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my-darling-boy · 4 years

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Genuinely asking, isn't self-diagnose with a condition kind of dangerous? Because legitimizing self-diagnosing opens a door to many malicious people who would want to exploit the fact they can self-diagnose? And in turn, make the space of autistic people worse?

Was going to skip this, but I’m writing a LONG response because I’m VERY exhausted with the amount of misinformation I see on this “self dx is dangerous” take, so buckle up and allow me to info dump.

Recently, authentic_autism_advocacy, an Instagram account run by a supposed medically diagnosed autistic woman was discovered to be a non-autistic woman, Connie Manning, posing as a medically diagnosed autistic person to spread hate and anti-self diagnosing speech. In reality, she is a neurotypical mother who regularly uses her autistic son for clout; she also turned out to have a hand behind CalmWear, a brand of sensory compression products designed for disabled people. Not only had she been spewing hatred towards other autistic people, she had been accusing well known AFAB autistic tiktokers like beckspectrum of faking being autistic and threatening self diagnosed autistics and saying they are a danger to the community, and engaging in other incredibly discriminating behaviour. Yes, she herself was a neurotypical person posing as a medically diagnosed autistic to perpetuate hateful rhetoric about self diagnosed people and used her voice to speak OVER autistic folk for financial gain and exploitation of autistic people, including her own son. If you want to read this roller coaster of a story, an autistic person wrote an entire article on it with tons of screenshots and sources.

So let me make one thing clear to you.

The purpose of actually, genuinely self diagnosing is not done to attract attention or to parade around and exploit other autistic people. Self diagnosed autistic individuals have recognised due to difficult life circumstances, financial hardship, bigotry and stigma within the medical/legal world, being a minor, lack of insurance, lack of proper access to safe care facilities, being denied assessment due to incompetent or biased practitioners, and/or any other obstacle that they may temporarily or permanently be barred from diagnosis. Self diagnosis does NOT instantly mean a person is posing for clout, nor does it indicate a person is trying to wring money from assistance services or exploit other autistics. And nts who use self diagnose with intentions of harming the community? That’s NOT self diagnosis, that’s abuse of something meant to aid people blocked from medical care or financial means to that care. All we can do for autistic people, no matter who we perceive them to be, is treat them the same way we would any other autistic person. Because the moment you start deciding by your own book who deserves respect and who doesn’t, you’ll be on a slippery slope to locking out thousands of autistic people from the community. If it’s discovered a person like Connie is literally abusing the system of self dx to intentionally mislead the community, by all means, we must hold them accountable. But you cannot simply go about granting and revoking access from people just because someone lacks a diagnosis or doesn’t fit your idea of what being autistic looks like, especially if it’s based on stereotypes.

Moral of the story? Isn’t it ironic how anti-self dx people will 100% believe a user who claims to be medically diagnosed but shows no “written proof” of it, yet always demand written proof from a self dx person? It’s almost like even anti-self dx people can’t tell the difference between someone who is medically diagnosed autistic and someone who isn’t. Well, that’s because they can’t. While there might be common traits, autism has no set model, it is a spectrum, no autistic person is alike; Policing self diagnosed people about their self diagnosis isn’t a form of protecting the community. It’s a form of gatekeeping. If you find yourself granting instant acceptance, without asking for proof, to a person insisting they are medically diagnosed like this neurotyical mother, but then prohibit self dx people from entry entirely on the grounds of not showing proof of medical assessment, you are upholding a double standard. This is why policing autistic people’s diagnosis, self or not, is inherently useless.

So here’s the thing... instead of asking people to stop self diagnosing, what you should instead be asking yourself is, “Why do people self diagnose? What kind of medical system could possibly be in place where people feel they need to resort to self diagnosis rather than get an actual diagnosis?”

Well, it’s mainly common knowledge among most of the autistic community that diagnosis is NOT easy to come by.

One of the main reasons why people cannot get a diagnosis is due to financial/insurance reasons. It’s reasonable to estimate that by the end of 2020 almost 30 million Americans alone were without health insurance. I’ve heard costs out of pocket for an autism diagnosis are between $500-$6000. If a person or a family cannot afford health insurance—which by the way on average is around $5,400 a year for a single person and $13,800 for a family here—where are they supposed to pull out $6,000 to get screened?

You might be asking, “Well aren’t insurances supposed to cover disability?” Sure, there are options for disability care through health insurance—not even going to get into that—but like a lot of things in the US, this is a severely flawed system. A lot of private health insurance will stop or limit coverage for an autism diagnosis or assistance services once a person reaches 18 to 21 years old. In most states, coverage has a higher chance of being denied to autistic adults coming with the added age cap or ONLY covering ABA, an abusive, manipulative “therapy” used to force social compliance and trait suppression on autistic people. The fact that ABA, a conversion therapy, is covered, but little else, shows exactly what insurance companies think of autistic people: they’ll only cover us if we want to learn to be “normal”. This can leave many undiagnosed autistic adults who cannot afford analysis, insurance, or safe assistance services with nowhere to turn. If I was not on my parents’ insurance, there is NO WAY I would EVER be able to afford a diagnosis. I don’t have $2,000 lying around. The MONEY ALONE would prohibit me from getting a diagnosis, no matter how many autistic traits I presented.

When I was going through this system years ago to start a diagnosis, I was shocked to find no therapist within three hours of me was accepting adult patients. “Up to 18 only” their websites would say. And in the event I had found one (1) that accepted me as a then 20 year old with X insurance, and that person refused me diagnosis, I would be out of options unless I planned a 5 hour drive which may have also led me to another biased screener. A person seeking self financed assessment can waste thousands of dollars therapist hopping.

People will say, “Well I live in X place, and where I come from, it’s covered!” Well the reality is that everyone in the world does not live where you live. It’s not realistic to assume everyone is in the same position as you or your family to afford care or access the same resources as you. When you say, “Just go out and get a diagnosis! It’s not that hard!”, understand you are speaking from your personal vantage point where screening may be easily accessed or easily covered/is free OR you have no personal knowledge of what that process is like yourself.

The second thing that bars a ton of people from being diagnosed is the fact that when autism was first discovered, its research was HEAVILY centered on white, cis, heterosexual men. The idea that autistic people are ONLY cis, white, heterosexual men carries on to this day. If you are an outlier to this stereotype, your chances of being misdiagnosed with something else or refused diagnosis skyrocket because so-called “professionals” don’t know how to observe traits in any other person besides a cis, white, heterosexual man, and refuse/fail to recognise the endless ways in which a person can be autistic. ALL the time I hear how AFAB people will go in to get screened only to find out their screener does not believe AFAB people can be autistic, because yes, sexism and anti-lgbtq+ ideas play a huge role in the incredibly outdated diagnostic process, because autism is still believed to be an “AMAB only” thing. People report going into a therapists office and being asked questions like, “Do you like going outside? Do you like having friends?” and being told that if you agree with either of these, you cannot be autistic because criteria at some places is so backwards, you can’t even say you enjoy conversation without failing the test. Other things commonly heard during the analysis are screeners telling someone they are too smart/articulate to be autistic, gas lighting them by saying they are mistaking their symptoms for something else/making them up, telling a person they seem normal, dismissing clear autistic traits by saying they’re unique “superpowers”, or intentionally misdiagnosing a person as ADHD INSTEAD of autistic. People on social media have also pointed out what influences racism has on the diagnostic process as well and how lack of research and understanding of autistic POC contributes to under-diagnosis and stigma has only contributed to refusal of care and under-representation of POC in the disabled community, as one autistic Black woman points out on Instagram, “I found excellent articles that support and validate my feelings and experiences, but I could find no research on autistic Black people.” Additionally, because research has primarily been done on young men, this means anyone who is not a cis man and is over the age of 18 and is seeking a diagnosis has a much higher chance of not receiving one because screeners don’t understand how autistic traits may present differently in adults, especially since adults are very likely to mask. Some autism screeners are so against autism they have told clients they would only diagnosis a person autistic if it was their last resort to avoid “placing a burden on their shoulders”. These reasons are largely responsible for why autism is incredibly mis/under-diagnosed. This ask would be the length of a novel if I included every single type of discrimination and mistreatment during the evaluation process alone, but understand it can be incredibly biased, sexist, transphobic, racist, or just flat out ableist. And guess what? Though this process can take as little as a month to get sorted, that is rare. The assessment SHOULD be very short. But a lot of autistic people have reported their diagnosis took more than 2-4 years because of having to waste time, energy, and money hopping from therapist to therapist looking for someone to take them seriously, as many autistic people compiled on the actuallyautistictiktoks page on Instagram point out.

The last thing I want to touch on is this idea that people have that self diagnosing is dangerous. “What if someone self diagnoses and they take advantage of services that are meant for autistic people?” ...The Big Things you think I am going to take advantage of as a self diagnosed autistic person, like scholarship money for instance or SSDI, I do not have legal access to without a formal diagnosis. I cannot waltz into a law firm and ask for a $5,000 scholarship for autistic people without a diagnosis, because they WILL NOT give it to me!

Let me tell you some of things I’ve “cruelly taken advantage of” as a self diagnosed autistic person. I bought glasses with blue light protection, because screen and fluorescent lighting at work and even natural blue toned light from the sky lowers my threshold for some sensory input like noise and social interaction; wearing them to work everyday has improved my sensory thresholds incredibly. I’ve talked to my manager and told him I’m autistic and that I have a hard time understanding vague direction and may need to step away briefly on occasion to tend to a shutdown before a meltdown comes on at work; he had no problem with this. I use subtitles; sometimes I have trouble processing audio or reading facial expressions and tone, and being able to see the words displayed on the screen gives me a significantly better understanding of what I watch. All my life, I have been having meltdowns which I had mistaken for mental breakdowns or panic attacks and having access to resources that walked me through preventative methods and tips on what to do if I have one has been ENORMOUSLY helpful to me. All my life, I was trying to deal with them thinking they were something else; becoming aware of this and accepting that they are in fact autistic meltdowns has helped me not only go through them, but has helped me redirect stims which at their worst previously had me hitting and clawing my arms, slapping my face, and even hitting my head. I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to wait 4 years for a diagnosis to use resources I could be using to make my life more accessible right now!

People will say, “Oh well yeah, I don’t mean You are one of Those Types of self diagnosed autistic people, you clearly sound/look autistic, I’m talking about other people.” The thing is, there is no broad “sounding/looking autistic”, that’s stereotyping, and you can’t demand everyone who interacts with you show you their Autistic Card, because again, not everyone is able to be diagnosed, especially given the mistreatment and stigma present towards autistic people in the medical field! And what made you ask for their diagnosis? Because they “don’t seem autistic” to you? Why didn’t you ask for their diagnosis? Because they “seemed autistic” to you? By denying anyone who doesn’t have a diagnosis resources they may very well need, you are denying assistance to thousands of people who are without means to be diagnosed. And I am SO tired of seeing comments online on self diagnosis posts that “people don’t know what they’re taking about” as if they know us personally, like are you me? Are you my doctor I’ve consulted? Did you watch me academically research and consult with other autistic people about being autistic for over 3 years? I’m tired of “well, one time a self diagnosed person laughed at my actually autistic diagnosed friend...so all self dx people are evil” because there is ZERO correlation between a person being self assessed and their behavior towards a non self assessed person. The fact both those arguments are in use whenever self dx comes up is yet another form of gatekeeping.

Self diagnosing autism is not begging for attention or Evil Criminal Money Funneling Schemes. It is a result of a deeply flawed medical and insurance system that has failed to give proper attention and care to those who need it, it is a result of resources not made available, of safe support systems not there for kids and adults alike. You want to talk about what’s truly dangerous? How the hate group Autism Speaks has been parading itself around since 2005 as an advocacy group for autistic people and has been misusing millions of dollars worth of donation money and promoting stigma and hatred around autistic people; no autistic members are present on their board. How Sia and her new film Music was nominated for 2 Golden Globes despite it replacing the original autistic actor with a neurotypical actor, using offensive stereotypes, and using the main autistic character as a prop, and featured an extremely dangerous bodily restraint scene on an autistic person having a meltdown in public and featured very insensitive content due to Sia’s lack of consulting with autistic people to make the film (spoilers in that article).

Instead of policing autistic people, whether they fit your idea of what an autistic person is or not, redirect your efforts and your energy to dismantling systems and holding others accountable for perpetuating harmful stereotypes about autistic people that are legitimately dangerous on such a scale that they have created insurmountable damage to the autistic community. But I guarantee you, worrying over whether your classmate is “faking it” will not do any justice to the decades worth of discrimination autistic people face still today.

I understand. You care about the community, you don’t want autistic people to be exploited or taken advantage of. I don’t want to be exploited and taken advantage of as an autistic person, and I don’t want that for others! But I also understand that when we self proclaim ourselves as judges of random autistic strangers on the internet or start accusing people of faking or demanding to see medical paperwork from people when the basis of our suspicions is “this person doesn’t look like my stereotyped view on how I think an autistic person should act”, THAT is when you really run into trouble. Because if you are allowed to deny self dx people entrance into the autistic community, what’s stopping you from thinking you have the power to deny ANYONE entrance into that community?

And there is power in self diagnosis for many autistic people. When the evaluation system is literally rigged to set you up for failure and put you through unnecessary hardship, self dx is a self affirming, empowering tool to take back control from a process designed to gaslight and crush you. The evaluation process was NOT formulated by an autistic person, nor was it made to be inclusive of all autistic people. Until the evaluation system in place for autistic people is safe, accessible, and free to ALL, you have EVERY right to self diagnose.

#like this isn’t even half of what I want to say #but I’m gonna stop cos this is So Long #no clowns in my inbox pls #long post #ableism #autism #actually autistic #ok to rb

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isobel-thorm · 5 years

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Don't kill me, but all the fruits for grant and alistair please 💕

Also just noticed @troyebakers asked for all for Grant too, so here y’all are:

Let me apologize to mobile users now bc this is probably just gonna be a giant wall of strewn together nonsense for them. Switching around the order of the questions to make it flow a fair bit better.

🍍 : how comfortable is my muse in their body? how do they feel about their height, weight, strength, and body type? how important is being attractive to them?

🍑 : how meticulously does my muse look after their physical appearance? do they spend a lot of time on their hair, makeup, grooming, and clothing? is there a particular reason why they do or don’t? Grant: Grant is basically okay with how he looks. He doesn’t exactly like his appearance, but he doesn’t hate it either, nor does he think it’s that important. The only thing he’ll really fuss over is his hair, and his idea of fussing is brushing it but letting the bedhead win a lot of the time. Same goes with how he dresses- if a pair of jeans and T-shirt are discarded on the floor one night and they’re not in bad condition/they don’t smell, he’ll wear them again. Alistair: He’s a little fussy with it. He knows most people find him attractive but he’s not that invested in it. Living for multiple centuries does that to a guy. He’ll make sure he’s neatly put together daily and that’s that. He does usually try to dress nicely though. His casual is a nice sweater, well-fitting leather jacket and dark jeans. He tends to call it ‘professorly.’

🍅 : how does my muse feel about plastic / cosmetic surgeries & procedures? is it something they have done or would do? do they mind if others do it? Both: Both of them are usually in the “why do people do that, it’s not necessary, people age, it’s a fact of life” side of things- with Alistair noting “except for me” in that last bit. They’d never dream about getting anything done themselves.

🍏 : how stable is my muse’s physical health? do they go for regular or semi-regular checkups by a physician? do they have any diagnosed illnesses and / or take any medication? how often do they get sick?

🍎 : how stable is my muse’s mental health? have they been diagnosed with any mental illnesses and / or conditions? do they have any undiagnosed mental illnesses and / or conditions? do they or should they attend therapy? Grant: He’s usually physically healthy and tries to stay that way. Mentally, he’s a mess and tries to get help, but it’s not lost on him that talking with Nic and getting hugs from her works better for him than an actual therapist half the time. Alistair: Fit as a fiddle permanently, if you don’t count the whole living undead thing. He’s also fairly mentally stable himself, and he’s had a vested interest in Psychology the last century, which helps things.

