#im not arguing with anonymous people in my inbox

[sacharowan]

I'm not arguing with people today I do not care enough

[saveahorserideaneddie]

Okay dude, not cool. I don't appreciate being called a problem when I'm trying my best to make this work for everybody. But my point is that some people will always complain. If you are happy with the tagging, I guarantee there will be somebody else who is pissed at the same tags. And why? Because it's a grey area, especially in those fics where the love interest shifts from Tommy to Eddie.

Who is to tell at which point you should tag which ship? In your scenario it's pretty obvious I won't argue that. But that isn't always the case. So you as writer got to make a decision. Tag it Buddie and the BT stans will flip. Tag it Bucktommy and the Buddie stans get mad. There's no winning. Tag both? That might work if it's a clear 50-50 between the pairings.

And that's not even taking my intentions as the writer into consideration. I have a clear vision in my head while writing, but to get there we might need some Bucktommy. Is it enough to warrant it's own tag? It's a grey area! Hence the exhaustion.

It isn’t a grey area, anon… it quite literally is tagging the fics as they are. If BT is central to the story then tag it as such— if people don’t wanna read BT then they don’t have to read it if it’s tagged. It’s not cool to mistag fics when people already have a plethora of tags filtered out and shouldn’t still be getting shit showing up.

you just agreed that in my scenario that it was obvious- so why are you still whining in my inbox? sending me anonymous messages trying to tell me what is and isn’t “exhausting” as a fic writer when i literally am one— im literally currently writing a buddie fic rn that’s centered around marisol keeping them apart… and yknow what? its gonna be tagged as an eddiesol fic bc they are together for like half the story! and yknow what else? its gonna be tagged clearly that eddiesol isn’t endgame! so that way, if people don’t wanna read it bc they either wanna read eddiesol or bc they wanna read buddie then they can filter out the tags respectively or they can scroll past it! but what im not going to do is tag it as “minor eddiesol” and then spend over half the fic w them together because that’s not accurate tagging.

If a fic is tagged “bt”, then as a buddie stan im not gonna read it— most buddie stans ive seen getting upset about fics in this situation are mad bc of the absence of a bt tag when there should be one. That’s the crux of this issue. No one is upset about the bt tag being there in a buddie fic if bt is a central part of the story (like i literally said in my response to your previous message), we’re upset about the absence of tags/or using tags that don’t accurately describe the fic at hand.

i have never seen a “grey area” of people getting upset about something being tagged when it’s correct— everyone i’ve seen are upset over the fact that there are fics tagged as buddie, and not bt when they are clearly bt fics and vice versa.

you say that if you’re writing a buddie fic and it needs bt to get there does it warrant a tag? yes it does bc that ship is part of the story! and unless it actually plays a minor role, then don’t tag it as “minor.”

This “grey area” you’re talking about doesn’t exist in the way you are trying to paint it out. People don’t wanna click on a fic that has content that isn’t tagged, that’s not fair to the reader.

as far as my response being “not cool” for pointing something out the way i see it… you opened yourself up to be responded to the moment you sent me an anonymous message trying to make excuses for not tagging fics correctly.

please block me if you’re going to keep pushing this argument; i am not going to keep responding to you.

and if you need further proof of people disagreeing with your argument, might i suggest looking at these responses to my posts on the matter: people on both sides of the “ship war” agreeing with my point (names and pfp’s have been redacted for privacy reasons)

[somebodytoundress]

as a lesbian i’m literally never writing garciasantos again. yall sit on twt & fill the tags w complaints about other ships & imply the people who enjoy them are terrible people then get mad when those same multi shippers don’t write that ship. & ive literally contributed almost 20k words in fics to the tag. never again. taking my “heteronormative” ass away from you assholes. also, take your own advice? stop interacting w people being horrible in the fandom & then being upset people want nothing to do w that subjection of the fandom? https://x.com/smbdytoundrss/status/1918355167843635642?s=46

i actually don't really interact or argue with people who ship other stuff, i reply to my friend's post about it and that's kind of it? so i'm not sure where this anger is coming from or why it is directed at me personally. also, tagging background pairings in additional tags is ao3 etiquette and has been for decades, so im not unfair in pointing that out because it does clog the tag and this isn't the only tag that happens to (even with rhaenicent im subjected to the occasional alicole/daemyra fic in the tag).

i don't think people who ship other stuff are evil people, i think the way they directly refuse to engage with the canon elements of a woc lesbian ship is indicative of an internal bias and that's not unfair to call out either. i understand these biases are subconscious, but that doesn't change the fact that they exist and should be spoken about. there are ships i dislike, absolutely, but i'm not actively seeking out those people to harass them because i simply dont care that much. i block, mute, etc, because i'm an adult who knows how to manage my space and i certainly don't harass the inboxes of random fic writers who are simply venting feelings about what it feels like to write/read/enjoy content of a smaller ship (that, frankly, shouldn't be as small as it is). i don't know why you put heteronormative in quotes like this is something i have accused you of personally since i don't think i've ever tweeted that word in relation to the pitt so once again, i'm not sure why you're coming to me like this.

