#but thank you for your assumptions and ableist bullshit

[they-are-a-prolife-autist]

Does America have any other serious problems that need fixing or is it your autism that keeps you fixated on the propaganda of the religious right?

Show me where in my blog I address religion at all? Are we only supposed to talk about American issues that YOU approve of personally? What problem would you like to discuss since you wanna come to MY blog and tell me how to run it/what social issues to talk about. How would YOU like me to apply my personal experiences? What would make YOU happy?

[carnivore-voyeur]

It's not our responsibility to educate a 40 years old man on important matters. At that big age, everyone is capable of educating themselves.

Again, non-white fans have the right to feel offended by words that were clearly ignorant. You're not gonna change that.

But good for you. Maybe he'll see you do that hard work to defend him and come thank you personally for your help.

Again, if you are offended based on something you misunderstood then that is your own fault. You, yourself stated things that were factually incorrect which I addressed in the ask you sent me. Furthermore, no amount of self-righteousness justifies accusing Per of being a Nazi, accusing him of dating “Proud Zionists” on purpose, thinking genocide is okay/not caring about genocide based on blatant misquotes, nor making horrible comments about his family, his mental capacity, his appearance, his belief system, et cetera.

I do not give a single shit if you think it’s not your responsibility to educate someone. If you are seeking out an opinion about an “important matter” from someone who is uneducated on that matter and then mocking that person for being uneducated on that matter, then you are not acting in good faith. You can also correct someone’s ignorance but as I’ve discussed repeatedly that has to be based on the actual content of their words and actions, not some bullshit assumptions your friends made and spread around on Twitter.

He has already said to you all that, one, he doesn’t support any horrible thing happening in the world right now; two, he exists in his own world the majority of the time as it’s “the only way [he] can live”; and three, he doesn’t engage in politics. You do not know why he’s like that or why he feels the need to be that way. He has consistently been closed off from people, especially online, throughout his career and he only shows what he’s comfortable showing. If that makes you unhappy, that’s tough. He doesn’t have to change for you.

If he does not want to engage in political conversations with you all, then you need to accept that. He is not a social activist nor your spokesperson. He is a fucking guitar player with his own personal struggles. If you don’t like that, no one is holding you hostage. You can leave his social media. You can stop supporting his content. That doesn’t necessitate this gang mentality you’ve developed on Twitter where you need to gather up as many Ghost fans as possible to your side to ruin this man’s life.

I wouldn’t feel the need to say anything at all if you all weren’t so atrocious and obnoxious in your unavoidable “commentary” that manages to leak it’s way onto all forms of social media. I’ve seen everything from people posting and reposting blatant lies and slander about him on normal videos, people yelling that he should lose his job, people attaching morality to physical appearance and mental health status as if that’s not extremely ableist, people dropping hateful comments about his family in his DMs, et cetera.

Additionally, you can’t deal with any kind of backlash without accusing anyone “defending” him (see: correcting misinformation and addressing harmful comments) without using vulgar insults against us or assuming that we’re trying to get recognition in return from him. The amount of times I’ve been told to stop “dickriding” is disgusting. I don’t respect people like that. Unlike you all, I do not care about the approval of my peers. I do not care if he ever recognizes me. I don’t care if we ever talk or if I ever meet him.

I do care how people treat him because he’s a human being and you don’t treat him like one.

If you were simply being critical of things he said and expressing that in a proportionate manner that didn’t involve any of the above things I mentioned, then good for you. I wasn’t fucking talking to you and I wasn’t telling you how to feel. You can shut the fuck up and leave my blog. If you are engaging in any of the above mentioned atrocious behaviors, then my answer is still the same. Shut the fuck up and leave my blog. If you message me again, I am just going to block you.

