#was genuinely concerned for their mental health

[historicity-was-already-taken]

The burnout I was experiencing regarding this issue has passed, and my desire to put good information out there has once more trumped my good sense.

So here's the deal. Non-Jews who have genuine questions and confusion regarding American Jews and their (complex, diverse) feelings towards Israel; and Jews who are struggling with cognitive dissonance between what they learned from their elders/community, and what they are seeing in action can ask me anything they want to help them cross that intellectual bridge.

However, there are caveats: if I think your question is in bad faith, if the wording is hostile or personally triggering to me, I will not engage with you or your question; if you verbally abuse me, I will name, shame, and block you regardless of your ethno-religious identity; and, most importantly, all my answers will be from the point of view of an American Jewish woman who has dedicated her life to the study of Holocaust history, and who had great intellectual and humanitarian concerns regarding nationalism(s) on a global scale.

To protect all of you from abusive users, I will wait until several questions come in, and answer them without dropping your usernames. And, if shit gets overwhelmingly abusive in my notes, I can and will suspend this offer. Balancing my mental and emotional health with my passion for education and improving intellectual access to complex historical issues will be a lifelong concern for me, and I will always put my health first.

Please use the ask box, not the chat feature. And no, I will not allow anonymous asks. If you'd like me to allow anons, you can paypal me one year's worth of therapy fees, or, about $12,000.

[thedickgraysons]

i dont have all of the words for it right now but there's something so gross about the way sjm chose to handle tamlin's trauma and his responses to being triggered post acotar. and it's not the fact that she writes it at all, but the way the narrative beats you over the head with the fact that tamlin was Wrong for being harassed by amarantha and not giving her what she wanted, Wrong for being affected by it, and then he was Wrong for not pushing feyre's clear boundaries (her insistence to not speak about what happen UTM) when that is a trigger for the both of them.

tamlin's not sleeping in the bed as a beast as he is also incredibly traumatized after being utm, its framed as him being possessive. he doesn't insist feyre keep her powers secret and not come with him to hunt beasts because he had just watched her die, its because he's controlling. there's no addressing of how feyre was using him sexually as much as he was indulging in her, because the fact of the matter is they were on a path of mutual self-destruction.

then there is his and nesta's fandom and canon vilification and over-criticism because their responses to their trauma are "ugly." the lack of empathy their characters in particular draw. the narrative (rhysand's) insistence that nesta needs to get on her knees and spend the foreseeable future Atoning while tamlin can never make up for his actions.

the justification of the ic forcing themselves onto nesta. the fandom insistence that its rehab when they need to assert control over her, but she can leave at any time when someone points out that rehab centers dont let the therapists sleep with their patients. the gross fandom theory about amarantha being tamlin's mate and how he went "crazy" after the mountain because of it.

all of it reeks of both the 'perfect victim' theory and victim blaming

[cemetery14]

Akashi sending a pic of himself in the gc with this text

[guppygiggles]

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[menlove]

my oldest sister is the Mildly Politely Transphobic Liberal and it drives me insane bc she absolutely won't be swayed on anything and just thinks she's correct always bc she's a therapist like girl.......

[theoburrsvirginitybalcony]

please for the love of all things holy, unholy and between stop directly interacting with ×××××

[twinknote]

my psych: any thoughts of hurting yourself or others?

me, having desperately desired the sweet release of death for the past week and literally fantasized about committing acts of violence just hours before our appointment: nope

[autumnalhalcyon]

vaguely aggrivating, following someone who's advocating for a movement that, while agreeing with aspects of it, leaves you with questions and concerns, so you ask about it, making clear that you agree with many concepts stated, but also that you don't understand other concepts but want to, and instead of explaining their movement or even mentioning resources to look for, they just kinda. dodge my questions while making it out like im just some kind of idiot who "doesnt get it" and in a later post, tries to make me out to be downplaying suffering by asking genuine questions.

this is about antipsychology. terfs keep your grubby fucking mitts off my post.

[murderballadeer]

you relate to jo march because you want to be a writer or whatever. i relate to jo march bc my hair is my one beauty

[uncanny-tranny]

If this is too personal a question I fully understand (if so: sorry and I hope you have a great day!), but I was just curious:

Why were you using 1/3 of a bottle of detergent for your clothes? was it a ocd compulsion situation/anxiety thing or something else entirely?

thank you for reading, and please do know that you truly bring a lot of good to this world! <3

No clue if it was OCD, an otherwise compulsion, or just a quirk, but it definitely wasn't helpful that in that instance, I was shut down entirely.

Which is why it's so important to actually listen to patients, you know? Like, not only was I not listened to, but if this were a serious issue (it actually has become a larger issue now that I'm an adult with my own income, admittedly), it wouldn't have be addressed at all. There are so many small ways that therapists, psychiatrists, authority figures, whomever, really, just... ignore problems because they're convinced that they're just infallible and the person they're addressing is, like, inherently beneath them.

[angelnumber27]

Just found out there are a bunch of really well paying jobs in the mental health field that don’t require a degree like

Look at this link

[verflares]

should finally have da next dragonsong chapter (loz longfic -_-) ready to go up tonight... don't know whether i should cross-post it here too, though

[fox-mulder-gets-pegged]

please look up dental schools/dental hygiene programs in your area. most schools have a low cost dental clinic and can help, because oral pain and loose teeth like you’re describing absolutely isn’t typical of patients in their 20s

I'm actually super touched that you sent me this, what a caring message 💛 I'll definitely look into this altho if it helps settle any concern I am due to get dental benefits soon! You have to have worked a certain number of hours at my job before you qualify for benefits (including dental) and I'm almost at that point and so hopefully I'll be able to get my teeth sorted soon. But in the meanwhile I'll do some looking into nearby dental schools.

[luciusspriggss]

lmao, as a surprise for my roommate and ex i stayed up all night and cleaned all the common areas so they could focus instead on finishing packing and cleaning their rooms.

and my ex was pissed at me when they arrived and the rest of the time they were there and i didn't know why

so i asked my roommate if i did something wrong, and i guess jes made a comment to him about how i didnt say hi to their partner, kelsey, at pride and they were pissed about it

????? girl (gn) what

thankfully sam defended me and told them to get over it and i'm allowed to not say hi to their partner (who they left me for).

like...why not just tell me you were mad about it? why be rude, short, and a dick to me when i dont have a fucking clue why you are mad in the first place!

like i walked past her booth without saying anything??? i guess that's a crime???

jeez louise

what a fucking child

[mug-of-shark]

For that ask meme: a mix of AAAAAAAAAA and Seafoam (idk why)

mostly accurate actually :) except i dont cry that often

[emometalhead]

are you doing okay emotionally?

No ♡