Just a completely random thought but like...
I am truly starting to believe, at least for people my age (so late 20s- early 30s range), our parents didn't actually want children. Not in the way that matters.
They didn't want unique, individual, whole other people to raise into adults. They didn't want to do the amazingly hard work of being a parent- in that being a parent entails making sure your children can go out into the world and be their own people and make their own way, and it is your job as the person raising them to prepare them for that as best you can.
They wanted "children". As in dolls. As in "look at this thing I made let's talk about how great I am for making it". As in "let me brag about all of my child's accomplishments, those are all on me, but if they fail that is on them". As in "my child matters in what they can give me, not in who they are as a person of inherent value". As in "this was expected of me and I did it and now I am going to raise this human being the same way my parents raised me".
As in "why doesn't my fully grown adult child talk to me anymore? They're so entitled! They're so whiny! They DARE tell me I didn't do a good job parenting them! They DARE tell me I hurt them! They DARE express that they have feelings and thoughts and wants and a life outside of what I imagined for them in my head, outside of what will look good on me! How dare they not be a little thing I can hang on my fridge with a magnet and point to and say look my baby loves me. Look I am a good parent- that means I am a good person. Look I became a parent and that means I am GOOD. How DARE they undermine my entire identity as a Good Parent by telling me that I messed up?"
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having an entirely unique problem right now where i want to brag about my grad school plans in my instagram caption but my extended family follows me and i have been lying to my parents about my major for the last four years . why have i done this? who knows🙂
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you're getting such a swift block if you're posting about spreading leaks lmao like do that shit on your own time and keep it out of my eyeballs
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Small brag Sunday Saturday today I went for a walk by a river and SAW THINGS and then I tidied up my back garden while listening to my next door neighbours playing red hot chilli peppers thru their open window 🥰🥰🥰
What's your small brag???
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if any checo fans actually follow me look away for a second. but red bull posting the stats tweet and him having the same amount of podiums as daniel had while he drove for red bull and less wins is so ridiculous, like when you consider the cars they each drove and the reliability and total number of races- yeah.
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i can't believe how i was just trying to read a literal barbenheimer ship fic on ao3 for the crack (after coming across a crack fanart on ig) but instead came upon literal masterpiece classic literature level of writing like?
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Phil Coulson / / Jemma Simmons
additional:
“We’d hate to lose you, Jemma.”
“And, frankly, I miss him.”
“You’re likeable. Use that.”
“Someone killed Simmons and Daisy. I watched them die. I don’t want to see that anymore.”
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suddenly got a really vivid image of my head of like a c!prime home movie sort of thing and like it starts off and it looks like just two brothers hanging out and c!tommy's just awkward around the camera but as it captures what’s clearly a long span of time c!tommy slowly gets covered in more and more injuries that never seem to heal and is clearly just playing along with whatever he thinks c!dream wants out of sheer terror and it slowly breaks down more and more over each clip, somehow becoming more and less genuine in the exact worst possible ways. by the end hes all but catatonic and blatantly very much a dead corpse only continuing because of magic with injuries it’d be impossible to survive otherwise and c!dream is still excitedly chatting to him like nothings wrong and beating his ass at mario kart.
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Thinking about how people tend to pick up on specific words from other languages they're learning (especially slang) and use it over and over, like Pac saying "Shenanigans" or Fit saying "Fofoca" or Phil (and the rest of the server practically) saying "No Mames."
It just reminds me of my time working with Japanese college students, and how they all suddenly started saying "Awesome!" practically every other sentence one day after hearing me say it + explaining what it meant to them. It still makes my heart melt a bit thinking about it.
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