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[mstemekawms-blog]

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[the-wickedstepmother-blog]

I know I can't expect the warmest of welcomes but it's my fucking house. Once again I'm trapped upstairs and he's going to be mad at me for hiding myself away. The options are feel like an outsider in my own house or take control and make myself an outsider.

[billionworship]

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[miramu1986]

Reposted from @unapologeticparenting Teach your kids that it is okay to stay away from people who refuse to take accountability for treating them poorly. Mistreatment is one thing…refusing to be accountable for it is quite another. Similarly, teach them that it is okay to stay away from people who try to make them feel bad for being upset or angry over being mistreated. The lack of accountability and blame/shaming in response to genuine hurt and anger are red flags we can teach our kids about early. These behavior patterns are warning signs that tell us the other person may not be the type worth keeping around. In a culture that preaches uncritical inclusivity, teach your kids to have boundaries and standards. It is okay to say no to relationships with others, especially when they exhibit manipulative behaviors. Of course, the best way to teach is to lead by example. If there are relationships that include the lack of accountability and shame/blame over justifiable anger over mistreatment, then perhaps it’s time for some changes. —————————————————— 📕 Check out the Best-Selling “The Parallel Parenting Solution” by Carl Knickerbocker on Amazon! See why so many are calling it a “life-changer”! 1️⃣on1️⃣ Coaching Packages available to work directly with Carl (see waitlist link in bio section). If you’re ready to zero in and make some major changes, sign up today! . . #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorceddad #divorcequotes #divorcesupport #coparenting #coparentingwithanarcissist #healthyboundaries #blendedfamily #blendedfamilylife #stepparents #parallelparenting #intentionalparenting #mindfulparenting #consciousparenting #parentingtips #raisingstronggirls #raisingkings #narcissisticabuse #cyclebreakers #narcissisticmother #narcissisticfather #toxicparents #toxicrelationships https://www.instagram.com/p/CSLVlJWjxs5/?utm_medium=tumblr

[aboyandhismom]

We all know that parenting is hard. There’s no denying it. But when you’re forced to parallel parent your child instead of #coparenting, it can make things that much harder. Yesterday was one of those days. The long and short of it was there was an incident at the school where my son was subjected to some unkind behaviour when all he was doing was trying to be kind. Thankfully the school informed me of the incident, otherwise I would never have know. Like any other mother, all I wanted was to give my son a cuddle and tell him I loved him. Unfortunately that will have to wait until later today. They grow up so fast, it really sucks when you only get half their life with them. Thankfully, I already had a #girlsnightout planned with girl gang and was able to laugh until my face hurt. It’s times like this when I am reminded never to take any moment for granted. I don’t like wishing time away but this afternoon can’t come soon enough when the boy is back in my arms. #parallelparenting #sharedcustody #divorcedmom #girlgang #blessed #lifeistooshort #theygrowupsofast (at Whitby, Ontario) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bxe9F3WgSBa/?igshid=1ep4p91swcaqz

[strugglesinparallelparenting]

I Don’t Hate Him

It’s odd to me that BD and his family have made comments saying that I hate him. Y’all, I truly don’t hate anyone. Who has that kind of time and energy? Also, if it weren’t for him, I wouldn’t have the child that is A. For that reason alone I could never truly hate him.

Do I like him? Not really, but it isn’t simply because he’s her biological dad and therefore I think he’s the enemy or whatever else they may think. It’s because he doesn’t treat me like a human deserves to be treated (let alone the mother of his child), and he’s far from a “good dad” or even a dad, really. All of this will eventually effect A, and that truth eats at me every day.

We’ve done our best to shield her from it. Her visitation isn’t every other weekend, it’s two Saturdays each month so there is no set routine in going. I find this helpful because if she does go for a visit it’s almost like a treat. We don’t tell her in advance about her visits because we don’t want to get her hopes up. We also never say “you’re going to go see your dad today”. We say “you’re going to go visit your grandparents today”. Her visitation takes place at the grandparents’ house so we do know that at least they will be there. Also this is to not get her hopes up that he’ll be there in the event that he doesn’t show (which certainly does happen).

Also, with the way he speaks to me, and has spoken to me for majority of the time I’ve known him, why would I want her around someone like that? He has literally fussed at me for trying to help move our visitation around to help him see her. He didn’t prompt that conversation either, I did, and I got yelled at for it. He is also emotionally abusive. My child doesn’t deserve that, and although he hasn’t been that way to her yet (that I know of), it’s only a matter of time before he does. This is a hard reality to swallow and I’m hoping wr can dampen the effects as much as possible.

[mrpaulmulder]

This is an impassioned plea Nikki’s Granny (my mother) wrote to Nikki’s mother’s parents on 20 July 2019, as with the other letters we have written to them.....there has been no response.

