#you can go to a chinese restaurant but it wont ever be the same. like when my mom was telling me about the dumplings she ate in tibet...

[wawek]

I never liked to travel and i dont have much drive to see new places, like the pictures are ok with me for the most part. But if i had a way to travel id do it for food. Like if i was a dnd character and i had to have a motivation to go adventuring itd be trying different foods... it blows my mind how many ingredients ill never get to try

[jawritter]

First...

Request: Hi! This is my second request, first one you wrote so well so I thought of troubling you again🙈 Can you write one virgin reader and Jensen ? This would be like when Jensen is around 29 or 30 years. Reader and Jensen are dating for like 3 months and on a sleepover things get heated and she tells him that she's a virgin. Next all your smutty stuff, pain, pleasure, cuddles, talks etc! Next morning, breakfast and all fluffy moments! Thanks

Warnings: Virgin reader, insecure reader, loss of virginity, smut, light language, hint of body insecurities, fluff, I think that’s about it. 

Pairing: Jensen Ackles x Reader

Word Count: 2745

A/N: As always all mistakes are mine! Please don’t copy my work! Feedback is golden! After I was cruel to Jensen in you and me yesterday I thought I’d give you guys a little sweet, fluffy smut! Hope you all enjoy!

Want more? Check out my masterlist!

***MASTERLIST***

Three months. 

Three of the best months of your life really. 

That's how long you'd been dating Jensen. 

The two of you met at the coffee shop you worked at when he came in for his morning. He was running late that morning, and didn't get to make his usual cup at home, so he made Clif stop so he could grab something on the way to work. He didn't have time to get your number that morning, even though he did his best to flirt with you while you made his order, he came back later that day on his lunch break and refused to leave until you gave him your number. 

It started out slow. Texting back and forth turned into late night phone calls, late night phone calls turned into dinner dates, dinner dates turned into regular dates, regular dates turned into sleepovers and long weekends together. 

That's where you were heading right now.

It was Friday, and Fridays usually consisted of heading over to Jensen's after work instead of your small apartment. He'd have dinner ready for the two of you, whether he cooked it himself or ordered takeout, according to the text message you received an hour ago it would be takeout tonight from your favorite Chinese restaurant that wasn't far from where Jensen lived. The two of you had gotten into the habit of eating there regularly. 

This was the part of the week you looked forward to the most. Long nights of cuddling, watching movies, and just being together. 

Even though you'd come far in your relationship with Jensen there was one thing the two of you still hadn't done. One thing that taunted you because it was you that kept you from doing it.

You still hadn't had sex with Jensen.

Most people that are dating someone like Jensen would have made the leap already, I mean the man was a sight to see, you weren't blind. 

The problem for you lied with the fact that you were in your mid 20's and still a virgin. 

Jensen was a 30 year old actor that had probably been with more women than he could count. He wasn't promiscuous in any way, in fact he was  a little shy, but he wasn't innocent, and you knew that. That wasn't the problem. The problem was all you. You were afraid.

So many things that made you self contious came rushing to the forfront of your mind every time you thought about even attempting to have sex with him. What if you weren't good enough for him? What if there was something wrong with you, and you didn't even know it? Like what if you didn't look normal? What if it was painful, and you physically couldn't do it? 

Those things probably sounded stupid to most people, but your mind liked to blow thins out of perportion, and this one was it seemed to be enjoying itself doing.

Jensen never pushed you to go further than you wanted to go. He was respectful of you, and never made you feel bad or stupid for not wanting to fall into bed with him. 

It's not that you didn't want to, you were just afraid. 

You'd never really worried about this before, because all the other guys you dated never lasted that long for one reason or another, and the thought of sex wasn't ever the forefront of those relationships. With Jensen everything was intense, and different, and right. Even though it had only been three months you were already head over heels for him. It was just this one thing....

When you finally got to Jensen's apartment things went on like they usually did. Dinner in which the two of you talked about your day and his. Cleaning up the kitchen together before changing into PJs, Jensen getting the movie ready for tonight. Then your absolutely favorite part. Laying wrapped in Jensen's arms. 

Your mind a thousand miles away from whatever was playing on the screen. You were too busy focused on the set of soft pink lips that were currently brushing over yours. Soft, gentle. The kind of kiss that made you feel weak. 

When he finally broke the kiss he looked at him. His green eyes shining even in the darkened room. Brushing your hair away from your face as he looked at you. You could tell that he wanted to take that a lot further than what he did. The prominent bulge in his pants was enough to give that away. Even though he never said anything to you.

You decided then and there that enough was enough. You were in your twenties. You weren't a child anymore, and you weren't going to sit here another minute and act like a scared little kid. You trusted Jensen, and you wanted to be his, in every way possible. 

Reaching your hand around his neck playing with the little short hairs that were there you pulled him back down to you, kissing him deeper than you ever had before, and it didn't take him long to catch up to where you were thinking. Jensen pulled away gently, and rested his forehead against yours. 

"Sweetheart, we don't have to if you're not ready to...." 

You cut him off by placing your lips on his for a short moment. Just long enough to silence his worrying. It wasn't like it wasn't something that you'd discussed before. Jensen knew about your fears and hessitations towards sex, and he always told you that nothing would happen unless you were ready, and he'd always kept his word.

"I'm ready Jensen. I trust you." You tell him. Looking deep into those eyes that you could drown in. There was more love and affection there than you'd ever known, and you did trust him. You trusted him more than you trusted anyone. 

"If at any moment you feel uncomfortable or change your mind, all you have to do is tell me. Okay? I wont be mad, I just want you to feel comfortable with me." 

You nodded your head, afraid if you used your voice it would give away just how afraid you were right now, but you didn't want to let fear of the unknown rule you, and miss out on something so intimate and beautiful as being that close to someone that you love. 

Standing up from the couch Jensen scooped you up in his arms, making you squeal with surprise, as he carried you bridle style down the hallway to his bedroom. Shutting the door with his foot, and dropping you on his bed playfully. Landing on top of you with a growl that was worthy of Dean Winchester. Smiling down at you with a smirk that had you honestly melting, and he hadn't even really touched you yet. 

You giggled at him as he playfully nipped at your neck and jawline before finding your lips again, and laying a kiss on you that had your head swimming. You could tell in that moment just how much he'd been holding back with you, and you decided that he would never have to hold back again. You loved him too much to miss out on anything that he had to give you.

His tongue swept over your bottom lip, asking for entrance that you granted him without hesitation. Letting his tongue dance along with yours in a perfect rhythm. His hand sliding down your sides and gripping your hip with a firm squeeze before his fingertips trailed up the shirt and exposed the skin of your stomach to him. His touches slow and feather light. Giving you plenty of room to tell him to stop if you needed to. 

The thing about it though, was that you didn't need him to.

The moment his lips found yours there was no turning back for you. There was no fear, or hesitation. Just the need to be closer to the man that you'd fallen so deeply in love with. 

Breaking the kiss you sit up just enough to slide your shirt over your head and throw it on the floor next to the bed. Jensen does the same and returns to kiss you. Down your jaw, your neck, your shoulders. Leaving a trail of fire in his wake. Slipping his hand around you he unclasps the hook of your bra and pulls it down your shoulders slowly before removing it all together. A growl low in his throat as he took in the exposed skin. His hands make a feather light trial over the swells of your breast.

"Beautiful." He whispered before bending down and taking one of your nipples into his mouth. Swerling his tongue, and sucking gently, but enough make your back arch off the bed, and a fresh wave of slick pool in your panties. A moan falling form your lips as he moves to give your other breast the same treatment.

His hands snake their way down your sides and he left little open mouth kisses on your stomach. Down to the waistband of your leggings. Looking up at you for permission before he grabs them, and pulls them and your panties down your legs in one smooth pull. Leaving you completely exposed to him. 

His eyes explored you as his hands trailed their way up your thighs. Spreading your legs for him to settle himself in between. Looking up at you with lust blown eyes before dipping his head down to your wet folds, and licking a gentle strip through them. Your head falls back against the pillow and your hand makes its way to his short, soft hair as he slowly works over your little bundle of nerves with his tongue. Your body felt like it was on fire. Pleasure that you'd never experienced before hitting you like waves crashing over a beach. The muscles in your stomach grow tighter and tighter with each lick and suck of his beautiful mouth. Your core clenching around nothing. 

While you were lost in his administration he slips one of his fingers into you, pumping it slowly and curling it to find a spot deep inside of you that almost had you screaming. When he was confident he wasn't going to hurt you he slipped another finger in and that was it. The coil inside of you snapped, and the strongest orgasm you'd ever had washed over you. Spreading throughout your whole body as his name fell from your lips. His fingers scissoring you. Opening you up and getting you ready for him as you slick covered his fingers.

Licking himself clean Jensen pulls his pants and boxer down and throws them to the floor while you catch your breath from the most intense thing you'd ever experienced. His eyes never leave yours. His thick swollen length slapping proundly against his stomach as he was finally bare before you. Man he was the single most beautiful site you'd ever seen. He was huge though, and that made your breath catch in your throat as you started to have doubts again.

As if he could hear what you were thinking, Jensen crawls his way up your body. Hovering over you and kissing you slowly. Bringing your attention back to him.

"If you don't want to continue we can stop baby." He whispered. His forehead pressed against your own as he brushed the hair away that had fallen in front of your face. 

"No. I've come this far. I don't want to stop." 

Jensen just nodded and reached between your bodies. Pumping himself with one hand before lining himself up with your dripping entrance. His arm snacking around you, holding you close to him. 

"Do you trust me?" He ask you. His eyes search your own. You  nodded your head and his lips came down on yours as he started to slowly inched his way into your body. Each new inch added an uncomfortable stretch that was borderline painful, but the slow pace was more torchure than the pain.

You nodded as if to give him permission, and in one hard, yet surprisingly smooth thrust he buried himself deep inside of you. White hot pain shoots it's way through your body, making your breath catch in your throat, and your nails dig into his shoulders. 

Jensen started kissing every inch of your face and neck that he could reach in effort to distract you from the pain you were feeling. Staying perfectly still inside of you until you have forced yourself to relax around him. 

Once he was confident he wouldn't hurt you he pulled out slowly, and then pushed his way back in. Setting a slow, steady pace. Pain quickly turned to pleasure with each thrust of his hips. Jensen's teeth bit down into his lip, and he grunted above you. 

"Fuck your tight sweetheart this isn't going to last very long." He said burying his head in the crock of your neck. Both of you a moaning panting mess as his pace became quicker. His fingers finding your clit again. Determined to make you cum with him. His pace starts to stutter as your walls clamped down around him, and you become lost in the deepest orgasm you'd ever experienced. 

Jensen stilled and spilled himself deep inside of you, groaning and panting as your walls milked him for all he could give you.

Once you both had come down completely from you high as gently as he could he removed himself from you. Kissing you gently before standing up next to the bed, and going into the bathroom to retrieve a warm washcloth, and wearing a fresh pair of boxers. 

Gently as he could he cleaned up the mess that was between your legs, and crawled into the bed pulling you close to him. 

Laying there you fell asleep with your head over his heart, and his fingers playing with your hair. 

The next morning when you woke up you were alone, and that scared the fuck out of you. Did you do something wrong? Did he not want you anymore? Was there something wrong with you? Your anxiety was about to take over when he entered the room, A plate of waffles on a tray, along with some coffee, and your favorite syrup. You breathed out a sigh of relief as he smiled at you. Sitting the food down in front of you that he's prepared before kissing you deeply.

"Morning." He said before sitting down next to you. 

"Morning. I thought that you'd left." You tell him earnestly. His eyes narrowing at you for a moment.

"Left? Why the hell would I leave? No, I was making you breakfast. Like I do every morning you're here." Jensen said, slipping himself behind you and wrapping his arms around your middle. Kissing your neck softly.

"I don't know, I guess I was just worried that you didn't like me anymore, or something was wrong with me so you ran away." You tell him. Feeling silly all the sudden.

"What? No way? Last night was the single best night of my life. Your beautiful sweetheart! There's nothing at all wrong with you, your perfect, and I hate to break it to you, but your stuck with me." He said. Giving you a playful jab as you leaned your head back against his shoulder.

"I love you, you know." He said, kissing the top of your forehead before sliding your food closer to you so that you would start to eat it. 

"I love you to Jensen." You tell him. Lacing your fingers together for a moment. "That you for being so patient with me." 

Jensen said nothing for a moment, just stayed there holding you close to him as possible. Letting all the insecurities and everything that you were feeling melt away as the warmth of him surrounded you.

"Thank you for trusting me."

That was the first for a lot of things for you, the first time you'd ever been with someone sure, but it also was the first time you ever let your walls down, and let someone in, it was the first time you put your insecurities and fears aside, and just enjoyed the moment, not over analyzing the way you always did, or over calculating things like you had a tendency to do. You felt so much closer to him, and you couldn't wait to see what other first the two of you would tackle together. Because no matter what, as long as you had Jensen, you felt like you could overcome whatever came your way.

---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Tag List: 

@deanwanddamons​​ @imabitch4jensen​​ @rvgrsbrns​​ @bi-danvers0​​ @onethirstyunicorn​​ @i-love-superhero​​ @akshi8278​ @alanegaming​ @magssteenkamp​ @lemondropirwin​

[weraceasone]

Hi elle, regarding your response to Max anon. I think Max is just an easy person to hate. Because he's harsh, he's just bluntly honest and he has an i dont care all attitude. He has a foul mouth, and he does things without thinking. I agree with you, that he definitely deserves a lot of the heat he receives, but to the extend that people will hate him for breathing?? i don't think so. Its important we criticise him for the bad things he's done, but i see people apologising for even posting about him, get death threats for supporting him. They don't only hate Max, they hate people who support him and I feel its all gotten out of hand, no?

He's aggressive, you're right, in both driving and during the times we can see him (i wont say off track bcs idk Max so idk how he is); but Charles is also aggressive in his driving, he's gone for a gap that's not there so many times and no one says he's a shit driver like they did Max—Of course, Charles just has to mature in his driving, evidently Max is now less rash and reckless in his driving, its something you learn over time. He's aggressive when he kicks the car, the wall, when he swears on radio when he loses a pole or his car isn't working, I agree. I hate that he is too. He swears a lot especially to GP, but GP still has a good relationship with him. Daniel has destroyed his and Max's driver's room in anger and I haven't seen any criticism for it. Drivers have told their engineers to "fucking shut up" when they're racing and no one cares. Your analogy, is terrible, forgive me, because if Max actually hits someone (im aware he's pushed Esteban) no one would say that.

And thing is, Carlos has done equally (or even more) worse and he doesn't get flamed on for every word he says. (Im talking about the chinese restaurant video) why? because he's charming and he's pretty and "he's so funny when he's when lando!!" It's easy to forgive Carlos, to say, oh it's a one off, when he clearly still supports far right wing political parties.

Infact, you dislike Kimi because he is cold and straightforward or always being blunt at his engineers. Ever wonder why that is? Is it because he's unlikeable or because he fails to meet the standard of expectation of pleasantries? Plus, this is just what the media show of him, its his persona, its the "Oh, Kimi" thing people will eat up. Are u justified to dislike it, yeah, but does that mean Kimi is a shit person? no. If anything, it shows, we as humans, are biased to our own opinions. You dislike Kimi because he's not a person you would gravitate to in general (sans the iron cross thing), evident from your rant. No one has a problem with that because u disliking one person doesn't hurt anyone. ((People hating Max, and in turn, hating people who don't hate Max, hurts other people, but thats not something i blame you for))

This is very long but I just dont like the inconsistency, i think you're free to dislike whoever you want, to not support them, to criticise the dumb shit they do (which there's a lot for Max) but you have to be consistent to everyone, no ? Im not just saying this bcs I like Max, infact, he isn't even a fav of mine, and i can easily say he can be such a piece of shit and at times is a piece of shit but its only him that gets this treatment. Maybe think about why that is.

(for anyone wondering about the context for this ask, go here) hey Anon! I’m going to be really honest with you; I’m honestly not too sure what you’re trying to tell me. you said you agree with me on the fact that Max deserves a lot of the heat he receives, but I never said that. that’s an assumption, because when you read through the answer, you can see I never said that. I do agree with you that it’s gotten way out of hand and that people shouldn’t get death threats for supporting Max, that’s just ridiculous and I agree with you on the fact that that’s gotten way out of hand.

