#then shabbat with my bfs family

[todaviia]

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[toxtricity-v]

Christmas this year: you know what? fuck you. *un-shaloms your shabbat*

[menachem]

I want to go to Shabbat service tomorrow but its 9am-11am and its xmas sadly which means my mom and her bfs family would probably get pissed even though they know I'm jewish and am already going out of my way (like 13 hour long car ride out of my way) to celebrate FOR THEM and only for them. I kinda want to say fuck it and just leave to go anyways but idk if I want the drama. Hate this time of year sm.

[one-oh-seventh]

I watch the sambucky show at night with my bf after we do Shabbat with my sister’s family so every Friday morning I hold my hand in front of my phone like a privacy screen while I scroll past @aggressivelybarnes posts so that I can save them for later 😊

Can’t wait to reblog at least 15 of your posts in a row in 7 hours! Happy finale day!

[manicpixiedreamjew]

my kids: an introduction

let’s start with ev cause he’s my first born son

certified idiot

technically the middle child but grew up as the oldest in his household

born in 1941

lived in mississippi with david and their mom

enjoys building things and lugging heavy stuff around

very much a functional alcoholic for a few years

gets sober tho

slow drawl, usually under articulates, not eloquent

will punch you but would rather stay uninvolved

stans peter paul and mary

introverted but has a strong social presence

pretty secular for a while

always dirty/unkempt in some way

boy scouts ??? likes to hang out in trees

eventually gets a real job and moves out

loves mikey. hangin in there

figures out a relationship w/ judaism

guitar

dusty voice

the best cook of any of them

ok now abel

DAD FRIEND (tm)

oldest

born in 1937

lived with their dad and maureen in ny

passionately empathetic

only cared about sportsball as a kid

works with immigrants and refugees

studies languages

tries to get ev to learn yiddish because it’s important culturally

sensitive, cries at things

collects tchotchkes

has a big empty apartment that he hates

mega big extrovert

often overtalks

violinist, pianist, does recitals

demonstrations and activism

relates deeply to the suffering of the world

unequivocally successful

wants kids probably more than anything

completely incapable in the kitchen, has had to rekasher things so often

maureen, my beloved

mom friend

born 1938

abel’s best friend but also his arch enemy

they bicker a lot

tzedakah is very important to her

learned how to do her hair and sew from the ladies at shul

didn’t connect with ev much at first but they got along quick

she gives them chocolate

babies

loves her family so much

lives in kansas now but grew up in ny

she wears rosewater and dark lipstick

purple and green are her FAVORITE colors

keeps her hair long despite wearing it covered 95% of the time

her husband is named lane

has malka and isaac over on shabbat but then they kick isaac and lane out so they can have a sleepover

radiant.....,,.,., i’m going to cry

mikey is @magnoliahoe’s kid but i need to include him bc he’s evs bf (also apparently i can’t add any more pictures i’m going to sue)

evs bf

tol

i love him the most tbh

i’m the founder of the mikey protection squad

freckles

i can’t adequately describe him i’ll let sam do that if she wants to

but you all should know

that i love him h

[intyruswetrust]

Tyrus Headcanons (1/?)

- TJ is a health nut

- He tries out new diets every five minutes

- He is vegetarian

- He tries to get Cyrus to be healthy too

- But fails miserably whenever Cyrus does his puppy dog eyes and so they stuff their faces with plenty of baby taters, milkshakes and chocolate chocolate chip muffins

- He loves animals

- And they love him, too

- His mum needs to stop him from adopting every stray dog and cat he sees

- He helps Cyrus overcome his fear of them

- They then proceed to have plenty of cuddle sessions on the couch with TJ’s cat getting jealous because she claimed Cyrus for herself

- They’re both only children

- TJ’s dad died when he was pretty young

- His dad was a cop (TJ wants to be one when he’s older), his mom is a nurse

- He taught him how to play basketball though which is why he is so competitive

- His mum is so proud of everything he does

- They struggle financially, which is why TJ has his job at the gym, but he loves it anyway

- He buys Cyrus little gifts from his money (like a little dinosaur keychain toy)