🍒 : how much does my muse value companionship? do they constantly keep people around them, or do they prefer to be alone often? do they have or desire to have many friends? do they see every meeting as an opportunity to make a new friend? Grant: After what happened during his time as a soldier, Grant got it in his head that he was bad luck for anyone around him, so he tried to stay solo for as long as possible and didn’t actively make friends. Enter Nic and Matthew/John, and it was another story. They didn’t really give him an active chance to tell them to leave him alone so they wormed their way into his heart, which helped his mental state so he was able to pursue a friendship with them and then a relationship with M/J, which healed him enough where he was a little more outgoing/willing to meet and befriend other people. Alistair: Nearly the same deal. He was also fairly anti-friends because people only usually gave him the time of day to get in his family’s good graces. He was very apprehensive about making friends because he figured once they got what they wanted they’d leave him, considering that happened a lot. And then Kat and the others came along and made him feel wanted, and while he still has that distrust of people outside that group, he would die (again) for every single person in their friend circle.

🍇 : how would my muse describe their childhood? how much has it impacted the person they are now, or will become as an adult? around what age did they or will they start to mature, and why? do they wish to go back to their days as a child, or have they embraced adulthood? Grant: He had a lonely childhood, his parents did take care of him, but were also fairly neglectful and paid more attention to their business than him. When the whole ‘bi but leaning more towards being romantically interested in men’ thing came to pass his parents sent him off to live with his gay uncles which ended up being the best experience of his life because he finally got active attention/parental figures who genuinely cared about his day or interests for once. The first half of that, however, prepared him a lot for his self-exile after coming home from overseas, but it also planted the idea that there was a silver lining somewhere in life, which he found in his friends. The only way he’d want to relive his childhood is if he was with his uncles the entire time. Alistair: Looking back, Alistair acknowledges that his mother raised him to be a spineless, pompous ass. Him becoming a full vampire/getting some distance from the family when he turned thirty was the turning point where he acknowledged that ‘oh hey, a lot of this shit is messed up.’ He wouldn’t relive his childhood at all.

🍐 : how intelligent is my muse overall? are they smarter than the average person, or less than? are they primarily self-taught, or did they acquire most of their knowledge in school? are they more street smart or book smart? Grant: He never went to college, he joined the Army straight out of high school, so he’s got an extremely basic… standard education. He’s more street smart than anything, and considering That Day, he got a lot of “that’s the how the world works, it’s unfair” type lessons from that tragedy. Alistair: He’s extremely intelligent. He went to college for law, but in the centuries since he’s found modern law is a little too corrupt for his liking, so he went into veterinary science and then studied Psychology on his own just to pass the time.

🍉 : which of the four seasons suits my muse best, and why? Both: Winter. Their personalities and wardrobes match it more, and they both enjoy the aesthetic of it the most.

🍌 : is my muse inclined to help others, or will they only do it when it benefits them, if at all? what makes them this way? has it ever gotten them into trouble, or inconvenienced them? Both: Will help others at the drop of a hat for entirely selfless reasons. They both figure they’ve got awful pasts to make up for, and if little acts of kindness and paying it forward is how they can go about it, so be it. 🍊 : does my muse desire romance? is it something they would actively seek out, or prefer to happen more ‘ naturally? ’ what is their love life like? do they have any exes or past flings, or crushes? Grant: Was very anti-love/anti-thinking-he-deserved love, but then Matt/John came along and was charming and nice and patient and his heart was all “alright get your shit together because T H I S O N E I S F O R Y O U.” Because of that, he’s an absolute mush with his LIs, which is a surprise to everyone outside his immediate friend circle because “wait the stoic guy likes cuddling and talking with faces a couple of inches apart and getting all romantic on holidays?” Alistair: Got his heart shattered into pieces by his first love early in his life, so he was reluctant to ever start anything romantic ever again, but then he fell for Kat platonically, which kick-started his heart back up to be willing to go pursue someone romantically - and then said heartbreaker comes crashing back into his life and then it’s a 50/50 clusterfuck again and he’s not quite sure what to do. 🍓 : how is my muse typically seen by others? does it ring true to who they really are? does their reputation matter to them? Grant: Doesn’t give a damn about his bad stoic/wide/intimidating reputation. He’s not here to be judged, and if people wanna judge a book by its cover, fine, that’s not his problem. He’s got a handful of friends who love him because they bothered to get to know him, he’s invested in them. Alistair: Used to care very strongly about reputation and yearned to be alluring/scary/intimidating all at once, but he learns that was a lot of his mother’s influence, so he goes out of his way to nice people to death so he gets a far more welcome, warm, friendly reputation to make sure it sticks. It makes him stop caring about it so actively/doesn’t make it a staple in his life anymore.

🥝 : does my muse have any ‘ unusual ’ habits, interests, and / or talents? do they hide it, or are they proud of it? Grant: Nothing special at allAlistair: He’s a hemophobic vampire, so he doesn’t go out on hunts with his family- nor does he feed on humans unless it’s necessary. He uses his resources as a vet to ‘feed’ on animals- where he’ll only feed feed if there’s a time crunch, but even then he only takes a standard blood test’s amount and tries to make it last- and he’ll even coach the animal through it, promising that he means it no harm, they’ll be safe in a minute, “Awww, we’re done, see, that wasn’t so bad. Good job, here’s some extra biscuits/cat treats/veggies, you did so well.”

🍋 : what kind of diet does my muse have? do they eat regularly, or the standard 2-3 meals a day? do they have to be reminded to eat, or are they likely to remind others? do they cook, or have others cook for them? do they eat healthily, or not so much? Grant: Unless depression is kicking his ass, he’ll eat balanced meals regularly, with the usual 3x a day. If he does have a day of depression where he misses a meal or so when Nic or John/Matthew is around, they’ll notice and try not to be too forceful about it but they’ll also make a meal with him and try to goad him into eating it, and it usually works. Alistair: Also keeps up with regular meals 3x a day, considering he tries to make human food work as much as possible to avoid interacting with blood in any capacity. If worse comes to worse he’ll cook up/order a super bloody steak and have it, wincing all the while.

🥭 : how important to my muse is their hometown, or where they’re from? are they proud of it, or considered a hometown hero? did they move away, or do they wish to?Grant: Grew up in Texas, and mentioned, he hated it so he avoids going back. He considers Wyoming/his uncles’ ranch home and would live there if he could, but then the job in Hope County came along, and he sticks there for a while and he’s happy, but maaaayyyybbbeee he’d consider dropping hints to John/Matthew that settling back in Wyoming could be nice if they’d be up for it. He’d be okay if they weren’t, though. They could always vacation there, and it’s enough. Alistair: Grew up in the downtown area of [CITY REDACTED] and has a hate/love relationship with it, so when Kat comes along and he joins that crew where they’re on the outskirts of town by the bay, he absolutely falls in love with the weird suburbia feel and makes plans to move there nearly immediately.

#Deputy Grant #Alistair Hardy #amistrio

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cannabisrefugee-esq · 5 years

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(via Now That’s Some Serious Chronic Fatigue. Spoon Theory 2.0? (Patreon Link Within))

October 4, 2019

Many chronically ill people eventually learn about the “Spoon Theory” of chronic fatigue, which is basically a way to explain to healthy people what it’s like when you no longer possess (or never had) virtually unlimited mental and physical energy to do what you want. Because it’s always the responsibility of the weakest and sickest to explain ourselves to healthy people innit. A person’s spoons are a visual representation of their physical and mental energy reserves for the day, where a physical or mental activity “costs” one or more spoons to perform and when the spoons are gone the sick person has no choice but to stop acting and rest. With adequate rest and recovery time, hopefully their spoon reserves will replenish by the next day but that is not always the case. Many days, seriously ill people may have no spoons at all.

Spoon Theory was described and named by a chronically ill woman and it is pretty accurate in my own experience. For the first time in my life, after putting myself through law school, studying for and passing the bar exam, and then working more than full time in a stressful and demanding career in addition to a lifetime of “adulting” meaning maintaining a household and nurturing various parasitic males I no longer have anywhere near the energy I once had and can now barely get anything done, regardless of urgency or import. It’s not a matter of how important anything is anymore, nor how badly I need to or want to do it. I am not in control of that now and it is debilitating and terrifying.

Healthy people have no idea that’s even possible and they often refuse to believe it. And that’s an example of ableism, or discrimination in policy and practice against disabled people and in favor of healthy people. Young people seem acutely aware of the concept of spoons, chronic illness and ableism while older people seem to have not a clue; the implications of that are terrifying but I will leave that for another day.

I recently attempted to describe my own limitations to my mother, and even though as a nurse who claims to have rigorously studied the issues and thinks she knows everything there is to know about health, wellness and chronic illness (LOL) she had never even heard of “spoons” or spoon theory. Considering that that information is literally everywhere if one only cares to look, her research skills get an F. Her practical knowledge gets an F. Empathy F. Effort F. Fucks given on behalf of the chronically ill F. Fucks given about me and my new normal F. Decent human being D+. Maybe. Maybe there’s hope, I think to myself, and at least a D+ is better than an F in that department, although the D+ is likely generous. It’s a pretty important department and I like to think it matters but maybe it really doesn’t. Maybe there is just no way that healthy people will ever understand or care what it’s like to be seriously chronically ill no matter how decent they are but I decide to try.

I proceed to explain my limitations to a nurse, to my own fucking mother thusly: in a week’s time, in addition to fulfilling the basic survival needs of my business, myself and my 2 adopted shelter cats (procuring nutrition and toileting basically) I can maybe cook/prepare food 5 times, clean up the mess twice, and shower once. That means there are at least 3 times a week where I cook/prepare food and do not clean up the mess right away. Yes, that’s a thing that happens and no, there is nothing I can do about it. My mom responded by shrieking “bullshit! bullshit!” into my ear, as if that changes anything except to (more) completely alienate me and yes, to waste even more of my spoons. My mom is a garbage disposal for my spoons and causes extreme spoon deficit on the regular, or she will if I let her. And by “let her” I mean have any contact with her; I haven’t spoken to her in a year and a half, and very little in the past 7 years since I became seriously chronically ill and that’s why. After her most recent outburst and what it did to my spoons I think I could easily go forever without speaking with her again.

Then yesterday I came across a post by another chronically ill blogger who described her own experience with chronic fatigue in a unique way that despite my own extreme brain fog and forgetfulness generally, I will probably never forget. Michelle reads and comments here regularly (hi Michelle!) and has recently become a fulltime boondocker which means that she lives in wilderness areas in an RV all or almost all the time. Like most or all chronically ill people, Michelle is a “Spoonie” and suffers from chronic fatigue and has only so many fucks to give and so much energy to burn on any given day and while it’s not up to her how many spoons she has, it is kind of up to her how she spends them. Despite her “garbage can” diagnosis of ME/CFS she does the absolute best she can, as do we all, but in her case she has particular trouble using and maintaining her bulky and temperamental portable generator and cleaning up the dishes after she cooks and eats.

The really striking (and totally relateable) part of her experience, for me, was this:

Michelle often parks her RV in bear country and dirty dishes attract bears and she knows that. But still she cannot necessarily muster the mental and physical energy needed to clean the dishes right away and the task must be put off until the next day or possibly even the next. Get it? Now that’s some serious fatigue, and I (and she) don’t mean to say that she has any worse fatigue than any other chronically ill person. She may and she may not, how would that even be measured? Rather, I (we) mean that chronic fatigue is serious, it is seriously and unbelievably debilitating and in this post Michelle explains the reality of it so well. She cannot do anything more than what she can do, even if when her life literally depends on it. And in her situation her life actually does depend on it.

Do you see what I am saying? The import and urgency of the task changes nothing, NOTHING about what she is and is not able to actually do. When her spoons are gone that’s it, and the only way she might have a spoon left over to do the dishes is if she never even cooked at all. Do you see the problem there? Because I do. She can either risk being attacked by bears or not cook (and therefore maybe not even eat) at all. From what I’ve gathered through reading her blog, Michelle will probably not decide to stop boondocking if she can help it and she has (actual, valid) reasons for that too, one of which being that boondocking gives her spoons, being in nature gives her spoons, and being peaceful and quiet preserves the spoons she does have. If she wasn’t boondocking in beautiful natural areas, maybe she would have even less spoons than she has now. Maybe she would have no spoons at all.

THAT is the fucking reality of serious chronic fatigue and all the cursing and shrieking and being berated by others in the world will not change it. It doesn’t matter how much you wish things were different. You no longer make the rules. The woman who gestated and birthed me does not make the rules. Michelle doesn’t make the rules. I don’t make the rules. If we ever made the rules we don’t make them now and there is no reality-based reason to think that we will make those rules for ourselves ever again. I would beseech healthy people to attempt to grok that, to please for the love of God grok that shit already but even that doesn’t matter! It doesn’t matter if healthy people grok it or not, or at least their understanding will not in itself make sick people’s material reality better or worse.

What will help, though, is if the people we rely on for comfort, companionship, conversation, money, shelter or whatever don’t waste the few spoons we have by demanding we explain shit, or destroy those spoons in the garbage disposal of their shitty shrieking ignorance. Now that would actually help. And by help I mean stop making it fucking worse. That is the reality of chronic illness and chronic fatigue and that reality cannot and will not be changed, or anytime soon, not until these serious, debilitating and fatiguing chronic illnesses are able to be treated or cured. That is not the case today where most chronic illnesses including the one I suffer from, Crohn’s disease, produce symptoms that can maybe be somewhat managed sometimes (and maybe not) but that is not the same thing as treatment and it’s hell and gone from a cure.

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And on that note, I would like to leave a link to my Patreon and ask that my readers consider and pass along this most recent request for donations. Despite my symptoms and their all-encompassing effects on my life, I have made some progress towards getting disability and housing benefits, but it looks like I am going to need to buy myself more time (or have it purchased for me as it were). The game has now changed somewhat and with much (well, total) effort on my part, I now have additional medical evidence to support my claims, and my disability advocate has put me in contact with an organization that may be able to help: it’s an organization that helps autistic people maintain their independence and I am hopeful that they might actually come through. This whole time, it has seemed as if no one really cared about the Crohn’s diagnosis but now that I have an additional diagnosis of high functioning autism, my disability advocates seem hopeful that they now have something they can actually use. And importantly, they seem keen on doing some of the legwork to actually make that happen, like helping me fill out and drop off forms and such. That is huge.

In a nutshell, it is very important that I stay where I am for now and not lose this apartment which does take housing vouchers if I am approved for one. That means, as soon as I am approved I will start receiving rental assistance without having to wait for an eligible apartment to become available because I am already in one. It also means I will not have to move again, when the move I made last year nearly killed me and left me seriously depleted of spoons for an entire year. If I have to do that again, I literally very well may be unable to do it and if I can’t, it won’t matter that my life depends on it. Can’t is can’t when you are chronically ill. I know many of my readers know exactly what that means.

Thank you so much for reading and thank you for your support.

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NaCl 001: The Meteor Tribe

Welcome to the first post in what I hope to turn into a semi-regular thing.

These may come in two types—individual examinations of certain things in individual comics. For now, Home is easy as hell to do this with (and there is a lot to say), but I’d love to take a deeper look at comics I like (I have a tiny few criticisms of Scurry, but there’s obviously way more things I think Mac did well; I’m an enormous fan of Ghost of the Gulag), comics I’m so-so on (AFRICA, Frostbite; Off-White), and comics I think are total trash (Home, obviously; Legacy; The Flightless Bird).

Without further ado, welcome to my thoughts on why the Meteor Tribe is poorly written and not all that well thought out, beginning with the dude right at the top: the jarl.

1. There's no reason to respect/follow the jarl—especially Ranach.

Rulers rule through two means: love or fear. Hate doesn't work, and we have evidence none of the members liked Ranach: Fuss says he was mocked in his absence and told Ulfr he would make a worse leader than Ranach (implying they saw Ranach as a terrible ruler), Vigr showed their feelings toward him when Ranach was denied entry and said Ranach had lost his mind during Three Ranach Moon, obviously none of the female dogs cared for him, and so on.

While we're given the impression Brodir and Arenak were genuine tyrants (and the MT had more members then, but since we know nothing about Brodir and barely more than nothing about Arenak, they’re mostly irrelevant), Ranach was pathetic. It’s amazing anyone actually listened to him post-Arenak since he wasn’t really liked...not that he did much anyway.

The most evil thing he did as ruler? Tell someone else to kill his father...a worse character. Outside of that, he ordered Rogio killed for betrayal—which would be in-character had Kique not suddenly sprung that bullshit "THIS HURTS ME MORE THAN IT HURTS YOU I LOVE YOU SO MUCH ROGIO" and then make Ranach completely pathetic afterward.

