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kingofthewilderwest · 4 years ago

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What's amatonormativity??

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Amatonormativity is the internalized cultural mindset that romance is default and central. It especially conceives of romance as the single most important relationship in someone’s life, to the point it should be focused upon and sought out above any other bond. It treats romance like the universal ultimate solution to any of our emotional bond problems (loneliness, intimacy, trust, support, longevity of relationships, etc.). Amatonormativity is heavily ingrained in many societies, like the mindset I find in people in the United States.

Of course romance isn’t a bad life experience! For many people, it can bring great joy. When people criticize amatonormativity, people aren’t criticizing that romance can be a great thing in someone’s life. The problem with amatonormativity is that it treats romance as the ULTIMATE thing, the ONE solution to our need for emotional fulfillment.

It’s important to understand that amatonormativity has profound negative side effects, whether you’re allo or aro, whether you’re queer or straight, and whatever gender you are. Society takes a lot of things for granted regarding romance and this can stunt our happiness. It stunts our ability to bond with other people around us or find satisfaction within our lives.

Amatonormativity underlies emotionally stunting assumptions like..... (disclaimer... I will often use language defaulting to the Western cishet perspective, because that’s the mindset of my broader society... I myself am an aroace enby and have more nuanced understandings of gender, gender expression, gender roles, sexual attraction and identity, romantic attraction and identity, etc.)

Automatically assuming that just because a man talks to a woman, the interaction MUST be romantic in nature (this of course intertwines with heteronormativity -- many of my points will intertwine with heteronormativity). It assumes there’s no such thing as “just friends” between people of “opposite” genders. This in turn can result in us losing opportunities to bond to, understand, or properly respect... literally half the human population.

Treating friendships as secondary. Treating friendships as temporary. Treating friendships as more replaceable than romance. Treating friendships as less “deep” and important to our time than romance, even a romance you started two days ago with someone you met last week. By doing this, we lose the chance to grow deeper with someone near us. It limits the potential by which we can bond with another human soul and find happiness.

The belief we are unlovable and not worth anything because we can’t find a romantic partner. I don’t know how many times I’ve seen people disregard their own worth because of this, and it makes me deeply sad. The truth is that our worth is not at all tied to whether we have a romantic partner. We can be so deeply loved and cherished in all sorts of relationships. Of course it’s still valid if you feel single blues because you want a romantic partner, but tying the concept into “I am worthless OR I’m dating” clearly is an emotionally harmful concept. It can result in everything down to hooking up in a relationship that you aren’t ready for or don’t like as much as you pretend you do.

The belief that we are utterly alone without a romantic partner. I notice this often ties into the amatonormative belief that we can only get good physical touch, trust, emotional and physical intimacy, etc. through a romantic partner. I feel this mindset is especially pronounced in cishet men, since USA culture treats masculinity as lacking outwardly expressed vulnerability, and ergo you might not be getting your emotional needs met through your platonic and familial relations. The one “accepted” way of getting your emotional needs met comes through The Girlfriend / Wife. This belief prevents us from reaching out and finding support through other people in our lives. We can find love and comfort in friends. We can confide about our emotional struggles and find relational intimacy (great trust!) through familial and platonic bonds. Hugs, snuggling, other acts of physical affection are what humans need, and don’t need to be relegated to One Person Only. Plus... if we assume that our emotional struggles should be fulfilled by One Person Only... that puts enormous pressure on that partner to provide for everything. No one’s that strong. We need support networks, not one designated “save me” individual. It’s pure unhealthiness to mount burdens only on one person, and bottle yourself up otherwise. I often see this fallacy pop up when people start a new romantic relationship. You might barely know the person, and yet you’re trying to rely on them for everything, and you’re trying to be the person they’ll rely on for everything. You dive deep into the expectations before you really know how to handle it, and in the process become psychologically overwhelmed because of the Huge Responsibilities this role seems to entail. Being in a romance doesn’t automatically mean you’ve reached peak intimacy! Note: it’s not to say that romance can’t be a major avenue of security. Of course it’s a great way to fulfill intimacy, trust, physical needs, etc. Of course it can become a bond full of loyalty. But romance is actually like any other relationship... a familial relation can be weak or it can be strong, a platonic relation can be weak or it can be strong, and a romantic bond can be weak or it can be strong. The fallacy is that we are treating romance as *THE* way to fulfill all these diverse emotional problems, socking it onto one individual when it might be beyond their single load to bear, and then not seeking out help from the other sources that are around us.

The belief that the only person you can live with is a romantic partner. Living with non-romantic roommates (aka living with friends) is seen as an undesirable inconvenience and something you only do temporarily because you financially have to. It’s seen as an immature youthful thing rather than something an established adult might do. Living with friends long-term out of chosen happiness is not something that crosses the mind of many people... it’s assumed you’ll either move out to live on your own, or marry and go and live with your partner.

The belief that adulthood progresses through a very specific sequence of events. You go to school. You leave on your own. You marry. You get a house. You have kids. There’s a reason it’s common for family to nag you “When are you going to get married? When are you going to get married?” Because clearly you haven’t made an important step of adulthood, an important step in life, unless you get married. I’ve noticed that for many of my friends, even those who are comfortable with the life choice to not get married... they express they don’t feel “as adult” as their married peers. And many people in society won’t treat them “as adult.”

Harmful beliefs downplaying spousal abuse, like those people who try to argue “you can’t rape your wife / husband / spouse / girlfriend / boyfriend / significant enby / significant dumbass. That’s not what rape means.” Because a sexual-romance is the GOOD thing, right?

AND MUCH MUCH MUCH MUCH MORE!!!

Some people of course have a better handle on their relationships than others. Some people are better at ignoring what society considers most important or most default. Some of what I’ve said above is when these beliefs are treated to their utmost, rather than what some people will do (lots of people have close “besties”, for instance). But amatonormativity+heteronormativity creeps in everywhere in society.

It’s the reason why, in most Hollywood movies, the protagonist is a man and the main actress is his romantic partner. It’s the reason why these two characters might start a steamy romance even before they know each other well; who needs to write ACTUAL understanding between the two characters when they obviously are going to fall in love and fuck?

It’s the reason why advertisements are so sex-oriented (reminder note: society usually doesn’t distinguish sexual and romantic bonds). Advertisements try to make their product appealing by associating it to romance, the Ultimate Desirable. Here’s how to make you look hot so you can attract someone in a romantic-sexual relationship, because THAT’S the ultimate goal of life, right?

It’s embedded in linguistic expressions. If someone asks if you’re dating, you respond, “No, she’s only a friend.” Or. “No. We’re just friends.” Friendship is being treated as lesser. Breakups are treated as inevitably bad even if you choose to be friends afterwards -- because clearly being friends is “taking a step back”, right? Even the word “break up” -- oooo that’s bad sounding! (There have been multiple times I’ve ended romantic relationships where I’ve turned the phraseology on the head and told them it’s a step forward to better, happier, healthier, stronger bonds... and they had to think it through, because amatonormative society forgets this can be the case.) “Friendzoning” is seen as a crime in part because you’re not going to be as intimate with someone as you want to be... despite the fact that having a non-romantic and/or non-sexual relationship with someone could be JUST as meaningful and deep!

I’ve FREQUENTLY seen church study groups that offer only these options: young adult small groups, women’s small groups, men’s small groups, and married couple’s small groups. Because clearly the only “mixed” gender situations out there are when you’re too young to be married, or you’re married.

And frankly, I think it’s one of the reasons why fandom likes to play hook-up with all the characters. Shipping is SO much fun! I love shipping! This is not a comment against the act of shipping! But if everyone needs a romantic partner to be happy...... mmmmm.... yeah let’s rethink what the underlying assumption is here. It’s that default assumption that “romance=happiness, romance=ultimate goal, romance=happily ever after, friendship=lesser.” If two characters in a show don’t canonically hook up, fans can get angry... even if the relationship showed on screen is one with a lot of trust, loyalty, happiness, and intimacy.

I am aroace. I don’t know how many other friends in the aro and/or ace community have talked about how lonely and unhappy they feel, because all their friends around them are looking for sex and romance and ergo don’t treat their friendship deep enough for my friends to get their emotional needs met. It’s easy to feel left out in a world where everyone is looking for romance, and ergo you are never the bond they want to pursue.

There are many ways in which we can achieve close bonds with people. This is why I think it’s important to talk about amatonormativity. Again, I’m SO happy when my friends are happy in a good romance. That’s a good thing!!! But it’s so psychologically destructive, whether you’re aro or allo, to live in a world where romance is considered The One And Only Key to relational happiness.