- Cyrus is the complete opposite, having four parents providing for him

- He has two rooms, one at each couples house, they’re almost identical

- TJ is secretly jealous of Cyrus lifestyle and huge family

- But they accept him like their own son instantly and he’s invited to every Shabbat dinner and family game night

- Cyrus starts buying TJ clothes and dressing him

- His clothes get a lot more colourful with plenty of fun prints on them because he loves seeing his bf be stylish

- Maybe Cyrus does this so he can steal TJ’s clothes too and snuggle into his hoodies and feel at home in the penguin prints (they’re way too big for him, but they smell like him so Cyrus is like uwu)

- TJ’s real name is Thomas James

- When Cyrus finds out TJ becomes Tom(my) occasionally

- TJ is a history nerd and when he finds out Cyrus is too shenanigans at the Ren Fair ensue (TJ will literally wear a full suit of armour)

- Cyrus is always the prince

- TJ is really touchy with Cyrus and grabs his hand/thigh under the table when they’re with the ghc

- He will put his arm around him at every opportunity

- Cyrus melts every time

- They have their first big fight when Cyrus finds out about TJ’s financial problems at home and tries to pay for everything

- This makes TJ feel inferior, he had instantly assumed the more masculine role paying for dates and stuff

- Cyrus doesn’t care and says he shouldn’t treat him like a girl, he’s not

- Buffy agrees as she pays for every date with Marty (she also decides where they go and what they do so it’s only fair - but this is a Tyrus hc so back to them)

- TJ gets really angry about it all and storms off

- They don’t talk till the next day

- This is the first time he’s ever seen TJ cry

- Because he confronts him after school on the swings

- TJ is sobbing uncontrollably

- Cyrus puts his arms around him and plants kisses on his head

- They both say they’re sorry

- TJ had to be the man in the house from a very young age so he just had all these responsibilities and it all came crashing down

- This is so going to become a fic

Sorry this was so long... got carried away with The Fight™

[myoldblogiwontuseanymore]

I have this problem where my entire life i grew up ashamed of being jewish and around my family i tried to distance myself from it and around my peers i tried to assimilate. now that i’m embracing it i’m still embarrassed to do jewish things in front of my family even though im really open about it to everyone else. like if i light shabbat candles with my family, i dont say the bracha out loud and i pretend not to take it seriously when it actually means a lot to me. but when i stay the weekend at my bf’s house i HAVE to light the candles and i always make him do kiddush with me. and tonight i lit the hannukah candles by myself and my parents came home before they went out and they asked me if i lit them and i just got so embarrassed and denied it even though its obvious that it was me lol. i feel horrible and guilty for feeling that way about something i should be proud about but i have no idea how to get past it. 

[tenaciouskatie]

40-60 :)

40.) Yes, many times. In fact, I’ve posted a few here

41.) Yuuppp

42.) Depends on the situation and the person. I love kissing so I could easily make out for an hour. But sometimes 5 minutes feels tortuously long.

43.) That would about 11 months. Technically, it was 12 but that last month doesn’t qualify as relationship time for me.

44.) Somewhere around 12. Depends on your definition of bf/gf

45.) Well, this was my freshman year of college so I don’t remember them all. My guestimation is around 10?

46.) Oh god, no idea. More than the average adult, that’s for sure.

47.) 23 going on 40

48.) I’d encourage them to pursue the person they like, and I have done this multiple times. I think it’s good to support others in their endeavors, especially if they are a friend or close to me. Regardless of how I feel about them if they don’t reciprocate those feelings or I haven’t shared them.

49.) That she can have an incredibly intellectual conversation and then be silly as hell too

50.) No, I don’t need someone like that in my life

51.) Does my dog count?? Yes, my family, girlfriend, a couple of close friends, and definitely my dog.

52.) Yes. Their life was taking them down a path I could not follow. Tried to explain to them, went horribly. We no longer talk, but I think about them most days.

