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boylikeanangel · 2 years
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ok honestly real talk for a sec, laszlo mentioning many times throughout the show that his parents sucked and his life was miserable before he met nadja particularly his childhood, and now being faced with the responsibility of being a parent and selfishly taking it on as a personal challenge to make "the most interesting child" whilst not stopping to think about what colin wants to do/be, and then having to learn and accept that this child is his own person and the job of a parent is not to shape a child into what they believe they should be but to love and support a child unconditional of what they become is actually such a beautiful and poignant arc for him and this episode ending with the two of them walking home hand in hand as a parent and child who just enjoy each other's company and love each other no matter what has honestly affected me a lot more than I'm willing to admit to actually
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goth-oatmilk-latte · 5 months
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a compilation of how my family members are treated vs how im treated
stepbrother: allowed to have bipolar disorder. allowed to literally be a deadbeat dad, but my parents will do anything for his child, financial or otherwise. allowed to quit all career obligations and do nothing for months and ask my parents for money to fund his life because he "needed a break from everything." had his ENTIRE education funded by both his parents plus my mother. has actually been bailed out of near jail time for old, unpaid parking tickets. he is 4 years older than me.
my stepsister: encouraged to pursue her dream, which is being a SAHM working an actual pyramid scheme job. was also told it was okay if she dropped out of college to get married and have kids, was basically encouraged to do so bc she was marrying someone our family presumed will take care of her. gets treated like a princess, gets everything she wants more or less bc shes pretty and has a kid. shes 2 years older than me.
my cousin: has quit every career ever. is piss poor mother. has on multiple occasions left kids at her parents to go party. her parents (my aunt and uncle) felt bad for her bc working was "too hard" so they gave her their house and pay for everything she does. everything she does is some insane celebration. shes not depressed, she will literally tell you she's lazy, enjoys being lazy, and doesnt want to do much bc its more fun to sit around and have other ppl do things for her. entire family encourages and fawn over every stupid thing she does. had 2 kids while unemployed and unmarried, given evrry resource possible. even my stepdad makes sure she doesnt need anything. same age as my stepbrother.
me: has graduated from two degrees and received no recognition, in fact my mother acted like my graduation from mortuary school was somehow a burden on her. was told "figure it out" about college, and then bitched at for every decision i made relating to it. no recognition for accomplishments period. finally got help for severe untreated mental illness, constantly told i just want attention, my own mother told our family i made up having an ED doe attention, and my mother threw my meds away one year when i came home from college on break bc she thought it was hard drugs. not even allowed to be mentally ill, literally taunted for showing symptoms. was taunted and made fun of for being visably depressed when my dad died. always told to figure it out myself. was told if i ever had a kid not to expect any kind of help. never praised. never celebrated. constantly nitpicked about everything. family was so uninterested in me that half of them never even paid attention to me being engaged, and then was literally told "we wish it was [name redacted] instead, he was a nice boy" even though the person they're referring to raped me, and I told them that. could probably never do a damn thing right or get any type of praise even if i cured cancer, AIDS, and abolished world poverty.
just wondering where they get the idea that im the least favorite and also why i want nothing to do with anyone. "we love everyone equally" YEAH? ARE YOU SURE ABOUT THAT??
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gy4rucartman · 7 months
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Do you have any specific Mike hcs that you'd like to share??
yes!! apologies on being slow to anons btw ideally id like to draw responses for these but i havent got the time to atm... i'll edit this or make a separate post with more hcs btw!
specific Mike hcs according to mod vulture:
-half asian! i like to think mike is central asian
-transguy, and he struggles with his image often though not always in relation to gender dysphoria--he often envies people like Michael or Kenny who have what he considers "beautifully masculine features"
- Severe social anxiety but its the kind where he overcompensated to "overcome" it but hes often burdened with feelings of loneliness when hes not in a crowd. becomes more noticeably awkward if hes left alone with one or two people.
-has a form of Porphyria, which leaves him in the hospital for majority of his schooling (why hes not always around), his feelings towards vampirism, why he has such a strong need for community and fostering one.
-i hc hes the child of poor teen parents that couldnt afford to take care of him, so most of his life was under foster care and orphanages until finally his mother passed (also has porphyria, and couldnt get proper care.) and then Mr. Adams adopted him since Mikes biological father wasnt able to take care of him on his own (bio parents with a baby mike below!)
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-his relationship with mr adams is difficult, while Mr. Adams isnt verbally abusive he IS extremely emotionally negligent which weighs down on mike heavy growing up. Mike feels unheard, and due to Mr.Adams need to make everything a joke or to try way too hard as his new father figure, it often causes rifts between the two leaving Mike dismissed and desperate to find found-family.
-Mike doesnt remember his parenrs very well, and even in adulthood dreams of meeting them. All he knows is his mom passed away when he was very young.
-Mike isnt as pretentious as Michael or the other goths but actually knows just as much if not more about music as them. He just wants a chance at friendship really, maybe hes also overcompensating for this?
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kanawolf · 5 months
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A Non-Exhaustive List of OCs (many of which will get their own post later)
Mochizuki Rai (Demon Slayer) - Creator of Lightning Breathing (Thunder Breathing derivative that uses naginata's and bisento's so they are more about fighting with reach), Tengens' tsuguko and friend, cousin to Shiori.
Yuuki Shiori (Demon Slayer) - Creator of Petal Breathing (derivative of Flower Breathing that uses war fans, wakizashi or other short blades, and poison), they work as a traveling Butterfly Girl (essentially) after being semi-forced out of the field due to an injury taken against a Lower Moon. Cousin to Rai.
Novel Characters:
Kayden - Mercenary commander of Sephien (fae like) and Dientes (human like) descent. She doesnt know of her sephien heritage, but later learns about it. She's fairly brash, but knows how to hide it when dealing with higher ups and royalty.
Kiara - A Fire Iotunn (giant) descendent, Mercenary, Former Knight and Noble. Kind and still of noble demeanor, she is terrifying during a fight, able to weird fire and great weapons.
Verashi - Royal bodyguard, Faefolken (elf like but more animal), they used to be an assassin before burying that nature and becoming a guard. They're secretive like many, but they like jokes and have a mischievous side to them.
Zara - An Am'bourit (human like) princess and a mage of two kingdoms technically. She was kidnapped after her birth country was invaded and her memory of that time locked before being officially adopted into the other royal family. She is burdened by her duty, but is surprisingly carefree and loves nothing more than a quiet night of conversation with her friends.
Aceline - A Tiyrete (mouse like humanoid) Mercenary archer from the same guild as Kiara and Kayden, orphaned due to being a nobles bastard. She is considered naive by many but is actually fairly wise in her own way, while being the one who usually tries to find the silver lining in everything.
Spooky Novel Characters:
Asgeir - Lost warrior of a forgotten kingdom. Has no memory of their life as a knight, and only knows what their guardians have told them. They must pick up their blessed spear and travel through the fog slowly covering their world in order to find the fallen castle, find the source of the monsters and unnatural decay plaguing the land, all while learning of who they were and why they left.
Crógacht - Guardian Spirit of Bravery that takes the form of a fox
Eagnaíocht - Guardian Spirit of Wisdom that takes the form of a raven
Ivarr - Retained most of his memories when the kingdom collapsed, was Asgeir's partner in combat due to being an archer and able to cover their flank from long range.
D&D Characters: (under the cut cause here's where it gets long as fuck)
Rhialla Badelas - Golden girl, scourge aasimar and Tempest cleric. Her father was a sailor before he disappeared, once that happened, her mother took up work as a seamstress and eventually remarried to business owner. Her father was possessed by a fallen god and branded Rhialla and her twin brother, leading to her twin having a limp and starting Rhiallas life as an adventurer as she searches for answers.
Hymn Greenbottle - Firbolg/Tiefling adopted by halfling parents when they found her abandoned in one of their tavern rooms. She became a rogue to help provide for her large family (she has a number of siblings, many of whom are also adopted), and unknowingly trained to be a (arcane trickster) rogue under her birth fathers' tutelage.
Omen - Scourge Aasimar, very goth and big beefy enby, child of a wealthy merchant who was betrayed by their betrothed once their fiance learned that Omen would be the sole inheritor of their families money. They were led to a trap and left for dead. So coming back to life, Omen is now pissed and out for revenge.
Kairut (pronouned Kai-root) - Shifter who's tribe was displaced when the Drio'dela government wanted complete access to the magical spring which their tribe had settled around. When an illness broke out amongst the now larger town, Kairut stole very expensive and hard to make potions and distributed them amongst their tribe to keep them all safe and healthy. This was with the knowledge that they'd likely be killed once caught since they stole from the only high powered mage in town. instead, they were imprisoned for 500 years and now are freed. They love food a lot.
Phinerin - Scourge aasimar / tiefling, born into a cult of Asmodeus, when their celestial heritage started to show their parents offered them up to the cult leaders to be a sacrifice to Asmodeus, believing that offering celestial blood would bring them great boons and gifts of power. They were rescued by paladins, now serve Pelor, and are constantly on guard against Asmodeus' reaching hands, hiding their infernal heritage in an attempt to do so.
Carasen - Ship captain, scourge aasimar, overall badass who dictates who they work with (including many powerful people). Paladin of the Open Sea who has flirted with even the Archfey of the Deep and who really doesn't like people who try to fuck over their crew.
Barsen - Carasens' twin brother, who is probably the only person on the crew who can actually convince Carasen that maybe fighting isn't the only option. He's so tired please help him.
Chirp - Harpy lookout for Carasens' crew. They were found amongst rocks and rescued by Carasen. Waking up with no memory, they asked to stay in the crew and have not left since. There is a significant stash of stolen things they have hidden about the entire ship.
Dara - Tabaxi/Tiefling monk, is absolutely a tsundere who manages to have fuckboi energy (I don't know how either). Currently is being harassed (befriended) by my actual players in one of the campaigns I'm running. Tends to run solo mission but enjoys the vibrancy of life that comes from being around others.