“he’s aggressive, you’re right”, I never said that. I use the word aggressive when talking about myself, but never about Max. the anon who asked me the question did mention Max being aggressive, but I didn’t. in the whole answer I never talked about the way Max drives, because I was talking about his character. telling me that Charles drives aggressive too… what is that even referring to? I never mentioned driving. (and if you want to know, drivers driving aggressively is fine by me, most of the time they only mess with their own race by doing that, so honestly… be my guest). if Daniel destroyed his and Max’ driving rooms, then of course I don’t approve of that. but the reason you’re not seeing any criticism because of that is probably because it happened years ago. the only thing I mentioned in the answer was Max saying slurs, I didn’t even mention him pushing Esteban and the reason I mentioned Max saying slurs was because it happened half a year ago. “if Max actually hits someone (im aware he's pushed Esteban) no one would say that.” say what? I don’t know what you mean by this. “Carlos has done equally (or even more) worse and he doesn’t get flamed on for every word he says”, first of all: I think everyone should decide for themselves if Carlos has done worse or not. second of all: I’m not the only person in this fandom, am I? you’re constantly switching between ‘you’ and talking about the fandom in general, why are you shifting the blame onto me? I’m not the spokesperson for this fandom. I mentioned many, many times before that I believe my opinion does not weigh more heavily than other people’s opinions do. “Infact, you dislike Kimi because he is cold and straightforward or always being blunt at his engineers. Ever wonder why that is? Is it because he's unlikeable or because he fails to meet the standard of expectation of pleasantries?” yes, that is literally why I dislike him. because he has characteristics that I do not like in a person. “Are u justified to dislike it, yeah, but does that mean Kimi is a shit person? no.” I never said that. literally, never ever said that. I never talk about Kimi, ever. the only reason why I mentioned I didn’t like him is because somebody asked why I never post about him. somebody asked, so I gave my honest opinion. I didn’t “rant”, I literally answered a question. I’m sorry, but what you are saying doesn’t make any sense. with “the inconsistency”, what do you mean? like I said before, I literally ignore drivers that I don’t like. somebody asked me a question about Max, just like somebody asked me a question about Kimi, and I answered it in an honest way. that’s all I did. “i think you're free to dislike whoever you want, to not support them, to criticise the dumb shit they do (which there's a lot for Max) but you have to be consistent to everyone, no ?” yes Anon, I’m consistently ignoring them. and saying that I’m allowed to dislike a person and then saying you don’t like me being inconsistent while I am being consistent, doesn’t make any sense. am I only allowed to be consistent if that fits your agenda?

“your analogy is terrible, forgive me”, I forgive you Anon, because you’re allowed to think that. but maybe your interpretation of it was terrible too, cause half of the things you mention I never said, but are based on assumptions you made. maybe this sounds like I’m a bit pissed off, and that’s because I am, cause you’re putting words in my mouth that I never said, you’re judging my character wrong and I’m sorry Anon, but I really don’t appreciate that, that honestly upsets me.

you know, we should probably just leave it like this. we clearly aren’t having the same conversation. I do hope you’re having a good day!

[existentialvoidofexistence]

50 questions tag

Tagged by @inevitable-anna

1) what colour is your hairbrush? I have a black comb that i use sometimes, but I rarely brush my hair unless I’m washing it bc it goes frizzy and I’m very lucky to never get knots

2) name a food you never eat. Anything with soy sauce

3) are you usually too hot or too cold? Both, sometimes at the same time

4) what were you doing 45 minutes ago? Sleeping I think

5) what’s your favourite candy bar? Cadburies fruit & nut

6) have you ever been to a professional sports game? Yeah it sucked i hate football, but the local basketball team is pretty cool

7) what’s the last thing you said out loud? Yelling “love you too” down the stairs to my dad as I got ready for bed I think

8) what’s your favourite ice cream? Not a big fan of ice cream but either a 99 or ben & jerries phish food

9) what was the last thing you had to drink? Excluding water bc that’s boring it would have been slightly flat irn bru

10) do you like your wallet? Idk I don’t particularly have strong feelings about my wallet it’s okay I guess

11) what was the last thing you ate? Pizza I think

12) did you buy any new clothes this weekend? No but I bought this case.

13) what’s the last sporting event you watched? Bold of you to assume I would willingly watch sports

14) what’s your favourite flavour of popcorn? Salt is the only acceptable flavour

15) who was the last person you texted? I’m assuming sc messages count so the gc with my sister and my ex-gf-turned-best-friend

16) ever been camping? Many times I love it

17) do you take vitamins? Not particularly i do occasionally though

18) do you go to church every Sunday? Im not Christian so no

19) do you have a tan? Only on my arms

20) do you prefer chinese or pizza? Pizza, but like proper homemade/restaurant pizza not shitty takeaway pizza. If ur getting a takeaway get curry or fish and chips they’re the best.

21) do you drink pop with a straw? If they give me a straw yeah but i wont go out of my way to get one

22) what colour socks do you usually wear? i only replaced my school socks last week so probably still white

23) do you drive over the speed limit? I don’t have a full license yet so I don’t drive

24) what terrifies you? Dead bugs and also Adolphus Huxley’s A Brave New World. And lowkey moomins.

25) look to the left what do you see? Cheese

~~~ several weeks later ~~

26) what chore do you hate the most? So long as my brother also has to do chores I’m not fussed

27) what do you think when you hear an Australian accent? Ongoing genocide and systematic oppression of the indigenous peoples

28) what’s your favourite kind of pop? Irn bru

29) fast food or drive in? Neither i can make much better food myself thanks

30) what’s your favourite number? 11

31) who’s the last person you talked to? My mum

32) favourite cut of beef? Mince but u gotta season it with nutmeg and stock and either worcestershire sause or paprika and cumin and be at least 50% carrot or ur doing it wrong

33) last song you listened to? What If Tomorrow Comes (I finally watched Black Friday with my sister)

34) last book you read? The Wide Awake Princess by E.D. Baker (shhhh i loved it as a kid)

35) Can you say the alphabet backwards? lol nah

36) favourite day of the week? Thursday bc it’s D&D day

37) how do you like your coffee? In tiramisu

38) favourite pair of shoes? My comfy red boots, my black low-heeled combat boots, or my nice tan sandals, depending on my outfit and the occasion

39) what time do you usually wake up? 9:30-10:30

40) sunrise or sunset? Sunrise

41) how many blankets are on your bed? One and a duvet but its too hot for either rn

42) describe your kitchen plates. Old and white

43) describe your kitchen at the moment. Smells nice

44) do you have a favourite alcoholic drink? Probably some kind of cocktail but I haven’t been to a restaurant or pub since turning 18 bc lockdown so my opinions are currently limited to “beer and wine/champagne/prosecco suck” and “vodka and cider are ok I guess”

45) do you play cards? You’re not really on holiday unless you play cards at least every other day

46) what colour is your car? Don’t have one but the family one’s grey

47) can you change a tyre? I’ve never even seen anyone change a tyre

48) favourite state/country/provence? Almería! We used to go to a lil town called Huercál and it was great. Especially the restaurant/bar thing just out of town, it was run by a guy called Eneth and there was a big-ass open fire at the end of the room where he cooked everything, and also a bunch of dogs and birds - if ur in the area go see if it’s still there for me 💚

49) favourite job you’ve ever had? The week i spent working at the children’s trust charity in the accounting department (it was work experience dw im not useless enough to get fired after a week)

50) how did you get your biggest scar? idk which is biggest probably the one from where i whacked my head on the shutter of an ice cream stall and had to get it glued back together

~~~

Tagging @femmebos @mexicanfairy @clockwork--frog @aveasorae @lilolilyr @showstoppingnumbrr @just-a-side-kick @a-little-slice-of-fandom @sunflowermycelium @mischief-pixie @jane-seemore @lucyisanerd @spiiderbiites @youvebeengnomed @peanutworm @cliyoh @sunrise-designer @isappho @woulddieforkhoward @the10amongstthese3s @bi-owen-harper @writingvenusian @the-quiver-of-aros @dontforgetpluto

(Obviously theres no obligation to fo it its rlly long but like... I love y’all and im interested)

[shiro-0197]

Oh I hope you guys do get to have a party sometime soon!! That'd be so exciting. And grrr yes I know the feeling. If it weren't for friends, I'd be happy to study at home tbh :(

aaah yes I understand that!! Tho wow you're so cute istg 😭😭 hmm, for me, I guess it would be any job related to small kids?? Like children under 8? Because I really don't have the patience to deal with children. But I love jobs with customer service, so we're opposites hehe >.< Tho my favourite would be if I could do something entrepreneurial. I haven't thought of this much but I hope to be able to after my exams. and I'm also very sure you'll find the job perfect for you in the future!! That way you'll actually enjoy doing it, because it plays to your strengths :')

NO EXCUSE ME YOU'RE SO CUTE. I find Hinata ADORABLE for that, and the fact that you do that too?? Cute as hell 😭💖

Idon't fluster my friends at all, they know me too well. But there was a new guy who sat in front of me, last year, and everytime I flirted with him, he got soooo flustered. So that was really cute to me. I hope we'll still sit near each other this year too :) and aaah your flirting must've been so sweet for him to stutter. Not surprised. I'd probably react the same way to you😭😣

I'm sorry 🥺🥺 >.< But I'll definitely remember it now!! And awww dumplings are literally so wonderful. They're like tiny little packages with everything delicious inside them. sounds to me like you'd like Chinese cuisine tbh 😣😣💖💖

good for you, you're literally the ideal friend grrr I'm so proud to have you. I'm that irresponsible friend, sometimes. And other times I'm like the most responsible person on the planet. Depends on the task and day, I suppose xD

oh noooo please don't worry about it >:(( it was just a random thing I saw on Wikipedia.

awww I see! I never really owned all those books either hehe... I borrowed the Percy Jackson series from a friend at first (and now I'm slowly saving up to buy the entire collection, one book at a time), and I downloaded the e-book for Harry potter. I'm pretty good at downloading free pdfs online (which really isn't something I should be proud of, but oh well) and if you ever need a book, do let me know :> I'd be happy to email it to you xD 💖💖💖

Not surprising at all. Your love for cheese is so endearing to me.

AYO‼️‼️ REMINDER FOR SHIRO; PLEASE DRINK YOUR WATER SIR, OR I'LL FLY TO KAZAKHSTAN AND MAKE SURE YOU STAY HYDRATED😾😾

thank you very much!! I hope I'll be able to do it well :D don't wanna disappoint or bore anyone :<

I love you too, did your day go well? I've just been glued to my desk. I've been studying since morning hhh, but I've gotta go in for work tomorrow so ://

AND OMG SLDHSKSJSK THAT'S SO CUTE 😭😭😭 I'D TOTALLY WATCH THAT VIDEO !! CHISHIYA'S CAT EARS JUST EXTENDED MY LIFE BY TEN YEARS. he's a catboy, wbk 😼😼😼

—🦋

Yes yes I hope so too!!! I'll bring my quiche😼😼 our tutor is obsessed with them and gets so happy when I make them xD my friends love them too. Istg if I wont handle being a translator I'm going to a cooking school🙄🤚 I'd actually prefer that but uh ... alright this made me reconsider ??!?! What if I become a cook!!! (Ok that's just my impulsive thoughts, I'll stick with it as a plan B hehe)

Ohhh yeah me too,,, kids are reallyyyy different from each other and I wont be able to keep up with all if them either~ also, no way, you're cuter. Also, entreprjsjdjs !!!! That's so cool, basically setting up businesses and stuff? Sounds difficulttttt though if you really wanna then go for it!!! Good luck, Shortcake heheh

Ehshwjdd Kuro says that too, every time I do that he goes "alright, Shoyo" I GET SO EMBARRASSED HAHA

AWHHH😭😭 The poor boy, I can imagine his face xD that sounds so adorable, I hope you get to see him soon as well^^ I really dont remember what I said, I just remember the face I made (like a lenny face with kuroo's smirk?? Ok that one sounds so scary but that's probably what I looked like XHMDNDJWJD) and the face he made and honestly, its still the funniest thing EVER

To be honest, me too. I really wanna go check out that one Chinese restaurant on the other side of the city, but its really expensive, so uh, hopefully I'll get to try it later XD everything looks so good there though, cant wait to try them someday.

Flwxmsmfm I'm really glad to have you as well🥺💕 also same, it really depends on how the stars are aligned 😭😭

Ohh~ I see, hehe. I really wish I could focus better. Its probably not a good excuse, but I cant finds single place where I can properly read:/ I swear I need to be locked up so all I can do is read😭 but I'll definitely message you if I ever need one, thank you!!!

Hahah, I never thought I'd hear someone say that my obsession with cheese is endearing, but its pleasantly surprising XD

YEAH I WILL!!! I'm getting a bottle with a straw tomorrow, I dont like drinking water in big volumes so using a straw is the best next thing hehe

Heyy dont say that!! You wont disappoint anyone, trust me! You're such a sweet and fun person, I'm a hundred percent sure everyone will love you!!!<33

I'm so sorry I havent responded earlier!!!! I've been getting like 2 seconds to check my phone and honestly today was very exhausting, I dont really wanna talk about what exactly happened, but it's nothing bad, promise!! No I didnt kill anyone, dont worry

That sounds so tiring too:(( I really hope you're not overworking yourself!!! Please take breaks🥺🤍

HNDMSMDJDJS HE IS 100%

Do you want me to send you the picture without the texts ??? Anyways I'm gonna send it to you either way hehe

I love you so much!! I'm so tired rn but responding to you made me so happy, thank you😔🤍

[dammithawke]

so my aunt died, yesterday. the one i was closest to, who taught me to crochet and knit. it was cancer, not covid-19. she was told she had 4 months left, about a year and a half ago.

I got to see her a few times since then. She came to my wedding.

I haven’t been letting myself think about it

i was about to drive my mom down to say goodbye to her when we got the call that she past. they told us to turn around and not come back until they knew when the funeral would be.

i havent let myself think about it.

I watched youtube last night. tried to write. watched some atla with my wife. watched some she-ra with a friend. read fanfics.

i dont want to think about it.

every summer when we were little, my mom, brother, and i would go on vacation with my aunt and her kids. always the same little town. usually the same cabins. i ended up having my honeymoon in the same area, because it meant so much to me, and had special memories from my wife’s childhood too.

Ive been trying not to think about it.

im trying

im trying.

how far can distractions go when you just want to not exist for a little while. when something hurts and you just want to think about ANYTHING else.

im letting myself think about it.

i wont let my mom travel alone. That might be a terrible idea, but she’s my mom, and this was her sister. I won’t be allowed at the actual funeral -- only 10 people are allowed to attend that, and she had 6 sisters.

had.

there will be a party after, celebrating her life. ill wear my mask the whole time. ill insist my mom does, as well. she won’t like that.

but i have to think about that.

im hurting.

im empty.

i miss her.

i rarely ever got to see her, because she lived states away, but there was always a ‘next time i see her’ on the horizon.

last time i saw her, she and mom’s other sisters were helping her go through her house in the wake of mom’s boyfriend of 20 years passing. I met them all for dinner at a chinese restaurant after i got off work. my manager let me off early, and i still managed to be late to dinner. everyone had already eaten.

but She offered me her left overs. then everyone else did.

my mom had 6 sisters.

at big family gatherings, they introduced themselves with their birth-order.

this aunt was number one.

mom had 6 sisters.

i don’t know who im typing all this out for.

maybe its for me

or her

or no one.

im hurting.

im glad she isn’t hurting, anymore.

im going to go read.

[today-we-will-survive]

meet me in the tree house

Moodboard made by @snowflakeu25

BTS au-imagine

Yoongi x Reader Y/N

fluff, romance

Word Count: 3.5K

A/N: This was a request from @snowflakeu25 💜

Three knocks on his studio door.

A gruff voice, muffled by the walls enters your ears and you twist the knob and push into the room with your hip since your other hand is preoccupied carrying a shallow box of takeout containers. A boy sits in a computer chair facing a mountain of recording equipment. Speakers jut from the two corners of the ceiling. Three large monitors sit atop the mountain, an expanse of panels, keyboards, knobs and sliders filling the valley below. At the sound of you entering the room, he turns around, his mouth twitching into a quick smirk before his eyes fall to the food in your hands.

“Hey,” you say.

“Hey,” Yoongi replies spinning around fully to face the coffee table as you set the box down on its surface.