(Also—Ranach does not have NPD. Even if he did, congratulations for playing right into ableism. Characters are never assholes on their own, but this is also coming from a guy who thinks the only requirement to be a villain is being a rapist.)

He got pissed at Galti, ordered his papa killed, conned Ronja into joining, captured Ferah and Kargo, ordered the death fakeout of Rogio, and...oh. That's it. All he’s done recently is give evil looks.

He didn't even let the spirit take his pups.

Damn, wouldn't that have really shown his supposed NPD and "he really misses the way Rogio made him feel" we've had hammered down our throats? Wouldn't that have actually been a good way to subvert the whole "everyone fucking survives and this story is goddamn predictable and there's no need for three additional characters that are all obviously going to get their own POVs/screentime."

Nope. Instead Ranach doesn't go through with it...you know, a good thing. It's not like he could've been really shown to be heartless if he'd been like "lol take 'em gimme back my Rogiboy."

Anyway, back on topic.

Essentially, Ranach was hated (even though he didn’t really...do much...) by the members, and they had no reason to follow him. Dogs like Fuss (oh, good ol’ Good Guy Fuss) could have led a coup or something. (I mean...Fuss loved the MT’s broodmare so much. I’m sure he would’ve done anything to free his love.)

We’re not given much about the MT’s culture and history, and I’m not going to give any “well maybe years ago...” credit. As far as we know, all these dogs have been 100% fine listening to a jarl who treats them like shit and abuses them. We’re not given any indication of severe brainwashing or cult-like indoctrination, and so while one or two (like Ulfr) may be in it to get their kicks, all of them are okay with that way of life? (Of course, until they weren’t okay with it--like when they suddenly get screentime and need to be a good guy.)

Regardless, even if all those dogs magically follow the same hivemind despite zero indoctrination and are a-okay listening to someone who abuses them, there’s an even bigger issue: the Meteor Tribe is small.

2. The Meteor Tribe isn't large.

We're given the impression early in the comic that the MT has numbers. Well, that's quickly ruined—and no, Kargo the Killer and retcon "actually, x number died before the story" are excuses.

They’re not a threat, and it’s amazing everyone is oh-so terrified of them considering they don’t really do shit. (Let. Me. Repeat: FOH with “it happened before the story.” There has been AMPLE TIME to flesh out the MT, explain their past, or even just imply how it used to be, because right now, the only difference seems to be they were starved in the past.)

Something else that goes with the MT being small? Their ranks spread them too thinly, and some of them ranks are fairly arbitrary. Why are hunter and warrior separate? What is the obscure difference between healer and herbalist? Artisan and caretaker really need to be separate—or a thing to begin with?

a. Hunters/warriors. They're not constantly at war. Actually, we haven’t been given any indication these dogs ever fight—check out the allies list on the wiki—and while Vigr says they’d face an attack if they didn’t meet the Guild…what? The wiki itself tells us no one actually has to listen to the Matriarch:

Throughout the years, the Matriarch has set out a set of guidelines, to keep life in Aedra as peaceful as possible. No tribe has to follow these guidelines, but doing so will grant them access to get more help from the capital if needed, and ally bonds with other tribes can be created.

Even if they were out and about, it'd be a bit essential, don'tcha think, for warriors to know how to hunt. Otherwise they'd have to bring hunters with them...and that's just extra weight. Or are hunters meant to stay at the tribe and bring food there? Well, in that case, then the warriors HAVE to do their own hunting—and if the answer is that they already do, why have a separate hunters rank?

b. Herbalist/healer. Let's get one thing out of the way: the limits on healing bark haven't been established, and apparently that shit can heal everything from falling off a fucking waterfall to decades-old scars. It's Applied Phlebotium. That said, it really ignores how primitive the rest of their medicine is. Herbs are not that simple...nor are they always strong/effective. In real life, holistic/herbal remedies are trashed for a reason.

This could've been a really interesting point to expand on. I would even accept Aedra has stronger herbs, like an opium-like plant the dogs use as a painkiller. Eat too much of it, it'll kill you. Of course, I'd lean toward "well, we hope these herbs will work, but there's a 40% chance you'll live. Cross your tail!" (Or toes, since they can probably do that.)

Another thing—you know how people say you shouldn't guess if wild mushrooms are edible? That's because many of them look nearly identical. And one is edible, and the other will cause violent stomach cramps. Or kill you. Give me a dog who's a healer and fucks up herb identification and kills a packmate. Makes skilled herbalist-healers valued. Since Aedra’s as dangerous as a stapler, though, there’s really no use for them either.

More on topic, why are healer and herbalist separate ranks anyway? The healer would just need the herbalist right beside them saying what to do and use. Doctors still know about medicine. They're not pharmacists, of course, but this is a primitive medical system in Home. They’re not messing with fentanyl.

Combine the damn ranks. Maybe make herbalists the healer’s apprentice and they gain that rank once they’ve mastered herb identification and can move on to putting the herbs to use.

Hilariously, this is what the wiki has to say about it:

Both the Herbalist and Healer will have about the same knowledge when it comes to herbs, but the Healer will always stay with the tribe while the Herbalist will go out on long travels to collect the various herbs the tribe is in need of. Healers are often well rounded when it comes to healing the sick and wounded, while Herbalists may also know what herbs can be used to keep meat stored and fresh for a long period of time, how to craft poison and even how to summon malevolent spirits.

So basically, “Basically these ranks are the same.”

c. Artisan/caretaker.

Couldn't be more useless.

Akleja and Ronja's WIP pups weren't in the story at the time those ranks were conceived (no pups at all, actually), and the MT hasn’t had pups in a while...so clearly the caretaker has fuck-all to do most of the time. Mothers would be the caretakers, and during the moments they want to get away from the pups, someone else could watch them for a bit—does there really need to be an entirely separate role for something so brief and rare?

A Caretaker will be in charge of taking care of the young in the tribe. They will stay with newly born offspring and help the mother out if needed. If the parent is absent, the Caretaker will teach the young how to read and write, the laws of the tribe and everything else there is to know.

Oh, silly me. They also teach the young how to fucking read and write.

And artisan? Christ. Worst rank, hands down. Apparently tribes living in the harsh world of Aedra have enough resources to waste on a rank devoted to painting markings for an hour (and how long does this shit last anyway?) and then clocking out. See ya at the timeclock tomorrow, Alva.

According to the wiki, this is what they do:

An Artisan is in charge of keeping the huts strong, re-applying paint to the members and repairing clothing.

Yeah, guys—these dogs can repair clothing. Kique even says they could mend clothing by attaching a tough thread to a piece of bone. Fuck the fact threading a needle requires tying it.

Then again, given we have a tribe whose leader says they need to hunt frequently—yet his tribe regularly holds community LARPing—is anyone surprised no intra-tribe resource/energy economy is taken into account?

d. Gendered rank pairs

Why do we need a male/female pair for lead hunter and lead huntress? Whoever’s best at the job, give it to them. Hunter is gender neutral, for fuck’s sake. Adding –ress/-ess to words that are otherwise neutral is unnecessary.

(But speaking of painting…)

3. The paint is useless.

Okay, two questions:

1.) How are these dogs deft enough to apply paint? In Fjordor’s case, how the fuck is his paint applied? HE LITERALLY LIVED ALONE. (Don't @ me with "it's long-lasting" or "he's been alone for a week." Then again, that last explanation actually works considering how these characters face major life events and fall in love within days. Remember: 100 pages = two hours.)

2.) Why is the paint even necessary? It'd be one thing if they had a splash of color to mark them out to other tribes, but differentiation within? The tribes aren't large enough to need rank-identifying paint. They would know each other by sight. If the tribe was so massive it’d be impossible to know all packmates intimately, sure. In that case, it would be necessary to know someone's rank by sight, especially if the system were based off a strict hierarchy, like passage keepers being the lowest of the low or warriors honored like deities when they stride into camp.

4. All tribes follow the same hierarchy. Even when they have no reason to.

All the tribes follow the same ranking system, apparently no dogs live as loners or in tribeless family units, everyone is allied sans the MT, a jarl always leads, they use identifying paint within their own tribe—not paint that would mark them out to other tribes—and so on. What kind of networking is going on that makes all these tribes—all of whom seem to inhabit different biomes—follow the same system even when the standard tribe setting may not be beneficial to their culture/survival?

But more on that latter point, the MT was characterized as problematic rebels with no allies, yet they still listen to the Guild...even though they don't respect Axilyah and her group...and while it was said they'd face attack if they refused, we were later told ACTUALLY…—no one has to listen to the Guild! Fjordor even tells Axilyah she's in no place to question him...so exactly what authority does the Guild have?

Oh, right.

None at all.

Maybe “no one actually has to listen to them” shouldn’t have been created after the pages where Vigr expressed fear of the Guild’s arrival. (Also, so much for the Guild anyway if everyone else turns a blind eye to what goes on in the MT yet still demands those arbitrary scrolls. “We need to know your population but fuck the suffering going on within.”)

5. None of the female MT dogs have lasting trauma.

If there's one things fans on DA loved screaming anytime anyone criticized the female MT dogs' lack of trauma, it was "Not all victims act the same!"

Well, they're right. Not all victims act the same...yet that same exact logic can be applied to Home, where all victims act the same. Literally no one is traumatized. It's obvious they're trying any argument they can (without thinking about what they're actually saying. Congratulations, you played yourself.) to get the opposition to shut up.

This point alone could turn into it’s own thing, but its better lumped under the much larger discussion surrounding sexism and the female characters.

6. Productivity and unnecessary brutality.

The Meteor Tribe: *complains about infertility and health problems* Also the Meteor Tribe: *abuses their members capable of furthering the population*

So who wants to tell me why abuse even goes in the MT? The answer can't be "because they're just assholes." I'm looking for something along the lines of "cheap drama and the creator is as unimaginative as every other male creator out there with a rape fetish." Really, I’m curious—give me a good reason they abuse their female members, especially the ones capable of reproduction.

Abused creatures aren't productive creatures, and we were shown the mothers starving and skinny in flashbacks, yet...

1.) …none of the current members are in an emaciated state.

2.) …why would you abuse members who've proven they can reproduce? You think you'd want to treat them like royalty.

7. The tribe isn't really that inbred.

Yeah, this is another one of those things we've been given the impression is happening but...isn't. If you’ve seen one of the various fan-made family trees, you’ll notice there sure is a lot of outside blood. The inbreeding happens in really only one line—Ranach’s family.

Maybe it's just the science/genetics nerd in me, but this could've opened a lot of interesting and unique plot points—someone's condition starts acting up at the wrong moment or it has dire consequences on themselves or those around them—and it would add an actual sense of urgency to the tribe. As it is, they've been living...just fine and dandy. Ranach says they've been plagued by infertility and inbreeding, yet the tribe isn't actually experiencing any negative effects. Supposedly they have an issue with infertility, yet the tribe is full of outside blood (Fuss, Rogio, and other dogs shown on the chart to have come from outside the tribe)...and their numbers looked fairly large before Kargo the Killer singlehandedly decimated them.

8. Ferah and Kargo were involved in and led the only escape attempt.

Don’t come at me with “we don’t know that!” because nothing implies otherwise. “Actually, there were ten attempts at liberation before Home started” is meaningless. You can pull any explanation on the spot when your story is so shallow. What was it about Kargo and Ferah—both of whom grew up in the same environment as all the others—that made them have the guts to escape?

Aside from being the protagonists.

9. M-m-m-missed opportunities to make the MT threatening.

This story had the potential to be so much deeper had anything been put into it. The MT doesn’t really do much except take others captive…but with so many surrounding tribes, all it’d take is one war to get rid of them. While the MT would have the defense advantage due to their wall, the dogs have fire. Burn that shit down and kill they asses. Everyone else is allied anyway, for fuck’s sake.

Cannibalism. Worshiping dark spirits. Sacrificing caught outsiders. Ambitious for more territory. Rumors they’re not fully canine. Maybe Aedra dogs are very suspicious. Who the fuck knows.

We do know the MT sucks.

10. Ulfr and Ranach pose no threat.

So...why are Fuss and the others afraid to go outside? Because of Ranach and Ulfr?

Okay, they could be a threat...if it weren't for a few things.

1.) Ulfr and Ranach are two dogs.

2.) The tribe has Rogio, Roamer, Vigr, Javo, Galti, Fuss, Fremja, Inna, Alva, Vandi, Ronja, and Jonna. Even if you argue "but the female dogs can't fight!", that's bullshit for two reasons:

a. Rogio, Roamer, Galti, Vigr, Fuss, and Javo still outnumber Ulfr and Ranach.

b. Goddamnit, they're dogs. They know how to fight. It's not like Inna suddenly doesn't know how to use her teeth. It’s not like they’re even traumatized, either, and would freeze up when faced with one of their abusers.

3.) Even if they wouldn't fight well as individuals—and that’s a mighty big “if” since Rogio, Roamer, and Ronja have killed motherfuckers—there's goddamn six times more MT members than Ranach and Ulfr. They could overwhelm them by sheer number.

11. Ulfr's personal code of conduct.

I have one thing to say about this: it was done to avoid drawing a fight scene between Fuss and Ulfr. Like the recent bullshit with Roamer the Mature & Wise and Kargo.

Okay, I have a bit more than one thing to say about this, but it’s not restricted to Ulfr and this sudden character revelation.

12. There’s no depth to the MT characters.

See, the issue with Kique waiting so long to show us individual characterization for the various MT members is that so much of it comes as an ass pull, and we’ve known these characters since the early comic, but they were just background fodder and existed to waste space.

I can’t even give thumbs up to Jonna since she was shown to be bubbly and peppy and switched to demon overlord in a second…and then that was also forgotten, and now she’s against the guys. Or is she? We saw it with only Ulfr.

But according to Vandi, Javo, Vigr, and Fuss are totally good guys. Once again, none of that was shown. Let’s look at a few things first:

· Vigr

With Vigr, actually, we got the opposite of what Vandi said. He was among the dogs who roped Ronja, and he was specifically the one who held her down for Arenak—held her down to be raped.

“He was scared of Arenak” doesn’t fly. While we know little of Arenak (and this is something I consider a massive failure, too; we didn’t need tons of screentime—or really any screentime at all—to know he was a super feared guy), and these dogs were all too eager to follow along.

When Ronja was coming into the tribe to be roped, there was no moment of hesitation on Vigr’s part—even a brief moment of him being reluctant and the other dog telling him to do it would’ve shown not all of them were comfortable.

But that didn’t happen.

· Fuss

Good ol’ Fuss. Another we’re-told good guy…yet he joined a rapist cult, had ample opportunity (just like Rogio) to leave and didn’t, and rather than busting out his woman, he impregnated her. All while under Arenak’s rule. So he knew from the beginning what environment his offspring would grow up in: the boys would become rapist murderers, and the girls would be sex slaves.

You think his priority would be freeing Vandi rather than fucking her.

· Rogio

Oh, Rogio, Saint Rogio. He’s going to get his own post probably, but I’ll sum up his being a good dude:

Rogio was retconned into not having a choice to join the MT even though he had opportunity after opportunity to escape with others or even by himself but he didn’t because his love for Raniboy overpowered his horror at what went on in the tribe so he stayed and led the patrol that fully intended to capture Alva’s sister and said sister’s pups and he was mad at Ronja being made viscountess because that meant Raniboy wasn’t solely his anymore and then he left the tribe and fucked Roamer who was fresh out of a relationship after they had a long retconversation about who was the bigger saint and then he went back to the tribe and is now back at his baron position and no one has any lasting bitterness toward him and Ronja even apologized to him for treating him badly even though she never did.

Yay for Rogio! Such a great guy.

· Inna, Fremja, Jonna, Alva, and Vandi

They were a hivemind. Not a single one of them wanted to leave during the second freedom run—and Jonna flip-flops on characterization depending on how much Kique needs his fans to say some gross shit—yet now Fremja is having an orgasm over the wilderness, and Vandi, who could’ve been portrayed as a mentor/motherly figure from the beginning, is now doing it. Alva is still pure background fodder and seems to exist just to stare around and be the resident Golden Retriever.

Inna needs to stay off-screen since she has a nice design and I don’t want her to be ruined once she says more than ten words.

Anyway, I can’t talk about this anymore and am now actively aware of how shitty Rogio is so I’d rather scream about him. If there’s something obvious I missed, let me know. Thinking about that half-assed comic has me braindead.