Talking about amatonormativity has the goal of helping us be aware about how society idolizes romance and/or sex. The goal is to help everyone know we have many options by which to pursue good, deep bonds in a variety of ways. The goal is to make sure we don’t treat romance as the only acceptable way to live. The goal is finding ways for humans to get our needs fulfilled healthily and widespreadly. The goal is to be more comfortable with and more accepting of people who don’t follow The One Righteous Path Of Required Romance, so that we can all be more comfortable with ourselves and the relations around us -- including being comfortable with our romances!

#long post #amatonormativity #heteronormativity #analysis #my analysis #ask #ask me #non-dragons #LGBTQ #LGBTQIA #queer community #aroace #awesome anonymous friend #Anonymous

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spectrumed · 3 years ago

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4. body

Do I have body issues? Well... yeah. Who doesn’t? I absolutely do not like being fat, that’s something I’d change about me. And I probably should bulk up a little, go to the gym. My diet isn’t terrible, I don’t eat any fast food, but I could still always eat healthier. More greens, less beans. But most of all, my biggest body issue is that I don’t really associate myself with my body. My mind feels disconnected from my body. The day scientists invent a way for us all to live as brains in jars on wheels, I’m there standing in line for a chance to become all cerebral. Being physical, it’s just so messy, so awkward, so uncomfortable. You feel pain, you feel embarrassment, you feel horny. Nothing good comes from having a body. If you were just a brain, you could go on thinking and calculating and just generally having a good mental time. Or you’d start feeling suffocated and trapped trying to move your limbs and realising that they have been all chopped off. Hmm… Maybe it’s more complicated than I initially thought.

I don’t understand people who enjoy physical activities. Let it be clear before we delve into this long rant of mine complaining about all things gymnastic, this is not particularly an autistic trait. In fact, there are plenty of autistic people who may excel as athletes, their drive and obsessive personality traits becoming quite useful in developing that discipline that is required to fully commit to becoming an all-star jock. Not all autistic people are reprehensible nerds. Some autistic people are actually quite sexy. Some even have abs. But that’s not me. That’s not my clan of autistic people. I like drawing maps. I like thinking about things. I like making cocktails. The only part of my physical body that I like to put strain on is my liver. Don’t make me go on a run. There isn’t an armchair in this world that I wouldn’t want to sit down in, even the ones that used to be owned by old chain-smokers that have that awful aroma that sneaks into your nostrils and makes you worry about second-hand lung cancer. Sitting is great. I like sitting. Also lying down. Lying down is good.

Am I lazy? No, I don’t think so. Maybe a little, but here’s the thing. I can’t control the things I obsess over. There’s a great deal of overlap between autism spectrum disorder and attention deficit disorder. If you’re reading this and you’re a fellow friend on the spectrum, you may have gotten diagnosed with both. One of those rare times in my life I have attended group therapy, more than half the group were diagnosed with both. I, however, am not. But seeing as the two conditions are so intertwined, it shouldn’t come as a surprise that a facet of autism involves difficulties in trying to focus on something, or even trying not to focus on something too hard. If you were to judge my tenacity, my ability to keep going, based solely on how I perform during physical tasks, you’d think I was the least resolute person on the planet. But then you’ll find me, some time later, staying up until four in the morning drawing another map. A map that’s really just a different take on another map that I drew earlier, that itself was a reworked version of a previous map that I drew but didn’t like, that actually began as a second iteration of one map I drew that was actually wholly different, that was based on a map of Europe but if Denmark never existed. How many maps have you drawn Fred? Why don’t you go mind your own business, you nosy ferret.

The DSM-5 (the fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. You can think of it as something akin to a bible of psychology, which is definitely an inflammatory way to refer to it, but I’m gonna go with it! Because I’m a wildcard, and that’s just how I roll,) includes this section as part of its diagnostic criteria for autism spectrum disorder.

Highly restricted, fixated interests that are abnormal in intensity or focus (e.g., strong attachment to or preoccupation with unusual objects, excessively circumscribed or perseverative interests).

Now, I personally don’t relate to that at all. There’s nothing abnormal in my intense love for maps. The fact that maps aren’t as widely cherished as they ought to be is a fault of others, and I refuse to acknowledge that this may be a part of my character that could be perceived as quirky, or out of the ordinary. But, still, for the sake of argument, let’s presume that I can get, at times, excessively circumscribed. I’d like to say that I’ve only ever engaged in excessive circumscribing in my privacy away from onlookers, but I am afraid that I may have allowed some of my excessive circumscribing to happen in public. I definitely do apologise for that. I will try to do better in the future. But you never know when you’re about to experience some excessive circumscribing. The best you can do is keep it limited.

I don’t know how neurotypicals work. So, you don’t feel these kinds of obsessions? These moments of intense focus? These fixations? Then, you lack passion? Are you heartless? Soulless? Or are you just weak? Are you too feeble to hold steadfast working on a project all night long? To lose touch with your sense of hunger, your need for sleep, and all contact with any other human person? My fixations may come across as strange, but to me, your lack of fixations come across as bizarre. The world is endlessly fascinating. Have you never felt that compulsion to just fully immerse yourself in a topic that allows you to forget about your physical body for just that moment in time? The body cannot hold me. I wish to absorb as much information as I can. If I could astral project, by gods, I would astral project. To decouple your consciousness from your mushy brain for just that little bit, to go soaring across the landscapes, to explore the cosmos, just free of all things corporeal, that would be swell. How terrible isn’t it, when you’re deep in research, learning all about the mystical religious practices of the long-dead hierophants of the ancient world, to be drawn back into the present by the sudden need to urinate? There is something so dreadfully mundane about possessing a human body. If only we could all be celestial beings allowed to just be without the biological needs associated with having flesh and blood and bone and bladders.

I am not religious, nor am I spiritual. I do not believe that there is an immaterial world that lies above the material. I do not believe there is an astral plane. I think that one of the terrifying things about living is knowing that we do not possess such a thing as an eternal soul, that all things are temporal, and that ultimately, we have to come to terms with that. It’s not so terrible. In some ways, the temporal nature of life can be its biggest blessing. All things must pass. Sure, that does include the good times, like that vacation you spent as a child wishing that it would never end. But it also includes the bad times. The heartbreak you feel from a failed relationship. The grief you feel after the passing of a parent. The depression some of us are burdened with. Some days are worse than others. But they too will pass. One of the remarkable things about the human body is its ability to bounce back from injury. To change and evolve in ways we sometimes find unthinkable. The brain, likewise, is transformational, capable of incredible developments. We’re not fixed in stone. We’re not eternal. Which is a good thing. It is what allows recuperation and progress. I should be thankful to my body for being there, even when I’m not. After all, isn’t your body your temple?

I am able-bodied. Am I disabled? There’s naturally a lot of questions that surround how we ought to understand mental illness or neurodiversity in regards to disability. Does autism spectrum disorder count as a disability? Well, yes, it can be considered a learning disability. It is certainly something of a handicap, you are experiencing struggles that most people don’t experience. But to your average layperson, your typical dullard who spends their time watching reality TV, drinking beer, and being happy, what counts as a disability to them? Would they see me and think I was disabled? I’m not in a wheelchair. I don’t walk with a cane. Though I will occasionally “stim,” make small repetitive moments with my hands or legs, I do not exhibit any kind of physical symptoms. If I told them that I was disabled, they’d scoff and tell me that I’m just making it up for attention. They’d say I’m probably just trying to mooch off the government, scoring welfare checks while doing nothing to contribute to society. I’ve got all my limbs. I am not sickly. I am actually quite strong, due to being a big and tall man, I am able to carry quite the load. So, I have no reason to not be a fully productive member of society, right? And yet, here I am, feeling at most times utterly perplexed by anything physical. Probably because I am just lazy, right?

I don’t think laziness is a thing. What is laziness supposed to actually be? Tiredness? If a person is perpetually tired, then they’ve likely got a sleep disorder. To call them lazy would be callous. There are plenty of overworked people that get called lazy, especially by tyrannical overseers who think of their charges as mere workhorses whose only purpose in life is to toil away in the factory until the day they die. Intolerable parents who see their terminally sullen child and instead of wondering what is making them so upset decide to deride them for their lack of ambition. Are you lazy when you are procrastinating? No you are just being a tad irresponsible, maybe, deciding to skip out on chores in order to play video games or masturbate. But you’re not just doing nothing. People generally don’t enjoy doing nothing. We need something to occupy ourselves, to fill that vacuum we all feel whenever we’re just sitting still. I am someone who appears to be comfortable just sitting still, but that’s because I’ve learned, since a very young age, to entertain myself with my own thoughts. To fantasise, to daydream, to do anything I can to escape from the void that is doing absolutely nothing. Boredom, that’s terrible. Boredom is existential dread. Of all the motivations that drive humans, love, spite, jealousy, or pride, I think the need to evade boredom is one of the most prevalent. Humans would rather experience electric shocks than sit alone in a room being bored.