“Working hard?” you ask and take a seat on the leather couch that sits adjacent to him.

Yoongi stretches, arching his back and raising his arms in the air with a groan. “Always,” he says. “Chinese?”

“You know it.”

The two of you are quiet for a while as you work at getting all of the take out containers open and onto the coffee table. Then you pass him a pair of chopsticks before taking your own pair and grabbing the closest container. You’ve watched Yoongi become a big time producer, his songs winning award after award. You’ve seen him on tv, standing on stages, making speeches, wearing designer clothes and being adored by people that don’t know him.

Yet every Wednesday, you come to Bighit, the security guard giving you a smile and a nod of recognition and you take the elevator up to the fourth floor, carrying take out, walk down that hallway lined with albums that have gone gold and platinum before reaching the studio. And there you find him, in his baggy sweats and baggy shirt, sometimes a beanie to keep his hair out of his eyes and he’d turn and greet you with that same tired smile. He’s never treated you different. He’s never let the fame get to him. Probably because he knows how far of a fall it would be back to the bottom where he started if he were to let it all go to his head.

You moved to the city not long after Yoongi got the job at Bighit. The two of you have been best friends since you were in fourth grade, when he moved into the house next door to yours. He had a tree house in his backyard that you had been eying for a while and when his mom had forced him to come over and ask you to play, you’d been ecstatic to finally be able to see the inside of it. It was as cool as you’d thought it would be, and that was where you’d spend a lot of late nights during the summer.

As you got older, the tree house transformed from a playhouse to a safe house. If your parents were fighting or lashing out at you, you’d send a quick text to him asking him to meet you there. And by the time you climbed up the rope ladder, the hatch would already be open and Yoongi would be waiting for you, his ears open to listen or his arms open to hold you, whichever you needed. Usually, it was both.

Once he moved away after college, there wasn’t much left for you in your small town, so you followed him, getting a job in the city and hanging out whenever he was free. Which wasn’t as often lately.

“So what have you been working on?” you ask before shoving a piece of orange chicken into your mouth.

Yoongi perks up, swallowing his mouthful of food before spinning to face his desk again. “Tell me what you think of this. Then with a couple clicks of his mouse and a press of a button on one of his keyboards, the room fills with music.

You close your eyes so you’re not distracted by anything and listen to the steady rhythm as it builds. After a few measures, Yoongi’s familiar voice starts in, delivering the deep lyrics he’s become so well-known for. You can feel the smile spreading your mouth as you listen, your head automatically bobbing to the beat. You’re really enjoying the song when suddenly it cuts off and you open your eyes to find Yoongi looking at you, his hand poised on his keyboard. You frown.

“What did you stop it for?”

“I just wanted to give you a sneak peek. You can’t hear the whole song until the mixtape is done.”

“Mixtape?” you ask as your smile returns.

Yoongi smiles back and looks down at his hands shyly. “By the way, I’m making a mixtape.

You let out an excited squeal, reaching out to hit his arm over and over, his smile growing bigger with every hit. “Are you serious?” you finally ask when he’s rolled out of your reach. “You’ve been wanting to do a mixtape forever!”

“Yeah,” he chuckles and scratches the back of his neck. “Yeah, I’ve finally gotten some time to work on it so I’ve been kind of messing around, writing some stuff.”

You pick up the container of pork fried rice, poking at it as you shake your head. “I’m really excited for you, Yoongi. It’s going to be amazing.”

“I hope.”

“It will be,” you say. “You’re crazy talented.”

Just then you feel your phone vibrate in your back pocket and when you reach for it and look at the screen, you can’t help but smile. The room is silent as you type a response to the message you received.

“Who has the audacity to interrupt our Wednesday night dinner?” Yoongi asks jokingly as he wheels back over and swipes a container off of the coffee table.

You send the message and set your phone onto the table before taking another bite of rice. “Just a guy I’ve been talking to,” you say. “Sorry.”

Yoongi blinks, obviously caught off guard by your response. “Oh, no, it’s okay. I didn’t know you were talking to someone.”

“Yeah,” you say with a shy smile. “I met him at a party last weekend and, I don’t know. We got to talking and now we’ve been texting each other a bit.”

Yoonig lets out a grunt, suddenly very interested in the container he’s holding.

“I don’t know,” you say again. “I think I’m finally in a place to start wanting to date again…you know, after everything that happened with—”

“Y/N,” Yoongi says cutting you off. “It’s okay. You don’t have to talk about him. I’m glad you’re able to move on now. I’m happy for you.”

You tilt your head as you study your best friend. His words sound genuine but the sentiment doesn’t seem to reach his eyes. “Thanks,” you utter. You hear your phone vibrate against the coffee table and you watch as Yoongi’s gaze falls to it for a split second before focusing back on poking his chopstick into his food.

*

*

Y/N: So Chinese again tonight or something different?

Yoongi: Ive got a lot of work to do tonight. I dont think I can hang out.

Y/N: Oh ok. See u next week then?

Yoongi: Sure.

*

*

Y/N: Hey, did u want to go out tonight instead of me bringing something? Theres a new ramen place I wanted to try.

Yoongi: cant hang out tonight. Busy.

Y/N: …ok. Next week then? I miss u.

Yoongi: Sure.

*

*

Y/N: ok. Im kidnapping u tmrrw night. I kno u dont rlly like going anywhere on Wednesday nights since u hav to work but we havnt hung out in like 3 weeks and I want to take u to see this new horror movie with me. And I kno that telling u Im kidnapping u kind of negates the whole “kidnapping” thing but I kno u dont like surprises.

Yoongi: cant.

Y/N:…really?

Yoongi: Sorry. I have to work.

Y/N: man…ur working a lot lately, arnt u?

Yoongi: its my job, Y/N. Maybe next week.

Y/N: Next week Im going to be back home to visit some family.

Yoongi: oh ok.

Y/N: Whatever, Yoongi. If u dont want to hang out anymor, just say it.

Y/N: Or dont. Whatever.

*

*

Yoongi: hey

Yoongi: Y/N

Yoongi: I know ur mad at me but please respond.

Yoongi: Y/N I was just being an idiot.

Yoongi: Y/N

Yoongi: Please talk to me.

Yoongi: look, I kno ur reading my texts and I kno u probably wont respond but if u end up seeing this, please meet me in the tree house in like twenty minutes. Alright? Thats where Ill be. I need to talk to u.

*

“The tree house?” you utter as you re-read his last text. As in the one at his parent’s house? The one that’s over an hour away from the city the two of you live in now?

You’re at a family dinner at the moment but you’ve all already eaten and now your parents are just talking to your aunt and uncle and though you’re a bit reluctant to actually meet up with Yoongi (since you’re still pretty pissed at him for ditching you for the past three weeks) he’s the perfect excuse for you to duck out early. And you do just that, saying goodnight to your extended family before telling your parents that you have to run but you’ll see them back at home later. Then you head out before anyone can argue.

It’s about a thirty minute drive from the restaurant back to your house. You can’t even bring yourself to pretend to feel bad for making him wait those ten extra minutes wondering if you’re even going to show up. It serves him right. The two of you have been best friends for as long as you can remember and have been doing Wednesday night dinner together ever since he got the job at Bighit. After all this, he decides he’s too busy to hang out? He’s never been too busy. Has the fame finally gotten to his head?

A terrible thought occurs to you as you pull into the driveway at your childhood home. What if he wants to meet you to break things off? To tell you that he doesn’t have time for friends anymore. That you shouldn’t come around anymore because it’s interfering with his work. That he’s outgrown you.

With an angry jerk of the stick shift, you jam your car into park and turn off the engine, yanking the key out. You can already feel yourself getting worked up as you slam the door and stomp across the yard to Yoongi’s house. When you get through the gate and enter the backyard, your eyes trail up to the tree house where it resides in the tall maple in the middle of the lawn. The sun is almost all the way set and the sky is already turning a medium shade of blue. It’s getting dark fast and you can see golden light filtering out of the windows in the tree house. He’s there. Good.

You take a deep breath then make your way up the rope ladder. This was a lot easier when you were younger, and smaller, and you can’t help but wonder how much longer this rope will even hold. With that thought, you scurry up the last few rungs, hoping the whole time that it won’t snap on you. Then, when you poke your head up through the hole, your eyes fall on Yoongi.

He’s laying on his back, hands on his stomach and his eyes fixed on the ceiling. At the sound of your arrival, he turns his head, his gaze locking with yours.

He sits up quickly. “I thought you weren’t going to come.”

You back away from the hole in the floor until your spine rests against the wall. “I wasn’t going to but it was an excuse to duck out of dinner early.” You cross your arms. “What are you even doing here, Yoongi?”

Your best friend gets to his feet. “I wanted to talk to you about…everything.”

“Well?”

Yoongi sighs, bringing up a hand to scratch behind his ear. A nervous tick you’ve always thought was a bit endearing. “I guess I just got kind of…jealous.”

Um…

You stand there against the wall blinking for several seconds, not really sure if you heard him right. “Jealous,” you finally say. Yoongi nods. Your brow furrows and you let out a humorless laugh. “I’m sorry, Mr. Big-shot producer, what the heck would you be jealous of?”

As if on cue, your phone chimes in your pocket and Yoongi’s eyes fall to the outline of it against your thigh. You’ve still been talking to that other guy from several weeks ago and now it kind of dawns on you, just what Yoongi is jealous of. The two of you lock eyes again.

“Yoongi…”

The apples of his cheeks dust a light pink, contrasting against his pale mint hair and he shifts on his feet. “No, it’s stupid. I shouldn’t have been like that. Not when I’ve never even told you how I feel. I just wanted you to meet me here so I could tell you that I’m sorry and I want to keep doing our Wednesday night thing and you can text that guy all you want. And I know you don’t need my permission but I’m just letting you know that I won’t be a jerk about this. And I won’t start acting all weird. Date him. Marry him. I’ll still be your best friend as long as you want me to be. And if you don’t, I understand that too because what kind of person freezes their best friend out over another guy? You’re more important to me than that and…Y/N?”

His words finally trail off when he looks up and realizes you’ve been standing there gaping at him the whole time. Your heart is in your stomach and your breaths have become shallow. Are you having a panic attack? Here? In Yoongi’s tree house? In front of Yoongi?

“Y/N?” he asks again.

“What did you say?” you utter.

“What?”

“What did you say?” you ask louder. “Just now. What did you say?”

Yoongi fumbles with his hands for a second, running his fingers through his hair and switching his weight to his other foot again. “Uh…that you’re my best friend?”

“Before that.”

“I’m sorry?”

“Before that.”

“I was being stupid?”

“After that.”

Yoongi bites his bottom lip, the pink in his cheeks becoming darker. “…that I haven’t told you how I feel?”

“Yeah,” you say. “How do you feel, Yoongi?”

“I feel like…” he takes a tentative step toward you, keeping his eyes locked on yours even as the blush spreads down to his neck. “…like I’ve been in love with my best friend for the past five years.” He takes another step toward you. The tree house isn’t very big so even after just these two steps, there’s only about a foot of space between you now. “How do you feel, Y/N?” he asks, his voice much lower than it was before. You peer up at him, heat creeping up your own neck to settle on your cheeks.

“I…uh…I—” your phone chimes in your pocket again and Yoongi sucks in a sharp breath. “Give me two seconds,” you whisper then pull your phone out of your pocket with trembling fingers and check the screen. Yoongi leans in a bit to peek too. “It’s my mom,” you say and you hear him chuckle under his breath. “She wants to know if I want them to pick up ice cream on their way back.”

“Do you?” he asks leaning in more, his dark eyes now drilling into yours. You’d back up if you could but you’re already pressed against the wall.

“Do I what?” you ask him.

He hesitates for just a moment, a smile quirking the corner of his mouth. “Want ice cream?”

You both know that’s not the question he’s really asking and for a split second, your eyes dart down to his lips. You pull your own into your mouth as you try to conjure up the words. You’re already a flustered mess with this boy so close to you, looking at you the way he is, his body heat radiating across the small space between you.

“Of course I want ice cream. I frikin’ love ice cream.”

The tension in the small space seems to burst as Yoongi falls forward, his head landing on your shoulder and laughter bubbling up out of him. You can’t help but laugh too as you feel his shoulders shake against yours and then he’s wrapping his arms around your waist to keep either of you from tumbling to the floor. The room is filled with your giggling and tears have sprung to your eyes and finally, once the muscles in both of your stomachs are good and sore, he lifts his head back up.

The laughter dies down as the two of you lock eyes again. You watch with bated breath as he reaches up to brush the hair back from your forehead, his fingers sliding down the side of your face and lingering on your jaw. “Can I kiss you, Y/N?” he utters.

You don’t even hesitate to nod before he closes the small gap, his lips moulding to yours along with the rest of his body. His one hand tightens on your waist and the other slides to the back of your neck and then he’s tilting his head to kiss you deeper. Of course, then your phone chimes AGAIN causing him to jump back with a small gasp.

“Sorry,” you mumble, your head swimming as you look down at your phone still in your hand. You look back up at Yoongi again. “Flavor?”

Yoongi stands there breathing hard for a second, staring at you as he processes your question. His tongue flicks out of his mouth for just a second. “Chocolate,” he finally says breathlessly.

You type the word as fast as you can, getting frustrated when you keep screwing up, before hitting send and dropping your phone onto the rug. Then you reach out to grasp Yoongi by the shoulders, pulling him to you once again.

*

*

“Just listen to this one,” Yoongi says as he pulls you back down into his lap.

The computer chair creaks under the weight of the two of you and you grip the arms to keep from toppling over. “Yoongi, I have to go. I have to get up early for work tomorrow.”

“Just this last one,” he says and slides the headphones back onto your ears. You’ve tried taking them off for the last five songs but every time you do, he wants you to listen to just one more. This is the last one, I promise.

“Yoongi, you’re really making me seem like a jerk of a girlfriend that doesn’t want to listen to your music.”

“But you do want to listen to my music, right?”

You smile and reach up to touch your palm to his cheek. “Of course, I do,” you say. Yoongi’s mouth lifts into a gummy smile as he nuzzles your hand. “You know I’m your biggest fan.”

“I know,” he says with a contented sigh.

He’s too perfect for his own good. So talented and so soft lately. Yoongi has always been more on the reserved side. Never cold but a bit closed off, even to you. But ever since the two of you talked—if you can even call it that—in the tree house, everything has changed. He’s revealed a different side of himself to you. A softer side. A happier side. You can hear it in his music, too. How happy he’s become.

“Alright,” you say. “Just one more.”

Yoongi claps excitedly before pressing a button on his keyboard and then settling back in under you, wrapping his arms around your waist and resting his cheek against your arm. He loves watching your expression as you listen to his music. Loves seeing how it affects you, loves seeing the uncensored reaction. He knows you’ll always be honest with him, because you want him to give his best. Besides his colleagues, you’re the only one who’s opinion he trusts.

As you listen, Yoongi starts playing with your fingers, pressing the pads of his own against yours so you mirror his movements, and then when he glances at the screen and sees that the song is almost over, he slides his fingers through the gaps between yours and locks your hand in his. You knew he wouldn’t let you go after this song.

You shake your head until the headphones slip from your ears. “Yoongi,” you say.

“Just one more,” he says quickly and releases one of your hands to pull the headphones back up.

[softevan]

We’re Not Who We Used To Be (SOFT Mini Series)

A/N: So I have decided to make a series of scenarios based on specific lyrics from Harry’s songs which I’m so excited about because i’ve been writing all day. Some of them will be smutty, some wont, but ill put the warnings before hand. I want to thank a lot of you who have been supporting of me and my writing. If you have any lyrics requests please don’t hesitate to let me know. But I really hope you like this one, enjoy! -K

Warnings: N/A

Word Count: 4K

Pairing: Y/N and Harry

Y/N’S POV

This week is the ARIA awards in Australia and Harry has been scheduled to perform. Because he has been on tour and constantly traveling I just think that he needs a few days off instead of going to an awards show. His manager Tommy had insisted on him declining the invitation to the show and have a non hectic couple of days, especially to spend time with me. But of course Harry being Harry he didn’t want to let anyone down and he decided that he wanted to go.