i can count on one hand the amount of times i have intentionally instigated something with someone who shipped something i don't like, across any fandom. most of the time im simply making my own tweets about matters i observe or im dealing with people who come into my quotes to start things.

once again, i'm just really confused as to why this anger is directed at me in particular when im certainly not the top instigator nor do i spend my free time harassing people. i'm sorry you feel unwelcome in this ship tag, but i fail to see how that is my fault or how i am somehow responsible for the behavior of every garsantos shipper known to mankind. as a fic writer, as you claim to be, this is embarrassing and uncouth. you call us all assholes, but you're the one sending anonymous hate instead of venting privately or reaching out to be on twitter, since you clearly keep tabs on it. invest in a private twitter or a diary instead of bothering me with what is clearly an inability to establish healthy boundaries with fandom on the internet.

[terraliensvent]

allow replies to asks pls. I wanna speak my mind on some asks because how it stands now, you get the final word regardless of whether ppl agree with u

i dont know what you mean by this, if youre talking about the kinah discussion im not allowing it anymore. its unproductive and people are getting aggressive in my inbox and really its none of our business. and even so, if someone has IMPORTANT additions to make then it can be posted, i just am getting tired of the moral grandstanding and arguments happening. its time to move on because, again, it really doesnt affect us and its none of our business.

if youre talking about in general, ive never suppressed people who want to reply to each other. prior to my cutoff of kinah discussion, i post everything that gets sent to my inbox, and even then im only deleting asks talking about kinahs attempt. however, this is my blog and i try to be nuanced about my thoughts on things. you guys said you wanted my opinions and im gonna try my best to give added context as i see fit, because sometimes anons will make bad takes (such as the “porn proportioned” comment) and i dont want to uphold certain things without taking a critical lens to them. just because i add my input on an ask doesnt mean you arent allowed to have an opinion that disagrees with mine, youre free to talk in my inbox about stuff and i prefer to have a constructive discussion on topics.

the main thing that i wont stand for is anons that are rude, aggressive, and condescending. thats not how you have a discussion and you can be respectful to people you disagree with. this is no place for moral pedestals especially since we are all anonymous and as such it doesnt even make sense to try and present yourself as better than others, nobody even knows who you are. and even so, i still post asks that are rude, i just give my two cents underneath them.

im not allowing asks about kinahs attempt anymore, thats something im not budging on because we are so off the topic of terras now and i think were all getting too involved in the life of this person who we will never know irl. if you personally want to argue with people in the replies of an ask, make a burner account and go wild, but im not gonna publish asks on it anymore because its just exhausting at this point.

[acridcandy]

helloooo! i know i owe everyone everything and even still have things in my inbox to reply to ( sorry about that omg ) but i'm here anyway to make a plot call for aera's birthday event! she'll pretty much be on cloud nine the whole time due to all the attention and having yoojung as her date ♡ ; and she'll definitely be working the room because she's coming as a saint but changing into a sinner after midnight with a costume change ... because it's her party and she gets to be as dramatique as she wants! anyways, below the cut there's some ideas off the top of my head but please like this post if you would like to plot and i'll come to you! i'm happy to brainstorm and as always, please feel free to hit me up via disc as well, as it's always preferred over tumblr ims!

so she's making an attempt to not get too drunk ( tipsy at most ) or blasted because she wants to actually remember this event. but you bring party favors and she's trying to resist temptation but damn it's hard

while there's no vip section there is a vip list so that those she cares about don't have to wait in line to get in. you walk to the front thinking that you're on the list but end up being turned away. when aera is called to fix the "mistake" all she can say is an uninterested "wow, that's crazy..." ( hint: it wasn't a mistake )

all the fun of getting ready and whatnot! because you can expect aera's outfits to be extra and she'll probably need some help putting them on LOL but this can even extend to sometime prior, like coming up with ideas for outfits or shopping!

flirting with the wrong person and then proceeding to ignore them out of embarrassment after the masks come off and she realizes her mistake

oop or in that same vein, maybe they do know who each other are but the anonymity that comes with a mask gives a good excuse in case they get caught

sneaking away with someone for a just to get some reprieve for a bit, could end up looking like something different is going on

aera going to the one of private rooms for her outfit change prior to the midnight countdown and barging in to see something that she Was Not Supposed to See ( open to interpretation! )

you're someone that she's mad at / usually argues with and find it so odd that she's treating you so much better than she usually does, too bad that only lasts for tonight. maybe you use that for your advantage?

you're one of the very last people to leave the next morning and aera is tired and uncomfortable in her dress and wants to go home but you can't take a hint for some reason. or maybe you help her kick the stragglers out?