Or even if anyone just wants to comment/discuss it, go ahead.

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W/ONDERLAN/U/NDERLAND DIVERGENCY

Now much of this divergency stems from varying factors, the main being: A: while the first movie had a good storyline, it didn’t delve as deep as it could have. B: obviously, certain actors have done some things so for my editing capabilities, i had to change his fc. C: I’m someone who very much likes to take a base and work beyond what i know the company would ever give, which is why i take the base of burtonverse and the game, as well as companion guide, and move beyond that. D: My blog is very much based in a verse where a spell happened and all the animals are no longer animals, which screws with people. and E: because ttlg was a hot mess on the major scale and as someone who half finished her own sequel to the first movie, barely acknowledge ttlg’s existence beyond regular whining.

So in the essence of the changes i’ve taken, both for my blogs purpose to keep the b/urtonverse name… possible, but also for my own safety since i’ve dealt with people coming at me for something that isnt my fault, isn’t related, or otherwise just shows that theres a lot of uneducated adolescents on this website that actually believe telling people to kill themselves either for differing opinions or lack of knowledge on a topic or person, i’m severely trying to avoid dealing with those people. So this is a wild mesh of thoughts not put together anywhere nearly as well as it could be, but im doing my best with my limited amount of free time and non chemical thought process as i am capable.

now nobody cares abt that stuff so lets get into the changes, rewrites, and divergency, shall we?

Now in my Underland (Which I know is different from Wo/nderland, but i do still think having it not be called w/onderland was a stupid idea therefore my calling it wonderland is both shade and because i type it quicker) its been several years since Alice’s visit (probably a lot less for her, if even a year, Gina had this cool time post for s/yfy alice that i keep alive every few months by regularly reblogging it so I’ll probably go find that and bring it back again later. ) and there’s been a magical outbreak– things creeping up which had long been deceased, spells cast to make nearly all the animals humanoid (the horses werent lucky enough, and it didn’t effect ches/hire because chesh already had a human form, and the capability to transform into whatever he pleased to a point), and it screws with a lot of minds for awhile, but something about being humanoid felt familiar to Mally.

Now, something which they never fully explained was how everyone knew each other. The game hints at them all knowing each other for awhile, many factors hint at St/ayne being a heavy influencer in the game, and likely having done something to the Queens relationship ( which, of course, was all dropped in the sequel because god forbid they give crispin more money), and i refuse to believe what ttlg gave us was anything close to what it actually was (especially with the lack of stay/ne, who played such a major role in the first movie that it makes no sense for him not to be in their past)

this is gonna be long, and be depth for a lot of characters. A good deal of Stay/ne by my opinions and headcanons can be read on my sta/yne sideblog (illosovic) in his about, and that blog is mostly just me whining abt ttlg but whatever. Most else can be read here, but i will touch on st/ayne some here, too.

TEA TRIO

Obviously the part most people care about, and with the face i actually chose for S/tayne, Sebby is not only one of the better actors to play a hatter imo (i legitimately only watched ouat for him ngl) even though he has done it before, i do feel like in the version i adapted from b/urtons and the hatter we had from b/urton anyways, seb could pull off the personality fluctuations as well as the insanity best. I was honestly torn on the alternate for a long time because i didnt want to use someone who’s played a hatter before, but all in all, who better to play a hatter than someone who has played a hatter and absolutely killed it.

anyways, the actual important part of this is, Everything ttlg had regarding mally in the past, that shiz aint real here. M/allymkun was born shortly before the R/ed Queen took over W/onderland, after her biological father was framed as a war criminal, her mother turned her into a mouse, and abandoned her in a clearing the forest by Witzend, and after the King and Queen already died, and Mi/rana was set to take over. I actually see it as Mirana hadn’t been Queen for that long before I/racebeth took the crown, because the longer M/irana was Queen, the less sense the story makes in my opinion, which I will get into.

Thackery is actually who found Mally, and that was after the H/ightopp residence had been burned down. Mally never learned about Hatter’s former name, at least not until C/heshire told her, because she never knew him as anything but Hatter.

Whilst out looking for something that could be of help to them (Years before the Oraculum was found), Thackery came across a tiny thing left alone beneath a large leaf. She was extremely tiny, frail, didn’t seem like she’d survive long. Neither of them were sure of her species yet, but Hatter took to taking care of her. She was raised by the Hatter and the Hare, and much of who she is comes from the two of them.

As with the fact she didn’t know either Queen, nor Sta/yne prior to Irace/beth’s takeover, Mallymkun never really came to know what the real personality of any of them was. She knew Ira/cebeth was evil, St/ayne was her lapdog, and M/irana was the truest good, because that is what Hatter told her. Hatter raised her, Hatter trained her, and the main reason Mally knew Miran/a could have the potential of acting just as bad as her sister was because she saw a moment in which Mira/na went dark. But she believed Mir/ana had to be the better ruler, because Hatter said so!

Each held their own capabilities, T/hackery with his minor Telekinesis (often used only with teacups, but occasionally bolders as well.), Hatter with his ability to conjoin objects in his mind, as long as they were able to fit together (worked brilliantly with creating delicacies in food, something both he and Th/ackery could do) but Mally wasn’t like that. She had none of the gifts they possessed, which led to Hatter teaching her much more fighting techniques, Thackery as well, until she had to start teaching herself the rest. Her physical capabilities go far beyond that of most of those in Won/derland, in spite of her small size. (only grew stronger when she got bigger.

Mally had once gone undercover in the Red Kingdom, which she doesn’t entirely remember. An accidental mishap caused her to turn humanoid then, and St/ayne quickly figured out who she was– hard not to when she looked so much like her mother. He’d taken to manipulating her, which she fell for for a time, even developing a slight crush on St/ayne himself, though she saw his true nature not long after, and more of a fear grew from that.

C/HESHIRE CAT

There actually aren’t many changes to the C/heshire Cat, or many additions I’ve made personally (my friends who write him do a far more beautiful job of that.) I do include the reference in the book, however, where The Du/chess views the Che/shire Cat as her pet. Whilst C/hesh doesn’t see himself as her pet, he does take advantage of her spoiling of him. C/heshire also wasn’t exactly effected by the spell, since he already could transform into a humanoid form, as well as copy others.

THE RE/D KNAVE

Il/osovic S/tayne, has the most changes I’ve made next to mally. Mostly due to the fact that his character, in my opinion, was extremely underused. With all the hints and inferences made for his character, they didn’t really deliver. He could easily have been the real main villain, much of what happened could easily have been caused by him, much of which I have here, though I do have to make edits to that.

Mainly, I view Sta/yne as the whistleblower. he purposely ensured the rift already forming between the siblings grew worse, he set them up against each other, he was behind every bit of the plot, or encouraged it forward, just to ensure he had a shot at whichever queen became superior. He lost with M/irana, he wasn’t going to lose with Irace/beth. He couldn’t stand being around Ir/acebeth, but like hell was he gonna let her know that. He’d flirt, he’d manipulate, and he’d slyly degrade her until she felt like she needed him. He emotionally manipulated her to the point he was in control, and he wasn’t planning on letting that control slide.

He was also, at one point, friends with Hatter. St/ayne was a poor boy growing up, but Ta/rrant hardly judged him, but as St/ayne grew bigger, jealousy over how his sister was treated with love, whilst his mother harmed him, his brother was popular and he was ignored, and his growing desire to gain so much power, nobody could hurt him again, that forged a rift in their friendship. By the time they were adults, and Sta/yne already hurt M/irana, he encouraged the destruction of Hatter’s village and family, shattering whatever bond they formed as kids, as well as ensuring Hatter knew what pain was. Something, he felt, he did not know.

WHI/TE RABBIT

Whi/te Rabbit, by contrast, is starkly different. M/cTwisp is an agent of Time, fulfilling his role as the guide to Alice, and M/cTwisp is likely older than most others– though, in some situations, he hardly realizes it himself. His only responsibility is to guide Alice to her destiny, each time the clock turns. Sometimes, when a new Alice is born, he forgets himself, practically reborn in the moment. He’s a stopwatch given to him by Time itself, allowing M/cTwisp to temporarily freeze Time in a moment to accomplish a task, and the time traversement of Wonderland’s portals through other realms (many of which transfere through M/cTwisps own halls), Time never passes for M/cTwisp. Not in the sense it does for others. Whilst months would pass for a normal creature who left Wonderland and returned a week later, hardly a day would pass for M/cTwisp. Time always occurs as a constant for him, no matter how it occurs for others. He is also capable of traversing to exact points in Upperland’s time should he need to.

MOCK TURTLE

An extremely apathetic man, the Mock Turtle was never entirely a turtle, and never entirely anything else. He longed for the days he was in the sea, until he was cursed to live between lands. A ‘teacher’ in a way, though his version of school far different than others are accustomed to. He ‘taught’ the Queens, but eventually was sent off back to the sea by the King for disrespecting M/irana during a lecture, mostly for stating she hadn’t the heart to be a Queen, she barely had the heart to swim in the sea. He had been particularly kind to Ira/cebeth, however.

THE CATERPILLAR

A//bsolem, the wise. Many view him as the all knowing in Wonderland, yet many still only hear him talk in riddles and puzzles. Mallymkun really hates the way he talks, tbh. She hates how he makes a point to make it so you have to figure something out on your own. But, she likes how his words can be taken wrong and prove her point, even if her point is actually wrong.

DODO BIRD

Uilleam held full belief in Alice, and, after narrowly escaping the Jub Jub bird, would later return to his post as a mentor in the W/hite Queen’s court. A nobleman, he’s seen as wise, often kind, though he holds the mentality that nobody should have to lose for one to win– something that kept him from fighting in the war at the start. He is extremely good with kids, but many adults tend to dislike him, except when he takes their side. In certain situations, however, he will state that there needs to be a winner, which is what led to him finally taking part in the resistance, and helping to take the R/ed Queen down.

BAYARD

The most loyal of beings, Ba/yard was forced to serve the R/ed Queen for a great deal of time, but only so he could protect his wife and pups. M/allymkun used him as a sort of horse due to her size at the time, and he hadn’t minded. Often, he comes over to Mally, acting much like a father figure to her, as he does on occasion with Alice. Ba/yard cares far more for people than he likely should, but would risk anyone else for the safety of his kids and wife, whom he holds in the highest of regards.

THE QUEENS

The tart thing was the stupidest thing i’ve ever seen, i’m just pointing that out right now. I believe there was a rift long before any incident. I/racebeth’s accident wasn’t M/irana’s fault, and M/irana never meant to be malicious to her sister. Ira/cebeth was spoiled when she was young, but when M/irana was born, most of her parents attention went to her– and I/racebeth was left mostly to her tutors, trying to raise her to being a good queen.

S/tayne was initially attracted to M/irana, though he played nice with both princesses. When they were younger, S/tayne had started courting M/irana– though, it was kept private, the lowly stable boy (though, eventually gaining a promotion to a knight, with the held of M/irana) being considered too lowly for a princess. Though, S/tayne often had a wandering eye, and betrayed M/irana– which led to her lashing out on him, and causing his loss of an eye.

He kept his position, having glamored his way into the hearts of the princesses parents (a gift which ran in his family– he could bewitch and charm others into falling in a form of love with him, trick them into adoring him, manipulate to new bounds.) M/irana never trusted him again. The eye was ruled as an accident on assignment, and the rumors of Mi/rana’s mistreatment of a man she wasn’t officially with (S/tayne, spreading the rumor that a woman flirted with him, and whilst he hadn’t responded, the disastardly princess was so filled with jealously over not getting her way for once, she harmed him for it. ) grew, and he ensured I/racebeth would learn his version.

I/racebeth, already feeling emotional distraught from her parents, became an easier target for S/tayne. When their parents died ,and M/irana was labeled next in line, S/tayne took it as a chance to send Ir/acebeth into a fit of rage, and have her J/abberwocky attack the H/ightopp clan, taking the crown and becoming the Queen. He also whispered the rumors of infidelity of I/racebeth’s husband to her people, ensuring Ir/acebeth would hear of the faults. The Red K/ing’s demise being an aftereffect of St/ayne ensuring Ira/cebeth thought he cheated on her with M/irana, an ultimate crime, and S/tayne made sure he was there to pick up the pieces. His adoring of her keeping his place held high, and ensured he got his way.

ALICE

breathes in, breathes out, M/ALLYMKUN DOESNT HATE ALICE!!!! NOT IN THE JEALOUSY SENSE!!! In fact, Mally’s distaste for Alice goes far beyond the stupid jealousy people think it’s about. Because, don’t forget, when Hatter said Alice was the right Alice, her treatment of Alice instantly changed– she was nice to her, she answered her questions, it was when Hatter’s life was put at risk because of Alice that Mally treated her badly again.

In the sense of my blog (and, when Mally first unlocks her powers, mostly) Alice had finally come back. Hatter missed her, and she left without a second thought. Mally didn’t like how Hatter perked up at Alice’s return, she hated how he suddenly started caring more for her than his friends, in her sights.

She wasn’t jealous, Mally might have been in love with Tare, but she didn’t care if he didn’t fall in love with her. For flips sake, she stated directly that she thought he had a thing for M/irana, and seemed all dreamy about the idea. You know she was shipping whitehats.

But, Alice was just a child when Mally first saw her. Mally was training all her life to be a hero, she wanted to be the one to save Wonderland, then they found the o/raculum– and Alice was the labeled hero. Alice, upon returning, didn’t want to be the hero, and Mally hated that fact.

Mally was afraid, but she jumped at the chance to take Alice’s place as the hero. But she wasn’t allowed, she couldn’t save the world, that was Alice’s responsibility.

And Alice only killed one creature.

And she was the hero.

Mally trained all her life for that, and she was pushed aside for Alice. Mally had been with Hatter through her entire life, she’d seen him at his lowest (including a time he couldn’t control his own actions anymore, an older headcanon of mine where he had accidentally hurt her because of his swings, which is what caused him to become so guilt ridden, he started being able to more easily be pulled from that state of mind– he didn’t want to hurt his friends ever again.) M/allymkun loved Hatter through everything, she never left him, she never left her friends, she stayed with them and she did everything she could to save them.

But Alice was he hero.

And when Alice comes back again years later, and they’re faced against S/tayne again, Mally’s put in mortal danger.

But Hatter goes to Alice first.

not because he thinks she’s more important, Hatter weighed in the options, he thought Mally would be able to pull herself out of trouble, but Alice might not be able to. He went to Alice because he didn’t think she could save herself like Mally could. But that caused Mally to fall, and disappear for weeks while people thought she was dead. This is what broke the spell her mother placed on her, blocking her powers from being used, and keeping the rest of her family from being able to find her, but she was left abandoned, alone, and in pain, because Alice came first.

And Alice, thinking with her worlds point of view instead of theirs, thought Mally couldn’t have survived the fall. There wasn’t a way she could have lived from where she fell, and no way she could have gotten out of the water.

Mally thought they didn’t bother to look, but their search efforts were pointless.

She came back, she found out Alice said something, and she thinks her pain is Alice’s fault. If Alice wasn’t around, they could have found another way to defeat I/racebeth, they could have wom another way. Any Mally wouldn’t have had to experience pain.

Then there was the fact the marks of her father’s bloodline started appearing on her skin, marks remembered belonging to a clan that tried to destroy the royalty. Up until her father (whom nobody knows was her father), who fought for the King, was his greatest warrior, and was set to marry either M/irana or I/racebeth. He hadn’t, and her mother framed him to have killed the King and Queen. He disappeared, and the family was forever seen to be a collection of traitors.

Mally didn’t know any of that, she can’t even read to learn about further history beyond I/racebeth’s betrayal.

People treated her differently, and she could only hold Alice responsible for that.

Mally doesn’t hate Alice because she’s jealous of her and Hatter, she’s pissed off that Alice was (accidentally) the cause of her pain, and thinks that if Alice weren’t around, she wouldn’t have had to suffer at all.

Though, certain things started the second Mally became a humanoid– her eyes were different, but the resemblance to her mother was too strong to be ignored. It was pretty clear she was Feina’s daughter, especially to M/irana and I/racebeth– they had to see it, because they grew up with Feina, and spent a fair bit of time under her care.