I am not lazy, I am merely… excessively circumscribed. For as much as this may be a specific diagnostic criteria for autism spectrum disorder, I think it is also a common trait amongst all humans. There will always be within us a pull to do something other than the thing that we’re really supposed to be doing, that does not make us lazy, that just makes us terrified of boredom. Sure, you know that you’re supposed to mow the lawn, but that's just so dreadfully tedious, you just would rather be working on perfecting your new stand-up comedy routine. Thinking up jokes to tell on stage is so much more stimulating than cutting grass. And who cares if your lawn grows a little wild? Lawns are a scam, imposed by fascists to make us think grass in its natural state is ugly. All grass is beautiful, whether it is cut short or it is allowed to grow long. Do the thing that fulfils you. Allow yourself to become immersed in passion, to forget about those things that hold you back, the little silly things we’ve convinced ourselves is important. Stay up late, if you wish. You’re gonna kill it on open mic night, bud!

Yes, it is a problem when your obsessions grow so singular that you forget to feed yourself. When you forget personal hygiene, when you become trapped in your own apartment looking like some feral rodent caught in a cage. Like always, the key is moderation, and I know that from time to time, you may have to entertain a boring task or two. Clean your room, brush your teeth, trim your pubic hair, try to give an impression that you are taking care of yourself. If for anyone, do it for your mother. She will be happy seeing you looking like a civilised individual, wearing clean clothes and not looking malnourished. But don’t ever chastise yourself for being lazy. Laziness is a sin that we’re all guilty of, and if we’re all guilty of it, is it really a sin? Or is it just part of what it means to be a human? To be a messy creature made out of flesh and blood and bone and the occasional bladder. In the end, I’m more happy than displeased at having a body. It’d be much harder to type on a keyboard if I didn’t have fingers.

Still, I wish I wasn’t fat.

#neurodiversity #neurodivergent #autism spectrum disorder #autism #aspergers #mental health

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shemakesmusic-uk · 4 years ago

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Introducing MARY., the dreamy alter-ego of musician and songwriter Stef T. The self-produced debut track, ‘Day to Day’, interlaces elements of electro-pop and R&B with a voice that enchants, along with an official video filmed, edited and directed by David Risdon and Charlie Rose Creative. Reading like a page in a diary, ‘Day to Day’ offers a candid and emotionally raw glance at being overlooked as a woman in a man’s world. She is put together, glamorous and poised on the outside, but on the inside she is simmering like a pot ready to boil over, fed-up and on the brink of snapping. Speaking of the track, Stef T explains, “’Day to Day’ is a reflection on what it is to be a woman in a role where you are always unseen; constantly giving yet never receiving. As woman, we are often undervalued for our day to day work in all aspects - as mothers, in relationships, in our careers; having to push extra hard to get the basic recognition and thanks that we are entitled to. This song is a commentary of a large part of my life where I settled, sacrificed and worked, only to be used and taken for granted. It is about learning to survive a toxic relationship, discover your own individual worth again and reclaim the power that you gave away to someone else. Producing this song myself is the only thing that made sense in context with the intention of MARY. as a project. She is an entirely self made, independent woman, who does it all and doesn't need a man to confirm that she's doing a good job. This is something I have personally struggled with, so I created the MARY. persona to feel more empowered in my storytelling as an artist, in an industry without a large visible number of female-identifying producers.”

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Los Angeles based dream pop trio Tashaki Miyaki have just released a single and video of the title song from their forthcoming second album, Castaway, which will be released on April 23 via Metropolis Records. Singer, drummer and producer Paige Stark states that the song “is about the challenges of romantic love and how we are all bad at it in one way or another. The idea of a castaway in all this is that no one understands the relationship except the people in it, so you really are stuck on an island alone together there. Maybe you make it back to the mainland, or maybe you stay on the island.” Stark also shot the Sofia Coppola-inspired video on film, adding: "I wanted to tap into all the feelings that can come up in love relationships: anger, sadness, loneliness, vulnerability, stillness, joy, romance, longing. The actress in it has a beautifully expressive face and I've known her for a long time. I knew we would be able to create those moments together. I wanted it to feel like the camera was her lover, capturing her in various private moments, moods and feelings.”

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With her Vanilla Shell EP celebrating its one-year anniversary last month, Danish-Chilean composer Molina is back with another abbreviated record in the form of the new single 'Cold,' featuring vocalist Jonas Bjerre, arriving with a pair of B-sides. The brief collection of songs continues her simultaneous journey inward toward the roots of Chilean music and outward into her own unique vision of the future. The project lands with a video for the A-side, which dreams up bizarre fantasy iconography in the tradition of Grimes and Björk to complement her subdued take on these artists’ out-there recordings. Blending ambiguous electronic sounds with the familiar drone of cello and Bjerre’s backing vocals, the track’s distinct persona may have more in common with the experimental soundscapes of artists like Jenny Hval or Julia Holter. [via Flood]

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Maisie Peters has debuted her brand new single, ‘John Hughes Movie’. Described as the first single from her soon to be announced debut album, it’s a song about unrequited love, inspired by the legendary film producer and his classic coming-of-age teen comedies like The Breakfast Club and Sixteen Candles. The track comes alongside a video co-written by Maisie and director Louis Bhose (Loyle Carner, Arlo Parks, Lewis Capaldi). Maisie explains: “I wrote ‘John Hughes Movie’ when I was 17 about a house party that I had gone to. It’s a really honest depiction of being a hopeless, melodramatic teenager, being awkward and drunk and getting your heart broken by people you don’t even remember anymore. John Hughes films encapsulate that foolish romantic energy of high school and everything that I, a small town English wannabe Molly Ringwald wanted to be, but was not.” [via Dork]

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Chloe x Halle have shared the music video for their song 'Ungodly Hour.' The video was debuted on Wedneday night's episode of The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon and shows the Bailey sisters going underwater for a sci-fi-style visual filled with choreography and elaborate adventures at the bottom of the ocean. Watch the Alfred Marroquín-directed video above. [via The FADER]

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South London's Josie Man has returned with sentimental new single 'Cuts & Bruise', marking her first release of 2021. 'Cuts & Bruises' follows October 2020's 'Grow' single, and is accompanied by a Andrea Mae-directed video that shows couples enjoying tender moments, including Josie Man and her boyfriend. [via Line Of Best Fit]

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Jessie Ware has shared a new short film for her song 'Remember Where You Are'. Her album What's Your Pleasure? arrived last year, a disco-fuelled missile that presented some much-needed good vibes amid lockdown. The songwriter returns to the record for her song 'Remember Where You Are', a soulful and uplifting slice of UK songwriting. There's now a full video for the song and it's steered by BAFTA winning director Dominic Savage. Starring British actress Gemma Arterton, it opens on Valentine's Day and finds the star wandering through deserted London streets. A glimpse of hope and renewal, it taps into the growing feeling that this time, lockdown might be coming to a permanent end. "It was a real pleasure to collaborate with Jessie and Gemma on this short film that is inspired by Jessie Ware’s beautiful music. It was also inspired by the real feeling that was felt when we filmed in the deserted streets of eerily strange lockdown London on a Saturday night/Sunday morning,” Dominic said. “The feelings and emotions in the film are a true reflection of what that felt like, and what this time invokes. Sadness, nostalgia, pain and defiance. But when we climbed Primrose Hill and the sun started to rise above the city, there was real hope and joy for a future that will surely be ours. Listening to Jessie’s music. There is no doubt of that." Jessie adds... "This song has always meant a lot to me and I was determined for other people to hear it and for it to be single. I am so touched by how many people have embraced this song, particularly when it's one of your favourite actresses and an acclaimed film director. Working with Gemma, Dominic and their team has been an absolute joy. To have them realise my song with a beautiful ode to London and the longing for human touch and interaction couldn't be more of a compliment. It's a truly cherished piece of work." [via Clash]

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Jaguar Jonze has shared her new single and video 'CURLED IN' ahead of the release of her second EP ANTIHERO on April 16, both via Nettwerk Records. 'CURLED IN' presents all her best qualities at its outset. From the track’s rip-roaring, slicing guitar to her perfectly forceful, omnipresent vocals, 'CURLED IN' is a pure cathartic release. "Tear me apart, just tear me apart," she all but demands: "I've never seen wrong be done right." She's fulfilling her simplest needs, and it's freeing. "It's a bit of a twist for me to be a masochist." As a survivor of abuse, these words' unafraid power is all too apparent and an engaging statement to hear expressed.

