#small-strong-bookish-butch

[campgender]

lol I have an update to me asking about stone identities— I tried Googling "stone butch/femme sexuality books", and it brought up Stone Butch Blues, which is very good!! And I have read already! But I was looking for books that are *not that*

And then it was like "here's a list of lesbian books! Here's a list of nonbinary books by trans people!" Which are good and well but not what I want lol

And then! I clicked on the most *basic* PDF that had the butch--femme scale (the one that was supposed to be satire IIRC) and one of the things it said was! "Butch [or femme] may be used derogatorily" like hello??? By whom?????

I'll keep looking amd let you know if I find anything!

Save me stone top/bottom books... (that may or may not exist...) stone bottom books save me..... 🫣

ok it’s good to know that you’ve already read SBB (i thought you might’ve lol), i started rereading in the process of answering your ask bc it’s so irresistibly rich but i’ll keep digging for others!

that pdf sounds like a nightmare oh my god… there’s no way to win once ‘the butch/femme scale’ gets reanimated for the umpteenth time bc either people start trying to dissect complex & personal identities into points on a line or [often white] butches & femmes et al get so fucking livid about the existence of people who are futch and/or stem(me).

the derogatory part is true but tactless… like in undergrad i rewrote the manual for safe space training & (long before IDing as femme!) said something like “these are identities with a rich & meaningful history, but not everyone uses them, so don’t apply it to someone else without knowing whether they’re okay with that.” which is pretty basic like. come on y’all.

but yeah imo it’s kinda a combo deal of like. normative society loves using words associated with queerness, in this case queer/gnc masculinity, as an insult, then with the sex wars + pressure to be a good lesbian feminist + vilifying butch as oppressive & femme as enabling, other gay people definitely use(d) both derogatorily. these days i’d say probably the way people spit pillow princess is closer to how they used to condemn femme but maybe that’s still happening places i’m not.

(+ there’s something to be said about the descriptive-not-prescriptive association of femme with sexual excess & often sex work, so like through certain expressions of swerfism + whorephobia + slut-shaming femmes are still being shamed by other gays for being femmes even if the word femme never gets said.)

one of my favorite pieces of all time about femmeness actually opens with that image, The Kissing Booth by Debra Moskowitz (excerpt with excellent commentary by @gatheringbones), would love to hear your (+ anyone reading this who wants to share!!) thoughts on it!

like i said i’m still rooting through my scrap pile so shall answer your original ask soon but if any books centered on high femme / stone bottoms exist i have yet to encounter them unfortunately

[maraeffect]

Hi hello, I would like to hear many things about inoculation theory…. 🥺

OMG I'M SO EXCITED. i'm gonna add a read-more bc i'm about to info dump the FATTEST mini-essay anyone has ever seen. THANK YOU for taking interest 😭💖👉👈

okay so, inoculation theory in social psychology sort of piggybacks off the idea of inoculations in medicine.

if you've ever gotten a vaccine, you've experienced an inoculation! the way vaccines work is to expose your body to a harmless variant of or piece of a pathogen (something that causes illness) (this is also a very generalized statement so please understand that i'm not a doctor or anything 😭). this tricks your body into thinking you are fully infected with the pathogen, and then your body creates antibodies! the antibodies help recognize future contact with the pathogen in order to more quickly and effectively squash it out.

inoculation theory in psychology is super similar to this! it is often used to create plans for fighting propaganda and misinformation. specifically, it is great for keeping opinions one already has, and preventing persuasion away from those opinions.

in research, this is generally achieved in the following way: the participant has their set stance on a topic. the researcher then presents to the participant a weak counterargument to the stance. the counterargument should be strong enough for the participant to become defensive, but weak enough so as not to change the opinion of the participant. the participant will then think of a refute to the counterargument. since the counterargument was weak, it should be fairly simple for the participant to come up with their refutation. however, it lays the foundation for the participant to defend against stronger counterarguments in the future.

as an example, imagine someone has the stance that vaccines help to prevent infections. a weak counterargument to this would be "well, but people still get sick after getting vaccinated. this means vaccines don't work." this counterargument is fairly easy to refute, especially because it doesn't even play by science's definition of what a vaccine is. the participant may think, "well, they don't prevent ALL sickness. they just decrease the likelihood of infection after exposure. you can still get sick; it is just less likely with a vaccine." now the participant has defended their stance once, and they know better how to defend their stance in the future.

