#people should be ashamed of themselves

[natureboy96]

"You can't write/draw/think that, Feyre is/Rhysand is/Tamlin is/Nyx is/Azriel is/Lucien is/Elain is-"

Feyre/Rhysand/Tamlin are not, never have been and never can be abuse victims or abusers, because they are not real.

Nyx is not, never has been and never will be a child, because he is not real.

Elain is never going to end up with Azriel or Lucien, because they are not real.

These are not people, they are ideas presented in one way from one person. If you like the way these ideas are presented in canon, then enjoy them as they are. If you don't like them as they are, then change them to be something you want to see. If you see someone's ideas that you don't like, in canon or fandom, then find ideas you do like or make your own.

Make them all high schoolers or rival lawyers. Put them all in a polycule at a college frat house. Ship Nyx with Helion and let them fall in love (which already exists, by the way). Make them all preschoolers and reenact the Muppet Babies. Reread the books and enjoy the canon as it is if you like it.

If you see an actual person being abused or assaulted or an actual child in danger, say something. If you see someone writing about or drawing a FICTIONAL CHARACTER who has not been and never will be harmed, and you don't like it, then ignore it or block and go to the ideas you like.

we really gotta talk about this every day apparently... https://www.tumblr.com/natureboy96/759819418730741760/feyre-rhysand-and-tamlin-are-not-real-people?source=share

[420pogpills]

i really really do not want to engage in further discourse or atleast i want to keep it away from the timeline so please if you want to have more discussions - please come off anon so i can reply to you privately. i'm happy to talk about things and what not, but i don't want to put more negative talks on my dash so no more anons for neg discourse please please please ❤️

[yearnoyama]

Happy birthday ritsuka uenoyama the entirety of given DOSENT DESERVE U AT ALL

[giantkillerjack]

Uh-oh! You are like, SOOO awkward!!

You're so awkward that it is occasionally mildly uncomfortable for people!

You're so awkward that sometimes people are confused by you and then there are awkward silences!

You're so awkward ...... that ultimately no one is harmed!!

Oh damn!!! What a vile crime you have committed! What an unforgivable thing it is to make a fellow human briefly confused!

Why, if *I* were ever briefly confused and kind of uncomfortable as a result, I'd be devastated.... by the absolute net zero change in my happiness and health! - From which I might never recover!! Yes indeed! No punishment can ever be enough for you!!

So you better absolutely hate yourself for it.

Better be SO MEAN to yourself about every single missed social cue so you don't forget your horrible crime! Meaner than you'd ever dream of being to someone else for the same thing! This is YOUR responsibility!

You need to show the world that you KNOW you are bad by punishing yourself constantly! After all, think of all the people who BENEFIT from you punishing yourself! - No, really! Think about it! Think about who benefits from your pain.

Think of alllllll the definitely-good people that your definitely-necessary self-torment definitely helps! I mean, you can't just cut off their definitely-life-sustaining supply of your suffering, right?? Sure, everyone else has a breaking point, but you're probably the only person in human history who doesn't, right? Best not to question it probably. Sure, it's a symptom that billions of people with trauma have had, but who knows? You could be a one-in-seven-billion exception. Anything's possible!

Instead, better just accept that idea that bullies carry like guns in holsters - the idea that people who have trouble with social cues deserve to suffer. Better carry on the burden they placed on you until you drop. Aid the cause of the callous by enforcing shame and suffering upon yourself extra hard; try your best to do their work for them. They're very busy.

Better not recognize that you need patience and kindness to heal from your trauma. Better not find out that it was trauma rather than personal weakness filling your head with self-hating thoughts. Better not find out it wasn't your fault.

Better not find out that awkwardness is not inherently harmful or unkind, and, in fact, the people who act like it is *are the ones enacting harm and being cruel.*

Better not get righteously angry when you realize just how much unnecessary damage this has done to you. After all, if you get mad, you might realize you deserve better. You might even feel brave enough to DEMAND better! You might build boundaries that keep you safe! You might make other people think they deserve to feel safe too! And we obviously can't be having that, so...