Harry always wanted me to come with him on tour, which is something I would be so happy to do. But my job is always my main priority. Through out our relationship, we had seen that we had been focusing too much on our carers, and neglecting our relationship. With both of our singing carers it was hard. But now with my tour over I’ve decided to take some time off to be with Harry and actually try to be here for him. Its his very first tour with just him and his band and of course he needed me to be there with him. Its not easy being on the stage by yourself, its very intimidating to say the least. But with me travelling with Harry I get to see and experience new things with him, and write new songs along the way. Knowing that Harry feels more at home with me being here for him, and knowing that I give him comfort when he sees me standing at the side singing along to his songs means everything to me. It just makes my heart swell at the thought.

“Babe, its either going to be the Gucci or the Alexander McQueen outfit, just pick one?” Harry came out of the hotels wardrobe with both his hands filled with these unusual coloured suits, with a puzzled look on his face, scrunched eyebrows waiting for my reply. “H you always go for Gucci so wear something different” I looked up at Harry, dragging my concentration from my novel in my hands to him then back to my book. “Okay sold” His cheeky grin spread across his face and put down the suits of the side of the bed, then making his way over to me. “Babe?” His hands sprung up to my book and pulled it away so my attention was on him. “H” I looked up and his face which still had the cheekiest grin on it. “Do you wanna grab something to eat?” “Yeah sure, I actually am quite hungry” “Okay cool” He knelt over me to grab the hotel phone to order in. I yanked the phone out of his hand and put it back to the server. “Do you not want anything?” The confusion setting into his face, I grabbed his chin to pull the smile back and I pushed my fingers into his dimples which I know he loved. “How about we go downstairs to the restaurant and eat? We can look cute and go out for a romantic meal?” “Sweetie I am so washed I cant be bothered going anywhere tonight” He pulled himself onto the side of the bed beside me with a sigh leaving his lips. “Harry its just for an hour or so, we haven’t had dinner together in a while” I looked back around at his face, still with a awkward look to it. “We had dinner yesterday” “Yeah, a salad in the dressing room” I sighed and pushed my body to lay on his chest with my arms wrapped around his waist facing him. “Im sorry it was just a thought, I know your really tired” “Im sorry baby ill make It up to you, when I have a day off we can do whatever you want, I promise” He pulled my forearms up so he could kiss me ever so gently on the lips then across my cheeks to my temples. “So do you want Chinese takeout or Indian?”

The next morning was the rehearsal for the awards show which was tonight, and as usual the preparation is crazy. People running around grabbing the lights, seating arrangements, the routine of the awards, scheduled performances, and of course the celebrities that are there to rehearse. I sat in one of the seats in the audience waiting for to watch Harry’s sound check for tonight when I seen him walking out with six people running after him. He immediately was looking for me in the room and his eyes landed straight on me. I gave a wave and made my way to the front of the stage where the cameras sit. “Hey baby girl” He crouched down kissing me and sat back up. “Hey H, you excited for tonight?” “Yeah I am, ill be fine once the performance is over and I get to sit beside you” I could feel my cheeks burning as if the lights were glaring down heat onto my skin. “I love the way I can still make you blush” “Shut up Harry and get up there” I giggled as I swatted at his shoe giving a smile his way. “Your going to be here right?” “Where else would I be?” He kissed my hand and got up to the band to organise the performance for tonight. “Y/N” I heard a shout from the left of me. I turn around and see Ella, or as most people know her, Lorde, came running to me and greeted me with a hug. “Oh my gosh hey girl no time no see” I screamed when we hugged for more than too long, but not seeing her for ages it made up for lost time. Me and Ella were really good friends when we first got into the industry. We are both signed on the same label and we kind of grew together. But over time obviously with our different lives and fame we kind of grew apart, but of course we still are good friends. “Congrats on the big tour chick” “Aw thank you, I’m just glad that I now have time to see and spend time with Harry, he’s having so much fun and I’m so happy to see him happy” I giggled at her. Her face didn’t rocipacate. “Are you happy though?” “Of course I am why wouldn’t I be?” She pulled her arm out, initiating to take a seat beside her. “Look Y/N I know when your not happy about something, is it Harry?” “No no its not Harry at all” “Then what is it?” I took a deep breath, and just let it out to her. “I don’t know, I just feel like recently we haven’t been as close as what we were before he released his music. Dont get me wrong we are still close, but I mean, I hate to say this, but- I kinda feel like we are growing apart a little” She looked down at my hands that were clawing down my jeans, which might as well have holes in them at this point. “If that’s the way you feel then maybe you should talk to him about it” “Yeah” I look over to Harry that was talking to one of the guitar players in the band, showing him the certain chords on the guitar he wanted played. Looking at him I know I couldn’t do it to him, not here and not when the whole tour is happening. It was crush him. “No, I cant bring it up now, its just, theres too much going on right now” “Well, I do think you need to talk eventually” My gaze went straight back to Lorde, which she had a sympathetic smile to it. She does have a point, but right now, it needs to be shot to the back of my head. My main concern right now s supporting Harry tonight. The chords from Kiwi came on and my full attention went straight to him with the music going straight through my body.

A few hours later I was finally finished hair and makeup when I hear him coming into the room with a few other people talking about the show tonight. I looked at Lou that was telling me a story about Lux and how she has started to take an interest in makeup. “And I said to her no yeh cant use nail polish for eyeshadow, I nearly had a heart attack then” Her accent strong like Harry’s always made me feel more comforted, I’m not sure why. Was probably the accent, which is stupid, but its always the small things for me. “Baby you look beautiful” Harry came over with food in hand and pushed a kiss to my head while Lou was still trying to perfect it. “Harold get away, glam squad here, no boys aloud innit” My face srunched up with laughter seeing Harry’s reaction. “Fine Im leaving, in a huff” He flicked his imaginary hair and walked off to the door. “As long as your huffs over in an hour to come back so I can do your hair you can huff to your hearts content pet” The laughter coming out of me was nearly the worst laugh in history, but the way they get along just makes you want to piss your pants. “You guys are so funny together Lou” “I mean its a pure comical show so yeh cant really get it anywhere else can yeh?” We both giggled and I got up to make my way into get changed.

When we were close to the red carpet of the ARIA’s I start to see Harry tense up a litte beside me, which made my hand glide up his thigh. “Hey youll be fine” “I know love, just not a huge fan of the red carpet bit” “I know, that’s what I’m here for, remember?” My eyes looked up into his nervous ones, reading him is so easy, you just know what he is feeling just by looking at him. “Just keep your eyes on me, right?” “Right” I felt a small kiss to my cheek as I looked back to the window of the car. I sometimes think to myself how can I make him feel better, he should be used to this kind of stuff. He has been doing it longer than what I have been. But then again everyone doesn’t like any of their job do they?

The night went smoothly, no humps or hiccups with the whole night. His performance was outstanding as normal, and on top of that he won best international artist which is amazing. He never gives himself credit for what he has done and want he can do. But then again when I think of myself being an artist I never think that I’m perfect. “I’m so glad to be home, well, back to the hotel I guess” He chuckled as I went to set my bag down on the kitchen table and he look off his blazer. “Babe I have to say, if that skirt was any shorter, I could of easily slipped inside of you when you were sitting on my lap after the show, fuck you looked so hot tonight” His hands automatically went straight to the back of my thighs and rubbed there way up underneath my skirt, clutching my bum. I quickly turned around so his hands couldn’t get where they wanted to. I knew where this was going. “Oh so you want to do it now?” His breathes got deeper as his eyes trailed around my body, eyeing me up like a piece of candy. “Of course, love, I just wanna bend you over this table” His ring covered hands found their spot again straight to my bum, clutching it in his palms, giving me a good squeeze. “Baby you torture me” His eyes reverted back to mine, trying to read me. I wasn’t really feeling the whole atmosphere. Since I talked to Lorde it really got me thinking about us and this whole ‘problem’ if that’s what I even wanna call it. I need to bring this up now before its too late. “Harry, every time I wanna have sex you say your too tired, now you want to?” “Well, yeah, why wouldn’t I?” His eyes gave out confusion that set to my lips then back to my eyes. “Look Harry, I really need to talk to you” I pulled his hands away from my bum and pushed him away to I could look at him properly. “Y/N, are you okay love?” He leaned on the chair that was sitting in front of him, waiting for me to make a coherent sentence that didn’t seem too stupid. How can I even start this conversation. “Harry, I feel like recently, this between us, well, they aren’t the way they used to be before” His face grew puzzled at my statement, never taking his eyes off of me. “I feel like somethings not right here, with us, is there something wrong with us?” “Of course there isn’t baby girl, I mean all couples kinda go through this I guess, but there is nothing wrong with us” He started to make his way back to me and I pulled myself back to the same distance that we were in before. I didn’t want him thinking that this conversation was over when it was just getting started. I didn’t want to brush off this conversation for the sake of not getting into a fight. I hate confrontation but this just needs to be said to him. “Harry I’m not happy. Im not happy that the fact that when I bring up something to do or something that I want to do that you always brush it off to the side and not make it a big deal. Like the few times that ive asked you to come with me and have a romantic meal or go for a walk, or even just to get coffee and spend some alone time together before you have a show. Look I know that you have the tour and I know that it can be stressful. But I’m here too, I know that I’m here for you to support you but I’m here, I need some Harry time to myself, and not with other people around shouting at you one million things.” His face just sat there, emotionless. He had no vibes coming from him, which is never a good thing when it comes to Harry. Not being able to ready him makes me think did I do the right thing and even bring this up?

“We do have alone time, when I come home from a show and we cuddle in bed with a dvd” “Harry that’s not spending time with someone, that’s just laying down before bed. We aren’t talking, we are just laying there until we fall asleep. That’s not being with each other” “Well in my eyes that counts for something” “Well in my eyes it doesn’t” The air in the room gets thicker and the tension starts to rise. “I feel like your not trying anymore H. I gave up my whole life to be here with you when I could have been at home right now” “Oh please, don’t give me this guilt bullshit” “I could have been writing songs for another album, and gee I don’t know, spending time with my family?” “So to get your own way in this fight you want to make me feel bad about you coming out here with me and throwing that back in my face?” “Oh so now its an arugment?” “Did you really think that this was going to be a good and smooth conversation Y/N?” His voice raised to a scary tone as he started to walk across to the other side of the kitchen. “I don’t know what you want me to do Y/N, just say to everyone ‘hey I wanna spend time with my girlfriend so I’m going to cancel a few shows here and there. Its not like that you know, I cant just take time off when I want it. This is my job. I am exhausted” “Harry I’m not asking you to give up tour dates for me, I’m asking you to make an hour just for us. Im not asking for a whole day. Even just a dinner, or something. But your not even trying, I feel like I’m the one that’s only trying here” I walked to the side of the sofa and sat down on it, looking down at my hands as the tears streamed down my face. “I feel as if you don’t love me anymore Harry” “What the fuck kind of statement is that? If I didn’t love you anymore, I wouldn’t care where you would go, I wouldn’t care if you were here or not, I wouldn’t give two fucks about you” My blood started to boil again and I got up to face his red complextion. “If you even fucking cared about me and our relationship we shouldn’t be even having this conversation. Im only asking for one fucking hour of your time, to actually spend time with your 4 year long girlfriend. Thats not a lot I’m asking here since your the one that’s asking for my full 24 hour time. You asked me to come with you not me” “And you said yes, you didn’t have to say yes, you could have easily said that you wanted to spend time with your family because I would have understood” “No Harry I wanted to come with you because I thought that it would have been an experience that I wouldn’t ever want to forget, to be with my boyfriend and to travel the world and see things that I didn’t see when I was alone” A small silence stilled as we took in what was said in the space of ten minutes. “I was thinking of the things that we could have been doing, as a couple. Making our relationship stronger” His face never left the ground, with his hands clasped around the sides of the marble designed island made me see that this was getting to him. I never thought that this conversation would have gotten this far. But it goes to show that he really didn’t think about it. I walked up to him and stood right in front of him and forced him to look at me. “How many times did you come out to see me when I was touring and you were away making your album?” “Dont pull this bullsh-“ “How many times did you come out to see me when I was touring and you were away making your album?” I repeated with a more stern tone to it. I needed to get him to see what was really going on, but it still wasn’t clicking. “Once” He mumbled with his face hung to the ground; keeping his face away from mine. “How many times?” I asked him to repeated it. “Once” His voice raised as he looked up at me. “Yeah, once out of 32 shows. That just proves my point, I’m done with this conversation” I started to walk away from him and he grabbed my arm with great force to stop me in my tracks. “Dont just walk away from this when you think your done, its not done here” “Right okay, lets keep fighting the same fight. If that’s what will get you to see it then please ill be happy to” I pulled my arms away from his grasp and folded my arms looking directly at him. “Y/N, if you really think that I don’t care, and brought you out here to waste your time, or just use you for comfort from home, then maybe you should leave and go home. Because to the quite honest with you, this attitude, is really getting on my last nerve” The attitude that was streaming from his body language was something I never thought I would see coming from him. He started to walk away into the kitchen when of course I followed him, with a lot more coming into mind. I wanted to make sure I didn’t forget anything that I had planned to say in my head. “I try so much for you Harry and your the one that throws it in my face. You really think that I’m giving you attitude? Yeah actually, maybe I am, because its the only way to get it through your thick skull that is whole thing is ruining our relationship” “Eh no actually Y/N because this whole relationship was fine until tonight” “You thought that it was a fine relationship” Once again a silence broke through the room waiting for someone to say something. I knew if I needed to explain more to him about us then it wasn’t even worth trying anymore. “Harry I shouldn’t have to explain to you if I’m happy. You should know that. You cant be this great guy int he public eye and then be a complete dick behind closed doors. Your either one person or the other, which is it? I fell in love with the nice charming guy that would do anything to be with me, and treat me with respect and treat me like no other guy would treat me. But that guy isn’t there anymore. I cant wait for him” I couldn’t keep my tears back looking at him. I was standing there pouring my heart out to him and he just stood there, facing me, watching me, looking right through me. Maybe I’m starting to break him. “I love you Harry. Not the guy that’s standing in front of me right now, but the guy that I met 4 years ago” I started to walk into the bedroom across the hall and slammed the door shut behind me. Thats when I broke, so hard. I held it in for so long trying to be strong to get everything out, and now that its out in the open, I kinda feel glad that I said it, but also regret it. Im thinking back to an hour ago and just thinking I should have just had sex with him and it would have been a good night. But it would ave just been me prolonging the enevitable.

Once I calmed myself down I decided to get myself back to our house in London to give us some space because at this point I think that’s all we need. I made sure that all of my stuff from travelling around was in my suitcase and zipped it up. I looked around the room and to Harry’s suitcase. Just knowing that I cant look for one of his graphic t shirts to wear to bed just made my heart break, but I know that doing this will help make him see that I’m serious about this.

I made my way down the halls trailing my suitcases at hand with the phone to my ear talking to the driver, and I seen Harry sitting on the sofa looking straight my direction. “Okay thank you, ill see you in 5” I hung up the phone and tried to ignore the fact that Harry was sitting watching me as I made my way to the door. “Y/N” He jumped up off of the sofa and hit his hand off of the door so I couldn’t open it. “Why are you doing this, why are you leaving?” “If you cant see that this is our main problem, I cant help you. We both need time to think about this” I grab the door handle and harry pulled it away. “Need time to think about what? Y/N we can talk about this and we can figure this out” His eyes began to fill up with tears. “Harry I cant sit here and pretend that everything’s okay when its not. I cant do this relationship if its one sided, its either we work 50/50 or I’m done” I pulled his hand away from the door handle and walked out the door with my suitcases. As I walk down the hallway I hear the faint noises of a scream and a loud smash coming from our room; hearing what this is doing to him just is breaking me into two, making me think that is this the right thing I’m doing. But what is breaking my heart each time I took a step, he wasn’t chasing me.

[talabib]

How To Stop Being Average And Start Being Awesome

If you’re tired of being like everyone else and are ready to start being awesome, the following describes a path to get you there. Importantly, you’ll learn how to get past the most difficult block to your amazing new life’s journey

You will also find out how to overcome the fear that holds you back from living your dreams and start your own personal journey to being awesome!

Escape the average and become awesome by punching your fear in the face.

Do you dream of escaping the average? Do you want to become awesome and exceptional, but don’t know where to start? Here’s a tip: If you want to become awesome, you have to punch fear in the face.

Fear can alienate you from your dreams. It goes without saying that you shouldn’t let it, but to beat fear, you have to understand how it works. Fear prevents you from chasing your dreams by convincing you that they’re impractical or unattainable.

