#how to delete a group on facebook

[born-to-lose]

Spotify shuffle knew what it was doing to me when I started listening to The Monkees and the first song it gave me was Star Collector 😭

[mokubetech]

If you're wondering how to leave a group on Facebook, look no further! This quick tutorial will show you the easy steps to remove yourself from any group on the platform. Say goodbye to unwanted notifications and clutter in your newsfeed!

[bestbasicblog]

Facebook: Connecting the World and Exploring Hidden Gems

In the vast landscape of the internet, Facebook stands as a giant, a virtual town square where people from all corners of the globe converge to share their thoughts, experiences, and connect with friends, family, and even strangers. Founded by Mark Zuckerberg in 2004, the platform has evolved from a college-centric social network to a global behemoth with over 2.8 billion monthly active users as of my last knowledge update in January 2022.

The Facebook Ecosystem

Facebook's primary goal is to connect people. Users create profiles, add friends, and share a myriad of content ranging from text updates and photos to videos and live broadcasts. The platform's user-friendly interface and constant innovation have made it a hub for not just personal connections but also for businesses, news outlets, and various interest groups.

As social media has become an integral part of our lives, so has the desire to understand and manipulate its features. One frequently asked question is, "How to see who shared your post on Facebook?" Well, Facebook offers limited visibility into this information. You can check the share count and, if the post is public, see some of the public shares. However, the privacy settings of the person who shared it may restrict your access to that information. Privacy is a cornerstone of Facebook, and it's important to respect the settings users choose.

Navigating the Social Web

Beyond the core platform, Facebook owns and operates several other popular services, including Instagram and WhatsApp. WhatsApp, a messaging app acquired by Facebook in 2014, is known for its end-to-end encryption and simplicity. Deleting a WhatsApp group is a straightforward process. Just open the group, tap on the group name at the top, go to "Group settings," and select "Delete group." Confirm your decision, and the group will vanish from your chat list.

While Facebook connects us in various ways, the internet is also a treasure trove of hidden gems waiting to be discovered. One such gem is "The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows," a web series and dictionary that invents new words for complex emotions. These words beautifully articulate feelings that often seem ineffable. It's a testament to the creativity that the digital age has unleashed, allowing us to explore emotions and experiences in unique ways.

Beyond the Ordinary: Crazy Gemini, Ball Tales, and Fr Martin's Daily Homilies & Reflections

In the expansive realm of Facebook, you'll encounter a multitude of pages and groups catering to diverse interests. For those fascinated by astrology, the page "Crazy Gemini" may catch your eye. Astrology enthusiasts gather here to share insights, discuss zodiac signs, and explore the nuances of their personalities.

Similarly, "Ball Tales: The Holy Treasure" is a page dedicated to the love of sports, particularly soccer. Fans congregate to discuss matches, players, and the euphoria that comes with being part of a sports community. It's a testament to how Facebook has become a virtual stadium where fans from around the world unite to celebrate their shared passion.

On a more spiritual note, "Fr Martin's Daily Homilies & Reflections" is a page that delivers daily doses of wisdom and reflection from a Catholic perspective. It's a space for spiritual seekers to find inspiration and connect with a community that shares their faith.

Facebook's Impact on Society

As much as Facebook has connected people globally and created virtual communities, it has also faced scrutiny for its impact on society. Concerns about privacy, the spread of misinformation, and the addictive nature of social media have led to debates about the platform's role in shaping our collective experience.

The platform has implemented various features and tools to address these concerns, including improved privacy settings, fact-checking mechanisms, and efforts to curb the spread of false information. However, the balance between fostering an open online space and safeguarding against abuse remains an ongoing challenge.

Conclusion

In conclusion, Facebook is not just a social networking site; it's a digital ecosystem that has reshaped how we connect, share, and engage with the world. It's a space where diverse interests converge, from astrology and sports to spirituality and obscure dictionaries. As we navigate this digital landscape, it's crucial to remember the impact of our online presence and the responsibility that comes with it. Facebook, with all its intricacies, continues to be a reflection of our evolving digital society.

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[itneverendshere]

Rafes screensaver being a pic of you and baby Autumn when she first comes home from the hospital, she’s just against your chest, and while you don’t think you look good, he looks at you like you’ve hung the moon

lockscreen shenanigans

Rafe never cared much for his phone’s lock screen before. It was usually something default, a picture of the beach, or a grainy photo Kelce sent in a group chat once. 

That changed the minute he started dating you.

The first time he changed it, you’d only been together a few weeks.

He had secretly taken a photo of you sitting cross-legged on his bed in one of his shirts, eating fries from the bag while humming along to the music playing on his speaker. The lighting was shit, and your hair was a mess, but you were laughing at something stupid he said, all sunshine in your eyes.

That’s my girl.

He didn’t say anything and silently made it his lock screen, his little secret.

After that, it was always you. Over the years, he swapped it out for different versions of you—sneaking a sleepy photo of you curled up in his chest, a blurry snap of you dancing in the kitchen, your profile in golden hour while you poured a drink behind the bar. You were always there, greeting him every time he picked up his phone.

Now, the first thing he saw when he picked up his phone was the love of his life and the tiny miracle they created together.

