#girlcode

[justlivliving]

Girl Code

Honest to God, I just wanna talk about how important Girl Code is. Yeah, I get it, you like the boy, but come on. Your girls are way more important.

My best friend and I just stopped being friends. We were friends for eleven years and she decided to go after the guy I liked. I tried to be cool with it, but she rubbed it in my face any way she could. She constantly sent me snaps of him, made sure I saw that she was always texting him, and would talk about him constantly. Eventually, I dropped her.

They broke up three months later.

Never choose a boy over your best friend. Three months is a long time for a high school relationship. But it isn't worth a friendship that could last forever. Forever is way longer than three months.

Just wanted to write it for anyone who was feeling conflicted.

[organicbeing]

Girl Code: The Unwritten Rules We All Know (But Sometimes Forget)

Let’s be real for a second: girl code is basically the Constitution of friendships. It’s like a magical handbook we all mysteriously download into our brains somewhere between our first bra and that “What was I thinking?!” haircut in high school. Yet, somehow, some of us still need a refresher course. So, here it is, with a little humor and a lot of truth—why girl code matters and what happens…

[musicarenagh]

"Girl Code" by Edie Yvonne: A coming-of-age story told through music “Girl Code” by Edie Yvonne is the most powerful and refreshing wave that hit the indie pops music scene with a complete parade of rhythmic vigour. This song is a tribute to adolescent turmoil involving friendship ruptures and restorations under the theatrical dynamics of young people’s lives. https://open.spotify.com/track/79N2DTtaeGZcwedj8pnInb?si=85fd83a0345a4575 “Girl Code” is not static instrumentally as it has a strong innovative drive that mirrors its theme related to changing friendships. It artfully combines brashness and elegance, revealing something new every time you listen—the mark of good music production. Edie Yvonne is not only heard, but her voice echoes. The strength of this relationship is that it’s both vulnerable as well as empowering all at once as if Florence Welch siphoned her power through Billie Eilish-esque introspections—forming bonds over broken ones. It portrays much more than just listening; it evokes every string, and synth that pulls at us all because we have all been there. [caption id="attachment_52940" align="alignnone" width="480"] "Girl Code" by Edie Yvonne: A coming-of-age story told through music[/caption] The "Girl Code" is fueled by a certain electric charge, which can be interpreted as the thrilling moments when shared secrets either build friendships or destroy relationships. Like watching lightning trace fractures across the sky: a powerful homage to the sentimentality of modernity as terrifyingly beautiful, intensely connecting. “Girl Code” enchants as much as it understands – it does not only just sing, it directly addresses itself to the fickle teenager’s heart. Edie Yvonne uses melodic waves to identify emotional markers in "coming-of-age" stories, suggesting that "age" is less important than "becoming one's own person." Follow Edie Yvonne on Website, YouTube and Instagram.

[yayajo]

Yesterday I found out that Girlcode is on Hulu and I haven’t stopped watching since. I forgot how much I loved this show.

[samofmine]

yes dean tell us more about your brother's delicate features and luxurious hair

[hay-bails]

are we ever getting an explanation for this or

(edit: guys this was mostly rhetorical/a joke but i appreciate all the earnest explanations haha)

[sammygender]

the girl sam fic just being about religion is so real though... every day i mourn the fact that sam winchester wasn't a woman because his character and arc are so interwoven with themes historically associated with femininity. ruby is the evil demonic witch seductress found historically in literature, but i'd argue that sam doesn't fall into the male tropes as much as he falls into female ones. you're not supposed to be going "ohhh no the poor strong good Man has fallen under her spell" because sam spends the rest of the show being blamed for what happens. the way sam is treated is more like "the poor innocent maiden has fallen into temptation." he embodies that dichotomy of purity and temptation in a way that's much more traditionally feminine than masculine. just think of the salem witch trials and the way that witchcraft and the demonic have been so historically tied to femininity. i read christabel for class and i couldn't stop thinking about sam winchester. i've never watched supernatural btw.

anon can i marry u

[visenyaism]

i’m not a medievalist but the whole feudal gender thing in asoiaf is interesting because it really feels like the peak masculine ideal is being a lord which itself is gatekept by class and birth order within the upper class. so if you did not inherit your way into wielding systemic violence over others as a first son you as a second son have to compensate by being really really good at individual violence. but to only benefit from systemic violence without at all demonstrating skill in individual or systemic violence is a female trait. these people are insane

[gatlingart]

I did some more armored core sketches a while ago, so have that

[the-woker]

The whole Jason Todd is girl-coded debate thing admittedly just rubs me the wrong way.