53.) I actually don’t think there is. Most I’d say is disappointment

54.) Yes, see question 52

55.) Oh, wow. Just one? My current partner and I went to Portland a little while ago. We stayed at this Airbnb run by a Jewish poly family. My favorite day was when we biked all over town to get coffee, go to the gym, explore, get sushi, and back to the house for Shabbat. There we got to hang out with our host family, a few of their friends, and one of the other house guests. It was incredible. We spent time talking about our life experiences, where we come from, activism, social problems, trans rights, poly relationships. Their youngest continually fed us fresh kale from the garden and pieces of food from the Shabbat meal (we didn’t do a proper dinner as is traditional). All while we’re drinking wine and hanging out on the porch. It was so welcoming and fun and by far one of my favorite experiences I’ve had with my girlfriend.

56.) I have:

1. female organs

2. one tattoo

3. two piercings

4. a five pack (it’s that damn ice cream!)

5. more freckles than you can count

6. leg hair!

7. blue eyes

8. a very messed up shoulder

57.) Why didn’t you just tell me? It would’ve hurt, but it’s more hurtful not to tell me. I get that it would’ve been hard for you, but you made your decisions and that was the least you should’ve done.

58.) Have a real conversation with me that flows easily. Make me laugh. Like at least a few things that I like to do. Be interested in things I’ve never done. Don’t be a far right republican.

59.) Easy peasy, lemon squeezy! Except mobile won’t let me now *heavy sight* I’ll post it separate

60.) 12 years, no that’s not a typo

[binachai]

A long road

A bit over a week ago my stepmother’s mother died. Long story short, it didn’t phase me. I haven’t heard from or received even a thanks for attending her husband’s funeral a few years ago or any of the cards/gifts I had sent years ago before giving up. It was like once I moved out of my parent’s house I did not exist any longer to any of my stepmother’s family; moving out happened 19 years ago. So, really, this woman hasn’t been a part of my life for nearly half of it. And being a stepgrandparent she wasn’t there for the first 8ish years either. All my memories of her are horrid and painful. 

But, family is important to me. And it is important to show up. So I traveled across the country to be there for the wake and catholic funeral. #awkward

None of my father’s side, whom I had not shared much (or any) of my Jewish conversion with, were phased when I spoke about it. I am not surprised, being that they are ignorant about it being a culture and more than just religion. It was nice to have it be a non issue, especially among the normal family drama that was moderately amplified due to the stress and pressures of death. 

Before I left GA for MA, I had looked up shuls, even asking my rabbi for suggestions. I attended a lovely Reform shul  for Shabbat that had a wonderful bunch of people. A shout out to Brice (Bruce?) and Virginia. I was shocked at the level of emotion I had during service, that when we got to the mourner’s kaddish something inside of me broke. I couldn’t see due to the sea of tears streaming. I was able to pull myself together by the end of motzi. 

It’s been rough since that dam broke inside of me and I am confused as hell about it. 

My poor rabbi. I still attend the conversion class because the dynamic constantly changes and new things are unearthed even if I have heard that topic before. That and I like to support my friends that attend it. I forget why but rabbi was discussing the parts of the Shabbat service (discussing the similarities and slight differences between streams) and when he mentioned the mourner’s kaddish I started to get weepy again. Poor rabbi was confused and concerned. Had he just let it be and moved on I would have been ok, but he didn’t and I just couldn’t hold back the tears. Luckily everyone understood and were supportive. 

So in case anyone was concerned about my disappearance, that is why. It might take a bit to get back in the swing of things. Especially since work has a policy of 3 days of bereavement but I was only allowed one - and had to work on Sunday - and as of today (Tuesday) have roughly 30 billable hours worked. Life is busy and a mess lately. With a dash of zomg emotions. My bf has tried but he just doesn’t seem capable of being supportive. I know he cares, but despite my telling him what I need, he isn’t providing it; which opens up flood gates to other realms of emotions and internal strife.

[todaviia]

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[manicpixiedreamjew]

Things that make me happy: good video games, coffee and cigarettes, my bf and my dog, family and of course a good Shabbat meal!

awwww this was so nice to read!! i'm glad those things make you happy, anon ❤️ i'm looking forward to my first shabbat meal whenever that may be!