[crippleprophet]

hey i just wanna thank you for posting about your experiences

my mom was recently diagnosed with AS and it's looking like i have it too. your posts have been way more helpful to me than most of the information i've found online. without them i wouldn't have realized how badly my si joint affects me, and i just got an si belt that's working wonders

i wish much love and many more low/no pain days to you

omg thank you so much for sharing this with me, that means so much to me & i’m so glad the si belt has been helpful for you!! ik not everyone finds it beneficial but for me it’s such a lifesaver

mainstream like public-health-style chronic illness info is the bane of my fucking existence tbh, all of it comes from such an ableist + antifat lens that is harmful to everybody but like imo exponentially worse for people with symptoms on the far end of the spectrum of debilitating effects etc. idk i just read that stuff & am like “your fundamental assumption that health is within someone’s control is wrong, the science you cite is bullshit, telling someone to ask their doctor rather than actually explaining anything to them enables medical abuse, i hate you & you should feel bad” lmao

pretty much everything i benefit from is the result of continued trial & error and my access to radical chronic illness community + normative medical knowledge. so if i can make that process any easier for anyone then that’s like, so life-giving to me

it often takes me a while to respond these days but if you have specific questions or want to like compare references on anything feel free to hmu!! & i’m still happy to take edit suggestions for my AS google doc

much love to you as well & i hope you & your mom find aids + treatment plans that help you both!!

[safe-ship]

Heads up about the safeship creator everyone, they refuse to provide accessibility to screen readers despite being asked to multiple times & is generally ableist. Below are some screenshots + a transcript of a really long paragraph rant went on.

Context: An anon asked her to stop using ! and 0s to censor proship related things. This was her response:

Context: The same anon sends another ask that the OP screenshotted. (I cannot find the post as it seems she either deleted it or Tumblr's search feature is funky)

Their response is copied + pasted below. Content warning for NSFW mentions, sexual harassment (of the anon), and guilt tripping.

Listen dude i do know better you fucking insufferable misinformed prick. I myself need readability accessibility with ny fucking aphasia that is only getting worse. I already know firsthand how little people give a shit about this stuff becuz i need it. I already have difficulty writing legibly okay. And i get a lot of shit over this disability that i dont deserve. I made this fucking tag to help others to the point that i dont even block the few people weve had problems with so that even if i have to sed it at least the tag will work well for others. So if i have to put a 0 and ! In the forbidden word to decrease how much extra stress is gonna be on me from putting it straight up on their dinner plates then im fucking going to. Why dont you get off your high horse and grow the fuck up and stop making fucking assumptions. Cause im doing a hell of a lot more of kindness and effort for accessibility than you are for saying its immoral for someone WHO NEEDS screendreaders and is ashamed about it to choose a fucking single exclammation point over getting the regular bullshit i put up with from people who wanna be pedos x100 so that you can feel good abt yourself becuz u would choose the latter. Whether ur also a screenreader needer or not what you are is a fuvking asshole becuz i literally have two spine surgeries voming up with a huge threat of bevoming a paraplegic or dead before then and i have a shortened lifespan from all my disabilities. I come into this community to cope with how shit my life is and i try to make it better for others no matter if its a little harder on me and i get nothin but disrespect from invasive and presumptuous assholes like u behind anon who dont wanna have a real vonversation with me or actually think abt anyone but yourself and how good it feels to stroke ur moral dick over the dying woman and i have had it up to here!

U guys wanna keep coming in my inbox being assholes to me? No nuance in life im a bitch? So little thanks nothing but pussies on anon talking shit or invading my privacy? Maybe someone the fuck else should try and run this ship then becuz im fed the hell up and abt to deactivate.

And even despite being told twice to provide accessibility, they continues to be inaccessible even excluding shipcourse.

And in regards to more of their ableism, they told someone to "develop a frontal lobe" which is harmful towards those with intellectual disabilities. For context: calicofemme was their old main.

Anyway, do what you will with this information. If anyone wants to add more things to this regarding her behavior, go ahead & I'll reblog it. I made this post to raise awareness of how the creator is harmful and shouldn't even be in this community because of how they go entirely against their motive for making it.

