#respondnotreact

[shelbysafe]

Not everyone gets a second chance. The best decisions are made before the moment comes. Training minds to respond, not react, is how we protect futures.

#ShelbySafe#SecondChancesStartNow#RespondNotReact#FutureFocused

[scribsters]

IF YOU WANT SMALL CHANGES, WORK ON YOUR BEHAVIOR; IF YOU WANT QUANTUM-LEAP CHANGES, WORK ON YOUR PARADIGMS. Remember, most of your stress comes from the way you respond, not the way life is. Adjust your attitude, and all that extra stress is gone. @shubham_mahajan99 #scribsters #ATTITUDE #LifeIsStrange #lifeisbeautiful #LifeIsGood #lifelonglearning #LifeChangers #lifelessons #LifeChangingTips #AttitudeIsEverything #attitudematters #attitudetowardslife #attitudeofgratitude #gratitudeisthebestattitude #paradigmshift #ChangeTheMindSet #ChangeInspiresChange #changeistheonlyconstant #respondnotreact #focusonthegood #writerscommunity #WritersCafe #writersnetwork #writesofinstagram #writersofindia #writersofig #mondaymessage #MondayMotivation #MotivationMonday #daily (at Delhi, India) https://www.instagram.com/p/CH8aqKMgLnA/?igshid=1ikpneizhi7uu

[drmarr]

Apparently I posted something controversial back in the winter that caused someone to respond to me quite defensively. As I ran on the beach (wasting my vacation head space), I thought: “I can see where this person is coming from if those are their views… but they must also understand where I’m coming from if they had the information I do…??” And that’s when it hit me. Duh. 1. This person DOESN’T have the same information I do. 2. Even if they did, it doesn’t sound like they are OPEN enough to even WANT to have another opinion on the matter. They are upset because they see this as black or white. The more we see things as black/white or right/wrong, the more JUDGMENTAL we are. The more judgmental we are, the more we tend to get strong emotional reactions. But this also has to do with how open we are. They are also upset because they are not being very OPEN. So whenever I find myself feeling this reactive to what someone else has to say, I ask myself, “How OPEN are you being in this conversation?” and the answer is usually, not very! To defuse emotional reactions, ask yourself: 1. Am I considering more than one perspective in this situation? 2. How open am I to other viewpoints? #perspective #judgmental #judgment #openminded #openmindedness #howopenareyou #growthmindset #respondnotreact #emotionalintelligence #personaldevelopment #selfawareness #selfdevelopment #perspectiveshift #conflictmanagement #communication #activelistening #beingopenminded #stressless #stresslesshacks #stressmanagement #manageyourstress #emotionalstress https://www.instagram.com/p/CfK2XGGDnPY/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[insightsofdelight]

Perception Molding Reality

Upon having conversations with fellow friends and associates I am reminded of a idea that I would love to explore in this post. In this example, my friend has been going through a difficult time dealing with his emotions due to his decompression methods or in his case the lack thereof. While we discussed why he thought this was happening I realized I could relate to him on another level because I was once experiencing those faulty perceptions of who I was and the world around me. I still do have moments where I am struggling with these same issues, because it is a process of refining one’s interactions with the world always. As we were discussing the main issue that I could see that was affecting his mood the most was his perception of himself and how he fit into the world. He saw himself as a person who was at fault for all of the bad interactions he had encountered, as well as having the idea that if he was not perfect in one way or another, he in turn had no value. This brought to power the idea that perception has this power to shape the lives we live. In the end I told him that he should see himself as a human first and know that as a human he is going to have shortcomings, what makes one great is how they respond to those instances. As for taking accountability for those things that were completely out of his control, a simple new perspective was introduced that helped him see things a bit more from my shoes in a sense. Having this ability to take a step back can be invaluable in any given scenario. It is worth the venture to explore more in depth.

