#stresslesshacks

[drmarr]

Apparently I posted something controversial back in the winter that caused someone to respond to me quite defensively. As I ran on the beach (wasting my vacation head space), I thought: “I can see where this person is coming from if those are their views… but they must also understand where I’m coming from if they had the information I do…??” And that’s when it hit me. Duh. 1. This person DOESN’T have the same information I do. 2. Even if they did, it doesn’t sound like they are OPEN enough to even WANT to have another opinion on the matter. They are upset because they see this as black or white. The more we see things as black/white or right/wrong, the more JUDGMENTAL we are. The more judgmental we are, the more we tend to get strong emotional reactions. But this also has to do with how open we are. They are also upset because they are not being very OPEN. So whenever I find myself feeling this reactive to what someone else has to say, I ask myself, “How OPEN are you being in this conversation?” and the answer is usually, not very! To defuse emotional reactions, ask yourself: 1. Am I considering more than one perspective in this situation? 2. How open am I to other viewpoints? #perspective #judgmental #judgment #openminded #openmindedness #howopenareyou #growthmindset #respondnotreact #emotionalintelligence #personaldevelopment #selfawareness #selfdevelopment #perspectiveshift #conflictmanagement #communication #activelistening #beingopenminded #stressless #stresslesshacks #stressmanagement #manageyourstress #emotionalstress https://www.instagram.com/p/CfK2XGGDnPY/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=