It was a photo he’d taken when you first brought Autumn home from the hospital. She was asleep on your chest, her cheeks pink and warm, her tiny hands curled into fists. You were sitting on the edge of the couch, hair pushed back lazily, bags under your eyes, an exhausted look on your pretty face.

You’d told him to delete it.

“Don’t even save that. I look like shit." You’d muttered, voice soft so you wouldn’t wake her.

He had smiled, kissing your temple. “You look like a fuckin’ angel.”

You had rolled your eyes, retorting something under your breath, but he’d kept the photo anyway, made it his lock screen. And he stared at it constantly.

He subtly started posting it. Rafe, who barely touched social media unless it was to like a meme or accidentally reply to his friend's story with a fire emoji, suddenly turned into a guy who posted. It made his friends roll their eyes, sure. Topper gave him shit.

“You turned into a Facebook mom, bro.”

Rafe didn’t care, this was the best thing that had ever happened to him.

You. Autumn. His little family. He couldn’t believe you picked him to build a life with. Now he had something worth showing off.

Sometimes at work, he'd unlock it to look at the two girls who had flipped his whole world upside down, and he’d grin like an idiot. Didn’t care who saw.

Every now and then, you’d catch him doing it—on the couch while Autumn napped on his chest, or at 3 a.m. during a bottle feed, phone propped up on the armrest beside her socks—and he’ shrug, a little sheepish, getting caught with his hand in the cookie jar.

“You’re obsessed,” You’d tease, flopping down beside him. “You’re worse than me.”

“Damn right I am.” He’d kiss the top of Autumn’s head and then yours. “I'm always gonna stare at you like you hung the moon.”

He said it so casually, full of sleepy, reverent affection, that it made your heart ache in your chest. Rafe wasn’t just in love—this new chapter had taken all the hard parts of him and melted them. He still had his days, sure—he was Rafe, after all—but when it came to you and Autumn, he was all heart.

Protective and tender in equal measure, he’d rock her for hours just to let you get a nap, talk to her like she understood him, whispering about how strong her mama was and how lucky they both were.

The man who never got tired of holding you close and saying, “Baby, you’re unreal.”

Some weeks, you didn’t feel beautiful. Your body was still healing, the dark circles on your eyes felt permanent. But Rafe made sure you never forgot how loved you were. He worshipped you with every glance, with the brush of his hand against your back, whispering “thank you” into your skin.

Even now—months in—he still looked at you like he couldn’t believe you were real. You’d be standing in the kitchen, bouncing Autumn on your hip while you stared into the fridge, saying something about not knowing what to make for dinner. Hair up in a bun, wearing one of his old tees and the softest pajama shorts you owned. And behind you, Rafe would just… stop.

Mid-step, mid-sentence, mid-breath sometimes. The curve of your shoulder, the rhythm of your swaying, and the way Autumn's tiny fist curled into the fabric near your collarbone were all he could think about.

That’s my whole damn life, he’d think. Right there. 

He’d be caught red-handed. You would look over your shoulder and blink at him, half-smiling, unsure.

“What?”

”Nothing,” he would say with a hoarse voice.

You’d scoff or shake your head, but the corners of your mouth would twitch. And that just made it worse—better, somehow. He was constantly in awe, even when you were pissed off at him—when you were snapping for leaving the wet laundry in the machine once or for forgetting to thaw the chicken—you were still beautiful to him.

Still, the woman who changed his life. Still the girl in the blurry photo on his bed, laughing at nothing while eating fries.And some nights, when everything was quiet and the world had finally gone still, he’d lie there with you asleep beside him, the baby monitor low, and he’d whisper to you.

“You saved me,” he’d breathe into your hair.

Rafe didn’t need the lock screen to remember what he had, but he liked the reminder. 

[kde-plasma-official]

Hey guys, quick PSA on Meta and them using your data for AI training:

Since April 7 this year they have a new privacy policy in place that, if you don't opt-out, will use your:

name

user name, profile picture, description

avatar

reels

photos and their descriptions

comments

from Instagram, your

name

user name, profile picture

avatar

posts

activity in public groups, channels, on public pages

comments

reviews and posts on Facebook marketplace

from Facebook, and your

profile picture, status

avatar

descriptions of groups / channels you created and joined

any conversations you held with Meta AI

any group chats you added Meta AI to

in WhatsApp to train their Meta AI models.

This change will start on May 27th, setting the deadline to the 26th to decline to their use of data.

How do you opt out? Meta provided two opt-out forms for that:

For Facebook, fill out this form,

For Instagram there is this one,

For WhatsApp, use this link and then pick the "Data Subject Rights Form" (translation may vary). Then pick the third option. Read through the links they gave you (or don't) and at the bottom select "I want to make an objection". Then fill out with your Email address and Phone number used for WhatsApp. Pick a real E-Mail address, they get back to you. You will have to explain yourself to them. If you are from the EU and need a template try the following:

I am exercising my rights under Article 21 of the General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR) to object to the processing of my personal data on the basis of legitimate interests.

I also object to the use of any of my data for AI training purposes. This includes, but is not limited to, the collection, storage, analysis, profiling, sharing, and any other form of processing of my personal data as stated in your privacy policy.