But don’t buy into that kind of defeatist thinking. Instead, write down your fears and then exaggerate them ridiculously, to show yourself how silly those fears actually are.

For example, if you’re afraid that starting a new project will cause you to lose your job and stay unemployed, write that down. And then let yourself go farther. Imagine you’ll end up on the street with a scraggly beard, sleeping on top of garbage bags and talking to stray cats. Does that seem likely? Probably not, which is why you need to write it down. That way you can see how illogical your fears really are, and thus prevent them from controlling you.

Luckily, there’s one more effective way to deal with fear’s mind games: Just start doing whatever you’re scared of. You have no control over the eventual result, but that won’t ever change. You’ll never know how things will end up, but at least you can control the outset. If you want to do something, do it!

For example, consider the Segway. When it was first introduced, people thought it might spark a transportation revolution. And yet, since its launch the Segway hasn’t been such a great success. Still, the Segway people deserve respect. They risked failure and pursued their awesome dream of developing weird, two-wheeled electric transporters.

Be realistic about where you are now, but dream big to figure out where you want to go.

If you want to be awesome, you have to get comfortable with tension. You have to be a realist and a dreamer, practical and impractical, logical and illogical – all at the same time.

To start your journey, you need to find out which parts of your life feel average. Do this by examining key areas of your life – social, intellectual, professional – and writing down which ones you want to improve.

Here’s where the tension comes in. Although you should dream big, it’s also important to be realistic. List current debts, responsibilities (are you a husband, a father, a coach?) and assets (university degrees or social connections) that would affect your ability to pursue your dream.

For example, Gary wanted to start an ad agency with a friend. They agreed to build a website for their first client, a church. After a few months of effort, Gary faced some tough realities: He had no idea how to run a business. Also, he’d never built a website before, and neither he nor his partner had any programming skills. In the end, they decided to quit the project and refund the church.

What went wrong here? Well, Gary’s thought had been wildly unrealistic. Learn from his mistakes. Your current reality doesn’t have to be a cage, but it is a jumping-off point. If Gary had been realistic about his lack of experience, maybe he would have started a smaller project and managed to complete it successfully.

Still, acknowledging your reality shouldn’t prevent you from dreaming big! Write down every crazy dream you have – even if you’ve never played an instrument, but want to rock a major festival. Next to your dreams, write down a list of first steps that could get you there. Then pick one and get going!

Stop waiting around to find your purpose in life and start living with purpose instead.

What is it with people needing to find their purpose? Most people use finding their purpose as a smokescreen to avoid doing anything.

Don’t be like them: Forget about finding a purpose. Think about all the pressure you put on yourself when you say that you want to find your one and only, true reason for being. That much pressure is going to prevent you from doing anything, much less what you were meant to do.

This is especially important advice if you’re young. Many teenagers and twenty-somethings freak out because they haven’t figured out a life path. They shouldn’t worry.

Scientists believe that our brains continue developing well into our twenties, so how is a not-yet-fully-formed teenager or a fresh college graduate supposed to figure out a purpose to guide the rest of his or her life?

Besides, waiting around until you find your purpose later will only prevent you from living with purpose today. So stop waiting for some big epiphany. Wherever you happen to be now, start living with purpose.

When you go to work, for instance, do it with purpose: Write those thank-you notes for employees and colleagues by hand today.

Love your partner with purpose: Buy tickets for a show you’ll both enjoy, and make dinner reservations for your favorite restaurant beforehand.

You can even vacation with purpose by only checking your email once a day. Do you really need to be available for emergencies around the clock? Instead of living for someone else, take your vacation into your own hands!

Try many new things to gain experience.

How do you get to the magical land of awesomeness? There are five steps, and the first one is all about learning – that is, trying many different things and gaining experience. After all, how can you know what you want to do if you haven’t tried a bunch of different things?

Think about it like this: When a scientific experiment fails, the scientist isn’t deemed a failure. We understand that even if the experiment didn’t work, the scientist still learned something valuable.

This gradual learning process is what allows people to become awesome. After all, no one is born an expert.

Consider Tiger Woods: He won the Masters when he was only 21 years old. That might seem young, but remember, he had been practicing for 18 years to get to that point!

So, to start the learning process, ask yourself this question: If you died tomorrow, what would you most regret having never done? Are you doing that thing now? Why not? And then just start doing it! But start small. For example, if you want to learn Chinese, find 30 minutes a week to sit down and get a feel for the basics.

Studies have shown that taking these kinds of small steps will prevent you from getting exhausted and giving up. Take Roy Baumeister’s famous 1998 experiment. Participants were divided into two groups – one group had permission to eat delicious cookies and the other was only allowed radishes.

Then both groups were given a tricky geometry exercise. The group that had eaten cookies made a concerted effort to solve the puzzle; meanwhile, the group that was only allowed radishes quickly gave up, because they had used up all their willpower denying themselves cookies..

Stay away from things that wont bring you joy

Now that you’ve mastered the art of learning, you have to focus on something. This second stage of success is all about editing your life.

As we’ve seen, learning is all about trying many different things. In fact, learning is a way of gaining possibilities and options. Unfortunately, you can’t be an expert in everything. So start editing: Look at all the different things you’ve learned, and then choose one you want to develop.

For example, if you have a passion both for writing and for giving speeches, you have to decide which skill you want to spend more time developing. The other one you can pursue as a hobby, or come back to it later in your life. In fact, make your own “later list” with possible future paths.

But in the meantime, ask yourself: What gives you the most joy? It’s important to phrase the question exactly that way.

Normally, we ask different kinds of questions – we ask result questions: What will earn us more money? Which industries are growing? Where does my experience lie?

And although these are important questions, asking them isn’t the right way to start. Just because certain jobs will allow you to earn money doesn’t mean they’ll deliver you to the magical land of awesomeness.

That’s because being awesome means doing something that inspires you. And once you’ve figured out what does, you’ll have plenty of jobs from which to choose.

For example, let’s say that you’ve edited your life and realized that you absolutely love sharing ideas. You can apply this in so many ways: You could become a blogger, an author, a podcast host, a counselor or a copywriter.

Whatever it is that you want to learn, just start working on it. And if halfway through, you realize that it’s not your way to awesome, simply edit it and move on to the next thing!

Build your expertise and ignore the haters in the way.

Now that you’ve figured out what you want to focus on, it’s time to take the next step, to mastery. The trick is to start simple. Volunteer somewhere; that is, trade your time for expertise. You’ll need to do this in order to get better at whatever you’re passionate about.

For example, if you want to become an awesome blogger, start by checking out and commenting on a lot of different blogs. Eventually, you can offer to write guests posts for free. This will allow you to improve your blogging skills while simultaneously connecting with the blogging community.

The first step? Create a list of people who are already doing what you’d like to do. How did they get where they are? What schools did they go to? What books have they read? What can you do to follow in their footsteps?

Next, prepare yourself for the inevitable feedback you’ll get as you pursue your passion. This is crucial, because no matter who you are or what you’re working on, you’ll encounter haters. Thus, you’ll need to understand the difference between sheer hatred and constructive criticism.Constructive criticism is there to help you improve; hatred, on the other hand, is just meant to hurt you.

Once you’ve identified hatred, you can deal with it by asking yourself two questions:

Where did the hurtful comment come from? If it’s from a stranger, especially online, let it go. You probably wouldn’t tolerate it if a random person yelled at you in real life; why would you listen to a stranger online?

Why did they say it? Just thinking about the other person’s perspective might allow you to feel better. Sometimes haters simply want attention; other times, they’re lashing out because they’re struggling with something in their own life.

When the finish line is in sight, it’s crucial to stay focused and not lose momentum.

Harvest all the great things you’ve been working on.

This is actually a tricky time, because the closer you get to something, the more you realize how much is still left to do. Deal with any loss of motivation by creating small finish lines for yourself. That way you’ll reach a goal each week and keep the momentum going.

For example, writing a book can take months. The best way to tackle such a big project is to divide the work into chapters, each with its own deadline. Alternately, you can set a goal with the number of words you want to write each day or each week. When you meet these smaller goals, you’ll stay motivated to keep going.

It’s also important to keep your focus. Once you start reaching big goals, people around you might tell you to start aiming for more. This can be an enticing message. For example, if you’ve started a business that’s not earning a profit, “more” could mean making your venture profitable.

But be skeptical. Whenever someone encourages you to pursue “more,” ask them why you should. Think of the entrepreneur who sacrifices time with his family to chase ever-bigger profits. Is he really so awesome? Figure out what matters to you, and stick to it.

To stay on track, think about what you did to get to this stage and figure out what’s no longer necessary for your path. For example, if you’ve started a blog, you probably spent a lot of energy attracting followers at first. Maybe you spent lots of time commenting on other people’s blogs to draw people to your site.

Well, now that your blog is popular in its own right, you don’t have to spend so much time commenting on other people’s sites. Instead, dedicate yourself to delivering what your readers want.

Share the love and help people on their own way to awesome.

Now that you’ve found something you love, you can guide others to follow their own version of the path. As it turns out, helping other people is incredibly satisfying.

How does this process work? Well, guiding others starts with a conversation. When you’re helping someone, it’s not about you, so ask questions! The only way to give good guidance is to be a good listener, so practice asking questions and listening to what people say.

To ensure you actually stick to the guiding path, connect it to something that’s already important in your life. For example, Tom and his friend sought mutual guidance from each other. They tried to meet for breakfast regularly, but they were both too busy, and only managed to see each other sporadically. Then they realized they both like to work out, so they decided to start going to the gym together. Now they meet, chat and guide each other three times a week, while they’re working out.

Guiding is great, but don’t get stuck doing only that. Always look for aspects of your own life that you want to develop, and then go all the way back to step one – to the learning stage – and start the journey to awesomeness all over again.

For example, let’s say you improved your career prospects and training, and finally landed a fantastic new job. Congrats! But don’t let your success make you lazy. Remember the “later list” you made during the editing stage? Pick something you haven’t done yet and get to it. Now’s the time to start!

You can stop being average and start being awesome, but first you have to know where to start. It’s all about overcoming your fear, living with purpose and following these five steps : learning new skills, editing to find your passion, mastering an expertise, harvesting the results and then guiding others.

[umnachtung]

Finally, a real fucking survey

1. What’s the last thing you ate? bread buns with cheddar and ham and a croissant filled with nougat

2. What’s your favourite cheese? cheddar

3. What’s your favourite fish?

trout, i believe

4. What’s your favourite fruit? 

Raspberry?

5. When, if ever, did you start liking olives?

Pretty early on. With 12 or so?

6. When, if ever, did you start liking beer?

I don’t exactly like beer all that much.

7. When, if ever, did you start liking shellfish? in my teens.

8. What was the best thing your mum/dad/guardian used to make? pasta with vegetable and trout sauce

9. What’s the native specialty of your hometown? Döner

10. What’s your comfort food? soft pretzels (?)

11. What’s your favourite type of chocolate? peanut butter chocolate

12. How do you like your steak? rare.

13. How do you like your burger?

juicy? uhh... meat shouldnt be dry. i take it with all ingredients except for onions.

14. How do you like your eggs?

scrambled -> same

15. How do you like your potatoes? 

as puree.

16. How do you take your coffee? the weakest cappuccino or latte,with sugar

17. How do you take your tea? Black and green tea with milk and sugar, usually.

18. What’s your favourite mug? I have too many, but probably my batman mug and seal mug.

19. What’s your biscuit or cookie of choice?

spice biscuit.

20. What’s your ideal breakfast? bread rolls, several cheeses and meats to put on, some veggies and fruits for snacking

21. What’s your ideal sandwich? cheddar, salad(chicory), butter

22. What’s your ideal pizza: spicy salami + mozzarella

23. What’s your ideal pie (sweet or savoury)? blueberry pie

24. What’s your ideal salad? white beans, tomato, onion, mint(`?) and lemon juice, salt+pepper 25. What food do you always like to have in the fridge? cheese

26. What food do you always like to have in the freezer? idk, bread?

27. What food do you always like to have in the cupboard? Muesli

28. What spices can you not live without? cumin, bay leaf, garlic 

29. What sauces can you not live without? uuuhhh... tomato sauce?

30. Where do you buy most of your food? real, edeka

31. How often do you go food shopping? once a week

33. What’s the most expensive piece of kitchen equipment you own? not really owning but i think the espresso machine

34. What’s the last piece of equipment you bought for your kitchen? I never bought anything for this kitchen.

35. What piece of kitchen equipment could you not live without? electric kettle

36. How many times a week/month do you cook from raw ingredients? 3 - 4 times a week 37. What’s the last thing you cooked from raw ingredients? 

rice with chicken in curry, peanutbutter and coconut sauce with  Kaffir lime leaf 38. What meats have you eaten besides cow, pig and poultry? deer, rabbit, lamb

39. What’s the last time you ate something that had fallen on the floor? probably a couple of days ago, idk what it was.

40. What’s the last time you ate something you’d picked in the wild?

The wild is a bit stretched but I used to snack on black berries that grown in a park nearby.

41. Arrange the following in order of preference: Italian, Mexican, Chinese, Indian, Thai, Sushi –

Italian, Indian, Thai, Chinese, Sushi. Mexican (mostly because i never really had many dishes from there so  i cant quite compare)

42. Arrange the following in order of preference: Vodka, Whiskey, Brandy, Rum – Whiskey, Brandy, Rum, Vodka (I think i hate everything here except whiskey) 43. Arrange the following in order of preference: Garlic, Basil, Caramel, Lime, Mint, Ginger, Aniseed – Garlic, Lime, Ginger, Mint, Caramel, Aniseed, Basil

44. Arrange the following in order of preference: Pineapple, Orange, Apple, Strawberry, Cherry, Watermelon, Banana. – Orange, Strawberry, Cherry, Watermelon, Apple, Banana, Pineapple

45. Bread and spread: grey bread or whole wheat bread with plum jam 

46. What’s your fast food restaurant of choice, and what do you usually order? None, I would rather grab a Döner.

47. Pick a city. What are the best dining experiences you’ve had in that city? Camiore in Italy, really good pizza and it was like take out pizza.

48. What’s your choice of tipple at the end of a long day? none. I would rather have tea.

49. What’s the next thing you’ll eat? pasta with bolognese sauce

50. Are you hungry now? surprisingly not.

51. Do you eat your breakfast everyday? no, I usually have tea.

52. At what time do you have breakfast? Too late for most people to call it breakfast.

53. At what time do you have lunch? Never.

54. What do you have for lunch? Nothing, I usually snack some bread and cheese??

55. At what time do you have dinner? 5 - 7 pm

56. What do you have for dinner? self cooked meals

57. Do you light candles during dinner? sometimes.

58. How many chairs are there in your dining room and who sits in the main chair?  3 and my mother sits in the best seat since you can overlook the kitchen from it. strategically  best seat.

59. Do you eat and drink using your right hand or the left one? left

61. Mention the veggies that you like most: Zucchini, Pak Choi, Cucumber, Beetroot

62. What fruit and vegetable do you like the least? cabbages and pineapple.

63. You like your fruit salad to have more: I dont have fruit salad tbh.

64. You prefer your vegetable salad to contain more: mozzarella : P

65. What’s your favourite sandwich spread? butter...

66. What’s your favourite chocolate bar? Wunderbar

67. What’s your favourite dessert? cheesecake

68. What’s your favourite drink? most juices with spritzer, black tea with milk and sugar

69. What’s your favourite snack? baby needs snack, snack of cleaner. uuuh.... chips

70. What’s your favourite bubble gum flavour? I don’t like bubble gum -> same

71. What’s your favourite ice cream flavour? berry mix, lime,  mango

72. What’s your favourite potato chip flavour? salt and vinegar

73. What’s your favourite soup? greek rice chicken soup

74. What’s your favourite pizza? spicy everything you wont finish it because its too spicy pizza...

75. What’s your favourite type of dish? IDK something with all the right flavors but not making you feel like you just ate a cement block afterwards

76. What food do you hate? most German cuisines with cabbage and ugly brown sauce, roulades

77. What’s your favourite restaurant? None.

78. Do you eat homemade food, or food delivered from outside? homemade.

80. Who cooks at home? Mom, Dad, Me

81. What kind of diet (e.g. low-fat, high-fiber, high-carbohydrate, balanced diet etc.) do you have? I dont have a diet. I just eat whatever i want to.

