#os/or positivity

[egoepicure]

just gonna ramble about my personal experience with being objectum!

also making this a little "share your story" post!

feel free to add your own experience, regardless of how odd you may think it is or how few people you see with the same views.

are you posic? no? do you believe your objectum feelings are due to or partially due to past experiences or neurodivergency? do you only feel certain attraction for objects and do you feel attraction to people? do you experience stuff with your objectum identity that you dont often see other objectum people talk about? i'd love to hear different peoples pov of this!

my personal stuff under the cut!

I feel a tad bit odd about my personal experience with being os/or / objectum. i'm not posic really? i dont view objects as having souls or being alive in any capacity, though a lot of people ive seen on here do that. for me, having something fully able to react and such as a human does kind of puts me off as it brings back any stress of human interaction i experience. this isnt to say i think nothing of the objects around me.

im more of a lowkey spiritual person, i dont practice many things activily, but i hold beliefs. one of those beliefs is everything having energy inside of it. this isn't necessarily a soul or being alive, but regardless of that energies can be attractive. its why i consider myself masc-leaning os/or. things with more "masculine" energy or far more attractive to me.

i can come up with personalities, names, gender, etc for objects, and usually they come naturally based on that energy, but when it comes down to it i dont believe anything of that sort is necessarily real. that doesnt stop me from being attached to and attracted objects, concepts, places, etc.

people have never been very interesting to me, im not sure how much of that is influenced by my being ND (though, definitely the lack of even platonic or familial bonding is part of that), and for me alternative things have always been easier for me to bond and become attached to and i refer to myself as aroace because of this, since im really not attracted to people at all. objects have always been a safe space for me to seek comfort, be openly awkward or embarrassing, experiment, confide in, and honestly it has always been more satisfying and less negative for me that connecting with people, since that doesn't come naturally to me personally.

my object bonding doesnt stop at just positive bonds either lol, there are some objects i HATE (especially some of the machines at my work place... i swear they are difficult on purpose, only act up when they shouldnt... they have the energy of cranky old people doing everything out of spite...). but usually, my bonding is more confusing, i dont think in the simply terms of bonds (platonic, romantic, sexual, aesthetics, whatever) as ive never really understood them too much, and a lot of them overlap or are different depending on time and mood or object ofc. objects are also a space i dont have to be worried about that with though.

i know a lot of objectum people are very attached to their objects of course, and i am too, but due to past experiences with having things taken from me / thrown out on me / changed without my permission, and nd issues with apathy and such i dont think im as caring about "hurting" (again dont view my objects as alive so they cant really be hurt imo) or throwing away objects as even sentimental non-objectum people honestly.

[knightoflove]

Sensitive Self Shippers, this one is for you <3

💫 They’ll always be around to comfort you, no matter what upset you. They’re ready to listen.

🌙 They’d never tease you if you were uncomfortable with it. Your f/o(s) would never push your boundaries.

☀️ You’re their sun & moon, if anyone made you upset they’d be there to help pick you up (and maybe beat up the person who upset you idk)

🪐 And they would never ever think you being sensitive is annoying. They love you so much and they hate to see you cry.

Pr/oship dni please

Dividers made by @.cafekitsune

[stoneshipper]

when I first started self-shipping: maybe this character would like me back. we’re sorta dating. oh, and maybe I’d be friends with this character? they might find me annoying…

me now: this character would always have my back. we’re friends until the end of the line. multiple characters have unrequited crushes on me. my f/o has dedication to me like no one’s seen before. we’re madly in love. we’re best friends. we’re soulmates. it’s even deeper than that.

[comfort-character-central]

I want to give my f/o or comfort character a kiss on on their forehead so I can see their smile grow. I want to intertwine my fingers within theirs so I can give them that pure gesture of closeness, gently squeezing their hand. I want to hold them close so they can feel the kindness of my embrace. I want to love them in the most beautiful ways so they can experience what it is like to receive genuine love in a form that is healthy and secure.