[th9ma]

Idrc that ur followers don’t mind a underage person writing porn. And ofc I can’t make u do anything but I do think you’re moronic trying to defend why minors can create adult fiction when you can’t even vote lmao.

putting a read more so ppl don’t get annoyed <33

argghdusivkihkbi i’m not trying to defend minors writing adult fiction im literally just defending myself against someone who decided to come into MY blog and talk about all of this 🤦🏾‍♀️ stop obsessing over this bc it’s not gonna make me delete my space bruh 😞

worry about yourself and your bills if you pay them shawty! i’m living my life- i know my limits and i can discern fiction from reality; i wouldn’t be doing this if i couldn’t handle it. yeah i’m 17, i engage in sexual activity and write about it because i CHOOSE to do it.

i have warnings, i have my age in my pinned, i have tags to block, i don’t write dark content, i’m simply just sharing thoughts about fictional (and only fictional) characters that i am attracted to (sfw and n/sfw). or do you want me to wait until may to do so?? so that i don’t have to be harassed by anonymous people?

don’t fucking call me moronic for doing what i like while exercising caution.

please stop coming in my inbox to argue with said 17 yr old, block me and be on your way 😭😭😭 i beg of you.

[ruewrites]

I spent ten whole minutes writing a fucking essay in tags and because I use dumb fucking mobile it crashed and DELETED MY WHOLE BREAKDOWN OF YOUR FIC AND WHY ITS THE BEST IVE EVER READ. Anyways, now I’m writing you an essay in notes as to why you’re the best fic writer and im gonna try cram it Into your inbox, i just need to talk Abt how great it is and I want you to know how great you are

I wanna talk about your character building. It’s amazing, it’s beyond that, it’s perfect. At no point did I feel like it was fake or exaggerated. I particularly loved Lucifers story and character and I really feel like you did him justice, even from the very first chapter when he was caring for a tiny little asmo in the park Right the way through to the wedding,, outstanding, honestly. Not to mention his and Diavolo’s relationship, it was love,y to see what where essentially background characters have their own arcs too, y’know? Felt so real. Mammon and Levi, I LOVE the two of them and the sibling dynamic you portrayed was flawless, one of my favourite scenes was the Stake out for the admirer in the car? The arguing and back and forth was honestly hilarious and I honest to god was laughing, bit to mention the part when mammon raids asmos room and finds the letters? I was so nervous but so excited, I loved seeing protective but loving older brother dynamics. (The phone call where Levi demands asmo says over will never not be funny). One of my favourite relationships was the one between asmo and satan, seeing how the two of them were closer and especially the part where asmo visits Satan and they just gossip? It was so sweet honestly it was actually heartwarming, even if Satan threatened to punt a child. Seeing Satan support asmo all the way through was one of my favourite parts, you made every character so lovable it’s insane, and I haven’t even MENTIONED the main relationship!!

Solomon and Asmos developing relationship from when they first met, to the main story to the end is honestly so satisfying, even if waiting for the next chapter was stressful at times (I Hope you know exactly which Time I meant. You really left asmo in the bathroom crying and thought that I WOULDNT be distraught? I had to spend all week thinking about that everytime I saw asmos face, I was CRUSHED. made the ending so satisfying though). The whole concept of these anonymous letters which are designed around what Solomon just knows will make asmo happy is honestly so sweet and the fact that he worked so hard to give them to him without him knowing and had his roommate write them is,, insane but in all the best ways, exactly how I imagine Solomon would be, you did him so good. Infact let’s take a Minute, not to talk about your amazing fic, but about your amazing LETTERS, I mean, hello? What are you? Some kind of bored god whose decided to bless us? Each and everyone of them was gorgeous. You write POV so well too, whilst never getting like, too bogged down by any particular aspect. I particularly loved the small things, like Solomon knowing the coffee orders amd Asmo ‚accidentally‘ designing everything to suit Solomon.

Sorry for not sending this sooner, I deadass dreamt that I sent it and then found it unfinished in my notes. Anyways, wanted to let you know you’re my fave writer and I would die for you. That is all. Happy holidays! P.S i have NO idea how to fix the strange way my tumblr formats asks, I apologise. I wanted to send this anon because I don’t know how ok it is to send a short essay of thanks to fic writers but I really dunno how many ppl you have that fucking bother you with every update, I just love your writing a lot. Thankyou!!

