#so I understand her illness a little better

[froody]

My dad gets upset sometimes because he isn’t his mother’s favorite child and he has never been, it’s always been my uncle who he looks down on. Dad ‘does more for [gandma]’ like being in charge of her finances and estate planning. Fundamentally he is a dutiful son but the thing is my uncle is actually a loving son and my father isn’t. My father goes out of his way to belittle, needle and hurt her. One example that comes to mind is the fact my grandmother struggled with anorexia for much of her life, from the 60s to the late 90s. Now she is 73 years old and disabled and sick and she has gained weight she cannot lose, frankly, losing the weight would be more detrimental to her physical health. But my super fatphobic dad makes sure to bring up her weight at least once every time they see each other.

My dad is inattentive to her wants, her needs, her thoughts, her physical and mental state. She has schizoeffective disorder. She’s been mentally ill my entire life. It’s not her fault but he gets so frustrated with her when she gets confused or experiences delusions.

Essentially, my uncle isn’t a raging misogynist and he’s a sweet caring guy. He provides a lot of mental and emotional support and attention that she needs that my dad has never supplied. And my dad wonders why he isn’t the favorite.

[snzluv3r]

Is it hard dating that isn’t chronically ill? I am another chronically ill person and I’m scared to date someone that isn’t chronically ill because they won’t understand my pain and make me feel bad about it (I’ve had a lot of trauma with it in the past). Just wondering if it’s possible to do and how you and your partner navigate it?

honestly, yes it’s so hard, but only in the sense that i constantly feel like im holding her back or disappointing her. it’s so hard being sick all the time and not knowing when or if im going to be well enough to take her on an actual date or all the other things that my illnesses get in the way of, but she’s the first person i’ve ever known to never ever validate that guilt by making me feel bad for things out of my control.

she always lets me know i don’t have to apologize for bailing last minute or spending our only weekend together sick and in bed asleep for half the time because she knows it’s not something i’ve chosen. i’m so used to people making me feel like im just being lazy and choosing to not participate in things and am purposefully letting people down, especially in romantic relationships with non-chronically ill people, so i totally get the fear and it’s so valid. if you ever wanna talk more in depth my dms are always always open, i hope this made sense

[toastsnaffler]

in a hilarious turn of events my flatmate didn't even know I use any pronouns....

[lecliss]

Sakura gets a second point for being the first to complete the tree climbing at being better at chakra control, but at the same time it just feels like she was made good at it so no extra training segment time would have to be put into her getting good at it and it can be all about Sauce and Nart. Idk that feels too pessimistic but also could totally be true.

[envolvenuances]

and my mother gets angry I don't rely on her today now that she suddenly wans to help. but like I cannot trust this is sincere and something I can count on while she still not capable of being honest with me. tired of being told I am unreasonable and crazy not asking for help on the house that beat the shit out of me for catching dengue fever and always attached human value and independence to how much money you were putting at the table

[gelatomoon]

<3 cant thank everyone enough for all the help ive received so far with gelatos teeth costs ;__; <3 <3 was very overwhelmed but seeing ppl spread and donate really takes a lot of weight off my shoulders ! sorry ive been a bit inactive the past year has been turbulent and currently in the middle of figuring out moving and housing as well. i know i just kinda post art and run every once in a while but i always read the sweet tags and replies and messages even if im not very good at responding to them, so thank you they really brighten my day ! hopefully after i move ill get in the groove of drawing more consistently ^_^

a pic of gelato begging for fish for u all 

[urlocalwormtoday]

in cult of the lamb i remember when my favorite follower (white ish beige deer) proposed and it was so cute ((I even drew art of them together THEY MAKE ME ILL)) but then they died of old age a while later.. NOW ANOTHER DEER (((WHO HAS CONSISTENTLY TRIED TO PROVE HIS LOYALTY BY WANTING TO BE BOTH A DISCIPLE AND LOYALTY ENFORCER AND WANTING TO BE PUT IN JAIL))) WANTS TO MARRY ME AND ITS GIVING ME FLASHBACKS 😭🤲

[swagyna]

like. ok ik friends aren't gonna be perfect, we're gonna fight and disagree.

but im just so scared because i don't know if the one person i call my best friend rn is actually a good friend?

i've never had kind friends my entire life. they've always pushed my boundaries after i set them. it just wasn't until the last few years i made it a Point to cut them off when they do that.