in the future, they may be presented with a stronger argument, but the participant is more likely to stick with their original stance, as they have practiced defending it.

inoculation theory has GREAT potential to help limit the spread of misinformation and to protect people from logical fallacies. a huge use of inoculation theory has been in schools, with programs against smoking, vaping, drugs (NOT the DARE program), etc. students are exposed to lots of weak arguments FOR the consumption of the dangerous substances (it makes you feel good, we're young so we don't get damaged as much from this, everyone who is cool is doing this, you're a pussy if you DON'T do this, etc). they're taught how to defend against those weak arguments. and, if the program is good, it succeeds in its end goal, which is to keep kids from using the said substance.

in the end, the goal of inoculation theory is strengthen someone against being persuaded; and this can mean persuasion in general! the more comfortable someone is synthesizing critical thought to defend their stances, the more they use those thought processes. over time this strengthens the person's ability to critically think about their own opinions. in most PRACTICAL uses however, the inoculation is only meant to prevent persuasion regarding a specific topic.

in my personal, non-researcher opinion, i think inoculation theory could also be bastardized in order to PUSH minsinfo and propaganda. i think it's a similar thought process the ways in which propaganda is spread. with a cursory glance, i can't find anything to back that up, so i'll just say that i'm probably talking out of my own ass for that bit LOL.

i do hope you enjoyed this little info-dump and that it was at least slightly interesting!!! social psychology is SO fucking cool and has a lot to offer. i think almost anyone could find something they were really interested in in this field (:

OH LAST THING. there is a game that was used to showcase inoculation theory, and it's called Bad News. it's been praised to hell and back since it's release, so if you're further interested, i sincerely recommend trying it out!!

thanks again for asking !!! srsly means so much 😭💖

[molsno]

Thank you for posting so much about transmisogyny!!

I’ve been reading more of your posts recently, and am just generally trying to unlearn transmisogyny and gender essentialism stuff.

Thank you for just… publicly talking about it and being honest about your (& other trans women and transfemmes’) experiences, and I’m really sorry that you’ve gone through all of that, genuinely. Hope you’re having a good day/night :)

this is so sweet thank you so much!! 🥺 it always makes me happy to be reminded that I'm not doing this for nothing, that I am genuinely helping other people understand it better so I really appreciate this 😭 I hope you have a good day too!!

[annieisyourfavourite]

How do you deal with internalized ableism? I’m asking you specifically cause I know you have a lot of posts + feelings about diabetes and disability (though the disability I’m having trouble with isn’t my diabetes, tbh). Feel free to ramble if you want to!

I hope you’re having a nice day!! :)

i know this is old so my apologies for answering it so late. hope ur day is going well too!!

the biggest thing that has helped me when it comes to Internalized Ableism is, perhaps unsurprisingly, my work in disability access. until recently, i was the resident accessibility coordinator for a theatre, so my job was all about accessibility. and that kind of reworked my brain in a way to always be looking out for disabled people first

so believing the stuff i believe about rest, accessibility, each person's inherent worth, etc. in a general sense, helped me apply it in a personal sense. whenever i get upset about not being able to do more physically, i imagine i'm a client. and it's a lot easier to have sympathy for - and advocate for the unequivocal needs of - someone outside of myself. if that makes sense? like i tell myself "what would i say if this was someone else saying this to me?" and it helps because i'm kind of an angry, fiery person lol, so i never hold back when it comes to defending disabled people and fighting for disability justice. so it's hard to argue with myself when all these disability things are so integral to my belief system

the mantra of "is it my business / does it effect me?" also really helps me. i can get frustrated with people sometimes, and i can have Opinions on other people's accommodations and such, but often like. it's not my business! what helps someone else usually does not effect me, so i make myself refocus. because something i'm REALLY vocal about believing in is that disabled people are the experts on themselves. everyone is the expert on themself and their own experience. so whenever i find myself getting judgy, i remind myself (in tandem with the above) that even if it sounds some kind of Way to me, that each person knows themself and their experiences far better than anyone else ever can

and then sometimes it's just about having grace. sonya renee taylor once spoke at my school and said something along the lines of "i love the me that doesn't love myself". it's about giving yourself the grace to not always be where you want to be. and that's always good for me to remember when i'm struggling to not feel bad or judgemental of myself

[yrbutchgf]

Seeing all your recent posts like uhhhhhh are you good, Kasey?? You want to talk about it???

