#matthew perry had such a hard life

[himalayaan-flowers]

so many people adored Matthew Perry,

in the uk 200 funerals a month are unattended

[chainofclovers]

Being a human is literally like this weird combo of being okay and not okay that goes on forever except there is also death

[dylanconrique]

if you really love matthew perry, please read his memior. he's not a profound writer by any stretch, but... it's his life story.

[spirits-having-flown]

“matthew, it is with heavy heart i say goodbye. the times we had together are honestly among the favorite times of my life. it was an honor to share the stage with you and to call you my friend. i will always smile when i think of you and i’ll never forget you. never. spread your wings and fly brother, you’re finally free. much love. and i guess you’re keeping the 20 bucks you owe me.” - matt leblanc

“i am so grateful for every moment i had with you matty and i miss you every day. when you work with someone as closely as i did with matthew, there are thousands of moments i wish i could share. for now here's one of my favorites. to give a little backstory, chandler and monica were supposed to have a one night fling in london. but because of the audience's reaction, it became the beginning of their love story. in this scene, before we started rolling, he whispered a funny line for me to say. he often did things like that. he was funny and he was kind. 🤍🕊️" - courteney cox

“oh boy this one has cut deep... having to say goodbye to our matty has been an insane wave of emotions that i've never experienced before. we all experience loss at some point in our lives. loss of life or loss of love. being able to really sit in this grief allows you to feel the moments of joy and gratitude for having loved someone that deep. and we loved him deeply. he was such a part of our dna. we were always the 6 of us. this was a chosen family that forever changed the course of who we were and what our path was going to be. for matty, he knew he loved to make people laugh. as he said himself, if he didn't hear the 'laugh' he thought he was going to die. his life literally depended on it. and boy did he succeed in doing just that. he made all of us laugh. and laugh hard. in the last couple weeks, i've been pouring over our texts to one another. laughing and crying then laughing again. i'll keep them forever and ever. i found one text that he sent me out of nowhere one day. it says it all. matty, i love you so much and i know you are now completely at peace and out of any pain. i talk to you every day... sometimes i can almost hear you saying "could you BE any crazier?" rest little brother. you always made my day... ❤️🕊️” - jennifer aniston

“matty, thank you for ten incredible years of laughter and creativity. i will never forget your impeccable comic timing and delivery. you could take a straight line of dialogue and bend it to your will, resulting in something so entirely original and unexpectedly funny it still astonishes. and you had heart. which you were generous with, and shared with us, so we could create a family out of six strangers. this photo is from one of my favorite moments with you. now it makes me smile and grieve at the same time. i imagine you up there, somewhere, in the same white suit, hands in your pockets, looking around— "Could there BE any more clouds?” “ - david schwimmer

“shot the pilot, friends like us, got picked up then immediately, we were at the nbc upfronts. then... you suggested we play poker and made it so much fun while we initially bonded. thank you for that. thank you for making me laugh so hard at something you said, that my muscles ached, and tears poured down my face every day. thank you for your open heart in a six way relationship that required compromise. and a lot of "talking." thank you for showing up at work when you weren't well and then, being completely brilliant. thank you for the best 10 years a person gets to have. thank you for trusting me. thank you for all I learned about grace and love through knowing you. thank you for the time i got to have with you, matthew.” - lisa kudrow

friends cast remembers matthew perry 🤍🕊️

[astroismypassion]

Astrology observations 🦊🦊🦊

Credit goes to my Tumblr astrology blog @astroismypassion

🦊Libra Chiron, Venus Chiron aspects and Chiron in the 7th house often experience pressure from parents when it comes to partnerships. They might have parents that had a hand in coming together with their partner in union, marriage. I'm not saying these people experience an arranged marriage, we should look for other aspects for that, but whenever the native is in a serious partnership, the parents might pressure them to get married, they are rooting for it to happen.

🦊Mercury Chiron people along with Chiron in the 3rd house feel like they were never chosen when it comes to friendships, partnerships. They were the last picked on soccer team or for a team project. Therefore these people often want to have more variety, they desire more people around them that they can choose from.

🦊Neptune square Chiron people often don't like their feet, the shape and how they look.

🦊Libra Chiron and Chiron in the 7th house often have the feel like partnership is something hard to come by.

🦊Pisces and Sagittarius Chiron have tons of hobbies, because they often feel like they lack rich "inner world". So they need a lot of hobbies to fill them. They might think about themselves that they are not really that imaginative.

🦊Jupiter positive aspect Juno often have a person that they met when young and stay in touch throughout life for many years.

🦊Ascendant negative aspect Ceres often come across as they simply don't care even when they actually do. They need to work hard to overcome their tendency to micromanage too or giving opinion when is not asked for. These people often come across as not caring enough, so they end up overdoing it to the point of being overly sweet with compliments or little gifts. They might be tempted to buy affection of a person.

🦊People with Sagittarius Ascendant (Gemini Descendant) might often attract a partner that ends up looking more like their sibling or a cousin rather than a partner. One example of this happening in real life is Madeline Argy (Sagittarius Ascendant) and her former partner British rapper Central Cee (Gemini Sun).

🦊Boyfriends of a Virgo Sun often end up looking very boyish or have this teenage charm, like they look pure, angelic and young.

🦊I often find in same Sun couple (for example both are Capricorn Sun) that one of them has Libra Juno. They are looking for the same version of themselves basically.