I understand that there are people who consider gender as a concept and there are other people who consider gender to be something very real. Both are correct and very valid statements of expression, but someone who is genderless and has a heavy respect and fondness for the feminine and people with such experiences, I feel like what we are declaring 'girl-coded' should probably be a bit more analyzed and taken with more care.  

I have no ill-will to any of the people who post about this, they all seem like kind people, and everyone is entitled to their opinions and to posting them.  There is nothing wrong with projecting onto a character, identifying with their struggle and using that to cope with your trauma.  As someone who’s favorite character of all time is Jason Todd, and enjoys gender-weirdness,  and has been severely mistreated for being perceived as feminine before, I understand entirely. 

But there's a point when I can't help but feel uncomfortable with assigning being violent, a victim, “hysterical angry-like a girl”, expressing rage via screaming, and looking up to women in general as 'girl moments' and explicitly stating these as the reasons a male character is girl coded. And those have been the very specific points I have seen cited as what traits Jason has that make him "girl-coded."

I'm putting this all under a read more since this discussion is really not that deep, nor is it really relevant to the average Jason Todd tag surfer. It's just something I keep seeing talked about in the past few months.

Admittedly, just to begin with, the argument that what makes Jason ‘girl-coded’ is the fact that he is a victim in general, has strong connections with women, tends to like strong and muscular women, and has been vitriol in his screaming matches with other characters simply does not sit well with me as an explanation for what people are associating women with.  A female character can indeed do everything Jason did in a comic story, and I would enjoy it greatly, however staking these specific traits of his as the “feminine” ones is treading into a dangerous territory.

Especially since I’ve seen a few times now that people are claiming Jason and Batman’s fight in UTRH to be a Patriarchy metaphor and how Jason represents women’s struggles. The first problem I have with that claim, is very simply that Jason and Bruce’s fight is explicitly not about Bruce being a system that failed to protect Jason.

Nor is it about a pressure for Jason to return to conforming to Bruce and his rules.  Bruce wants him back with him, because Bruce loves Jason, but at no point does he attempt to force him to return to him, nor does he even force him to stop killing.  He certainly gets in the way and he prevents several of them, but when given the direct choice to either kill or force Jason to stop killing, he simply walks away and only intervenes after Jason attempts to kill Bruce himself. Calling this an analogy for women fighting against oppression by an organized system designed to exploit them, is not an apt metaphor, as likable and sympathetic as it is towards Jason, and I’d personally recommend avoiding it.

In general, on that topic.  The argument could be made for other male members of the Batfam (take Dick Grayson’s constant sexual harassment for being a ‘pretty boy’ for example.), but Jason is also simply just not a victim of the Patriarchy.

Unlike Stephanie Brown, Jason was accepted immediately by Bruce as Robin and as part of the family.  He was murdered by his mother for being an obstacle in her operation of stealing from starving people, and by a madman who killed him for being one of his nemeses.  His murder was upsetting but had nothing to do with him not presenting himself as society claimed he should, nor for not obeying said society's customs and arbitrary rules.

Under the Red Hood is a fascinating, engaging, philosophical, and extremely emotional piece of media and it’s a favorite for many people (including me) for a reason.  Highlighting Jason’s actions as being a ‘girl moment’ when he is intentionally trying to push past Bruce’s only boundary, however, is an uncomfortable idea to proclaim. Especially considering when and how Bruce tries to negotiate and reason with Jason. Jason quite literally holds their relationship, and his life, over Bruce in an attempt to get him to behave how he wants, claiming that he does so as an expression of femininity has horrible implications. Jason is entirely allowed to do what he wants (I enjoy it greatly. His violence is very sexy and honestly we should bring it back) but that is a gender neutral choice, and I wouldn’t say that this run nor his backstory have much in common with women’s struggles to label them as “clearly being such”.

Additionally, The narrative is also not portraying Jason as “hysterical”; this was his first proper return to comics after 20 years. The intention of the narrative is to challenge the morality of Batman and to open an in-universe line of discourse for a discussion that for years, has been, and still is relevant in the comic community.  