[anadrenalineslut]

Thank you for proving my point that you're ableist, you dumb bitch @beetlejuice098

Your ASSUMPTION that their "relationship is weird af" is ABLEIST. That's my point, every thing you point to about the "weirdness" of their relationship is ABLEIST BULLSHIT.

Thanks for playing but you just exposed your own ass.

[tired-fandom-ndn]

I just wanted to say it's nice to see a blog like this! It's really refreshing to see when someone is both critical of media, but in a balanced, nuanced way.

Which is probably my biggest beef with antis, actually. They've warped and mutilated the entire concept of being critical of media, and then made it widespread enough that everyone who is not an anti or anti-adjacent assumes it's in bad faith.

Even when we're not getting into "how fiction effects reality" stuff, it's hard to have a good debate on themes or ships or characterization anymore without worrying some is going to bring in some moral superiority stuff. I know ship wars have always been vicious, but this seems to be scaring more people off from even good faith discussions.

It sucks. I enjoy being critical of media because I like knowing how things work. It's also interesting how a lot of it comes back to knowing how writing and storytelling works as well. There are so many time where you can pin down a narratively weak or unsatisfying element to the creator's biases getting in the way, or how audience interpretation vs what the creator intended can differ so much based on what assumptions the creator thought the audience would have.

But more importantly, it's an important skill to have in general. Navigating media and just society in general is complicated, and it's not a simple good or bad set of rules you can memorize. You have to understand how these things work to be better and not reproduce the exact same toxic bullshit with a different coat of paint

Thank you for this message, anon! I try incredibly hard to approach media critically and thoughtfully and to stay aware of my own biases and the messages being shared in the media I enjoy.

You’re absolutely right about how antis have warped media discussions and meta in pretty much every way. The morality that antis follow has surpassed shipping and now it feels like every single discussion about characters or themes involves accusations of characters being abusive or toxic or predatory for completely surreal reasons. Even in decent discussions, there’s also the way that shipping is brought up solely as a gotcha or to shut someone out of the conversation. There’s been so many points where I’ve made posts about general fandom stuff and gotten people bringing up shipping just to undermine me.

I absolutely love analyzing media. It is one of my favorite aspects of canon, picking things apart to understand the messages and the creator’s biases and the ways that fans interpret different things. I like trying to understand why certain choices were made in the canon, why certain characters are shipped so much, why the author leans on some themes so heavily. Sometimes I don’t always like the conclusions (this ship is more popular because the alternative is one with a Black character and Black people are undervalued as love interests by society, this character is written in this way because the author has ableist biases and sees disabled people that way, this fictional culture is inspired by real cultures but in a way that is disrespectful and appropriative, etc) but I always come out of those discussions with a better understanding of the media in question and the fandom for it.

And I don’t get why people don’t also enjoy that! It’s so much fun! It’s so interesting! It’s great for engaging with other people and making your fandom more diverse and opening up new concepts and theories! Media analysis, in my own personal experience, does nothing except make a fandom more creative and thoughtful and welcoming.

I don’t always agree with the conclusions that other people draw, but that’s what makes things so interesting and gives so much variety to fandom. I wish that meta and media analysis wasn’t so dominated by antis because it really is ruining fandom experiences and making it harder to engage thoughtfully with media and fan communities.

[rpbetter]

Let me get this straight.. a roleplay resource/meme blog decide to screenshot someone's rules and call them out because of what they wrote? when obviously those who follow them could easily tell. Frist of all whatever rule someone wrote isn't there for one to go out of their way to bad mouth them. If there's something in a persons rule I don't like I'll be an adult and move the fuck on, not screenshot it and drag their name through the dirt. Christ! at this point I don't trust no one who runs those resource/meme blogs. They might hurt someone else with their nosy asses. And that Raven person needs to grow the hell up and stop playing the victim. Do something else with their life, stop living off the internet.

Yep, you've got Phase One down straight, Anon.

And the rest of what you've said is was what got multiple other people called out or differently aggressed at, that's what the response was to the rules being posted and...we're going to say opined on for the point of shaming.