I hope you have confidence but also like, the ability to just be at peace about stuff because relationships are so hard sometimes :(

[sends internet hugs if you want] (also happy belated birthday!!)

yeaaaa ive been having a real one is all. the most recent update to the saga is my two friends in my city rn have started hooking up and i can't tell now if the door is still, like, open for me, with one of them. though to be fair the last time we hung out he asked me if i wanted to make out. but also to be fair this was before they decided to tell me they've been hooking up. idk the calculus is weird.

there's also some other shit recently with the two of them but that's both implicated and not implicated in this, it's more about the fact that im a much more private person in reality than i recognize about myself and it takes meeting new people and having them feel hurt by that to remember that, because otherwise all my friends have crossed that threshold and are now like, keepers of secrets. so now. i dunno. it's a lot. and the crush i have on waiterguy is actually devastating for me so.

anyway thank you for the birthday wishes im sure this blog has been a rollercoaster for anyone to read back lately lmfao

[paradoxesofgalaxies]

When you see this, post 5 songs you actually listen to and tag 10 of your favorite followers/mutuals

I was tagged by @sae-something

Make a Move by Icon for Hire

Parole by sajou no hana

Tell Me I'm Alive by All Time Low

weapon by Against the Current

10 for 10 by Magnolia Park

(these are all songs I've been listening to a lot lately)

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[small-strong-bookish-butch]

Changed my url!! (In case anyone noticed/wanted to know lol)

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[princesssarisa]

10 facts about Shana and her mother Darika. Plus the full OC interview with each of them :)

Here they are! Shanna, the “Beauty” of my wlw Beauty and the Beast retelling (which still lacks a definitive title, though I intend it to include the word “rose”), and Darika, her mother.

Shanna 10 facts 1. She is 14 years old during the story’s prologue, 17 when the main plot starts, and 19 by the end.

2. My facecast for her is the late Israeli singer Ofra Haza (best known to some of us for providing the voice of Moses’s mother Yocheved in The Prince of Egypt) when she was very young.

3. She’s mixed race. Her mother’s ancestors were white pseudo-Europeans, while her father’s came from a Middle Eastern-inspired culture. Both practiced the same Judaism- and Shamanism-inspired religion, though. She’s her world’s equivalent of a Jewish person who’s half Ashkenazi, half Mizrahi.

4. Her name is partly a variant of the Yiddish “Shaina,” meaning “beautiful,” and partly an abbreviation of the Hebrew “Shoshanna,” meaning “lily” or, more significantly, “rose.” It has nothing to do with the Hebrew “shana,” meaning “year” – they’re just almost-homonyms.

5. Unlike most traditional Beauty and the Beast Beauties, she’s the eldest of three sisters, not the youngest. Her two sisters aren’t wicked, but they are a bit of a handful because they’re so young, and she’s had to be their responsible caretaker. She plays that role well – her little sister Zuri sooner calls for her than for their mother when she needs help – but it’s kept her from fully exploring her own potential, which she finally does get to explore during her time with Liriel, the lady beast.

6. Her personality is very much like Disney’s original animated Belle: bookish, sweet, emotional, full of dreams, yet intelligent and strong willed too. She’s more socially awkward than Belle, though, and unfortunately, she also has the self-doubt of Robin McKinley or Megan Kearney’s Beauties. Unlike Belle, she’s internalized the idea that she’s odd and oversensitive, so she tries to act like a “normal” down-to-earth villager, until the year she spends with Liriel makes her realize her worth just as she is.

7. She’s an aspiring author and poet. At age 13, before her family fell into poverty, she wrote a play based on the popular story of the heroine Lady Yasfira, portraying her as more flawed and dynamic than in most retellings, giving more sympathy than usual to the “evil” queen who opposed her, and portraying them as having once been friends. (Think either The Prince of Egypt or Wicked, or both.) The play was never performed at the time, but years later, with Liriel’s encouragement, she fine-tunes it, and then they perform it together for Liriel’s animal servants – this plays an important role in their growing feelings for each other.

8. She rarely lets herself get angry, but when she does, she can verbally annihilate you.

9. She realized she was bisexual at age 11 when, after her first crush on a boy at her school ended, she developed a new crush on a girl. She probably realized this more quickly than most real-world bi girls do, because the setting, Zalina Island, has no homophobia. She never acted on her crushes, but only out of shyness, not because she saw anything wrong with liking girls.