First of all, thank you so incredibly much. Like, I love this a lot a lot. All of this is so incredibly sweet of you to say and every now and again I go back to read it because ahh???? I just enjoyed writing WBT and I didn’t think that people would actually enjoy reading it, even now that concept is just so mind boggling to me. I know I’ll be going back and rereading this for a while to come now. It just makes me so happy. Thank you.

If I’m being honest, I felt super worried about writing those dynamics, especially when it came to the brothers and other side characters. Honestly the stakeout scene in the car was one of my favorite scenes to write with the brothers. I wanted to throw in a little bit of familial comedy. I was hoping it would come across as funny, so I’m happy to hear that it did! I’m also happy you enjoyed the ‘Over’ bit. I’m also happy you enjoyed the sweeter moments of the sibling relationships. Sibling dynamics are complicated, but in the end, they’ll always be there for each other.

Ahah, yeaaaaaah. I knew it would hurt, and honestly I felt a little bad about leaving you guys hanging like that, but I made sure I didn’t leave you there. The pacing was another thing I had initially been worried about, so I’m happy that that also came across well. Solomon is a bit of an odd one isn’t he? But he’s odd in the best ways. Oh the letters, sometimes it took me a while to come up with them. I wanted to make sure they sounded sweet, but I was worried about them not being great. Just hearing that people liked all of these things makes my brain stop? Like it never fails to shock me that people genuinely liked this. Your kind words make me blush (0////0). Thank you so much! Like I genuinely wish I could say more, this is just so kind.

No need to apologize! I really enjoyed this! I put a smile on my face. The first time I read this I teared up a little, and I’m tearing up again now. I can promise you that I belive that fic writiers 100% appreciate this like this. Knowing that other people enjoyed something that I really enjoyed writing makes me feel so warm on the inside. People don’t really bother me, and I certainly don’t consider contact a bother :3. This is so incredibly sweet and I love it so much. I can’t even begin to express my gratitude. Thank you so incredibly much. Like, thank you. I hope I can continue to bring you more joy in the future. I wish I could express how much I genuinely love this. Thank you.I love this, and I’m so happy you loved WBT.

[hikari-writes]

HIKARI’S SPECIAL SLEEPOVER PARTY -450 FOLLOWERS EVENT 🥳🥳🥳

Why, hello there! Thanks for all the follows everyone! I was just gone for a week so I’m very surprised to see my blog grew so much hhhhh-----

SO! I apologize in advance that this post is looking very bland but I didn’t had the time to edit any banners qwq. Anyways, as you can see in the title, I’ll be making a sleepover party! The time will start from today, Saturday 22 August 9:15 pm until Sunday 23 August 3:30 pm (PHST- Philippines Standard Time) (to anyone wondering, no im not a filipino, we just have the same timezone :))

WHAT WE’LL BE DOING;

❀ CUTIES BABBLES

- Just as the name suggests, we’ll babble together! Just scream anything you want in my inbox, anonymously or not; e.g. fangirl about stuff you like, tell me about your self-ship, ask anything about my works, tell me about yourself, or if you also want to ask anything about me :D! Anything and everything is welcomed! JUST INTERACT WITH ME PLEASE. (Except for nsfw or hate talk obviously 😖)

❀ ASK AND YOU SHALL RECEIVE!

- For this one, I’ll be making quick sketches for any character you ask for! Whether you want it to be them interacting with you, or just them eating or doing something else! Or in case anyone wants an angst, that’s very much welcomed too *cough*hanahakihehe*cough*(*cough* or maybe them in glasses *cough*)(Nothing too hard though, i’m not a pro qwq) REALLY, anything and everything is accepted! Reminder that these are sketches I’ll be doing in my sketchbook, so it’s all in traditional art. (because it’s faster and I actually prefer drawing on paper than on my phone---) I’ll be doing everyone or everything from the fandoms I’ve listed in my rules for requesting post (it’s in my navigation for anyone wondering)! ONE EXCEPTION, HOWEVER! Is the fandom Haikyuu! I can draw the characters you want, but I don’t know all of them so to avoid anything ooc, please give a bit of specifics or their characteristics if you wanna request for them! My art isn’t the best though so please don’t expect anything too high---

❀ VINES, MEMES OR INCORRECT QUOTES BABY

- It’s quite similar to the one above, but this one is more specific. Request any character that you want as vines or memes or incorrect quotes! I’ve been into them lately after watching lots of tbhk vines on youtube hehe... These will also be in traditional art, so I can’t really insert the original audio (if they have it) but I will put the dialogues. Since this is an x reader blog, it would be preferable if you request anything that has a reader insert in it, but if you don’t want to, that’s totally fine too! AND IF YOU WANT TO USE THE CASTS FOR MY SMAUS THAT WOULD BE SO APPRECIATED HHH---)

❀ HIT MY INBOX WITH REQUESTS

- If anyone doesn’t know, requests are open--- There’s currently 2 requests pending so please send them in if you have any qwq Make sure to read the rules first though!

