#feel free to reblog with more examples

[aphel1on]

i have such a love for characters who descend into madness or villainy out of deep, deep empathy. characters who fundamentally cannot cope with the cruel realities they find themselves in and blow up about it in spectacular fashion. fallen angel type characters with tears of outrage in their eyes. characters who break before they bend, and break so badly they splatter blood all over their noble ideals. every variation on it gets me so good

[fabuloustrash05]

For those of you calling 2012 Mikey innocent and constantly babying him and saying he must be protected, you are literally doing the exact thing that he hates.

2012 Mikey has stated in the show that he hates being treated like a child and doesn’t like it when people look/treat him as such. Yes, his brothers are still gonna be protective of him but that’s brotherly instincts. He is the youngest after all.

But we have to remember that in the end…

Mikey is NOT innocent. He has committed manslaughter. He literally ate PizzaFace alive, who is a mutant that used to be a living human being.

Mikey does NOT need to be protected. He can handle himself. He managed to figure out and survive in Dimension X all on his own for what seemed like weeks/months. He also took on villains like Tiger Claw, Rahzar and Newtralizer by himself!

Mikey is NOT a baby. Mikey is a skilled ninja. Splinter has stated that Mikey has the highest intuition compared to his brothers. He was also willing to sacrifice and die for his friends and family in an attempt to to stop Newtrailzer, staying behind as Dregg’s ship exploded.

[lightbulb-warning]

You are so cool

Let's discuss shuichi and the possibility of bisexual shuichi

*cough*

"possibility"?? uhh- *calculation noises* ...VERY HIGH.

[msnihilist]

The Motion Picture Production Code (colloquially known as the Hays Code) circa 1956 vs Tumblr Fandom Police circa 2023

Spot the difference!

[disabled-disaster-king]

I know I and many others talk often about the negative and hard sides of disability so here are some good things that I've experienced that may help some other people find things to enjoy that aren't just ~think positive~ ~do yoga~

First thing! Sports I absolutely love sports and one of the hardest things about my mobility decreasing as I grew up was that I lost the ability to do a lot of what I loved. Para sports are amazing and it is always good to be active and exercise as well as just lots of fun, they are also the main way that I connected with other fellow disabled people and found community. Lots of city's and towns have free programs where you can try out different para sports and those are great ways to figure out if you want to pursue one in specific. I personally play competitive para hockey as well as other wheelchair sports like wheelchair basketball and tennis.

Get into crafts that are practical for your every day life, decorate your mobility aid, sew adaptive clothing take a cooking course so you can better accommodate your own dietary needs, do art therapy, crochet or knit bags and organizers to hold your things!

[golfishwiththebigeyes]

real talk, “if it bleeds, we can kill it” and it’s derivatives is my one of favorite themes in media ever

[flowering-darkness]

connecting things that happened when you played the game your F/O is in, to the story of your selfship with that F/O, is something that can truly be so special

[creedock]

i do find it funny that alastor does actually fall into a weirdly specific fantasy trope at least visually. specifically the longish black haired greasy backstabber who mainly uses cunning and is usually physically weaker than other characters but makes up for it in cunning. like

thats just alastor after his twink death

[becky5203]

Hey ya know what couple always slaps:

👩🏻‍🦰🧑🏻

[tarisbackyard]

No one tell y'all that when they translate media into other languages they frequently change the character names to make them easier for the reader. This goes from A. literal translations, B. to sound alikes, all the way to C. completely unrelated replacements.

Some examples from books being translated into German:

A. Twoflower from Discworld is Zweiblum. Discworld is full of these actually, which ads an extra level of absurdity in some cases. One of my favs is replacing Armstrong with Starkimarm.

B. Hermione from Harry Potter is Hermine, because the phonetics match more closely to the English original.

C. Emil from Emil i Lönneberga is Michel, because the German publisher didn't want the readers to confuse the book with Emil und die Detektive, a popular German children's book.

[gracien-system]

Any tips for getting over the sad?

1: figure out the root cause.

