#justgetoverit

[complexptsdchronicles-blog]

“Just Get Over It... Along With Your 4+ Mental Disorders!” OR... You Can Read This And See Why This Saying Needs To Go:

“Just get over it”, they tell me, “Focus on the positive in life. Be happy and things will just happen for you. Have you tried counseling, religion, meditation, yoga, medication, etc.?”

Yes. I tried all of that (except the eating dust) and am still trying all of that BUT... after 17 years of emotional and physical child abuse; moving from town to town (AKA: no stability); dealing with off and on bullying, harassment, discrimination, and sexism throughout my whole life; and even a rape experience in my early 20′s… well, you can see why I’m 30 years old and struggling just a bit (and by a bit… I mean A LOT). 

So far I have been diagnosed with ADD, Anxiety, Depression, and Complex PTSD. Currently, I am working with 2 social workers, 4 vocational rehabilitation therapists, a psychiatrist, and we’re working on getting me into the appropriate counseling. I have a huge support system of family and friends who I love and are helping me through all of this and I’m doing all I can to be proactive so I can live a healthier and happier life.

After years of counseling from my young adult days, I now have a better (not perfect, but better) relationship with my dad - who was my abuser for 17 years. He doesn’t hurt me anymore, thankfully, and things have been good between us for years now.

Regardless of my disorders and past traumas, somehow I managed to get my M.A. in Marketing and Advertising and graduate with a 4.0 GPA. I am currently working as a content marketing contractor with one of the most well-known companies in the U.S. - (For confidentiality sake I can’t really say their name). On top of this, I get a lot of positive feedback and love from my current and previous employers. Therefore, I’m going to jump out on a limb here and say that NONE of my disorders seem to actually be affecting the quality of my work. So anyone out there who thinks that people with disorders are lazy and incapable of doing great things - I am living proof as to how wrong you are!

Some of us are trying really hard every single day and are even capable of doing amazing work if given the chance.

As for those who think I need to “just get over it” - considering how well my dad and I are doing and the fact that I am being as proactive as possible with my disorders and life - it’s obvious that emotionally I do feel “over” most of my past traumas. So why then are these holistic and non-holistic approaches only half helping me from living a normal, happy life that I know I’m capable of living?

The only theory I have is that because I grew up in an environment where I was immersed in trauma, violence, and instability - this has affected the way my brain has developed. The areas of my brain that are meant for survival are overdeveloped and the areas that are meant for everyday life are underdeveloped. Meaning that every day I am in a constant state of anxiety and trauma and have been getting worse as the years go on for no reason whatsoever… or at least none that any of us can identify (asides from the obvious messed up past that is my Lifetime story).

SCIENCE:

Here’s the best way I can explain what goes on in my brain every day:

Think of ALL the WORST things that have ever happened to you in life. Are you thinking about them? Now imagine having nightmares about them every single night, then you wake up and those terrible memories play on a loop the entire day (24-7), then you have a horrible inner self critic who tears you apart every second of every moment of every day, and then you have to go out into the world and pretend that life is peachy and happy and everything is great! After a while, you start to feel worn down and you start thinking - “Wow. Death seems so much more peaceful than this horror show that I have to live through all the time.” But deep down you know that you don’t want to kill yourself because you have so many people who love you and who you love and the “real you” is not ready to leave or give up. The “real you” just want to get on with their life, to stop “surviving”, and to just be happy. Yet, your brain won’t let you do this even when you jump through a million hoops to manage the everyday ups and downs. So what do you do? You go get help! (See bolded notes below)

…That’s why, my dear friends, that sometimes we can’t “Just Get Over It”!

HOWEVER MANY OF US ARE TRYING, SO PLEASE CUT US SOME SLACK AND IF YOU CAN’T THEN, YOU KNOW… “JUST GET OVER IT”. ;)

Thank you all for reading. Please feel free to Follow and Share!