10. Despite her gentle personality, she’s not especially femme: she’s more soft butch, or maybe futch. She dislikes dresses (fortunately, Zalina Island has no taboo against women in pants) and generally wears just one or two feminine articles, like a shawl or earrings, with otherwise boyish clothing.

Interview (as she would answer it around the middle of the story)

What did you want to be, when you were a kid? There were so many things I wanted to be at different times. A queen, a princess, a duchess, a prophet, a traveling bard, an actress, a shepherdess, a farmer, a lady knight, a prime minister, a priestess, an acrobat, a cook, a kitchen maid, a dressmaker like my mother, a merchant like my father, a doctor, a midwife, a goldsmith, a fairy… and eventually, I realized that the one way to be all those things was to be a writer.

When did you know you wanted to be a writer? As soon as I was old enough to realize that stories didn’t come out of thin air, but where written by people. I wanted to do it as soon as I knew I could.

Who inspires you? My mother, my father, and a wide array of fictional heroes and heroines.

If you got to choose, where would you like to live? With whom? I’d love to live in a castle. I try not to care where I live as long as my family is with me, but my dreams of living in some splendid beautiful place never seem to die. I wouldn’t want it unless my family was there too, though.

Which item would you never give away? My journal, where I write down my secret thoughts, poems and stories.

Tell us about the biggest mistake you made in your life. Until recently, I might have cited the time I forgot to write an important history essay for school because I got lost in writing my play Yasfira and Anefri. Or else the time I lost my temper with my three-year-old sister Zuri and hurt her feelings so badly that she ran away and was missing for over an hour. But now, there’s no doubt that my worst mistake was asking Mama to bring me back a unique flower if she could find one on her trip to the city. Who would have thought a flower would cost so much?

Did you ever fear for your life? Yes, the moment when I saw Lady Liriel for the first time, after I followed Mama back to her lair – half wolf, half dragon, and entirely terrifying – and even more so, when she sniffed the air and I knew she smelled me hiding there.

There’s people who say you’re strange. Do you have any comment on this? I’m afraid it’s true. So often my imagination feels more real than the real world, my mind flies off to places that no one else believes exist, my emotions swell and crash like tidal waves no matter how much I try to swallow them and put logic first, I’ve always asked too many questions, and I feel less alone with only my books, paper and pen than I do in crowds of people.

Tell us something about you that nobody knows. Well, not many people know how strange I am anymore. I’ve learned to copy Mama and pretend to be as sensible and down-to-earth as she and our neighbors are, instead of spewing my feelings and dreams the way I used to. If the villagers knew about my romantic fantasies or the stories and poems I write in my head, they would laugh or scold even more than the people in the city did when I was small. 

What would make a perfect day for you? A few hours spent reading, a few spent writing, and maybe a trip to the theatre in the evening, with people who understand me and let me feel free to be myself.

Darika 10 Facts 1. She takes on the father’s traditional role in the Beauty and the Beast story. Her husband was a merchant, but he died in the same shipwreck that destroyed his merchandise and left the family impoverished. But a few years later, she learns that one of his ships survived after all, has to travel to reclaim its cargo, but gets lost in a forest… and we all know the rest. Recent BatB retellings have put a lot of effort into answering the question “What happened to Beauty/Belle’s mother?” in interesting and poignant ways. To be different, I thought “Why not make her mother the living parent?”

2. My facecast for her is the New York City Criminal Court judge Rachel “Ruchie” Freier. Not that I know much about Judge Freier, but her face look right for the character.

3. At the beginning of the story, she’s 35 years old. By the end, she’s 40.

4. She was born in a small, poor village at the base of the White Pine Mountains. Her parents died when she was a baby, so she was raised by her grandfather and her older sister, who have since died too. 

5. She worked as a seamstress in the village until she met and fell in love with a wealthy young traveling merchant from an elite port city. Despite the disapproval of his social circle, they married. After his death, she took their daughters back to her home village to start a new life.

6. Her impoverished upbringing and family tragedies have toughened her. She takes a very practical, hardworking, no-nonsense approach to life, tries to teach her daughters to do the same, and is calm and resolute in the face of hardship, focusing on “What are we going to do about it?” She sometimes loses patience with her daughter Shanna’s dreaminess and sensitivity, which makes Shanna, who adores and idolizes her, feel inadequate and weak.