🦊People with Scorpio South Node need to learn in this lifetime that not all of people in their inner circle of friends, family and romantic partners deserves their time, energy and affection.

🦊Virgo Jupiter and Virgo over the 9th house natives might feel anxious about engagements and marriage. They have this back and forth thinking about marriage, one day they are up for it, other days they are more anti marriage. Also, these people could feel like their in-laws are hot and cold or two-faced with them. One day they get along really well with them, the next day they might be more ignorant. You could travel with your in-laws too. You might also work with your in-laws, like being part of family business.

🦊Mercury in the 12th house, Virgo/Gemini over the 12th house keep their room, home soo tidy. Like they can't fall asleep if there are still dirty dishes in their kitchen.

🦊Actor Matthew Perry from Friends had so many addiction indicators in his Natal chart is unbelieveable, such a concentrated chart.

🦊I noticed in romantic Composite charts that Libra over the 12th house often points to the fact that the romantic connection, partnership might not flourish, happen. Because there is this feel that both STILL don't know each other well. There is so much confusion between both with this placement. A lot of misunderstandings, miscommunication or misplaced expectations.

🦊That person you had feelings for, but never confessed? You might have Composite Pisces Moon with this person.

Credit goes to my Tumblr astrology blog @astroismypassion

[bowie-boy]

I want to put my feelings SOMEWHERE and I think here might be the best place.

Middle school and high school were hard as fuck for me. I was deep in the closet, unable to be myself anywhere except for around my closest friends. I had so many dark days, and there were very few things that kept me up and around.

One of those things was Friends. One of those things was Chandler Bing. I saw myself in him in a way I couldn’t describe. Whenever I had a problem, I looked to Chandler. He gave me laughter, advice, or at the very least, a sarcastic comment. Even today, when I find myself struggling, I think of Chandler and try to put myself in his shoes. If he can grow, I can grow too.

I had the privilege of listening to Matthew Perry speak this past April. He talked a bit about Friends and his regrets about the parts of it that haven’t aged well. As a trans person, that meant a lot to me. But most of all, I was moved by his honesty and his strength. He talked about how thankful he was to be alive, and how, despite the fact that every day was a struggle, he was making it through. I will never forget his words: “Life is an acquired taste.”

On my darkest days now, I think of those words and of Matthew Perry. It’s so rare to see a celebrity who admits to their faults, or even one who discusses addiction and mental health as openly as Matthew Perry did. He was not a perfect person, but I found so much solace from his very presence in the world.

Matthew Perry, thank you for all you did for me and many others. I can’t express my sadness at your loss, but I hope that in the next life, you find the peace you could not find in this one. You will be greatly missed.

[justforbooks]

‘Chandler Bing,” wrote Matthew Perry in his puckish, self-mocking memoir, “changed the way that America spoke”. The actor’s bold words were true – but only up to a point. Yes, there was a period in the late 1990s when people overemphasised the verb to comic effect: “Could that be any more annoying?” But that was really more of a verbal tic. The Matthew Perry/Chandler Bing paradox was that he demanded not to be taken seriously, and in doing so, became the ego ideal of generation X, which is a pretty serious job. So even though he had – no question – the best lines in Friends, he was never what he would have been in an earlier era: the sidekick.

So much of the plot structure rested on Chandler being the second string: the maladroit loser to Joey’s lothario, the joker skating beneath Ross’s romantic gravity. He was never intended as the leading man. He and Monica were never story-arced to get married. The One With Ross’s Wedding: Part 2 was meant to just be a one-night stand. Friends co-creator Marta Kauffman said years later: “We thought it was going to be funny, then we were going to get rid of it.” In the event, they actually had to stop taping because people in the delighted audience were screaming.

Of course Chandler was the romantic lead. His was the spirit of the age: self-deprecating, metrosexual, all ironic distance, no ambition. It had a gravitational pull. It’s the classic stuff of romance, the Emma plot: the guy who creeps up on you, because, duh, he’s everything. Except Chandler did that to his own creators. Incidentally, he’s a way better character before he gets together with Monica. And he’s a way better character when he hates his job. The unfolding of adulthood was like kicking two legs off a stool. Gen X is a shadow of itself when it grows up.

Perry always said how much like his character he was, to the extent that when he auditioned for the role, he went completely off script and just started delivering more material: he wrote 10 jokes for every episode, and reliably got two in. His particulars were telling: an only child whose parents divorced when he was one. His real-life dad was an alcoholic, later recovered, an actor, but small-time. His mother was press aide to Pierre Trudeau, the Canadian prime minister. Before Perry developed acting ambitions he was an obsessive tennis player, nationally ranked in Canada by the age of 14. He discovered drinking around the same time and was, he wrote, “a broken human being” by 15, when he moved to Hollywood.

The great mystery of Friends is why none of its players made much cinematic impact beyond its enormous influence – and this was truer of Perry than of anyone. He turned in completely fine performances in unremarkable films: Fools Rush In, Almost Heroes, The Ron Clark Story. He co-created and co-wrote the TV series Mr Sunshine in the early 2010s, but it lasted only a year before low ratings killed it. It is possible that the residuals model sapped everyone’s ambition: Warner makes a billion dollars a year from syndication reruns, of which the cast get 2% each. That’s $20m (£16.5m) apiece.