Amemon - Tiefsmar (aasimar/tiefling) Cleric who is the mentor to one of the aforementioned party members in my campaign. He's so chill and so pretty, he's also terrifying on the battlefield and loves his students so so so much. He's always looking out for them (even when he gives them shit).
Arlo - Autumn Eladrin Bard, also a mentor to one of the aforementioned party members. They're a little shit, love to tease and poke and prod, but is dead serious as a teacher and absolutely believes that those who know the power of words must also be responsible about how they use that power.
Ibru - Eladrin/Aasimar Paladin, rounds out the former party he was in (with Dara, Arlo, and Amemon) as he now also works in Inmoeth Proper alongside Arlo. He's very fun and lighthearted, able to keep most people at ease even when the situation can be anxiety-inducing. He's quick to laugh, even in combat.
Layla Shayle - Tiefling Cleric & High Priestess of Kiphine the Goddess of Death. She's an absolutely terrifying unit on the battlefield, but in general likes to see how "fate" will run in less life-and-death matters. She's the current person semi-sponsoring my party & is very aware that things are moving on the face of Phiatorah. She's a member of the High Sanctum in Inmoeth and part of the "Do Not Fuck With" people in my world thanks to how powerful she is.
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weabooweedwitch · 1 year
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Your mom sounds insufferable and I'm sorry you have to live with her and shoulder the entire financial burden and household management. Whenever I see a post abt your mom on my timeline I'm like 'damn it sounds like she's the mom and her mom is the daughter this is some crazy role reversal shit' and I feel annoyed on your behalf. I'm sorry your mom is too self-absorbed to seek help for whatever prevents her from being a functional parent or at least not a willful burden on her daughter. You're taking care of her as if she's elderly or severely sick when you're only 26 and she doesn't even seem grateful >_> like she doesn't even see problem with it as if she's just entitled to it and doesn't seem to care that by not pulling her own weight she's preventing you from saving up to move out and start your own life. I hope you can eventually get out of there and big props to you for not going completely insane
It's so conflicting for me because I REALIZE my mom has been through a lot and it's only fairly recently within the last few years I actually started "growing up" but so many of these problems are systemic or behavioral and like
Ok. So you could even completely remove all of me and my moms arguments over chores and housework and all that, and she still does still like "oh the garage door is operating a little wonky and I tried to contact the management several times but they never responded so I JUST STOPPED PAYING RENT ON IT FOR MONTHS" LIKE IS SHE ACTUALLY INSANE???? She's lucky they didn't come and physically change the pin code and lock us out and throw out all our stuff! It's SUPPOSED to be protecting her car from the weather but since we moved about 2 years ago "oh the walk is just so far now" so now its a glorified storage locker while her already rusting 20+ year old car she bought secondhand only a few years ago sits out in the snow and salt and rain. Her hubcaps were cracked and she "didn't like how it looked" so she just. Completely removed them and now her tires are slowly getting weather damaged because "oh its better to have no hubcaps than look ghetto" no it doesn't you stupid cunt this is a 20+ year old car? The wiring for the radio and car chargers doesn't even work anymore??? You're lugerally having to replace your car every like 5 years do you not realize how not fucking normal that is???
Putting the rest under a rm because life is bullshit and I kind of ramble for a long time
One day I'm in my room trying to sleep and I hear her on the phone sounding really upset. She had an old debt on a car from like 10 years ago and its been collecting interest this whole time. It's just like. She doesn't even know about all her fucking debts anymore. And she's dragging me down too. Years ago, literal years ago, I gave her permission to put my name on a cable bill and she completely forgot about it and now i get nonstop robocalls because now i have an unpaid debt on my credit report. I'm nearly ready to give them her name and phone number and say she used my name without my consent
She just. I try to temper myself and see things from her perspective, yeah I can be really lazy, yeah a lot of days I DO just come home and sit in my room and I don't come out, but she would still have a LIST of issues? I only found out about this garage shit yesterday and I said "jesus chrisr how many months behind are we now because of you?" "Several" SHE DOESNT EVEN CARE, her mentality is "oh they aren't coming to fix the door or replying to me so I'm not gonna pay until they do" BITCH THEY COULD ADD INTEREST AND LATE FEES, YOU DONT HAVE A JOB RIGHT NOW?
I'm just constantly crying because I don't. Know what to do? I was toxic codependent with her for so many years because of trauma and she tries to shelter and protect me because horrible child abusive dad etc etc etc, but now I'm an adult and she's still doing a lot of the same issues I've ALWAYS seen? Like I was literally an elementary schooler having adult conversations with her mother my grandma for Years asking "what is wrong with mom"
Like. It's having an extremely negative affect on me that basically my biggest source of support is dismissive and talks over me but also expects me to constantly dish out empathy for her. I'm literally becoming like one of those bratty teenager characters who is mean to their parent 24/7 because, it's just like. Every time I turn around she's making mistakes? She took too many Naproxen and almost made herself extremely sick and then t9ld me I needed medication and was acting hysterical even after a LISCENSED TOXICOLOGIST told her she was lucky Zhe wasn't in excruciating pain and vomiting. She'll burn food because she'll assume how it's cooked because shebhas like a legit8mate mental disorder with reading instructions, like my whole entire life she would literally be assembling furniture without even reading the instructions
She just lives in her own little world "where it's ok if I make a mistake but if anyone else does it's because they're a diversity hire, if im late on payments people should work with me and let me make payment arrangements even if it's literally against their policy and they're cunts if they don't it's not my fault for not paying" like I literally told her to her face "is it some sort of defense mechanism that you literally CANT admit when you're wrong?"
I'm still. I'm still so fucking upset over the pills. She took a ton of pills and kept taking them without really even keeping track of how many she was taking "because I wanted the pain to stop" and even then that pain is because she kept putting off going to the dentist and she literally WORKS IN THE MEDICAL FIELD, SHE SHOULD KNOW HOW THIS SHIT WORKS. And then she yells at me "YOUVE NEVER BEEN IN EXCRUCIATING PAIN BEFORE" and its like YES I LITERALLY HAVE, I HAD TO HAVE SURGERY FOR IT, TWICE
It just makes me feel so small. It makes me feel so silenced. I'll try to talk to her about these issues and if I'm not ext4a special sweet and kissing her ass "you're being a bitch, you can't speak to me like that" and she refuses to actually finish the conversation so we can Work Things Out so we have to have the SAME CONVERSATIONS over and over and over and nothing changes. I know I'm one to talk but she literally has some sort of personality disorder and then she passed so much unhealthy shit on to me????
She's only 58 but slowly declining in health and I worry constantly when this "im too old/tired/I have a headache, you do it" bullshit will escalate and she stops working. Because she doesn't have any savings and I have SO much anger towards her I don't trust myself to be a caregiver for her.
I'm medicating the stress with weed to the point I'm pretty sure it's actually making me hyper aggressive and I'm genuinely ready to go back to being an alcoholic sometimes. I just want to be alone in the dark and not talk to anyone or hear anyone. It's just at the point where I'm constantly mean to her because it's like "oh you made this really small mistake like you forgot something at home and now we have to circle back? I WOULD be ok with that if you didn't make mistakes literally every single day to the point I call you subhuman"
I'm constantly experiencing really harsh stomach issues daily and I'm amazed I'm nkr prematurely graying. Pretty sure my hairline is receding? And I try to talk to her about that because she failed cosmetology school twice and I won't even finish my sentence before she fuckint interrupts me
And I'll say "why is there legitimately never one single day where you aren't interrupting me, like they literally teach us in DBT therapy that you need to be mindful and liaten to someone speaking instead of interrupting with your reply" and she'll just say "but YOU do it all the time"
Like can you understand how like horrifically horrifically violent I want to be when I literally cannot bring up even one issue without her DEFLECTING, IMMEDIATELY???? "Hey mom I think my hairline is receding and I still vividly remember how you would repeatedly tell me to wear my ponytail tighter and higher up because 'wearing it low is like a man' and I think that was really unnecessary" "what, that was a long time ago, you blame me for everything--" "can you at least acknowledge that was a thing you actually said and did and that it upset me" "you're always trying to blame me for--" "can you literally just say ok I'm sorry that happened that would literally be the end of the conversation" "you're always trying to dig up old drama, this is just like when YOU--"
I'll be at work and I'll be too stressed to even focus because sometimes I don't even trust her in our own fucking home. She'll text me "hey is this reptile thermometer supposed to read these numbers" and this will be a conversation we've already had several times in the past and she will turn off the AC or turn the heat up or down amd then go to bed without even waiting for me to reply like she has literally almost given my reptiles heat stroke by turning off the AC and just opening windows
Like you can literally pull up an academic article about shaving doesn't make your hair grow back thicker and this moronic fucking loser will legitimately clap back with "well I had a friend who was a dermatologist and she said--" like. It's Dana's Reality or you're wrong. Only she is right and deserves welfare and handouts and sympathy and exceptions but everyone else is just too lazy or not trying hard enough or her favorite accusation, that I deliberately sabotage myself because I want to wallow in sadness
It's just. It's getting to the point I may have to run away for HER safety instead of my own because when you try to talk and talk and talk and eventually what little talking you do is all nasty words, eventually I just think "God, will she listen if I fucking hit her, is that what it'll take, will that wake her up" but she would just happily throw me in jail just like when she got up in my sisters face when she was 17 and my sister just slapped her one time and my mom had her arrested "as a punishment" and was mad when she paid bail and was released the following day
I just. I'm so lost. I think the only real answer is to leave but I'm not self sufficient enough and I'm definitely not healthy for such a huge dramatic change. Meanwhile my job is getting harder because people keep quitting and I just feel so insanely overwhelmed. It just literally feels like there's no point in me being alive anymore. I keep getting set back or too tired to move forward. Like I had an argument with my mom before my shift instantly went "dude what if you just have this one final shift before you're off the next few days and then just KILL YOURSELF before you have to go back to work" and those thoughts just, occur casually at this point. Mild suicidal ideation?