The processing under "legitimate interests" affects my fundamental rights to privacy and data protection as guaranteed under the Charter of Fundamental Rights of the European Union (Articles 7 and 8). Specifically, it impacts my right to control how and when my personal data is used, shared, and profiled without my explicit consent.

I request that you immediately cease all processing activities related to my personal data where "legitimate interests" is the basis. I request any of this data to be deleted. Furthermore, I request that you confirm in writing that these activities have been ceased and data has been deleted.

This is just thrown together in hopes that it sounds like I know my stuff. If you are not from the EU, try reading through it anyways, compare the articles stated in my template with something from your country. Usually there's always a loophole if you look hard enough.

For Facebook and Instagram you have to be logged in with an account to use these forms, but once you are logged in, you can enter any email you want to. If you have multiple accounts, click the link multiple times, one for each email address.

You just need to log in to one account, not all of them.

You don't need to provide a reason.

They should auto-accept your request and send you an Email with confirmation.

Edit: WhatsApp Link Edit edit: WhatsApp Link (again) and template I used

[cameronsbabydoll]

How would scc!reader’s phone wallpaper, phone case, Home Screen look like? Also what would she have n her phone, app wise? Like does she use social media or no

lock screen / wallpaper:

a candid photo of her kids laughing in the backyard—blurry and sun-drenched, but she loves it

it used to be a photo of her and rafe from their honeymoon, but after the second baby it switched to full mom-mode

sometimes it’s a pic her daughter took of her cuddling the baby while watching tv

apps she has:

pinterest (her most-used app by far—baby clothes inspo, meal planning, birthday party mood boards)

cozi or floret calendar app to organize the house schedule and meal plans

spotify playlists titled like “soft mornings,” “kitchen dancing w my daughter,” “crying but cute”

notes app FULL of to-do lists, shopping lists, random quotes, reminders like “refill stretch mark lotion” or “make cookies for school on friday”

amazon—dangerous levels of activity. tabs open for diapers, candles, and expensive toddler furniture

whole foods and trader joe’s apps (she checks them like people check the stock market)

no instagram on her home screen—she has it, but she deletes it often when she gets in her sad girly slumps

facebook (just for the mom groups and school updates)

tiktok (private account. only follows cottagecore girls, recipe moms, and hauls from target)

baby tracker app she never deleted even though the baby is almost four

weather app she checks every morning like an old lady

she has like 4 alarms for “school pickup,” “laundry switch,” “don’t forget to thaw the chicken,” and “rafe dentist appt”

and her widgets are just calendars, a little pink notepad, and a photo slideshow of her family.

she’s soft. domestic. offline most days.

her phone is less about looking cool and more about feeling safe, organized, and surrounded by love.

[ingravinoveritas]

Earlier this year, a new blog was started here on Tumblr with the aim and intention of harassing a group of fans in the GO fandom. I previously made a post addressing this, as I was the initial target of this blog (whose original handle was a dupe of my own Tumblr handle).

I had hoped not to have a reason to revisit this particular subject, but given recent disturbing comments made by both this blog and its followers, and a post written by @nightgoodomens describing the situation from their perspective, I feel compelled to make a post of my own, to talk about what I have experienced and continue to experience at the hands of these individuals.

By now, some of you may be familiar with the blog in question. In my prior post, I did not mention this blog's name publicly, and I have no intention of doing so at this time, either. Yet I think it's important to be clear about what this blog's specific intentions were, which were made evident by its original creator on Twitter at the end of May:

It was only a few days after writing this tweet that the author did exactly this, and created this main blog. I feel that this has somehow become obscured over time, as given the negative response that this blog's initial posts engendered, the original creator apparently retired from the blog and gave the reins to someone else, and the blog's focus soon pivoted to defending Georgia and Anna. Prior to this, however, the blog began publishing Anons attacking me, including one that seemed to be threatening to doxx me:

What particularly perplexed me was seeing a gradual distortion of my own words and writing here on Tumblr, as well as people buying into it so readily. I also noticed one particular blog that became friendly with this main blog--they've changed handles a number of times, but at the time they were known as michaelsheendaily (then michaelsheensource, then thesheenantbergs). For months prior, they talked specifically about how awful the things I/others were saying about Georgia and Anna, and then seemingly joined forces with this main blog.

…Yet one year ago this very month, that same person (michaelsheendaily/thesheenantbergs) felt similarly to many of us and had sent me an Ask wanting to know if I thought Anna was being abusive to Michael. This Ask was sent from their (at the time, now deleted) main blog, but they helpfully DMed me from michaelsheendaily to make sure I had seen their question:

I answered this question (as I try to do with every Ask/Anon I get) straightforwardly and honestly, and firmly said "No" in response, as well as how serious it is to accuse someone of abuse, and that it is not up to any of us to try and break up a relationship, as Michael has people he can turn to if he needs to do so. I have also previously defended Georgia on my blog (and provided rationales and examples for why my perspective has gradually shifted over time), but it seems that the people harassing me have conveniently chosen to ignore all of this/have never looked at my blog beyond a cursory glance.

