#which are the ones im not attracted to (men)

[leonsleftbicep]

THE SECOND OF CORSET TOKEN!!!!

Mister Token The Third

Under the cut because this are inspired by pinup poses and are grown ass men in corsets!!

my favorite details on this is his eyes and hair, though i feel like i could have rendered his hair just a smidge more.

i will say, it is a bit different from the last one. since these sketches have been sitting in my folders since… may? i have improved my own coloring and rendering as well as how i use certain things throughout those months.

funny thing is that one of my friends (bassist guy/HOnEy) told me that this is the most detailed piece hes seen from me. which is surprising, because i felt like i didn’t push myself enough on this one.

vessel is next, and im am going to have a FUCKING FIELD DAY HAVING TO DRAW SHEER FABRIC AND PORCELAIN (i hate drawing sheer fabric and i’ve never drawn shiny objects)

possible flash warning for the timelaps

song: Animal Attraction - She Wants Revenge

[urproblematicfav-arsonk]

Once again, I am back on my bullshit.

Welcome to my "Angel is asexual because Michael Kovach is ace and also i say so" and "Val is actually aromantic but just thinks his inability to feel love is cuz he's a psycho and not that he just has a queer identity" corner. There's no one else here but me

[erisolkat]

god i hate everyone

[g0thsoojin]

🔮

[gorillaxyz]

i think mark is kind of like the epitome of my taste in men (murdoc is special and in his own category) because hes so wet and pathetic and hes such a loser and i just want him so bad it makes me feel sick

[maybelleteas]

how do I get over the feeling of being a bad Bisexual Woman when I used to think I preferred men, had more sexually intense desire for them, and wanted to marry a man but still desired a casual fling with a woman back then when now, since then, after the only sexual touch I've gotten in my 30 years of life is from a woman, I am essentially a febfem wrt a long term situation, and want to marry a woman. I feel like I'm betraying this hypothetical person in my head bc I didn't always feel this way 😭

[sweetsweetloverlover]

AAUGHGFAAGHHHUGSSHKL HSGHHH (<- having gender thoughts)

[curiouschaosstarlight]

Bounced back and forth, think I'll just make this post-

(Warning: Under the read more, if tumblr keeps the read more intact, is me, an aromantic/aegofictosexual person ramble-ranting about aroaceness in fandom. You're free to scroll past if you wish, or to disagree with me on whatever takes for whatever reason, this is just my one opinion on something I consider to be a big pet peeve of mine.)

(If you read this and go "but I don't do that!", then I trust you, and you're not the kind of person I'm talking about. I'm moreso referring to some things I've personally either witnessed or experienced in previous fandoms, and nobody this applies to will actually see this post unless it, like, gets a bajillion notes...um, hopefully.)

It is so. fricking. frustrating. having my only possible representation in media be like...[that one character] from DR. You know. the otaku or "geek" that's portrayed to be unattractive, "gross", and "weird", and will eventually express sexual attraction to "3D" people, because their attraction to and obsession with 2D was never a sexuality, but intended to be some creepy, incomprehensible thing, and a way to demonstrate their shortcomings and inability to actually court someone.

Characters who actually match my sexuality and experience will never exist unless I make them with my own hands, because both allos and other aces consider me "not ace enough".

This honestly plays a big part in why I'm really touchy about aroace headcanons; because often times they're blatantly used to say people aren't allowed to ship [character a] with [character b] -- and the person making the headcanon is usually 100000% fine with [character a] being put in a gay ship, but will loudly complain if they see them featured in the (usually het, usually canonically teased) first ship. Because it was never about actually writing an aroace character, it was about reframing "ewwww you like THAT ship?? gross uxu what's wrong with you??" into "uhhhmmmm but that character's aroace-coded" "sorry, I can't see them as anything other than aroace" (yeah, I didn't ask? Everyone else gets to talk about THEIR ships with that character and you enthusiastically support them...) And it's like... I feel like these types of headcanons specifically are always presented like, inherently, I'm totally, obviously going to agree with them, and if I don't, then clearly I'm just not aroace. (I wish that was more of a dramatization, but I had someone who I previously told my seuxality to go "oh. well. I'm asexual, so I see this character as aroace-coded, (and I'm right)" <- not outright said but very, very heavily implied, especially because they continuously insisted the character was "canonically aroace-coded", and I just had to sit there like... "...okay, but I'm aroace. (and I think saying that about a clearly het-intended character that's constantly being flirted and canonically shipped in extra side materials with is kinda hurtful)" <- I didn't say that part)