[responsiveparenting]

Big Emotions Often the behaviours that are a reaction to big emotions are the most common reason people give me for why behaviour modification, through coercion, is still a necessary part of parenting. I argue that it is the biggest, most troubling behaviours that are “modified” best by responsive parenting, as opposed to coercive parenting. J. Milburn @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #coregulation #selfregulation #meltdown #respondnotreact #endchildism #childled #childledlearning #meettheneed https://www.instagram.com/p/CWI0dwarwGL/?utm_medium=tumblr

[chiaradina]

🇺🇸 2nd time new moon in cancer, with a call to get going (Mars/Aries) but allowing yourself expansion, fulfillment of dreams and deep healing as we lift our most vulnerable points onto a divine level (conscious, loving integration), letting go of the dominating patriarchal, hierarchical images of the past. Fight for something, not against something or start something that you’ve put off for a while. If we tune into our feelings of “being at home with ourselves” - what emerges from our internal field of infinity, calling us to wisely love humanity and provide what is needed now instead of solely enlarging our ego? Sure there is a lot of tension and pressure and we might want to wait for 90 seconds before we react, so we can respond wisely. During the next months, find your mastery in “help me to act where I can, patiently accept what I can’t change and be wise to distinguish one from the other.” 🇪🇸 la segunda luna nueva en cáncer pone otra vez la énfasis en actuar, pero con un toque de soñar, expansión y ayudar tu proceso curativo por elevar tus puntos más vulnerables a un nivel divino (es decir transcendental y cariñoso). Deja que los imágenes viejísimos del patriarcado jerárquico se descomponen y empieza a luchar por algo en vez de contra algo. Usa la energía de Marte para empezar con un proyecto “en sala de espera” para concretar algo aún no manifestado. Si nos unimos a nuestro campo infinito interno, qué nos llama a amar apasionadamente a la humanidad, proporcionando algo realmente útil ahora en vez de sólo engrandecer nuestro “ego”? Claro hay muchísima tensión pero podemos esperar por 90 segundos para que no reaccionamos sino respondemos sabiamente. Durante los meses que vienen, vas a encontrar tu maestría con “ayúdame con actuar cuando debo, esperar pacientemente cuando no puedo hacer nada y saber distinguir sabiamente entre los dos”. 🇦🇹 ➡️ Kommentare #somaticastrology #internalcalling #tualmateguia #signofthetimes #marsimwidder #chiron #respondnotreact #resiliencia #resilienciahumana #resilience #somaticmovement #chiaradina #astrology #yogaimjahreskreis #serviralahumanidad #bewise #transformation #miteinanderstattgegeneinander #mitdemkörperlernen #trauma (en Baden, Austria) https://www.instagram.com/p/CC1oMfTF2UI/?igshid=hxopjaj7n9m4

[narelle-glover15]

#staystrong #respondnotreact (at Cairns, Queensland, Australia) https://www.instagram.com/p/BwQWM3RF3my/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=ic4q646fvkf1

[mr-mopho-blog]

Flight got delayed for 4 freaking hours!

What do you usually do if your flight got delayed? For me, I took it as an opportunity to recharge and ponder on life. It’s a good mental exercise. Let’s not fret on things we cannot control, instead, focus on what we can. Respond not react. Only by that, our minds can be free. . . . #stoicism #wisdom #respondnotreact #wayoflife #lifequotes #life #zigziglarquotes #quoteoftheday #quotestoliveby #quotesaboutlife #picoftheday #photooftheday #instalike #instafollow #likeforlike #shotononeplus #shoton6t #mobilephotography #teammobile #travelgram #airport #delayedflight https://www.instagram.com/p/BsS2lpfFf64/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=6bylvwzjxgf6

[mikeyslifeondisplay]

#lifeonlifesterms #respondnotreact #attitude #attitudeofgratitude #powerless

[mubal4]

RFP Podcast Episode #275 – Ultra Dad Session #83: It Is You

 Recently started rereading Stephen Covey’s, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. It has been several years since I dove into this one and not sure what compelled me to pick it up again, but I guess the timing of the messages I’ve been receiving were in line. The nuggets below are certainly resonated with considering many of the concerning things happening throughout our country. Much of these circumstances, and that within my own personal life, keep me repeating this same characteristic in my head, saying it to myself, and in conversations with others!!

 “We need more personal accountability.”

 Hence the topic of today’s messages, “It Is You.”

 In today’s episode, we talk about the above thoughts and a few of these nuggets from the book.

 “Our behavior is a function of our decisions, not our conditions. We have the initiative & responsibility to make things happen.”

