#i cannot stand that kind of person

[noys-boise]

i think the most annoying part of amatonormativity is that not only do you NEED to feel love, and not only is there an order your relationships must follow (romantic/sexual partnership above all, then family, then friends) but the fact that other people HAVE to be your top priority. like even if you feel all kinds of attraction, if you dare put anything else above your relationships they consider you evil. god forbid you enjoy your hobbies more than being around your friends even though how much you care about something is completely outside of your control. it's the worst.

[emilykaldwen]

is pen gonna pay for her fucking crimes? Nope. She's just gonna get away with all her slander on other women and POC because she thinks she's better than everyone. No, she gets rewarded for being a horrible fucking person. Uhg.

Anyway I'm so glad I get some more content to fast forward through. Also? why is this only a half season?

[bomberqueen17]

On the way home from work I was thinking about Rochr and Iorveth in your fic and remembered a question I had for you: there is this scene in which Roche gives an overtired and insomniac Iorveth a blowjob in a secluded room, there are knives involved, I think Breniriel is guarding the door? Anyway, Iorveth finally falls asleep and it is implied that Iorveth has been adapting poorly to feeling save and thus somehow feelt safe enough with Roche to fall asleep but not his friends /family?? I don't think they were even talking at this point in your fic, what did I miss?

Have a nice evening /day!

Well, so like, that's the premise of the fic. I'm not saying this to be an ass, this is a genuine response, because it is sort of an honor to have someone thinking about your work beyond even the time it takes to read it, but: That is the premise of the fic.

And either it works for you, or it doesn't. That's just... how fiction works. Do i think that in real life two traumatized people would actually hit it off just like that? Do I think it would work? Do I think it would be healthy? Do I think it would lead to long-term happiness for either or both of them?

I won't answer that, I will just leave that to sit for a moment. My answer is immaterial anyway, because the author's intent is only marginally relevant in some circumstances.

This is fantasy, critically, more broadly than fiction (is it a broader category? I think so). Like... one of them is an elf, and has a shapeshifting dragon as his leige and protector. Some other fantasy elements are even less realistic, but the idea is that they're plausible, for the purposes of fiction.

So this is kind of how fiction works, and fantasy in general. Do you accept the premise of this story? Do you find it plausible, for the purposes of this fictional exercise, that, to bring it specifically back to this story, two characters who have long been enemies, would find something in common like this? Two people who have been on opposite sides but were in the same conflict, who went through many of the same things, who, crucially, commanded others during this awful cataclysm of violence, who had to warp their own moral centers not only to survive but also to potentially damn others by their tragic, inevitable actions. Who have in the past bitterly fought, physically injured one another, murdered one another's comrades, and worse... but in this new peacetime, find, strangely, unexpectedly, compellingly (precedentedly, in reality!) that their former foe is the only one who truly understands what they've been through. And they can trust this former foe the way they can't trust others, because this foe gets it, because this foe knows what's at stake, fully understands what happened, has the same sense of both the fragility of society and the preciousness of its little contracts. Iorveth knows Roche would stab him in the face, not the back, and that is a kind of trust. The whole underpinning of this ship is that in the video game there's a scene where one can best the other, and in each decision tree the loser says unhinged shit about how if they have to die they're perversely glad that at least it was the other who is doing it. Because that other understands what it's worth, and is a worthy foe.

That's it, that's the ship manifesto, LOL.

So-- that's the exercise of the story, trying to draw the reader along to find this as plausible-- I did not say realistic! Plausible-- as possible. The art lies in underpinning it with realistic detail here and there-- including that after many wars in real life history, the veterans of the conflict have found more in common with their opposing veterans than with the civilians of the side they fought for-- and so on and so forth. To make it vivid, to make it relatable, to make the fantasy compelling.

And if the premise doesn't work, then the story doesn't work. That's fine, not all art is for everyone. But that's how it is. Either you accept the premise, and it works, or you don't, and you go find something else that works better for you. This is no judgement on anybody, you or me or anyone, that's just how fantasy works. A reader brings as much to it as the author, and takes as much away, and while there's an element of skill on the part of the author, a large part of it is just going to be the reader's response. Things will or won't work for you and there's nothing wrong with that, it's just another of the ways fantasy works.

(I don't know if you've missed anything, I haven't reread that scene in quite some time because I'm still working on sequels and that takes up a lot of my energy and time; same reason I rarely respond to comments, I just don't have time to both do that and make new works. I do think the blowjob with knives is a separate scene from the passing out with knives but I don't recall exactly either. It's kind of a long story. If you think you missed something, try rereading it? But if that doesn't compel you, then it's really no skin off my nose if you don't! It's fine! I'm not offended, I just don't know how else to answer that question. I don't remember the scene that well. I wrote it like a year ago or more. But I'm well aware the premise of it doesn't work for everyone, which is why there are so many people writing so many different stories.)

LOL I have more to say on this topic because I got a faintly ridiculous comment on a story recently on kind of a loosely related concept, but this is getting long and I should address it separately. Suffice to say, you got a long reply here because I have been spending some time thinking about fiction, what it is and isn't, and how it works.

