#tmes

[0w0tsuki]

Damn TMEs really do think that if they replace "trap" with "femboy" when making trap jokes that that magically undoes all the deep rooted transmisogyny and not you know. Reaffirming transfems of the belief that most femboys/femboy likers are just the trap/sissy community rebranded.

[shinesbeforeshe]

[meow]

[heavenlivebytalkingheads]

okay I've been biting my tongue on this one a bit but the chance of any money you give to a uk trans or especially LGBT charity reaching a single uk transfem is vanishingly unlikely. the primary "resource" these orgs provide is jobs for trans people who can make it in a professional environment, and the vast majority of trans hires are tme (and thus unaffected by the judgement!).

if you know a charity run by transfems take a punt but otherwise please donate to fundraisers instead.

[ridibulous]

MFs will go We hate the gender binary! And then proceed to make another gender binary that hurts people to circumvent their old binary that hurt people which was made to circumvent that older binary that hurt people and so on so forth ad nauseum

[thanatos-girl]

Yk i get incorrectly assumed to be transmasc with some regularity, especially in queer spaces, and let me tell you the culture is rotted from the inside out. When this happens it absolutely feels like being the only woman in a men's locker room and when I do out myself, both literally as a transfem, and as someone who cares about defending other trans women; the mood always sours, and suddenly I find im not welcome anymore because I won't join in on transmisogynist "jokes" and sexual harassment or cosign their bio-essentialism when they wax poetic about their lesbianism

[genderoutlaws]

omggg you think dude and bro are gender neutral and u should be able to call anyone that? should we throw a party? should we invite bella hadid

[ebonytails]

Based on this tweet lol

[0w0tsuki]

The TME Transmisoginy Discourse Playbook:

"Your emotions are valid. It sucks that you had to go through that. But the thing is there's just ONE or TWO points I think I can disprove to show that you actually have no fucking clue what your talking about and shouldn't be speaking to begin with. Anyways here's my 10+ paragraph take down analysis response"

"Hey could you not talk about your own oppression like ever? Your LITERALLY just infighting and are the sole responsibility for the divide in the queer community. So now I'm going to exclude you for being an exclusionist "

"DUDE what's the transfem crusade about THIS WEEK?! Y'all are just overreactive hysterical cunts just LOOKING for anthills to blow out of proportions into mountains. Calm down. It's not that deep. Log off. Touch grass"

*Constructs a Beaddel strawman to argue against that's actually just a transmisoginistic caricature and shove words into the mouth of anyone who points out that your strawmanning*

*Look through OP's blog to find anything that you can screenshot to use to write them off out of hand without genuinely having to engage with them*

(Enlightened Centrist Voice) "Worry not fellow discoursers. For I am a neutral third party who's uninvolved in this discourse so I am the perfect one to provide a LEVEL HEADED opinion on this discourse that I have absolutely zero stake in" *Proceeds to spout the most biased and transmisoginistic garbage you've ever heard*

"Don't you know that cis butches sometimes get mistaken for trans women and harassed by TERFs? Don't you know that cis dudes are sometimes punished by their peers for being a little effeminate? SEE?! Transmisoginy affects EVERYONE! So that TME/TMA distinction your using has no rhetorical value and is actually and indication of how divisive your being "

"Hey I am a part of the identity group that you're claiming to have experienced transmisoginy from a subset of and instead of taking this as a call to work to make my community better by discouraging that subset as a member of their community, I'm going to interpret this post as a wide sweeping attack on my community and me personally."

"Hey you're literally taking this out of context and trying to construct your own narrative. This discourse is CLEARLY referencing (separate post that all the transfems in the discourse already knew about that doesn't debunk the transmisoginy being discussed/change the narrative and sometimes even make the transmisoginy even worse)

[shinesbeforeshe]

("Penis")

-thelovethehate

[you can barely hide your childish behavior]

[soup-mother]

I genuinely cannot imagine a trans existence where people openly speculating about your gender is fun and funny instead of feeling like a hatecrime waiting to happen. we absolutely live in different fucking worlds

[winged-void]

It's really cool that, as a 6+ foot tall autistic trans woman, I have to tiptoe around and whisper and make myself as small as possible at work lest all my tme coworkers treat me like a threat.

The fun thing is, of course, the only real threat here is the very real threat of very real violence contained within the fact that any of them could get me fired for breathing wrong and then I'll never be able to work for the city again.

[hoping-for-novelty]

Telling the teenage boy who has to adjust his voice, gestures, fashion and interests to avoid seeming gay that he's "homophobia exempt" because he isn't gay

[pendulouspuppyudders]

tme people are too used to throwing around transmisogynistic slurs pretending "it's for the whole community!" like you morons are trying to "reclaim" femboy and tranny get a grip

[spiderbitesandvampirevenom]

you folks realise TME isnt just a new synonym for transmasc right. like you realize when trans women are talking about TransMisogyny Exempt Individuals that includes, like, for example, cis men and women, right?? if you're gonna throw a fit over TMA/TME being "a new binary" i think you are a) purposefully misrepresenting these terms for the sake of delegitimizing them or b) being taken advantage of by those who do so. check your transmisogyny and do better lmao.

[shinesbeforeshe]

[i hate him]