What “things” are we allowing to control us? We get to “proactively choose” this!

 Are we “reacting” to our circumstances or “choosing to proactively respond” to them?

 The RFP Ultra Dad’s Podcast is sponsored by Time on the Trails – delivering you a customized experience out on the trails in Arizona and beyond.  Please visit us at www.tottaz.com and on social media via IG, FB, TW & LI.

 Keep an eye on the Ultra Dad’s Instagram account @ #ultra_dads.

 You can view the live recording of today’s episode on our YouTube Channel Here!

 Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/relentless-forward-progress-with-mike-ubaldini/id1305969863?i=1000598497379

 Listen to the most recent episode of my podcast: RFP Podcast Episode #275 – Ultra Dad Session #83: It Is You    

 How’d we get here?

 The Ultra Dad’s Podcast came from an idea Cindy Shane created.  Well, she planted the idea in our head after listening to the first time Bryan was on the RFP Podcast in May 2020.  There have many times over the years when we speak on the phone or in person the “we should be recording this” line comes out.  Well, here we are jumping in with both feet, like we tend to do, sharing with you our perspectives on life.  Let’s be candid – we are not perfect, and we fail often. Our favorite term to use is “it’s not ideal” and there have been countless times we’ve uttered, “a plan is great until you are punched in the face;” – but we do laugh a lot, at ourselves and/or each other mostly 😊.  All that said, there are those brief moments where things tend to fall into place and we, somehow, make it to that finish line – as ultrarunners yes, but most importantly has husbands, fathers, friends, and human beings.  We wanted to share those imperfections and those incredible moments that we’ve been fortunate enough to experience together over the last 30+ years.  So, sit back, grab a cold one, and hopefully this will be another time where things fall into place.

 -        Bryan & Mike

[shasharishi]

Imagine not having any ideas about yourself or reality. What would that look like. We have so many ideas about each other to start off with that its certain we have even more ideas about ourselves. Find yourself making comparisons? Those are ideas. Wanna be like someone else? Ideas. Worrying what others think/might think of you? Ideas. Think something isn't fair or the world is not as it should be? Ideas. Stories we are telling ourselves, inventions that mar our experience. Sit and see if you can find a place of clear expectation. Things will happen. Once you sense that crystal clear openness take it into your day. Now when your car doesn't start or someone offers a smile, or a homeless person approaches you - what could your experience be? ✨✨✨ #shashaspiritledlife #experience #lifeofadventure #beherenow #beyourself #noexpectations #opentolove #respondnotreact #equanimity #ourstories #letgoofthestory #bestill

[olivemala]

I love this Mala so much I decided to keep it! Matte Amazonite with a faceted Sunstone guru bead. Traditional 108+1 Hand knotted on brown silk with a gorgeous cotton sea foam tassel. Can ya dig? . . . . #amazonite #sunstone #mala #handknotted #108beads #meditate #meditationjewelry #meditation #slaytheday #stressfreeliving #breathe #takeiteasy #slowdown #reflect #respondnotreact #yogateacherintraining #ritual #ceremony #goddessjewelry #loveisallyouneed #longislandyoga #longislandartist #retirementplan #letitbe #trustyourgut #tgif #friday #magic #believeinyourself #grateful (at Short Beach Smithown)

[cottongrassco]