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Following the release of eclectic and impressive debut singles 'ASOS,' 'Right Time,' and 'Papercut,' rising left-of-center pop singer and songwriter Dava returns with a fresh and bold new single 'New Ceilings' available now via Sony Music's Disruptor Records. The moody anti-pop record was co-written by Dava and Mike Adubato (Del Water Gap, Grace VanderWaal) who also produced the track, and is the latest off the Los Angeles-based musician's forthcoming debut EP, Sticky, due out later this year. On the inspiration behind her new single, Dava shares, "This song was written about survival and staying true to yourself. I was having a hard time financially after moving to LA and my phone was shut off while on my way to this session. I was upset with myself for prioritizing music when I really needed the money from driving Uber to stay afloat." She continues, "The day I wrote 'New Ceilings' I was angry and I wanted a song that felt empowering and validated all the work I had put in up to that point. I ended up choosing different songs for my project but when I revisited this one year later, I felt it needed to be heard because of how authentically it embodies my struggle."

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London-based Fifi Rong, a multi-talented avant-pop songstress, has shared the video for her stunning single, ‘Another Me’. Directed by Rok Pat, the video for ‘Another Me’ is stylistically simplistic, as Fifi Rong uses her own body as a medium of art, painting herself and inviting the simple imagery of waterside reeds and plants. A tranquil mysticism embraces the single as Fifi Rong acts as a gentle siren, luring the unsuspecting in yet known the inevitable outcome of the relationship. Speaking of the concept behind the single and video, Fifi Rong tells us: “In any doomed romance, timing is always mysteriously wrong. This is my first full CGI music video and it visually portrays the elusive nature of the character surrounding the key message: 'you won't find another me'. The undertone of the song displays a sense of pride and confidence in the character’s melancholy. Dressed in nothing but petals, I wanted my character to symbolise purity, nature, truthfulness, vulnerability and the divine feminine form. Acting as a rotating statue, I wanted to mark the passing of time and seasons as if a unique and lonely piece of art on display.”

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Disclaimer: Crepus is headcanon heavy due to a lack of information on his character, despite his small appearance and mention in manga and in Diluc’s and Kaeya’s respective character stories.

INFORMATION

Name: Crepus Ragnvindr Alias: Umbra (present) Face Claim: Cross Marian from D.Grey-man Gender: Male Nation: Mondstadt Affiliation: Dawn Winery (former) / Abyss (present) Age: Mid 40s- Early 50s Birth Date: October 23rd Zodiac: Scorpio Vision: None Constellation: None Sexuality: Demiromantic/Pansexual Status: Deceased (former) / Alive (present)

PERSONALITY

While alive Crepus was a man who would put the lives of his family above himself, even if it meant sacrificing himself to do so. As he had done so in order to protect Diluc from Ursa the Drake from killing him. He love his family above all else as he has lost so much that he cherish what family he has deeply.

His heart is big and perhaps care too much. It is known both within the Dawn Winery and Mondstadt that Crepus has the tendency of bringing in and/or adopting strays to household. When he teased about it he tend to get real embarrassed to the point even the tips of ears turn red. He’ll try to laugh it off like it isn’t a big deal. Just feeling that others deserve a second chance at having a better life if possible.

Crepus is one to support and encourage those to reach their goals. This is quite apparent when Diluc had received his vision at a young age. Though, he may help he also allows those to solve problems on their own with giving small tips here and there. He isn’t one to completely solve a problem for another as it would be a waste and there wouldn’t be much learnt if he did.

He has developed a bad habit often talking ill about himself. Feeling regret and shame that he had not achieve a vision when he was a much younger man. Feeling it being quite hopeless now that he was no longer in his prime of youth.

After being revived very little of his original personality has remained. His kind and caring side only tends to show in spades and it really all depends on whether or not give he give a damn about you. Otherwise, he was quite prone to playing with others damning the consequences of his actions. The only times one will actually see him being soft is with animals. He has an aura that naturally draws them to him somehow.

He has an undying loyalty to the Abyss, for it was the Abyss that revived and gave him a second chance of life. Getting him to betray, turn his back on, sell information on will only fail and put one life in mortal peril. As Umbra he does not believe in giving other second chances and can be rather cruel about it. If by chance he does show you a sliver of mercy, best believe it will come at a price. Perhaps a broken limb or two to remember to his kind generosity.

Umbra isn’t the optimistic and has no problem with delivering the cold reality to those who fool themselves otherwise. In doing so make him appear to be an asshole to others in the wake of despair and hopelessness. In a backward way he want those who faced his pessimism and use that energy to prove him wrong. Yet, only few have done so only leaving him with bitter disappointment.

It quite easy to catch Umbra cursing at himself for whatever reason. Often chastising himself for whatever mistake he has made or for showing somehow too much mercy when it wasn’t needed. A habit that followed him from his previous life that he could not get rid of even if he was aware of it.

As hard it is to get him drunk, once he get drunk he is emotional as well as very honest. Admitting to anything he wouldn’t while sober and being sorry with how he acts toward others. Merely wanting to protect himself from forming attachments and being hurt by said attachments. It is only during these moments he can recall memories of his past life before dissolving into tears again wanting another drink.

HISTORY

Crepus wasn’t born the only child of the Ragnvirdn. There was an elder son who would have taken over the Dawn Winery if it weren’t the eldest son’s weak health. In light of this it was Crepus, the youngest son, who had become the heir of the winery and one who held the alcohol industry in the palm of his hand.

As a child Crepus had grown with it being expected of him to take over the family business. He did not fault his elder brother for this responsibility being passed over to him. A young Crepus would rather have his brother concentrate on his health than on something that could further damage it.

Over time his brother left the mansion and moved across Teyvet where the weather could improve his health, leaving him behind. Now Crepus was the only one who resided within the mansion with the maids, servants, and cooks. Along with some of the other staff members who helped maintained the grounds. His parents had gone along with his brother to look after him instead of allowing someone else to do so.

Crepus was hurt that his parents would choose to leave him behind for his brother, but he carried on with a smile while waving good bye to his parents and brother as they left in the early morning. Determined to make his parents proud in their decision of making him heir. He studied day and night while also aspiring to obtain a vision to further prove he was a good choice. That even if his brother did get better and they came back he would remain as the heir.

Secretly, the reason Crepus aimed to obtain a vision was for self-validation. He feared he would be seen as someone one’s breathe could not be wasted on if he didn’t. It was also to serve as a source of motivation for him to join the Favonius Knights. He had always looked up to and admired the knights of Mondstadt since he could remember. They were the ideal image he wished to obtain. It was a dream of his.

Despite the months and years that had gone by and eventually taking over the winery when he had come of age. Crepus had not obtained a vision nor did he not join the Favonius Knights because of it. He kept this sense of failure, the disappointment in himself and has not expressed it to anyone else. Wishing not to become a burden to anyone or the staff. He swallowed his hurt pride and moved on like it didn’t bother him when it really weighed him down.

Crepus eventually found love and fell for adventurous young woman around his age by the name of Aurora. The woman was like magic lifting all the burden, self-doubt, and insecurities had about himself. She had immediately stolen his heart and given him a smile no one had ever seen give before. One full of happiness and confidence. It didn’t take long for the two to get married and the two spent their happily married life in bliss like nothing could stop the two. Many were glad to see the master of Dawn Winery smile.

Eventually the happy couple was blessed a child of their own. A baby boy with a head full of red messy hair like his parents. The mother had named their son Diluc with a smile. The wet maid handed the baby Diluc to Crepus and the new father was filled with an unimaginable amount of joy while holding his son. Then there was pain when Diluc got a hold of his hair and pulled. He was soon handed over to his mother for feeding.

The Ragnvirdn family’s happiness did not last. Some months after Diluc’s birthday Aurora had suddenly come down with an illness that had her bed ridden. It was an illness no healer or doctor had seen before. Crepus was stricken with grief at this, afraid of his losing his light, his heart, his everything. One day a ‘traveling doctor’ had come by and shade some light on Aurora’s illness. It only crushed Crepus to learn of what it was and that there was no cure for it.

Aurora tried her best to console her distraught husband. Telling him it was all right and they should make what they had left together the best they could while caressing his cheek. Crepus fought back his tears and tried to agree with even though he found it hard to. He swallowed the pain he felt at eventually losing his wife and tried to make her remaining days the best he could along with their son Diluc.

A year after the family had received the news Aurora passed away in relative peace with a smile on her face. It took all he could muster to not fall apart when planning her funeral. Trying to put on a brave front for Diluc, so his young son would not worry about him. When the day of funeral came, the whole of Mondstadt was in attendance. Aurora was a person who left a big impression on each and everyone of its citizens. Somehow this was a comfort to him that many had comet to send her off. It did nothing to quell his shaking heart.