I dunno. I constantly ask myself if it's even ethical for me to even talk about my own feelings because it could be argued that I'm just stressing and traumatizing people. Like I constantly ask myself, "if I ever did anything to hurt myself, should I post something so people at least know where I went or would that be horrible and manipulative and traumatic and awful of me to do" like. I'm Definitely Normal having Defnitely Normal Thoughts.
I hate even saying all of this but I just. I dunno. I'm a coward. I'm literally so fucked up that sometimes when I laugh the shaking of my body like does something to my brain and i instantly transition into sobbing. I'm just another wage slave leaving a record of my woe behind idk. At least there are SOME people in this world who recognize my pain
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russett-pots · 2 years
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ok but for real if you can tell that minju isn’t ready but she just wants you to breed her cos she knows you like it, would you choose to cum somewhere on her instead even though you really would love to breed her
Okay if i see that Minju doesnt actually want to do breeding then ill stop and talk to her. if she doesn't want to then so be it. I want to make sure that we are on the same page when it comes to sex. i don't want to do something she isn't comfortable with. especially something with "breeding" cause it does have consequences.
Personally ill be ready to be a parent when I'm ready. i wont try until I know I have the responsibility to carry the burden of raising a child. A mother has a bigger role to play. carrying the child for nine months then being by its side 24/7 for years. I cant imagine what would life be like. But IMO and I know many people don't share the same. I do want to have children and I think it will all be worth it.
Look i just write sex on the internet. i dont know how much would you take this as advice. I just would want you to know. If Im presented with the dilemma of wanting to do something but i know it is wrong. sometimes it really is the better idea to pull out and make sure that the boundaries are set and know what the other party is comfortable with.
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girl4pay · 1 year
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the bit that gets me really frustrated about the "its hot on the bottom" tiktok audio that shows a type of thinking is the lack of anything past that? literally just add "grab it on the sides" or "go grab oven mitts/a tea towel" if the kid seems a lil confused or like instinctively goes to grab the bottom coz the adult is holding the sides? or prompting "its hot on the bottom so what should we do?" to slow things down and let the kid work through it. if yelling the same phrase at the kid doesnt work, maybe thats not on the kid, maybe thats on the adult for not offering anything else up? not to mention in a lot of the vids i've seen the adults are holding the pot at the top on the sides and the kid clearly goes to grab the pot on the sides under their adult's hands? like i know a lot of the vids are staged or whatever but even in the staged vids the kid often is still doing the right thing and their adult hasnt even paid attention for the making the video. its so frustrating so many people very clearly dont see kids as intelligent little humans still trying to figure things out thats usually just need a little bit of help, grace, and extra time for their literally still developing brains to work things
no exactly like if i was talking to like my boss or something and they told me something and i didn’t understand and they just screamed at me the same thing they said before i would be like okay why don’t you take a moment and try that again bcus wtf. obviously not trying to crit latto in the original video she’s clearly w her friends having fun and it’s not that deep my point is that in the context of parenting if you go into every interaction w a child like they’re a burden they don’t listen it’s not worth trying to communicate bcus they just won’t get it they absolutely feel that and understand that that’s what you think even if you never verbalize it even if you are constantly affirming them the opposite your attitude WILL be evident and nothing will get done bcus you’ll both be sitting there stressed and resentful. and thats the funny thing to me like the strategies you proposed are really good but you literally don’t even need to have those ready and think abt them beforehand or even need to use those necessarily to avoid the problem it just literally takes not treating the kid like they’re the problem bcus you’re right like in the staged scenario these people are presenting the parent is actually the problem half the time so you don’t even need like gentle parenting strategies or whatever point these people are trying to make it literally just takes a little bit of self awareness and not entering the situation w hostility
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a230ventblog · 26 days
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things i need to say before i feel like i can function and speak to that Person again
note that my own parents are actually fine im just hyperfixating on that Person’s childhood trauma aight. and i need a place to put the weird feelings i have absorbed that i know would hurt them to know they are the reason i feel this way and that just in general aren’t really,, valid isn’t the right word but like. the feelibgs i have that i know not to act on
i understand it pretty well rationally and i understand that like. a world where we didnt have family or something similar to raise children in would be dystopian but emotionally it doesnt fuckin compute. you are born already like. fucking indebted to a few people and while it’s absolutely possible to estrange yourself in most cases you’re going to have some tie to them forever? it’s much harder to cut off. and if you estrange yourself there are going to be people who think you owe a debt to them.
when i talk to that Person the child characters they create usually get the burden of unconditional love towards their parents placed on them while the parents (which i am always the one writing) just. don’t. and the existence of unconditional love bothers me too. rationally i know it’s good for development but it’s also like the ultimate participation trophy? i guess i’ve been treated so well i can’t enjoy it anymore
the seemingly unbreakable bond between parent and child is the one thing that i can make myself cry about without any outside intervention? it’s the ultimate unfairness, on both ends if the parent didn’t want the child either. i want to burn down montréal and maybe i’ll get that Person’s father too, though they told me through the character who they gave most of their trauma to that they’d still be sad if he died. fuck that i’m cauterizing this tie for my own comfort. maybe you’d be so upset by what i did that you’ll leave me too and take out the bits of yourself you left in me and i can move onto the next person’s pain. you won’t fuck yourself because you’re ace, and neither should have your parents, and we could’ve avoided this whole thing in the first place. i have your character’s name cut into my side where they used to cut themself with broken glass (because of their father, mind you) because if we ever meet in real life i want you to look at yourself and realize this stupid fucking fourteen year old has taken it upon herself to continue the cycle you got out of. i hope you’re proud of yourself. genuinely. i won’t feel bad if you’re proud of yourself. i don’t want you to hurt at all again, how many fanfiction writers can say they really left a physical mark on the reader? maybe all i am on this transformation is your next project. i love you to the pieces that i wish you would put all of yourself into breaking me into, instead of staying the hammer when i finally tell you to stop talking about this.
okay that should be enough to speak to them normally again.
i’m goinf to go destroy a william wanker book.
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trinrose3 · 2 years
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Eric! TW for stuff like parentification, abelism and transphobia
1. How does your character think of their father? What do they hate and love about him? What influence - literal or imagined - did the father have?
2. Their mother? How do they think of her? What do they hate? Love? What influence - literal or imagined - did the mother have?
He resents his parents for a lot of things. They were very strict and conservative growing, very much a woman’s place is in the home type of people, to the point where they would force Eric to never cut his hair. They were also a bit abelist, they didn’t like that Eric was Albino and would call him “devil child” force him to dye his hair black and wear colored contacts to hide it. Liam was a “surprise baby” and while at first he was treated as god sent but when he had certain “developmental delays” they began treating him more like a burden and as if he was a punishment on them, So Eric began taking on more of a parental role for his brother. He absolutely despises them.
3. Brothers, sisters? Who do they like? Why? What do they despise about their siblings?
Liam! He loves him as a son!
4. What type of discipline was your character subjected to at home? Strict? Lenient?
His parents were VERY strict, like yikes.
5. Were they overprotected as a child? Sheltered?
I would say sheltered, mostly from things he shouldnt have had, think very much “abstinence education” and “cant read or watch certain things cause theyre the devil” bs
6. Did they feel rejection or affection as a child?
Rejection :(
7. What was the economic status of their family?
Well off
8. How does your character feel about religion?
Catholicism (derogatory)
10. Is your character street-smart, book-smart, intelligent, intellectual, slow-witted?
He’s very street smart and had QUITE the rebellious phase. Technically he kidnapped Liam when he ran away but his parents didnt care so they let him so yeah...
11. How do they see themselves: as smart, as intelligent, uneducated?
He’s smart and he knows it!
13. Did they like school? Teachers? Schoolmates?
School was a bit of a safe-haven for him, his teachers were a lot more chill then his parents and did the best they could to help him. It was also where he met Theo and August!
14. Were they involved at school? Sports? Clubs? Debate? Were they unconnected?
He did as much as he could to get out of the house but quit when He took more of a role in Liam’s life
15. Did they graduate? High-School? College? Do they have a PHD? A GED?
High School!
16. What does your character do for a living? How do they see their profession? What do they like about it? Dislike?
I keep switching from independent small art business to writer lol. He loves his profession, it allows him to stay at home while making an income and have a creative outlet!
17. Did they travel? Where? Why? When?
No he hates outside lol
19. What were your character’s deepest disillusions? In life? What are they now?
I think when he was younger he thought if he played the “good little girl” enough that his parents would actually care but eventually realized that would never be the case.
21. What are your character’s manners like? What is their type of hero? Whom do they hate?
He’s pretty laid back doesnt really care much for bs manners unless hes trying to impress people or is a guest in others homes
22. Who are their friends? Lovers? ‘Type’ or ‘ideal’ partner?
Theo and August! He’s also friends with a lot of punks/goth people he met in HS that helped him figure himself out and gave him a place to stay if he needed it! He doesnt talk to many of them nowadays but he’s stayed close with a few!
23. What do they want from a partner? What do they think and feel of sex?
Ill leave that up to you lol
24. What social groups and activities does your character attend? What role do they like to play? What role do they actually play, usually?
Gamer(lol), He can be a bit of a worry wart so he tries to take the lead if he doesnt have 100% confidence in the current person in charge or else he’s STRESSED. He does a lot of volunteering for the activities his kids are in!
25. What are their hobbies and interests?
Goth and Punk! He also likes animals skulls! And..some other stuff! (my brains blank rn ngl)
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animeomegas · 3 years
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I have an hc for lucifer from om! I think that he would have a lot of mixed feelings as his due date grew nearer and would need a lot of reassurance. I'm not sure how far you are into OM but //spoiler just in case// Satan was technically born/created from lucifer's wrath and manifested as he tore off all his angel wings.