Respond vs React

I remembered more than one occasion when I was flushed red with anxiety, paralysed, and unable to think and problem solve. When that shadow overcame me, I became an illogical, stubborn person who just wanted her way. My personal goal for a while now is to work on responding instead of reacting. There are 2 success cases, and the outcome was much more than I expected. 1. Was in Shanghai for business trip and catching the 7am flight. I took my boss (who is a seasoned traveller)'s advice to leave the hotel and reach 1 hour instead of 2 hours before the flight. The rationale was that we had a very trusted driver who knew his route well, and there would be less traffic. I stood at the lobby, waiting for the driver. He was not there. I called, nobody picked. Time was ticking, 15 minutes past. Finally the driver answered my call in a sleepy voice. That's when I knew I got to act FAST. I was disappointed and felt betrayed, but there was no time to let the driver know that, "he failed in his job miserably, even though the fundamental of his job is to MAYBE TURN UP ON TIME TO FETCH HIS PASSENGER TO THE AIRPORT, His CAREER IS FINISHED!" Instead, I said, "I will get another taxi." And hung up. I made a mental note to tell my boss, that his Favourite driver is not so good afterall. I poured my cash out, counted and told the bellboy This is all I had. Was ready to dash to the ATM but he said it should be sufficient and would let the taxi driver know. I got a deal, boarded a taxi from the hotel and sped through the early morning. Once in the car, I felt more settled and started reflecting. What would the driver be feeling right now? Definitely guilt and worry - whether I could catch my flight, whether he will be reprimanded etc. I was imagining him wide awake, pacing his room and feeling so terrible that the trust was broken. Especially so because the night before, I relayed positive feedback to him that he was my boss Favourite, best driver. That instantly changed him from a "faceless", professional driver to a chatty one who shared his Long list of returning customers. I felt like I should call him back to assure him everything was under control. It was an IDD call, but I think the expense was worth it for courtesy and making someone feel better. The phone rang only once, instantly picked up by the Shifu. Indeed, he immediately apologized profusely and I could hear the worry and remorse in his tone. What came out from my mouth next surprised me. "Don't worry, I am ok now." I am comforting a guy who was obviously in the wrong/did not do his job/caused me inconvenience not to worry. I have very high standards when it comes to work ethics, so I am really surprised about my own choice. Did he ruin my morning? Kind of for that 15-20 minutes, I chose to think no. Because I caught my flight after all, just the nick of time thanks to special clearance lanes. Do I trust him? Not really, but I choose Yes, I should just take precautions and get to the airport 2 hours earlier for any unforeseen circumstances, and always bring enough cash. I believe he will do his very best the next time he has the chance to pick me up again. I should not judge just by one mistake. Did I tell my boss about it? Actually I forgot about it until my boss next business trip to Shanghai! I told him casually to bring cash and leave the hotel earlier. And he told me, he knew about it on that very day as the driver messaged him. Did I then make a good impression to my boss? I don't know. But I'm sure I did not make a bad impression by complaining or bad mouthing someone when I was still upset. It started with just the mantra: respond and not react. By doing that, I learned so much more! "Be kind to others. Think from the wrongdoer's perspective. Sometimes by not saying something is better than saying something." These are all very valuable lessons that this incident taught me. Will write about the second incident in my next post.

[chapters-of-enthusiasm]

Ever find that criticism falls out of your mouth more easily than praise? Gotta practise I suppose. Think a kind thought? Speak it. Think a meant thought? Pause. I was taught the concept of PAR. Pause. Access. Reflect. That way your speech becomes a response not a reaction and you can speak in a way that intentionally builds up others. Let's be quick to listen and slow to speak. #quote #quotes #inspirecollective #conversationsthatmatter #kindness #slowtospeak #quicktolisten #respondnotreact #intentionalthinking #intentionalliving #encourage #empower #buildupothers

[partiesandpoetry]

Sometimes the people you love can't love you because they are stuck in the memories of your abuse or someone else's and not because they really don't or don't wish to.

- J.N.

#selfreflectionmoment #selfimprovement #communication #ask #humility #empathy #understanding #love #grace #mercy #emdr #respondnotreact #words

[crazysharkstudentus]

#rePLANOLYvanessabaker-⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This challenge may be harder than you think! You may be tempted to ask about school work, about chores, about how they need a shower, about how messy their room is, about what they did or didn’t do ...Also, they may be expecting you to do all of these things. So surprise them.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Soooo...here’s the plan. Just sit with them. Just listen. They may not say much. Don’t try to get them to; don't take it personally. Just stay. No advice. No opinions. Just listen. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If they won’t talk, just sit there and love them. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #parentingteens #solutions #care #relationship #winwin #momofteens #engage #respondnotreact #positiveparenting #parentingtips #parentcoach #teenmentor #teencoach #listenup #justlisten #love #nostrings #noagenda #bepresent #family #familytime #parentgoals #teenlife #lovethis #mindfulparenting #qualitytime #parentinginreallife — view on Instagram https://ift.tt/36H3qhY