More important but harder to quantify was the cultural effect of Friends: people really fell for those characters, hard. All six of the actors had the world at their feet, but nobody really wanted to see them step out of role – because it broke the spell. It is impossible to overstate how seriously we all took it, when Jennifer Aniston married Brad Pitt. It was as if Rachel herself had achieved the unthinkable, a Little Mermaid move where she crashed out of the ocean and brought the fairytale into real life.

Perry’s romantic history was, of course, chequered, which is to say, eventful, but nothing lasted. The details of his relationship with Julia Roberts are so 1990s, it is unreal: he wooed her by fax (yes, kids, this was a thing). And Perry dumped Roberts to avoid getting dumped himself, he said later, relaying deliciously: “I can’t begin to describe the look of confusion on her face.” It was a move that had all the logic of Chandler Bing himself.

Back then, we would have called Perry a commitment-phobe, but what he actually was was a drug addict. The story of his dependency is told through his changing appearance in the passing seasons of the show: “heavier” when he was drinking, thin when he was on drugs, thin with a goatee when he was on a lot of drugs. The rest of the cast protected him when he was too gone to deliver his lines, and tried to intervene many times, having guessed at only a tiny fraction of his substance abuse.

It is incredible, really, how long he survived, plausibly playing this character who may have started life so similarly to Perry himself, but diverged in one critical way: like all the Friends characters, his was almost impossibly clean-living. It never really made sense, all the high jinks they got up to, powered only by coffee. It was very much generation X, the US edition: such a show in the UK would have had at least one very heavy drinker, and Central Perk would have been a pub. Perry was its guilty secret, the One Who Wasn’t Really Very Like His Character at All Any More, and he was powerfully aware of that.

That 2022 memoir, called Friends, Lovers and the Big Terrible Thing, concluded with a thankful utterance that was no less credible for being obligatory in a recovering addict: “At this point in my life,” he wrote, “the words of gratitude pour out of me because I should be dead, and yet somehow, I am not.”

Perry’s entire adult life was plagued by addiction. Telling his story in numbers, he estimated that he had been in twice-weekly therapy for 30 years, checked into rehab 15 times, and attended more than 6,000 AA meetings. He had numerous other health crises, including a perforated colon in 2019 that put him in a two-week coma. “So full of shit it nearly killed me,” he said of the event.

But in a pre-opioid world, he would have just got clean, eventually. Maybe he wouldn’t have made old bones, but he wouldn’t have died this young, not at 54. He should have had a longer sunset. His death feels tragically discordant – an unjust end to a life lived in the service of the punchline.

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[stephstars08]

🤍Happy Heavenly Birthday Matthew Perry🤍

It’s still so hard to believe that you aren’t here celebrating your birthday with your friends and loved ones. If you know me, you know that F.R.I.E.N.D.S is my all time favorite show. I watch it every night before I go to bed. I’ve seen every episode probably a thousand times and have always laughed at every joke a thousand times as well. Yes, Matthew will always be remembered as Chandler Bing one of the best characters of all time but Matthew should also be remembered as a solider. He should be remembered as a fighter because his whole life he fought. He was honest and never got shed away from talking about his past struggles with alcohol, drugs, and mental health. He had his ups and downs but he always made sure that he was putting a smile on other people’s faces. He loved making people laugh and yes we should remember him for that, but we should also remember him has an inspiration. We should remember him for sharing his story and inspire others to quit drinking and doing drugs. He wanted to inspire other people that it’s okay if you aren’t okay. He deserves to be remembered as a person who just wanted to help and inspire people to not going through with what he been through.

Matthew, you’ve been taken from this world far too soon and you didn’t deserve what was put upon you. I just want to say thank you for Chandler Bing and thank you for inspiring not just me, but a whole fanbase of people that love you and will always miss you. Thank you for being a friend, and thank you for always making me laugh and smile.❤️🪽

[ghostradiodylan]

What type of music would the counselors listen to?

I know some of my mutuals have answered this question before and I'm sure my headcanons will be influenced by theirs, AND I'm also significantly older than the counselors so they're probably listening to gen z stuff my late millennial ass doesn't even know about but here goes nothing!

Laura So much SIØBHAN! Just kidding. Laura feels like two completely different characters in the game so I have a hard time deciding what I think spunky but straight-laced, ‘this is my first cop,’ over-achieving pre-vet student Laura Kearney would listen to vs badass avenging murder spree Laura Kearney (but maybe she always had that inside her). Part of me wants to say, like, 80’s pop (Prince, Blondie, Tiffany, Michael Jackson, Pat Benetar, etc.) and part of me wants to put her in the hard rock/metal zone with Ryan. Maybe she’s a bit of both.

Max I believe it was Addie (@insertlovelyperson) who said Max would listen to country music where women murder their cheating or abusive husbands. That tracks to me. Maybe it's the use of Alma Cogan's version of 'Fly Me to the Moon' in the game, but I also tend to associate him with crooner type singers of the 40's and 50's (Frank Sinatra, Perry Como, Dean Martin, etc), which is what I said he'd choose for karaoke. And because of this fanart I have no choice but to HC him as a major Ariana Grande fan, he's probably the one who chose the music for the drive to camp. So. Max has range.

Abi is the K-Pop/J-Pop stan to me but I know so little about that music beyond the crossover bands like BTS that I can't speak to it a whole lot. I think she'd also like some emo, pop-punk and moodier alt/pop. Avril Lavigne, Paramore, Melanie Martinez, Florence and the Machine, Metric, Lorde, Halsey, Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Billie Eilish, Phoebe Bridgers/boygenius, etc. I feel like she's really into female fronted bands for some reason.