[wolf-2099]

No more fighting and shaming people for their type of f/os. Support and love for all kinds of f/os Now.

✰ You have live action f/os? Maybe even only live action f/os?? That's awesome!! Your f/os from movies? Tv shows? Some independent series/project? That's so cool!

✰ You have anime f/os? Does your f/o list have popular characters from this season's newest anime or the most popular anime phone games? Love that for you! Glad you're having fun with your latest interests.

✰ You have f/os from video games? That's cool! Recent releases? Maybe even older games, last generation? Or maybe games even older than that? Indie games only a handful of people know, or indie games everyone knows? That's amazing!

✰ Your f/os come from children's shows or movies? Are they animated, or maybe live action, or one of the shows that use puppets? That's really great, I'm glad you can find beauty in these shows people might say you're too old for. Never let anyone stop your love for your interests.

✰ Your f/os are from comic?? Me too! Are they from big name series or maybe the lesser known ones? Are they indie comics? Maybe even webcomics?? Hell yeah, great taste.

✰ F/os from podcasts? Actual plays/liveplays?? Novels?? Yes!! How fun!! It can be hard when there's very few visuals of your f/os and all of your content is just audio/writing, but it's sweet that you can find so much love for them that you don't need visuals.

✰ Maybe your f/os are from something I didn't even think of. If so, I love that. Your taste and love for your f/os is unique!! And I'm glad I get to learn more about it :)

I think it's great that there is such a wide variety of types and tastes when it comes to self shipping. Some people's f/o lists are only super attractive anime pretty boys, some are from clunky PS2/Xbox games, some don't even have visuals of what they look like, some you've seen everywhere and some you've never heard of in your life. It's great, our differences are what make all of us coming together even more beautiful, I think.

[If you're an adult that ages up characters under 18 or are pro.ship or whatever, this post isn't for you to reblog]

[singeryuri]

Ykw quick shout-out to selfshippers who for any reason dislike the popular ships in whatever fandom their f/o is from. Shout-out to everyone who has to block a bunch of ship tags or who can't go into their f/o's tag without seeing some kind of ship art they dislike or feel uncomfortable with.

Your discomfort is fully valid and you know your f/os best! They adore you, no matter what the fandom says, even if there's a lot of people who say otherwise or ship them with other characters, I promise.

pro.shippers this doesn't apply to you, get out

[raspberrychronicles]

"is this too self indulgent" no, it isn't !! it's your account and you can simply post what you want

and it's not "too ooc" either, i'm sure everyone's perception of their f/o is a good, wonderful, interesting and unique one. you get them! you can grasp them, i'm sure of it

and besides, the more specific your imagine is, the more it shows how much you know your f/o and what good things they'd do to you

encouraging every and all selfshippers out there. go ham. at least someone out there will be listening

[rosesloveletters]

Free-to-use selfship template!

Just don’t remove my watermark 😊

Example filled-in template here.

[stars-self-ships]

💖 Hey, you! 💖

Your F/O wanted me to relay some words of love and affirmations to you! They wanted you to know...

You are worthy of love and belonging.

You do not need to 'earn' rest.

Everything you do, whether it's big or small, has a purpose.

You are more talented than you lead yourself on.

You deserve to take pride in what you create and do.

You have such a wonderful smile, and you really should smile more often.

It is okay to be sensitive. It is okay to not be okay. It is okay to cry.

You are strong. Whatever you are going through, you can pull through. You always have.

Take deep breaths. Drink some water. Get something to eat if you need it.

You are loved more than you could ever fathom.