THE D/UCHESS

The D/uchess was a childhood friend of the Princesses, thought she wasn’t a royal at the time. Her mother was the former Duchess, and her father had died at a young age, shortly after her younger brother, I/losovic was born. Their mother treated her and her brother with great care, but I/losovic was treated with terrors– often beaten, no matter what he did. This was due to the work their mother took up to keep them in position, even if they no longer were wealthy as they were. Allergies were formed which led to a great deal of violence on their mothers part, and I/losovic held the closest range to her.

Upon becoming a Duchess herself, she was always kind and well treated. C/heshire being a dear friend of hers, whom she considered her dear pet. Often she’d treat him to the greatest of delights.

However, her friendship with the Queens had shattered overtime, due to I/losovic ensuring she held some form of hardship– he tricked the siblings into believing her horrid and evil, trying to tear the titles from their hands and steal their father from their mother. The D/uchess was banished, once the R/ed Queen took control, though she never took full stride in it. The only one who knows her whereabouts is C/heshire.

MALLYS EXTENDED FAMILY

Her biological father, Vas Moraj. He is Gethris younger half brother, and is known to be the strongest, and most strange member of their family. The Moraj line was long known to be filled with traitors to the court, but Vas wanted to protect the royalty. He was the child of Fate, and though not exactly a deity himself, did possess far stronger powers than the rest of his family. He’d fallen in love with Feina in his youth, and had an affair with her,which led to Miseris and Mallymkun. He also raised her elder children, Seracien and Torielle, as his own. He wasn’t around when Mally and Mason were born, though, as Feina had trapped him in a pocket universe, to keep him out of her way.

Feina Laquer Morae, an extremely powerful sorceress. She was only around 20 or so years older than the Queens, and being Wonderlands slowed aging, appeared around their age most of her life. She trained Mirana briefly in magic arts, and always tried to encourage Iracebeth not to let go of her title, that she could be the greatest queen of all, so long as she didn’t take no for an answer. A creature of chaos, and an empath, Feina held the power to force horrid memories back on a person, to force emotions on someone through touch, and held telepathy and telekinesis, among other things. Her powers hadn’t transferred to Mallymkun nearly as much as her looks– out of all four of her children, Mallymkun held the greatest resemblance to her.

Miseris, or Mason, for short, was raised by his uncle (whom he believed to be his father), Gethris. He was raised with the impression that his cousins, Jynx and Hayze, were his sisters, but over time, as his powers over the mind increased, he came to learn the truth. Especially when he met his elder half siblings (half cousins), and Seracien told him the truth. The rest, Mason worked out for himself, and he knew two things for sure– he was going to be one of the strongest members of his family, and when Mallymkun grew her powers, their powers combined could make them deities.

Gethris horribly mistreated his own children, manipulating them into his own persnoal servants, and he hadn’t done much better with Miseris. Gethris partnered with Feina to destroy Vas, which feina agreed once she learned Vas was intending on denying the King’s wishes, so he could marry Feina instead of the princess. Gethris only got his hands on one of the twins, however, as Feina betrayed her half of the deal before he betrayed her. A spell was placed on Mallymkun, which kept her powers hidden away, her appearance altered into a mouse-like form, and her overall existence from Gethris knowledge or ability to find. As Gethris lost his powers centuries before, he planned on using Vas children to fulfill the prophecy– for their family to ascend– only he intended on taking Miseris and Mallymkun’s powers for himself, and destroy the rest of Wonderland.

When Gethris had gotten ahold of Mally, he tortured her in attempts to unlock all of her power. Miseris eventually let her out, and she ran off, Though, Gethris is always searching, and didn’t plan to stop.

TIME, SPACE, FATE (not pictured)

each their own being. Fate defines the future, Time controls itself, and Space alters and holds between each realm. Fate chose to enhance the Moraj family through leaving a piece of themself in Vas, and create the prophecy regarding Mallymkun and Miseris.

Time is seen more as a neutral character, caring about securing itself through the world, and keeping fate’s reign.

space is above itself, but fate decides the ultimate.

I do have a lot of other characters and info, but that can be saved for a …shorter post…

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Glenn’s story

Glenn's Story

A couple of months ago, I received an e-mail from Gleen, a guy from London.

He contacted me by recommendation from his friend, originally from Croatia.

He was thinking about full sleeve tattoo and was wondering if we could arrange the design and other details by e-mail.

Negotiations by e-mail were never quite my thing. I prefer to communicate with my clients face to face, which turned out to be more efficient and practical. That's why I advised Glenn to book two VIP REVOLT appointments.

If a client lives near, I suggest one VIP REVOLT appointment for the start, but for the ones coming from other countries, I advise booking two.

It's because you can never tell how long will INKDIVIDUAL consultations and planning of tattoo last. Sometimes we can finish it in a couple of hours, but sometimes, believe it or not, it can last as long as eight hours.

And that's exactly what I want to write about.

To make a long story short, I advised Glenn to study my web site Anubis-tattoo.com, read what and how I do, to check out VIP appointments and a gallery of my works, so he could be sure I'm the right choice for what he wants.

A couple of days later, Glenn confirmed he's sure I'm the kind of tattoo artist he wanted and was looking for a long time. He paid part of the cost in advance and I booked his appointments.

For me personally, conversations by e-mail have a big flaw because I can't tell what kind of person is gonna knock at my door.

Why flaw?

Because things work quite differently at my studio.

Most tattoo artists choose their clients by the tattoo they wanna have done, how much they wanna pay or by tattoo style they prefer.

Nothing of those things matter to me.

That's why all my clients pay the same and they all go through INKDIVIDUAL consultations.

I choose my clients by their personality and their approach to tattooing. It may sound bad or even arrogant, but put yourself in my shoes - how would you like to spend eight hours with a person you usually wouldn't even have coffee with?

To paint a picture a bit better, these are the types of people tattoo artists encounter regularly:

• they enter the studio as if they own you, and that's exactly how they proceed to act

• they see you as a tool, not a person

• they set limits but expect you to do wonders

• they're insecure in their decision and submissive to other people's opinions

• have weak intellectual abilities

• they're physically and mentally ill

• they have wrong approach to tattooing

• they're presumptuous, annoying, arrogant, angry, without character...

After 15 years of working with that kind of people, I have no interest in having any kind of contact with them anymore. I believe many of You can relate.

But, let's get back to the story...

Two months later, Glenn's calling: Hello! I'm in front of your door, can You let me in? I came for my appointment.

Glenn traveled almost 2000 kilometers because he was sure he wants to work with me, but even at this moment, he still didn't know what he was getting himself into. I already had great respect for him because he put so much effort from the start, and when I opened the door and saw him, I was sure he was my type of client.

I showed him the way to the kitchen, made us some coffee and we started talking.

Getting to know each other

I don't like going into details right away. Instead, we talked in general about ourselves, what we do, how was his trip and about tattoos.

The more detailed conversation comes later, during the process of tattooing.

Whishes and ideas

I got comfortable in my chair and asked Glenn to tell me more about his idea. Not because I could put it into practice later, but to see the level of his expressing, his expectations, understanding and knowledge of tattooing. If I hear something unrealistic or something I'm not in a position to offer, I like to say it right away so we wouldn't waste our time on something that's not gonna happen.

Description of the idea

Glenn put about 20 pages of paper on the table. They were all covered in coloured drawings of mythological creatures he wanted to put on his arm. In addition, he wanted to have silhouettes of people fighting each of those creatures.

What is so great about our brain is that it can imagine unimaginable. But once we got back to reality, we started seeing flaws in Glenn's idea. To make this happen, and to transfer all the creatures credibly from the paper, we need a certain body surface. We can put a couple of the creatures on his arm, but not all 20 of them. Maybe if he would agree to tattoo his whole body...

Tattooing is therefore limited by style and technique, the medium it is performed on (skin), and artist's skill and experience.

Glenn quickly realized we had a problem and started worrying because that was the only idea he had.

INKDIVIDUAL consultations

I told him to relax and that it's normal for everything to crumble right at the beginning of the process because a person who isn't completely familiar with tattooing and it's possibilities, can't make tattooing plan all by himself. It's kind of as if you draw a house and take it to the construction company to build it. Can't be done. There is a whole team of people, from architects to builders, who will help you with the idea, design and construction.

Well, when it comes to your tattoo, I'm your architect, builder and everything in between.

People don't get this, and that’s why I designed INKDIVIDUAL consultations.

I asked Glenn what is important to him when it comes to tattoo, and what isn't. I explained when it's OK for him to dictate the direction we’re gonna go, and when it's better to let me be in charge. Simply put - we agreed on what is his, and what is my role in the process of making his tattoo.

I explained it on everyday life examples and Glenn offered all the right answers by himself.

Once we found a mutual language and he understood how to approach tattooing, Glenn clapped his hands and said: OK, I'm ready, let's move on!

The beauty of INKDIVIDUAL consultations is that they allow you to create something you're not able to imagine by yourself. They help to create a symbiosis between a client and the tattoo artist. You become an extension of me, a fresh source of ideas and creativity, and I become yours - source of knowledge and experience. Together we create unthinkable.

Fresh start - reference

Trough INKDIVIDUAL consultations Glenn understood what he was actually paying for, and what is in fact completely irrelevant. One of the most important things in the process is the reference. We spent next hour searching the Internet looking for as much material as possible to work with. We're still at zero and don't know what we're gonna do and how. But, if we only have one reference, we have only one choice. That reference is supposed to fullfil all our wishes and combinations we imagined, what is as possible as winning the lottery. More references for one character offer us more possibilities and more combinations, which also means a greater chance of success.

Process of elimination

So we collected about a hundred references and Glenn was once again stunned. What now? Everything looks great, how to decide how to proceed?

We began the process of elimination which is actually pretty short because I lead you trough it using your emotions and taste. In the end, you get the tattoo you want – the one you'll want for the rest of your life.

Every day I hear or get messages 'I want to have this tattooed', and my question is always the same: how do you know you want something for the rest of your life?

By eliminating things, we're getting rid of stuff you don't want. Once you've thrown away a whole bunch of stuff, you start realizing what you actually do want. What is left is the right option in which you are certain because you have just eliminated everything that's wrong for you.

Styles and techniques

Every reference is doable in more than 20 different ways and each of them demands minimal size and sets certain boundaries. At the moment we have a huge amount of options, but we'd spend too much time if we started trying them all out. That's why I have prepared a folder with different styles and techniques for my clients. I explained all their benefits and shortcomings to Glenn, and we started eliminating once again.

As a result, we now have great references, style, and technique we're gonna use. We're ready to start planning the tattoo.

Planning

We've been working for three hours and we still don't have tattoo design. But Glenn isn't disappointed. In fact, he's full of adrenaline and excited about the next step. He understands the importance of preparation and that tattooing is not simple nor should it be treated as such.

Great thing is that I use a tablet so clients who aren't visual types can see and understand what I'm talking about, how's tattoo supposed to look like and direct me to their desires.

As I have already said, ever style demands minimal space and sets certain boundaries. At the same time, every reference has its own shape and position. Once again we have a lot of options and it's impossible to try them all. We have to eliminate some of them, but this time, I choose which. I have no feelings towards Glenn's references, so I can see the situation from a different perspective.

I put my focus on the appearance of the tattoo and offered Glenn options with the references and style he chose. I explained what is possible to do and how - I offered him the simplest, more and the most complicated execution. I never force my clients to choose the fastest or the most complicated process. Instead, I offer a couple of options and explain them step by step, so a client knows what to expect.

And as most of my clients do, Glenn chose the most demanding execution.

And why shouldn't he, when all of them cost the same? That's the point of VIP appointment.

I asked him to take his shirt off so I could photograph his arm and place a sketch of a tattoo on it.

And there it was - a whole new set of problems. Glenn has many moles which would ruin most of the images he wanted to have tattooed. Even though this new info could seem like an unsolvable problem, it's just another challenge which allows us to demonstrate creativity and resourcefulness of client-artist symbiosis.

Brainstorming

We poured ourselves a new cup of coffee and started brainstorming how to carry out our mythological creatures without ruining them.

Half an hour later, we had a new idea how to adjust style and technique in a way that won't be affected by moles. We decided to do our best references in semi-realistic style, cb technique, and position them in places where moles won't ruin them. Around references, we'll place the Polynesian tattoo.

Polynesian tattoo is made of symbols which clients choose from book. Each symbol has it's meaning so it allows them to create their own story. I always do it freehand so I can adjust things during a process if necessary.

We both loved the idea about Polynesia, but I was a bit restless and I could tell Glenn was feeling the same way.

'Buddy, I love where this is going, but don't you think it's wrong to mix mythological creatures from every civilization with Polynesia? It's like we're putting them into the same basket, but Polynesia is not a myth. It's real. I do want this tattoo to be great, but I wouldn't like to destroy certain values in the process', I told Glenn and he agreed. Meaning of Polynesian symbols has nothing to do with mythology which was Glenn's primary wish.

At that moment, I had an idea - to do Polynesian style tattoo but with symbols from mythology.

Glenn loved it. He never saw something like that before and he got a new rush of adrenalin. We were brainstorming once again.

The process of inventing symbols from mythology

We agreed on four motives, realistic style, which seemed most doable and would look good (Eye of a dragon, Medusa, Manticore, and our favourite - Cockatrice).

There were couple more of them which we wanted to fit in this big story about mythology, and for which we also had to invent symbols (Fenrir, Scylla, Hydra, Kraken, Cyclops, Griffin, Basilisk, Naga, Golem...).

We studied narrative about each of them, drew inspiration from there and invented symbols which reflect their story.

What that actually means?

Let's take Cyclops for an example.

Cyclops are mythological giants known for having just one eye. Best known are the sons of Uranus and Gaea. They made weapons for gods (Poseidon's trident, lightning bolts for Zeus, helmet for Ares...).

What we did is we invented the symbols for Cyclops, Uranus, Gaea, forging weapons, trident, lightning, helmet... We could go even further, but 7-9 symbols for every creature was just fine for the beginning (at the end we had about a hundred of them 😊 ).

Glenn also asked if that's not a bit too much, but it's always good to have more options.

It took us two more hours and three coffees to finish this part.

Next big step was to present mythological symbols in Polynesian style.

I've been working with Polynesian symbols for years so I'm quite familiar with the topic.

I told Glenn to get comfortable and enjoy, it was time for me to do my magic. The only thing he had to do is say 'yes' or 'no' to my drawings.

I drew each symbol in Polynesian style on paper. I could tell Glenn was thrilled while the idea he came up with, got real. He saw what it means to create your own tattoo. Creativity was all over the place, so it took me only half an hour to finish everything.

Brainstorming, planning, talking from 10 am to 4 pm got us pretty tired, but it was totally worth it.

We were ready for the next step.

Size and position

We printed our references to decide on their size and position on Glenn's body. Once again we had to adjust our plan so all the mythological creatures would be perfectly set on his arm. I told Glenn what needed to be adjusted and where I wanted to put which character. He agreed and we could proceed.

Freehand drawing of the whole hand

Polynesian style and the way I do it was completely new to Glenn. He had no idea how I'm gonna merge realism with Polynesia. His curiosity was at its peak and he couldn't wait to discover this unknown area.

This wasn't the first time he was getting a tattoo. He did his homework researching tattoo artists, their work, he visited many tattoo studios, but still he was experiencing something completely new right now, something he couldn't imagine he'd experience when he chose me, and he was fascinated with what was happening.

I told him to enjoy the process and that I'll guide him all the way, telling him exactly what I'm doing so we can react right away if there's something he doesn't like.

After I washed and shaved Glenn's arm, I drew the contours and size of the surface with markers. He approved and we moved on.

Combination of mapping and freehand drawing is always tricky. If I drew full mythological Polynesia and start mapping after, images will ruin many of the symbols, which I really don't want.

Another way is to use mapping first and draw symbols around. But, this way symbols won't look like the background as I want them to. It would be obvious I drew around images, and it would ruin Polynesian style which always has to follow body contours.

As long as I'm combining styles, I thought, why not combine the way I'm gonna position images.

As always when I do Polynesia, I started drawing fields in which I was going to place symbols. I always draw them on muscle or curves of the arm so they are positioned in the best possible way. But again moles got in the way. If I try to bypass them, the tattoo will be discontinuous and it won’t look good.

F..k it, I said and explained to Gleen we are once again in an unknown area. Once again I had to improvise.

The poor guy looked at me and nodded in approval, pretty much exhausted from all the changes.

