#divorce and separation

[stillhere-erehllits]

This a a reminder to not fall victim to the sunk-cost fallacy. Just because you invested time and energy into something, does not mean you should indefinitely waste more time and energy on it, if you decide it’s not what you want anymore. This goes for anything, from books, to relationships, to jobs, to hobbies, etc.

If it’s not serving you anymore, move on.

[cryptocism]

"just as I did, in 1983."

you'd never know my favourite parts of the show are the fucked up insane bits when my first instinct is to draw the cheesiest thing imaginable

[lawofnaturesblog]

Untying the Knot: Navigating Divorce and Separation with Grace

Introduction: Life's journey is filled with twists and turns, and sometimes, relationships that were once a source of joy and companionship reach a crossroads. In the bustling modern world, divorce and separation have become integral aspects of many people's lives, requiring a delicate balance of emotions, legalities, and personal growth. In this article, we delve into the complexities of divorce and separation, offering insights on how to navigate these challenging transitions with grace and resilience.

Understanding Divorce and Separation: Divorce and separation are distinct but closely related concepts. Separation involves the decision to live apart from one's spouse or partner, while divorce is the legal dissolution of a marriage. In Australia, divorce can be granted after a separation period of at least 12 months, during which the couple lives separately and apart.

The Emotional Landscape: The emotional impact of divorce and separation cannot be underestimated. Feelings of grief, anger, sadness, and even relief often intertwine during this tumultuous period. It's crucial for individuals to allow themselves the space and time to process their emotions, seeking support from friends, family, therapists, or support groups when needed. Embracing self-care and practicing resilience can aid in coping with the emotional rollercoaster.

Legal Aspects: Divorce and separation often involve navigating legal procedures, which can vary from one jurisdiction to another. In Australia, the Family Law Act 1975 governs divorce and separation matters. It's advisable to seek legal counsel during this process to ensure a clear understanding of your rights and responsibilities regarding property settlement, child custody, spousal maintenance, and financial arrangements.

Communication and Collaboration: Open and respectful communication is key when navigating divorce and separation. Clear communication can facilitate discussions about property division, child custody arrangements, and financial matters. Collaborative approaches, such as mediation or collaborative law, offer alternatives to the adversarial nature of court proceedings, promoting amicable solutions that prioritize the well-being of all parties involved.

Prioritizing Children's Well-being: If children are involved, their well-being must take center stage during divorce and separation. Co-parenting arrangements should be carefully considered, focusing on maintaining stability and minimizing disruption in their lives. Children benefit from witnessing their parents working together to find common ground, even if their romantic relationship has ended.

Financial Considerations: Divorce and separation can have significant financial implications. Property division, spousal maintenance, child support, and the division of assets like bank accounts and real estate require thorough attention. Seeking advice from financial professionals, such as accountants and financial planners, can ensure that the financial aspects are dealt with comprehensively.

Personal Growth and Moving Forward: Amid the turmoil of divorce and separation lies the opportunity for personal growth and renewal. Embracing self-discovery, setting new goals, and nurturing one's passions can pave the way for a brighter future. Many individuals find solace in support networks, therapy, and engaging in activities that bring joy and fulfillment.

Conclusion: Divorce and separation are undoubtedly challenging life events, demanding emotional resilience, legal awareness, and effective communication. Navigating these transitions with grace requires a blend of self-compassion and practicality. By prioritizing emotional well-being, embracing collaborative approaches, and seeking professional guidance, individuals can emerge from the process with newfound strength, resilience, and the hope for a fulfilling life beyond the end of a relationship.

[thomaschaytorsolicitors]

Everything You've Ever Wanted to Know About Family Law

Family law plays a crucial role in ensuring the well-being and stability of families during challenging times. Whether you're going through a divorce, seeking child custody, or addressing domestic violence issues, understanding the basics of family law is essential. In this blog, we'll explore the key aspects of family law, while highlighting the importance of seeking legal assistance from solicitors in High Wycombe, Maidenhead, or Marlow when dealing with such sensitive matters.

What is Family Law?

Family law encompasses legal matters that relate to family relationships, such as marriage, divorce, child custody, adoption, and domestic violence. Its primary objective is to protect the rights and interests of individuals within the family unit and provide resolution mechanisms for family disputes.