Jacob likes pretty much whatever is on the radio. He's a top 40 guy and has no shame about his enjoyment of Ed Sheeran and Justin Beiber, or about ugly crying to Taylor Swift and Coldplay. He rarely listens closely to the actual lyrics (and often gets them humorously wrong), he just goes on vibes. He discovers half the music he listens to via TikTok (not that there's anything wrong with that).

Emma is a theater kid through and through and loves broadway musicals. She goes through phases with each popular one. She's had a Waitress phase, a Mamma Mia phase, a Wicked phase, and a Hamilton phase, of course, and now she's into Mean Girls, Heathers, and Hadestown. Beyond that, I think she'd be a dedicated Swiftie, big Adele fan, and a lover of Britney Spears's entire body of work from the 90's through today.

Nick probably listens to stoner bro music. Like jam bands and psychedelic rock and stuff. He probably likes Dave Matthews Band and the Grateful Dead/Dark Star Orchestra, Sublime, Widespread Panic, Tame Impala, and O.A.R. Googling jam bands to remind myself which ones exist led me to the knowledge that there's an Australian psychedelic rock band called King Gizzard & the Lizard Wizard and that name is so bonkers that I've decided without listening to more than a few bars that it has to be Nick's favorite band.

Ryan is a little bit emo and a little bit goth and a little bit old school punk. He needs music that's loud and moody to help sort out his feelings about life and drown out all the excess noise inside his head. He's into metal, the harder side of emo/screamo, goth rock, hard rock, punk, and post-punk. He definitely listens to Nightwish, GOJIRA, Mastodon, Lacuna Coil, Linkin Park, Rage Against the Machine, Bauhaus, Joy Division, Nine Inch Nails, Deftones, Thursday, Alkaline Trio, My Chemical Romance, AFI, Bad Religion, Black Flag, Minor Threat, The Misfits, Ramones, etc. He doesn't hate more accessible pop and rock music, but the closest he gets to choosing it for himself is probably something like The Cure or The Smashing Pumpkins or Depeche Mode, maybe some of the creepier Weeknd songs and Muse tracks too heavy to go on the Twilight soundtracks. He and Abi listen to Babymetal together.

Kaitlyn classic rock and 90's alternative. This girl likes the Stones more than the Beatles, though she'll listen to both. Led Zeppelin, Joan Jett, Pink Floyd, The Doors, Black Sabbath, the occasional hair band. She especially loves the 90's girl rockers like Alanis Morisette, Garbage, Hole, Veruca Salt, and No Doubt (Kaitlyn can't believe Gwen Stefani is married to pop-country dork Blake Shelton who sings that song about being your honey bee, because Gwen used to be so cool [I'm definitely not projecting]). I feel like she'd also love Bikini Kill and Sleater Kinney, Le Tigre, and The Donnas.

Dylan is the Music Guy ™ (and my personal bias/url namesake), so I've admittedly thought about his musical tastes more than most of the others'. The official Quarry website mentions his 'deep musical knowledge' and I imagine he has pretty broad views on what constitutes good music. He's got kind of a vintage vibe to him, maybe it's the reproduction band shirt from 1988, or the fact that he's into analog technology, or both, but I've noticed he's often depicted playing Queen or Bowie or something of that era in fics, which I think is realistic. This kid goes to the used record store and just buys whatever looks cool.

Fun Fact: According to the datamine, the chapters originally had literary or musical quotes at the beginning of each, and Chapter 5: White Noise (the radio hut chapter) was originally headed by the opening lyrics from Queen's 'Radio Ga Ga':

He's also the only character we see play music in canon, so we know he likes... songs from random compilation albums with inexpensive royalties. XD Just kidding, but these are the diegetic (in-universe) songs we get to hear from Dylan's playlist at the bonfire party:

All pop music of varying subtypes, so we know he appreciates a well-crafted pop song. I honestly am a fan of all of these. I think Dylan genuinely listens to everything but he seems like the type to especially like alt and indie pop, classic rock, garage rock, a bit of the more melodic side of punk, emo, and pop-punk, new wave, synth pop, electronic, and a little bit of hip hop that’s sufficiently nerdy white boy friendly (probably Beastie Boys, Run the Jewels, Post Malone, emo rap like Blackbear, etc). I also tend to gravitate towards early-mid aughts indie for him, like MGMT, Arctic Monkeys, The Strokes, OK Go, LCD Soundsystem, etc. Just seems to match his vibe. I think he'd really like BØRNS, Hozier, COIN, Mitski, and K.Flay and probably have a fair amount of overlap with Ryan's more melodic picks (MCR, Muse, The Cure, etc). Dylan probably hates Morrissey but begrudgingly loves The Smiths and definitely cranks up The Killers in his car. He’s also listening to bands right now that you’ve never heard of but will be huge in a couple years. He can probably tell you the difference between subgenres like chillwave, dream pop, and shoegaze but don’t ask me about it because I have no fucking clue.

Since we’re on the subject, here’s my absurdly long and ever-growing Rylan/Radioheads playlist because I have a problem.

And my Sweet Summer Jams playlist, that’s just a bunch of random songs I think would be clean enough to play at a summer camp as long as the kids/your boss don’t ask too many questions.