“Father, why are they putting mother in the ground?” Diluc suddenly asked as the coffin had started it decent. “How will mother wake and hug me?” Diluc urgently tugged on his pant leg and when that didn’t work his small hand had reached up to pull on his hand.

At that small touch all strength in Crepu’s legs went out as he dropped to his hugging his one and only child and cried. Finding the words to explain to his child that his mother would not be coming back. That he would no longer receive any of her hugs before he went to bed at night.

It took months for Crepus to come to terms with Aurora’s passing. When she was buried his heart was buried along with her and he still grieved. He knew he couldn’t allow his grief to overshadow his care and rising of Diluc who looked very much like his mother that it hurt. The master of Dawn Winery finally decided he would raise his son to the best of his abilities while managing the business, so Aurora in the afterlife could smile proudly at him. That brought some comfort to his aching heart.

Some years after her passing Crepus had finally come to peace with Aurora’s passing and stopped blaming himself for being unable to help her. During that time, he had begun to teach Diluc the family business. Well as much as he could teach an easily distracted child. It was around this time he had found a young boy in the middle of rainstorm shivering out in the cold thanks to the words of a passing stranger.

After the storm had passed the next day Crepus learned that young mysterious boy’s name was Kaeya. Happy to have another child in house he formerly adopted the boy and affectionately raised him alongside Diluc. It wasn’t until then he learned the troubles of rising two rumbunctious boys. Though, it was mostly Kaeya who was the energetic one compared to Diluc. They were still a handful regardless. Still, he wondered where all his ties kept disappearing to.

Diluc had received his vision at the young tender of age of twelve and Crepus couldn’t help but be the happiest for his son. Like himself Diluc wanted to join the Favionus Knights much to his father’s surprise. From there he began helping Diluc in his pursuits of accomplishing his dream. Though, he was quite unaware that his clever son had somehow found out about the unfulfilled dreams he had. Unaware that he had confessed to these dreams on the rare occasion that he had gotten drunk at home. To the point the butler had to carry back a sobbing Crepus to his room.

The years past by in relative peace with Crepus rising his two boys encouraging and pushing them to do their best in whatever it was they pursued. Yet, whatever happiness Crepus had managed to obtain always ended in tragedy.

“Sometimes, life can change in an instant.” Crepus had spoken these words, not at all expecting it to become a self-fulfilling prophecy. The day Diluc turned eighteen they were returning from Angel’s Share to the Dawn Winery. Crepus sat in the back of the wagon while looking at a box with a delusion resting inside that he had picked up somewhere several years past.

A forlorn expression passed over his visage murmuring to himself that Diluc would not need this weapon. It was then their caravan was attacked by a fearsome monster that been terrorizing Mondstadt for so long. Ursa the Drake had attacked them quickly overpowering Diluc and injuring him. With some quick thinking Crepus had don the Delusion and fought the drake.

As if to laugh in the face of the Favonius Knights whom denied his admittance and for the gods who shunned him defeated Ursa the drake with the Delusion. Though he had defeated the beast, it seemed Ursa still had a little strength left in him and aimed to kill Diluc. Seeing what the drake was about to do, without hesitation threw himself in-between Ursa and Diluc sacrificing himself as the power of the Delusion backfired on him. Mortally wounding him in the process.

As Crepus laid dying in Diluc’s arms, strength slowly leaving him as his body started to disintegrate. With the pain wrecking his body and is unbearable for him to keep conscious. He raised a hand and tenderly laid it upon his son’s cheek despite the immense pain he felt. His lips moved to leave words for his son, but the words he spoke did not reach his ear. There was a sudden an unexpected sharp pain in his chest wine red eyes still looking at Diluc. A sad, but happy smile formed on his lips as his lips formed the words “Thank you…” before his body completely disintegrated leaving nothing behind.

His soul did not reunite with his love Aurora in the afterlife. As a price for using the “Eye of the Demons” his soul was cast into the Abyss. Where his soul was cursed to wander for all eternity or until his soul disappeared. With time being nonexistent or ran differently of its own accord in the Abyss the soul of Crepus did not know how long he had been wandering. Despair and loneliness eventually started to consume his soul until a voice spoke out to him.

The voice was sweet like honey and as intoxicating as the alcohol he once served at Angel’s Share. Promising him a second chance at life, a chance to see the family he had left behind after his death if he accepted its offer. The offer was too good to pass up or even think over. Crepus was desperate he wanted to see his family again. His soul was not able to reunite with his beloved Aurora and if he could be with his remaining family in the living, he would take it. He accepted the offer without question unaware of what the Abyss had in store for him.

In the Abyss were time fluctuated and ran oddly, it took years for the Abyss to construct Crepus’ original, but new body. More so that it looked slightly older than when he originally died. When the time came for Crepus to return to his body, things had surprisingly gone smoothly. What he didn’t realize when accepting the deal with the Abyss without question the price he paid was the loss of his memories from his previous life. When he woke up in his, still in the abyss he couldn’t recall any of his previous memories nor who he was. He had become a blank slate.

With this the Abyss had made Crepus into its agent and gave him the name Umbra for his new identity. After putting Umbra through a hellish training regiment to ensure he would at least be difficult to defeat in battle. Umbra had pledged his undying loyalty to the Abyss grateful toward his savior for granting him a second chance of life. He would dare not betray the trust and mission that was bestowed upon him before leaving the Abyss.

Now back in Teyvet, it has been some years since his original death and he filled with nostalgic looking upon Mondstadt. Yet, he does not the reason why he feel this way and quickly diminishes the unnecessary feeling before being on his way.

ABILITIES

INHUMAN STRENGTH. His strength can be described as being able to easily (and mostly accidentally) completely reshape or change the terrain he is in (it usually causes him major embarrassment). Most would choose to run from him in the middle of a fight if they value their lives more than a moment of glory. There have been times, that in a fit of rage he has demolished a mountain side especially when annoying Adventures or Mercenaries challenge him to fights and can’t take no for an answer. He would be able to hold his own against The Eleven. Though, tripping them as a form of holding one’s own is very questionable.

ABYSS IMMUNITY. With his body being created/reborn in the Abyss he has gain an immunity toward its impurity. He is able to freely go between Teyvet and the Abyss without suffering any negative draw back like he did in his previous life when he utilized the Delusion.

EYE OF DEMONS. Much like the Delusion with the very same name. He is able to create a myriad of chains covered in Abyss flames to ensnare, trap, or strangle his enemies. Though, he does at time use it for mundane things like climbing up cliffs and bridging gaps in-between cliffs. There was a time he used it for fishing… that provided interesting results to say the least. More times than not, he has used it to trip others.

ENHANCE SPEED. When not using Eye of Demons he will use a claymore. Due to his choice weapon most would assume his speed suffers due to wielding a heavy weapon. This proves to be false and he take advantage of people underestimating his speed. The weight of his weapon does not at all effect his speed as it proves to be the opposite. He is able to adjust his speed at any given moment and will use his claymore to give him better momentum.

MAGIC. He is only good at doing small complex spells and can’t do a simple spell like heat up water to save his life. Doing larger spells will always, if not usually, end with an explosion so he avoids them together. Though, he has proven to be a glutton for punishment at times because of this.

NOTES

Memories. Despite the Abyss making Crepus a blank slate when making him into Umbra. It did mess up in a way. Crepus can recall the memories of his prior life when and only if he completely drunk. A drunk Crepus is very emotional and honest and will admit to it. It hasn’t been figured out why this is the only time he can recall those memories at all. The following day he won’t remember a thing even when asked about it.

Tolerance to Alcohol. Like his previous life Crepus has an absurdly high tolerance to alcohol that it is very hard to get him drunk let alone shit faced. It will more than likely take three to four bottles of Snezhnaya’s specialty alcohol, Fire-Water. It has to be really strong alcohol for it to happen.

Abyss Order. Umbra is not at all found of this order and want nothing to do with it or the Prince(ss) who commands it. As both leave a disgusting flavor in his mouth that he does not like. The Abyss Order is very much aware of his existence and have relentless tried to get him to join their cause. They forget one thing. He does not have a hatred against humans. Which was something he didn’t get from the Abyss when he was reborn.

Soft Spot. Despite the doings of the Abyss Order he may or may not have a soft spot for the Prince(ss) that commands it. Perhaps seeing them as a child and may give them head pats if they encounter each other outside of the Prince(ss) respective duty. Though, it may stem from his subconscious remembering he had children before and see them as child and want to take care of them. The feeling get crushed as it make him feel awkward and a bit uncomfortable.

