#reminders to be kind to myself

[anditslove]

Matt Haig, The Comfort Book

[koddlet]

personal rules for winter ❄

[positivelyadhd]

reminder that making time for your friends, even when you're tried and socialising feels overwhelming is important to do every so often. it's especially important to do this actually.

time alone can be good, for a time, but humans are social creatures and we need to talk to people, there's nothing wrong with that!!

sometimes the more time you spend alone the more your brain will tell you to stay alone. that's not true, you're allowed to (and should!!) see people that are important to you. sometimes that alone can be surprisingly healing.

[rang00n]

The point about Shane isn't that you're fixing him, it's that he finds a reason to fix himself.

You aren't the one replacing his beer cans with joja cola, that's Shane.

You aren't the one that's using the money he has from quiting beer to buy his goddaughter shoes, that's Shane.

It's not you or Marnie or Jas fixing him, it's Shane realizing that he can be loved, and having a reason to better himself.

and that's okay. People can get better with support and friends. Just because a person gets better when someone helps doesn't mean that they're fixing them. It means that they're recognizing the problem and fixing it themselves.

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Thank you all for voting in the poll to decide who was going to be the leader of the band! It turned out to be such a close race!

[stuckinapril]

Reminder to myself that it’s pointless to compare myself bc no one else has my exact story. The general outline can be the same, and still there will be details that are entirely different. There are different obstacles to overcome. There is different progress to be made. Just bc it took me longer to reach a point someone else already achieved doesn’t automatically mean I am incompetent or that they are inherently better than me. It just means we were dealt different cards in life and that is okay. I will not be allowing myself to slack where I shouldn’t, but I’m also not gonna beat myself up for going through different story beats than somebody else. We all go at our own pace. No two people are exactly the same. And in that irrevocable truth comparison becomes a moot point.

[pathologising]

at some point I think you do have to make the internal choice that you want to get better. You have to actively work against your maladaptive coping and work to learn to replace them with healthier coping skills. It has to come from within, removing negative external factors can help but the rest of the legwork has to come from within.

[uncanny-tranny]

Every time you think, "Oh, I don't have [x condition], I'm basically cured!" that is the devil talking. You aren't cured, you are likely going through periods of your symptoms waning. Don't cease whatever you're doing to help yourself, like medication, for instance, because it's likely you still have the conditions or symptoms, even if you aren't noticing them as frequently or severely.

[anditslove]

You have survived everything you have been through, and you will survive this too. Stay for the person you will become. You are more than a bad day, or week, or month, or year, or even decade. You are a future of multifarious possibility. You are another self at a point in future time looking back in gratitude that this lost and former you held on. Stay.

Matt Haig, The Comfort Book

[fluo-skeletons]

In order: Undertale Papyrus, Gravel (from @maxladcomics's au), Sharp (gemknight fell papyrus)

[blitzwhore]

It's always fun experiencing severe mental illness symptoms because of fiction, eh?

[naffeclipse]

I know it's just because I'm a tired cranky raccoon rn but I feel like everyone hates me

[cypher05]

so about that eclipse. huh.

[the-chosen-half-of-one]

You’ve heard of “rotating blorbos around in your mind,” now get ready for “rotating just the most random phrases you’ve ever heard or seen.” Now with the added bonus of: the broken record function, which lets you experience the magic of repeating the phrase internally on loop forever with no clue as to why and no way of stopping it no matter the relevancy to current circumstance or situation!

[mueritos]

a small moment of kindness that touched me today. speaking about our struggles as grad students in class with classmates. our small group is all BIPOC; another latine and two arabs, one who is palestinian. we are speaking very honestly about our fears and frustrations. feeling useless. feeling scared. upset at the world and its horrors. angry at other peoples' silence. but at the same time so so full of joy and hope. i talked about being scared of being forgotten, and we continued on with our group task of creating a liberation health triangle.

professor transitioned us back to the full class and while our professor began speaking again, my Palestinian classmate--so beautiful and with the most wonderful curls--leaned close to me and whispered "I'll never forgot you." I almost didn't hear her so i whispered back, "what?", and as sweetly as the first time she said, "I'll never forget you. And I'll never forget what you said last semester. You were the first person in this entire program who spoke of your frustrations. I felt less alone."

the walk home from class was very cold, but i could not help but let myself repeat the moment in my head over and over again.

[pathologising]

you don't need to wait for a specific time to start over, either. You can start over right now today! No one needs to give you permission. You can try, try again. Always.