As this main blog continued its posting, and despite having Anons turned off, I began to receive a number of hateful Asks, which culminated with another blog suddenly coming into being about a month after these initial incidents. This blog claimed to be Michael Sheen (using a handle of his from Facebook), and published this despicably homophobic and noticeably un-Michael-like post:

The aforementioned main blog immediately drew attention to this post, and claimed that they had "proof" of this being the real Michael:

It soon became apparent that this blog was a fake, and despite its prior insistence that it could possibly be him, the main blog backtracked quickly as more people pointed out how obviously this was not Michael. Yet even the notion that someone would think this was acceptable--to pretend to be Michael, to (poorly) attempt an approximation of his writing style, all for the sake of attacking one person, and despite the fact that we know Michael already has a Tumblr that he hasn’t posted on in years--is just absurd beyond words.

But clearly this ill-conceived post inspired others, as only a week after this post appeared (and subsequently disappeared, along with the blog itself), I received an Ask from yet another recently-created blog of someone claiming to know Michael personally, saying that he would "destroy" me:

Which brings me to the present day, and how these themes have presented themselves yet again, in an even more unpleasant fashion.

Over the last four months, this main blog and its followers have continued to obsessively read my blog (despite how very easy it would be to simply block me) and screenshotted my posts in order to add their own vile commentary. I have not wanted to draw attention to any of this, but one particular instance has now made me change my mind.

I've recently talked on my blog about my upcoming trip to London, where I will be seeing David in Macbeth. A few days ago, it was brought to my attention that the main blog screenshotted one of my posts--which was a reblog of a video of David with Jodie Whittaker--along with my tags talking about the way David was sitting. One of the blog's followers commented this in response, and subsequently received a reply from the OP:

The "daggers" commenter currently runs several blogs dedicated to worshiping/defending Georgia and Anna (at least one of which is run in tandem with the original creator of the main blog). Numerous accusations have been levied at me and others from these blogs, one of the most outrageous of which is homophobia...yet this is their response to me simply saying David might not be 100% straight, and which eerily echoes the tone of the post from "Michael" three months ago. And while there are a lot of things about the last few months that have rankled me, nothing does so more than the hypocrisy I have witnessed, such as this.

The thing is, though, that when I saw these comments, all I could honestly think of was how sad I felt.

Because here I am, just days away from going on my trip--a trip I have been so anxiously awaiting, that is my first non-work trip in a very, very long time--and now the thought of, "Could someone try to attack me?" has crossed my mind. Yet my sadness is less for myself and more for the person who thinks it is acceptable to wish or even encourage violence against another human being. My sadness is that this person feels so unsafe or discontent in their own life--a feeling I know all too well--that their chosen course of action is to make someone else feel unsafe. To assuage their own sense of powerlessness by going after someone they perceive as having power.

My sadness is at these people being so sure that the celebrities they are a fan of would agree with them, yet needing/wanting those people to act in a way that aligns with who they want Michael and David to be, rather than who they actually are. I know that the Michael and David I became a fan of are two of the kindest, most intelligent, warmest men you could imagine, and that there is no part of me that wants or needs them to scream at or dislike the same people I do for the sake of my own self-serving purposes.

To that end, I have also been distressed by the apparent frenzy that was recently generated in the form of a "rallying cry" against myself and others in this group of fans facing ongoing harassment. But what I've tended to see as a response to said frenzy is some variation of, "People are saying these terrible things. I haven't actually seen any of these posts/comments, but it must be terrible, so I'll block this person/people." I am no stranger to fandom chatter/gossip, but every time I hear something, my first impulse is always to find the receipts. To learn more information what is being claimed so that I can make up my own mind. And that is the very same ethos I have espoused on my blog for years, because I would much rather people think for themselves than "fall in line" because they are being told to do so/threatened with being "cancelled" if they don't.

So if you want to find out something about my opinions or takes, it is all here on my blog. Everything going back five years since I joined the GO fandom, tagged and catalogued. I have not privated anything or deleted anything, nor do I have multiple blogs or side blogs--just this one. And if after reading what I actually have to say you still want to block me, you are certainly welcome to do so. I would just much rather you block me because of the truth, not because of someone else's personal vendetta and agenda.

To say that dealing with all of this for months on end has been surreal and stressful is a profound understatement. Especially because I have never once engaged with this blog, never replied to any posts of theirs, nor sent them an Anon or made threats of any kind (despite receiving numerous threats myself). Nor have I replied to the multiple incendiary Asks and DMs I have repeatedly received from the blog's original creator.

Again, I have not wanted to draw any further attention to these people, but the staggering awfulness of the most recent comments finally made me feel that enough is enough. I truly shudder to think what the response would be if someone made a similarly threatening comment toward these individuals...yet it's somehow completely fine to say these things about me. To make me and others into the "villain" that you need us to be to justify saying these heinous things in the first place. And while these individuals and anyone else are free to dislike me and to express their dislike in a public forum to their heart's content, that freedom of expression ends where my right to not feel that my personal safety is in jeopardy begins. A line that should never have been crossed has been crossed, and we as a fandom and as human beings are much the worse off for it.

No one should ever have to feel this way. Not even these people. And by talking about all of this and bringing these incidents into the light, my hope is that no one else ever will.

[my-silly-poker]

insulin scam warning

Hey gamers,

for a long time on tumblr there's been a guy who really, really wants you to believe they need insulin, on many different blogs, with different paypals and different names. They make a new blog, put a few reblogs on it so it isn't obvious it's brand-new, and then start spamming asks to people for donations.