7. Inside, though, she feels just as deeply and intensely as Shanna does. Her love for her family is limitless and she’s actually very dependent on Shanna, who fills the role of the family’s nurturing caregiver more than Darika’s temperament lets her do.

8. One thing she and Shanna have in common, which Shanna learned from her, is strong integrity and deep compassion for others. For her, the best part of being rich was all the good she could do for the poor, while the hardest part of becoming poor again was having so little to give to those even poorer.

9. Her sewing is more than just her job – it’s an art. She embroiders the clothes and quilts she makes with all kinds of colors and unique designs. The vibrant images she creates are an outlet for the emotions she doesn’t express.

10. Her personality is inspired by assorted beloved literary heroines, both classic (Jane Eyre, Elinor Dashwood) and modern (Tamora Pierce’s lady knight Keladry of Mindalen). For all their differences, and though they’re much younger than Darika, all these heroines are quiet, practical, dignified, staunch in their integrity, deeply caring and passionate on the inside, and yet with masks of stoic self-control that they only drop when intensely provoked. I like those heroines and admire them, yet sometimes their popular role model status annoys me, because it’s hard for a highly sensitive, naturally effusive person to act like them. So Darika pays tribute to them, but the story will also emphasize that her daughters don’t need to be like her.

Interview (as she would answer it around the middle of the story) What did you want to be, when you were a kid? A forest sprite or a good witch. I had a wild imagination in those days, before the real world tamed it.

When did you know you wanted to be a seamstress? When I first learned that the flowers and birds on my childhood quilt hadn’t sprouted there by themselves, but were embroidered by my mother, and that the storytelling tapestries that hung on the village temple walls were sewn by other villagers in the same way. I wanted to create beauty like they had, and to tell stories through pictures, while at the same time creating useful things for others: clothes, blankets, handkerchiefs, etc.  I think I willed my own talent for sewing into being to do just that.  

Who inspires you? My older sister Shanna; the namesake of my daughter. We lost our mother very young, so she took on the role of mother for me, and every day her love and strength have inspired me as I’ve raised my own children.

If you got to choose, where would you like to live? With whom? I would live in a clean, elegant, comfortable house with my daughters, a servant or two, and my husband, if only I could bring him back.

Which item would you never give away? My wedding ring.

Tell us about the biggest mistake you made in your life. Three of them, one directly after the other. First, when I was lost in the Great Forest during a storm, I took shelter in what I thought was an ordinary cave. Then, when I found that the inside looked like a castle, I should have turned and left; even then I knew that such an enchanted place would be dangerous. But I was cold, wet, and afraid I would die if I went back out into the storm, so I stayed. Last but not least, when I discovered the greenhouse garden in that castle-cave, I crept in and picked a rose as a gift for my daughter Shanna. Who would have dreamed a single flower would cost so much?

Did you ever fear for your life? I feared for my life when I was lost in the storm, but even more so when I came face to face with Lady Liriel. I’ll never forget the sight of her matted fur and vampire-bat fangs as she glared down at me.

There’s people who say you’re cold and stony. Do you have any comment on this? They don’t really know me.

Tell us something about you that nobody knows. Very few people fully know me, not even my daughters. I play the role of the calm, practical peasant woman, but it’s only skin-deep. Shanna thinks all her wild passions and romantic dreams came from her father, but really she inherited them from me too. My grandfather knew the secret me, and so did my sister, and my husband. But they’re all gone, and as I’ve buried each of them, I’ve buried those aspects of myself more deeply.

What would make a perfect day for you? A quiet day of embroidery by the fire at home, with my daughters all near me and all happy.

[campgender]

I have a lot of asks for the multigender ask (AKA have been curious/wanting to hear your thoughts on it, so feel free to talk for a while!)!! Here we go :D

7. Are your genders more fluid or more static?

9. Do you "hoard" genders or labels?

10. Do you have any analogies you use to describe your genders?

11. Describe your ideal gender presentation, or physical form.

13. Does your sexual orientation influence your gender(s)?

18. Have you ever faced prejudice or hostility due to your multigender identity or related presentation?

19. When in a situation forcing you into one gender, what do you do?

21. What are your favorite things about being multigender?

25. What's your favorite art/music/writing/etc about being multigender? (Things not explicitly written as such are OK too!)

and 27!. Do you talk about being multigender with other people?

