#its probably misogyny

[royalbabble]

Do people honestly hate the Handler?

She's been nothing but a delight this whole run, how could you hate this woman?

[a-sketchy]

persona misogyny is so fucking wild. ignoring literally everything else about the entire rest of the games, every single s.link with a female character is like “entirely for having been born a woman i have had to work twice as hard for a fraction of the benefit. even now, i am stripped of my agency in a position i never wanted in the first place” and/or “i’m put on a pedestal by the people in my life because of my looks. men see me as an object to be conquered, women hate me for ‘stealing’ ‘their’ men. if i’m withdrawn i’m a bitch, if i’m friendly i’m easy. because of this, i’m alone” and/or “because of my personality or hobby or lack of cooking skills, i feel like i’m failing at femininity. if being a woman is something i can fail at, then where does that leave me? i’m scared at the loss of my identity and place in society”

like very consistently they present female characters with complex thoughts towards their place in society as women, femininity as a whole, and facing issues stemming from misogyny, and then the payoff is always “my problems were entirely my own fault. i wasn’t strong enough, i was a coward. but now, i’m gonna work hard to be exactly what society expects me to be (which is what i want to be)! i’m gonna do better at femininity (which is still something tangible i can fail at)! i’m going to try hard at making friends (which was my fault for not doing)! all my problems are solved through personal responsibility (that im totally culpable for), effort (which i previously was not putting in), or you, a man! i am Happy and Satisfied with this outcome, can i be Your woman?”

and like hello? why are we here. what the fuck are we doing. why do we keep doing this every single time. can we not do the constant lukewarm attempts at criticizing misogyny so you can jerk off to your own thoughtfulness, while ultimately reinforcing patriarchal systems and brushing off any deeper misogyny-bred issues as a lack of deference to one’s rightful place in society? like maybe don’t do that? for fucking once? just an idea

[genderkoolaid]

this is entirely a good faith question: why can terfs not use moids as a response to incels who oppress women using femoids, but queer people can and do reclaim slurs used against us in our oppression? thank you if you answer (in regards to this post https://www.tumblr.com/genderkoolaid/714779055410577408/is-this-supposed-to-be-a-good-reason-for-using)

For one, "moids" is like. Very heavily racist. "-oid" was a common suffix used in race science, as a way of describing different races (mongoloid, negroid, caucasoid, etc.). It is deeply entrenched in the language of white supremacy and eugenics. The reason why misogynists use it is because those misogynists are also racists.

With queer, the point in reclaiming it is "yes, we are weird freaks, and we love being weird freaks- being a weird freak is a good thing." Reclaiming things like dyke, fag, tranny, tend to both be a way of coping with the trauma of those words, as well as describing the ways that oppression shape our identities (a lot of people identify as dykes or faggots specifically as a way of communicating an identity that exists in opposition to, and within the context of, homophobic society). These are terms we are using to self-describe as a way of empowering ourselves and depowering queerphobes

With -moid, they are taking purposefully negative language that was created for oppressive purposes and using it to... dehumanize groups of people. And they accomplish the goal of... sounding like fucking nazis.

And maybe, just maybe, the way they use nazi language and nazi memes (like soyjack shit) is part of the reason they have so many white supremacists in their communities. If you walk into a bar covered in swastikas and iron crosses, and the bar serves a number of nazis, the white goyische woman bartender telling you that actually they are reclaiming nazi symbols isn't gonna make you feel less like you are in a nazi bar.

edit: I wanna say that people shouldn't shame anon for asking this!!!! It's important to have a good understanding of WHY certain things are reclaimable and some things aren't, even if it seems obvious. Shaming people for asking these questions means that the only people giving these questions answers are assholes. Genuine, good faith questions shouldn't be shamed. Anon wasn't defending this behavior, they were asking a good question on why it's okay to reclaim some things but not others. Not asking questions to deeper your understanding means relying on whatever anyone else tells you to be true.

[killrockstar]

there's no way around saying that some of you just hate women.

[butchgambit]

how ridiculously convenient gambit's self-hatred is; the perfect excuse for her to leave him without a chance in hell of survival, and for her to remain the poor victim who had to deal with his tortured mind. that woman sure has it easy.

? i don't even know how to respond to you bc this is a ridiculous way to interpret rogue's powers & how she has to deal with the people & feelings in her head. "she has it easy" lmao. gambit himself says she left him there bc he felt he deserved to be left there for his actions and she was forced to see everything that happened & everything he was feeling. she immediately wanted to go back and find him. i genuinely can only just laugh at your way of thinking!

[mouseratz]

the rampant misogyny (and transmisogyny) on this site from transmascs specifically is so crazy to me. like......it really is like this

Tumblr user: trans women oppress the rest of us trans people & it's terfy for lesbians to criticize the patriarchy and because of all of that misandry is real and alive

someone in real life: Hey man how's it going

[lorephobic]

2, 17, 22 for Saltburn

2. a compelling argument for why your fave would never top or bottom

this means nothing to anybody who follows me for saltburn, but i just answered this question about my other blorbo and came to the exact same conclusion for the complete opposite reason. oliver quick would NEVER top because he is clawing to be the main character of every room that he enters. he wants to be desired so badly that he'll reinvent himself into whoever he thinks you want.

there's a sort of trope in obsession-related media where the obsessor ends up forcefully taking from their victim exactly what they want. and i think that oliver subverts this narrative by never taking anything from felix. he never asks for more than he's given. when he finally has the opportunity to kiss felix, he doesn't. he takes from venetia, and he takes from farleigh, and he takes from james and elspeth, but at the crux of his character, is his need to be taken by felix. this is, of course, a metaphor for bottoming LMAO