And with their more complicated relationship, I personally think that lucifer has a lot of worries about becoming a parent, albeit he's going to act fine at first. He obviously loves the pup and can't wait to meet them, but he is worried that the relationship might turn out the same way as it did with Satan. Will definitely need to be comforted by his alpha, even if he doesnt act like he needs it. During the delivery period, i don't think lucifer would have a hard time dealing with the pain, considering he might have gone through worse, but would definitely want to hold his alpha's hand all throughout, and maybe receive a chaste kiss or two on his head
Hmm, yes, I've mentioned this offhand before and I think you're absolutely right.
The actual labour part is the easy part for Lucifer. He has one hell (ha) of a pain tolerance, and demons have a more simple labour process anyway. But yes, the little chaste kisses on his head help soothe the more painful parts.
The hardest part for Lucifer is, just as you say, the fear that he won't be a good parent. Satan is the closest he has to a child, and Satan hates him. What does that say about his ability to parent?
And that's not even mentioning the awful job he did as a big brother. He's still convinced that he's the reason his sister is dead. His brothers hate him. He drove his family apart when his most important job was to keep them together. `
And at first, he pushes the feelings down, but as his due date creeps closer and closer, you can tell that something is troubling him. It's not immediately obvious what it is, but after a fight with Satan after dinner, the look on Lucifer's face gives away what's been stressing him out.
So, you take him back to his room and lock the door behind you so that you won't be disturbed.
A little foot massage gets him to relax, and some wine help loosen his tongue (demons can drink during pregnancy, no worries.) And finally, you can get Lucifer to tell you what he's been thinking.
...
"I don't know if I can be the father this pup deserves," Lucifer admits heavily, looking down at his lap.
You're saddened by his insecurities, but you're also so proud that he was able to let go of his pride enough to share with burden with you.
"What I see," you start, putting a hand on Lucifer's leg. "Is a demon who has made a few mistakes, but who loves his family, and who works as hard as he can to provide for them all and keep them safe.
"So, I know you will love our pup more than anything else, just as you should. And when you do make mistakes? I will be there to help you, just as you will be there to help me."
Lucifer let out a breath of air at your words.
"I have some work to do," he says, changing the topic away from his vulnerabilities. You understand how hard that must have been for him to share and so you let him change the subject with no conflict. "You are welcome to join me in my office, if you wish."
His tone betrays he own wishes for you to join him.
"Of course, my love, let me grab a few blankets first, it's been cold these past few nights."
Lucifer shoots you a small smile and you are momentarily astounded by how different he is compared to when you met him.
You couldn't be more proud.
(Writing Lucifer is so damn hard haaa)
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thekingofwinterblog · 3 years
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Do You Even Want To Be a Hero?
The Joker once famously said that all it takes to create a villain, a madman out of anyone, is “One bad day”.
On the surface, the league of villains seems to be an argument in favor for that statement.
For Shigaraki, it was the traumatic events that happened the night he killed his family.
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for Toga, it was the day she snapped and attacked one of her fellow students for his blood.
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and for Touya, it was the day he lit himself ablaze.
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However, what the series goes out of its way to do, is to deconstruct the narrative that all it took was one bad day.
in Shigaraki’s case, while the events that killed his sister, his mother, his dog, and his grandparents were just an unavoidable accident, the way his father died was not.
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shigaraki murdered his old man in a rage, lashing out against his abuser who had just hit him for the last time. the final part of an entierly avoidable drama of parental abuse.
even after the event, Shigaraki might not have turned into such a monster later in life, if a single person had reached out to try and help him in the aftermath of it all.
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Toga’s case is a bit different, as what happened with her, was that she was was raised by her parents to hide away any bit of her natural bloodlust in order to fit into society, which predictably ended when her natural bloodlust reached a boiling point, and afterwards.... there was no way back.
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Then, in Touya’s case, while the event that finally crystalized Dabi into a new person only took an afternoon, the actual process of him going completely nuts was the result of years, and years of emotional abuse and the utter refusal of his parents to actually get him mental help. leading to his one and only emotional support being his little brother, who was way too young to either understand Touya or actually help him.
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in every case, there was a point where each of these three people could have turned out differently. 
In Shigaraki’s case, had anyone reached out a hand when he needed it, or if his dad hadnt been such a dick, and his family hadnt just stood by and let it happen, maybe things would have turned out differently.
in Toga’s case, when she first came home with that dead bird and her fascination with blood becoming obvious, her parents could probably have arranged some form of healthy outlet for their daughter’s lust for blood. instead they forced her to bury that bloodlust to fit in to society, leaving her with no way to actually deal with any of it, until one day she snapped.
in Touya’s case, his childhood was one, long, burning of abandonment issues, parental issues, and being raised to become something, until suddenly he wasnt good enough anymore, at which point his father literarily bred forth a third and fourth child to replace him.
it is easy to say that had Endeavor not been such a piece of shit dad, Touya might have turned out differently. this is absolutely true. but for this article, i wanted to explore the final moment of Touya Todoroki, the final real chance there was for someone to try and get him down a better path.
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Touya did not have a good set of parents. while Endeavor was far and away the worse of the two, his wife also suffered from her own issues, in particularly a lack of selfawareness, and an inability to put her foot down, as we’ll explore here. 
Upon finding her son about to go out, Rei immediatly manages to piece out that he’s going out to train, but rather than doing the responsible thing, and forcing him to stay home if she doesnt want him to train, she instead tries cajoling with him instead, trying to make him abandon his training with words, when a strong, firm hand was what was required for the situation.
the sad thing is though, that she ALMOST suceeds.
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Rei genuinly asks her son the one, singular question that actually has to be asked for him to consider it. the one singular line that manages to pierce through his obsession with living up the ideal successor his father burdened him with at a young age. 
its pretty clear that this isnt a question Touya has ever asked himself. and once he’s faced with it, he immediatly freezes on the spot.
rei asks him point blank if he actually WANTS this life his father has chose for him. its a powerfull moment, and frankly, if she had just handled this a bit better, Touya might have abandoned the path of a pro hero. instead, after having actually managed to pierce Touya’s shell, she immediatly ruins it.
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note that what rei says here, isnt about him, not really. its about rei, her perspective on it all.
“As your mother... It looks to me like youre suffocating because of who your father is, and youre suffering for it.”
nothing of this is untrue. but its NOT what Touya needs to hear after her asking him if this seriously is something he actually wants. 
what Touya needed to hear in this moment, was that his mother would have his back no matter what he choses to do with his life. instead, he got a very generic speech that doesnt really hit anywhere close to the matter as her previous line is. 
She focuses on how SHE feels about it all, when the entire reason the actual question hit so hard was that for once in his life, somone asked him what HE actually wanted.
and not only that, but she follows that up with something much, much worse. by being incredibly hypocritical.
Rei asks her son to look beyond his father, that there are plenty of other roads to take, and if he just tries, she’s sure he’ll find the path that is “Right” for him. note, she isnt saying here that if Touya actually decides that yeah, he wants to be a pro, even if he does decides not to try and become the number one, she’ll support him. she’s telling him that he has other options, and to abandon the path his father once upon a time put him on. that is the only “right” choice.
coming Rei however, that sentiment is incredibly hypocritical. which her son calls her out on immediatly.
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Rei asks her son to NOT follow the path his parents set for her.... when she did the exact same thing she just told him NOT to do.
Now, i want to make this perfectly clear that im NOT blaming Rei for any of the abuse endeavor put her, or their children thorugh. that is ALL on him. however, that does not make rei a saintly parent. not to shoto, not to her second and third child, and most certainly not to her oldest Touya.
though he phraces this in a really ugly way, and he does that because he knows it will hurt, touya isnt wrong. 
he spitefully calls his mother out on her having “No Choice” in wheter or not to go along with her parents selling her off as a bride for money, because that is what her parents wanted.
The fact of the matter however, is that Rei DID have a choice. that choice might very well have been between this marriage and either becoming destitute, remaining poor but still have a roof over their head, or being disinherited for refusing.
some would say that it wasnt a choice at all, and that she HAD to do this. but the fact remains, that rei COULD have refused. it wouldnt have been an easy choice, and one way or another, it WOULD have consequenses. but it was a choice nonetheless.
instead, she went along with what her parents wanted out of her. She went along with the sale, and she went along with it, knowing fully well that her new husband didnt marry her for love, for looks, for appearances sake, but exclusively for her genetics.
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Endeavor wanted her quirk, and that, and NO OTHER reasons, is why Touya was born. 
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Again, Touya words this in a really ugly way, but he is not wrong in this moment. Rei DOES share some blame for putting Touya on this path, because she went into the marriage with her husband knowing fully well that this was what endeavor wanted an heir for. to surpass him. the fact that she, unintentionally or othervise, tries to give advice withouth acknowledging that fact, and that she is trying to tell him to essentially “Do the opposite of what i did” withouth a shred of selfawareness of how hypocritial that sounds, is what really gets touya so mad in this scene.
that is the great tragedy and beauty of this scene. because Rei almost does get her son to begin questioning why he even wanted the stupid number one spot anyway... Then, not really understanding that she’s at an extremely critical point, she follows the moment up by completely ruining it, and instead making her son double down on the path, in part just to spite her hypocricy.
this was her final, last chance as Touya’s mother to prevent the creation of the monster he would become, and she screwed it up. not due to not caring, but an inability to actually understand her son’s perspective, and acknowledging her own shortcomings.
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However, there is another layer to what happened in this scene, which is this earlier moment, which, if the order of the flashbacks is to be believed, happened before this talk with touya.
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the thing is, that while the words are different, this is basically the same thing she said to her youngest son, to encourage him to become a hero on his own terms, a moment that while he later buried it, really was critical to Shoto’s decision to become a hero of his own choice.
she is essentially trying the same thing she did with her 5 year old son, just in a the opposite direction, and im honestly not sure if this is intentional similarilty regarding the arguments on her part, or just her being the same person she was in both instances.
the difference, is that touya was 12, and shoto was 5. the much older boy was able to look beyond the pretty words, and judge the person behind them in an critical manner, while the 5 year old ate the words right up, because to him, his mother was the greatest person in the world.