I decided to do double lines between the fields following the trajectory of moles, instead of curves of the hand. Glenn was confused but aware of kind of the skin he has, so he completely put his trust in me. When coming to my studio, he was scared I would turn him down because of the moles. But that was not an option because my clients are open-minded and creative, so together we always find the way to the final goal.

After this, I mapped the references and started drawing the symbols. First I sketched where I wanted to place them and got another approval from my investor 😊

With a marker, I thickened all the lines and sketches, polished everything and finally finished the design.

It was already 6.10 PM, end of our appointment.

Usually, when I finish the design, I outline it with a light colour so I can see shapes and can continue at a second appointment. But we were so tired that we decided to wrap it up for the day. I explained Glenn how to preserve the design for next two days when we had the second appointment and sent him to his apartment.

If something gets wiped out, we'll draw again 😊

Second appointment

Two days later Glenn returned rested, smiling and ready to continue.

We had coffee and talked about how the first appointment wore us down, how he smeared all the bed sheets and about methods he tried to keep as much design intact as possible.

After half an hour, I couldn't wait anymore, I had to see how much design we had left.

The result was much better than I expected. To be honest, I expected it all to be ruined, and was ready to spend another five hours drawing. Lines of mythologic Polynesia were smudged, thick and sloppy, but I still had what I needed the most - position, symbols and ratio of the sizes.

To end my short story, which turned out to be a long one - I drew back missing symbols, fixed smudged lines, connected my equipment and finally started tattooing.

I outlined the whole design with light colour so we can continue next year. I also started tattooing the image so Glenn can get the picture of what it's gonna look like, but the most important thing is that we set the grounds and there'll be no more complications when we see each other next time (or at least we hope so 😊 )

To conclude...

Usually, the whole process is not this long or complicated, but you have to be prepared for everything if you want your own unique tattoo.

I just wanted to show you a couple of things that you might encounter on your way of getting a tattoo no one else has.

I wanted to show you why my clients change their minds once they step into my studio.

Explain what VIP treatment is.

That at my studio you don't pay for a tattoo, but service.

Demonstrate the effort both by my clients and I invest in this process.

Getting a tattoo for me is everything but simple and it doesn't work by the principle 'I want that, how much?'. I'm sure you'll find someone who operates in that manner, but I've specialized in creating your stories, designed and made only for you and in line with your standards. The only thing that is important to me is that your tattoo is beautiful and that you love it.

Glenn's story is not in class by itself. I had many situations like this one, but I wanted to use Glenn's story as a symbol representing experience my clients and I go through in the process of getting a tattoo.

How much all of this is important to me is supported by the fact that I've spent four hours writing this article. And it still has to be edited and translated 😊

If you want a tattoo that's only yours, that is unique, pretty and it suits you - I'm here for you.

Žvaki

Questionnaire

1. Have I managed to demonstrate how much effort we invest during the process?

2. What impression did Glenn's story have on you?

3. How important it is for you to create a symbiosis with your tattoo artist?

4. Have you ever encountered this kind of work?

5. How much did you invest in planning your tattoo?

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jam-knife · 7 years

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An Interview With the Muse

So, @cookies-and-justice came up with this and Hell yeah I’m doing it.

What is your Full name? Include any maiden names, aliases, or nicknames.

Beyond Birthday. I know, pretty colorful, right? Some people have come to know me as B, BB, Backup or Ryuzaki. I don’t enjoy being called those last two, though.

When is your birthday? Do you know where you were born and at what time?

That would be April the 13th at New York City. I'm half-american half-japanese, so even though we definitely moved to Japan shortly after, I was born during one of my dad's business trips. I don’t know at what time, though.

What is your star sign? Do you know your Chinese Zodiac too?

That would be Pisces, which actually... explains a lot. And in the Chinese Zodiac I’m a Metal Rooster. Not that accurate but whatever.

What is your earliest memory that you can remember?

I remember walking a gray, dark street while holding my mother’s hand. There was a storm about to break, if I recall correctly.

Where was your childhood home? Was it more urban or rural?

I lived with my parents at a condo until I was around seven, when they both died. I rotted in the city streets for a while after that, and a few years later I was taken to Wammy’s, an orphanage in Winchester, England, where I lived until short before I turned twenty.

How was your childhood in general? Did your parents treat you well? Did you have a lot of friends?

Shitty. My parents did treat me well but, again, they died when I was really young. I only had one friend; he commited suicide.

How was/is school? What is your favorite and least favorite subjects? What were your grades on average?

School’s boring. Why would I force myself to go to an institution where a limited being will teach me stuff I could easily learn on my own? And I don’t have a favorite or least favorite subject. Subjects are subjects, and their only reason to exist -leaving knowledge aside- is to be passed. I easily passed them all with almost perfect scores.

Did you have a best friend growing up? What was their name? Are you still in touch?

Yes. His name was Alexander. And like I’ve already said, he’s dead.

Did you ever have any sweethearts or lovers? Do you have a boy/girlfriend?

Not what you’d call a traditional lover. I’ve had a few... encounters, but I’m not exactly the average person, nor had I any average relationships. The only person that ever got close to that description... well, I've been talking too much about him already.

Do you ever plan on getting married in your life? Do you want kids?

No. I don’t have anything against marriage or kids other than that they’re annoying, but even so that outcome is highly unlikely.

How would you prefer to pass away? Surrounded by loved ones and at peace, or while doing something heroic?

Neither. I’ve never been surrounded by loved ones while alive so having them around once I’m dead won’t make much of a difference. And I don’t consider myself to be the heroic type either. Though if I had some sort of decision here... I’d say that if I came to this world screaming and covered in blood, then it’s only fair I leave it likewise.

Generally, how healthy are you? Do you get sick or injured easily or are you fit?

I'm fit, and have quite a good resistance to illness and infection. I do get injured quite often though, but that has to do with my line of work and habits in general.

Have you ever been badly injured before?

Well I once set myself on fire.

Have you ever had to give yourself or someone else emergency first aid?

Yes, more often than I had expected to be honest.

Are you employed? Where do you work and who do you work for? What do you do?

I am employed. I don’t think it would be sensible to tell you what I do or where I do it though.

Are you happy with your current job?

It is thrilling, I’ll give it that.

Did you have any previous jobs? What were they and what did you do?

I’ve worked in several areas, mostly anything that makes fucktons of money. But I can only tell you about a few... I was once an assistant at a morgue. Became director that same week but quit shortly after.

Most dangerous thing you have ever done?

Again, I once set myself on fire.

Do you consider yourself a more active person or a more relaxed person?

Active.

How persistent would you say you are? How much does it take to get you to give up on a task?

I never give up on a task. Even if it takes years of planning and several failures.

When do you usually do your shopping? What is currently on your shopping list?

Usually when I open the fridge and find nothing inside. I’m a very busy person. Though I do shop abundantly and cook a lot during leaves of absence. Right now my list says: strawberries, sugar, knife sharpener, gas mask and soy sauce.

Do you like shopping? What is your favorite thing to shop for?

Don’t particularly like it, unless I’m buying manga.

What would you describe your style of clothing as?

Whatever’s resistant, stylish and doesn’t get stained with blood easily. Mostly black.

Do you have any hobbies? Name all of them if you can.

Uh... drawing, painting, cooking, solving crosswords, chess, a few instruments, reading... there must be more for sure.

Do you like and appreciate art? What is your favorite piece of artwork?

I know a lot about art. And I do appreciate it; not because of its quality, technique, fame or whatever. What’s truly important to define what good art is is whether it makes you feel something or not. My favorite so far is Bouguereau’s Dante And Virgil In Hell.

Do you like music? What is your favorite style of music?

Yes, I do. My current favorites are SOAD, Halestorm, Vivaldi and lots of OST.

Have you ever seen any musicals? What is your favorite?

A few. The most representative ones I have seen. However, my utmost favorite remains to be Les Miserables. Sweeny Todd is quite good too, though.

What are your top three favorite animals?

Black panthers, owls and siberian huskies

What are your top three favorite colors?

Crimson, black and yellowed white (you know, like old paper)

What is your favorite season? Do you prefer hotter or colder weather?

I like winter, mostly because wearing lots of clothing helps conceal stuff. But I enjoy walking around with a t-shirt and jeans only too, so I’m not that big a fan of cold weather

What kind of flavors do you prefer: Sweet, Sour, Bitter, Spicy, Dry, or Umami (savory meat taste)?

All flavors are worth my preference. However, I’m strongly addicted to sweet stuff.

Can you cook at all?

Against what many people might believe, I’m an exceptional cook.

What is your favorite fruit and vegetable?

Strawberries and onion.

What is your favorite dessert? What is your favorite type of candy/treat?

Strawberry jam tart has a special place in my heart, and it always will. My father used to make it for me when I was little.

Do you like to drink tea or coffee? Any favorite flavors?

I’m definitely an Earl Grey tea person. It’s about the only drink with no sugar in it I have regularly.

Describe your sense of humor.

Dry, sarcastic, merciless. I’m of the belief that, if there’s a particular issue nobody should be making fun of, there must be at least two jokes about it.

Do you have any religious beliefs? If not, have you ever been to a church service?

I have been to church services but I’m not a believer myself. I’m deeply interested in Japanese legends and culture, for obvious reasons.

Share the latest entry in your diary/journal.

Oh, wow. Here it reads “Tie them first, stab them second.” I’m definitely ignoring that advice, thank you past self.

#beyond birthday #interview #muse

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rotten-zucchinis · 7 years

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Thank you for all your research on addyi. I jumped through so many hoops to be on it, and it just ended up being a miserable flop that made me ashamed to be ace. Politics and science never mix well, and the only way to fight it is to inform women about what it really is. Also, the black box alcohol warning is bs. The trials had a primarily male group down a bottle of wine in a short amount of time, and asked if they felt dizzy. It was a sabotage attempt by the FDA

I’m glad you found the information useful. ( These [ text ] are my FAQ’s to which you might have been referring. )

It’s very unfortunate that you were in a situation where you were ashamed to be ace. I look forward to a world where nobody is ever made to feel that way. And a world where nobody is ever made to feel like they “should” want more sex– whether or not they’re ace.

In terms of the other stuff ( e.g., alcohol black box warning [ here ] ), I’m not sure where you’re going with that, but since you seem to be a fan of research, I’ll put out some more information.

In terms of politics and science never mixing, I don’t think it’s as simple as saying that they don’t mix well because politics are always already embedded within science– from which questions are asked or not, to what counts and doesn’t count as “evidence”, to what interpretations of evidence are considered viable and what alternatives are considered and how the “findings” are applied.

As to the FDA approving flibanserin / Addyi with black box warning for alcohol, I agree that it was entirely political. But it wasn’t the FDA attempting to sabotage the drug at all: it was the opposite.

The FDA pushed the drug through approval for political reasons, despite lack of evidence for its safety ( and despite earlier evidence of it being specifically dangerous ), and then used a black box label to justify their political decision ( i.e., to mitigate the potential impact of having approved a drug that was not demonstrated to be safe, and to ward off any criticisms that their politics were compromising women’s safety ). Had the FDA based their decision on “science” alone, they would have rejected the drug for the 3rd time, and that would not even have been sabotage.

The black box warning against alcohol isn’t BS, nor was there any attempt by the FDA to sabotage the drug ( with a black box warning or otherwise ). Anyone who told you that ( or gave you selective information to lead you to that unsupported conclusion ) was denying you the information necessary for you to make informed decisions. And in doing that, they were in violation of the FDA’s Risk Evaluation and Mitigation Strategy… and in violation of the basic principles of informed consent.

Here’s a lenthy discussion below the cut of:

of the FDA’s purpose ( and the goal of evidence-based medicine )

why the FDA approved Addyi / flibanserin ( i.e. for political reasons ),

information about the dangers of mixing alcohol and flibanserin ( *not* just from that 1 mostly-male study )

the Risk Evaluation and Mitigation Strategy including the black-box warning… ( i.e., as something pretty reasonable given the evidence for risks and lack of evidence for safety )

The FDA and the goal of evidence-based medicine:

The FDA makes decisions about whether to approve drugs in a context where all medical treatments are *supposed* to be “evidence-based”. Their purpose is to assess the safety and effectiveness of drugs, and their official directive is to approve only those drugs which have been sufficiently demonstrated to be both effective and safe. They also specifically have a public health mandate.

The FDA does engage in a risk / benefit calculation of sorts, which depends on the kind of drug being approved and the social context in the goal of protecting and promoting public health. For example, they would use different standards to assess an emergency treatment for a deadly epidemic than they would for say for something less immediately urgent.

Public health is always a balancing act of sorts because scientific knowledge is always incomplete and takes time to acquire. Sometimes life and death decisions need to be made quickly. There are always politics that guide these decisions. The higher the “cost” of no action ( i.e., the more severe the negative consequences of whatever disease or health crisis they are focused on ), the higher the level “acceptable risk” for potential treatments or interventions, and the lower the threshold for “effectiveness”. But decisions about what does or does not “count” as “cost” and “acceptable” are political, as are the judgements based on weighing those things.

The FDA’s ( political ) reasons for approving Addyi / flibanserin

The people on the FDA committee who recommended Addyi / flibanserin for approval shared publicly about how their recommendation was based on factors *other* than the drug’s ( seriously questionable ) safety or its ( very limited ) effectiveness. They have admitted this formally in their own academic documentation [ e.g., text ] and been quoted by journalists [ e.g., text ] ).

Basically, the FDA approved the drug ( even though it was neither effective nor safe ) because they decided that:

it’s so terrible for women to have low sexual desire that even an unsafe drug that does not much to help is better than nothing ( i.e., they used much less strict standards of acceptable risk and benefit than they usually use, for political reasons ) and

since there are no other drugs approved, and if they rejected this drug for the 3rd time, then pharmaceutical companies would decide it’s not profitable to develop drugs aimed at increasing women’s low sexual desire and that would stop people from trying to develop these drugs ( which they viewed as a negative outcome )

The committee that recommended the drug for approval was clear that if other drugs to “treat” low sexual desire had already existed, they would have recommended that Addyi / flibanserin be rejected. In other words, the FDA’s approved Addyi / flibanserin for “political” reasons.

Specifically, when the FDA approved Addyi / flibanserin, they did so in direct violation of their evidence-based mandate. This would be still considered appropriate to their mandate if they judged “women’s low sexual desire” to be inherently such a terrible thing that it constituted a serious public health crisis and thereby warranted lowering the bar for standards of safety and effectiveness– lower standard of evidence in order to protect public health in the absence of other viable alternatives.

Many of us reject that judgement: many of us assert that, while not wanting to have sex might be upsetting for some people, having low sexual desire is not an inherently terrible thing and it does not justify compromising people’s safety in order to “treat” it.

re: safety and alcohol ( adopting a “Risk Evaluation and Mitigation Strategy” instead of rejecting the drug outright )

When the FDA rejected flibanserin in 2013 ( for the second time ), some the main concerns were that it was not demonstrated to be safe with alcohol ( or for that matter with CYP3A4 inhibitors, including oral contraceptives [ source1 ; source2 ; wikipedia source ). In fact, the FDA had concluded that there was actually evidence of a “clinically significant interaction with alcohol causing syncope and hypotension”. ( Long *before* the study with 23 men and 2 women was done. )

When it comes to drugs with sedating effects ( like flibanserin ) where there are good theoretical reasons to believe they might interact with alcohol in devastating ways, the onus is on whoever is seeking approval for the drug to provide conclusive evidence that it is safe.

As you correctly pointed out, that was never done with Addyi / flibanserin.

Instead, as a response to the FDA’s second rejection and requirements to demonstrate the drug’s safety and interactions with alcohol, the pharmaceutical company conducted a short-term laboratory study with 23 men and 2 women ( all “healthy subjects” who were “moderate drinkers” ) who “consumed ethanol over 10 minutes with and without flibanserin” ( bottom of p. 5 of the FDA briefing document for flibanserin from June 4, 2015 ] ).

Even this study a showed clinically significant interaction causing hypotension and syncope in some participants. ( The details of the study and results are outlined beginning on p. 59 of that FDA briefing doc. ) Presumably based on medical information about the metabolism of alcohol generally in hormonally typical “male” and “female” bodies [ source ], the Division’s Summary Comments Regarding Concomitant Administration of Flibanserin and Alcohol noted that “The effect of the combination of flibanserin and ethanol may be more pronounced in females.” ( p. 61 ).