Is it depression? Is that depression being caused by external factors, or a chemical imbalance? If it's external factors, what are they? Can you address them directly?

If it isn't depression, and just regular sadness, what's the cause? Are you just having a bad day, or is it bigger?

2: once you find the root cause, figure out a way to address it if at all possible.

If you can address the root of the problem directly, it will be much, much better overall.

If you can't, see the end of the answer.

3: deal with the aftermath.

If whatever problem you've found and addressed if big enough, there's likely to be emotional aftermath, find a way of dealing with any other problems which arise from it, and...

4: take care of your physical and emotional needs.

(this is where you should jump if you can't address the root of the problem)

Are you fed? Are you watered? Have you showered recently? Have you brushed your teeth recently? Have you gotten sunlight recently?

Those are all physical needs, address them first. The general order we like to go in is water > food > shower > brushing teeth > sunlight, but whatever order works best for you is the order you should go with.

As for emotional needs...

Have you talked with friends recently? Have you taken time to do something or watch something you enjoy? Have you created anything recently?

Consuming art > social connection > creating art -- that's in the order we tend to place it, as it's in order of difficulty.

Please remember that humans are naturally artists. We want to create things. If you haven't made something in a while... find something which catches your eye and try it. Write some flash fiction, or a poem, or go find and dry some dandelions from a nearby field. Just make something even if no one else ever sees it.

...And most of all, please -- we know y'all are a system. Don't be afraid to lean on the others there. The system exists to help you. You're not weak for relying on it.

[awakened-void-deity]

U H H H Sky [iap] item...commissiony? thingies??

Hello skyblr time for annoying artist mode yeehaw

SO! With mischief on its way reeelatively soon [not really, but its better early than sorry], and a new season to save up for...i realize im in a bit of a dilemma

Well, to combat this, i had a silly idea....Commissions and heart trades....yeah kinda lame BUT hear me out--

You get an image, entirely of your choosing [within reason] from me, and [depending on what], some free hearts! [from 10-40, based on what i know of the item prices] ill be doing fully rendered pieces [up to full body], to uncoloured sketch pages! One thing i do know is that im definately skipping lazy days, so theres not exactly a real rush on it :]

Im also sadly short on cash or id do it myself :']

I have a list of iaps im trying to get, though im not exactly expecting to get all of them [god, especially the bat cape, expensive! yiiikes!] but, if anyone is willing to help me out, its greatly appreciated! /gen

Again this is just sorta...me..being broke as hell.. IUYFTCVEFHKJ im very sorry <//3

List of IAPs im willing to trade for: Spooky Bat Cape [IT IS EXPENSIVE SO I DO N O T EXPECT THIS TO BE ACCEPTED], Mischief Withered Antlers, Mischief Witch Hat, [next] Season pass [This just goes to show how much of a halloween lover i am...]

Id like to say, i dont expect this to go far, nor anyone to actually help me with it, money isnt something that grows on trees afterall, and not everyone has spare to waste on someone on the internet! its all up to if someone wants to help, and to that id be thankful as hell haha

[titleknown]

I will say, out of all the people who I hate in this world, few equal the unmitigated loathing I have for commentators and columnists who get paid more than I’ll ever make in my life to write widely published opinion pieces about how “these bad things are good actually”

Like, shit like “ohhhh, sweatshops give people opportunity” or “ohhhh, copyright terms being too fucking long is good actually,” fuck the people who do that shit, I hope God kills you.

[firawren]

Which of these would you rather see on your dash?

Hey @staff. This is a perfect example of why collapsed reblogs is such a bad idea. Seeing the full thread, you go like this: 😮 ooh, that's cool 😀 "they're free," hehe! 🤣 "16 cents," perfection!!