      2. Divorce and Separation:

Divorce is a legal process that dissolves a marriage, while separation occurs when a couple decides to live apart without officially ending their marriage. Family law solicitors can guide you through the divorce process, addressing aspects like property division, spousal support, child custody, and visitation rights.

      3. Child Custody and Support:

When parents separate or divorce, child custody and support arrangements become pivotal. Family law solicitors can assist in determining the best interests of the child, establishing custody agreements, and calculating child support payments to ensure the child's welfare is protected.

     4. Adoption:

Adoption is a beautiful way to expand a family. However, it involves a complex legal process. Family law solicitors can provide guidance and support throughout the adoption journey, helping prospective parents understand the legal requirements, procedures, and rights associated with adoption.

     5. Domestic Violence and Protection Orders:

Domestic violence is a grave concern in many households. Family law offers mechanisms to protect victims of domestic abuse through protection orders, restraining orders, and injunctions. Solicitors specializing in family law can assist in obtaining these orders and ensuring the safety of those affected.

    6. Mediation and Alternative Dispute Resolution:

Family law emphasizes the importance of resolving disputes amicably whenever possible. Mediation and alternative dispute resolution methods provide an opportunity for parties to reach mutually acceptable agreements outside of court. Solicitors experienced in family law can help facilitate these processes, promoting effective communication and negotiation.  

    7. Collaborative Law:

Collaborative law is an alternative approach to traditional litigation. It involves both parties and their solicitors working together to find mutually beneficial solutions, with a commitment to resolving disputes without going to court. This approach can help preserve relationships and minimize emotional stress during family law proceedings.

   8. Importance of Solicitors in High Wycombe, Maidenhead, and Marlow:

If you find yourself navigating the complexities of family law, solicitors in High Wycombe, Maidenhead, and Marlow can offer invaluable assistance. With their expertise and knowledge of local laws, they can provide personalized advice, handle legal paperwork, represent you in court, and ensure your rights are protected throughout the legal process.

Conclusion:

Family law addresses critical matters that impact the well-being and stability of families. Whether it's divorce, child custody, adoption, or domestic violence, solicitors specializing in family law can guide you through the legal complexities and ensure your best interests are represented. If you're in High Wycombe, Maidenhead, or Marlow, seeking professional assistance from local solicitors can make a significant difference in navigating family law matters successfully.

Remember, family law issues can be emotionally challenging, and having the support of a skilled solicitor can provide the necessary guidance and reassurance during these difficult times.

[usaitbari]

Kim Kardashian and Kanye West reach divorce settlement | CNN

Kim Kardashian and Kanye West reach divorce settlement | CNN

CNN  —  Kim Kardashian and Kanye West have come to a divorce agreement, a source with knowledge of the negotiations tells CNN. Per the agreement, a draft of which was obtained by CNN, Kardashian will receive $200,000 per month in child support from West, who last year legally changed his name to Ye, and share joint custody of their four children. CNN has reached out to representatives for…

[suchananewsblog]

Kim Kardashian and Kanye West reach divorce settlement | CNN

Kim Kardashian and Kanye West reach divorce settlement | CNN

CNN  —  Kim Kardashian and Kanye West have come to a divorce agreement, a source with knowledge of the negotiations tells CNN. Per the agreement, a draft of which was obtained by CNN, Kardashian will receive $200,000 per month in child support from West, who last year legally changed his name to Ye, and share joint custody of their four children. CNN has reached out to representatives for…

[redrobin-detective]

I think one underrated tragedy of Ice King's scars is that he probably took away Simon's sense of levity.

Like in his very limited appearances before Simon is consumed by the crown we see he's kind of a silly dude. In his introduction video, he only put on the crown in order to playfully tease his fiancee. Plus watching him make light of the loneliness and general misery for a young girl in a broken world. He was a dedicated man, who was generous and loved with his whole heart and threw himself one hundred percent into everything he did. He was also a fun lil guy.