[strifethedestroyer]

my uncle died. hm

this is the first time i've ever reached the tag limit. the last word is meant to be funeral.

[biblicalhorror]

Reading a court of thorns and roses bc it's been rec'd to me many times (by the same two friends mostly) and also I've never really read a smut novel before and Jesus christ this protagonist is insufferable

[musical-chick-13]

Like, I DO think people get too wound up over fictional constructs--that, very pointedly, are not real and whose actions are made up and do not actually affect any real people--doing horrible things in-story, but I also think it's fair for someone to say, "This action sits poorly with me even in a fictional setting, in such an intense way that I cannot move past that or find sympathy for it," and "People are saying this bad behavior isn't actually bad, in a way that is meant to be taken seriously and at face-value, and that makes me severely uncomfortable."

Granted, this all gets muddled very easily because that's not what people mean most of the time, they just want to over-moralize fiction and say, "If you like this pRoBLeMaTiC thing for any reason, you are a menace to society" for Superiority Points. (They also like to invent problems that don't actually exist to "prove" that they have the moral high ground in not liking something remember when people tried to say catra/adora was incest because they grew up together because I sure do.) But I feel like there is a split between people who use "[character] apologism" in the sense of "I will be okay with this character doing whatever fucked-up thing they want in the story because I like them" vs "If you find this character compelling or want them to succeed, you would one-to-one condone their actions irl" vs "I have seen people genuinely say, with no joking or irony, that this character never actually caused any type of harm to the other characters within the story, and I don't like that."

[dirt-str1der]

I literally had a dream about reading the worst fan fiction like fucking ever kiryu was just randomly a yandere and nishiki was trying his best to survive also kiryu turned into a dragon (deez nuts) halfway and let nishiki kill him for being a bad boy but he was so upset about having to kill his bro that he just lay in the corpse for a bit and thats when i decided to stop reading and i literally opened tumblr in my dream to complain about how bad it was like the writing went back and forth from being terrible to incredible and i found myself enjoying some parts and despising others. I skipped the first few chapters so i had to tab back out and read the summary like why are they in a beach resort and the summary didnt just tell me nothing but it was also double spaced between each line and very fucking irritating and while reading it i kept thinking this is extremely ooc and boring like they would not fucking say that

[nerdie-faerie]

Having a complicated relationship with your mum is so confusing. It's the knowledge that she taught me the best way to make gravy, how tie my shoes and how to make my bed. But she's also the one that made disparaging comments about my body growing up and is part of the reason I don't want to be a parent myself and why I moved across the country for uni. But she's still my mum and I still find myself wishing I could seek comfort from her when things get a little too hard but the mum I'm longing for doesn't really exist. And I see her in the colour of my eyes and in the way I grit my teeth when I'm angry. She taught me how to do my hair and how to cover up bruises. She's a part of me in all the good and the bad. And there's no way to say you hate someone that doesn't also acknowledge all the good because nothings as ever as black and white as that

[opens-up-4-nobody]

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[tyetyetyetyetyetye]

I could do whole thinkpeice about taylor Kelly and how a lot of the hate she gets is unjustified and mostly has to do with the fact that 1. She's a woman and 2. She hurt buck but I'm not trying to get doxxed

[takemetodragonstone]

i never know how to answer the question of “do you want kids” because in an ideal world, yes i think i would like to have kids. but i turn into my mother when i’m stressed, and i can’t in good conscience put a kid through that