[allycat75]

You need help, Boston Dumb Fuck.

I feel like I have said this all before, but more people are also noticing you don't look well so here I go again.

We have all seen the overkill drops of the behind the scenes set photos for this nothing movie you are working on and the only thing I am getting is a cry for help. I don't want to keep comparing you to Matthew Perry, when he was super thin and clearly in trouble, and no one said anything. But we all know how the long hard road ended for him, though.

Too many people are excusing your phisical transformation by saying you are just naturally slender and pale and I get that. No one expects you to be in Captain America shape forever. But look at you in The Gray Man- ironically, angelically pale and slim, and alive with a gleam in your eyes. Even the behind the scenes footage had you active and engaged, and your whole body smiled. This is different. Much different. Scary different. Or the other excuse I love is "At least he looks better than yesterday" (because of course we have a dump of meaningless pictures everyday for comparison). All I hear with that is "At least he is a few feet further away from destruction than he was before".

People can say I am crazy, that this is parasocial and I hope to God I am wrong and you are super happy with this phase of your life. But I have two eyes, a brain and a heart and I know that isn't so.

Hollywood is not known for its sensitivity and there are too many dead bodies covered in "I had no idea they were struggling" quotes, even though the cries for help were obvious. So once this botched PR, phoned in CAA clusterfuck power grab of a movie is finished, please get some serious help. Consider an intensive rehab of some sort. We all know you don't tolerate pot well and I would not guess what else you may need, but consider any other substances you may have been using to cope and dull the pain of being forced to trade everything you thought you were and wanted for a useless bag of beans, a possible eating disorder that may have developed, emotional (or any other) type of abuse, that self hatred that could have devolved into self abuse... Whatever it is, grab it by the reins and take back control.

Because if you don't, once you get deep on this road it will take more and more effort to try to get back from it, or just fall off completely. We have seen too many good hearts just topple over the side because they couldn't hold on anymore.

This is your life and you don't owe anything to anyone in the industry or even in your personal life. You have given your soul and that is already too much.

I know he will never see this, but in case one of the trolls working on his behalf, who has a conscience, sees this and wishes to save a life, perhaps you could take these sentiments to someone who could do something to rectify this catastrophic situation his team (and himself) have put him in, that would be much appreciated. Thank you.

[cherrylng]

Bad Taste Fashion!? [STYLE Series #004 - Muse (August 2010)]

Be more outrageous, or be stylish! Learn the secrets of extreme fashion from the pioneers of the UK rock world

Text: Yoko Shintani

In 2009, Muse became a regular at music events. They have been lauded everywhere, from the Q Awards to BRIT, where they won the prestigious “Best Artist in the World Today” award, to being listed as one of the nominees for “Worst of the Best.” The problem was, of course, Matt Bellamy's fashion sense.

Although he narrowly missed out on the award, he was in the running for “NME Awards' Worst Dressed” along with Liam Gallagher, Ellie Jackson (La Roux), and Katy Perry (the winner was Lady Gaga). While his love of fashion is evident, both on stage and in his personal life, his taste is risqué . His taste for light, red, white, or high-contrast coordinates such as red and white or black and white, tailored jackets, uniform designs, sporty and cyber-inspired details, and thoroughly super-slim shapes……. None of these tastes are weird on their own, but when they all come together on a matte canvas, they present a strangely strong and cloying bad taste, which is a sad state of affairs. Incidentally, at the “NME” Awards ceremony, he wore a black-and-white polka-dot shirt, a silver-grey suit, and a hot black-and-white tweed coat over it. He must have really liked it since he wore the same coat to last year's “Q” Awards ceremony. However, wearing the same coat twice at an awards event is a total no-no.

However, the British rock scene, which has been led by art school graduates, has always had a taste for the kind of sleaze that makes it impossible to determine whether it is stylish or grotesque. Looking back over the past 40 years or so, it goes without saying that the 70s stand out in terms of sheer eccentricity and ferocity. With glam rock and the two stars of the scene, Marc Bolan and David Bowie, the boundaries between men and women quickly blurred, and all the rules of Western male dress were broken down, with hair and makeup becoming completely unisex. Bowie, in particular, actively collaborated with Kansai Yamamoto and other designers to create an even more out-of-this-world image by playing the fictional character “Ziggy Stardust.“ On the other hand, in Roxy Music, which was also a leading glam rock band at the time of its debut, it was not frontman Bryan Ferry but Brian Eno, who was in charge of synthesisers, who experimented with outlandish fashions.

“Dom and Matthew at the NME Awards ceremony on 24 February 2010. While Dom is neatly dressed, Matthew wears a tweed coat with a slightly different length and broader shoulders, a half-size grey suit, and a polka-dot shirt that is out! The magnetic necklace-like chain and the Aki at the collar are also out of step with current trends. The coat seems to be his favourite, and he wears it to the Q Awards ceremony as well as when travelling to and from the Big Day Out. His hair is a bit flat, and his shoes are a bit off-putting, giving off a sense of carelessness but also a strong sense of commitment. pic: Dave Hogan / Getty Images”

