#toosensitive

[riotdyke]

I can't tell if I'm being #TooSensitive about it but I feel like I'm seeing more and more people use gay as an insult again. Is that just me? We can't go back to the bad ole days of middle school.

[findyourmagichsp]

Your people will understand you or at least try and not judge you. 💓 #toomuch #toosensitive #highlysensitivepeople #empathsbelike #tinybuddha https://www.instagram.com/p/B9ujF2cgunw/?igshid=1n0h64oor05us

[blissolaced]

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[savemefromtoxic]

When they say “You're just too sensitive” What they really mean is “I don’t want, or care, enough to be held responsible for your reaction when I mistreat you” @SaveMeFromToxic #toosensitive #dontcare #notresponsible #toxic #narcissist #toxicpeople #narc #saveme #toxicbehaviour #toxiclove #quotes #thoughts #dailyquotes https://www.instagram.com/p/CnHxxRRJzFZ/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[drheidijo-blog]

New episode posted today! #deflection #blame #toosensitive #overreacting #coachingwithdrheidi Next week the podcast name will change!!! Stay tuned!!!! https://www.instagram.com/p/BoK0dcKnRcq/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=rvvnece6tg1y

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[oilylagniappe]

R.I.P. Sense of Humor #TheDayHumorDied #YouCantJokeAnymore #TooSensitive #PeopleItsCalledAJoke #DontGetYourPantiesInABunch https://www.instagram.com/p/CDUV0gyjtCn/?igshid=10g5df47ufwna

[nottinghamcounselling]

You are not #toosensitive you are allowed #emotions and #feelings . Remember beautiful things come from #sensitivepeople .#gedlingcounsellor #telephonecounselling #videocounseling #carltoncounselling #ng4counselling (at Elaine Bond Counselling Services) https://www.instagram.com/p/B_WtIpZFmfg/?igshid=1xpxoqd8aqk3r

[findyourmagichsp]

Remember... “too sensitive” is not a bad thing! Tag someone who needs this reminder today. 💓 #toosensitive #highlysensitiveperson #highlysensitive https://www.instagram.com/p/B9ZQsuZgUbs/?igshid=5eevjn00ykdy

[kae-karo]

hi i need advice. so, at my job we recently got a new supervisor (and for context she is a woman and i am women-appearing) and she calls me (and also all the girls) baby girl. i cannot explain how angry this has made me the last few weeks. Not just bc i identify as nonbinary (not out at work) but i just think its unprofessional and weird. she also collectively refers to us as babies. like "can i help with anything babies?" as well as honey, love, and such. i'm not a fan of any of those. However! i'm nervous to tell her not to call me by pet names because on her first day i was talking to her and one of our other supervisors and he said people re toosensitive these days when they tell people how to adress them (being vaguely transphobic it was upsetting) and she agreed with him and i just stayed silent. idk i don't want her to call me pet names but i don't want to be seen as like being difficult or difficult to work with. does this make sense? ps. i love you

OOF okay first of all i am so sorry that is such a yikes situation????? like, i'm totally fine being perceived as female and that would still absolutely squick me the tf out jfc,,,,,,,here's how i'd personally address this, and if anyone else wants to add some advice or comments as well, please do! i won't say i'm super skilled at catching all possible caveats or outcomes, but i'll do my best lmao

first and foremost, it might make sense to chat with some of the other people being called "babies"/pet names and see how they're feeling, especially if you have any good rapport going with them - they might be just as uncomfy as you but also worried about bringing it up! i don't say this as a 'then you should know whether you're overreacting or not' sort of thing (i don't think you're overreacting AT ALL) but sometimes it can be easier to confront a problem like that in the workplace when you're not the only one bringing forth a complaint

that said, other ppl might be okay with it (or okay enough not to rock the boat) so be prepared for that! and it's okay if you're the only one who ends up trying to bring this back to the supervisor to discuss your discomfort - it can just be nice to have some allies if they feel the same way!

either way, though, it sounds like this supervisor's pet name thing isn't personal - which is GOOD, and i would try to keep that at the forefront of your mind and discussions when chatting with the supervisor about it (because i absolutely do think you should chat with them, unprofessionalism aside, it's making you uncomfortable and there's no good reason that the supervisor should continue calling you those names if they make you feel that way)

now the reason i say to keep it clear that it isn't personal is cause ppl can sometimes get all weird abt confrontation and jump to getting supremely self-defensive, which isn't super productive for anyone involved. so, i would say to keep that in mind (bring it up a few times throughout the conversation), and try to make it clear that there's no attack on her as a person - you have your own preferences and would prefer not to be called those things!