Here is their most recent blog, but their username will likely change by the time you see this. Kyra45 reports updates on them here

Here are examples of past iterations of this scam, which have been taken down

Donation scams on tumblr are extremely common and anyone who has a tumblr account will encounter them at some point. The insulin guy has been a long-running one for months now. Scambusting blogs like kyra45 do a lot of work to track and call out these scams when they surface.

Scam Spotting Tips

They send an ask often accompanied with a follow despite having never interacted with you before. Ask yourself: How did you find your blog? These interactions usually come out of nowhere when you have no original posts or interests they could've found you through, because they're just going down the lists of random blogs.

They reblog just enough posts to make you think that their blog is in-use when it is actually only a day or a few old. Enable timestamps and try find the blog's oldest post; if a blog seems old but still seems suspicious, be wary of post backdating

They often disable or delete comments on their donation post to hide comments that call them out. Open the notes and see if it says "some replies have been hidden, blocked or removed." Blocked/hidden comments sometimes still appear in reblogs of a post but not the original, so open a random reblog and see if telling comments appear there.

It isn't unusual for the story and the ask to either be exact copy-pastes of each other, or otherwise have very telling suspicious details, such as: using different names, having different goal amounts, contrasting story details, etc.

Like many of the above examples, they often have a completely random string of words as their blog name.

Reverse image searching can be a helpful giveaway if it works, but don't trust it - scammers often steal images from private Facebook groups/profiles so people don't find the source and think it's original

When you receive an ask from a blog like this, reporting them for spam or phishing and reporting the PayPal account for fraudulent activity does help get these accounts taken down.

[creatingblackcharacters]

Hello! Sending it here again:

I play an mmo game which recently had a big character model update, it's still not perfect but we're getting there! They're sharing behind the scenes work on curly hairstyles, for example, which just... weren't there for the longest time. Oh the beauty of scandinavian white-centering... (sarcasm)

anyway, I'm from eastern-central Europe, I play on eastern Europe servers. Seeing someone with a character that's not white is... pretty rare, honestly. So rare that when I do see someone using a character that's clearly meant to be a POC, they're very often roleplaying. Recently I saw a player whom I know for a fact is white, as I know them irl (we're not friends, don't even talk much but I know what they look like) and their character used to be white too before the big update.

So my question is, does that count as digital blackface, and what even is the consensus on digital blackface as a whole? I used to be in a facebook group about unlearning racism (used to because it got deleted after some admin drama, I think? If anyone knows a similar group, let me know please) and there, most Black members agreed that if someone is white, they shouldn't be using Black emojis for example (the topic of mmos never came up, I think). I don't remember the exact reasoning but I think it was the same explanation as actual blackface. But then there were some Black people saying it's going too far and we should be focusing on "actual issues" instead. I know that's to be expected, I'm trans and I know all too well that a community is not a monolith. But seeing the player reminded me that I don't actually know that much about it, and I've seen you educate people before. I hope it's okay that I'm asking you, I'd love to do some further research as well though (I love learning things, I just also don't yet trust myself to find actually good sources).

I hope this ask makes sense, english is not my first language and all. So if I wrote something wrong, please assume I meant well, as I still don't know how to word things properly in english sometimes.

Thank you for doing what you do, btw. I really appreciate having someone compile everything like you do here, it's one of my favorite creative blogs on here.

Okay so I sat on this one for a minute to make sure my answer wouldn't change.

1) there is no one consensus. White people don't agree on everything, neither do we 😅. This would just be my opinion.

2) I definitely don't think you should be using Black emojis if you're a white person, no. That's overt Blackfacing. DEFINITELY don't pretend to be Black if you aren't!!

3) for me, I think designing your characters as Black for online play can be okay in theory, as long as you're coming at it respectfully. Like, I'd have to trust that you actually wanted to learn how to play as someone that didn't look like you, that you actually cared about Black character features and presence in games as a whole. Especially on a game where you get to design the character, versus when you're forced to play as a Black person. It's hard to trust the intentions of white people online, especially when far more often than not the good intent is just... Not there 😅. So for me, if someone asks you why you designed your character, be ready to answer, answer truthfully and answer well! If you're playing as a Black character design because "big tough guy" or "big dommy mommy" yeah you're just digital Blackfacing amongst other racist issues. But if you actually have good intent, and are willing to learn, then you'll be able to stand on that when confronted.

And again- that's just my opinion! I would listen to other voices on it as well.

[bogleech]

as someone who still has to use facebook to keep in touch with select people and a few discussion groups I can't express how stupid and irritating it is that if a post you interacted with is deleted for any reason, all trace of it is removed from your history completely. You can't check your notifications and see the username to get back in touch with someone, nothing. It's so a website put together by people who don't understand anything at all about the normal internet or what functions people need, or at least don't care. It's somehow still the worse option than twitter from a technical standpoint.