And honestly... I couldn't agree with them more! 💖💖💖

[dreamwinged]

sometimes honestly if you're feeling invalid/anxious/any sort of negative feeling about your selfship , you just have to go back to canon. and i know it seems like such an easy answer but you really do have to. it is always SO comforting to me when i'm feeling bad about things to just see my f/os normally, without any fan interpretation or characterization or opportunities for jealousy involved; to remember why i fell in love with them and that no one can take that specific experience away from me. that other people's thoughts on the character don't matter because at the end of the day, none of it has any bearing on canon and no one can "know" a character any better than anyone else. it really really does work and i wish id realized it sooner

[qilinkisser]

shoutout to selfshippers with trans f/os!!! affirm THEIR gender!!! give THEM gender euphoria!!! your f/o finds so much comfort and safety in you, and they feel so validated and seen by you!!! imagine helping your f/o find things that affirm their gender!! go shopping with them, help them find things that make them feel good about themselves!!! go get a trans flag together!!!! help your f/os through their transition!!!!! you bring your f/os SO much joy!!! they love you so very much!!!

PRO.SHIP DNI!

[mandm-cringe]

☆ F/O ask game collection!

{My favorite questions I've seen!}

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🎨 - Do you journal about your F/O?

🌈 - Is your F/O queer {canon or headcanon}? What labels do they use, if any?

💐 - What flower do you associate with your oc F/O? Why?

🍓 - What are you and your F/O’s trope{s}?

🦋 - How did you and your F/O meet?

💭 - How would the fandom react to your S/I?

🫧 - Did you ever keep your relationship secret from anyone?

💗 - What are your pet names for your f/o’s? what are their pet names for you?

💛 - What’s the silliest nickname(s) you have for each other?

💖 - What's your favorite nickname/petname for your F/O? How about your favorite nickname/petname that they call you?

🩵- Do either try to hide their emotions if upset? Can the other still tell?

🪁 - Do you and your F/O live together? If not do you want to or plan on it?

🐱 - Do you and your have any pets? {Together or separate}

💤 - Who sleeps in and who’s an early riser?

🎀 - Do they wear the other’s clothes? {Sweatshirt, bandana, necklace, etc.}

💌 - Do you and your f/o’s send each other love letters?

💝 - What kind of gifts does/do your f/o’s give you?

🎊 - Who makes a big deal out of every little anniversary?

🐞 - Who insists they’re luckier to have found the other person?

💟 - What’s a non verbal way they say I love you?

🥰 - Can they sit side by you without touching you or are they handsy? {lacing fingers, touching knees, etc.}

❤️ - Which one would take their jacket it off and drape over the other one because they were visibly shivering?

💘 - Who fell first and who fell harder?

☔️ - Who carries an umbrella everywhere & who splashes in puddles?

👾 - Who asks ridiculous questions?

💋 - Who kisses the other and leave as many lipstick marks as possible and who gets all heart-eyed and melty like a lovestruck cartoon character?

🪩 - Who is more likely to jump in an elevator? Who freaks out?

🧸 - Would they build a pillow fort together just because?

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[comfort-character-central]

I want to hold my f/o, I want to hug my f/o, I want to scream into the void about how much I adore my f/o, and I want to show my f/o how much they mean to me, I want to protect my f/o at all costs, I want to giggle because of my f/o, and I want to show my f/o the love they deserve.

[ectoplasmer]

you guys ever grab your f/o’s face and just *forehead kiss* *forehead kiss* *forehead kiss* *forehea

[zombieplaguedoc]

Imagine your f/o presenting you with a flower crown.

Or

Imagine you presenting your f/o with a flower crown

Antis fuck off, this post is not for you

[come-imagine-with-me]

Brown-skinned selfship positivity

Applicable for f/os of all types (QP, Platonic, Romantic, Familial)!

Brown skinned selfshippers of any ethnic background and any shade/hue, please think of your f/os (of any type) marveling your ability to handle the sun better than they can if applicable- maybe they like to call you sweet things like "sunbeam" or "sunflower" :>!

Also think of them being mindful to help protect your skin by helping you apply sunblock bc melanin ≠ complete protection from the sun lol