#ditch the label

[stayalive9129]

#DearMolly

I started taking these new antidepressant meds not too long ago and they are making me gain so much weight and break out into what look like hives. I look so gross that I decided to stop posting pics of myself on Insta and now I just post pics of the dogs. I know it's stupid, but I have to post something, right? Someone at school said, "if it's not on Insta, it didn't really happen."

I wonder if I stopped posting at all would anyone ever wonder where I am. Would they think I am dead? Would they call my mom?

I got so angry I almost deleted all my social media, but then I decided not to be such a "drama queen."

Still angry, I started searching for videos about fake posting on Insta because you KNOW most of the people on there HAVE to have fake lives. No one can be that perfect. This video is the #honesttruth.

I hope you know that you don't have to be someone else for anyone to like. Just be our #DearMolly.

[junipercastor]

that very brief but supercharged amount of time in 2020 that 'hyperpop' was at the forefront of popular music... yeah im glad we got past that

[wetchickenbreast]

today my friend helped me realize that the reason i’ve been clinging so much to the lesbian label despite literally having multiple crushes on men is because it was a defense mechanism for me while i was in a toxic codependent friendship with a guy who tried to force me into a relationship with him. he would try to pull some shit and i could always respond with “im a lesbian” and therefore he couldn’t get away with manipulating me into anything. so the thought that i might not actually be a lesbian after all that was really scary to me

[filmap]

The Fabelmans Steven Spielberg. 2022

Ditch Day Point Dume, Cliffside Dr &, Birdview Ave, Malibu, CA 90265, USA See in map

See in imdb

Bonus: also in this location

[hereforyourdispleasure]

Trying to explain my identity so harhar funny

I tell my mother I'm a man. She says I'm just me. I reiterate what I am is a man. She asks if I like anyone. She doesn't know I'm on the arospec. She asks if I like my flatmate's friend who looks like me. I say no, she's straight. I'm a man but that woman is straight, so she wouldn't like me back if I did like her (I don't know how to like her)

[blissfali]

once you start getting really weird about being queer life gets a whole lot brighter

[spirithunts]

every day i think about this bitch being so shitty and trying to keep her stuck on what he and the label wanted to profit of something that made ahri miserable but also small as it might be that he takes the cookie from her hand it pisses me off i want to kill him

[kisiselintihar]

>blog about a specific stance on systems

>look inside

>one of the mods is against that stance

[totally-sapphic-posts]

I can’t wait for the day I can just exist. It’s probably just because I only admitted I was sapphic this year, but, I still find myself repeatedly kinda pushing myself in and out of the closet. Maybe I really don’t want this, maybe it’s only this, blah blah blah. I can’t wait to just exist- to be in equilibrium as myself without pushing myself from one box or one rule to the other. It’ll probably never fully ever go away, but…. I can hope.

I feel this and relate to this so intensely.

Just let yourself be. Be kind to yourself. Don’t force yourself anywhere. Do what feels right for you, not what others say is right for you. You know you best.

[theriverdalereviewer]

just finished reading this book called the list by siobhan vivian and you know what I recommend even though I found the ending to be lackluster

[fefairys]

uh oh

[astererer]

ship meme for aster and ingo :)) template can be found here

[wetchickenbreast]

having my biannual identity crisis where i change everything about myself including my sexuality

[katyspersonal]

Now that I think about it, it is bizarre how speaking about good things like how "broken" people deserve love, acceptance and healing can give you a label of "hurr durr this person says we should put up with emotional manipulators instead of keeping them accountable!!!!! >:(" these days. I mean, this is not a far stretch to how saying that only communication and good interactions can change society to the better apparently leads to assumptions from CERTAIN people that they are demanded to talk with those hostile to them. (All coincidences with real life events are accidental source dude trust me!!!! XD)

I just think this is absurd how it is not painfully obvious in general, that voicing your own perspective doesn't impose obligation on everyone to do the same. It depends on an INDIVIDUAL. Those devastating emotional manipulators deserve someone to carry on and accept them - as well as people who are not up for the task better off quit and save themselves. There is no rule that applies to everyone and there is no right way to act besides what you decide - there are only advices. It is like this in many things. Humans are complicated, in our interactions - very close or not so much - we always balance between "You should extend EFFORT if you want a change" and "Back off and do not extend effort if it breaks you". Either decision can be a good call, either decision can be your worst mistake, and either decision is okay to propose. Life and people are hard to predict, that's why it is fun!

Additionally, people make TOO big of a deal over morality of a choice. So what if X throwing Y away when Y was healing and barely started to trust X broke Y, thus making what X did not really nice? Would X really have to perform emotional gymnastics to prove that Y was just evil and irredeemable and probably was full of shit and didn't deserve anything etc? Like... making mistakes is fine, as well as making a choice that's good for you but is bad for someone else. So what if someone DID give up on another person easily? So what if someone DID choose the worst moment to quit possible? This can happen too, not every unhealthy bond is textbook example abuse, sometimes you literally just befriended a person with emotional baggage and decided they were not worth effort. There is not always a huge underlying reason about how that person is totally inherently bad and a monster. No need to fret so much about having decisions record perfectly clean of anything wrong, we all are cringe anyway.

But since I said there are no rules, only advices, here is an ADVICE from me: you should be very wary of people who feel attacked when you propose extending an effort instead of throwing a person away (whatever is the context). It is a no-brainer that you proposing something doesn't mean they have to think the same! We are people with autonomy! So why certain people get so butthurt about someone suggesting a course they personally don't want to take?

Because they are unwittingly projecting their OWN attitude. Because THEY are the categorical people who express their propositions as orders and not as advices or choices. As result, they think you have the same control freakery in mind. But trust me bro/sis/sib, you had good intention and it's not your fault THEY are defensive and vindictive.

Be wary of people that get defensive over an ADVICE instead of just not taking it if they don't wanna.

[m0th-t33th]

shoutout to my ex friend for making my sexuality crisis a thing. awesome.

[blisterthigh]

can you believe that they introduced "domino is inexperienced with women" in that 2018 solo and didn't even let her be gay about it