But after almost a millennia of being a mad man, the brunt of every joke, someone who only existed as a broken caricature of himself and couldn't be counted on to take anything seriously, I imagine he was done with it. Now he wants to focus back on his academic endeavors, on his role as a father figure in Marcy's life, on being a proper adult. Any attempts to be silly could easily remind everyone - including himself- of Ice King, something he's eager to avoid.

So his jokes and jibes and general lightheartedness turned to sarcasm and self deprecating comments.

[willowser]

touya is halfway through his workday, grease up to his elbows, little jumpsuit half undone down to his waist, when iguchi comes in to tell him "someone's askin' for you out here".

he's not sure who it could be, but there's no telling, so he just decides to take a smoke break and wander out of the automotive garage, maybe imagining one of siblings out on the pavement.

but the minute he sees you, he stops. nearly drops his cigarette on a rough, "oh shit."

it's been a while since he's seen you, a year or two, and the packet of paper in your hand can only mean one, bullshit thing.

"nah, nah, nah, i ain't signing any papers," is how he greets you, shaking his head the minute you start up the path with a big, determined frown. touya doesn't run, but he sure twists on his heel and starts back up the path, too, as you start calling out his name.

practically all of his coworkers are watching when he comes back into view, not bothering to hide how nosy they're being. their audience makes you falter just a tad and touya clings onto it; anything to stop you.

"never a good sign when your wife comes to find you at work."

there's a long silence, from everyone. when he looks back at you—at your manilla folder and carefully stapled documents, your petition for divorce—your eyes are heavy and wet, almost the same way they were when the two of you stood in a courtroom, lying about your age in order to pledge until death do you part.

almost. now they're just sad.

from somewhere in the garage, toga calls out a bewildered, "you have a wife?" that makes him feel a way he can't understand, both amused and devastated all at once.

your wedding ring isn't on your finger, but if he stares long enough, he can maybe see the difference in color of your skin, a former tan-line that's begun to fade.

he sold his for stuff he shouldn't have been buying, stuff that ruined him and you and your marriage, a long time ago.

but touya only smiles, and calls back, "yeah, i do."

[lovegrowsart]

personally i think katara is completely within in her right to be angry at and never forgive the man that killed her mother and in turn zuko is also within his right to be angry at and never forgive his abusers who gaslit manipulated scapegoated maimed banished and tried to kill him multiple times and neither of those things would make katara and/or zuko lesser than or bad people

[puppetmaster13u]

Prompt 195

“Oh. It’s you.” 

The entity that had been summoned practically growled, a cloak like swirling galaxies- or was it swirling galaxies molded into a cloak- shimmering around their form. One pair of arms crossed over a chest where a star pulsed with the heartbeat of universes, alive yet dying as lazarus green eyes glowered down at the league and bats alike. 

“You know you could, fucking call, right?” they whined, aura of terror suddenly broken, unnatural fear torn away and leaving all of them wrong-footed and confused.

Well, apparently all of them except for Ras, who had an honest to fuck grin on his face, one that looks almost carefree, if a little feral. Nope. No thanks. Not this timeline-

“But phones didn’t exist last we spoke, ya ‘amar.” 

[neversetyoufree]

Since we'll hopefully be getting out of the VnC hiatus soon, and this new arc seems to finally be turning the spotlight back to Noé and calling out some of his more troubling traits for the first time, I've been thinking a lot about him recently.

I've talked before on this blog about Noé's inability to recognize or process bad things when they happen to him alone. He bounces back from and idealizes almost any experience as soon as it's over, even when he absolutely shouldn't. It's one of my favorite traits of his, and it's been lampshaded a couple of times in-manga. Louis calls out how weird his attitude toward his kidnapping is during the mémoire 9 flashback, and the "be a little bothered" from Vanitas and co in mémoire 57 has the same effect.

We also recently got a whole extended sequence of Vanitas and Domi complaining about how Noé also never anticipates harm before it might come to him. He waltzes into dangerous situations like it's nothing, almost as if he thinks he's unkillable. Combined with the above, this is just more of his strange brand of optimistic denial. Everything is fine in Noéland! It can't possibly not be fine! He always trusts and thinks the best of people and situations by default, never wanting to expect they may do wrong, and so long as a given event doesn't involve harm to external innocents and/or Noé's loved ones that he can't rationalize away, he compartmentalizes and denies harm once it's done. Thus he carries on in blissful ignorance, his past suffering having no effect on the blithe trust with which he treats the world.