I have achieved joy, I feel positive feelings toward Tumblr, I want to engage, I want to stay, my eyeballs land on more ads, you make more money, everyone wins! 🎉

Seeing the collapsed thread, you go like this:

😮 ooh, that's cool 😐 "16 cents"? yes, that's literally what the pic shows, not sure why you felt the need to say that

There is no motivation for me to uncollapse the reblog chain—it looks like a boring conversation about the denominations of coins. And even if I do uncollapse it, you've ruined the joke by showing me the punchline before the setup. I am sad, Tumblr is boring, I go elsewhere to entertain myself, I see less ads, you make less money, everyone loses. 😥

Reblog chains are the best thing about Tumblr. They are your unique super power. They are the thing that makes people screenshot Tumblr and share it around. Why on earth would you kneecap them??

I don't know exactly how you plan to implement this. Give people the option to keep them collapsed if there truly are people who are annoyed by how long they can get (you already have a version of this feature), but don't collapse them for everyone or new users by default. Please. It will make Tumblr so much more boring.

[brazilian-whalien52]

One thing hard about being bisexual to me is that yes, as a bi women dating men is so much easier than other queer people. Of course this is my experience. I have such a strong social anxiety and this affects everything to me. I can't flirt with people because I feel to bad initiating those things and LGBT people, especially women, hardly flirt with me since I don't look queer (i am to afraid to have attention on me so mostly my style is forgetful), while men socially are expected to make the first move. It becomes so much easier to follow along. Also, my fear of judgment makes it so hard to come out, even if I tell to myself it's normal and that i shouldn't care about other people opinion, I can't just stop caring so I feel so afraid of starting dating another queer person and having my fear cause pain to them because I don't want the person that I love to feel like they can't be themselves around me and I know there would be moments were i would want them to be quieter, more discreet... And I never want to ask somebody else that. It's just so hard because it feels that this is a part of me I will never be able to live

[crimeronan]

i've seen a couple people in the notes of this very good post about fictional polyamory by @thebibliosphere say things along the lines of "oh, i've been doing it wrong :(" or "how do i know if i did this right??" or "i should probably give up and start over, i wrote this badly :(" and. no!!!!

(i AM seeing far MORE people say "oh, this clarified and helped me so much, i think i know how to fix issues i've been having with my own story" which. YES!!!!)

listen. if you're a monogamous person who's writing a polyamorous relationship, and you've been focusing mainly on The Triad and All Three Together All The Time as the endgame, that's literally fine. that's a perfectly acceptable and strong starting point for your plotting, imo. you do not need to give up on a story that you've started like this.

but the things discussed in the post Can and Should improve your execution!

you can keep the same plot beats and overall relationship arc 100%. polyamorous relationships are infinite in their formations, every one is unique. "basically a monogamous romance but with three people" Does exist, as a relationship type. you're not hashtag Misrepresenting (TM) poly people with it

BUT i do think it will help to read up on some poly people talking about how their relationships Differ from monogamous ones.

so i have outlined some basic important concepts about polyamory.

MORE IMPORTANTLY though, i've broken down some questions that you can answer throughout the writing process to strengthen your individual dyad relationships, your individual characterization, & your characters' individual feelings/experiences. this is a writing resource have fun

future kitkat butting in to say i spent over two hours writing this and it definitely needs a readmore. it is also NOT comprehensive. but everything should be pretty simple to follow! feel free to reblog if you find it helpful yourself or just want to reward me for how gotdan long this took KSLDKFJKDL.

i've grabbed quick links for a couple of the important concepts, some have SEO pitches in them but the info largely seems to be good. (if i missed anything Egregiously Gross on these sites i should be able to update the links with better ones later, since they're under the readmore.)

sidenote: this is NOT meant to be overwhelming, despite the length. if you can't read all of this, that's Okay. you do not need to give up on your writing.

here we go:

compersion!

compersion is a BIG thing in a lot of polyamorous relationships. it's joy derived from seeing two (or more) of your partners happy together, or joy derived from seeing your partner happy with someone else.

compersion is really important as a concept because it highlights that every individual relationship within a polycule is different -- and that that's a GOOD thing. it's sort of the inverse of jealousy.

by the "inverse of jealousy," i mean that instead of feeling left out and upset and possessive, you feel happy/joyous/content.

i can use personal experience as an example: it's a Relief for me when my partners receive joy/support/sex/romance/etc that i can't (or prefer not to) give them. and i love seeing my partners make each other laugh and be silly together.

it's 100% okay for a poly triad not to be together 100% of the time, it doesn't mean that the third member is being left out or not treated equally when two people do things alone together.