You're right and they were right as well. It doesn't matter how strict or aggressive someone is in their rules, if you find that or anything else about them objectionable, that RPer is obviously not for you. That's a very important part of reading a RPer's rules, it isn't just about their reply speed, preferred topics, or tagging needs. It's also about gauging whether this is a person you're going to work out with or not based on both the actual rules themselves and how you feel about the way they're presented.

You just ascertain that, feel as annoyed or salty or even offended as you so desire, and move on. Like an adult.

It was never going to be that way, though, Raven specifically went to that blog to be a nuisance and call them out. They were already invested in doing so from a perspective of having decided this RPer was being ableist because a post that reflected the statements made in those rules far more nicely and more applicable to their followers was taken that way. Somehow. Raven took it upon themselves to ignore that the mun did make multiple statements regarding the entire thing, including polite ones when their post wasn't being reblogged with maximum hostility and accusations and constant throwing around of the statement "full stop" like lol please, take your own advice. Because, yep, full stop it's valid to have whatever opinion you do, it isn't valid to jump on someone's post like that and be upset when they aren't nice to you about it.

Also took it upon themselves to ignore that the mun is also autistic, which was the crux of Raven being a dick about it. This isn't fair to ND people, you're being ableist, it is my holy mission to decide who and what is ableist, broker no discussion from anyone that doesn't support my behavior, because I'm autistic and this upsets me personally. Probably because that mun doesn't repeatedly make it a big deal on their blog and on their every PSA. Making a not wild assumption there, since I don't either, and I was also an ableist swine for disagreeing. At the same time that I like myself too much, I hate ND people lol if you figure that one out, let me know.

That's been a lot of the issue here. Many if not most of the muns they ended up doing the most damage to are mentally ill, autistic, chronically ill, and so on. It was fully irrelevant to Raven and Co, despite all of them espousing that we never know what is going on in the lives of others.

That's why we really need to just feel whatever we're feeling and not interact instead of going on a crusade.

As you said, this RPer's mutuals, writing partners, and friends were all quite aware of their rules. Those rules have existed for the better part of four or five years as they are today, the people who have chosen to interact are on the same page with them, and it must be working out well. After all, Rules Mun was so deep in enjoying their hobby that it took a random, concerned, good resource/help blog they reblog from often telling them that their rules were being drug around the RPC quite a bit after the fact for them to know. I'd say that would probably mean their interactions and friendships weren't exactly negatively impacted by their tone.

And those people, as well as former writing partners and mutuals-in-law very much did know it was that mun's rules, yeah. You really have shot yourself in the foot when RPers with some animosity between each other take issue with what you've done to one of them, and that did actually happen as well. People knew.

Furthermore, since that mun didn't know for some time, even if they had been inclined to change the rules to appear like it wasn't them for the sake of anonymity, it wouldn't have been hard to find them. It was still identical to how it appeared Raven's posts (yes, posts, multiple), the mun was already getting shit for their PSA from the same group, and like everyone else, has an identifiable pattern in their OOC speech. They were quite identifiable.

In no way was not just dropping the URL doing anyone any favors. It was just keeping that mun from going directly to Raven and being the polar opposite of myself in the way I tried to address it. Like everything else, it was Raven insulating Raven while trying to incite bullying and bullshit.

Sadly, I agree with you on the meme/resource blogs. I can think of such a small handful of them that I feel are trustworthy adults not interested in stirring up trouble. I'd love to recommend them, but at this point, I'm really afraid of mentioning anyone directly in a positive way. I would feel so horrible if I said, "hey, everyone, the following meme muns are helpful, have a great reputation, and are very nice people, please give them a follow if you haven't already" and it ended up in them losing followers or gaining harassment because I said it.

I don't reblog many memes because that isn't my primary function here, but when I do find those that I feel are very unique, helpful to muse development, and so on, I don't reblog from sources that give me red flags. So, that's probably a good clue!