But in addition to all that, Noé is also very notably divorced from the consequences of his own actions. It's not that he's *incapable* of considering his own effect on people, and he certainly tries to be kind and decent, but much of the time, it just doesn't seem to occur to him that people will have reactions to the things he does. He does as he sees fit, and when his deeds impact the people around him, especially if they produce a reaction that could upset him, it bounces off his mind in the same way that potential traumas do.

On the more lighthearted end of the spectrum, this leads to things like Noé never noticing when people are attracted to him. It may also have something to do with his airheaded messiness—the way he's always thoughtlessly making a mess of the hotel room and incurring Vanitas's wrath in bonus materials. On the heavier end of the spectrum, this causes a lot of genuine problems for the people around him. He's largely oblivious to the depth of Dominique's mental health problems until she's pushed to her breaking point at the amusement park, despite the fact that he's inextricably entangled in the cause of them. He also completely loses sight of Vanitas's reactions to him when he gets caught up in his protective rage at the start of the vanoé fight, and it takes an outside reminder from Jeanne and a literal mirror to make him realize that his own actions are part of why Vanitas has devolved to such a state.

This lack of self-perception on Noé's part feeds back into the other problems I laid out at the top of this post, his obliviousness toward his interactions with the rest of the world helping to facilitate his denial. It's part of the happy little insulating bubble that he interacts with the world through. And as the other side of that coin, his automatic, unthinking denial of things that could hurt him is part of what enables him to ignore his own impacts on the people around him. You can't reckon with or worry about harming other people when you live in Noéland where everything must be fine. I think the fact that he wants to be a good person that doesn't harm others actually makes it harder for him to confront the truth of how he impacts the world, because him hurting others is a Bad Thing that would cause him mental harm.

We've seen Noé mess up, understand his mistake, and apologize for it before. He apologizes to Vanitas for making assumptions about him after the bal masqué, he apologizes to Vanitas again at the end of the amusement park fight, and he apologizes to Riche for speaking with ignorance about dhampirs. However, I think the bigger a mistake of his is, the more harm it causes other people (and the more understanding would hurt him as a result), the harder it is for Noé to comprehend his wrongs. He's clearly trying to make things right with Domi, and he's told her that he values her, but I don't know if it's yet occurred to him to conceive of their mess as a situation where he's done her active wrong. He also literally passes out on her mid-conversation, leaving Domi and Vanitas to carry him back to bed when he was supposed to be comforting her.

But I think the most fascinating example, the moment where all this comes together into Noé's most feeble and blatant act of denial yet, is the first time he sees Misha after clawing up his face. The anime actually changes this detail, which is its own can of worms to get into, but in the manga, when Noé sees Misha's injuries in the light of day after attacking him, he immediately fucking turns around.

At the end of his wits at the amusement park, Noé claws a child across the face in a fit of anger and protectiveness. I'm not interested in condemning Noé for this, especially given that the child in question was actively trying to stab Vanitas at the time, but I will say that his actions are quite extreme. Given Vanitas's response and the way Misha's injuries are portrayed, I think it's clear that the manga wants us to see how Noé hurts Mikhail as something troubling and extreme. He gives that kid a pretty horrible injury, and Misha will likely have scars on his face for the rest of his life.

And regardless of how justified he may or may not have been in hurting Misha in defense of Vanitas, it's clear that Noé himself is upset by the true extent of what he does to Mikhail's face. When he looks at him in the light of day, when he sees a numb-looking child with his face wrapped in still-bloody bandages, though we only get to see a small segment of his face in that moment, he looks sick. He knows that he's done something troubling, and I'm sure he feels all kinds of heavy and unpleasant emotions.

This is one genuinely bad thing he's done that Noé cannot deny. He can't rationalize this one away and make it all copacetic. He can't conveniently forget the emotional reality of suffering and harm, because that reality is standing ten yards away from him. And he can't just apologize for things either, because apologies cannot undo physical harm, and frankly, I'm not sure he'd be able to give an honest apology for his one. Sickness at the results of his actions doesn't mean he fully regrets hurting Misha, at least not at this moment when emotions are still raw.