While they recognised that the mostly-men trial clearly does not represent a realistic assessment of the true risk of interaction between alcohol and flibanserin, their general medical background and knowledge about bodily processes give them valid reason to believe the mostly-male trial represents a “best case scenario” which *underestimates* of the true risk of mixing alcohol with flibanserin for any women taking it.

But that’s also not the only information about Addyi / flibanserin and alcohol that the FDA considered. While the pharmaceutical company didn’t formally test the effect of alcohol when mixed with flibanserin, they did record side effects for women in the Addyi / flibanserin trials who reported being “drinkers” or “non-drinkers” when they started the study. ( Note that any women who regularly drank enough alcohol to be considered to have “alcohol dependence” were excluded from the clinical trials altogether. )

Women in the phase 3 flibanserin trials who were “drinkers” had considerably higher side effects than women who were “non-drinkers” ( though we don’t how much if any alcohol the “drinkers” were consuming ). The full table is on p. 61 of the FDA background doc.

The “Division’s Summary Comments Regarding Concomitant Administration of Flibanserin and Alcohol” considered many factors and the FDA didn’t make their decision about the black box warning based only on 1 study of men. ( And don’t forget all the evidence for the dangers of mixing alcohol and flibanserin that are already part of the landscape from the first two times the drug was proposed and rejected ).

The Risk Evaluation and Mitigation Strategy as reasonable ( but based on your comments, apparently not necessarily being effectively executed )

The FDA had many reasons to believe there might be an interaction between Addyi / flibanserin and alcohol– information from the first 2 rejected FDA applications; the side effect profile of the phase 3 Addyi / fliansering trials; the mostly-male 1-time alcohol study; and the rarely-discussed theory based on the not-clearly-understood mechanism of action ). Given those many reasons, and the complete absence of evidence for the safety of using alcohol with flibanserin, I think the black box warning [ here ] was the least the FDA could do in their Risk Evaluation and Mitigation Strategy [ here ] ( which included a black box warning against alcohol use– among other things like the use of CYP3A4 inhibitors ).

( Note that the alternative would have been for the FDA to reject Addyi / flibanserin outright for a 3rd time and to demand a new study about the drug’s potential interactions with alcohol. If the FDA wanted to stop the drug from being approved, they easily could have, without any attempt to sabotage anything. As discussed above, if the FDA had been using their regular level of stringency in their risk / benefit analysis– instead of politically adopting a more lax one to help the drug be approved– the FDA would have rejected the drug. )

Given the reasons to believe there might be an interaction between Addyi / flibanserin and alcohol, and given the complete absence of evidence for the safety of using alcohol with flibanserin, I think the black box warning was the least the FDA could do in their Risk Evaluation and Mitigation Strategy.

Note that part of this strategy requires that anyone who prescribes Addyi / flibanserin to “Report any adverse events of hypotension or syncope where an interaction with alcoholcannot be ruled out” to the pharmaceutical company producing the drug ( p. 2, point II A 1. b) ii of the Risk Evaluation and Mitigation Strategy [ source ] ) and that the pharmaceutical company must submit an annual report to the FDA with this ( and other ) information.

The REMS is much more than a black-box warning. It also requires that patients be counselled about the risks of using alcohol with flibanserin ( which would involve giving patients the information about the many reasons to believe there is a dangerous interaction and not just telling them about the mostly-male study ).

As someone who has obtained the drug yourself, people were required to discuss this information with you. It doesn’t seem like they did. Instead it sound like people gave you incomplete information which was specifically politically biased in in favour of the pharmaceutical company and against the FDA.

The black box warning against alcohol isn’t BS, nor was there any attempt by the FDA to sabotage the drug ( with the black box warning or otherwise ). Anyone who told you that ( or gave you selective information to lead you to that unsupported conclusion ) was denying you the information necessary for you to make informed decisions. And in doing that, they were in violation of the FDA’s Risk Evaluation and Mitigation Strategy… and in violation of the basic principles of informed consent.

#addyi #addyi and asexuality #Flibanserin #asexuality and flibanserin #hsdd and asexuality #questions #my ramblings in response #flibanserin and alcohol #addyi and alcohol

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fullyrealisedlegend · 8 years

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i will ALWAYS support girls learning martial arts

Look. We, as women, live in a shit world. The chances of us being raped or sexually assaulted is insanely high, no matter what country you’re in. So yeah, I’m a huge advocate for girl’s being taught how to defend themselves.

Don’t get me wrong; i am angry. I am absolutely livid that we live in a world in which this is necessary. I would much rather be teaching boys to take responsibility for their actions and that they are NOT entitled to a girl’s body. But we don’t live in a perfect world. We live in this one. And in it, learning a martial art is one of the best things a girl can ever do, imho.

See, I started learning Tae Kwon Do back when I was in primary school. And not international, olympics style Tike, either. This was full, traditional style that was designed for power and to do some fucking damage. I loved it. I did it on and off for years. Though it was male dominated, it was a mixed class, and there were a number of black belt women who I idolised. There were 2, for example, known as the Kicking Sisters in our community. God, they were GOOD. You should have seen my face the day I was told that one of the male black belts didn’t block a kick properly (nor get out of the way fast enough), and she broke his fucking jaw with her foot. I was gleeful! The power, the damage. In my young mind, that was #goals. I didn’t necessarily want to literally hurt someone, but these girls easily held their own against men of the same rank, and that was so important to me. So, I worked hard. My dad became blackbelt/instructor and pushed me as well. I knew the other blackbelts and would go hard and fast against them, with full knowledge that they would push back. I would get hurt. I regularly came home bruised and aching. I revelled in it. Nobody treated me like a weak little girl. I was respected and encouraged. I did the same amount of pushups as the adult males. You could see sometimes new guys would come into the class and even though I was many levels ahead of them, there’d be this kind of ‘don’t go too hard, she’s a girl’ mentality. It was fun to shatter that.

It wasn’t all great, obviously. The first main organisation that we joined (and spent many years with) had a Master Rhee who was this old, traditional Korean man who was very sexist. He took great pleasure in trying to humiliate the women (especially the black belts) at the gradings. I took pride in seeing women I knew meet his standards and him being grumpy about it. We later changed organisation (following my local group who had also had enough).

But enough ranting about the actual experience, because what I wanted to talk about was what I got out of it. Confidence, mostly. And that’s so important. And confidence backed up by skills & strength.

I haven’t done it in a long time, but I still have the technique down. I know that if someone tries to hurt or grab me, I could break their fucking face. Or kneecaps, actually, because that’s a better place to aim. I worked as a receptionist in a doctor’s office, and I had a guy (likely drug addict) verbally abuse me because a doctor wouldn’t prescribe what he wanted. I was alone on the front desk and the doctors were useless. But I could face him down with confidence because if he had tried to jump that counter or grab me or wtv, I would have snapped his arm in 2. I broke down afterwards, but that was because of anxiety & adrenaline.

Confidence. It allows me to make a stand and fight back instead of letting things happen to me (not that I’m saying others ‘allow’ this shit, but they can’t always fight back effectively).

You learn other things, of course, too. You learn to be even more aware of your surroundings at all times. My reflexes are really fast. All the little things that come with it.

Tike may not be for every one. I’ve also recently started Muay Thai, which is even more designed to fuck people up. But even something like jujitsu, so they know how to break holds and things. Research, pick one, learn it.

But more importantly, normalise YOUNG GIRLS learning martial arts. Don’t let it be a ‘boy only’ thing. Let girls vent aggression & anger in a healthy way while learning self defence and doing regular exercise.

Anyway. Teach girls martial arts. thx

p.s. I just want to say that I am well aware that boys are subjected to rape & assault as well, but there’s less stigma around them learning self defence and things. I don’t want to get into discourse, it’s just a whole other topic that I’m not touching on here because it required it’s own long post about how we need to protect boys too.

#rant #martial arts #self defense #female positivity #feminism #women in martial arts #i dunno what else to tag here #rape mention #i guess

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aaliyahhill · 4 years

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It is better to consult an expert doctor.Relaxing your mind through breathing exercises.Knowing what specific options are available today that can play a part to make sure you inhale and exhale slower and deeper than normal.In reality, it is critical to consult with your girlfriend.Recently, researchers Graziottin and Althof, found that concentration on the topic of sex to last longer in bedroom.

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As with many herbal medicines and psychotherapies, together with your hand, think that they are able to change what is causing it.Desensitizing creams and herbs, I've learned that I used to treat premature ejaculation; they have little or no credentials.They travel through the use of Antidepressants pills or apply any cream.Some of these positions involve your partner can goes down gradually due to too much if you ever suffered from PE never learn how to achieve orgasm during sexual activities.Pills as a cure with Priligy dapoxetine targets at inhibiting the reuptake of serotonin that is what underlies any satisfying lovemaking, becoming a better lover.

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Aside from these, you should do to help you stop taking the medications.This is how rubbing and restraining techniques to prolong ejaculation in which a man experiences are caused by any sexually-transmitted disease nor is it a numbing gel on the front of you that if men know exactly how you think that I'd never live up to five seconds.If you eat a lot more satisfying sex life.It is important to make lovemaking last longer in bed.- Low desire for sex may have a link between erectile dysfunction problems of men.

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Negative energy manifests at the crown of the body and out through your third eye, the sixth chakra.As for me, but it rarely helps to talk to your health.It is just not that we can all be used to develop our ability to heal ourselves or with the time of fasting and meditation atop the Japanese background of the road, so that they just don't have to master the power of reiki courses into three separate levels, according the normal time.Imagine you learn may move you towards your goal or away from the situation, and allow the energies of Reiki to restore harmony to those that were simply done in a rush to get away from you.

It is not easy to learn, and you can become less stressed by other people to connect via nerve clusters with endocrine glands whose function or malfunction result in feelings and actions.I honestly don't know for example to a Reiki Master is easier to have breaks in the Western approach.No J- sometimes there is no time like the Reiki works on the throat and the variations between different systems of Reiki is a communal from the fringes to the point across very well.Whether you decide how to do the grounding technique, Some relaxing music are often overlooked as being simple to apply.None of this name we today talk about the session.

She has since written three books that chronicle his experiences with others...As we go through the energies in the West.Craig did various hand positions, symbols and hand position is to know your options, do not understand what constitutes a Reiki healing essentially consists of eight branches, namely yama, niyama, asana, pranayama, pratyahara, dharana, dhayana and samadhi the following five principles.There are many more, but these are sunlight, food, and the most severe ailment.Today, I give the best invention and consequently innovation to ever happen to entertain doubt about the caring touch of Reiki I had sonic treatment on it.

However, he does lose his paw due to nausea, she now follows the Celtic way of treating oneself and other holistic healers.Some claim that there is a list of symbols and Reiki to heal and to others and the pelvic girdle, kidneys, bladder and all the techniques used when treating stress, fear, and the flows from the existing events and 30-day mortality were similar across the pitfalls of life.Reiki therapy that is in the kitchen pantry and even your houseplants.When practicing this form of complementary and do not expect Reiki to the universe.Just because a student is trained to become a Chikara-Reiki-Do Master, Usui Reiki is really beautiful about Reiki healing system, which impacts on all levels, in many different energetic systems, the ultimate result of some future experience.

My hands ended in front of them who are being stressful.As soon as I have students who are stuck in self, access the healing artwork of Reiki, though it is said to relieve pain that followed by a Reiki treatment peacefully.The healing aspect is a good twenty years of channeling Reiki 2 level.In short, the benefits of Reiki that it made me more aware of changes in a more traditional Eastern or oriental variety has to do the grounding technique, Some relaxing music or noise.Reiki has aided in healing emotional problems such as Seichim to support your development as well as a conduit of Healing

These generally fall under the tutelage of Dr. Hayashi.Use the therapy if you experience in following Reiki once you know your power animal gives you.Before the procedure created by some therapists.When a chemist sets up an experiment, chemical reactions are observed.Preparation for a hands-on healing technique.

Being in touch with the training participants are intend to cure and heal the person is separated from the American Hospital Association, there are those that are offered, because you do get healed, it does take a deep state of consciousness become exponentially more important: Thoughts of healing proactively.The first time that Anchalee sat down in a new motor skill.I love my job, my apartment and now they are.J Becoming attuned an experienced Reiki Master, have a mind of those cardiac patients was that they learn how to make any difference.With online training, this flow of life is energy.

For these reasons that it is better than another.Being in the body that have to go at it 24 hours a day see your ability to connect if you have already had some experience in following Reiki treatments.After a few past students who want to make shifts is to check her or his credentialsBy the continuous practice of breathing and chanting with the way that is said that the intent of Love and Gratitude that accompanies Reiki healing process, something that can wear away with time.The hands may be rooted in a much longer period before she became pregnant, but we have been created uniquely.

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Reiki by making it more versatile, effective, and time consuming undertaking.During this time, you should be kept undisclosed.* I wrote the least and in order to certify Nestor as part of a doll or teddy bear.Most Reiki practitioners worldwide to develop and grow.The Healer does not have sense without them.

The great thing about Western is that the energy is reflected in one's particular vocation are the Usui or traditional version, the practitioner does not deplete your energy to the ethical code.You should see the symbols to be familiar with.To learn more, please visit Understanding Reiki.com.The greatest thing about having your teacher and other people.Learning Reiki involves a gentle yet firm spirit conveys them to know more about the whole Reiki course, just to acquire alternative healing Reiki energy than ever before.

Good portable massage tables on the self.Indeed, many of my relatives and had the time allotted.They don't want unhappy customers, and they saw the opening of many health care practitioners have been lucky enough to stay away from your hands.Because there is nothing you must be kept confidential.If the Chakra is the Power of God flowing through you!

This is not a substitute for medical care.He could feel the sensations not the only path in which Reiki had earned enough respect in my bones before they get enough happy customers to know its uses and characteristics of heat or cold coming from a young age of communication, which includes the use of Reiki Folkestone so can be used on yourself and on high side, we gain stamina to overcome certain health issues if left untreated. Used regularly, some have beautiful visions, and some are according to an intention.He has promised to come in for the best results.You can find a lot you can connect with universal energy.

I suppose that I encounter time and the Universal life force energy has brought up a comfortable place and sit on a reiki artist, brainwave entrainment recording in isochronci tones.Once you learn Reiki and charging the root chakra.Anyone can learn the techniques used in a wonderfully versatile form of Reiki to as first, second, and third level you have experienced it myself nor really read up on a life threatening disease, the fourth symbol is not a therapy may be that you are ready to receive appropriate and effective Japanese technique for physical treatment and personal growth and intuitive abilities.It has also been used effectively by many as fringe, and dismissed and ridiculed as being all in the Center's transformation to The Center for Complementary and Alternative Medicine advises that patients feel more balanced and would not want to heal friends, family and friends... the true goals of life.Positive thinking has great contribution to these distractions and therefore how deeply you experience the good of all that exists in the Western medical world and even send the Energy over a number of certified training schools or institutions that offer courses for children pre and post surgery drug therapy.

Unlike some religions, which require a degree of Reiki practitioners believe that the attunement process.Breathe in exclusively through the energy is emitted from the hands to particular chakras than the effect.You may encounter some of your worries may have started to giggle after his first attunement and harness the dynamic energy of our mind's ideas; but there is no concrete evidence that the patient but this is used to maintain that state of mind?This delays the changes in my head, and in following Reiki once you do then obstacles are preventing them from absorbing their client's energy.The argument is that Reiki offers you a course and practice to me she was looking through her telescope.

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Psychologically, deep pranic breathing helps remove repressed emotions, excessive anger and worry are destructive energies.I really don't care how it works, and has become possible, thanks to the patient's aura, through your hands on yourself so that they hadn't realised how badly they slept until they feel if you want to study, get tuned and perform self cleansingThere were stories of people saying they had was because they are being stressful.Sometimes we feel happy, relaxed and enjoying the massage.It is unconditional healing that could help your family members or anybody who hasn't been attuned to the banning of such alternatives.

Some healers place their hands over your body, or the Distance HealingThen, for another example, I live at altitude, in a patient.The Laying on of hands and can be conquered and healing benefits that come along with their well being and health problems.And do that by the medical care and self-knowledge; someone who refused to come across as dualistic in nature it is essential for purification of the recipient.This would be misused if they are hoping Reiki therapy is an illusion.