82. How do you keep yourself fit? I dont.

[suckitsurveys]

1. What’s the last thing you ate? Overnight oats with peanut butter and banana.

2. What’s your favourite cheese? Goat and cheddar.

3. What’s your favourite fish? Catfish, if crab doesn’t count as a fish.

4. What’s your favourite fruit? Pomegranates, watermelon, pineapple, bananas.

5. When, if ever, did you start liking olives? I don’t remember? I never liked the Kalamamamamama olives they have in greek salads, but I love black olives and green olives with pimento. That was always on my dad’s go-to tray of appetizers when we’d have Christmas at our house. 3 kinds of olives, some cheese, and salami or whatever. I always ate the green and black olives from there. I also like green olives stuffed with other things too, like bleu cheese or garlic.

6. When, if ever, did you start liking beer? I only like some beers really. I think I’ve been conditioned to like it at baseball games because my dad does, haha.

7. When, if ever, did you start liking shellfish? My whole life dude. When my parents would go out to dinner with us when we were little, they always just gave us stuff from there plates to eat. So if someone had lobster or crab legs or shrimp I would too.

8. What was the best thing your mom/dad/guardian used to make? My dad makes KILLER bleu cheese dressing. I could eat that shit with a spoon it’s SO GOOD. He also makes amazing spaghetti sauce and is pretty good at getting popcorn perfect everytime. My mom used to make really good beef stew, and her famous potatoes and eggs fr dinner. She also made the BEST potato salad, and that recipe has been handed down to me. Everyone claims it’s amazing, but I still think she made it better.

9. What’s the native specialty of your hometown? Deep dish pizza, hot dogs, beef sandwiches, caramel and cheese popcorn.

10. What’s your comfort food? Everything.

11. What’s your favourite type of chocolate? Milk chocolate. With caramel. 12. How do you like your steak? Medium rare.

13. How do you like your burger? Medium rare.

14. How do you like your eggs? In omelet form.

15. How do you like your potatoes? I ain’t got no type.

16. How do you take your coffee? I don‘t, really.

17. How do you take your tea? Green.

18. What’s your favourite mug? The one I use most often is just a plain red one that I got from Home Goods because it came with a tea infuser.

19. What’s your biscuit or cookie of choice? Sugar cookies. My favorite ones are actually those Pillsbury pre-made-dough ones you break off and bake. I also love Oreos.

20. What’s your ideal breakfast? Lox and bagels.

21. What’s your ideal sandwich? ^. Or tuna on any bread.

22. What’s your ideal pizza: Very saucy, lightly cheesy, with pepperoni and black olives.

23. What’s your ideal pie (sweet or savoury)? Cheesecake. <– Same, and it’s been waaaay too long since I last had a good piece of cheesecake. <----CHEESECAKE IS NOT PIE YOU HEATHENS, IT’S CAKE. Anyway, pumpkin pie has been my go to since I was a baby.

24. What’s your ideal salad? I don’t really have an “ideal” salad, but I like spinach salads with various toppings.

25. What food do you always like to have in the fridge? Hmm. Eggs, soy milk, condiments and marinades, sriracha, pickles, olives, cheese, water.

26. What food do you always like to have in the freezer? Ice. :P And frozen dinners for Mark. We don’t buy a ton of frozen stuff.

27. What food do you always like to have in the cupboard? Oatmeal, Ramen and other soups, pasta, rice, flour, breadcrumbs, olive oil and other oils, tea.

28. What spices can you not live without? Celery salt, red pepper, and cilantro. And of course salt and pepper.

29. What sauces can you not live without? Sriracha.

30. Where do you buy most of your food? Jewel-Osco. We might start shopping at Aldi for boxed and bagged goods. I don’t trust meat and produce from there though.

31. How often do you go food shopping? Twice a week. Once on Sunday to get lunch things and snacks for the week and dinners for that night, Monday, and Tuesday, and then Wednesday just for dinner things for that night, Thursday, Friday, and Saturday.

33. What’s the most expensive piece of kitchen equipment you own? I mean, probably the fridge or stove? We don’t really own those though? Sooooo the food processor?

34. What’s the last piece of equipment you bought for your kitchen? It’s been a while since we’ve actuall bought something for the kitchen. A lot of our stuff is hand-me-downs or wedding gifts. So probably something from when we first moved in and needed basic things like plates and silverware.

35. What piece of kitchen equipment could you not live without? Probably most of them? Like we need the fridge and stove for obvious reasons, so I guess next to that, the microwave?

36. How many times a week/month do you cook from raw ingredients? We try to almost every night.

37. What’s the last thing you cooked from raw ingredients? Chicken and spinach last night, unless overnight oats count, which I made shortly after that to eat this morning.

38. What meats have you eaten besides cow, pig and poultry? I’ve had lamb, duck, goat, alligator, buffalo, and ostrich. Well I guess duck and ostrich are poultry?? Oh and a shit ton of seafood too since that wasn’t listed in the question. Way too much to name.

39. What’s the last time you ate something that had fallen on the floor? Yesterday. I ate a chip that fell in sand oops. Haha.

40. What’s the last time you ate something you’d picked in the wild? Uh, I mean, we have a veggie and herb garden in our yard. I packed some cucumbers and tomatoes from there for lunch today.

41. Arrange the following in order of preference: Italian, Mexican, Chinese, Indian, Thai, Sushi – Sushi, Thai, and Mexican are tied for first. Then Italian, Indian, Chinese.

42. Arrange the following in order of preference: Vodka, Whiskey, Brandy, Rum – Rum, Vodka, Whiskey, Brandy.

43. Arrange the following in order of preference: Garlic, Basil, Caramel, Lime, Mint, Ginger, Aniseed – I have no idea what aniseed is, but the rest are all tied.

44. Arrange the following in order of preference: Pineapple, Orange, Apple, Strawberry, Cherry, Watermelon, Banana. – Watermelon, pineapple, banana, strawberry, orange, apple, cherry.

45. Bread and spread: Um. My favorite bread is garlic bread, if that’s what you’re asking.

46. What’s your fast food restaurant of choice, and what do you usually order? Popeye’s. I get chicken strips and Cajun fries. If they are having some promotional thing with the strips I’ll probably get that.

47. Pick a city. What are the best dining experiences you’ve had in that city? Any city and any restaurant that has crab legs is a good dinning experience in my mind.

48. What’s your choice of tipple at the end of a long day? What the hell is a tipple?

49. What’s the next thing you’ll eat? Lunch. I made tuna and have cucumbers and tomatoes to eat with it. I brought bread too but I probably wont end up eating that.

50. Are you hungry now? I’m a little hungry.

51. Do you eat your breakfast everyday? Yes. I have oatmeal or cereal every day.

52. At what time do you have breakfast? When I work, it’s sometime after 7am. On weekends, it’s whenever I get up.

53. At what time do you have lunch? 11:30am on weekdays, whenever on weekened.

54. What do you have for lunch? I mentioned this above.

55. At what time do you have dinner? around 7.

56. What do you have for dinner? Obviously different things every night? Tonight’s dinner is up in the air because my cousin is coming in from Hawaii and we are staying with my dad so my he will most likely order takeout.

57. Do you light candles during dinner? No.

58. How many chairs are there in your dining room and who sits in the main chair? We don’t have a dining room in our apartment. We have a kick ass coffee table that pulls up to dining-table height and we eat on the couch at that.

59. Do you eat and drink using your right hand or the left one? I eat with my right and I don’t have a hand preference with my drinks.

61. Mention the veggies that you like most: Spinach, asparagus, zucchini, butternut squash.

62. What fruit and vegetable do you like the least? Apparently fennel is a vegetable, so that. And water chestnuts if that’s a veggie too. My least favorite fruit is blackberries and raspberries.

63. You like your fruit salad to have more: Watermelon.

64. You prefer your vegetable salad to contain more: Uh. Cucumbers, I guess? Is a vegetable salad just raw veggies thrown together?

65. What’s your favourite sandwich spread? Peanut butter, I guess?

66. What’s your favourite chocolate bar? Butterfingers.

67. What’s your favourite dessert? Brownies or cheesecake.

68. What’s your favourite drink? Root beer. Preferably Barq’s.

69. What’s your favourite snack? Chips and guac or salsa, popcorn, Goldfish crackers, Cheez-its, Chex mix.

70. What’s your favourite bubble gum flavour? WATERMELON BUBBLICIOUS. I haven’t had that in a hot minute.

71. What’s your favourite ice cream flavour? Salted Caramel Butter Pecan. Only one brand makes it. I haven’t seen it in a while though.

72. What’s your favourite potato chip flavour? Sour cream and cheddar.

73. What’s your favourite soup? Potato. Egg lemon. Lobster bisque.

74. What’s your favourite pizza? Deep dish from Lou’s, thin crust from Marie’s, and 8-corner pan pizza from Jet’s.

75. What’s your favourite type of dish? Seafood dishes.

76. What food do you hate? I’ve kinda mentioned these throughout this survey. There’s not much I dislike.

77. What’s your favourite restaurant? Any place with crab legs.

78. Do you eat homemade food, food delivered from outside? Both.

80. Who cooks at home? Mark usually.

81. What kind of diet (e.g. low-fat, high-fiber, high-carbohydrate, balanced diet etc.) do you have? I try to balance it.

82. How do you keep yourself fit? I work out every day. I’m by no means “fit” yet, but I am getting there.

[realbackpacking-blog]

First Stop - Melbourne

So we arrived in Melbourne following a 21 hour flight from London Heathrow with a 3 hour stop over at Guangzhou, China. We flew with China Southern and booked through Omega Flight Store. Although we had read some terrible reviews about Omega, everything went as planned and was exactly what was sold to us by the company. The flight cost us £518 and we were all impressed by the service and comfort on China Southern as we had read very mixed reviews. The food catered to both Chinese and Western taste, the cabin crew were attentive and there was a good choice of inflight entertainment. However, the worst part of our journey was undoubtedly the stopover in Guangzhou; the airport was dull and appeared dirty, even though it had apparently been recently 'refurbished'. There was a very limited choice of shops and places to eat (literally two restaraunts) and people didn't seem bothered about coughing in our faces. When we finally touched down in Melbourne everything was quick and easy; passport control can be done electronically via a number of machines which airport staff directed us to. We filled out our landing cards on the plane and just handed these in as we entered Australia. The airport was easy to get around and our bags came out quite quickly. We then made our way through to the arrivals where we found a pay phone to call Base hostel in St Kilda in order for them to provide us with a code for our transfer bus. Everything went smoothly and Base directed us to the bus stop (although we did end up walking 10 minutes in the wrong direction), the main bus stops are directly in front of the Arrivals- just across the road from the terminal. As we had paid STA Travel £250 for our travel starter package which included our first week of accommodation, transfers, wifi, breakfast, tax file number, Australian bank account and Australian SIM card, there was little for us to worry about when we arrived at Base. The transfer took about 45 minutes and we couldn't check in our room until 2pm; so we left our backpacks in Base's luggage storage and headed for McDonald's (or in Australian 'maccas'). After sampling the local cuisine - cheese and bacon fries with a frozen Coke - which cost about $7, we took the short stroll back to Base. Base Melbourne was a great hostel, pretty clean and spacious, our room had an ensuite bathroom and all bunk beds came with a large drawer underneath which we were able to lock with our backpack padlocks. Although we attempted St Kilda beach for a couple of hours after checking in, the jet lag soon slapped us in the face and we were off to bed for a 12 hour nap. Waking up at 5am wasn't too bad at Base as we were able to grab a drink and a snack from the vending machines and wander downstairs to the chill out area which is equipped with large comfy sofas and a TV. After a couple of hours down there and having used our wifi to FaceTime our families, we made our way up to the bar around 7ish for breakfast. We were impressed. On the first morning I ate probably about 6 pieces of toast with butter and marmalade, 2 bowls of cereal (one with yoghurt), saw off 2 or 3 coffees and 4 orange juices. Although there is no hot food included in the breakfast, it is all you can eat and mainly carb based so a good way to bloat yourself out and save some money on food if you're on a budget. I wont go through our activities day by day while in St Kilda but I will try to mention everything that may not be necessarily interesting but definitely helpful for fellow backpackers. The main theme of our first week in Melbourne was jet lag! We just assumed that we would be over it within 3 or 4 days, but looking back on our time in St Kilda, I'm pretty sure we were some sort of jet lagged for the whole 2 weeks that we were there. However, it didn't stop us from exploring as much of Melbourne as we could on our budget. Just to make this easier to read I'll break the next parts down into sections... St Kilda St Kilda is a vibrant beachside town which thrives on it's ever growing backpacking community. There's plenty to see and do on a backpacking budget, however, what I will tell you is only of my own short stay in St Kilda. Having spoken to a few of the locals we learned that St Kilda used to be quite a rough place to live; although it doesn't appear so anymore; you can still see the remnants of what it used to be like near to St Kilda Junction leading off Fitrozy Street. The first thing you'll notice when arriving in St Kilda is how different their way of life is compared to ours back home. Almost everyone seems to be into their fitness, whether its using one of the outdoor gyms in the parks, running, cycling (everyone in Melbourne seems to cycle EVERYWHERE), swimming, paddle boarding (SUP) or kite surfing. To accompany this healthy lifestyle are a number of smoothie bars, sushi bars, vegan cafes and general takeaway joints offering various salad boxes for around $10. Don't get me wrong, if you want to be fat and unhealthy St Kilda will cater for that too. There's a Maccas (Mc Donald's) just a 5 minute walk from the beach, a number of patisseries selling amazing but calorie filled cakes and pastries; along with a number of fast food takeaways on Fitzroy street; usually offering a burger, chips and a drink for $10 or $12. To accompany the food, St Kilda boasts a number of bars and restaurants which are reasonably priced - probably around $20 for a meal on special and glass of house wine or beer. Happy hours are usually from around 3pm to 6pm with most pubs and bars offering $5/$6 wine and house beers; or a bucket of Corona (usually 5 bottles of Corona in an ice bucket) for $20. Finally on the subject of notable things about St Kilda and Melbourne is that they LOVE their coffee, and it is good! Most cafes will sell a great coffee for around $3, however my personal favourite is the $1 coffee from 7/11 (7/11 is like an Aussy version of our Spar). Transport Getting around St Kilda and Melbourne is pretty easy although it takes a while to adjust to the various routes; the good thing about Melbourne and Sydney is that most of the streets are set out in a grid form, which makes it much easier to navigate. So the main point on travel is... the MYKI card; it's pronounced like 'Mikey' just so you know. The MYKI card costs $8 to buy and can be topped up at various shops (including 7/11 which is EVERYWHERE). There is an $8 per day limit on the myki card and as far as I'm aware if you use more than that in a day, the myki card will stop charging you. The myki card works on a 'tap on and tap off' basis; so you board a train, bus or tram, tap your myki card on the reader and then tap it off again when you exit...pretty simple. Also, once you enter Melbourne's CBD (Central Business District) so 'city centre', there is a free tram called the city link which you can ride around the entire CBD and not get charged. The tram stops also clearly state when you're in and leaving a free tram zone. From St Kilda to Melbourne the tram is the easiest form of transport and takes about 20 minutes and costs around $4; you can catch either the number 16, 3 or 3A from Luna Park or Fitzroy Street and a number of stops in between. Balaclava train station is also accessible by bus or tram and provides links to suburbs such as Brighton and Hampton (for if you want a more 'Australian' experience). Finally if your feeling fit, Melbourne has it's own version of London's Boris Bikes. There are various bike stands costing $3 to hire a pushbike and helmet for the day, it will charge slightly more if you ride further than 30 minutes from where you hired the bike. The bikes can either be returned to the same place that you hired them from or docked in any free spaces near your destination. I would recommend hiring a bike from Luna Park and riding the approx. 8km into Melbourne; it's a great way to see the City and find your way around the surrounding areas. Accommodation As we were only in Melbourne for 2 weeks I only have 2 hostels to give my thoughts on. First off Base, which I mentioned earlier; this is a great hostel for meeting people and I would definitely recommend it if traveling alone. The hostel puts on entertainment every night such as trivia, beer pong, live music and a free bbq. There is also a travel and work rep present most days if you need help with anything or would like to book any day trips. However the hostel is quite expensive - averaging around $35 a night for a 8 bed ensuite. For our second week in St Kilda we moved to The Ritz for Backpackers located on Fitzroy Street, about a 10 minute walk from the kite surfing beach. This hostel was slightly cheaper, working out around $210 for the week in a 6 bed dorm. The Ritz was good value for money with free self-serve pancakes every morning and certain nights offering a free bbq and free wine and cheese. However The Ritz is definitely a hostel for long stay/ working backpackers and I maybe wouldn't recommend it if travelling alone. Although the location is pretty good, with Woolworths (not the wooly's we know, its a supermarket) just across the road and various shops, bars and restaurants along the way to the beach. Things not to be missed... St Kilda's graffiti - take a walk around the town with your camera and pap some great art. SUP -(stand up paddle board) - $25-$30 an hour, make sure it's not windy. Eureka Tower - tallest building in Melbourne offering great views of the entire city - $20 admission. Federation Square - rooftop bar, free live music and various events. ACMI - Australian Centre for Moving Image - admission and galleries are free - definitely worth a visit if you're into films or art! PHILLIP ISLAND TOUR - roughly $115 will get you admission to Moonlit Sanctuary, Koala Sanctuary, The Nobbies, a bbq lunch, Churchill Island, Smith's Beach and finally the Penguine Parade where you can watch 100's of wild penguins returning to the beach and follow them up the boardwalk to their hides. St Kilda Festival - free music festival all along the beachfront with great food, drink and a range of market stalls - something for everyone. Brighton Beach - A short train ride, the beach huts are a must-see and the beach is pretty nice too. Royal Botanical Gardens - located next to Federation Square the gardens are a great way to pass time on a budget.