(i have individual dates with my partners all the time! PLUS larger 3-and-4-person date nights.)

if the third member DOES feel jealous or left out, then the polycule can have a conversation to figure out what needs/wants aren't being met, and solve that. this happens semi-regularly in my polycule, as it will happen in any relationship (including monogamous ones)! it's just part of being an adult, sometimes you have to talk about feelings.

metamours!

a metamour is someone who is dating your partner, but ISN'T dating you. this may not be relevant for people writing closed three-person romantic sexual triads, but it's a super helpful term to know.

the linked article also lists different types of metamour relationships with some fun phrasing i hadn't heard before. the tl;dr is: sometimes you'll be domestic cohabitation friends, sometimes you'll be buddies with your own friendship, sometimes you might not interact much outside of parties, every relationship is different.

there's no one-size-fits-all requirement for metamour relationships. sometimes polyamorous people will end up dating their metamour after a while (has happened to me), sometimes polyamorous people will break up with one partner for normal life reasons, but remain friendly metamours.

the goal of polyamory is NOT for EVERYONE to fall in love. it is 100% okay if this happens in your story, it happens in real life too! but it is also 100% okay for characters to be metamours without ever becoming "more than friends."

(sidenote: try to kill any internalized "more than" that you have when it comes to friendship. friends are just as important and special and vital as partners.)

of course there are a million ways for messiness to occur with metamours within a complex polycule, exactly like with close-knit platonic friend groups. however this post is not about that! there's enough "here's how polyamory can go wrong" stuff out there already, so i'm focusing on the positives here :)

open versus closed polyamorous relationships!

i'm struggling to find an online article that reflects my experience without directly contradicting at least SOME stuff. so i'll give a quick rundown

google has a bunch of conflicting definitions of open relationships and whether open relationships are different from polyamory. the general consensus seems to be that an open relationship prioritizes one partnership (often a marriage), but that each partner can have extraneous flings or long-term commitments (most often sexual in nature).

this is not typically how i use the term wrt polyamory. the poly concept is pretty simple. a closed polyamorous relationship is one with boundaries like a monogamous one. there are multiple partners in the polycule, but they are not interested in having anybody new join said polycule.

an open polyamorous relationship tends to be more flexible -- it just means that IF someone in the polycule develops mutual feelings for a new person, it's fine for them to become part of said polycule if they want to! the relationship/person is open to newcomers.

some groups will need to negotiate this all together, others will just go "haha, you kids have fun." just depends on the individuals!

with open AND closed polyamorous relationships, the most important thing is making sure that there's respectful communication and that everyone is on the same page. but there's no one-size-fits-all way to do that.

i wish i could give you guys a prescriptive "You Must Do It This Way" guide, but that's.... basically the opposite of what polyamory is about, HAHA.

feelings for multiple people!

i was gonna tack this on to the previous section but decided it warranted its own lil bit.

a defining feature (....i'm told?) of monogamous relationships is that a monogamous person only has feelings for One individual at a time. they only want a relationship with one individual at a time. or, if they DO have feelings for multiple people simultaneously, they're still only comfortable dating one person at a time & being exclusive with that one person.

this is perfectly fine!

the poly experience is generally different from this. but once again..... polyamorous people all have different individual perspectives on this.

for me, i have never been able to draw hard boxes around romantic vs sexual vs platonic relationships, & i love many people at once. my personal polycule lacks many strict definitions beyond "these are my chosen people, i want to forge a life with them indefinitely, whatever shape that life takes"

some poly people feel explicit romantic or sexual attraction to multiple people at once, some poly people feel almost no romantic or sexual attraction at all. i'd say that MOST poly people feel different things for different partners, which is not a bad thing!