He wore a kimono-like dress that would put Bowie to shame, or was adorned with feathers and lamé, and stood on stage in a manner that is hard to imagine from his recent appearance as a master producer. Speaking of unimaginable nowadays, Peter Gabriel of the Genesis era, who belonged to the progressive rock music genre, was another example. He borrowed his wife's long dress and other outlandish costumes from the neck down, but his head was particularly striking, and his “flower” costume with flower petals surrounding his face is perhaps the most famous. Other than that, he was also good at wearing alien makeup that looked like it came out of a sci-fi movie, or wearing a stuffed fox's head on his head……

Another person who should not be forgotten is Elton John. Although Elton John has come out and is now enjoying dressing up openly, at the time he was venting his repressed sexuality in a fashion that was a comical interpretation of glam. And Queen, who had a huge influence on Muse musically, reigned as the leader (!) of rock fashion in the post-glam era. The late Freddie Mercury, in particular, tried his hand at many risqué styles, such as jumpsuits, ballet tights, bare-chested and sleeveless, etc……

Later, with the rise of punk, UK rock once again became stoic, but regained its splendour in the 80s. The New Romantic & Goth era had arrived. Although the two groups have contrasting tastes in colour, with the former using extreme colours and the latter monotone, they share the same androgynous fashion orientation, with glam rock as their main source of inspiration. From Culture Club and Adam & the Ants to Siouxsie and the Banshees and Alien Sex Fiend, each eccentric artist heralded the end of the century. The visual and sonic tastes of that era are, as we all know, undergoing a major revival, with young pop stars such as Adam Lambert, Lady Gaga, KE$HA, and others all looking to Bowie, Queen, and Boy George as role models. Without them, the world would be a very boring place!

Therefore, Matt's bad taste is also adorable when you look down the lineup of UK rock's most eccentric dressers. And in his case, it is his personality, the reset, the lighting, and the music that is the star on stage, not what he wears that matters so much to his fans. And yet, the discrepancy between Muse's musicality and his solid character, which lacks femininity or campness, and his glittery, watery clothing is truly bizarre, and what's more, the sparkly glitter is also extremely half-baked. The clothes show an extraordinary attention to detail, but the makeup is a complete waste of time, and the haircut is a bit careless. If you are going to do something like this, go for a Freddie-style fashion like Justin Hawkins of The Darkness, or go all out with the long hair and dreads, or paint your face like Peter Gabriel, or work with an interesting designer to provide futuristic costumes that synchronise with the stage direction, go Freaky and go for it. Then we won't be bothered by petty discussions about the worst-dressed. Or hire a competent stylist to help you find a simple suit that suits you. In the meantime, even though Freddie loved it, red-and-white coordination is too difficult and should be avoided. I'm probably not the only one who irresistibly thinks of the uniforms of the Japanese Olympic team……………….

This is the rumoured ‘Flower Man’, Peter Gabriel's stage costume from his time with Genesis. It's funny because he was very serious about it. After leaving the band in 1975 and going solo, he became very ordinary.

Brian Eno at the time he was in Roxy Music. His forehead was rising, but he wore a lot of make-up and wore his hair long. All of them wore flamboyant outfits with spacy decorations on their shoulders, etc.

Sir Elton John, who now wears an ordinary suit and flashy tie, used to take the world by storm with his huge ornate glasses and flamboyant outfits. He is a drag queen in every sense of the word!

Freddie Mercury, the king or queen of the bizarre = Queen. The familiar full-body tights costumes were originally designed by Zandra Rhodes. From kimono-style dresses with a daring take on Japanese kimonos to cross-dressing, you name it! pic : Koh Hasebe

Adam and the Ants' Adam Ant pioneered the New Romantic movement of the 1980s and stole the hearts of girls. His unique ‘pirate fashion’, with its elaborate hair and make-up, was imitated by his fans.

Translator's Notes: I do find Matt's taste in fashion to be... quite interesting at times. But in all honesty, I'm neutral to his fashion tastes, given that I use his clothes, accessories, and even his hairstyle to pin down on the correct eras whenever I reblog Muse posts lmao

And also, Freddie's fashion is always 150% fierce AF. As for Adam Ant, him looking like a slutty pirate trying to seduce the Royal Navy to chase after him is just his default appearance since the 80s.

[theperfectrose]

Sometimes it’s just life 💔

I watched Friends for the first time in uni and have been doing it ever since then every.single.day (I am not joking, I have a channel on TV that’s just Friends eps 24/7 and it keeps rolling in the background (don’t ask about my electricity bills)). Chandler was and is my favorite. I have memorized every single sentence he has in the show and they always make me smile, regardless of having listened to them 1,000 times before. I owe half my wits and sarcasm to that man.

Why do I cling so hard to Chandler when Matthew had other roles? Because that there was Matthew! Matthew didn’t act there - that was him! ❤️

Matthew said in an interview that he would visibly sweat and die inside when people didn’t laugh at his jokes on the show. I wish he could hear me cause I’ve been cry laughing at so many of them even when the days were just meh. ❤️

Ik he had a lot of problems, I’ve heard and read about them, but I also know he was strong and fought through them. So I can’t describe how heartbreaking it is for me for his life to end just when it somewhat restarted.

I have so many things to say and yet nothing is worthy to describe his legacy. Maybe somebody else will. Maybe one day I will. For now, rest in peace Matthew Perry ❤️

As you once said, “We’ll try to keep it down.” 😭❤️

[what-gs-watching]

“I’m not great at advice. Can I interest you in a sarcastic comment?”