[heathermooch]

I really wish it was talked about more how exhausting it is to constantly have your phone selling your data on things that are so personal. My phone is listening in on my therapy appointments and getting Reels on depression. Speaking about how I’m afraid my cat may have cancer and being fed Tiktok video algorithm videos of people in hospice, their life before & after diagnosis, confessing to a friend how you’re starting to get physical effects from being overweight and now finding a slew of workout recommendations & finspo. I don’t get to be human, because there is an all-seeing group of numbers who are trying to recreate my human experience for me. Interspersed with Wegovy ads, Temu trash, the AI Coca Cola slop. It makes me and millions of other people feel alone. A product to a company I have no idea I was a line item more. Worthy only with my eyes, tracking every millisecond I watch a storytime about the worst day of someone’s life. This is not how life is supposed to be like. But hey, at least if I get more apathetic, I can be sold for another Better Help ad, self-conscious to be sold for a HelloFresh subscription, or if I’m lucky enough to be shown 15 minutes into scrolling, content from a friend so I can have the algorithm push a sponsored VRBO video of a cool experience to have with friends. Self-censorship like unalive or G@za just to get our points across so the platform can trick some corporation into believing it's a safe platform to sell on.

I’ve been deleting social media apps from my phone when I don’t use it. I “ask” apps to disable the location, microphone & camera access, which should never be a suggestion. I click “only necessary” cookies when visiting sites even if I have to press that button every time a new page loads on their domain. I avoid Facebook almost altogether due to its predilection for AI engagement bait. I stopped using Twitter last year after the rage bait & bot problem became apparent. I was asked by someone much younger than me why Tumblr feels like the old internet, and I said without really thinking about it, there isn’t a financial incentive for people to be upset with each other. And you know what, as poignant as it was, it made me realize why I’ve spent most of my time on Tumblr lately. Because I feel less like a product.

So yes, maybe it is harder to get a hold of me. Maybe I don’t post on social media like I used to. But I’m trying to find even the smallest modicum of control over and peace over a piece of technology I need for my livelihood. And I can’t believe, over 20 years after it’s mass public introduction, we still have lawmakers who feign ignorance on how the internet works to not enact true change in the US. All while the suicide rate for children rises, having thousands of professionals point to social media algorithms, just to be struck down by one billionaire cuck making a well-placed & timed donation. Say I'm preaching to the choir, talking to my echo chamber, but I'm not the one who coded the echo chamber.

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

AITA for accidentally outing my fiance?

I (27F) am engaged to a 24M guy. He is trans, but he doesn't identify as trans anymore - he's post-everything, passes 100%, lives stealth/as a cis man, and no one who didn't know him pre-transition knows him as anything but a cis man. I know keeping that up is very important to him, we've had a lot of conversations about how happy he is just being seen as cis and being able to pass. I know getting outed and 'found out' is also a big worry of his, for example for our upcoming wedding he's rushing around trying to make it clear to his family that they shouldn't mention him being trans or refer to him as she/her at our wedding because he has so many friends coming who don't know he's trans. It's not that he doesn't trust them or he's ashamed of being trans or anything, he's very supportive of his trans friends, but he just doesn't publicly live as trans.

We're in a big Discord server of friends that have been quite close for about a year now, enough that we've met multiple of them in person and two of them are going to be in his wedding party as sort of 'best man' equivalents (we're not really sticking to bridesmaid best man stuff just our mixed gender friends). He has kept his Facebook very private for as long as I've known him, the only people on there are IRL friends and family because he has in the past posted trans stuff on there, like transition updates, it still has old pictures of him pre-T or in early transition, etc. I knew he didn't want this found. He also hadn't told any of this group aside from the people he was especially close with and had invited to the wedding his surname and location in case they looked him up and found something.

People in the server were sharing their Facebook profiles and I shared mine so people could add me. My fiance messaged me right after pointing out that me sharing mine would dox him as I had him in my relationship status and friends list, but I unfortunately didn't see this message for a while as I was distracted and doing other things. By the time I saw, everyone in the group had already clicked and gone through my profile and found his.

He tried to go through and speed-delete everything he could find that was public that mentioned him being trans or showed him pre-transition, any comments from family referring to it, etc but pictures that were set to friends only were still popping up in previews on the side and some of his family have public profiles that show cover images with him pre-T and things like that.

Our friends were making jokes about finally knowing his surname, going through his whole account down to the time it was first made back in 2018, commenting on old statuses of his, so they definitely saw his profile and went through all of it. He was panicking because he had no way of knowing if they'd seen that he's trans or not and got super upset and freaked out about the possibility, and he couldn't ask without outing himself or making them suspicious.

I apologized and deleted the link but obviously by then it was too late.

I do think it's not a huge deal as much as he thinks because I know our friends would be supportive and wouldn't think of him differently, but I know it was still important to him. I'm not sure they did see because some of our friends are the type to have just blurted out "You're trans?!" in the server without thinking about it (not because they're malicious or judging it, but some of them aren't as online and don't really know how to talk about it sensitively if that makes sense) and they didn't say anything. However he thinks they did because they were talking about statuses older than the ones he managed to get to deleting in time.

Like I said i did apologize but I feel like he's still upset with me for not thinking before sending my profile. On top of that I have kind of a habit of doing things impulsively and without thinking (I have bpd and bipolar) and not always taking into account how it will affect him or what consequences it will have,which I've been working on for years but I worry this is just adding to that which I know already wears on him.

What are these acronyms?

[beardedmrbean]

A Mount Sinai doctor who allegedly denied Hamas atrocities and hailed the terror group as “noble resistance and freedom fighters” has been fired from her teaching gig there, The Post has learned.