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mythiccheroacademia · 3 years
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—single!parent headcanons
part one
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mtha thots: the manga makes me really sad and i think children deserve a childhood so i made this to cope
all characters are 18+
Warnings: it’s long but, other than that, none <3
© 2021 all writing content belongs to mythiccheroacademia. do not repost or modify
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Shouto Todoroki: 
truth be told, shouto never wanted children 
he knew how important someone’s childhood meant
shouto honestly couldn’t trust himself not to mess it up :(
so imagine his surprise when he came to fall in love with this little boy, no older than six, he found snooping around a dumpster 
it’s actually kind of funny how they came to be bc shouto was 100% put off by the kid
when they made eye contact, they stared at each other like 
shouto:🧍🏻
the boy: 👁👄👁
shouto again:🧍🏻
before the brat blew him a raspberry and tried to run off 
ofc he caught up to him and, despite the boy’s tantrum, the two went straight to the police
and for some reason, todoroki ended up with him in his condo
the first couple of weeks were terrible 
it seemed like Yuuma hated his guts 
shouto let him have his space and only really pestered him when it was time to do the essentials
at midoriya’s suggestion, he’d try and talk to him about his day or how his therapy sessions went, but it was no use 
the boy would tell him not to worry about it and scurry off 
this happened for some time and honestly, todoroki was at his wit’s end 
until one day, shouto realized that it wasn’t that the child hated him, he just didn’t want to be a burden him
then everything clicked 
mustering up the courage, todoroki one day asked Yuu if he’d like to help him make dinner and the way the kid’s eyes brightened up at the chance to be useful made him a bit sad
but he pushed it away in favor for how the boy blossomed as he showed shouto the right way to stir meat stew and make onion rings
at the end, the red n white hero gave him an honest smile and thanked him for his help
Yuuma looked at him for a long time before bursting into tears 
it was the first time shouto had seen him cry in weeks 
it was also the first time they hugged
from then on, it was almost magical how well they clicked 
the boy was exitable and extroverted, todoroki was quiet and reserved 
they were both stubborn to a fault sometimes and that didn’t bode over well during the few disagreements they had but they brought the best out in each other 
shouto made the kid feel safe and secure, always reminding him that anything he did for him was never burdensome 
Yuuma gave the hero a confidence boost and a chance at another type of love he never knew he wanted 
the first time his son called him dad was when todoroki made the adoption official 
Yuuma shyly asked if it was okay that he called him his father and shouto will not admit to the tears he desperately tried to hide from a teasing midoriya and his siblings (ofc he had them there)
no one knows this but todoroki literally had separation anxiety the first couple of years
his child was just fine being with the babysitter but shouto would spend his work days/nights feeling very tense being away from him 
called/texted the kid all the time, left him encouraging sticky notes in his lunch box, and would hug him for at least 3 min before leaving the house
he’s such a mother hen bye
he’s lucky yuu adores him bc he was lowkey doing a lot LMAO
they have movie nights together and geek over manga like nerds 
yuuma cosplayed as roy mustang once and todoroki has an album of pics from that day alone 
todoroki’s the type to randomly bring his son fruit just because 
yuuma regularly slept in shouto’s bed/futon until around 7th grade
as his son got older, and more popular (w the ladies AND gents hehe) at school, todoroki got a little jealous bc yuuma wanted to spend more time with his friends
he was legit hurt the first time yuu canceled on movie night to go to a sleepover 🥺
todoroki moped over it until midoriya told him to knock it off 💀
it’s a shameful quality of his, but shouto will always lie to get his kid out of the stupid shit he gets himself into only bc yuu plays really funny pranks 
has to keep himself from laughing in front of the principle 
they’re both lowkey mischevious asf 
he’ll scold him later tho so it’s okay, he’s responsible™️
shouto always calls yuu “son”
if he calls him by his full name, he’s either sad or annoyed w him
during family gatherings, yuuma is the star of the show bc of his superb cooking skills
he and fuyumi get along great
and surprisingly enough, bakugo adores the kid even though the same can’t be said for todoroki himself 
yuuma wants to open a restaurant and he’s a little afraid of his father’s reaction
little does he know, shouto is ready to hand over his black card at moment’s notice purrr✨
he’s a really supportive father and he has his hiccups, but todo tries his very best and his son makes him impossibly proud every day 
oh and did i mention they wear matching sweaters?
they’re that kind of family
it’s so cute i could die 
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Midoriya Izuku: 
midoriya was born and bred to be a father 
change my mind 
i mean look at that face 
that’s daddy material to me 😌
anyways
midoriya has two girls that are about a year apart
due to the immense pressure of being with the #1 hero and an unwillingness to be a mother, his then girlfriend at the time suddenly left him, signing over all maternal rights to the hero 
it just crushed izuku 
he spent weeks trying to look for her and to make it work 
he wanted his girls to have a two-parent household, but she went radio silent 
it was a difficult adjustment 
but deku is the most ambitious and resiliant person on the planet so he was devoted to giving them the best lif he could 
and ofc he had the support of all his friends and his mother 
but there were a lot of ups and downs
mostly downs in the first year being a single parent
at the time, his youngest wasn’t even one whiles eldest was almost two 
and izuku worked a lot 
being #1 meant he was the country’s go-to whenever something happened and he missed a lot of stuff he’d never get to redo 
like his youngest, Maia’s, first word which was “bunny”
and the first time his oldest, Naomi, went to the bathroom by herself 
and izuku will never forget the day he came to pick his kids up after being on a week long international mission
when he reached out for them, they looked at him as if they didn’t know who he was 
izuku spent the entire night crying in inko’s arms 
the next morning, he only had to deliver some paperwork, but everyone noticed the usually chipper hero’s sour mood and stayed clear from his path
even bakugo and todoroki felt chills when izuku passed by 
it was tough, but deku was determined 
he started taking up night shifts so he could be there for his girls during the day
he’d pick them up from inko’s right after work and spend the day playing with them 
izuku stayed up on a dangerous amount of caffeine and will power
there were days he literally passed out from exhaustion, but it was worth it to see them through their milestones 
when Naomi went to kindergarten, he couldn’t stop buzzing around w excitement
he just adored listening her ramble on about what she learned and that persisted on even as she grew
like, she’s a genius
she was his doppleganger in intellect and resilience
she’s def a daddy’s girl and although she’s not as empathetic as her father, they’re very close 
naomi is an excellent older sister and stepped up early when izuku couldn’t always be there 
maia is izuku’s match in personality
she’s very sweet, a bit more extroverted, and compassionate
but pls don’t get it twisted, that girl gives the fam a run for their money 
she’s got izuku’s righteousness but heightened 100x and with a lot more anger
the girl’s got quite the mean mug and she got hands highkey
they both do tbh (i mean, izuku is their dad...)
the amount of fights naomi’s had to back her up in is ridiculous 😭
they’re two peas in a pod tho so if you mess w one sister, you mess w both ‼️
regardless of all that, izuku wouldn’t change them for anything 
he’s the type to obnoxiously kiss them on their cheeks before school
they’ll take turns doing each other’s hair
izuku gets pigtails that he proudly wears to work 
deku has a private instagram that is so filled with those two, sometimes ppl forget it’s his
he def has a “girl dad” t-shirt
he calls them his angels 🥺
i see him getting a tattoo of their names on his arm or something
they’re all cry babies so when they get into arguments, it doesnt last long
both girls went to UA to be heroes and izuku’s heart just soars with pride every day 
he also cried an obnoxious amount and for some odd reason, kept popping up for “demonstrative purposes”
they had to have a family talk so they could tell him to stop babying them in the kindest way possible 
and by that i mean, naomi said it bluntly and maia did damage control lmao
overall, izuku loves those girls more than life and they love him just the same 
raising them was a rollercoaster, but he’d do it all over again in a heartbeat
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Sero Hanta:
another one that just looks like he’d be an amazing father
please have my children sir
sero is one of the few that was actually looking to adopt a kid
he came from a large family and desired connection with a family of his own
he tried a for a while, but it never seemed to happen
until he came about a small girl he met on the off chance of passing by her hospital room when he was getting a quick check up
she was one of the children they saved on a mission and when he saw her curled up on the hospital bed that seemed to swallow her whole, his feet moved on their own
the girl, Keiko, was left injured and an orphan, yet despite her circumstances, she was just a joy to be around 
sero spent the rest of visiting time with her and just knew she was it for him
she was very sick so he’d spend his breaks visiting her at the hospital 
keiko was a huge cellophane fan and it just melted his heart 🥺
she’d have a huge smile on her face, unabashedly showing off her missing front tooth, every time he walked in
they’d spend hours just drawing or talking about their day
when sero shyly brought up the possibility of adopting her, keiko could barely contain herself 
she drew him one of her best pieces as a thank you and sero still has it hanging on his mirror to this day ❤️
keiko’s actually quite the artist so there’s many more up there to keep it company 
the adjustment period went smoother than anticipated
the girl had her moments and hanta was getting used to being a 24/7 parent, but it was like they quickly acted as if they had been blood related their entire lives
they are ride or dies for each other LMAO
they don’t argue
like at all
the worst they ever got was when keiko rushed to help her father on the job when she happened to see him get hurt 
sero yelled at her in panic 
it was so startling that they avoided each other for the time being
but a few hours later, sero went and apologized 
and that was that
keiko had frequent nightmares and sero would sacrfice copious hours of sleep so that he could turn on the projecter and give her a run down about every star in the “sky” before she falls asleep 
he actually bought and named a star after her for her first bday with him
sero pats her head a lot and she hates it
he calls her squirt, sport, kid, and princess if they’re having a soft moment
they have an unholy amount of matching onsies 
the kid was already getting to the stage where she wanted to be independent, but she would let her father pick out her outfits sometimes
only bc he put a lot of effort into doing it 
aka, she caught him crying over cute pintrest pics bc he’s a simp
okay but sero really, isn’t much of a crier, but he’s sentimental asf
every milestone is recorded
every school night, he’s there (she was a good kid, so he all but gloats w pride after every visit w the teachers)
any drawing she makes, he has 
he’ll do anything to be there for his daughter so it really crushed him when he couldn’t go to her high school’s father daughter dance 
sero had a mission he couldnt get out of and he was sorely pissed off about it 
keiko assured her father that it was okay and that it was corny anyways
but he could hear the disappointment in her voice 
he made kirishima go with her anyways bc he didnt want her to miss out on the experience 
and you bet your ass that when she came back home, sero was there in a tux with the living room set up to make it up to her 
it is just as cheesy as you think it is, but they’re cute so who cares 
also the way they both can dance is crazyyyyyy
rhythm isn’t even the word
if there was a competition for best father-daughter dance duo, they would win every time! and i stand by that!
they have at least one viral tiktok dance they did together
sero’s not the emotional type, but the first time keiko had a boyfriend he def made a threat or two to him 
it was actually so scary 
anyways
they’re honestly the cutest duo and everyone on the block agrees
 i love it ❤️
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antiloreolympus · 3 years
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4 Anti LO Asks
1. even if hermes is based off a (potentially former) partner, RS can't cut him out entirely anyway, just like she eventually has to deal with demeter no matter how little she uses her. she seems more burdened by the mythology than not, tbh.