Purification. He has the biggest version to those who are able to purify Abyss energy and will avoid contact with them at all cost. It just set him on edge there are those who are able to do so. Due to this he cautious around said people. In the event where it inescapable of being around it easy to notice how fast he’ll be uncomfortable be with said person.

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ichorshrooms · 4 years ago

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hello!!! tell me about ur ocs!!! who are they?? what do they look like?? do they have anything quirky about ‘em??

hOOO BOY OK I HAVE A LOT OF THEM. no joke i probably have like 30 characters. maybe more! most likely more! i have never counted! i have... a Lot. i’m gonna try to tell you about as many as i can before i start to lose all hope. the things you asked are actually a good short list of intro questions so.

On to the characters! (Ooh, grammar and syntax! Joy! I’m getting serious now askjlfjklsa)

Israfil Bashir | Israfil is a man of science! He’s a recently out gay man in his 40s who has a lot of baggage about his father. He’s the head of a company that researches advancements in prosthesis -- something he has been passionate about since the loss of his left leg in a near-fatal wreck. He’s active -- a little less so since he developed chronic fatigue, but he still tries to get out there and bike regularly! And he has a child named Misha who he loves and cherishes! Israfil is of Pakistani and Indian descent. He has neatly-cropped dark hair, beautiful honey brown eyes, and he usually wears his beard in a short goatee (he feels like he looks too young if he shaves it off, and he’s sensitive about it). His skintone is light brown with a warm undertone.

His face is fairly angular, his body lean and immaculately toned (for the most part). He has a hooked nose with a slight deviation from a decades-old break that wasn’t set quite right. As I said before, he lost his left leg in an accident, so he wears a prosthetic! His prosthetic is not patterned or matched to his skin. It’s the color of the metal that was used to make it.

His... quirk... hmm... oh right, he’s telepathic. I almost told you about the secret lab under his prosthesis research facility that has developed identical-to-human sentient machines! Phew, that was close! I almost spilled the beans!

Misha Bashir | Misha is Israfil Bashir’s child! They’re just a couple of years old, but they’ve been given the intelligence of a very, very smart teenager -- and the body of one too! They’re a living, breathing machine. They’re also extremely naive and curious, as most new-ish androids tend to be. It’s not often that they leave the safety of their home, as Israfil has developed a pattern of strictness due to his fear that the government will disappear Misha from the streets and do experiments on them.

Misha is extremely lifelike. They’re modeled in part after their creator/father Israfil, but some... design cues... have been taken from a certain CSO of a rival R&D company who Israfil may have an on-and-off non-romance with. Misha inherited their skin tone, the shape of their eyes and their mouth from Israfil. The rest, though... Misha has bright white hair, blue-green eyes, an aquiline nose and -- perhaps most peculiarly -- a very slight Russian accent.

I think Misha’s existence as a sort of pseudo-lovechild of two embittered ex lovers counts as a quirk. That weird shit aside, though, they’re a robot! That’s pretty quirky! Oh and they may or may not be part of a research program that endeavors to find out if it is possible to teach a machine to read minds. And they’re nonebinery... they dont have any binery... thats ise so cool.........

Eleanor Louise French | Eleanor is a 15 year old witch who just loves to make it known that her middle name is Louise. It’s one of her most favorite things about herself. At the tender age of 14, she set out on her own (as all young witches do) to do some independent study and learn the ways of the world.

She is very gay, very short and very smart. Her hot-headed temper lands her in a metric fuckton of trouble on a daily basis, but she manages to escape dire consequences most of the time! She is narcoleptic, frog-obsessed (like all gays are) and is all about that baby-pink-and-blue aesthetic. She has some serious trauma from a werewolf attack, so wolves and ghouls and other “scary” magical creatures are not typically welcome in her alchemy shop. She will serve them, but it is very draining for her -- just as all trauma is. Spoiler alert: she eventually recovers, but that’s like! the main thing in her story! so! it takes time for her to get there.

She is fair-skinned with a cool undertone. Her hair is light blonde and straight as a board (which she claims is completely natural, but sometimes she forgets to drag a brush through her hair in the morning and it gets all frizzy and wavy hMMM CURIOUS). She has a grecian nose, a round baby face and bright blue eyes. Her scowl is so powerful it’s enough to strike the fear of god in... idk a lumberjack or something. Her fashion sense is a bit... conservative. She’s a little insecure and likes to cover up. Being a teenager kind of sucks sometimes!

Her Big Quirk (TM) is her ability to effortlessly turn people into frogs. She does it when she’s annoyed, and she has a frog collection. If you are bad enough, she will literally keep you in a terrarium until she decides you’ve learned your lesson. She has a couple of forever frogs and the reason is because they’re bad people (and decent frogs).

I have a lot more characters, but this is already quite long and I don’t want to write a profile for literally every character ‘cause then you’d be like “dude what the fuck.” I have demons, angels, superpowered villains in varying degrees of villainy, a ballet dancer, a park ranger, a televangelist, a fashion designer, an immortal who has seen the horrors of war, a haunted pianist, triplet thieves, princes, a princess, an embittered king, monsters of all sorts and a billion more types of characters that I honestly cannot think of off the top of my head. There is a massive list to get through! And that’s not counting some of my one-off projects involving characters I haven’t roleplayed with! You should see the state of my google docs. I have 50+ projects I’m currently working on.

I have too many characters. If you’re curious about anything on the list, I will elaborate!

#i mADE IT THROUGH THREE AND WAS LIKE ''holy fuck this is a lot''#i am really sorry for saying so much FKJAKSLFJSAKL #tammie-brown