Dr. Lila Abassi, an assistant professor of medicine at the Upper East Side hospital, was canned earlier this month after a probe into a series of disturbing online posts, a hospital spokesperson confirmed this week.

In a series of unhinged screeds, Abassi, 46, allegedly wrote “Long Live Hamas & Hezbollah,” labeled the Israeli army a “plague,” accused Israel of “slaughtering babies,” and rejected reports of rape during the Oct. 7, 2023 attack that left 1,200 Israelis dead and thousands injured. 

“Please show me actual rape video,” Abassi wrote in a Facebook doctors group, using the pseudonym “Kluver Bucy,” the name for a rare brain disorder that affects memory and behavior and may cause eating disorders, hypersexuality, seizures and dementia.

And she asserted that Israel was responsible for “massacr[ing] more people on 10/7 than [were] killed by Hamas.”

The pro-Hamas doctor was fired after weeks of pressure from City Councilwoman Inna Vernikov (R-Brooklyn), who pushed for further action after learning that the hateful doc initially only received a slap on the wrist by deleting her social media account. 

Vernikov, who is Jewish, told The Post that she stressed to the hospital that Abassi deleting her account didn’t lessen her terrorist support or make Jewish patients feel more safe in her care.

The hospital initiated a probe that ultimately resulted in her dismissal, according to a Mt. Sinai spokeswoman.

“Our most basic expectation of doctors is that they will perform their duties in an unbiased manner — especially a doctor serving a city as ethnically and religiously diverse as ours,” Vernikov told The Post.

“How scary is the thought that this woman was entrusted with the lives of Jewish patients while expressing blatant support for the same terrorists that seek to eliminate the Jewish people and destroy America?”

Her flurry of online hate is well-known within physicians’ groups on social media.

“She’s known as one of the more outspoken and egregiously antisemitic physicians in the community,” a fellow Mount Sinai doc told The Post.

In a 2016 “Doctors for Afghanistan” Facebook post, Abassi gushed about the “lack of a filter” at her job at the American Council on Science and Health, which she said she can “appreciate personally.”

“Because I don’t have a filter either,” she added.

Hateful posts erode trust — especially at a hospital.

“No longer will any Jewish patient feel confident that they will receive safe care from that individual, and by extension, at the facility that employs them,” said the founders of the watchdog Physicians Against Antisemitism, which exposed the posts online.

Abassi, who graduated in 2011 from St. George’s University School of Medicine before starting a residency at SUNY Downstate, did not return several requests for comment.

[cleolinda]

Weekend links: April 6, 2025

My posts

I'm STILL working on the fourth video writeups for our Silent Hill 2 project, and I am a bit frustrated that life is getting in the way. 

(OH AND ALSO I HAVE A CAVITY AND FRAUDULENT BANK CHARGES)

Anyway (ANYWAY?!) Ian's fourth stream is up. HE HAS SEEN WHAT I RECORDED AND ANSWERS MY QUESTIONS I SWEAR IT'S REAL. 

Reblogs of interest

If you'd like to help the survivors of the Myanmar and Thailand earthquake, World Central Kitchen and MSF/Doctors Without Borders are on the ground.

Val Kilmer passed away earlier this week.

"babe are you ok you reblogged 'it's coming back but we'll see it through' again"

The Buffalo Nations Grasslands Alliance is raising money to save black-footed ferrets on tribal grounds, after the current administration froze conservation funds.

RIP Stumpy the cherry tree, who will live on through his cuttings in D.C.

James Baldwin: "Love will simply have no choice but to go into battle with space and time and, furthermore, to win." 

"You lead a very interesting life"

Don't take the easy way out with AI: "Imagine what you can do if you learn to bullshit like I can bullshit"

The Sad Bastard Cookbook, a free e-book for your low spoons

"Put baby in pelican mouth for Instagram photo. Facebook photo of baby in pelican mouth for many likes"

How Many Cigarettes are in any given movie?

In defense of Mr. Darcy's proposal

Going snail mode

A hungry axolotl: "Fuckibg superb you funky little kirby"

Grip, snacking at my chamber door

"More actual things that happen in the 1897 Dracula novel without context"

A recommendation for A Dictionary of Color Combinations

Like I knew Ariana Grande had been up to some shit but I wasn't ready for this

Love a perfume review that says "Nothing wrong with a bit of fear"

"It’s a misconception that the mimics are hunting humans when they trail along at the back of hiking groups"

"But hey, there’s nothing wrong with having a completely absurd contingency plan. In case of time loops."

Video

Wet Beast Wednesday: Pitiful cranky baby otter sounds

Star Wars was not worthy of Amandla Stenberg and her violin (bring back The Acolyte if you want to prove me wrong)

Yes, Rick Astley has more songs

Hybrid Calisthenics: "Being on the right path often FEELS better and more natural - even if it’s more work."

Is this cat a goalie, technically?