2. The way RS represents the 3 kigs is just.... Kinda weird for me honestly:
LO! Zeus is just a joke, he doesn't respect his wife, is a bad father, doesn't respect his brothers and acts like a petulant child. Dude literally manipulated and send he's traumatized older brother to the underworld with their abusive father just because he was jelaous of him, sleep with his sons girlfriend (i don't care if they're not exclusive), gets angry because no one respects him but does absulutely nothing to win respect and wants to have a said in literally every act of wrath, thing that is imposible because acts if wrath are moslty a thing that happends in the moment. Zeus being both a cheater and a bad dad is myth acurate and i liked how RS didn't make him a saint, but this Zeus is just way worse than Myth! Zeus, Myth! Zeus at least cared for his brothers (and Hestia), helped Psyche get with Eros and punished people who deserved it sometimes (like Tantalus and Licaon). Even tough i think that LO! Persephone deserves a punishment, i don't think is nessesary to make her an "example" like Prometeus. This dude is just an idiot and the only good thing about him is his hair and desing, i like how he looks like the younger brother because he IS the younger brother.
LO! Poseidon have to be the most chill version of Poseidon that i've seen, wasn't that dude supposed to have a bad temper? Meybe is because we haven't seen him angry yet but Myth! Poseidon was a pretty hot-headed god, he could make the earth shake with his anger, the whole reason why Zeus wanted to get him a wife was because he tough that would calm him down, and not even Amphitrite could calm him down sometimes. Is  just me or Poseidon seems to be the most decent king in LO? He is parently in a consensual open relationship with Amphitrite, is a chill dude who takes care of his son, likes to party and is adorable in general. Is just so weird, Myth! Poseidon is just as bad as Zeus but LO!Poseidon is by far the most decent brother.
And we all know what is wrong with LO! Hades, but i don't get why RS couldn't make him a strict yet kind ruler like in the myths. Myth! Hades was actually pretty kind sometimes, he let Orpheus try to get Eurydice back, in one of the versions of the myth he was the one who let Sisyphus go back to life, let Heracles borrow his dog, let one of Hera's daughter (Angelos) live in the underworld, etc. And the only people he actually hurt was two dudes that tried to kidnap Persephone, the thing with Asclepius was mostly Zeuse's fault. Myth! Hades did bad things like kidnaping Persephone and cheating on her (even tough Persephone also cheated on him with Adonis) but he was by far better than Zeus and Poseidon, as a husband and as a king. Also, can we stop pretending that the underworld is a bad place to rule? Hades had the richest kingdom, a personal river and eventually, all the people of the other two kingdoms. It doesn't seems like a total hell to me. Myth! Hades was both feared AND respected, but Myth! Hades is neither of those things, Hades may have the respect of the realm, but he doesn't have the respect of the people who live in there. 
3. what is so frustrating about the ever growing cast of LO is none of them exist outside of H/P. Hera serves no purpose but to prop H/P up. Zeus, Leto, and Apollo only exist to be a thorn in H/P's side. Daphne, Eros, and the Nymphs are there to defend H/P and their actions. Hermes and Hekate are only there to be H/P lackeys. Even Demeter and Minthe only exist to be drama for H/P. Take H/P out, and none of these characters can stand on their own. They're props.
4. idk how rachel can seriously claim demeter is overreacting and cruel for not wanting persephone on olympus as if within two weeks of being out of her care persephone wasn't drugged, accidentally kidnapped, was exposed for treason because she cant control her powers, phsyically maimed a woman into a living prison, and was sexually assaulted. doesnt that just prove demeter was right?
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raveneira · 3 years
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Since Yashahime is such a dumpster fire Im just gonna rewrite the sequel to what I THINK would have been the better alternative to the whole SessRin situation and also some story elements that could really be improved and would make this series alot better.
For starters, if we HAD to go the SessRin route then I would make it take place 21 years after the end of final act, Kagome was 18 when she returned to the feudal era and 3 years had passed at the end of the final act which made her 21, Rin should have been about 11-12 at that point, if we count 21 years from then, Kagome would be 42 while Rin would be 32-33, meaning when the twins were born Rin was 18-19, I know that might make ppl a bit uncomfortable still but atleast she would be a legitimate adult where you can atleast say "alright...Im KIND of ok with this, I still dont like it but atleast she is technically an adult capable of consenting and not a literal child being taken advantage of"
Thats if they HAD to go the SessRin route, then I would atleast make it done tastefully where it doesnt promote pedophilia, plus the old gang being in their 40s wouldnt be that big a deal because they'd still be capable of fighting.
Now for my PERSONAL take on how the sequel should have taken place, SessRin wouldnt happen at all, because the beauty of their relationship stemmed from this ruthless cold hearted demon who hated humans, learned to love and care for a small child to the point of nearly crying when he thought he lost her for good, there are all different kinds of love and the love Sesshomaru had for Rin was pure and innocent. He was someone she adored as her savior and caretaker and she was someone he cared for and wanted to protect, to me that bond was far more impactful and meaningful than anything romantic or sexual building up between them, but simply two people whom the other simply cannot live without because they mean THAT much to eachother. Such a pure and sweet relationship did NOT need to be twisted into a romantic and sexual light. Rin could have continued to adore Sesshomaru and he could have continued to check up on her and bring her gifts as he did in the final act until Rin decided she wanted to travel with him again.
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Now onto the rewrite, as I stated SessRin WOULDNT happen and their bond would remain as it was in the OG series, so who would be the twins mother? well if we HAD to go the half demon route to show Sesshomaru's development full circle, and we didnt wanna undo Kagura's death because it was a critical moment for Sesshomaru's development, there were several other routes that could have been taken.
1 Create a new character and develop her over the course of Yashahime through a series of flashbacks as we unravel the mystery of what happened to everyone through the girls travels. If you want to go the angsty route you could have her die giving birth and have Rin raise them as a sort of surrogate mother figure, kind of like Clementine with AJ.
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2 Use an already established character, one possibility being Nazuna, a human girl that debuted back in the early OG series, she had black hair and black eyes but as we see from Yashahime, the girls clearly didnt inherit their mothers looks as in the OG series Rin's hair was black and her eyes are brown while Setsuna's hair is brown and she has blue/purple eyes while Towa has red eyes, features that neither of their parents have. They also have a random red streak in their hair for some reason. 
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So based on this, Nazuna would be a good possible candidate as she was a teenager in the OG series and would be an adult by the end of the series when she would give birth. [Correct me if Im wrong about her age but she looks like a teenager, but if Im wrong then I would just adjust the timeline to where she would be an adult at the time she gives birth]
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Another potential candidate would be Momiji, true she may have been anime only but since this is an anime only sequel she is a plausible candidate. She has red/auburn hair which would explain the strange red streak in the twins hair. Like Nazuna, she was a teenager in the OG series so she would also be an adult by the time she'd conceive and give birth.
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Another candidate would be Kaname Kururugi, a game exclusive character, but the fact that they went through the trouble of creating a complete OC and fleshed out her backstory to such a degree and allowed her to build relationships with established characters, including Sesshomaru, its safe to say they could have incorperated her into the anime canon considering they already had an established foundation they could have just built off of and meshed it into the anime. Plus she has brown hair and blue/purple eyes just like Setsuna.
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Now that we have all the potential candidates, who's the one that seems the most plausible? In my opinion, I would personally go the Kaname route because she has such a deep and fleshed out backstory and they actually took the time to even animate scenes specifically for this game, so she does TECHNICALLY make an appearance in the anime, just not in an actual episode. And just like Kagome, she could have grown fond of the feudal era as well and wished to go back and somehow found a way to do so at the end of the Final act or maybe a month or year later after Kagome returned.
So going with the Kaname route, I'll begin my rewrite.
Being as Sesshomaru hasnt seen her since she was 15 like Kagome and vanished for several years, when he finally sees her again she will now be 18-19 when they reunite and a relationship would start to build and ensue.
Continuing where the game left off, Kaname would continue on with her normal life as Kagome did and eventually graduate when she is 18. She would still often think about her time in the feudal era and miss all the people she spent time with and bonded with there, one person specifically being Sesshomaru.
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^ A refresher for those who forgot the Sesshomaru ending.
As she comes home from graduation, another Doll Festival of Wishes is being held and it reminds her of Sesshomaru whom she wishes to see again, she goes and buys one of the dolls and writes his name on it as she did when she first returned home, thinking to herself that its no use and is probably a waste of time, but with what little hope she has left, she does the ritual anyway.