17. there should be more of this type of fic/art

ok so tbh i'm not a huge fic person because i'm so incredibly picky about the way that the media that i care about is interpreted, which is why i've never read a single saltburn fic and honestly i probably won't ever, just because i feel like there is very little room in this story to expand and no way to twist and rewrite it in a way that is true to the characters that i care so much about. but WITH THAT BEING SAID, i was honestly so totally astonished by @125hr's cattonquick art that it made me realize that maybe i do want to see more beautiful art of them kissing and we can all pretend like they had their moment<333

22. your favorite part of canon that everyone else ignores

this should honestly be it's own post, but since my last rewatch i've been thinking a ton about the final dance being a reflection of felix's initial tour through saltburn, which has been talked about! but what i haven't seen talked about is all of the other scenes that end up echoing each other. felix's life on the screen and oliver's role in it form a perfect mirror image, starting and ending with oliver staring at felix at parties and not being able to touch him. starting and ending with oliver watching felix have sex with someone that's not him. starting and ending with oliver fucking people who aren't felix in an attempt to get closer to him. on a second rewatch, when you know all of the signs, there's such a devastating sense of oliver returning back to square one, lost in a crowd full of felix's friends and nobody even knows his name. there is a time before felix and there is a time after felix and exactly at the center of this timeline, there is a man on his hands and knees in a bathtub getting the closest he will ever get to the thing that he wants.

[stardust-vi]

Dumb ramble but I hate that you can't critique The Thing you love within a fandom space without some dude breathing down your neck like "Well actually that means you hate The Author and The Thing! And what about all the times The Author did this Good Thing? Checkmate, liberal." as if you can't be critical of something because you love it and want it to be better.

[theonlyadawong]

au where everything is the same except ada actually looks like she's been working

[marklikely]

i like rng horror pod and i enjoy their analysis most of the time. but i really wish someone would sit them down and explain the entire history of 70s feminism

[bloomfish]

There should be an internet game where you automatically get put into a random page of a random thread in a random forum from the 2000s and you have to work out what the conversation is about

[peridyke]

been planning like a really dark comic about a sentient anime cat girl robot that I've been invested in developing and I hope I do something with it at some point

[atpm1976]

every time someone says a male character is "female coded" i think its bullshit and pisses me off but rory williams actually was. he was female coded and the first and only male victim of misogyny

[bas-writes]

y'know, it's absolutely valid for people to not want engaging in One Piece because of its misogynistic parts, but I just can't help wondering what kind manga/anime do they enjoy then 'cause, with all acknowledgment of its problematic and/or badly written parts, One Piece is still one of the least misogynistic mainstream series.

and I am painfully reminded of this every time I pick a new series up. seriously. it's like a reality bitch slap after which I immediately stop complaining about Nami, Robin, Hiyori and the others (sorry, Tashigi, you still don't get the pass, you're so badly written you're beyond saving, and in addition I don't like you).

so far, only Fullmetal Alchemist and Jujutsu Kaisen passed the check. I have a vague memory of Bleach being okay? but I need a solid refreshment cause it's been years

ah, and Golden Kamuy, of course, but it's not a manga, it's an experience.

stuff like Demon Slayer or Haikyuu might not have the boomer jokes and fanservice, but honestly, I'll take Oda's hehe booba over whatever sad joke of a shadow fem characters are in series like this. and I'm saying this from a level of huge enjoyment those brought me.

[transtalesofdoom]

The link between the patriarchy and transphobia becomes incredibly obvious once you realize that most, if not all, transphobia is about women being victims.

Trans Women are framed as men trying to take advantage of the inherently weaker """normal""" and innocent (read: cis) women. Invading their safe spaces. Following them into bathrooms and changing rooms to assault them. Competing against them to gain an unfair advantage (that they have because they're just naturally stronger, faster, smarter, tougher, etc). Taking away resources from the poor, disadvantaged women.

This rhetoric never acknowledges the sexism it's based on, nor questions the reason why women would need separate spaces in the first place. Women are victims, but if we blame the trans ones, we don't have to acknowledge what they're actually victims of.

Trans Men are seen not as men, obviously, but as women who have fallen victim to harmful ideology. Told to reject their natural feminine traits. Desperate to escape the chains of the patriarchy, they've been tricked into perceiving themselves as the "other" gender to change sides. They're not men, they're just confused, poor unfortunate souls. Victims of indoctrination.

This view, which is common among TERFs, not only frames women as easily manipulated fools, but by focusing on that, it once again gets to ignore the wider circumstances. Which is incredibly ironic. The idea itself is based on the patriarchy and sexism being so awful that people hate it and themselves so much to join an even more oppressed minority, yet somehow it remains agnostic to the patriarchy as the central problem.

If we vilify trans people, we can ignore the systemic injustice. Hell, we can even reinforce it. Men are Predators! Women are Prey! Those are inherent traits they cannot ever outgrow!

It's vile.

TLDR: Gender Essentialism is the Root of All Evil and if you consider yourself a feminist or any other form of gender related activist, but cannot recognize this, you will fail.

[surpriserose]

Seeing a lot of like stop calling male character x female character yuri posts today and i love to give my opinion on everything so while i completely understand why and i really do agree with people who are like stop doing that im also like....its okay when butches do it because geniunely we have like...no butches in media and even the female characters who are somewhat butch or masculine often have a lot of scenes where they present more feminine and youre not gonna see that with a masculine male character unless its for a transmisogynist joke which also fucking sucks... but like idk thats why its just easier for me to be like oh idk uhhhh senshi dungeon meshi is a butch lesbian rather than marcille you know? im not saying its good or even that you cant still disagree with me like thats completely fair i get it honestly im just saying its different than what other people are doing you know? To me at least