But Noé, confronted with this undeniable source of guilt and pain, is still ultimately unable to look the pain he's caused in the eye. A problem piercing through the happy veil of Noéland and forcing him to acknowledge it doesn't mean he's capable of reckoning with that problem. Instead he just. turns away from it.

Noé, forced to acknowledge a harm he's done and unable to employ all the many layers of automatic insulation that usually protect him, physically turns around because he cannot bear to look at the person, the child, that he's hurt. He employs the very last possible form of avoidance available to him, even though it's useless in the ways that matter. Not looking at Misha doesn't mean he gets to un-know the fact that he maimed him, but he simply cannot bring himself to look.

Noé is extremely good at playing "I do not see it" with things that hurt him. He's good enough that I think he has genuinely no idea he's doing it a vast majority of the time. Whatever mental shield he has that's protecting him is automatic enough that the badness that could hurt him doesn't ever even seem to cross his conscious mind. But no matter how automatic and subconscious, this tendency of his is still, and the end of the day, nothing more than an unhealthy coping mechanism, and this moment helps to put that to our attention.

What's the difference, really, between him cheerfully acting like Jean-Jacques and Chloé's assaults never upset him and him turning around so he doesn't have to look at the wounds he gave Mikhail? Noé can't look at pain, can't acknowledge the things he finds upsetting (at least not things that cause him alone pain, as others' pain often triggers his savior complex and spurs action). This scene with Misha throws that into the light, forcing Noé to desperately cling to his avoidance in an obvious and physical way.

Even when there's no way to deny the harsh reality of having done something he finds horrific, Noé Archiviste cannot make himself look directly at a painful truth, be it others wronging him or his own wrongdoing. It takes an external hand to step in and force him to turn his head and acknowledge/reckon with a problem. And even then, who knows if intervention can always be successful.

The start of the dham arc so far has drawn a lot of attention to this pattern of behavior, with Vanitas having to sit Noé down and explain to him in detail why his words said in well-meaning ignorance make Dante so upset. This is Noé being forced to look at a harm he caused because he couldn't or wouldn't look at and comprehend the problem (his fellow vampires' racism) in the situation he was in. But upsetting Dante is ultimately a low stakes problem for Noé. He put his foot in his mouth and offended a peer; he didn't shred Vanitas's little brother. He's able to accept his wrongs and feel his discomfort without resorting to physically turning around and avoiding the issue.

I want to know what Noé will do if/when this arc forces him to confront a source of pain he can't handle in a context that's more high stakes than a social faux pas. I want to see what he'll do when something really forces him beyond his ability to believe that everything is fine. How badly would he have to be hurt to lose his ability to filter an event/events through rose colored glasses? How badly would he have to hurt someone else? Or is his instinctive shield good enough that he'll never get out of it on his own? And if so, who else might step in to make Noé own up to reality?

Teacher and the Archivistes are becoming plot-relevant now, and our attention is being drawn to Noé's issues. I think there might be something coming soon that even Noé can't turn away from and cheerfully pretend isn't hurting him. Teacher even ends his appearance at the amusement park with a little speech about having to "wake and face reality," which makes me even more certain that a wake-up call for Noé is imminent.

Either that, or Noé's going to mess up and hurt somebody even worse than he hurt Misha later this arc, and in that case, we might get to see a feat of denial even worse than him literally turning around to avoid looking at the wounds he caused.

[fantastic-nonsense]

when people learn that Batman and Batwoman are different mantles with different meanings attached to their existence, different legacies to leave, different sets of affiliated supporting characters, and different rogues galleries that have very little to do with each other and aren't just gender-specific titles for the same superhero I will finally know peace

[filthytheodeckerkinnie]

I relate to Arthur Lester because I also get fucking angry at John every 10 minutes, and then swing violently the other way into loving him more than can be described

[cerealforkart]

Congratulations to Grant Wilson and Marco Li for being the last couple standing 👏👏👏

[sunlit-mess]

Why do you write mother or father's side why seperated?

[pretzelgotze]

Max and Charles yapping at the Spain GP 2024 Drivers' Parade