some poly people are even monogamous-leaning -- they have just chosen one romantic partner who is themselves part of a larger polycule. (so this monogamous-leaning person has at least one metamour!)

or alternatively, they might have one romantic partner AND a qpr, or other ways of defining relationships. (this is a factor in my own polycule!)

i made this its own point because if you're writing a straightforward triad, this is unlikely to come up in the story itself -- but it's worth thinking about how your characters develop/handle feelings outside of their partnerships.

like, is this sort of a soulmateship, 'these are the only ones for me' type deal? in which they won't fall in love with anyone else, and can be fairly certain of that?

that's pretty close to typical monogamous standards but you Can make it work. just be thoughtful with it

alternatively, can you see any of these characters falling in love Again after the happily-ever-after? and how would the triad approach it, if so? what would they all need to talk about beforehand, and what feelings would everybody have about the situation?

it's worth considering these questions even if the hypothetical will never feature in your actual canon, because knowing the answers to these questions will help you understand all of the individuals & their relationship(s) MUCH better.

i've been typing this for nearly two hours and there's a lot more i COULD say because... there's just a lot to say. i'll close out with some quick questions that you can ask yourself when developing the dyad dynamics within your triad

first, take a page and create a separate section for each individual dyad. then answer these questions for every pair:

how does each pair act when alone?

how do they act differently alone compared to when they're with their third partner?

are there any elements of this dyad (romantic, sexual, financial, domestic, etc) that these two people DON'T have with the third partner?

if so, what are they?

are there any boundaries or hard limits within this dyad that aren't shared with the third partner?

if so, what are they?

partner 3 goes out of town alone for a few weeks. what are the remaining two doing in their absence?

(doesn't have to be anything special, it's just to get a sense of how the two interact on a day-by-day basis without the third there)

what is something that each partner in the dyad admires about the other -- that they DON'T necessarily see in the third partner?

what problem do These Two Specifically need to solve in the story before their relationship will work?

how is that problem DIFFERENT from the problems being solved within the other two dyads?

doing this for ALL THREE dyads is VITAL imo. that way, you develop complex and nuanced and different relationships that all have unique dynamics.

those questions should be enough to get you started, i hope

then After you've charted the differences in relationships, you can start to jot down similarities in the overarching triad. what does one person admire in Both of their partners? what are activities that all three like to do together? what are boundaries or discussions that all three share?

but the main goal is to figure out how to Differentiate each relationship!

a polycule is only as strong as the individual relationships within it. if two people are struggling with their own relationship, adding a third person won't fix that.

(UNLESS the third person is the catalyst for those two to, like, Actually Communicate And Work Their Shit Out. i just mean that the old adage of "maybe if we just add a third-" works about as well to fix a miserable non-communicative marriage as, uh, "maybe if we have a baby-")

AND FINALLY.

if you're not sure whether your poly romance reads organically to poly people, you can hire a sensitivity reader with poly experience. if you can't afford that, you can read up on polyamorous resources like a glossary of terms & articles actually written by poly people. (and stories written by poly people!)

you can also just.... ask poly people questions, if they're open to it. i like talking about polyamory and my own relationships so you're welcome to send asks if u want, i just can't guarantee i'll answer bc my energy levels fluctuate a lot and i don't always have time.

polyamorous people are in an uphill battle for positive representation right now & so the LAST thing i want to see is authors giving up on their stories bc they're worried about getting things Wrong. well-meaning and positive stories that treat this kind of love as normal, healthy, & aspirational are So So So Needed. even if you guys end up with some funky-feeling details.

seriously, if you're monogamous then you probably don't have a full idea of Just How Nasty a lot of people can get about polyamory. i wish it DIDN'T mean so much for you guys to want to write nice stories about us, but it does mean a lot. and it means a lot that you want to do it WELL.

in conclusion. this is not a prescriptive guide, it's just a way to raise questions. and also, you all are doing FINE.