[dreamwinged]

to be so honest im starting to think i really need to see a professional for my social anxiety

[brain-rot-central]

I've had the idea of Tavaria and AA having twins for months now, but I'm kind of liking the idea of them having a girl first and then later on having a son.

Hmm. 🤔

[afniel]

Kinda getting exhausted of seeing funny posts ripping on the US for having nasty processed food. Like yeah girl go off, you caught us having a very high cost of living and a very low standard of living. Does that make you feel superior? Do you feel clever having a giggle at an entire country of people at the mercy of a few shitty billionaire corporations who just want to sell the cheapest possible corn-based cardboard to a captive audience who on the whole can barely afford to even put that much on the table? Is that what gets you off? 'Cause you sound like an asshole and maybe the humorous-to-you assumption that we just prefer poor quality food for some reason is kind of a dick move, jussayin'.

Also sorry not sorry but there's nothing inherently bad about USAmerican food as a general concept. A cheeseburger or a pizza with a variety of toppings, made with varied and decent quality fresh ingredients, is fucking delicious and actually a complete and reasonably balanced meal, die hangry about it ✌️

[icannotgetoverbirds]

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Now that I have your attention:

hey. with all the shit going around I don't wanna see any trans infighting, okay? we have a chance to stick up for each other together right now. I saw a post talking about how the people discussing transandrophobia are (partially) behind the transfem hate campaigns with absolutely nothing to back it, most likely (and I'm just hazarding a guess here) because of the perception that people talking about transandrophobia don't care about transmisogyny.

While I, personally, don't feel qualified to speak at length on transandrophobia quite yet, I think I am qualified to say that yeah, this shit happens. Ultimately what you call it is more semantics than anything, but trans men face unique oppression for being both trans and men, on top of what we face for being afab. it's all sexism in the end regardless.

With that said? I am here for the trans women being targeted by smear campaigns, mass reporting, and whatever the hell the ceo is trying to pull. Seriously, what is up with that guy?

This blog is a safe space for transfems, transmascs, and transneutral folks; any discussions of transandrophobia are never to speak over or take higher importance than discussions of transmisogyny, or vice versa, and neither are to take priority over discussions on exorsexism, or vice versa.

Right now it's important that we trust each other to be speaking in good faith unless proven otherwise, and that we don't dehumanize anybody, even if somehow some vile accusation turns out to be true.

[femmesweetheart]

Being into jfashion now doesn’t feel the same was it did back in the 2010s ;-; there was a magic to it almost

[cannibalmutual]

watch out world, i’m moving to where dreams are made of (wisconsin)

[monstermp3]

☀️

[lesbiansanemi]

*through gritted teeth* ppl can ship whatever they want and it’s fine it doesn’t affect you ppl can ship whatever they want and it’s fine it doesn’t affect you ppl can ship whatever they want and it’s fine it doesn’t affect you people can—

[jeanmoreaux]

Do I think the wesper scenes were cute? Yes. The actors are ridiculously so authentic in their roles

But did I also think the pacing, writing, directing and character relationships assassination build up was off? Absolutely.

Maybe it’s cz I’m somewhere on the ace spectrum…but I just feel Wylan would so not do one night stands/be reckless like that.

and especially knowing his background. Otherwise a very young boy who’s been isolated and left out his entire life, who just fled his murderous father and is on the run trying to maintain a cover—-nah fam

i get what you mean. sure they're cute, i agree. and their actors are doing their best. but their relationship and dynamic is so devoid of meaning compared to their slowburn book version. and yeah, the off-screen wesper hookup is such a curveball. it does kind of seem like an un-wylan thing to do, especially because i CANNOT even imagine a reasonable scenario in which wylan and jesper would have crossed paths in (presumably) the barrel that could have led to them hooking up. how did that random one night stand even come to be????? i don't assume wylan was doing rounds in the pubs and clubs, approaching handsome young strangers. he was probably keeping a low profile, staying out of people's way to avoid any trouble and attention, since, you know, his dad had JUST tried and failed to have him MURDERED..... i can't imagine finding someone to smooch was high on his list of priorities upon arriving in the barrel. i think he was more busy trying to survive on the streets. and we really need to remember, like you mentioned, that he grew up isolated and secluded to a degree that people barely even know he exists. i think it's fair too assume he isn't well practiced when it comes to social interactions. so diving headfirst into a sexual encounter with someone—no matter your sexuality—seems a little extreme when you're just starting to connect to people your age for the first time in your life. it's really not something that makes a lot of sense when you look at it too closely.

[hotmess-exe]

a few of the jokes i heard at this small stand-up joint the other night were unfunny in that confused, ""edgy"" way when people try to jump on the bandwagon of [x subject] joke but have no actual personal relation to or opinion of the subject.

so basically they need me.

[the-headless-horsedude]

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[soubiapologist]

i don't expect any of you to understand the reference but alice cooper. from riverdale. is a little like if a loveless character was really really really fucking funny

[dredshirtroberts]

never doubt the power of the OBX Gender Euphoria Hoodie of Swagness: it doesn't eliminate the sensory issues i've got from the tape on the electrodes but it sure does make me feel less like i want to tear every inch of skin off 10/10 can recommend.