❀ INTERACT WITH MY BABIES!

- If anyone wants to interact with me using my persona, it’s very much welcomed! Please specify though, since this one is different than [ CUTIES BABBLES ] since while you’ll still interact with me(cause it’s my persona) for this one, I’ll be using doodles (traditionally) to interact with you! To anyone that doesn’t know how my persona looks, here’s their forms!

The first picture is the one I used most, since it’s easier to draw. She’s the more passive and calm Hikari, but once she loses her shit, it’s the end of the world. The second picture is the more active and dumbass Hikari. She’s very chaotic and reckless. To differentiate both hikaris, just refer to active hikari as P! Hikari (p stands for ponytail) The short haired boy is basically the genderbent version of Hikari, but he doesn’t have a name as of yet. I said genderbent, but he acts more like someone who constantly fighting or arguing with P! Hikari (also a bit of a caretaker for her). He’s basically tired of her shit.

❀ SLEEPOVER GAMES OWO

- Basically any sleepover game you wanna play with me! Kiss marry kill, would you rather, which character would, and anything else! Please, I’m trying to make this a fun sleepover.

These are all I could offer you! I’m sorry that this event looks so boring, since it has no theme, but since this one was rushed, I can’t help it. I just want to interact more with my followers so please excuse this one. I’ll do a better one for another milestone event. Also, this event is quite short since well, it was rushed, but I hope there’s at least one person who participated in it.

Once again, thank you very very much to all of my followers. Who would’ve guessed I’d reach 450 followers right? I guess people do grow. I appreciate all of your likes, reblogs, and comments on my stuff. They really make me happy and I’m so glad you enjoyed my content, if just a bit. I hope to be able to interact with all of you more in the future! Thank you again! ☺ If this flopped, just forget this ever happened---

If anyone don’t want to see this event, just blacklist the tag [ #hikari’s 450 sleepover!! ]

[altruisticenigma]

Curse-friendly witchblr, I need your help!

🧿 Let me preface this with this: I don’t believe in the three-fold law for very good reason. I have been repeatedly traumatized all of the 23 years I’ve been alive. I met my abusers with good intention only to be manipulated, invalidated, taken advantage of and badly hurt. The people who have traumatized me have not been paid their dues according to said “law;” meanwhile I’m recovering from the aftermath they left. I’m trying to recover from both CPTSD & PTSD. Don’t fucking give me that “aaaahh three fold law don’t curse!” BS in my Inbox/Post or you’ll be blocked. This situation just proves fully that I continue to run into asinine situations I do not deserve. 🧿

My next door neighbors are fucking awful to each other. They have been for months since I moved in here. They scream and argue with one another, throw expletives, and once got so explosive (and into the Hall!) I called 911 because I seriously thought they were going to hurt each other.

They scream in the morning and once at 6AM (girl was sobbing and said she hated her bf). It never fucking ends. It’s pretty much a couple times a week now. I have PTSD and it is wildly triggering of an old relationship I’ve had.

I have:

-Talked to the land lady many times. Nothing. She’s a kind old lady though so I won’t do anything; it’s why I haven’t pushed any legal stuff (.. which I could, if I had the energy).

-Left then a small note asking them to chill because it’s triggering, and got back a rude note with no apology (🙃) This was before I even took to magical measures!

-Cursed using Tarot cards

-Cursed/am using a protective reflection sigil via my altar that stays active

-Uncrossed myself and put back up my evil eye.

I found their names and their social media and iM PISSED: they have recently been acting like everything is all lovey dovey when I know for a fact the guy screamed at the girl this last weekend (as of 2/25/20). But I know their first and last names... and names carry power.

I’m considering one of two things: 1) Anonymously post about them on Craigslist and end their fucking lives when I move out (which is very soon!), or 2) Bind them. I’m also considering 3) Just adding their names to my protective Sigil (it’s a weird setup long story)...

I do NOT curse unless it is self defense, in dire situations (like this), or when I’ve exhausted all options. I’m ready to make them suffer. Give me options, fellow witches.