And the fact that no one respects if a character is canonically het or bi kind of plays into why I don't care when a character is canonically gay or ace. If everyone's sexuality is just "gay (MAYBE ace!!!)" or "okay but have you CONSIDERED they might be bi??? (stop putting them in het ships >:((( )" only when it's convenient, then why should I care for my downtime? It doesn't change canon. And I don't feel represented by people's on-the-whim, flimsy-as-fuck headcanons.

But it does still piss me off when people take a reboot or remake or continuation and flagrantly disregard a character's canon sexuality.

And it's upsetting that aroace characters 1. aren't really a thing for the most part, and 2. get written over when they are a thing.

I imagine that when I finally manage to finish one of my stories or games and, y'know, all of my characters are bi/pan/demi because that's what I tend to write...that's probably just gonna get changed to be "whoops everyone's gay lol" by the fandom, and I've already come to terms with that. (Well, by the part of the fandom that isn't populated by "ugh, everything is so WOKE now!" assholes, I'm just gonna pretend they won't even show up because they aren't worth it.) But then, it's also like...if someone officially continued or adapted my properties, and they changed my characters to be all straight or maybe one character gets to be kinda-sorta gay or something, I. I would definitely lose my shit.

-vague gestures-

I don't really know where I'm going with this, I just wanted to say my whole piece without having to worry about being accused of derailing/not listening to a post-

But basically if you're outraged whenever a gay character's sexuality is changed for any reason in any context, I better hear you be that upset about the rest of the possible orientations, and not pulling that shit yourself. I swear to god.

[koishua]

shining solo ep 8. my reaction rn 😐😐 took it a bit hard lmao

[midnightliar]

started a new romance audiobook last night and i really like the narrator and the book itself is fine but it's got a lot of this like "women and femmes" type language that annoys me so much. also using "enbies" as a cohesive gender category which like.... it isn't......

[savethepinecones]

my mom has been watching mha but she cant remember anyones names so every time they mention everyone she stops the show to be like "whos that one again?" and ive gotten to the point where im using bakugou tactics to keep track of people smh

[cruelsister-moved2]

I actually think that these claims that making fun of men is biphobic because bi women sometimes like men or even misogynistic (because I guess liking men is inherently part of being a woman) are actually themselves biphobic and misogynistic. the men a woman dates/likes are not an extension of her, and her personhood is not vested within them. there are unsettling implications here about women's agency in the process of who to date. I resent the assumption that having a mockable (and potentially genuinely awful) boyfriend is an unavoidable part of being a woman and therefore a protected characteristic???

[honey-stick]

every so often i realize how much racism has taken a toll on me mentally. i started reading the madame petit manga (no spoilers, im on ch 3) and the main love interest rn is an indian guy, and he's not drawn as disgusting, but as someone so handsome & desirable.

like! look at him!

he's so dreamy and hot! he looks just like me!

i just have so many feelings bubbling up. he's handsome and looks like me. i can really be seen as beautiful by others? i'm not disgusting for having brown skin? im desirable? my indian features are handsome? traditional clothing doesn't make me weird and ugly? white people have seen themselves as pretty and attractive and desirable all this time?

i've been missing this, i never knew i could be pretty & desired. i know there are many people who have told me im hot and have flirted with me. but it's different here. i havent fully realized im wanted & hot till seeing it reflected back at me.

[kordbot]

thinkin abt benny tonight

[butterpretzelcookie]

its been like a year and i still dont think i understand what could compel anyone to ship wildberry or crunchy with fucking Clotted Cream

[oflgtfol]

gawd having to act straight at michaels is crazy bc so many of my coworkers just talk about the guys theyre dating and or fucking and its crayzay so my one manager showed me a pic of the guy shes just fwb with right now and she was like hes sooo hot and i was like meh i mean not my type i guess like not ugly but whatevs and she was like well what is your type and i was like OH NO i shouldnt have worded it that way so i said oh i dont really know i just know it when i see it i guess. and she was like well cant you list like traits characteristics and i was like. Well. i must say this. i know its controversial but i do like mustaches. and she was like. that is very controversial