Jason’s death was notoriously the moment that Batman got closest to breaking his rule and so they brought Jason back to be the character who pushed him on why he maintained it.  They made Jason angry and violent to raise the stakes of what the Joker did to him, and to raise the question of if there was a crime so horrible that it was a moral failing to continue the pacifist approach to criminal reform.  Jason is being treated in a significantly kinder light than most of the characters we would traditionally see doing these actions.  We all agree Lock-up was a bad guy, we can agree that the League of Assassins is wrong, but we’re given a chance to take Jason at face value and are not immediately told how to feel despite the narrative showing us his violence in a raw and uncut way. Killing a bunch of drug dealers while rising in the ranks of the drug trade yourself is hardly a selfless act of good after all. 

Disclaimer 1:  I don’t think Jason is entirely wrong about many things.  But I simply do not believe Bruce “owes” him killing, and that it is wrong of Jason to demand this of him or anyone for that matter. Nobody owes you their innocence and you aren’t entitled to breaking anyone’s boundaries. 

Disclaimer 2:  I cannot stress enough how much I like Jason.  This post is not meant to make anyone feel bad, or make Jason seem like the “bad guy” of the fandom.  It’s simply a disservice to his character to write him off as nothing more than an angry victim and call it an expression of femininity, and a reminder to be a bit more careful when labeling and assigning traits. 

[rederick-ignis]

happy halloween 🎃

trick or treat! : D

and a happy halloween to you! ahh, let's see here-

erm?

i think there's been a mistake, let me check again. no it's right here. it says treat on the label. what did you say? yes, no, that's not a treat. uh-huh yeah. no yeah. i know-look it's a crustacean, that's- that's close enough right? yeah. no? okay okay, no need to get crabby about it. fine.

[omorikisser]

for once can i see posts about girlcock that involve me breeding her?

[maelfe]

moises is not feeling great after last night's endeavors...

🚨there's been a murder in the free spirits house🚨

... duty calls

seems like dani isnt doing so well either

[sammygender]

you know back when i was mainly a succession fan i used to find the constant ‘roman/kendall is literally a teenage girl’ grating. more so w ken than rome but still like nah those are vaguely misogynistic adult men. just because they have immense psychological problems and childhood trauma doesn’t make them ‘girlcoded’. it rubbed me so the wrong way. but NOW? now i say sam winchester is girlcoded 10 times a day. he is. i’m sorry like what do you want from me. he literally is. i don’t care if he’s a 29 year old allegedly straight man. he’s GIRLCODED

[visenyaism]

hey can you explain the weird gender thing on your Visenya wannabe post?

yeah the targaryen dragongender their family’s most swagful attribute. so dragons in asoiaf are canonically beyond being male or female, they change between the two or just do whatever they want and most of the targaryens who are really into being valyrian or identifying as dragons seem to be somewhat on that same page. very cool of them.

the visenyaism of it all is also connected to feudal society and inheritance laws that give literally everyone in that family some kind of complex. It’s very tied to being blocked from the throne for whatever reason- Blackfyre is for first sons, crown princes, and team captains, but Dark Sister (the girlsword) is for the family attack dog/violent enforcer of the dynasty/MVP with the most assists but who will not ever inherit or become the star. So there’s some firstborn girlsons in the weird gender mix like Visenya, Rhaena the lesbian, Rhaenyra, and Baela who can’t inherit because their gender does not align with their birthright, but then you also have the rough equivalent, second son boydaughters like Daemon, Aemond, Aemon Dragonknight, Bloodraven, etc, who can’t inherit because their birthright does not align with their gender. And that’s why everyone starts identifying as dragons because they need SOMETHING going for them it is kind of cope in a way

[queen-of-andor]

Stannis “girlcoded” is INSANE considering that he calls Gilly, an actual teenage girl who is a victim of incest and rape a “whore” and said “we are well rid of her”, wants to execute Myrcella, support Aegon II over Rhaenyra and calls her a “traitor”, and refuses to give WF to Sansa and calls her “lady Lannister” despite Sansa being a hostage and a child forced into marriage. And GRRM confirmed that Stannis will burn Shireen in the books. Stannis is literally one of the male characters who attract the most incels & fascists on Reddit, along Robert Baratheon and Aegon II.

But it’s easy to see why Tumblr would use it for male characters like Stannis, Jaime, Sandor, Theon, they’re trying to erase their misogynistic, bigoted, and abusive behaviors by using that term. He can’t be hurting women if he is girlcoded coded now can he ?

I find Stannis an interesting character not only because of his good traits but mostly because of his flaws. I don't agree with labeling him "girl coded". In fact I don't believe any male asoiaf character is "girl coded".

I find it irritating that while male adult characters are labeled "girl coded", female characters such as Asha, Brienne and Arya are denied their woman/girlhood because according to some fans they are not "feminine enough".