it’s beginning to look a lot like christmas just came on my shuffled playlist and now i can’t wait for winter yay!
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personal hardest decision poll what do u think guys input is needed
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me literally yesterday: i'm not a fan of this year's palette, i don't vibe with a lot of songs
me rn: so actually that was a lie
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Me waking up from my annual Drive North Until You See The Aurora dream: “ah yes, time to plant my garden.”
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Damn im very sick
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october and november make me feel pretty. i feel they are nice to me? 💜
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i think I might have a condition where I cannot watch Christmas rom coms around christmas ever :(
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listening to 'yet to come' and thinking about how crazy 2022 was so much happened in kpop it's kind of insane looking back
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theyre editing jesse to look like he sucks at fire making, therefore, jesse will win the firemaking 😐
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🎶✨when u get this u have to put 5 songs u actually listen to, publicly. then, send this ask to 10 of your favorite followers (non-negotiable, positivity is cool)🎶✨
(obligatory ask because i feel like u might just??? have?? actual??? good??? taste??? but just only maybe,, and only because you introduced me to jenevieve. also hi i hate u dont think that last sentence with the ten favourite followers applies to you)
willingly answering this because no, linh, i do not solely listen to doja cat. and i don’t feel like proving anything to you, but i got u
dumb fuck
1. out of time - the weeknd
2. hitmyline - john concepcion & visnit
3. inhibitions - thuy & p-lo
4. trust - thuy & rini
5. all my friends know - pinkpantheress
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but nothing ever hurt so bad
as the “no” that you said back
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i will Not Let this springtime energy lead to spending money my life is fine i don’t need to buy things to be happy amen
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Standard....curses? What are standard curses?
Oh, you know, the Christmas Crucio. 🤷
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i know fall is around the corner because my body decides its time to develop some type of cold out of thin air
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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".
Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"
And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".
Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.
At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.
So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!
Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!
Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!
Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.
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got an ipad so i had to draw my son in his many positions of rest
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