"Sexy Nation Army," a mashup (only technically "video")

The sacred texts

"for april fools we’re deleting this entire site sayonara you weeaboo shits"

"when will mcr return from the war"

Personal tags of the week

1) Art, which had some real bangers this week, including Remedios Varo, Mexican Gothic, Diane & Leo Dillon, a genuine Hokusai print found at an antique market, a wee Eohippus, something that doesn't listen, AND MORE;

2) Honestly birds had some good ones as well;

3) One orange braincell had two good ones, including a painting of a cat about town;

4) and U.S. politics, since there were some good things:

First, Senator Cory Booker gave a marathon speech for more than 25 hours, reading from "multiple three-ring binders, including articles from bipartisan sources and letters from his constituents, in what he called 'terrified people' with 'heartbreaking' stories" in protest of the current administration, and breaking Strom Thurmond's filibuster record (which "itself was a last ditch attempt to block the Civil Rights Act"). And it was not just a filibuster; it was representation.

Meanwhile, April 5 had “Hands Off” demonstrations across all 50 states, "targeting threats to democracy, bodily autonomy, and climate justice." Here's how the St. Paul, MN, protest went (direct link for the tags).

[writingquestionsanswered]

how do you find people to crit. your work?

Finding People to Critique Your Work

If you want to get feedback on your writing, it's super helpful to get involved in some different writing communities:

-- follow other writers on social media and engage with them -- follow writing-related hashtags and engage with relevant posts -- find online writing forums that you can join -- find writing groups on Facebook that you can join -- participate in online or local writing workshops

Sit back and get a feel for the community, then start to engage in conversations. See who you connect with. Sometimes you can find feedback partners that way. You may also see others who are looking for critique partners or a feedback exchange. Or, once you have some followers and people are a bit familiar with you and what you write, you can put out a call for a critique partner or feedback exchange.

It may take a little bit of time, but once you get rooted in some communities, you'll usually find good options for critique/feedback partners. :)

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[starshaped-bulletwound]

The Power of Overstimulation: Sensory Overload as a Tool to Ware Us Down.

I have been off of instagram and Snapchat for upwards of about a month, and I’m forming many thoughts, not all cohesive or concise, on this idea that overstimulation via social media could be a tool to ware down movements.

Let’s look back on the early days of YouTube. When beheadings from other countries or cursed videos were posted, they almost instantly went viral because of their shock value. The same video would last us several years of referencing, quoting, and conversation. Even to this day we make references to some of those videos every now and then.

Fast forward to the further development of apps like instagram, vine (RIP), the growing popularity of tumblr, Pinterest, Snapchat, and more. Seemingly our interest seemed very focused on long form content, watching 40 minute-2 hour long YouTube videos. But one day, the app Musical.ly was bought out and became what we now know as TikTok. We had a sudden uprising in short form content, similar to vine, but with an even more specialized and sensitive algorithm.

While most social media felt like a cigarette, with us having to go out of our way to find the content we want, TikTok was like a fat rip of a vape. Constant dopamine at your fingertips, anywhere and anytime and in any flavor you wanted.

There was no denying that social media was bad for us before this, but suddenly we got TikTok and it actually kind of started to feel like I was in one of those boomer memes about how kids are glued to their phones.

Then instagram got reels, YouTube got shorts, and Facebook also hopped on the train. It was a short form content apocalypse (this is meant to be hyperbole but you get the idea).

As someone who has been staunchly addicted to their phone and specifically to TikTok and reels for years now, I finally elected to make the decision to take a total break from social media, and using Facebook (which I usually find boring anyways aside from marketplace) and Tumblr, a platform that provides less overstimulation compared to the aforementioned apps, after having deleted my TikTok account altogether almost a year ago.

I have specifically gotten to choose when I read the news or receive news, I have been able to sit with my own boredom, and have truly and honestly become more comfortable being out of the know. Personally I have seen massive improvements in my mental health and also feel more intentional about staying updated on international and national issues most important to me at the moment.

I want to be clear that I don’t want this to come off as me trying to avert my eyes from the crises happening. But it is so that I can see the latest news with a clear head, and have the attention span and energy to go do something about it without feeling burnt out and hopeless.

Furthermore, being off of social media has actually given me more time and energy to engage with long form content as a whole, whether that is movies, TV episodes, or just books and YouTube videos. It’s not all returning at one time, but it is coming back slowly but surely. I have been spending time doing my hobbies, and sitting outside, and doing all the things our parents said would make us less depressed and while it doesn’t cure my every concern, it definitely helps.

But why the hell am I rambling about all of this?

I wonder how much more effective we could be if we could break our bonds with social media? Specifically those that have fallen to short form content brainrot.

What if we utilized the time we’d normally spend on social media and go volunteer for a local organization? What if we took that time and read more theory? What if we took that time and started a community based group like a reading club or a crafting circle?

I didn’t realize how much time I wasted on social media til I got off and realized how much I open my phone to check it, how often I began just not knowing what to do because I’d normally go on instagram to look at reels, how frequently I’d reach for my phone and go “oh yeah, I’m not on there anymore”. There is so much time in a day that we could create meaning within our community to keep it going, and still have energy left to stay updated on important issues like Palestine or U.S. politics, and it is stolen from our fingertips and from our heads daily because we doomscroll and call that “staying updated”.

I don’t think it’s a stretch of the mind to say that social media, run by tech oligarchs and billionaires, seeks to overstimulate us as a method of sedation. But I wonder how far we can take that? If phones really are an ultimate evil? If social media is an ultimate evil? If the damage is irreparable or if we could possibly heal our relationship with the tech world in some meaningful way?