Well. It's been a little bit of a weird mood swing week, I’m all over the board which is always super fun - sometimes I know what I’m doing and sometimes I don’t, but I guess that’s just life. Infuriatingly fleeting life.

And I’ve been thinking about Matthew Perry, obviously. I know I said that the Community gang is the friends you wished you had, but Friends was obviously a big part growing up for me - I was almost 18 when it finally ended. And it was such a cultural phenomenon. 

I watched it as it aired. And then I watched it as reruns on cable. Then I rewatched it on streaming a few years ago, and I can confidently say that out of all of them, Chandler was my spirit animal. Uncomfortable with himself and using humor and sarcasm as armor, that’s me. Awkward with a job nobody understands, just doing whatever it seems adults are supposed to do. Funny, and sometimes authentic when he needed to be. 

Also, I don’t care what anyone says - the true love story of Friends was absolutely Chandler and Monica. Ross and Rachel were pure trash, but Chandler and Monica just had that thing. That thing that most people want. The realistic friends-to-lovers story, messy and difficult but insanely sweet.

And in a way, Friends helped me learn that I’m the weirdo that’s drawn to funny, tragic people (we’re going to have to talk about Bo Burnham eventually). Chandler was always funny and tragic, even with Monica, and that was a part of Matthew Perry, as we’d come to learn.

When I heard the news though, the first thing I thought about was Studio 60 on The Sunset Strip. After Friends, for some reason, I got into almost every single random show Matthew did. And Studio 60 was my absolute favorite. It only aired for one season, but it was by Aaron Sorkin and it was meant to be a dramedy about a late night comedy show (and I have and will forever love SNL) and there was Bradley Whitford. It was entirely up my alley.

I remember being obsessed with it. 30 Rock came out around the same time and they were weird parallels of each other but Studio 60 dug into my heart. Because I loved Chandler and because I loved West Wing and I wanted Matthew Perry to keep going, tragic and funny and successful. But then the writer’s strike happened and people were hoping for another West Wing (y’all, it was never gonna be another West Wing) and it got canceled. 

I haven’t seen it since, I have no idea honestly if it was actually as good as my brain wants to remember it, it’s not streaming anywhere which is infuriating, but maybe that’s for the best. It’s one of those fuzzy shows in my heart and maybe it should stay that way now.

Later, I got into Mr. Sunshine (I watched all 11 episodes of course, as they aired on TV) and then Go On. I had high hopes for Go On. Silly ensemble cast, about a sportscaster who lost his wife and joins a support group. I remember thinking it had Community vibes. It was never going to be as good as Community, but it was cute and Matthew was charming and I enjoyed it. 

There was a storyline about how he kept waking up at a specific time of night, because his wife always did. He’d wake up with her and he couldn’t stop it after she’d gone, and after admitting it to the group, they all wake up at the same time for him, too. It had been sweet. Again, I watched all 22 episodes. And then it  got canceled, too.

The point is: I was watching. Because funny tragic people are tenuous, they need to be appreciated. It’s a tightrope. And I’m really sad that Matthew Perry was on that tightrope. He became a pop culture icon and I honestly don’t think it was intentional, he was just caught up in it like the rest of them, but it’s hard for funny tragic people. I can’t imagine the pressure. But he kept going, and I hate that he had a string of shows that never went anywhere (but were all worth something)

 and then the fucking tightrope just fell away. 

It’s horrific that people can be chewed up and spit out by an industry that’s supposed to produce things that make people feel happy, feel sad, feel excitement, just feel. I can sit in my house and channel my ridiculous emotions through content and that’s all well and good but it comes at a price. Everything in this world comes at a price.

Friends has been out of my rotation for a while now, and I think it’ll probably stay that way for a bit. Right now it’s not funny tragic, it’s just tragic. And I’m guessing he wouldn’t want that, but what can you do? Content’s meant to make you feel things, but you can never keep the world outside out for long. 

So. Chanandler Bong, just know I appreciated you. In all forms. Thank you for making us laugh.

[theendwhereibegin]

The One Where We Lost A Friend

Shock doesn't even begin to explain how I feel right now, how the world feels right now.

His struggles, while as real as anything can get, were hidden so well. We only saw him laughing, joking, and making sacrastic remarks on our TV's as our beloved Chandler Bing, but behind all that, the man, Matthew Perry was battling his demons on a daily basis.

These are the sort of battles we all go through at some point in our lives, but we will never understand how hard it is to do this while in the public eye.

I always connected with both versions of him because, at the end of the day, his struggles were so palpable. The eyes never lie, no matter how hard you try to show the world a happier version of you.

FRIENDS, was always my comfort show, and it always will be, even if it will be a little bit harder on an emotional level to watch it now.

When I felt alone and misunderstood, the 6 of them were my friends as well and made me feel like I belonged.

Without even knowing it, one of them was to become the most important one as years went by, because without even knowing he made me fall in love with the idea that somehow, some day I will too find my true love, just like he had Monica, even if I felt like no puzzle piece will ever fit my way of being. Chandler taught me never to give up.

I grew up being awkward and always used humour as a way of socialising because I had no clue how to do that without stumbling on my own words. I used sarcasm to mask the fact that I felt maybe a bit uncomfortable in some situations. I was the one that everyone else relied on when times got hard because I used to brush it off and carry on.

As I somehow morphed into an adult, I realised just how important Chandler became as, without planning it, I was always looking for a guy who had his personality. I always dreamt of having someone with an amazing sense of humour, sarcam, and a whole lot of love to give. I might have manifested my fiance for my whole life while watching Chandler on my TV.