I'm just sorry this is such an environment of mistrust and bad will, it so easily can be otherwise by doing precisely as you've said. We've all a right to having issues with things, we even have the right to argue with each other, but we don't have the right to turn it into bullying and mob rule. When you have a blog that isn't your more private space of a RP blog, you're taking on a responsibility to be a bit better than giving in to our actual worst inclinations. It's just even worse because this entire experience proves that there are far more RPers here who feel the way you do. It really is a comparative handful of muns out there pulling this kind of shit, but unfortunately, that's all it takes when they're engaging in full-time harassment campaigns and extremely loud about it.

Thanks for being one of the many adults here, Anon! I promise you're not as alone as it seems. We all just tend to be far quieter.

[mogaikinscourse]

hot take: 

a lot of aroace exclusionism is rooted not only in orientation-related bigotry, but in ableism. and let me explain why. 

as someone who shows even only slight signs of being on the aroace spectrum, i’ve encountered a lot of folx who assume that if i can’t feel sexual attraction or romantic attraction, then maybe i’m just too young. maybe i just haven’t met the right person, blah blah blah. those assumptions are pretty common among ignorant people and ace/arophobes.  (and there is something to be said about my age, bc being honest, you don’t have everything figured out at only 17! it’s okay to not know for sure yet! but that doesn’t mean they’re right. but anyway.) however 

i’ve also encountered a lot of folx who think that, if you “can’t” or “don’t” feel sexual/romantic attraction, that’s sad. it’s a tragedy. they might concern troll and disguise their anti-aroace biases behind “just being worried about you”. that’s the precise same reaction that ableists (especially people like “autism warrior moms uwu”) have to disability. 

‘oh, i grieve for your Normalness being taken away by your disability ))):’

‘oh you’ll never be able to do Things We Abled People Can Do )))): so sad’ 

‘oh, you’ll never be able to fall in Love like a Normal Person )))):’ 

‘oh no! sex is what makes us Human, and you don’t need it? that’s horrible for you! )))))))))):’

this is bullshit. 

people think, “omg, you don’t experience attraction the same way I do? Wow! You must be weird!”

they are assuming that asexuality and/or aromanticism = neurodivergence. (when that’s not always the case). and they’re drawing bigoted conclusions about aroace folx based on their own preconceived ableist notions of what a “normal” person “should be/do”. 

thank you for coming to my ted talk lmao

[littlebabycrybtch]

im sorry but sometimes it is so see through that you fake and corrupt ‘pro recovery’ people are literally just so frustrated and annoyed with nd people and thats all your mindset revolves around. like you’ll throw one or two fucking random self care tips at us and we’ll rightfully say ‘that doesnt work for me’ and yall instantly go on these absolutely unnecessary and brutal TANGENTS you were saving up abt how we’re ‘’’’wallowing’’’’ and that therapy takes ~Actual Effort~ so if ur special universal tips arent working for us we’re ‘’’being difficult’’’ and ‘’’’lazy’’’’ and ‘’���’hurting ourselves’’’’’ like. idk man sure i am sorry i cant ‘take a shower to feel better’ bc my symptoms make the task more stressful actually and take away from my other more necessary tasks, im sorry i forget to take my vitamins and drink enough water bc i just dont feel a difference anymore, im sorry i rely on medication instead of therapy bc therapists also teach me things that dont seem to work, except im trying, which means no matter how hard i might seem to be failing, i am ‘pro recovery’. idc how the fuck it Looks to you personally, i deserve your support. and i shouldnt Feel the Need to apologize to a stranger who claims to be my ally for experiencing mental illness symptoms and not being able to immediately correct them ! if i could do that i wouldnt be mentally ill !! i especially should not be made to feel ashamed to even Talk about my struggles just bc i know yall will try to put a bandaid on it and then guilt me when i say it didnt work. smfh like. ur children. sometimes things just have deeper rooted problems and u dont have to take it personally that you specifically cannot cure me. 