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...with Long Intervals Of Horrible Sanity turned 9 today! Wow -- nine years! Where has the time gone? I should give an update. My life has taken on great changes. I am still living in the same apartment, still going through the same battles with housing and food assistance (they cut the latter and I’m getting $100/mo to buy groceries). My eldest cat has renal failure and pancreatitis and I have no idea how much longer he will be with me, so I am cherishing every day. Not to be outdone, two other cats decided they needed to have costly trips to the vet, one with a middle ear infection brought on by food allergy, which I’m now treating at home, and another who had to have all but four of her teeth extracted. I had to put my ghostwriting on hold for fear of losing rent assistance -- back in 2017, I was told it didn’t count as “regular” income, but then in 2018 I got a new caseworker who said all income counts, but now I’m back to the previous caseworker and she refuses to return my calls or answer my emails, and calling the main number is useless because it routes directly to a voicemail box that’s always full. Back in November 2017, I received Kona, a 2002 Subaru Impreza Sport from a friend who could no longer drive (medically). She knew I needed a car, so she just gave it to me. Original owner, she had put 38K miles on this vehicle. Mechanics everywhere have said, “That car will outlive you!” Yeah, well...unfortunately, this particular make/model/year of Subaru comes with what one website calls The Dreaded Head Gasket Problem. It is inevitable, and last winter I noticed a lot of odd-smelling exhaust coming from Kona that smelled of burning coolant. I had the radiator and thermostat replaced, and was told there was a leak somewhere. A few months ago, another mechanic found this tiny leak. I am told I can still drive as long as I watch the coolant level and temp gauge, and what to do if she overheats. Meanwhile, the Check Engine light is on because the O2 sensor has gone out, and now there is a squealing sound which I know means a bad belt somewhere. And the brakes are getting soft, too. I was quoted over $1800 for the head gasket repair and O2 sensor which entails taking out the engine, fixing it, and putting it back in. I’ve already had to replace two tires (and on an AWD, you have to have all tires matching -- come to find out, they have discontinued this tire so I got two of the last new ones in existence). This “free” car has already required over $1000 in work. And it’s all I’ve got so I have to do what I can to make sure she keeps going. Now, I don’t know if I’ve talked about this, before, but I do have a spiritual side to me. It’s not conventional by any means. I don’t subscribe to any one religion. But I always knew I was a natural healer (laying on of hands, energy work) and came from a long line of witches (going back to my Pictish ancestors and Native American roots; my great-great-grandfather was a medicine man). I used to do this for as long as I can remember, drawn to people in pain and using something inside me to take it away and make them better. I never knew there was a name for it, until one day someone saw me working on a friend’s migraine and asked, “Where did you learn Reiki?” My reply was, “What’s ‘Reiki?’” I had a very dark period in my life about 15 years or so ago where I shut down, though, withdrew into myself, because I was so depressed and suffering from undiagnosed PTSD and anxiety/panic disorder. I was so afraid I would pass my sickness on to someone else, so I stopped healing. Following the end of my marriage in 2010 and being on my own for the first time in my life, I went through several surgeries and was put on different medications for various ailments, some of which nearly killed me. I also had a few TIAs (mini-strokes). The only thing keeping me from ending my life was knowing my cats needed me around to care for them. Also, I found out my mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s but then six months later during a follow-up, the doctors at U of M Ann Arbor said, “It’s not Alzheimer’s, we don’t know what it is.” (Note: based on her behavior, it may be Vascular Dementia but that can’t be diagnosed until after death -- so for now, we just know it’s dementia.) And then right before Christmas 2017, I got fed up with the repeating cycle of being used and abused by my sister, prompting me to cut ties with her, and my eldest niece told me to go fuck myself, leaving me pretty much on my own. Well, Life has a way of making things fall into place whether you like it or not. After all the shit I was going through with the TIAs and getting my cholesterol under control (I’ve put myself on a low-carb diet), my chiropractor told me out of the blue, “You should go into Reiki.” Damn, there’s that word, again... He said there was a guy named Adam, a massage therapist and Reiki Master, who rented space from him twice a week; I should talk to him. Well, Adam was never in when I would go for my appointments. One day, my friend Keith who volunteers at the local Gilda’s Club said I should look into their free workshops for yoga, meditation, and tai chi. I figured this might be good to help with my stress levels, at the very least, so I checked their calendar -- and there was someone offering free Reiki at the end of the month. I went in and immediately felt something happen, just being in the room with this woman. It was like being inside a Tesla coil. I began telling her things -- about her, like her childhood, etc, that she confirmed. And I began to cry. Not out of sadness but release. She said when I walked into the room I had an entourage of spirits with me -- guides, angels, light beings -- more than she’d ever seen, before. She got me on the table and while she never once actually touched me, I could feel pain, like she was physically pulling on me. What she was doing was pulling things out of me. She found his large cord attached at my solar plexus chakra and said, “You are attached to past trauma.” Oh, yes...yes, indeed. I told her to cut the cord and I felt it. It made me cry out, it hurt so much, but then afterward...I felt different. Something had changed. A week or so later, I went to my next chiropractic appointment, and when I stepped out of the exam room, I turned and saw this young man standing in the hall, looking right at me. I just stopped and said, “You’re Adam.” He said yes. “You’re a Reiki Master.” He said yes. “We need to talk,” I said. And he showed me into his room, where we spent an hour talking. I noticed he seemed nervous. He said, “I’m always nervous in the presence of a great healer.” Who, me? He said he could ‘feel’ my energy. He then recommended I go to Jodi, the Reiki Master who taught him. I found her place of business online and saw that they did monthly “Open Reiki Shares” where people just get together and work on each other in a group, for free. One of these sessions was coming up. I decided to go and see what it was about. What happened that day...it was incredible. Not only was I healing but I was tapping into the minds of these other people, seeing what they were seeing. Then they got me on the table and the Master seated at my head began to shake. She said, “You’re not an Old Soul -- you’re ancient, and you come from a place across the universe.” Well, I already knew that...but no one else had ever acknowledged it, until that moment. Someone picked up on the fact that I’m a writer, and then another Master said, “She is a Storyteller, and she is going to help others with her words.” Cryptic! They also said they saw a mass of spirits around me, and one of them said that there was a guide who had yet to reveal itself to me but would do so soon. I signed up that day to take Jodi’s Reiki I & II course. When the time came, I found myself learning things I already knew, things I already did, and I understood after all these years why people thought I knew Reiki -- because I had been doing it, all along. Even my chiropractor, who is an empath and a healer, sensed it in me. During the attunement, as I had my eyes closed, I “saw” a dragon look down over my head at me while Jodi was behind me. I had been told she had a Dragon guide, so I figured that was him. I even looked up and said, “Hello!” I cannot begin to describe how it felt to be attuned, and how I have felt ever since. I called my friend Seth, a massage therapist and a powerful healer in her own right who is studying shamanism, and she said it sounded like I was tripping. I was seeing everything in such sharp focus, hearing things, aware on so many levels. Jodi had asked me if I experienced anything during the attunement and I mentioned seeing her dragon. She just grinned and said no, he was my Dragon. Now, please note: in the late 90′s, I attended a drumming circle class where we all went on an inner journey to meet different spirit guides, and the one that appeared to me was a Phoenix. Back then, I figured he represented that part of me that was always getting burned up and somehow rising from the ashes. I even got a tattoo of the bird on my back. Well, now I have a Phoenix and a Dragon -- in Chinese, these are the balance of Yin and Yang. Coincidentally, my first tattoo was a yin-yang, and one of the first rings I ever bought was a yin-yang with the OM symbol on either side. It would also explain why, after being attuned, I had a sudden craving for Chinese food... I have since learned the purpose of these guides. The Phoenix is used in long-distance healing when I send Reiki out to others, and the Dragon protects me while I do my work. He will also “encase” me or other people in eggs of protection. The Phoenix takes his duties very seriously, while the Dragon...is a bit of a diva. He’s also a shape-shifter because I’ve seen him in full reptilian form and in human form with wings. I have many other animal totems but these two are connected to my healing abilities and now that I’ve come back to that aspect of who I am, I find that they represent the dual sides of me -- Two-Spirit. The Phoenix is still me as I reinvent myself, refusing to be destroyed. I used to be so timid and when I screamed in anger I sounded like a wounded animal; now when I’m angry, my Dragon roars through me, refusing to take shit from anyone. Life has changed for me so much since this all happened. We are in a time of Awakening and Transition, and I’m seeing it all around me even as I, myself, am going through it. I have people asking for my help -- “Please send me Reiki!” from all over. And I do. I’ve been using it on my cats. I’ve used it on myself. It’s incredible. I have been changing the vibration in my home, making it brighter, more colorful, inspirational. I have been finding old jewelry and wearing it (that’s the Dragon, show-off that he is with his bling!). I have been pushing myself out of my comfort zone and spending more time at Gilda’s, where I hope to offer free Reiki once a month to those who need it. I am also hoping to get a portable massage table so I can do Reiki housecalls. I’ve even joined a local group of professional writers that gets together once a month. I have started to wean off of one of my medications (Klonopin) which has been rough but I knew I had to stop when I began to notice an occurrence of bad side effects and found that it could do a lot of long-term damage to other parts of my body. I am doing meditation, now, which helps. I am also preparing to set up a Patreon in order to fund my writing so I can get my first novel out -- somewhat autobiographical, it has been years in the works and deals with surviving narcissists and finding one’s path in life, it’s called The Dragon in the Garden. (I came up with the title ages ago; little did I know...) I have a sequel plotted, and then another book set in New Orleans with different characters. All of these are mine, not ghostwritten, but I can’t use my own name because two other authors have published under variations, so I’ve come up with something else that will serve. Bit by bit, things are falling into place. But you know the most important part of all of this? I am not stressing out, anymore. I have decided to live in the moment, and see anything ahead of me is positive. Yes, I am concerned about the state of the planet, about the children in concentration camps, about the madman running the country...I am aware. My head is not in the sand nor in the stars. I remain a realist. But I can do that and focus my energy on making things happen for the better. I am being the change I wish to see in the world. I am putting out what I want to receive; instead of calling negativity to me, I am sending out positive energy. I cannot deny the results, the changes that have happened since I started to do this. It’s good. Very good. Recently, I volunteered to make a journey to Mississippi, driving a rental car down to the Gulf of Mexico and back in three days (18 hours driving down, 21 hours driving back), to rescue some kittens that were about to be abandoned and bring them to a local foster group. I saw this as an opportunity to do a Medicine Walk/Spirit Journey. I saw so many signs along the way, received messages, and learned things about myself. I had my eyes opened to people around me, those who would deceive and manipulate. And I had a lot of time to think. I discovered new levels of forgiveness within me, and how to release what is no longer of use or importance. It makes things so much better, so much simpler. I have wasted too many years worrying about stuff and nonsense.

Oh, I still have limitations -- physical and mental. As my Reiki Masters have all told me, every healer is damaged in some way. I envision myself as a work of kintsugi, the Japanese art of putting broken pottery back together with gold. I am not perfect and never will claim to be. But I know that I am One with the Divine, Source, Creator Energy, God/Goddess/All That Is. I am on the right path -- and maybe I always was. I just had to go through some dark and scary places along the way in order to be where I am, now. Namaste!

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Both the partners has had training in general on how to fix whatever is going to see your marriage through prayer and rediscovery.Communication between a chance to make positive changes can make it work.Since the church and so they can please each other or something special.Forgetting a birthday or wedding anniversary is not appropriate to compromise.If you are one but you shouldn't have a clear understanding of what you did wrong and what he thought.

