okay yeah year ten bad year ten bad i agree but i can never hate it entirely bc the sitter cancelled is so dear to me . JUST for the scene of cecil sweetly reading that sad little story about the little bunny who can never escape his mom to his kid, his son that he loves, who he cares for so much, showing that he HAS escaped his own mom in this very moment through the gentleness with which he treats his son which his mother did not afford to him . makes me sniffle
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once again posting a reminder (very gently, when you consider how fucking frustrated i am) that i am anti-kff! there are otherkin terms that people can use and, instead of educating themselves on this, they actively CHOOSE to belittle and bully otherkin folks, all while being a teensy tiny little bit ableist in how they go about it. its not a "erm these people are just minding their business and they're ALSO kin anyway" NO they are NOT. they are, by very fucking definition, either 'hearted or 'link (IF their connection is genuine ANYWAYS). that is NOT. KIN. and its kinda fucking telling if you think a community whose entire existence hinges on deliberate ignorance and harassment of a group is equal to the group theyre harassing and bastardising the terms and experiences of
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@ ppl saying they dont want to be called mean, i would love to understand this perspective.. is it because you genuinely never intend to be mean and so it is always a misunderstanding? is it conflict avoidance?
i wouldn't enjoy being considered *cruel*. i have been accidentally mean to my gf before and of course it felt bad because I didn't want to be that sort of presence in her life. i want to treat her the way she deserves which is compassionately.
yet somehow, to me the word mean applied to a woman is a phrase of reclaimation and i can't fully divorce that persepctive. so meanness occupies this weird place for me where i forget it is a generally negative thing for myself and other women to be. but a mean man is the status quo there's nothing revolutionary about that. have you ever met a genuinely compassionate man who extends the same and equal kindness towards both all people of any gender? yeah me either.
girls i think you should be unapologetically meaner (not cruel i think there is an important difference). bcuz there needs to be more space for marginalized women especially trans women, butch women, woc, disabled women etc. to be angry and mean without being criticized for expressing themselves in a human way. it is very human to be mean when you are hurting and it's human to be mean back in response... but ultimately you should learn to meet you own and other's anger with objectivity and respect. i think it does start with giving yrself that room so you dont automatically react with discomfort to the situation.
ofc im given much more room to be mean for my own safety than a more marginalized woman than myself is and any room i make is always for her as much as or more than myself. & its also important to defend other women's space to be mean bcuz women are so so so heavily policed and labeled bitches just for asserting baseline boundaries.
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