TO THOSE WHO ARE STRUGGLING WITH SUICIDE:

PLEASE REACH OUT TO FREE PROGRAMS NEAR YOU THAT HELP WITH INDIVIDUALS WHO ARE STRUGGLING AND PLEASE REACH OUT TO THE NATIONAL SUICIDE HOTLINE: 1-800-273-8255 - THEY ARE NICE PEOPLE WHO CAN REALLY HELP AND LIFT YOUR SPIRITS BACK UP ENOUGH TO KEEP GOING UNTIL YOU FIND A PROGRAM THAT MAKES YOU FEEL FULLY HEALED. ***TAKING THAT FIRST STEP TO GETTING HELP IS THE MOST BRAVEST THING A PERSON CAN DO. ANYONE WHO SAYS OTHERWISE ARE ONLY PROJECTING THEIR OWN WEAK AMBITIONS ONTO YOU… SO FUCK THEM! MUCH LOVE AND HEALING TO YOU ALL! I HOPE MANY OF YOU FIND THE PEACE THAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR! <3

P.S.: This is just blog 1 in this series. More to come soon…

[iamjustinlove7]

#depression #loneliness #heartache #suffering #bebold #courageous #yeshua #heavenlyfather #spirittospirit #love #beauty #changetheworld #changeyourheart #changeyourmind #oneworld #stop #justgetoverit #solongago #itsinthepast #weareyisrael #hebrewwomen #hebrewmen #saynotospam #stopcensorship #stopspam #acidrain #haarp #sweetlight #singoutloud #beautiful https://www.instagram.com/p/BnsYXPvFxTm/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=eg2w2lm7xecw

[somethingsabher]

I read and listen to a lot of books. This series #unfuckyourself is by far the best read. It will definitely read these books over again. @garyjohnbishop brutal honesty in his writing has allowed me to connect and understand how I've been #screwing things up my entire life. I'm one of those people that need a kick in the face in the form of a wake-up call and he definitely does that. One of the takeaways is to stop living in the past and playing victim to your perceived truth. How about that kick in the face? I now want to attend one of his lectures. #somethingsabouther #stahfamily #garyjohnbishop #brutalhonesty #justgetoverit #unscrewyourself #unapologeticallyimperfect #unapologeticconversation #unapologeticliving #victimmentality #livethelifeyoudeserve #listentoyourgut #livingwithherpes #thrivingwithherpes #getoveryourself #azblogger #phoenixarizona #avondalearizona #azblogger #psbloggers #arizonablogger (at Phoenix, Arizona) https://www.instagram.com/p/B7q1RuMHtzM/?igshid=7r38veah4c3r

[brokejasmonkai]

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[slayerofdinosaurs]

People will never love dark and twisty

[fordrebelbitch420]

Sent from NEWS CENTER Maine )

[fa-ee-blog]

gabriella should have just straight up quoted troy right back at his own ass like. 

[shithighandwatch98]

Ποιο το νόημα να μένεις να πνίγεσαι όταν αυτός που αγαπάς έχει βγει στην ακτή; Μην ψάξεις βάρκα, άρχισε να κολυμπάς!

[iheartlhaei]

Me trying to fix my life this semester 🏃🏻💆🏻 #JustGetOverIt (at runaway 🔀)

[opacityofthelens]

I seriously despise the fact that I'm so susceptible to mistrust. I'm already worried about things that shouldn't be a phase. It always makes me think about that "one time" so. fuck you for putting me through that. Make me still feel that way, the hardest lesson I ever learned. It feels forever ago but that's the saltiest wound thrown on replay. That's the major reason the way that I am.

[grif-grif]

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People who say things without actually knowing what they're talking about piss me off to no end.

[a-forger-and-a-point-man]

Aamer Rahman (Fear of a Brown Planet) - Reverse Racism (by FEAR OF A BROWN PLANET)

[v1ctoriaa-secrets]

Let's take a roadtrip somewhere new, and never come back.