[networkingdefinition]

Sushi Quotes

Official Website: Sushi Quotes

(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push();

• A good rule to remember for life is that when it comes to plastic surgery and sushi, never be attracted by a bargain. – Graham Norton • After Nashville sushi and a long debate on Bob Dylan, we went into Woodland Studios at 10 pm that night for a look around, and jammed for 5 hours solid. – Robyn Hitchcock • All the things that most people hate about traveling — the recycled air, the artificial lighting, the digital juice dispensers, the cheap sushi — are warm reminders that I’m home. – Ryan Bingham • Although, I didnt really like sushi until I moved out to L.A. – Scott Wolf • And on nearby islands, the Japanese army was eating raw fish. We felt sorry for them. We didn’t know that in America after the war, you wouldn’t be able to get into a sushi joint without a reservation. And we thought they lost. – Bob Hope • And yes, we do have some food. Maybe you’d like to join us? Unless you want to stick with your sheep sushi. – Michael Grant

jQuery(document).ready(function($) var data = action: 'polyxgo_products_search', type: 'Product', keywords: 'Sushi+', orderby: 'rand', order: 'DESC', template: '1', limit: '68', columns: '4', viewall:'Shop All', ; jQuery.post(spyr_params.ajaxurl,data, function(response) var obj = jQuery.parseJSON(response); jQuery('#thelovesof_sushi').html(obj); jQuery('#thelovesof_sushi img.swiper-lazy:not(.swiper-lazy-loaded)' ).each(function () var img = jQuery(this); img.attr("src",img.data('src')); img.addClass( 'swiper-lazy-loaded' ); img.removeAttr('data-src'); ); ); ); • California is an unbelievable state. One day I might be in a spiritual place like Joshua Tree, then before I know it, I’m eating groovy sushi in a mini-mall. I’m a Cali girl through and through. – Drew Barrymore • Cook him up with some barbecued dog…cook that yellow chump. I’ll make that mother f**ker make me a sushi roll and cook me some rice. – Floyd Mayweather, Jr. • Did you know that the Jews invented sushi? That’s right – two Jews bought a restaurant with no kitchen. – Jackie Mason • Don’t dunk your nigiri in the soy sauce. Don’t mix your wasabi in the soy sauce. If the rice is good, complement your sushi chef on the rice. – Anthony Bourdain • Eating a tuna roll at a sushi restaurant should be considered no more environmentally benign than driving a Hummer or harpooning a manatee. – Daniel Pauly • Facebook is uniquely positioned to answer questions that people have, like, what sushi restaurants have my friends gone to in New York lately and liked? These are queries you could potentially do with Facebook that you couldn’t do with anything else, we just have to do it. – Mark Zuckerberg • Fashion is like food! Some people like sushi, others think hamburgers are divine! People like different things! – Michael Kors • G-Dragon’s music is like sushi. It’s sophisticated and has different flavors. His music also changes depending on how much he cooks it. – Seungri • Having survived her 10th London winter (she got through January by assigning it “international month,” and amusing Moses and his big sister, Apple, 9, with a visiting Italian chef, Japanese anime screenings, and hand-rolled-sushi lessons, no less), Paltrow admits that her dreams of relocating the family to their recently acquired residence in Brentwood, California, are becoming ever more urgent. – Gwyneth Paltrow • Heaven has no taste.” “Now-” “And not one single sushi restaurant.” A look of pain crossed the angel’s suddenly very serious face. – Terry Pratchett • I always thought that bagels and lox was my soul food, but it turns out it’s sushi. – Sara Sheridan • I could eat my body weight in sushi. – Mikey Way • I don’t even do anything super crazy when it comes to eating. The most I would ever do is eat some kind of sushi raw. I keep it real light when it comes to food. – Deon Cole • I don’t like venison or sushi – I don’t want to eat what some people think are ‘luxurious’ foods. – Courteney Cox • I don’t speak Japanese, I don’t know anything about Japanese business or Japanese culture. Apart from sushi. But I can’t exactly go up to him and say “Sushi!” out of the blue. It would be like going up to a top American businessman and saying, “T-bone steak! – Sophie Kinsella • I have to say, sushi freaks me out more than almost anything. – Kate Beckinsale • I keep my diet simple by sticking to mostly fruits and vegetables all day and then having whatever I want for dinner. I end up making healthy choices, like sushi or grilled fish, because I feel so good from eating well. – Jennifer Morrison • I love Chinese food, like steamed dim sum, and I can have noodles morning, noon and night, hot or cold. I like food that’s very simple on the digestive system – I tend to keep it light. I love Japanese food too – sushi, sashimi and miso soup. – Shilpa Shetty • I love eating sushi and eating raw and clean – no pasta and bread. Low carbs is what works for me. – Chrissy Teigen • I love lean meats like chicken, turkey. I’m obsessed with sushi and fish in general. I eat a lot of veggies and hummus. – Shawn Johnson • I love macaroni and cheese. I could eat it every meal of the day. It used to be sushi, but these days I cannot stop eating mac and cheese. I haven’t had it from a box in a long time, but I’ll make it homemade style with four types of cheeses, lots of milk, maybe a little ketchup. I don’t know, I’m crazy like that. – Cobie Smulders • I love sushi, but I’m not going to write a column about it. – Joel Stein • I love sushi, I love fried chicken, I love steak. But there is a limit to my love. – Jonathan Safran Foer • I love sushi. But after too much of it, it just starts to taste like a dead animal that hasn’t been cooked. – Amy Lee • I love your sushi roll, hotter than wasabi. I race for your love, Shake-n-Bake, Ricky Bobby – Drake • I mean, if your about to tell me something like I’m dead, that i need to start acquiring a taste for blood, and I can’t even eat sushi, I wont be able to handle it. Or if you’re going to tell me that I’m going to start howling at the moon, eating peoples cats, and will spend the rest of my life having to get waxed if I want to wear a bathing suit, then I don’t think I can handle it, either. I like cats and I tried waxing once, and that hurt like a son of a gun.” -Kylie – C.C. Hunter • I never eat sushi. I have trouble eating things that are merely unconscious. – George Carlin • I still eat sushi, though I’m trying my best to have my last sushi roll. – Kim Basinger • I think that without sushi there would be no David Hasselhoff, because sushi is like the perfect way of describing the insides of David Hasselhoff. He is like a protein, clean and easy. That’s how I feel about myself. – David Hasselhoff • I want to take you away from this,” I say, motioning around the kitchen, spastic. “From sushi and elves and… STUFF. – Bret Easton Ellis • I was in a sushi bar and it dawned on me – how could I discriminate between a cow and a fish? – Carre Otis • I’m a big fish eater. Salmon – I love salmon. My sister loves Chinese food and sushi and all that. I’m not as big of a fan, but she likes it so we eat it a lot. So I’m beginning to like it more. I don’t like the raw sushi. I liked the cooked crab and lobster and everything. – Elle Fanning • I’m always interested in finding the new trend. If you love pizza every day, after 22 years of eating pizza, you want to try sushi. – Jean Pigozzi • I’m not making art, I’m making sushi – Masaharu Morimoto • Imagine being served a plate of sushi. But this plate also holds all of the animals that were killed for your serving of sushi. The plate might have to be five feet across. – Jonathan Safran Foer • In general I love to eat anything. I enjoy anything that is well prepared, a good spaghetti, lasagna, taco, steak, sushi, refried beans. – Martin Yan • In Japanese sushi restaurants, a lot of sushi chefs talk too much. – Masa Takayama • In LA, I live on sushi or salad. – Denise Van Outen • It always freaks me out when I go to a sushi place and there’s a Mexican. – Chelsea Handler • I’ve been making sushi for 38 years, and I’m still learning. You have to consider the size and color of the ingredients, how much salt and vinegar to use and how the seasons affect the fattiness of the fish. – Masaharu Morimoto • I’ve sat in sushi bars, really fine ones, and I know how hard this guy worked, how proud he is. I know you don’t need sauce. I know he doesn’t even want you to pour sauce. And I’ve seen customers come in and do that, and I’ve seen him, as stoic as he tries to remain, I’ve seen him die a little inside. – Anthony Bourdain • Jiro Ono serves Edo-style traditional sushi, the same 20 or 30 pieces he’s been making his whole life, and he’s still unsatisfied with the quality and every day wakes up and trains to make the best. And that is as close to a religious experience in food as one is likely to get. – Anthony Bourdain • Just because I like sushi, doesn’t mean I can make sushi. I’ve come to well understand how many years just to get sushi rice correct. It’s a discipline that takes years and years and years. So, I leave that to the experts. – Anthony Bourdain • Kids are now eating things like edamame and sushi. I didn’t know what shiitake mushrooms were when I was 10 – most kids today do. – Emeril Lagasse • L.A., its nice, but I think of sunshine and people on rollerblades eating sushi. New York, I think of nighttime, I think of Times Square and Broadway and nightlife and the city that never sleeps. – Jimmy Fallon • Limp Bizkit Ice Cream would taste like the sweetest pair of panties in the world. It would taste like sushi. Sushi or panties. – Fred Durst • My job the same as carpenter. What kind of house you want to build? What kind of food you want to make? You think your ingredients, your structure. Simple. [Other] Japanese restaurants … mix in some other style of food and call it influence, right? I don’t like that. … In Japanese sushi restaurants, a lot of sushi chefs talk too much. ‘This fish from there,’ ‘This very expensive.’ Same thing, start singing. And a lot have that fish case in front of them, cannot see what chef do. I’m not going to hide anything, right? – Masa Takayama • My wife has helped me with a lot of things. She’s also got me to like a lot of different things like sushi. I never would have tried that if it weren’t for her. I also went to Hillsong (Church) in New York for the first time with her. It’s fun to experience new things with the person you love. – Jrue Holiday • On Los Angeles: This city is a hundred years old but try and find some trace of its history. Every culture is swallowed up and spat out as a franchise. Taco Bell. Benihana of Tokyo. Numero Uno Pizza. Pup ‘N’ Taco. Kentucky Fried Chicken. Fast food sushi. Teriyaki Bowl. – Anne Finger • One of my favorite things to make is homemade sushi. I know how to make the rolls and it’s really fun to do. – Carly Rae Jepsen • Paris Hilton is one of the hosts for Nicole Richie’s baby shower, and they’re serving sushi. Awesome, Paris—sushi, the one thing pregnant women are forbidden to eat. Thanks for the mercury. – Chelsea Handler • She wondered how people would remember her. She had not made enough to spread her wealth around like Carnegie, to erase any sins that had attached to her name, she had failed, she had not reached the golden bough. The liberals would cheer her death. They would light marijuana cigarettes and drive to their sushi restaurants and eat fresh food that had traveled eight thousand miles. They would spend all of supper complaining about people like her, and when they got home their houses would be cold and they’d press a button on a wall to get warm. The whole time complaining about big oil. – Philipp Meyer • Sitting eating sushi in the city, incredibly chilled out reading Nietzsche. – Joey Barton • Sometimes sushi is just superb, and other times there’s nothing like a great big steak. It depends where your taste buds are at the time. – Francesca Annis • Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime. Unless he doesn’t like sushi, then you also have to teach him to cook.- Auren Hoffman • The best thing about doing a signing tour is that numbers become faces. I got to sign books for six or seven thousand people, all of whom were dreadfully nice. Everything else, the interviews, the hotels, the plane travel, the best-seller lists, even the sushi, gets old awfully fast. Well, maybe not the sushi. – Neil Gaiman • The fine art of preparing sushi is something that you watch and learn. – Nobu Matsuhisa • The first time I had sushi, I hated it. And the second time was no different, and then, I just started loving it. I actually crave for sushi. It’s one of the healthiest meals. My experiments with food began when I was working in New York as an architect, be it Korean or Ethiopian food or fusion food. – Riteish Deshmukh • The Kraken stirs. And ten billion sushi dinners cry out for vengeance. – Terry Pratchett • They kept saying ‘It’s sushi-grade!’ And I’m like… ‘Put some soy sauce on this. Get me some rice. And cook it. And then get me out of here. – Jennifer Lawrence • We’ve got a name for sushi in Georgia… bait – Blake Clark • When I was a junior, my school introduced badminton, which was clearly a P.E. department ploy to get me away from the wrestling room, and it worked, since the first time I played badminton was like the first time I tasted sushi or heard the Beatles or read Wordsworth. This was a sport? This counted for gym requirements? – Rob Sheffield • When I was a kid, I have two dreams. I want to be a baseball player. Hometown, Hiroshima, has a Japanese baseball franchise team called Hiroshima Carps. You know, and then I want to be a sushi chef. I want to make own restaurant – sushi restaurant. – Masaharu Morimoto • Whether we’re talking about fish species, pigs, or some other eaten animal, is such suffering the most important thing in the world? Obviously not. But that’s not the question. Is it more important that sushi, bacon, or chicken nuggets? That’s the question. – Jonathan Safran Foer • With sushi, it is all about balance. Sometimes they cut the fish too thick, sometimes too thin. Often the rice is overcooked or undercooked. Not enough rice vinegar or too much. – Nobu Matsuhisa • Women who work for escort agencies that assign them out to prostitution dates at sushi restaurants know how to eat with chopsticks, and beyond that they are in every other way identical to other prostitutes. They’re not better looking; they’re not smarter; they’re not classier; they’re not more charming. They probably give more blowjobs than any reasonable woman, right? And they are empty inside, but it’s also society’s fault. – Julie Klausner • You could eat sushi off my bookshelf. My cleaning regime is like a battleground. I’m Genghis Khan and my cleaning products are my Mongolian army and I take no prisoners. The rest of my life is an experiment in chaos so I like to keep my flat neat. – Ryan Adams • You have to eat good! I eat gorgeous food. I eat sushi, I eat meat, I eat steaks. I eat more than you, I’m sure. – Tanya Dziahileva

jQuery(document).ready(function($) var data = action: 'polyxgo_products_search', type: 'Product', keywords: 'a', orderby: 'rand', order: 'DESC', template: '1', limit: '4', columns: '4', viewall:'Shop All', ; jQuery.post(spyr_params.ajaxurl,data, function(response) var obj = jQuery.parseJSON(response); jQuery('#thelovesof_a').html(obj); jQuery('#thelovesof_a img.swiper-lazy:not(.swiper-lazy-loaded)' ).each(function () var img = jQuery(this); img.attr("src",img.data('src')); img.addClass( 'swiper-lazy-loaded' ); img.removeAttr('data-src'); ); ); );

jQuery(document).ready(function($) var data = action: 'polyxgo_products_search', type: 'Product', keywords: 'e', orderby: 'rand', order: 'DESC', template: '1', limit: '4', columns: '4', viewall:'Shop All', ; jQuery.post(spyr_params.ajaxurl,data, function(response) var obj = jQuery.parseJSON(response); jQuery('#thelovesof_e').html(obj); jQuery('#thelovesof_e img.swiper-lazy:not(.swiper-lazy-loaded)' ).each(function () var img = jQuery(this); img.attr("src",img.data('src')); img.addClass( 'swiper-lazy-loaded' ); img.removeAttr('data-src'); ); ); );

jQuery(document).ready(function($) var data = action: 'polyxgo_products_search', type: 'Product', keywords: 'i', orderby: 'rand', order: 'DESC', template: '1', limit: '4', columns: '4', viewall:'Shop All', ; jQuery.post(spyr_params.ajaxurl,data, function(response) var obj = jQuery.parseJSON(response); jQuery('#thelovesof_i').html(obj); jQuery('#thelovesof_i img.swiper-lazy:not(.swiper-lazy-loaded)' ).each(function () var img = jQuery(this); img.attr("src",img.data('src')); img.addClass( 'swiper-lazy-loaded' ); img.removeAttr('data-src'); ); ); );

jQuery(document).ready(function($) var data = action: 'polyxgo_products_search', type: 'Product', keywords: 'o', orderby: 'rand', order: 'DESC', template: '1', limit: '4', columns: '4', viewall:'Shop All', ; jQuery.post(spyr_params.ajaxurl,data, function(response) var obj = jQuery.parseJSON(response); jQuery('#thelovesof_o').html(obj); jQuery('#thelovesof_o img.swiper-lazy:not(.swiper-lazy-loaded)' ).each(function () var img = jQuery(this); img.attr("src",img.data('src')); img.addClass( 'swiper-lazy-loaded' ); img.removeAttr('data-src'); ); ); );

jQuery(document).ready(function($) var data = action: 'polyxgo_products_search', type: 'Product', keywords: 'u', orderby: 'rand', order: 'DESC', template: '1', limit: '4', columns: '4', viewall:'Shop All', ; jQuery.post(spyr_params.ajaxurl,data, function(response) var obj = jQuery.parseJSON(response); jQuery('#thelovesof_u').html(obj); jQuery('#thelovesof_u img.swiper-lazy:not(.swiper-lazy-loaded)' ).each(function () var img = jQuery(this); img.attr("src",img.data('src')); img.addClass( 'swiper-lazy-loaded' ); img.removeAttr('data-src'); ); ); );