All of them were important to me, and looking at my tight-knit group of friends, I can honestly say that FRIENDS shaped my life in more ways than one. Simply by watching it, my subconscious manifested the people I hold dear to my heart today, and what a beautiful thing that is.

I am heartbroken. I feel like one of my own has passed away. I feel like I lost a friend, one of my best friends.

He has helped so many of us smile and feel at ease with who we are, and I don't even think he knew it. Growing up watching this TV show has shaped me into who I am today. I am Monica, Ross, Phoebe, Chandler, Joey, and Rachel, all rolled into one, in no particular order. A whole generation is them, and they will forever be us.

Rest in peace, Matthew. You'll forever be missed. We'll try to carry on your legacy by showing future generations the show that shaped us, made us laugh, cry, and scream with joy. We'll make future generations fall in love with our Chandler Bing.

[dmpflinn]

In light of Matthew Perry passing - I did a compare and contrast of Harry and Matthew's life......The similarities are uncanny BUT HOW each of these two men handled life's challenges are outstandingly different.

I composed this for your consideration...........

PRINCE HARRY - Born into privilege. Born with a title. Had a notorious temper which got him into trouble with physical altercations as well as getting involved with drugs and alcohol starting at a young age. Was bailed out of that trouble numerous times because of his family. Had a history of being lazy in school and cheating to pass his classes. Was a child of divorce where both parents married/involved with other people. Considered lazy by teachers, fellow soldiers & peers. Peers and coworkers found him nasty and unkind. Had no considerable talent and interests other than partying and using his position of Royalty for his own selfish needs. Has a history starting from childhood of not taking responsibility for anything that he had done wrong. Ex-girlfriends did not speak well of him. Was bamboozled into marrying a woman with questionable character. Made demands on his family for things that he did not deserve. "Wrote a book" or rather PAID someone to "write a book" that demonstrated whining and complaining about his life and his family. Within the book Harry not only demeaned his immediate family but also demeaned the people he had met along the way in his life. Within his "best-selling" book he recklessly and ignorantly Spoke of the "positive" nature of drug use and how using drugs had "helped" him in his life with NO concern of the DANGER of drugs. Believed that he was an "expert" of mental health when it was very clear by watching his behaviors that he was no expert in the field of mental health. Started illegitimate "charities" that demonstrate no true merit in helping people, all the while giving HIM money and providing a front/shell for money to funnel through. Took no responsibility for anything that he had done wrong in his life but rather blamed everyone else for his failures and misfortunes. Did not put any hard work into anything while wanting to be rewarded and paid for doing nothing, all the while relying on his titles for his notoriety. Continues to live attempting to "capture" fame and attention but still blaming others and rehashing traumatic childhood events. Finally......leaving behind a legacy of destruction, sadness, stupidity and darkness everywhere he goes.

MATTHEW PERRY - Born into an average, middle class family in Canada. Was a child of divorce with both parents marrying other people and having more children. Began to misbehave as a child getting into physical altercations with others, as well as destructive behaviors with drugs and alcohol. Demonstrated considerable hard work, practice and talent when he focused on his favorite interests of tennis and acting. Took a disciplined pathway to his success as a hard working full-time actor. Became a successful and respected actor, being nominated for several awards in comedy and drama. Colleagues always spoke well of Matthew commenting on his kindness, humility and work ethic. Former girlfriends spoke well of Matthew. Though he never married, not one past girlfriend spoke ill of him, only speaking well of him when he was alive and even after his death. He Became addicted to alcohol and drugs from a young age and focused continually on his mental and physical health and healing from his 20s until his death at age 54. Wrote a book HIMSELF detailing his life, addictions and mental health struggles that became a LEGITIMATE best seller. Started philanthropic charities not to "make money from" but to rather aid others who had suffered with addictions and mental health problems. Did not blame anyone or anything for his problems and addictions but rather, took full responsibility for his problems and addictions and spoke candidly about his relationship with God to save him. Did not repeatedly rehash any past traumas wanting people to "feel sorry for him" and using past traumas to "make money" off of them. Passed away at the age of 54 leaving behind a legacy of hard work, love, kindness and wisdom. Thank you Matthew and rest well in the Light of God.

[h8t3-d]

So the news dropped today that Matthew Perry passed away. I didn’t know how much of an impact he had made on me until now. As a fan I never thought that it’s appropriate for me to write a sort of good-bye note to an actor since I didn’t know them personally but now I see it as a way to express how much the actor meant to me and made my life just a little more bearable.

I will always remember him as a kind, hard-working person that despite his addictions pushed through life and became one of the most loveable human beings that impacted so many people. Of course I got to know him through friends. Chandler is a one of a kind character that no other actor could play better than Matthew. He gave Chandler real life characteristics and made him so relatable to other fans of the show. I think it was the balance between being boxed as the “funny one” in the group but also the fact that he was one of the most troubled characters that made me, and many others, see him almost as a real human being.

I remember a line from the Friends reunion, when someone said “This is probably the last time we’ll be meeting like this,” and I thought that surely it won’t, there will be many other opportunities for them to get together as a full cast. It just makes me sad. I would like to thank Matthew for everything he gave to this world and hopefully he will get back the same amount of love and joy that he spread. May he rest in peace. 🕊️