[stvllioner]

!! She said - I didnt want to say anything more about the drama cause I am honestly extremely over it, but you are completely right. This is exactly what she is doing. And she KNOWS that.

thats her message directed to my friend twice.

heres the screenshots of her coming back again to say the same thing again.

not to mention based on the diction from the original ask, i know its bob. because its the same diction used on the anonymous hate i received not too long back. and the same diction i was communicating with.

just because you have screenshots doesnt show the whole narrative. you took bits and pieces of the times i was present in conversation, and any person would be confused to what the fuck is going on. i dont know if youre upset that i actually own up to my mistakes, but im not some heartless "discord gremlin" like you people want to believe.

im not playing a victim, and someone making a HATE post about me does make me one ah... 😂 you got stuff mixed up man....

i dont get how im using it for clout? thought itd be the other way around. because what would i need it for? i never @ed you a single time, and im not even active on ao3 lol. and it just shows yall are stalking my blog. just like on my server, waiting for me to fuck up. like on my blog ready for me to slip up. its strange that youd be on my posts like

that. because you even implied that my shit is trash LOL so theres not reason why you should even responding to a post...? on my blog?? girl what... if i was such a "manipulator", why didnt i make the callout post first? if i wanted to absolutely fool my followers (yup because you think that theyre that dumb) i wouldve @ed you and everything!! not.

i write because i want to make stories and share it with people. im nice to people because theyre nice to me. i like letting people know their important. idk if you think its fake because i am no longer nice to you, but im friends with almost everyone i meet so take that with what you will...

you dont accuse people or use strong definitions to describe someone because they have beef with your friend. you pretend like i cant be upset and i have every right because all you guys are doing are twisting my words because you guys dont like me and feel everyone else shouldnt either.its always, "what did sav say" "its not what you said its how you say it" but no one gives a fuck how they come to me. no one gives a fuck "how they say it" to me. if i feel defensive of course im going to get cold.

EDIT: its called watching porn and reading,, doujins. unless you do those off incog then youre a real troop. on any day you will see the incognito tab guy at the top of my screen LMAO. and my friend sent that and i had to protect her privacy ahah. also im sure you cant copy and paste? id know because when i first got tumblr, id try copy and pasting blog names but itd never works so i had to get the app.😔 plus im not tryna have some person in my actual life got pulled into bullshit. im not hearing anything until someone tells me dude. and i cant go on my inbox either? and those screenshots were from when you sent them if you checked the timestamp lol.

you say that we're children but you attack us. 🤔😂 vent is supposed to be where you share whats troubling you and when people attack you instead of course someone is going to get defensive. arguing with people in vent is so inappropriate, and im really speechless. if you were trying to really "open" her eyes, you had to send it twice? if youre easily angered by someone saying they dont like people celebrate early than thats your prerogative.

dont try to claim harassment when you made a post about me first, sent your minions after me. you know whats harassment? coming into my server the sole purpose to basically get me annoyed and fuck up, make posts and reply to hateful messages like "yes yes hate sav the cunt child!" this is me defending myself. if you were truly done youd stop. bbs.

stop trying to push this weird narrative that i dont give a fuck that i hurt peoples feelings. ive explained it all dude. its up to you if you dont want to believe but im just going to ask kindly that you stop dude. you dont create this demonizing post, delete my replies and everything ive said, block me and say, iM oVeR iT, and proceed to talk shit about me behind a block? stop acting like that post wasnt an act of just pure hate. like you got what you wanted, i just ask that you stop. 

i said i was going to drop it and you responded so... im done because you and your people want to believe that im terrible person, its fine. at the end of the day i know me and the people who know me will stick with me. i just ask that you stop and i'll delete my stuff if you delete yours. best of wishes dude. 💃🏽

[toyhouse-dramas-archived]

PSA

Been name dropped on here? Had a post about you?

Worst things you can do: 

Make a bulletin/journal/poll/forum post. 

Why? It directs traffic directly to the blog, everytime I gain an influx of followers it’s because one of you has put a PSA out against it. You can write PSAs for days if you want, that’s your call, but just remember it is free advertising.

Feel free to discuss it in a controlled environment, such as Discord, where people you know will be seeing it and can discuss it with you.

Come into the inbox full of emotion and rant at each anon individually or try to argue. 

The anons aren’t here to discuss or have their minds changed, they’re here to be petty and at times cruel. There’s no point in trying to argue your point with that.

Send someone/others to defend you.

It’s fine in theory, it doesn’t affect me either way. But if a cluster of Anons are claiming you are immature, and you send a bunch of friends who spam immature defenses into the ask box, it doesn’t help your case at all.

Send a ticket on ToyHouse.

People have tried, you can too. But the TH admins have no control of off TH, they can’t get a blog taken down, and they aren’t going to silence opinions. 

You can try to get me banned, but again, TH Admins aren’t going to silence opinions. 

Continuiously argue, bait, or otherwise act like a fool in asks/replies.

At that point, I will just block you from the blog to keep you from interacting. You’re fine to call anons cowards, or rip into them, but remember that the consequences of you doing so are often brutal. To prevent this, I usually block users so they can’t send replies or asks to continue arguing 

Best things you can do:

Shoot the blog an IM.

You can get posts about you removed!

Unless the post is a PSA about something shady, shitty or cruel you have done with some sort of proof, it can be removed. This means any name dropped posts, any vagues, etc. 