#bringnikkimulderhome, #erased, #familyerased, #brainwashing,#childabduction, #childabuse, #coparenting, #parallelparenting,#humanrightsviolation, #narcissisticabuse, #parentalabduction,#parentalalienation, #stockholmsyndrome,

[the-wickedstepmother-blog]

Here I am, once again feeling on the outside. Sat upstairs while they hang out together. I am happy for him being with his kids I just wish they showed him the same affection they used to.

BM has got into their heads and I don't know how he's going to come back from it.

[the-wickedstepmother-blog]

Hello and welcome to my brand new blog!

As you may of guessed, I am a wicked stepmother. By wicked, I mean that 90′s phrase closely followed by snapping fingers rather than the Maleficent-esque wickedness. Having said that, I quite envy her attitude. Once scorned, she’s hell-bent on revenge and lives in a perpetual state of wickedness (if only!), leaving a trail of destruction wherever she goes... 

My wickedness however comes from something OH said to me recently.

“Rather than fear the ‘wicked stepmother’ title, make it your own.”

And that’s exactly what I’m doing.

This blog is a way to express my inner most feelings about my current situation (which I’ll come to later) and to hopefully inspire others to share their experiences. This journey is not one that is new, nor is it rare. It is a role that some are thrust into on the off-chance they find someone they love and usually have to adjust to pretty quickly. 

So let’s adjust together, shall we?

[the-wickedstepmother-blog]

Selfie.

[the-wickedstepmother-blog]

I am absolutely devastated.

She drops the kids off, starts an argument at the door, calls me Homewrecker once again and starts accusing me of being dangerous. Luckily I stay well away from the door and let her run her own argument into the ground, hysterically crying in front of OH and her new fiance (who is a super wet lettuce btw).

Now I'm hiding upstairs away from the kids and OH who is trying so hard to get me to be involved but I just wanna curl up in a ball and cry forever.

[the-wickedstepmother-blog]

Cat's out of the bag!

Oh BM you never fail to do exactly what I think you're going to do. And what I thought you were gonna do was get pregnant straight away with a man you've known for 5 months!

Congratulations on bringing another child who's life you'll ruin by being the same old narcissistic D-bag you've always been.

[the-wickedstepmother-blog]

BM, if you think that dropping OH's stuff off and trying to take a trip down memory lane is going to wobble me, you've got another thing coming. All it did was let me and OH have a good laugh at your tactics and remind OH why he's so glad not to be with you...

[strugglesinparallelparenting]

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

This is a lesson we are teaching A but sadly it is a lesson that BD also needs to learn.

Last year (2017) he had 15/24 visitations. During those 15 visitations he spent anywhere from 2-3 hours with A. This means, at max, he spent 45 hours with her the entire year. That's not even two full days. To truly drive home my point, he made zero attempts to contact her outside of visitation. No phone calls. No texts. Nothing. Well, except for the one 2-minute phone call he made to her on her birthday (and that only happens because I fussed at him for not calling her on her second birthday).

The year before that (2016) he attended 12/24 visitations. Again, he was not spending the full 8 hours he's allotted with her. During that time he was spending around 4 hours with her at each visit, so that was a little better (~48 hours), but he still was not making any contact with her outside of these visitations. He called for 5 minutes on her birthday this year, and called her once while we were at the ER for a lacerated forehead, but he didn't follow-up on that at all. He didn't even text to ask how she was doing. She was close to needing stitches so this was a pretty big deal for a little girl.

How can you sit there and say that you love a child and are doing "your best" when this is your track record? He doesn't attend any extracurricular activities. He doesn't try to contact her. Heck, he doesn't even send her cards on holidays. So how is this showing a child you love her?

She doesn't talk about him. When someone asks about her family he is not included. She refers to my husband as daddy and has even said "are you talking about my actual dad, or BD daddy?". He treats me like absolute garbage, even when I'm going out of my way to try and work with him, and his family thinks this is the kind of person that needs to be around a small child? His own grandmother has mentioned feeling like she has to "walk on eggshells" around him. He isn't going to magically treat A wonderfully simply because she's biologically his child. That isn't how it works. He will (at least eventually) treat A exactly like he treats everyone else, and I don't want her to have to endure that.

[mrpaulmulder]

Today marks 24 months since Nikki's abduction. The struggle to just get some form of contact with him is ongoing and to date I receive no news of his well being or any communication about him whatsoever.

The last communication from the Bulgarian Ministry of Justice was that they were prepared to mediate between Nikki's Mom and I for a voluntary settlement but if she disagreed there is nothing further they could do and I would need to approach a Bulgarian court.......

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