Better not show yourself even a little kindness a little bit at a time.

Better not make a habit out of it after all that practice.

Better not get confident.

Especially if you can't first wipe out every trace of awkward. (And you probably never will. Because people who experience absolute social certainty at all times tend to be insufferable assholes that enforce the status quo. And you just don't have the stock portfolio for that.)

Better not be confident and awkward because then you might confuse and delight people

- you might accidentally end up making other people feel less shame for their social difficulties

- you might make isolated, traumatized, and shy people feel like they deserve to be included in social situations

- you might even make them feel they can be themselves around you

- you might start loving the effect you have on a room

- you might enjoy conversations more

- you might forgive yourself and bounce back from shame more easily and frequently

- you might come to enjoy some of those moments of harmless confusion you cause because NOBODY expects the Confident Awkward, and that can genuinely be an advantage in social situations

- you might stop apologizing so much.

- you might find that socializing is like a video game: it requires practice but also a safe space for it to be fun and positive.

Or if you can't become assertive and confident, better not remain awkward and shy and quiet, and then love and forgive yourself anyway!

Why, it would be carnage!!

In either scenario, you run the risk of finding out that it's not your fault that safe spaces full of kind people can be really hard to find, create, and nurture. You could end up building a skillset that helps you do those things if you're not careful!

If you start giving yourself even the tiniest amount of grace at a time, you will find that you've accessed a gateway drug with extreme long-term side effects:

- You might realize that it was never your fault that it took so long to like yourself.

- You might realize that you were always worth talking to, even when you didn't like yourself and communication felt impossibly difficult.

- You might realize that you'll still be worth talking to even if communication becomes harder as you age and/or experience disability.

- You might come to know that you deserve to be heard even on bad days when words come slow and blurry.

You might discover that you were always deserving of kindness, first and foremost from yourself.

So. As you can see, it's FAR too much of a risk to start granting your awkward self free pardons for your many heinous and harmless crimes. Better to just leave it there.

[rjalker]

genderdryad for your free exclusionist blocklist. Still hates pan people in 2024. As of literally 20 hours ago. Unbeleivable.

Edit: Wow, also hates mspec lesbians and endogenic systems. find one form of bigotry and the rest just spill out!

Also block:

parxgender

eternaspacic

[r0semultiverse]

This is better(?) than the minimalism plague infecting modern web design, but not by much!

I do not like the mobile appification of web sites either! Looking at you as well, tumblr! By all means, get experimental with it (please do), but don't make everything look & function like a mobile app!

Hey, all supposed 34,175+ followers...

Can you do me a favor & go @ (or tag) Neal Mohan on twitter & tell him to have the YouTube video page layout changed back? I'm so serious, go bother him about it. If enough people do this & this gets around enough, resulting in more people to asking it be rolled back, it should at least get him to ask it to be changed!

[riuzu7]

I 💜 grimace

[edandstede]

Okay, what do you want Dean to do? It seems like nothing they do is ever gonna be enough for you to shut up about them.

phrased like they’ve ever tried to change their behaviour when they’ve only doubled down on pretending to be jewish AFTER ADMITTING THEY’RE NOT. “nothing they do is gonna be enough” tell me dean are you still peddling the holocaust OCs you invented? how’s the non-existent grandma who taught you yiddish— oh wait, i thought you said on reddit you never got to learn it? how’s the blatant racism and the stereotyping going? someone refusing to be fucking quiet about this shit isn’t the issue here you dense cunt and real people are going to continue to be hurt because of it <3

[butchvamp]

ohhh my god i need to get off this website

[agent-troi]

i still can’t believe star trek picard didn’t even make ONE reference to deanna troi being in phase

[ledalausnows]

thrtwt the cesspool of the combination worst people i know + author over familiarisation in spaces they shouldn’t be in + clique mentality and plain illiteracy causing real harm to marginalised identities once again. and they will learn nothing from it, again, because toxic positivity has rotted brains and until it harms those at the top specifically, everyone is potential cannon fodder.

this applies to some tweet or another almost every day, for years now. a hateful bigoted space that uses the shield of ‘progressiveness’ and ‘representation’ to squash any and all discussions and criticisms from people who genuinely care. disgusting, all of it.

