 'blur', + 'pan'!

flag id: a flag with 7 stripes, with the first and seventh being very small. in order, they are white, dark dull pink, faded reddish-pink, faded yellow, faded sky blue, dark dull indigo, and black. end id.

banner id: a 1600x200 teal banner with the words ‘please read my dni before interacting. those on my / dni may still use my terms, so do not recoin them.’ in large white text in the center. the text takes up two lines, split at the slash. end id.

dni link

[ceterostimming]

Pride 2020: Borderattractional stimboard for anon!

Border- An orientation in which a person with BPD cannot tell the difference between types of attraction due to symptoms of their disorder. Can be used with a specific type of attraction that is difficult to distinguish (bordersexual or borderomantic), or as borderattractional if the term feels applicable to all types of attraction.

(x)(x)(x) (x)(x)(x) (x)(x)(x) Banner

[euphxmia-pxtter-blog]

Okay, so I know that borderromantic/borderattractional refers to people who can't distinguish between platonic and romantic attraction due to BPD, but what if it's not 100% Like, most of the time, I have a lot of trouble making the distinction, but I've felt definite romantic attraction in the past on a few occasions. Does that count as borderromantic?

[iridian-faesari]

Orientation

aroace-flux [aceflux, aroflux separately]

Ace-spec: aegosexual, acosexual

Aro-spec: nebularomantic, recipromantic, borderattractional

M-spec: anisosexual, pansexual, bisexual, omnisexual, gai (x) (x)

GLG: Sednaian and Lapisian. For that chart, I match a whole bunch (since I’m fluid and confusing), but the ones I relate to the most are:

Iridian 

Trixic / Orbisian

Versian / Jaspian

Luminian

Brownitian

Enbian

[ask-pride-color-schemes]

hey! are there any orientations and genders that are exclusive to people with personality disorders? thanks! also i love your blog <3

Yes, there’s quite a few!

Here’s the genders I found: 

Bordergender/Borderfluid - A fluctuating gender experienced exclusively by people with BPD. A gender identity lacking a firm grasp on one’s identity, while still experiencing gender, to varying degrees, but having trouble pinning it down to just one label or identity. Having the sense of grasping at labels as much as possible to describe a gender one keeps questioning because one keeps second guessing one’s sense of self and, consequently, one’s sense of gender.Can be combined with relevant genders.

Exagender - A gender for use by people with BPD. It is influenced or affected by the approval of others. It is usually affected or altered by splitting, which can result in a gendered feeling that is in contrast with the person’s ‘actual’ experience of their gender.

Histrigender - A gender identity that is entirely, or mostly an act, a performance for other people. (Histri = Latin prefix meaning actor). Only to be used by those with HPD.

Narkissigender - An egotistical gender, viewing itself in a high position and wanting and/or needing praise. should only be used by those who have narcissistic personality disorder. gender can be replaced with fluid, boy, girl, xirl, boi, nonbinary, enby, nb, etc. 

Pendogender - Never being satisfied with your gender no matter how well it fits due to self-doubt, causing one to compulsively search and seek out something that fits even better. Gender perfectionism. This term is exclusive to neurodivergent people only, specifically coined with people with anxiety disorders, OCD, and OCPD in mind.

Orientations: 

Border- (prefix) - An orientation in which a person with BPD cannot tell the difference between types of attraction due to symptoms of their disorder. Can be used with a specific type of attraction that is difficult to distinguish (bordersexual or borderomantic), or as borderattractional if the term feels applicable to all types of attraction.

Borderattractional - Unable to distinguish between any form of attraction. Coined for people with BPD.

Echo- (prefix) - When you only feel attraction to people that you see as extensions of yourself/that you are an extension of them due to neurodivergence, namely difficulty in expressing empathy, or empathy deficits, such as in NPD/ASPD/Autism and extreme attachment and desire to be engulfed by a depended/favorite person, such as in BPD/DPD.Any neurodivergent person with this symptom can use it, though.

Magismetum- / Magis- (prefix) - Becoming more attracted when scared.Exclusive to those with anxiety/ptsd/a pd/any mental illness that causes extreme fear. A neurodivergent orientation.

Mala- (prefix) - An orientation that changes during maladaptive daydreaming only. It's more of an adjective to put in front of orientations like you could be asexual normally but pansexual when maladaptive daydreaming. Only for people who have this symptom for whatever reason (people with maladaptive daydreaming disorder, schizotypal pd, schizophrenia, etc)

I think I caught all of them - I hope that helps!

-Loki

[ceterostimming]

I should probably consider doing this, too. I’ll do it for the upcoming borderattractional stimboard.

When you post flag stim boards for the more obscure identities could you please put a little definition of what they are?

oh yeah! i can do that!!

i usually link to a post that includes the definition in the sources too. so for the ones i already posted, yall can check them out through there

[perfectcringecharacteroftheday]

Today’s Cringe™ Character Of The Day Is:  J.D.!

J.D uses different pronouns, mainly fae/faer and cor/corpself. Fae’s an achillean, uniattracted, borderattractional, sexualforced dependromantic cavusfluid (between cyclogender, romantogender, caedoboy, avarumgender, and cadensgender.) Fae is autistic, has dpd, bpd, bipolar disorder, and psychosis, and is a phytantrope and a netfur!

[neopronouns]

bordattragender: when your borderattractional identity is so intrinsically tied to your gender that you absolutely cannot separate the two

[pt: bordattragender: when your borderattractional identity is so intrinsically tied to your gender that you absolutely cannot separate the two. end pt]

for anon! the top four stripes are from the borderattractional flag and the format is the one i use for orientationgenders. the term is 'bord' and 'attra' from 'borderattractional' + 'gender'.

flag id: a flag with 5 stripes. in order, they are black, very dark purple, dark dull indigo, dark dull pink, and off-white. end id.

banner id: a 1600x200 teal banner with the words ‘please read my dni before interacting. those on my / dni may still use my terms, so do not recoin them.’ in large white text in the center. the text takes up two lines, split at the slash. end id.

dni link

[iridian-faesari]

Ohh okay, so all that stuff mostly used by aroaces. I haven’t delved into that stuff much yet (pretty much such sexual/romantic attraction, plus some stuff like anattractional and borderattractional), and wow, I didn’t know aplatonic could be shortened like that! Thank you for responding.

What “Aspec” means to me:

It unites Agender, Aromantic and Asexual. Saying “Acespec” and “Arospec” separates the orientations, which there is no need to do. It also leads to aromantics and agender people getting left in the cold, somewhat.

[ceterostimming]

Hiya! Can you make a borderattractional stimboard please?

Yeah! What does it mean? And can you direct me to a flag? C:

[neopronouns]

can you make a borderattractional subset for being pan bc of borderline-blurred attraction? and maybe a borderattractional gender?

both queued!

[ceterostimming]

Aegosexual and borderattractional banners!