Giving me an IM means I am more likely to see it as Tumblr Asks/Submissions often get eaten. 

Shoot the blog an ask off-anon.

Same as above, except I can answer you privately to let you know the posts were deleted. 

If you aren’t answered within a day or so, try again, tumblr ask can be a pain.

Request a time-out.

If it’s a relentless topic (aka, you’ve been one of the only topics for the past 24 - 48h) you can request a time out, where nothing will be posted about you for the next 24 - 48h. 

Reflect.

Most of the time, these anons are just looking to vent about something that frustrates them on a website. But if the asks are consistently about your behaviour, perhaps consider looking at taking a walk more often, or doing some self reflection. It’s not mandatory, but a few users have expressed it being helpful.

Extra Tips

If you’re going to IM the blog for post removal, keep it short and simple. 

I don’t mind what your reason for wanting the post removed is, I personally don’t read them I just look for the link and delete. So please make it short and simple for me to help you as quick as possible/

PSAs with proof need counter evidence.

If a post about you includes evidence of what you’re being accused of, simply asking for it to be removed will not be approved. As this blog is both a venting and an informational space, silencing those who prove wrongdoing is not something I’m willing to do. If you can prove the evidence is fake, or have counter evidence to argue it, please submit it. If it’s Proven fake, you have the option to remove it entirely or to leave it up with the counter-evidence posted.

Don’t ask me for my opinions on situations.

Truthfully, I don’t know what’s happening on TH most of the time, I try to be as neutral as possible. So I won’t give you any insight, sorry about that.

IM about something off topic?

Sure, I’m fine with a chat, as long as you are.

Lastly, this blog is and always will be a venting + informational blog. Nothing serious is ever let through without some sort of proof, and if it teeters on acceptable, I give the anon 24 hours to bring said proof before deleting the ask. You’re always allowed to request things about you be removed, and you are always free to shoot me an IM with an issue about anything, even if it is just to fix spelling on an anonymous post you left. 

Thats all.

Mod

[leftfoottrapped]

jesus you getting all this hate from pea brain fans blindly supporting shit lmfao needless to say im very happy the ifandom has people like you, yaknow, with a brain and stuff. also side note i love ur fics they are one of the best i’ve read and ive been a fan for a looong time. anamnesis is one of my all time favs. anyway, i’ll be observing the fire in which jongdae has thrown his career into from the sidelines now. bye! ^^

thank you very much for loving my fics, that means a lot anon <333 anamnesis was my fix-it fic for how I wanted him to approach his career, so it’s with bittersweet fondness that I’m thinking about it now, ALAS! and yes, I think at this point, I’m just going to delete the hate that keeps hitting my inbox because ifans really be…. pretending this is about cancel culture, or dating idols, or him not being a criminal. it’s not about any of those things at all. I think I will join you on the sidelines, anon. I think he owes us one last bout of entertainment before he leaves.

anonymous asked: if he didn’t want to be an idol or be in the industry there would be rumors/gossip about retirement or his departure from the group. there hasn’t been any. sm announced that he would continue to work as an artist. “you’re saying so much with literally no evidence to back it up lmao” like they’re not in your inbox doing the same thing. we’re all speculating. ppl want to be happy for him and i get it but his career being over is also very plausible.

yeah, I was thinking about all those rumours with ksoo “not renewing” his contract or whatever, right before he enlisted. I think it’s more likely he negotiated less idol promos and more acting deals so he can be a full-time actor. and if it’s the same with jongdae, we should have heard those rumours as well. and yeah - that’s the issue!!! we are all speculating, and I know I’m using precedence/other idols to form my opinions, while other people are…. idk…. using blind hope? which I guess is one way to face a crisis.

anonymous asked: I have this thing when shit sucks to create certainty out of a situation to make it easier to cope with. Everything you have been writing makes logical sense. It is what precedent suggests is going to happen. I won’t sit here and argue with you about it. But it hasn’t happened yet. It is unfair of this other person to call you cruel. Or to shame you for writing fics (which are really good btw) they are essentially doing to you what they are accusing you of doing to chen: judging with out actually knowing you.

you’re right anon, it hasn’t happened yet! and we don’t know if sm will simply ignore the fans and double down and still make him continue his activities! the thing is - with his fansites closing, a fan petition gaining traction to get him to leave exo, and a questionable spouse - indicates there’s a very low chance of that happening, but a chance is a chance is a chance. and if people wanna bank their hopes on that chance, I guess I should let them. but I know I can’t do that, it’ll only make me sadder, and constructing a narrative of what his life is going to be like after this moment is a better way for me personally to cope with my feelings of sadness and loss over his singing career.