Afterwards she goes over to her father to help him with the festival, who like last time asks her to go get something from the storehouse. As she enters the storehouse, the hole in which she fell through before has been patched up, as she walks through the storehouse, she walks on the patched up floor which caves in when she walks on it and she is once again transported to the feudal era.
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She once again lands in a forest not far from where Kaede lives, as she wakes up, she is greeted by Sesshomaru, who had saw her unconscious on his way to visit Rin and watched over her till she woke up. Overjoyed and also in disbelief, she hugs him which surprises Sesshomaru who isnt used to recieving this type of affection but he doesnt push her away, nor does he reciprocate by hugging her back.
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As she lets go she tells him how much she missed him and everyone there, then, noticing Rin wasnt with him, asks him where she was, worried that something might have happened to her. He reassures her that Rin is fine and that he was just on his way to visit her at Kaede's village which relieves Kaname. She goes with Sesshomaru back to Kaede's village where she reunites with everyone much to their surprise but they are all very happy to see her again.
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Anyway Im not gonna do a play by play step by step storytelling so Im just gonna mention the main story beats and you guys can fill in the blanks for yourself.
Anyway after the happy reunion and catching up, Sesshomaru prepares to leave back on his travels which saddens Kaname who had longed to see him again and only got to be reunited with him a short time. Reluctant to be apart from him again, she asks, or rather insists he allows her to come with him on his travels. He tells her that if she comes with him it'll be a dangerous journey for her, she replies confidently that she can take care of herself and promises to not be a burden to him. Reluctant but not willing to argue, he tells her to do as she wishes and flies off. Kaname hops on A-Un and soon follows, and the two begin their travels together.
Thats pretty much how'd we leave off the final act, atleast a month or two after, you can decide your own timeline.
As for what happened on their journey and how their relationship developed will be shown through a series of flashbacks over the course of Yashahime as we solve more of the mysteries.
In episode 15, we'd get the same flashback but with Kaname being the one to give birth to the twins with Rin, Kagome, Sango, and Kaede there for her as support. It is said that when Sesshomaru and Kaname found out she was pregnant, he brought her back to the village where she could have a safe pregnancy and birth. Of course Sesshomaru isnt the mushy type to stay there with her through her pregnancy, but he does visit from time to time when giving gifts to Rin but also goes to check on her and see how she’s doing, although he doesnt admit thats what he’s doing.
After the twins were born, everything plays out relatively the same, but instead of just taking the twins without a word to her, he atleast reassures her that he's taking them someplace safe from harm, although he cant explain to her right now what that harm is, Kaname says she trusts him.
As I said, things play out relatively the same after that.
As for Rin, what exactly happens with her? well if we MUST pair her off with someone, it should be Kohaku, someone she has an established relationship and bond with that is closer to her age. Whether or not they have kids I'll leave up to you to decide, but I like the idea of Kohaku having a little demon slayer son to carry on their legacy. It would be interesting seeing his bond with Setsuna since Rin would essentially be like a sister figure for the twins although they dont remember her, it would be interesting and sweet to see Setsuna develop a bond with their son who for the sake of simplifying things, we'll call him Korin.
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Korin, if we want Rin to be an adult at the time she gives birth, would be 4 years after Kaname gives birth to the twins when Rin is 18-19, making Korin 10 in the present. Like the twins, Korin has no memories of his mother since she was sealed away in a tree for whatever reason, so the only mother figure he's ever had has been Setsuna, which would be an interesting dynamic to explore since it would be similar to how Sesshomaru filled a parental role for Rin who didnt have anyone at the time.
Moroha would NOT be this uncaring about her parents, infact she would be insanely curious, maybe even furious wanting to figure out why they abandoned her and vanished without a word since nobody seems to have told her anything that happened. She would want answers and wouldnt stop until she gets them. The OG crew if we MUST have this mystery drawn out, would tell her that it would be better if she found out the truth for herself and that any answers they give her wouldnt be the answers she wants. So Moroha's driving force in the story wouldnt be about some stupid bounty hunting debt, although she could still be a bounty hunter, but her main motivation would be trying to discover the truth about her parents and why they abandoned her.
Also this BS with Koga giving her up would NOT happen, it just wouldnt, that is BEYOND OOC for him to do and I will not be having it. Instead, Koga would be IN character and not let Moroha out of his sight, he would treat her like kin like the rest of the wolf demon tribe, maybe even give her special treatment because of her connection to Kagome. Koga would train Moroha himself, not going easy on her because he wants her to be strong enough to fend for herself, concerned because of her being a quater demon and having her demon powers sealed, he’s hard on her to toughen her up to not have to rely on it. 
If we must include Yawaragi, then she would be sort of a bodyguard assigned to watch over Moroha by Koga for when he cant. The storyline of the rat armor would still relatively be the same but instead of selling Moroha off to some shady bounty hunter which Koga would never allow or forgive her for doing, she simply introduces him to her as a long time friend, Moroha would take interest in the bounty hunting business as an opporunity for training, and potentially finding info on her parents since Jyubei seems to have alot of connections and intel that’ll be useful in her journey. Yawaragi instead of pursuing the key alone would bring Moroha with her when they are approached by the shady demon whos name I cant be bothered to remember, he blackmails her with the key telling her to fight Moroha if she wants it, Moroha scoffs at this telling him that she wouldnt do that and that they’ll both fight him together to get the key instead, but to her surprise Yawaragi attacks her.
Everything plays out relatively the same, Moroha is hurt at her betrayal and lashes out at her. Yawaragi, like in the episode uses this fight as one final lesson for Moroha, with full intention on dying by the end of it. Moroha is hesitant to fight her because she still cares about her as she was like a second mentor and somewhat mother figure to her. So to get Moroha to fight seriously she lies to her by saying that everything was a lie and that she never cared about her etc I wont go into a ton of detail, Moroha is reluctant to believe her but is eventually convinced when she attacks her full power, seemingly with the intent to kill her. This pushes Moroha to fight seriously as well, remembering what she taught her about using her clever thinking and successfully strikes her down. 
After this she goes over to her and Yawaragi admits to lying to her so that she would fight because she knew chances are the shady demon wouldnt have given her the key and since the rat armor was close to killing her anyway she decided she would rather die by Moroha’s hands rather than being crushed to death by the armor. Moroha would be devestated and guiltridden since she is the reason she was in the cursed armor to begin with, but Yawaragi reassures her that it isnt her fault and that it was her own negligence to see through the trap that resulted in this outcome. As a reward for defeating her, she gives Moroha her sword [yes Moroha wouldnt have her sword until now] and tells her to get stronger with it so that she wouldnt have to rely on her rouge, but win using her own strength. Moroha promises her that she will and Yawaragi passes away shortly after that. Everything plays out relatively the same after that.
As for the twins their motivations can mostly stay the same, but they also wouldnt be so uncaring about their parents, or specifically Towa wouldnt. Towa would be furious at her father and want to find him and maybe even kill him for abandoning them and causing them to be separated with seemingly no regard for their safety. Setsuna can maintain her non caring attitude, but given Towa's upbringing in the modern era, it makes sense for her to be furious at her birth father's neglect after experiencing what a loving home and father feels like.
As for what happened to Kaname, like I said you could go the angsty route where she died giving birth, or you could have her be kidnapped and used as a bargaining chip to blackmail Sesshomaru into doing the enemies bidding. You could have it where Sesshomaru was able to prevent Rin from falling into the enemies hands but not Kaname. Or maybe Kaname sacrificed herself for Rin, agreeing to go with the enemy in exchange for them sparing Rin, which is what leads Sesshomaru to sealing Rin in the tree to prevent them from potentially coming back for her. You guys can come up with your own conclusions there, these are just some scenerios off the top of my head. But for the sake of the rewrite we'll go with Kaname being kidnapped and used to blackmail Sesshomaru.
I’ll make an actual rewrite in a separate post with how I would PERSONALLY make the sequel, this post is just me tweaking and making slight alterations to the way Sunrise chose to write the sequel, the separate post would be how I feel the sequel could have played out instead for the better.
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kewltie · 4 years
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i,,, had a thought what if izuku thought he couldn't give kasumi the best kind of future for her so when she had just turned two, izuku met up Katsuki's parents at their house and asked them to take care of her and quietly disappeared so katsuki ends up being a new up and coming hero with a baby girl on the side.
kasumi is raised in the Bakugou household and is love fiercely and spoiled atrociously her grandparents, daddy, and his friends. she got everything a girl can ask for but in the back of her head there's a fuzzy memory of green eyed man and his gentle low voice when he called out her name.  she loves daddy above all even when he's being very annoying and overbearing because Kasumi is Daddy's precious princess and very very much like him as everyone says but when she looks in the mirror she sees blond hair, a perfect face and smile that resembles daddy but her eyes are the color of someone's else. Someone who is long gone from her memories, but they live in each breath she take. Live in the green hue of her eyes.
she doesnt know this person name but she know who he is. her other parent, the one who had abandoned her. she thinks he's a coward and weak for giving her up. she hates him so she wants to find him one day and yell at him and tell him that he's horrible HOW COULD HE LEAVE HER?? DIDNT HE LOVE HER?!