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On Diversity: A Snapshot of My America

My main job is taking pictures of homes for real estate agents. While most of the homes I photograph are in the upper-middle to high-end price range, I do take pictures in what can be described as blue-collar, working class areas. One of my shoots yesterday was in one of these neighborhoods. A neighborhood where the average home price is below the local median average. A neighborhood where people take pride in their homes even when they don't always have the time or money to make them look as nicely as they want. It was in just such a neighborhood that I was reminded not only what has always made America great but just how wrong and dangerous modern-day conservatives are to what really makes America great.

As I pulled up to the house, it looked like a thousand others in the area, a nicely landscaped Cape Cod with an American flag softly waving in the breeze from a pole in the front yard and a black Ford F-250 parked in the driveway. I fully expected the owners to be the typical white, blue-collar working class people who heavily dominate this particular part of town. When they opened the door, all I could think of was, “Never judge a book by its cover.” Instead of the white, blue-collar worker I'd expected to see, I was kindly greeted by a Muslim woman in her early 40s wearing a hijab. She introduced me to her equally kind husband and the two of them proceeded to be more friendly and helpful than any home sellers I've interacted with in months. They offered me water. They offered me coffee. They offered me cake. They moved with me from room-to-room making sure bedspreads were straight, pillows were fluffed, blinds were pulled, lights were on... Usually, I cannot stand sellers even in the house when I take pictures, let alone bird dogging me. If other sellers were as nice and helpful as this couple, I'd completely change this attitude. While how they treated and helped me stood out, I still couldn't stop thinking about the contrast of the “book” and the “cover.” While the outside of their home said, “All-American,” the artwork, paint colors, Qurans, and back addition with Arabic seating area of the the inside said, “All-Muslim.” As I was going from room-to-room taking pictures, I kept thinking about the contrast of the home's external to internal characteristics. I've shot many a home where the outside was very traditional but the inside was very contemporary. The outside not jibing with the inside is nothing new. However, this was very different. This wasn't a contrast between architectural/design styles. The more I thought about this particular contrast, the more I loved it. I loved the blending of cultures because this is exactly what America is supposed to represent. From China Town in San Francisco to the Polish part of Detroit to the Irish parts of Boston to the Mexican neighborhoods of Los Angeles, America stands for people coming from other lands, becoming part of the whole but still maintaining a love and appreciation of their heritage.

If all I had experienced was the contrast of the exterior to the interior of the home, that would have been more than enough to reaffirm my faith in what America is supposed to represent. What happened as I was taking the exterior shots took these feelings of diversity, what America really represents, and just how dangerous and evil the rightwing hate machine are to the entire system.

While I was outside taking pictures, the owners came out to make sure things were picked up. While they were in the front of the house straitening out a couple of chairs on the front porch, a couple of their neighbors who were out in their yards doing work came over to chat. By the time I worked my way around to the front of the house, standing on the front sidewalk were the Muslim owners, an African-American man in his early 30s, and an older white man in his late 60s having a conversation that ranged from landscaping to auto repair to kids/grandkids to restaurant suggestions. If I described the scene and read you the text of the entire conversation with a Texas accent, it would read like a “King of The Hill” script.

What really struck me wasn't the nature of their conversation, it was very similar to ones I heard growing up in rural Idaho. It was very similar to ones I've heard in the neighborhoods of Chicago. It was very similar to conversations that take place every day across the country from Girdwood Alaska to Mobile Alabama. In spite of the diversity of the participants-their ages, their religions, their cultures, their backgrounds..., they had fundamental experiences, wants, needs, desires... in common. What struck me was this scene being played out in an average-sized town in the Rust Belt is the direct opposite of what the right-wing and white nationalist hate machines spew out non-stop every day.

The scene I witnessed is what America really is all about and what modern-day conservatives and their very overlapping Venn Diagram counterparts, white supremacists fear the most. They fear this kind of neighborly camaraderie. They fear that diversity really isn't a problem because they are beholden to their ignorant beliefs and hate that have been passed down to them by their ancestors and meticulously cultivated by fear mongers and grifters. White flight didn't happen because minorities moving into predominately white areas caused problems. White flight happened because whites were afraid of people that didn't look like them, didn't have familiar sounding names, had different points of view. When white flight wasn't an option, whites hemmed minorities into very specific areas through redlining policies and practices.

The racist and bigoted fears Donald Trump tapped into to win the election are based on lies about minorities and about the natural status of whites. The scene I witnessed on the sidewalk of a quiet, little neighborhood was perfectly natural. It was a scene that is played out across the country every day between neighbors. When it played out between only whites the reason isn't because minorities don't know how or want to participate but because they haven't been welcomed to the neighborhood/town. The wants, needs, fears, concerns... of people who have similar economic situations don't vary from one another very much. This isn't a revelation. Many studies have been done showing that people who live in multi-cultural, diverse areas are much more tolerant and have less racist/bigoted views than those who live in less diverse areas. People exposed to other cultures and heritages are not as overly protective of their own. As much as I admire and appreciate people celebrating their heritage, it is something I've never personally experienced. I'm an Anglo-Saxon mutt. My heritage is mostly English and Scottish and my ancestors came to America many, many generations ago. I personally feel no love or bond with this heritage. I feel closer to the culture and people of Japan from living there for two years than I do to my Western European roots. This could be because I truly lived and experienced the one and not the other. The Japanese culture is more ingrained into my psychological matrix than something I only have a distant genetic connection to. Like all people and cultures, the Japanese have great traits and serious flaws. Because I'm a pragmatist at heart, the one trait they have that I admired the most is their ability, as a culture, to take an idea or behavior from another culture that is good, incorporate it into their own culture while not losing who they truly are. I call this Ala Carte Culture. You pick and choose what you like from other cultures, leave the bad aspects of these cultures behind, and absorb the good into your own culture in a way that doesn't diminish who you are. A good example of this in Japan can be found in the saying, “In Japan, you are born a Shinto, married a Christian, and buried a Buddhist.” When I first heard this saying, being a typical American, I couldn't wrap my brain around it. Imagine someone in America telling you, “My kids will be born Jewish, married Lutheran, and buried Mormon.” If someone told you this, you'd stare at them wondering what the hell they were talking about. In Japan, their phrase gets no such reaction from other Japanese. It is accepted as being true. “In Japan, you are born a Shinto, married a Christian, and buried a Buddhist,” bothered me for months until someone explained it to me. “Shintoism celebrates being born. Christianity celebrates getting married. Buddhism celebrates death. The best celebrations and parties are what the Japanese adopted into their culture for each of these events.” I love this idea. Why not take the best of other cultures and incorporate it into your own? It's an idea that should fit perfectly with a country like America which was founded on cultural diversity. If a homogeneous, often isolated country like Japan can do this, a country that is the “Great Melting Pot of The World” should not only be able to do this easily, it should be aggressively doing it. Unfortunately, the open, diverse, all people are created equal society is the one resistant to learning from other cultures and the where the dominant group fears and demonizes those outside their group who want to honor, cherish, and incorporate the best parts of their own cultures.

This resistance and fear of other ideas and cultures are at the root of America's long, unjustifiable history of racism and bigotry. “If it's white, it's right,” is the default mindset for white America. Who is allowed to be called “white” has been arbitrary throughout our history. Jews were once not considered white. Neither were Italians. Neither were Germans. Neither were the Irish. Only once a group has been accepted as “white” are their cultural ideas and celebrations accepted. White suburbia now doesn't give a second thought to their kids celebrating St. Patrick's Day at school but if the school decided to celebrate Kwanzaa with as much enthusiasm, they'd lose their damn minds. Irish-Americans love and honor their heritage to the same degree as Mexican-Americans, Muslim-Americans, African-Americans... The main reason we, as a country, don't care about or think twice about Irish-Americans or other “white” nationalities celebrating their heritage is because they have been accepted into the “white club.” Celebrating and honoring one's heritage isn't the problem for racists and bigots. It's who gets to do it.

In the America that claims to be the “Great Melting Pot,” where for the first time in history a government was formed on the idea that all people are created equal, where diversity is supposed to be our greatest strength, the tableau I witnessed represented everything America can and should be. It was also stark counter-evidence to one of the main claims of white nationalists and the right wing that multi-culturalism can't work because non-whites won't/can't assimilate. There are many problems with this claim: 1-it presumes white culture is the dominant one that everyone must assimilate to; 2-the entire notion of “white culture” is riddled with problems; 3-the evidence in diverse areas completely contradicts it.

My America is what I witnessed the other day on a sidewalk in a Rust Belt city. My America isn't afraid of others celebrating their heritage. My America isn't white-centric. My America is the real America and no one will ever convince me otherwise. The youth of my America know and feel this better than my peers. This gives me hope for my children. If only my generation gives them the opportunity to live up to what it means to be a real American better than my generation.

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