[hattiestgal]

Sitting in a right proper brain funk at the moment. Whole lotta junk bouncin' around up there, all garbled like. I guess I'm sorta bouncing around like... how blurry morality is and fighting a tough fight against what my brain feels so badly I should be ashamed of, but I'm kinda just in a blur right now. It's all faded. Maybe it'll come back tomorrow, who knows. I should sleep off this fog though.

Tomorrow'll be nice either way, just gotta make sure not to push myself. I've got my big halloween art comin' and it's gonna be a good one.

[siniov]

the iof are doing the most insane shit in the west bank right now and there is largely silence on it. 100s dead since the start of the conflict, both by occupying forces and government armed settlers. even more arrested, detained without reason or counsel and subjected to torture. they’re demolishing their monuments, like al hisan (the jenin horse) symbolising the right of return and an end to violence. moreover, they’re using all the chaos and fear they are creating to move in illegal settlers as palestinians are out marching to protest, attending funerals, or attempting to escape the occupying forces.

[ajaxdishsoap]

Jesus did not say that every time we rebuke or abuse the poor and down-trodden we're rebuking and abusing Him for Christians to put conditions on their aid for people

[mayadoesfandomstuff]

Okay with the awful cat poll, OP finally made a better apology but honestly I'm not fully on board with it. She still calls what she's done a "joke" even now which it absolutely isn't one. What she said about Jellie is still undeniably cruel and not even humorous in a dark comedy way. How is calling a dead cat lame and even being angry that the cat dared to die before your poll went up a joke? The only joke I could tell is a joke is her saying "I don't believe in democracy anymore because Nefarious Anglerfish is losing to Jellie" but even then, she didn't had to call Jellie lame and especially she didn't need to complain about how "the stupid cat had to die go and DIE" to make a joke. That was just done to be extra cruel, and again, if that's something that she genuinely finds funny then she really needs to reevaluate her sense of humor.

Besides this, she had chosen not to be specific about the cruel and tasteless "joke" that she has made about Jellie because she doesn't want to hurt more people over it which I'm still a little unconvinced by since I feel like it would be better to be clear about what had happened and apologize for the direct statements instead of just trying to delete and move on but either way it's better than her initial response to the matter. She could still had deleted the post, I just think she needed to be specific in her apology about what had been said.

With that being said, people had been nasty towards OP even sending death threats and harassment and although OP's actions should be criticized, going this far is unacceptable. You're not defending Jellie's honor by sending a random rude stranger hatred and death threats. In fact, it's absolutely vile to do anything like that at all.

Either way, I'll be posting both the original "joke" and her apology screenshots here and let people just come to their own conclusions. Hopefully this thing would just calm down after everything.

Original joke

OP's apology

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Again, anyone who had sent hate and death threats or is planning to send hate or death threats to OP are horrible people and I do not trust you nor do I think you actually care about Jellie. You're just being a dick and found an excuse to harm an easy target when you finally have a justification. You make me sick.

[ricoka]

It really does something to me to see that several people over several fandoms, no matter their level or popularity have the same issues with fandoms as a whole, and that it's only getting worse.

I felt absolutely horrible when I voiced my complaints on a fandom server. I received some nice comments, but I also got absolutely unnecessarily savage replies from people, that I should create for myself and not look for validation, and that no one owes me feedback etc. It made me feel like shit because it felt like i was asking for the unthinkable - for people not to treat art and fanfic like content and to respect artists and writers and give feedback in one way or another if you enjoy something.

But I keep seeing people who say they receive unnecessarily hostile comments on AO3, if they receive any feedback at all. I see fanfics in my current fandom posted with thousands of hits, maybe a handful of kudos and little to no comments. I absolutely hate it.

Fan creations aren't content, artists and writers create and share their fanworks because they're passionate about it. You should do everything in your power to keep that passion alive instead of extinguishing it, thinking that AI can replace the creativity, love and passion people pour into their fanworks.