ik it blows ur fucking goddamn mind but yes actually some people just Do really struggle to shower, to drink water, to take their meds, as in it takes actual personal efforts for them it wouldnt take for you and they have to work harder than you to accomplish them, and there are in fact some things nd people personally Cannot do and will Never be able to do without going backwards and sacrificing their happiness and quality of life exhausting themselves for an unattainable goal. only they know their limit, and pushing yourself past your limit is unarguably damaging. this ugly ass assumption you cannot be happy enough while still ‘allowing yourself’ to experience some symptoms... the idea that its just laziness and ‘anti recovery’ to openly struggle with what you view as the ‘easy’ or ‘beginning’ steps of recovery... is an inherently ableist and Harmful mindset you are all falling victim to and fucking over this community with. to be perfectly frank you are not ‘pro recovery’ when you demonize and shame people who are not ready for recovery. bc that doesnt do anything to help them recover. its genuinely just your excuse to hate and bash ‘severely’ nd people bc ur uncomfortable with them and wanna claim theyre doing it on purpose so you feel rightfully angry abt it. when you throw tantrums over us Being Mentally Ill and not ALREADY recovered like good boys or w/e all you are is pro nd people conforming to your standard of functioning and shutting the fuck up abt their actual identity and symptoms and experiences until they reach that level when ur comfy listening to them again. you’re pro neurotypical people, or those pretending to be for your comfort. its literally starting to border on an eugenics attitude by claiming the only healthy end goal is to be virtually indistinguishable from a neurotypical and match their functioning as best as possible. not all nd people Can do that, would be Happier doing that rather than accommodating their issues in other ways, and nor should that be the default goal to push on all nd people. also a lot of the shit yall push at us for even nts dont always conform to, so why is it us being made to walk on eggshells? why when i skip a shower am i evil and destructive but nt bob can go a week without one and no one bats an eye or they just joke about it???

lbr recovery doesnt look the same from person to person, you cant apply one broad standard like this, not to mention its not always an uphill battle, which doesnt just mean; ‘oops i relapsed :(((’. it means breakdowns, it means self harm, it means slacking off, failing hygiene, forgetting things, missing things, bad behavior, risky behavior, things that are Going to inconvenience you. and the second you forget that or decide to no longer care about those people, when you decide to have a baseline where you stop respecting or supporting nds for not trying hard enough to be like you, when you Drop them until they meet your standards as if they arent still nd people who need you on a basic level, ESPECIALLY IF YOU’RE A FUCKING NEUROTYPICAL WHO DOESNT HAVE THE RIGHT TO CHERRY PICK AT US LIKE THAT (!), is when you have inverted and ruined your own fucking cause by corrupting it with selfish conformist ableism. 

tldr i understand why statements like ‘just go to therapy’ ‘thanks im cured’ would frustrate you, but i also VERY MUCH understand and NEED for you people to TRY and understand why mentally struggling people would be adverse to going to therapy, and not bc they goddamn hate recovery and wanna be sad forever or w/e strawman youve come up with, but bc of their issues which are valid and Can hinder these types of decisions and even affect how much aid these coping skills actually provide, and they dont deserve your fucking Unbridled Malice and Shame over it bc they are not literally trying to be more mentally ill. its simply a symptom and consequence of their already existing mental illness. like i really... cannot fathom the level of disconnect you must be on with nd politics to take that and assume they are truly just rejecting the possibility of happiness for the sake of being unhappy. i truly think if you cant wrap your head around ‘mentally ill people, whos minds are literally experiencing sickness, are not always rational or able to help themselves, or sometimes it only appears that way and they just know better abt it than you do’ you just. arent even an ally. you’re an ableist in activists clothing. people struggling with the concept of recovery arent inherently ‘anti recovery’, yall are honestly just really fucking BAD at how you push for recovery bc most of you dont know shit and are just mean and wanna whine abt nds to be quite blunt with u lol. the whole ‘tough love’ mindset is Bullshit ok it isnt real your love doesnt have to be tough and callous and come with conditions you just wanna be abrasive to validate ur judgement and then excuse it as secretly helpful, just be supportive and 📣 LISTEN 📣 to us or get the fuck out honestly bc u arent helping anyone with what this shit has unfortunately become