7) are your genders more fluid or static?

ooh i would say if we’re getting technical about it i conceptualize my gender/s as flux (in the shorter term), so the gender/s that are there stay the same but their intensities redistribute. i’m picturing one of those games with the bottles with layers of different color liquid & you pour the various liquids from one bottle to another.

in the like ‘across the past decade’ scale i would definitely say my gender/s have changed as i’ve cultivated them but there are often common threads of desires & ways of being that i can trace across time.

9) do you “hoard” genders or labels?

answering in a different ask 💖

10) do you have any analogies you use to describe your genders?

a lot of them are spatial which doesn’t translate well from incomprehensible gesturing into text lol but i like to say “me saying i’m a man gives you as much information as saying that’s a fish” because of how different fishes can be more different from each other than from, like, a bear or whatever

11) describe your ideal gender presentation, or physical form.

in a world where it was more possible to find clothes & accessories i can wear i would love to wear long wigs again, lots of jewelry, colorful dresses… ms. frizzle is my hero. but tbh very rarely will i reblog something i wouldn’t wear❣️

13) does your sexual orientation influence your gender(s)?

oh absolutely❣️ truly i would say my gender is high femme far more often were it not for the fact that people would assume that means something very different than i do (discussed more below lol)

18) have you ever faced prejudice or hostility due to your multigender identity or related presentation?

hmm not directly as such, but every time a femme post of mine gets any activity people are in my notes assuming i am a woman / am a lesbian / am not a man / whatever else would make it comprehensible to them that i could possibly write something they could relate to. which i get frustrated about every so often lol

19) when in a situation forcing you into one gender, what do you do?

depends on the situation (as i’m sure it does for most people) but i tend to go with man, for different reasons depending on the circumstances. with doctors i present myself as a straight trans man because i’m openly on T & that’s the easiest way for them to understand that. when i go to somebody’s blog & it’s like “this is a space for wlw & nblw 💖 men dni 💖” i decide man weighs more in me than nblw out of, depending on my mood, ‘better safe than sorry’ or wanting to respect that they don’t want me there or not wanting to be somewhere that doesn’t want me anyway.

21) what are your favorite things about being multigender?

i just really love my gender/s themselves❣️ ooh i love having gender/s-affirming sex, & gender-exploratory sex. & the thing where a context of isolation & rejection makes acceptance bittersweeter – i cherish every time somebody rejoices in my gender/s with me, even if that’s just liking a post

22) what's your favorite art/music/writing/etc about being multigender? (things not explicitly written as such are ok too!)

ooh okay i’ve prepared a selection of three songs this evening:

grace kelly by MIKA

i tried to be like grace kelly

but all her looks were too sad

so i tried a little freddie

i’ve gone identity mad!

really fabulous & beloved song about reckoning with the ways your identity/presentation is rejected. the meaning i take from it has evolved over time but its restorative assurance never wanes.

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pin-up daddy by rett madison

no matter what side of the bed i wake up on today

i still rise, i’m alive, i am everything

i don't give a fuck what the world thinks they're looking at

‘cause i’m a pin up daddy

twirling in my heels with my hair slicked back

started tearing up again reading the lyrics just now. got recommended this one by a femmetual a year or two ago & while of course it’s potentially relatable to all sorts of folks, it very much resonates with my femmeness.

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all dolled up by the orion experience

it's a mixed up, muddled up, shook up world

i don't wanna be a boy, i don't wanna be a girl

breaking the rules as i sway & swirl

shining like a diamond in glitter & pearl

got into this one in the past couple months & i always have so much fun with it, the chorus is such jumpy-dance vibes (& it always makes me think about my doll 🥰)

27) do you talk about being multigender with other people?

absolutely❣️ especially my fiancé & our roomie but at least incidentally with most people i interact with tbh, hookups included lol bc sometimes people get confused about what language i’m okay with / into

[campgender]

Hi hello, I think we should be friends for Gender Reasons(TM) (totally okay if you don’t want to but I like ✨your vibes✨ anyways), I’m very much enjoying your blog & posts, and I hope your day is going well! :)

omg omg this makes me so happy, i would love to be friends for Gender Reasons (with you & anyone else who wants to)!! i love your blog & have really been enjoying following you :) & my day has actually been really great, i hope yours is going well too!