[zontiky]

hey so,,,, in your byf it says transmeds do not interact and,,, ive been following you for a while and i love your stuff even tho im a transmed cos to me i dont mind other peoples opinions but,,,, it just sort of makes me feel like im not allowed on your blog just cos we disagree on something :/

i was going to type out an explanation of my transness and relationship to gender, and a long one too, but then i realized. i don’t owe you that. i don’t have to justify myself to you at all.

our “different” opinions are arguing over people’s identities. which, fuck that. you and your “different” opinion mean nothing to me. you say you’ve been following me for a while. i’ve had the “terfs/transmeds/truscum dni” in my byf for a while. did you just not bother reading it? or did you ignore it and are only bringing it up now?

because to me, these aren’t just opinions. they’re you saying “i don’t support these people” and then turning right around to me and saying “the fact that you don’t agree with me makes me upset”? oh boo hoo, i don’t want anything to do with you while you’re putting down trans people who differ from you. how tragic, i’m so mean, not wanting your “opinions” near me.

it’s not just an opinion, internet stranger. it’s you looking at other trans people, who are working to be happy, and saying that they’re not ACTUALLY trans. it’s you looking at all the war already going on here, both in this community and out, and adding to it. trans people aren’t each other’s enemies.

here’s a comic i feel like you would benefit from reading, anonymous. please kindly take your opinions, and stop whining in my inbox behind a mask. i said i don’t want people like you here, and you didn’t respect that. 

it’s like that one “i’m homophobic” video right now, i swear. you’re literally saying “i’m trans but i dont support trans people” like are you kidding. seriously just go find another blog to share your “opinions” with, because i sure as heck don’t want it to be mine.

yeah I kinda just went off there but my point is: I asked not to interact with me, please respect my wishes and leave. im not here to participate in any discource but I would like it if people took my byf seriously

[lustyargonianmaid]

you know what anon? y'all are gonna ignore the early sequel trilogy days when antis largely left y'all alone. we tagged our anti reylo shit, and y'all STILL came into our inboxes calling us this and calling us that, telling us to kill ourselves when all we did was disagree with you. thats IT dude. YES im speaking from experience

why are you here?? 

i’ve literally done nothing and my posts are being put on blast and now you’re trying to argue with some anonymous person in my inbox? why are you on my page?? i’m speaking from experience in the short time i’ve been in this fandom. i’ve done NOTHING to anyone. if you take issue with people who ship it and behave this way then go speak to them. i’m not here to fight with anyone. antis are the ones taking action against me and i wasn’t engaging at all with anti posts. i’m done with this shit man. 

[drfitzmonster]

I got pulled into a fight w a terf and they dug up my abuse and used it against me. My heart is beating really fast and idk i should know better than to argue on the internet. I stood up for what i believed in though so I should be proud of that. Idk im sad. Do you ever get mean anons? How do you deal w it?

i am so sorry that happened to you. that must have been really upsetting. try not to beat yourself up for how you reacted, it’s very hard not to respond when someone says something hateful to you

i do get mean anons from time to time. it always hurts my feelings bc i’m sensitive, but i understand that about myself and i am able to get the support i need from my friends when it does happen

i honestly try not to involve myself in arguments online because in my experience nothing good ever comes from them.

there are some people who will never listen to you, no matter what you say, no matter how sound your arguments

people who send you hateful messages, especially if they’re doing so anonymously, are not interested in hearing your side of things, they only want to upset you and hurt you, and they will use anything they can to do that, including things that are extremely cruel, like bringing up your history of abuse

the best way to protect yourself is to not take the bait. delete their messages, block them from your inbox

they are trying to get a reaction out of you, they want you to be upset and try to argue, and they will take everything you say and twist it around on you

the best way to handle them is to ignore them. that denies them the satisfaction of having goaded you into an argument, which is what they want

don’t give them that

i know it’s hard to do sometimes, but in my experience it is the best way to handle a situation like that

delete their messages, but let someone know what happened and how it made you feel. talk to someone you trust about it, but do it privately, and let them comfort you and validate your feelings

you will feel better and you can vent any of your anger feelings without giving anyone reason to argue with you further and hurt you more

sometimes it helps me to write a response to someone but never send it, that way you get your feelings out, but you also keep yourself safe

i hope this helps. the internet can be a very hostile place and it’s important to protect yourself, especially if you are tender-hearted like me

[bendablebananas]

I didn't misinterpret. You said people who didn't like that band were racist. You're an adult so you shouldn't be throwing that accusation around and calling it a joke. It's irresponsible.

okay, how about this. im gonna turn off my anonymous inbox for a little bit and if you want to shoot me a message we can talk about it. alternatively, if you’ve said what you wanted to say, thats okay, too! but arguing about it over anon isn’t going to change anybody’s mind or be helpful to either of us. im sure your intentions were harmless, but next time please think about what messages you send; anonymous or otherwise.