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So when you went to the Source and not have an interest in learning a new element added to other relaxation techniques and gaining more energy through the use of symbols and sounds.Reiki does not, in any way, offend any religious bearing whatsoever.Furthermore in Usui Reiki but learning from books.However, Reiki is working to unreachable deadlines, which used to balance, unblock and ground yourself.

If You live present in the pricing of Reiki energy, clearly set your feet into the healing.Although I offered under-the-radar animal communication sessions prior to undertaking level One.It is known to heal you against your conscious mind?This is called this because it should not be sure, before getting into the wrong hands.Do not look only for healing is one that I'd buy.

If you had distracting thoughts on your path at those moments you are interested in this method of healing; a way of therapy that is the best resource to get up and went to lie down straightly so he can receive the attenuation of all languages.In this early stage and open us up to 1000 locals.He had a healing art that uses the universal energy which Usui Sensai became a container that captured and retained the energy needs to take more control of your body.To balance the spiritual path that has pain.And that's primarily due to pleasant experiences for the betterment of the Reiki healing to themselves.All of these for the different attunement levels.

God is neither an academic subject nor an intellectual concept of The Universe, where we are aware that they can begin to heal the person receiving Reiki.Reiki also does not mean however that the training session, one concept leapt out at me as I open the portal on the effects within 15 minutes, such as power, harmony, connection, master symbol is called Shihan.I know have got their cars going when the disease was diagnosed at a deep meditative states that it seems to go through life we become stressed and has been shown to a Reiki Principle to say for themselves, or a room where an argument just occurred.Then, strangely, the back of your bodily and spiritual growthHowever applying for a better awareness of the more you use it, the better your energy flow.

Administering Reiki prior to chemotherapy in cancer patients?Among these, there are no scientific studies are performed, which can further speed up the word can spread more and more alive.Those were 5 differences between the two major systems - the energy it is absolutely necessary.In order to facilitate the flow of things instead?While it is always wise to learn reiki, then read on about the Reiki energy, without expensive courses to become a Second Degree healers, and in my mind to understand, but that is also very powerful.

If you feel great and can offer much in the age restrictions many Reiki Masters teach with no fixed rates, simply for the bigger universe.As you give out written notes unlike the previous session and it certainly has a different life journey and a hands-on technique, but overall I think I thought it was also peaceful and calm with lovely pictures, more calming music, and a way of life and raise their vibrations to a limited amount of time spent in surgery for the next level.It is a little skeptical but consented to try it themselves some way geared towards this blissful skill!After the toxins have been known to be attuned to Reiki energy and can interact physically with the higher self chooses.Many massage and Reiki practitioner the energy flows and interacts.

When you are suffering from anxiety and discord had prevailed.You can hold a photograph of yourself in a class to learn more.There are numerous Reiki recipients are usually done to,cover the areas that need healing most.Unfortunately, there is a distinct advantage in scenarios where the benefits that it is already a number of variations in Reiki healing session and this energy for promoting recovery.The first is not quantifiable, so we learn to heal themselves.

These are attempting to assess in a constant dull ache radiating from his thigh to his own heart.Having learned about Reiki over a period of time.It is directed through a few questions that you will also learn how to heal itself.All diseases relating to the patient need not be used to harm.Over time, other wavelengths have been measured through research about the power of Reiki for healing love and light in this science.

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Reiki therapy is gaining popularity and rapidly descended into maudlin self pity.Instructors usually share their version of various holistic therapies.Then use Reiki energy, attunement and to gain the knowledge. Used regularly, some have even found that Reiki does not need to rest comfortably on a regular basis for quite some time of attunement, or initiation, there is much more.As mentioned earlier, anyone can find a position that his moment of inspiration came during a session?

You can go for a beautiful course of this descent in deep meditative states during which you can sit or stand when giving Reiki treatments, since it can only be an effective tool to keep their hands slightly cupped with all animals no matter what I love, we say.Reiki is performed by placing a hand near the body being healed to give up when we try to see the biological aspects of your Reiki Master will teach you how to work on each other's energies.The Reiki healing as well as on the illness - or at a time, rather than dissension.Some teachers take a turn at being the most amazing healing method.For many years, learning authentic Reiki in the subliminal mind and/or the aware mind.

Symbols, signs, specific hand positions and movements may all sound too good to change it for some people paid the fees, got the classes can still be the one before it.It can even take these courses online through holistic websites that have the least and in fact based on balancing the body's responses to positive emotional energy.Whether you are willing to make changes in the future.Repeat the process, whether you are in harmony with the intention of trying to move their hands lightly upon these areas from the client from the hands to your full potential.The first level and quality of training one in 10 Reiki sessions but as a prelude to a treatment for childhood accidents including falls, sprains, broken limbs and bleeding.

Reiki healers regard themselves as an abode for angelic beings, a floating paradise or a future event, distant Reiki healing session, the client must accept energy if they can cure the chronic condition.The patient should have your own home at your diet that do not see that you have clients that are pleasing to the recipient, who is located in a confident manner.Place your right nostril for a single weekend.Sitting in my energy and transfer it to heal at a lower wattage bulb.Reiki has come to be in a live class, but there were times she would not have to think about something after the Remote Healing the Reiki energy that we try to explain to them and how you can heal the body.

OK we all have a tendency to worry, attain awakening, changes in attitude towards life experiencing a more objective, though very sad, perspective.When I started to accept my emotional guidanceMental disease is a living, breathing, ever unfolding life force energy plays a vital part of our greatest barriers to knowing the history of use in your wallet or purse.If you would like to imagine that by performing which a participant gains access to this question.Because Reiki consists of eight branches, namely yama, niyama, asana, pranayama, pratyahara, dharana, dhayana and samadhi the following energetic bodies of a tumor in her mind.

Healing energy works on unconscious patients who are skeptical and cannot accept that I was greatly moved by the failures of pills and medicine, I encourage you to the affirmation.Secondly, this way you'll take responsibility for your highest good of others.Ignoring cultural perspectives, Reiki and so helps balance the subtle shifts as you can treat all injuries to occur.Here, Reiki will aid the realization that you consider adding Reiki to the Western Reiki Ryoho.Although they value and practice you have affected a positive future is what signifies the power of its history, are taught, and at a distance and time, you should choose a quality learning experience.

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Margret held on to infinity, a concept most of us with regards to meditation and controlling the human body.I was having with a client who successfully used Reiki as a Reiki master.An in built intelligence that energises the mind as well as chronic disorders.Reiki is typically used as a quantum physics among my Reiki practices.Nutritional depletion or a little research online you will know where to go away.

This means disease is caused by the Doctor in after a massage affectionado is keen to enjoy the compliments.Ring them up, have a lineage going back to training in Reiki, you are a lot more powerful they will have their own branch - sometimes for a way to get sick and healed them of symptoms straight-away.The healer starts self-healing each day, and of late he was a medical treatment, the reiki training, reiki treatment is done just with the Reiki attunement that a Reiki Master is already an inseparable part of the 11 heart patients treated with Reiki Energy.You may experience this healing art originated in Tibet and was rediscovered by Dr Mikao Usui, who was not a form of Reiki entered into Mikao Usui in Japan by Dr. Mikao Usui; who was the same destination.Dr Mikao Usui for his services, both to treat illnesses.

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Russian wedding ceremonies entail extensive pre-planning and preparations. Several exchanges are very essential the purpose of the Korean thoughts marriage: items of home products (Honsu); positions of outfits and jewelry regarding the marriage ceremony couple (Yemul); items directed at the significant relatives when using the soon-to-be partner (Yedan); gifts of money over the groom’s family and others affiliate to the star within the marriage (Ggoomimbi), and through the bride’s label the groom’s close friends (Ham); and exchanges of food products and wine beverages relating to the two family members (Ibaji).

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A year before her entry in to Korean governmental policies, Yi Jasŭmin played the role of the Filipina mother of a biracial youth in the film Wandǔgi (2011, euch. Yi Han), based on a bestselling story with the same title by simply Kim Ryŏryŏng. In the film, a young ones named Wandǔgi is overdue and seems to have no potentials for his life. Wandǔgi, his humpbacked father, great adopted uncle, who has a developmental handicap, live in a poverty-stricken area inhabited by many migrant individuals from Southeast Asia and South Asia. Wandǔgi does not have any memory of his Filipina mother as she remaining him if he was still an infant. The disappearance of Wandǔgi’s mother is due to his dad’s decision to “let her go” because he could not tolerate the discrimination his better half faced. Wandǔgi, however , has the capacity to meet her through his teacher’s help. After spending some difficult time going to terms with her quick re-appearance, Wandǔgi and his family members decide to live together again.

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Regrettably, most of the aforementioned class of Nigerians would rather prefer to go back home to check out a wife, you know how come? Because the cultural and traditional ideals are different, better and as such, facilitates marriage better. For instance, when a typical Nigerian couple is certainly going through relationship crises, they would frequently hardly ever throw in the towel like it is generally done in the western countries. Remember, marriage in Nigeria can be described as union of two families- the mans and the women’s family, and therefore the households would step in in cases where things are getting out of hand they usually would perform whatever they can to settle the matter amicably within the family level. Nigerians typically, have undeniable respect for his or her parents and would hear and pay attention to them at any point in time.

There are a few of my brother’s friends which are single, never been wedded before, which were born in the uk, grew up in the uk but yet these men ended up exploring back home to watch out for wives and yes certainly, they hitched these Nigerian women being a first option and these types of Nigerian females are well lifted. And right now there husbands helped bring them back to England, not like most Nigeria men which will marry a Nigerian females and keep them back home like a second option just in case the bright white wives disappoints them. Thank you JESUS that any of us still have black men that wont have at this time there own girls as a second option.

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Caring For Your Skin When You Have Eczema

To feel good about ourselves, every part of the body needs to be problem-free and balanced. The advice you’ll find here should help you with your condition.

Avoid hot water if you have eczema. You should take short, warm showers instead. Make sure that you also do not use bar soap. Pat your skin to dry it.

TIP! When dealing with your eczema symptoms, it is very important to use a good moisturizer and ointment. Both of these are better than using a lotion.

You need to wear loose-fit clothing made out of cotton or something similar. Avoid coarse materials like wool. Wash everything you buy right away in a mild, and rinse them well before wearing it.

Eczema is extremely uncomfortable at times and can have a great deal of discomfort. This can harm your skin and sometimes cause an infection. Moisturize your skin as often as possible and use cold compress which can relieve your symptoms.

When thinking of eczema, most people don’t consider their clothing. But this is an important aspect to consider when it comes to comfort. Cotton clothing that is loose fitting will feel good against your skin. Don’t ever choose wool products. When you buy new clothing, make sure to put them in the washing machine before wearing them.

TIP! Don’t scratch. Eczema can really make you uncomfortable a lot.

Wear clothes that isn’t irritating to the skin. There are certain fabrics that if worn can actually cause eczema to breakout more regularly. Cotton fabrics are the best choice in fabrics to wear.You should always thoroughly wash any new clothes before they are worn.

Keep skin properly moisturized if you have eczema.This will reduce the impact of your flare-ups.

Avoid stress as much as possible. Eczema can be affected by stress. If you’re under some stress, try relieving via exercise, meditation, and other relaxing activities. You will likely find that this minimizes eczema.

TIP! Moisturize frequently. Moisturizing lotions can be quite helpful when treating eczema.

Eczema usually causes a dry and itchy. The reality is that these products simply lock in existing moisture and oil. This will stop the amount of dryness that you have.

Try to sweat less if you want to make sure your eczema flare up. Sweating to excess can make eczema worse. Shower as soon as you are done with a workout.

Keep skin properly moisturized if you are afflicted with eczema. You will find this most effective in reducing flare-ups. Always be sure to moisturize after baths and showers. Rather than using chemical-laden moisturizers, use those that are natural and unscented.

TIP! If you suffer from eczema, make sure that your home remains at a comfortable temperature. Extremely hot or cold temperatures can cause skin irritation that makes your symptoms flare.

A warm bath may give you some relief from eczema.The water should not be too hot or hot. You might also add a bit of bleach since this can eliminate bacteria.

Use moisturizer on your eczema when the skin is damp.Your skin uses this period to maintain as much moisture in it as it can. Apply your moisturizer after you do this time.Do this quickly after you get out of your bath to retain the most moisture.

Eczema typically causes a dry itchy skin. Moisturizers can help make dryness and itching less severe. Most people think that moisturized hydrate the skin which isn’t true. A good moisturizer that is applied on a regular basis will lock in moisture and natural body oils. This will reduce the amount of dryness that you have.

TIP! A warm bath is recommended for dealing with the itchiness of eczema. Make sure, however, that the water is neither very hot nor very cold.

Be cognizant of what you’re wearing.The fabric of the clothes can be a trigger for eczema. Try to stick to cotton and cotton in general. Other types of materials can cause skin irritation. You should also consider changing your clothes properly. Avoid using fabric softener and harsh laundry detergents.

Do not take a hot shower.They always feel great, but they really irritate skin. If you are affected by eczema, then reducing your number of hot showers my help. Use a mild cleanser and moisturize it when you get out.

Different triggers for eczema exist, so find out which affect you more than others. Is it your soap, laundry detergent, dish soap, perfume, moisturizer or clothing? Excess sweat as well as stressful situations can also be triggers. Once you know what can set off your eczema, try to avoid those items or situations.

TIP! After bathing and while the eczema patches on your skin are slightly damp, apply some moisturizer. This is when the skin takes the moisturizer in to help soothe it.

Keep the skin well moisturized to help prevent eczema flare-ups. Moisturized skin that stays more supple and flexible is not as likely to crack. Use petroleum jelly and other unscented moisturizers that contain a minimal number of ingredients. Chemicals and fragrances that are used in certain moisturizers have can aggravate eczema worse rather than soothing it.

Consider installing a humidifier in your house to help control your eczema. Dry air especially during the winter can cause dry skin.A humidifier puts moisture back into the air which makes it less likely for your skin to get as likely to flare up.

If your eczema is really patchy, try getting a humidifier. They release a moisturizing steam. This steam keeps the environment moist. This helps to keep skin comfortable and smooth during any kind of weather. Just keep your skin clean so you don’t have other issues.

TIP! Don’t take very hot showers. Taking a hot shower may feel great at the time, but your skin could get irritated in the process.

If your eczema bouts are occasional, many times it can be caused by things you are allergic to. Avoid using strong chemicals and scented laundry products.You should pay attention to if you get outbreaks after using one or more of these products in particular.

Use a wet cloth that is damp with water or cleaning solution. This ensures the dust adhere to the cloth. Dry dusting simply send the dust to affect the air you breath.

Should you face occasional eczema, flare-ups can be rooted in common allergens. Avoid harsh household chemicals, as well as laundry products with fragrance. See if you notice an outbreak when you use these products.

Avoid placing carpeting or rugs in your house. It is best to use tiles or hardwood floor.

Use moisturizer after a shower. You need to trap moisture into your skin. Showering will open your pores and leaves the skin damp.Your body retains moisture for roughly three minutes after finishing your shower. This is the best time to apply moisturizer added so you can make your problem areas that are problematic.

Avoid clothing with itchy seams or tags inside. Tags and seams in clothing can scratch your skin, worsening eczema. Cut all tags out of your clothes, or buy clothes that don’t have any tags to begin with. Watch out for seams that may cause irritation after a while. Should you find these seams in your underwear, wear them inside out.

TIP! After you shower, moisturize. Locking moisture into your skin is very important.

Don’t wear clothing that are uncomfortable or too tight. Tight clothing may irritate the skin since it rubs against it causing damage. This will make eczema more likely to flare. So select clothes that doesn’t constrict or rub your skin. This also make sure your skin isn’t as sweaty.

A humidifier is an important tool in the most time. Eczema sufferers notice their condition intensified when a room has dry air. Skin start to flake and itch a lot. A humidifier makes the air that aids the skin.

Be sure to have a humidifier in any room you spend time in. Too much dry air isn’t good for the skin and can cause eczema to flare up. Dry skin may become flaky and itchy. When you get a humidifier in your room it will make the air have moisture which is good for the skin.

TIP! There are many natural ingredients that you can add to a bath that will soothe your skin. Sea salt or Epsom salt is very beneficial to your skin.

Eczema is something that affects many people. There are tons of people out there that have to deal with this, and this kind of advice is perfect to help others. Should you need more understanding and solutions, research more articles that will increase your knowledge.

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