Izuku had carried kasumi in his body for ten months and he had her in his arms, giggling and crying, for only 2yrs but he loves her with all he has. when he had handed Kasumi to mitsuki it felt like he was giving away a part of himself because she is his, his most precious treasure. he broke down crying afterward, like he had just ripped out his heart and given it away but he knows katsuki and his family would give her a better future and a happier life than he could ever do. this is for her, he told himself, but it doesnt stop the agonizing pain he felt. the pain never truly stopped even though he had moved halfway across the country so he doesnt give in to the urge to race back and beg the Bakugou to give Kasumi back to him. he can only watch her grow up in the public eyes as the little princess of the new no. 1 hero, ground zero, like a bystander in her life.
kasumi grew up as the darling of the hero community because she was an enigma to the world. A BABY SUDDENLY appearing out of nowhere and to the HOTTEST upcoming hero?? and he had her while he was in high school?! and WHERE WAS THE OTHER PARENT?! a hero single parenting at his age is absurd. it got the nation scandalized and fixated on katsuki and his baby since day one so kasumi heavily grew up under the spotlight and in the public eye. it didn't help that she was terrifyingly clever, beautiful, blunt, and a natural hellraiser just by being bakugou katsuki's daughter.
the public adore her and she kinda mostly tolerate them back because it can't be help that she's so cute and smart that ppl want to pay attention to her (that bakugou’ss arrogance and confident coming out) lol. every move she make and say is always on the news, she doesnt mind it. really. sometimes when she lets herself think about it, she wonder if HE is watching her on TV somewhere in the world. does he see how much she had grown up now? does he love the dress she's wearing? is he proud of her? is he regretting HOW HE COULD LEAVE SUCH A PERFECT CHILD BEHIND? maybe all her achievements (the best in her class, athletics awards, ballet dancing and extracurricular activities she'd picked up and bested everyone else at) is her way of drawing attention to herself, maybe if she's SHOW EVERYONE SHE'S TRULY THE BEST,,, he'll come back to see her one day. the thing is kasumi is perfectly happy with her life. daddy is the best thing EVER and she loves him so, so much because that she never feels like she's a burden or lacking of anything but even his love isn't enough to fill that empty void in her, the 2yrs that she’d spent with that person.
all the while izuku tunes to the TV everyday in hope of getting a glimpse of her somehow, cut magazines and news clippings of her, and keeps track of her life through pieces of reporting because even if he isn't in her life, he wants to know what's going on in it and if she's happy at all. he'd built an entire shrine devoted to kasumi in his bedroom. there are pictures and news/magazine clippings of her on his walls. any mentions of her from katsuki or others, he'll watch the vid over and over again till his eyes are tired and he can repeat it word for word.  
for several years he had watch her from afar, but on her seven birthday, five years since he'd let her go, he was so WEAK with longing that he bought a plane ticket just to see her. EVEN IF IT'S ONLY A GLIMPSE OF HER WILL DO, TO BREATH THE SAME AIR AND HE'LL LEAVE AGAIN. that's all he wanted. izuku in disguise had lurked around the bakugou's household with hundreds of fans and reporters because it's the birthday of the ground zero's most precious PRINCESS and everybody wants a piece of her. izuku should have been in there with kasumi and the bakugous celebrating  her birthday instead of lurking outside like a creep but maybe that's true in another world. not now though.
in this world, he's just some weirdo stalker who obsessed with bakugou kasumi and her daddy as he waits outside to maybe see a glimpse of her at all. then he heard it, kasumi's boisterous giggles as she loudly proclaims she will magnanimously grace her fans with her presence.
"daddy, these people are obviously here for me," she scoffs, talking to an annoyed katsuki as they stroll out to the front yard. "I'll just say hi then i'll come back. stop worrying. you'll get even more grey hair and what will i do if you become uglier?" SHE'S SO BLUNT AND MEAN and izuku wanna cry because that's HIS BABY
he actually didn't even get to see her in person AT ALL because he ran the fuck away as soon as her heard her footsteps coming outside the bakugou's enormous home because he couldn't endure it. he knows if his eyes fall upon her person even once HE'LL BREAK DOWN AND never let her go again!
he can tell kasumi is lively, healthy, and clearly HAPPY with her life because katsuki had done right by her. izuku knew it was the right choice to leave kasumi to him and to hear that evidence so CLEARLY it was a relief and heartbreaking because it means that he was also right that he couldn't give her this. izuku quietly disappeared back to his life, never stop watching kasumi closely and once kasumi turned nine he decided it been long enough and she probably forgotten all about him and no longer caring about the disappointing parent who had abandoned her in a moment of weakness.
izuku moves closer to them. they're finally in the same city after seven years apart but it's not like kasumi nor katsuki knows that he is here at all. he tries to keep a low unassuming profile and promised to himself that he’ll never approach kasumi or katsuki at all. he manages to keep that promise for a year. then kasumi turns ten and HIJACKS katsuki's press conference to declares in front of hundred flashing cameras that, "my daddy is getting old and lonely and i cant be with him always so i'll be on the look out for good spouse for him :3c!" as katsuki roars in the background lol.
izuku was heartbroken in a diff kind of way compare to when he had given kasumi away because this is katsuki and kasumi, the two people he loves the most, finally moving on without him. katsuki will have a new mate and kasumi will have another parent that isn't HIM. he's happy but also very, very sad.
this is where like FATE OR SOME BULLSHIT because izuku managed to avoid the two of them for an entire year but ~things~ happens and he accidentally bumps into kasumi and KASUMI IS TOTALLY CHARMED by this strange quirkless nervous man who looks at her like she's his entire world. shes like ahh,,, maybe i should introduce him to daddy as a potential mate? not knowing that the man she feels an inexplicably drawn/attached to is actually her papa. bakudeku MEETING AGAIN AFTER 10 YEARS and yea, SHENANIGANS, MISUNDERSTANDING, SO MUCH DRAMA and also KASUMI lol
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dreamwritesimagines · 3 years
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Okay, I know this may sound bad but
I CANNOT...ABSOLUTELY CANNOT
STAND MINA OR PETAL'S MOM.
ABSOLUTELY CANNOT STAND THEM.
I find them condescending; I dont like how they are all up in her business in the worst way but make it seem like love...its manipulating.
I know their history makes them over-protecrive but they take it too far and then cover it with words of care and love and then Petal just lets it go. Like the P.I thing? She could have let her mom know that she didnt appreciate how she disregarded her feelings and instruction to throw the folder away (which caused a break up and hearache) - it was completely the moms fault. But she was still expected to go home, to eat with them, to go to things with them (with obligation and NOT willingness - that's not family love).
Mina, I feel, speaks for itself... She just doesnt seem to know when enough is enough. She is emotionally a child and cant seem to understand that her words have consequences (which I would love to see Petal show her what they are, just once). Sometimes you have to give loved ones space so they can heal a bit before running your mouth and causing more damage. (Kinda getting angry here lol).
They hurt her, stomp on her but she still has to do what they want and SHE DOES! (For the most part) but at least they apologize....OH WAIT! THEY DON'T
Sorry about the long rant but I couldnt take it anymore... I cringe every time I see their names or mentions. Ugh.
On a positive note: I love you and I love your writing; I know that it is a part of life to not like some one, even fictional. I am actually loving the story. I hope you can forgive me for my rant...trying to find words to end this on but am so awkward.
I do love you and the story, I hope I didnt cross a line here.......
Oh my goodness, honey you don’t need to apologize at all! I find the way we look at  characters and  situations/dynamics from different viewpoints very interesting, so it’s quite lovely, you can love some characters, you can hate some characters! ❤❤
This is in no way like an apology or “but this and this” kind of reply btw, I’m just going to explain the way I see the characters and of course we’re all free to disagree, that’s the best thing about fiction!❤ It makes us think and see things differently❤ If you see them in a different way or if you have another approach, please let me know! ❤
So in my mind, when it comes to their family -even if they tend not to talk about it- the dad’s arrest was a huge trauma for each of them, and they all had different reactions to it. Trauma unfortunately changes people, and what they went through -Petal was too young yes, but the mom wasn’t and Mina was a teenager, which means her personality still wasn’t exactly...fixed in a way- basically shifted not only the power dynamics, but the understanding of each other.
So their mother, when the dad was arrested was obviously very shaken, and the way that whole incident resonated on her personality was that....the first thing she felt was possibly guilt, and guilt can alter our whole personality. I’m not a mother obviously, but based on my interactions with my own mother and people who have children, it’s my understanding that the worst feeling in the world for them is not being able to protect their child. So, the way it goes in Petal’s mother’s mind is that their father clearly scarred Petal, that’s for sure  but the thing is, she had no idea what was happening and that put Petal in such a danger. Spencer keeps saying that his “profile” doesn’t fit into a killer that would harm his family, but the way her mother sees it, he could’ve killed Petal or Mina, and she wouldn’t even realize what was wrong until it was too late. This is the man who’s the father of her children, the man she put her trust in to protect her children and in doing so, she put them in danger. So in her mind, it goes like 1) survival 2) psychological wellbeing. Of course it’s important, but she feels like she can fix her mental state if Petal “survives” first, so that’s the first priority. That’s why the P.I is a huge part of their lives, and that’s why she’s so... the way she is 😂 
Which bring us to Mina, whose teenager years were shaped by the trauma of her father. As multiple people stated in the story, Mina is her mother’s daughter, like a small copy with small traces of her father, and she grew up witnessing how devastating that whole thing was to her mother. Seeing something like that also shifted her view on “protectiveness”, and also, Mina is the oldest daughter right? I think there are certain traits that are very visible in oldest daughters, because she feels like she needs to protect everyone and she somehow feels almost...responsible? She was ready to cover up actual murder for her family, and while she was growing up, as it is very common with a lot of parents, her parents raised her with “You’re Petal’s big sister, you need to protect her”. That’s a huge burden to put on a child or a teenager, and she can’t help but feel guilty that she somehow “failed” Petal by letting her father traumatize her like that.
And lastly we have Petal, whose whole understanding of “family” is....twisted at best. That whole thing with her father happened when she was very young, so she grew up thinking that the people in her family are the only people who she could trust, especially after what happened. She was close with her father, and when they arrested him and found out what he did, it basically pulled the rug from under her, so she clung to the nearest people, which were her family.
I mean is it healthy? God no, it is very unhealthy and very dysfunctional. But the thing is, I feel like a fictional work should be free to show the good and the bad at the same time, we can’t cower away from it if we want to...awaken something in our audience, at least in my opinion😁
That being said, my education also taught me that like 99.9 percent of the time, the reader can analyse the characters much better than the writer, so if you disagree with me, that’s absolutely alright! ❤❤❤ I  love exchanging ideas with you! Thank you so much for this, this is a very different viewpoint I will keep in mind ❤❤❤ 
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