my second bit here is - alternatives! this is a bit of a challenging situation to just...have a good pet name alternative for, but that's okay!! if you have any nicknames you like or don't mind, that's a good start, or just stick with your name. something as simple as "i would prefer just to be called my name" is totally reasonable! so reasonable, in fact, that it sounds kinda silly to even have to say lmao

i will also add this crucial component here - if you do NOT want to come out to ur supervisor, that is perfectly fine and coming out does not have to factor into this convo you have with her unless you actually want it to! just keep that in mind as you go along!

okay so!!! if all goes well, here's more or less what i'd personally say in your shoes:

hi [supervisor]! do you have a few mins to chat? just want to nip something in the bud. i know you often refer to us as [pet names, esp the ones you don't like], but for personal reasons that i don't feel comfortable disclosing, i would prefer only to be called by my name [and/or any other nicknames you're comfortable with]. thank you for understanding!

what this is ideally going to do is set the tone of:

you are not upset with her/you're not taking it personally nor are you judging her or commenting on her mannerisms in a negative way

you are giving a vague but inarguable reason for your preference - if she asks more, she looks insensitive for ignoring the "for reasons i'm not comfortable disclosing" bit

you have set the stage for escalation if it's required - and hopefully it isn't! but you have made your request clear and direct without any potentially offensive or "emotional" language that might distract from your request or paint it as "unreasonable" (it really isn't!!)

with any luck, that'll be the end of it! you absolutely deserve to be treated with respect and using pet names in a professional workplace (esp when they make you uncomfortable) is absolutely grounds to have a conversation with her about not using them to refer to you.

now, there is always a chance it won't work out, and at that point, it kind of depends on you - getting another (sympathetic) supervisor involved could be the next step, or talking to HR to determine possible courses of action - can you be moved to another team, if that's something you'd like or prefer? can your shifts or work be aligned exclusively with other supervisors? is a meeting with the supervisor and a rep from HR recommended? (talking with HR might also be the point to bring up the general unprofessionalism that goes along with all the pet names, although i would still avoid it when first talking with the supervisor herself as it could be taken offensively)

idk the exact answers on that front as it's probably very specific to your actual job, but i would basically start with finding someone trustworthy at a higher level than you to stand in your corner - they may have better insight to ways to work this out without causing any grumbling on the part of the problem supervisor, but at the end of the day, that might be the only way to curtail the issue and ensure it won't happen again

i think the order of preference, if i were in your shoes, would be to start with your team and people who might feel the same way, then try to bring the issue to the supervisor together. if that's not an option for whatever reason, i genuinely believe you should make an effort to at least ask for your due respect (you miss 100% of the shots you don't take! and your personal comfort in a place you are presumably spending quite a lot of time is definitely worth taking a shot for)

at that point, if you're shot down for any reason, it's up to you to decide what degree you want to take it to. it's important to pick your battles ofc, i understand the desire not to come across as 'hard to work with', but your dignity is absolutely important and you are the only person who can decide when someone has crossed a line

i really hope this has helped at least a little, or given you some ideas for how best to address the issue! sending u much love and i very much hope your situation improves a little 💜💜

[savemefromtoxic]

When they say “You are too sensitive” What they really mean is “I don’t want, or care, enough to be held responsible for your reaction when I mistreat you @SaveMeFromToxic #toosensitive #idontcare #reaction #mistreat #toxic https://www.instagram.com/p/Cl92-dfv2Cr/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[thebacklogpod-blog]

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[joeingramspeaks]

You'd stop whining if you had to answer to it! #theshitjoesays #toosensitive

[ericsriddle]

#toosensitive #tooalone

[tiffanysworld12]

There are good days, there are bad days, then there are all the days in between! Today was better than expected. #photography #photographer #photooftheday #sunset #magichour #sunbeamthrough #toosensitive #rockhard #openup

[findyourmagichsp]

I don’t know if violent is the right word but definitely overwhelming! What do you think? Let me know below ⬇️ #toosensitive #highlysensitivepeople #empathproblems https://www.instagram.com/p/B9HQKkKgSmM/?igshid=1c69ee27tyhwk