[equitiesstocks]

Sushi Quotes

Official Website: Sushi Quotes

(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push();

• A good rule to remember for life is that when it comes to plastic surgery and sushi, never be attracted by a bargain. – Graham Norton • After Nashville sushi and a long debate on Bob Dylan, we went into Woodland Studios at 10 pm that night for a look around, and jammed for 5 hours solid. – Robyn Hitchcock • All the things that most people hate about traveling — the recycled air, the artificial lighting, the digital juice dispensers, the cheap sushi — are warm reminders that I’m home. – Ryan Bingham • Although, I didnt really like sushi until I moved out to L.A. – Scott Wolf • And on nearby islands, the Japanese army was eating raw fish. We felt sorry for them. We didn’t know that in America after the war, you wouldn’t be able to get into a sushi joint without a reservation. And we thought they lost. – Bob Hope ��� And yes, we do have some food. Maybe you’d like to join us? Unless you want to stick with your sheep sushi. – Michael Grant

jQuery(document).ready(function($) var data = action: 'polyxgo_products_search', type: 'Product', keywords: 'Sushi+', orderby: 'rand', order: 'DESC', template: '1', limit: '68', columns: '4', viewall:'Shop All', ; jQuery.post(spyr_params.ajaxurl,data, function(response) var obj = jQuery.parseJSON(response); jQuery('#thelovesof_sushi').html(obj); jQuery('#thelovesof_sushi img.swiper-lazy:not(.swiper-lazy-loaded)' ).each(function () var img = jQuery(this); img.attr("src",img.data('src')); img.addClass( 'swiper-lazy-loaded' ); img.removeAttr('data-src'); ); ); ); • California is an unbelievable state. One day I might be in a spiritual place like Joshua Tree, then before I know it, I’m eating groovy sushi in a mini-mall. I’m a Cali girl through and through. – Drew Barrymore • Cook him up with some barbecued dog…cook that yellow chump. I’ll make that mother f**ker make me a sushi roll and cook me some rice. – Floyd Mayweather, Jr. • Did you know that the Jews invented sushi? That’s right – two Jews bought a restaurant with no kitchen. – Jackie Mason • Don’t dunk your nigiri in the soy sauce. Don’t mix your wasabi in the soy sauce. If the rice is good, complement your sushi chef on the rice. – Anthony Bourdain • Eating a tuna roll at a sushi restaurant should be considered no more environmentally benign than driving a Hummer or harpooning a manatee. – Daniel Pauly • Facebook is uniquely positioned to answer questions that people have, like, what sushi restaurants have my friends gone to in New York lately and liked? These are queries you could potentially do with Facebook that you couldn’t do with anything else, we just have to do it. – Mark Zuckerberg • Fashion is like food! Some people like sushi, others think hamburgers are divine! People like different things! – Michael Kors • G-Dragon’s music is like sushi. It’s sophisticated and has different flavors. His music also changes depending on how much he cooks it. – Seungri • Having survived her 10th London winter (she got through January by assigning it “international month,” and amusing Moses and his big sister, Apple, 9, with a visiting Italian chef, Japanese anime screenings, and hand-rolled-sushi lessons, no less), Paltrow admits that her dreams of relocating the family to their recently acquired residence in Brentwood, California, are becoming ever more urgent. – Gwyneth Paltrow • Heaven has no taste.” “Now-” “And not one single sushi restaurant.” A look of pain crossed the angel’s suddenly very serious face. – Terry Pratchett • I always thought that bagels and lox was my soul food, but it turns out it’s sushi. – Sara Sheridan • I could eat my body weight in sushi. – Mikey Way • I don’t even do anything super crazy when it comes to eating. The most I would ever do is eat some kind of sushi raw. I keep it real light when it comes to food. – Deon Cole • I don’t like venison or sushi – I don’t want to eat what some people think are ‘luxurious’ foods. – Courteney Cox • I don’t speak Japanese, I don’t know anything about Japanese business or Japanese culture. Apart from sushi. But I can’t exactly go up to him and say “Sushi!” out of the blue. It would be like going up to a top American businessman and saying, “T-bone steak! – Sophie Kinsella • I have to say, sushi freaks me out more than almost anything. – Kate Beckinsale • I keep my diet simple by sticking to mostly fruits and vegetables all day and then having whatever I want for dinner. I end up making healthy choices, like sushi or grilled fish, because I feel so good from eating well. – Jennifer Morrison • I love Chinese food, like steamed dim sum, and I can have noodles morning, noon and night, hot or cold. I like food that’s very simple on the digestive system – I tend to keep it light. I love Japanese food too – sushi, sashimi and miso soup. – Shilpa Shetty • I love eating sushi and eating raw and clean – no pasta and bread. Low carbs is what works for me. – Chrissy Teigen • I love lean meats like chicken, turkey. I’m obsessed with sushi and fish in general. I eat a lot of veggies and hummus. – Shawn Johnson • I love macaroni and cheese. I could eat it every meal of the day. It used to be sushi, but these days I cannot stop eating mac and cheese. I haven’t had it from a box in a long time, but I’ll make it homemade style with four types of cheeses, lots of milk, maybe a little ketchup. I don’t know, I’m crazy like that. – Cobie Smulders • I love sushi, but I’m not going to write a column about it. – Joel Stein • I love sushi, I love fried chicken, I love steak. But there is a limit to my love. – Jonathan Safran Foer • I love sushi. But after too much of it, it just starts to taste like a dead animal that hasn’t been cooked. – Amy Lee • I love your sushi roll, hotter than wasabi. I race for your love, Shake-n-Bake, Ricky Bobby – Drake • I mean, if your about to tell me something like I’m dead, that i need to start acquiring a taste for blood, and I can’t even eat sushi, I wont be able to handle it. Or if you’re going to tell me that I’m going to start howling at the moon, eating peoples cats, and will spend the rest of my life having to get waxed if I want to wear a bathing suit, then I don’t think I can handle it, either. I like cats and I tried waxing once, and that hurt like a son of a gun.” -Kylie – C.C. Hunter • I never eat sushi. I have trouble eating things that are merely unconscious. – George Carlin • I still eat sushi, though I’m trying my best to have my last sushi roll. – Kim Basinger • I think that without sushi there would be no David Hasselhoff, because sushi is like the perfect way of describing the insides of David Hasselhoff. He is like a protein, clean and easy. That’s how I feel about myself. – David Hasselhoff • I want to take you away from this,” I say, motioning around the kitchen, spastic. “From sushi and elves and… STUFF. – Bret Easton Ellis • I was in a sushi bar and it dawned on me – how could I discriminate between a cow and a fish? – Carre Otis • I’m a big fish eater. Salmon – I love salmon. My sister loves Chinese food and sushi and all that. I’m not as big of a fan, but she likes it so we eat it a lot. So I’m beginning to like it more. I don’t like the raw sushi. I liked the cooked crab and lobster and everything. – Elle Fanning • I’m always interested in finding the new trend. If you love pizza every day, after 22 years of eating pizza, you want to try sushi. – Jean Pigozzi • I’m not making art, I’m making sushi – Masaharu Morimoto • Imagine being served a plate of sushi. But this plate also holds all of the animals that were killed for your serving of sushi. The plate might have to be five feet across. – Jonathan Safran Foer • In general I love to eat anything. I enjoy anything that is well prepared, a good spaghetti, lasagna, taco, steak, sushi, refried beans. – Martin Yan • In Japanese sushi restaurants, a lot of sushi chefs talk too much. – Masa Takayama • In LA, I live on sushi or salad. – Denise Van Outen • It always freaks me out when I go to a sushi place and there’s a Mexican. – Chelsea Handler • I’ve been making sushi for 38 years, and I’m still learning. You have to consider the size and color of the ingredients, how much salt and vinegar to use and how the seasons affect the fattiness of the fish. – Masaharu Morimoto • I’ve sat in sushi bars, really fine ones, and I know how hard this guy worked, how proud he is. I know you don’t need sauce. I know he doesn’t even want you to pour sauce. And I’ve seen customers come in and do that, and I’ve seen him, as stoic as he tries to remain, I’ve seen him die a little inside. – Anthony Bourdain • Jiro Ono serves Edo-style traditional sushi, the same 20 or 30 pieces he’s been making his whole life, and he’s still unsatisfied with the quality and every day wakes up and trains to make the best. And that is as close to a religious experience in food as one is likely to get. – Anthony Bourdain • Just because I like sushi, doesn’t mean I can make sushi. I’ve come to well understand how many years just to get sushi rice correct. It’s a discipline that takes years and years and years. So, I leave that to the experts. – Anthony Bourdain • Kids are now eating things like edamame and sushi. I didn’t know what shiitake mushrooms were when I was 10 – most kids today do. – Emeril Lagasse • L.A., its nice, but I think of sunshine and people on rollerblades eating sushi. New York, I think of nighttime, I think of Times Square and Broadway and nightlife and the city that never sleeps. – Jimmy Fallon • Limp Bizkit Ice Cream would taste like the sweetest pair of panties in the world. It would taste like sushi. Sushi or panties. – Fred Durst • My job the same as carpenter. What kind of house you want to build? What kind of food you want to make? You think your ingredients, your structure. Simple. [Other] Japanese restaurants … mix in some other style of food and call it influence, right? I don’t like that. … In Japanese sushi restaurants, a lot of sushi chefs talk too much. ‘This fish from there,’ ‘This very expensive.’ Same thing, start singing. And a lot have that fish case in front of them, cannot see what chef do. I’m not going to hide anything, right? – Masa Takayama • My wife has helped me with a lot of things. She’s also got me to like a lot of different things like sushi. I never would have tried that if it weren’t for her. I also went to Hillsong (Church) in New York for the first time with her. It’s fun to experience new things with the person you love. – Jrue Holiday • On Los Angeles: This city is a hundred years old but try and find some trace of its history. Every culture is swallowed up and spat out as a franchise. Taco Bell. Benihana of Tokyo. Numero Uno Pizza. Pup ‘N’ Taco. Kentucky Fried Chicken. Fast food sushi. Teriyaki Bowl. – Anne Finger • One of my favorite things to make is homemade sushi. I know how to make the rolls and it’s really fun to do. – Carly Rae Jepsen • Paris Hilton is one of the hosts for Nicole Richie’s baby shower, and they’re serving sushi. Awesome, Paris—sushi, the one thing pregnant women are forbidden to eat. Thanks for the mercury. – Chelsea Handler • She wondered how people would remember her. She had not made enough to spread her wealth around like Carnegie, to erase any sins that had attached to her name, she had failed, she had not reached the golden bough. The liberals would cheer her death. They would light marijuana cigarettes and drive to their sushi restaurants and eat fresh food that had traveled eight thousand miles. They would spend all of supper complaining about people like her, and when they got home their houses would be cold and they’d press a button on a wall to get warm. The whole time complaining about big oil. – Philipp Meyer • Sitting eating sushi in the city, incredibly chilled out reading Nietzsche. – Joey Barton • Sometimes sushi is just superb, and other times there’s nothing like a great big steak. It depends where your taste buds are at the time. – Francesca Annis • Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime. Unless he doesn’t like sushi, then you also have to teach him to cook.- Auren Hoffman • The best thing about doing a signing tour is that numbers become faces. I got to sign books for six or seven thousand people, all of whom were dreadfully nice. Everything else, the interviews, the hotels, the plane travel, the best-seller lists, even the sushi, gets old awfully fast. Well, maybe not the sushi. – Neil Gaiman • The fine art of preparing sushi is something that you watch and learn. – Nobu Matsuhisa • The first time I had sushi, I hated it. And the second time was no different, and then, I just started loving it. I actually crave for sushi. It’s one of the healthiest meals. My experiments with food began when I was working in New York as an architect, be it Korean or Ethiopian food or fusion food. – Riteish Deshmukh • The Kraken stirs. And ten billion sushi dinners cry out for vengeance. – Terry Pratchett • They kept saying ‘It’s sushi-grade!’ And I’m like… ‘Put some soy sauce on this. Get me some rice. And cook it. And then get me out of here. – Jennifer Lawrence • We’ve got a name for sushi in Georgia… bait – Blake Clark • When I was a junior, my school introduced badminton, which was clearly a P.E. department ploy to get me away from the wrestling room, and it worked, since the first time I played badminton was like the first time I tasted sushi or heard the Beatles or read Wordsworth. This was a sport? This counted for gym requirements? – Rob Sheffield • When I was a kid, I have two dreams. I want to be a baseball player. Hometown, Hiroshima, has a Japanese baseball franchise team called Hiroshima Carps. You know, and then I want to be a sushi chef. I want to make own restaurant – sushi restaurant. – Masaharu Morimoto • Whether we’re talking about fish species, pigs, or some other eaten animal, is such suffering the most important thing in the world? Obviously not. But that’s not the question. Is it more important that sushi, bacon, or chicken nuggets? That’s the question. – Jonathan Safran Foer • With sushi, it is all about balance. Sometimes they cut the fish too thick, sometimes too thin. Often the rice is overcooked or undercooked. Not enough rice vinegar or too much. – Nobu Matsuhisa • Women who work for escort agencies that assign them out to prostitution dates at sushi restaurants know how to eat with chopsticks, and beyond that they are in every other way identical to other prostitutes. They’re not better looking; they’re not smarter; they’re not classier; they’re not more charming. They probably give more blowjobs than any reasonable woman, right? And they are empty inside, but it’s also society’s fault. – Julie Klausner • You could eat sushi off my bookshelf. My cleaning regime is like a battleground. I’m Genghis Khan and my cleaning products are my Mongolian army and I take no prisoners. The rest of my life is an experiment in chaos so I like to keep my flat neat. – Ryan Adams • You have to eat good! I eat gorgeous food. I eat sushi, I eat meat, I eat steaks. I eat more than you, I’m sure. – Tanya Dziahileva

jQuery(document).ready(function($) var data = action: 'polyxgo_products_search', type: 'Product', keywords: 'a', orderby: 'rand', order: 'DESC', template: '1', limit: '4', columns: '4', viewall:'Shop All', ; jQuery.post(spyr_params.ajaxurl,data, function(response) var obj = jQuery.parseJSON(response); jQuery('#thelovesof_a').html(obj); jQuery('#thelovesof_a img.swiper-lazy:not(.swiper-lazy-loaded)' ).each(function () var img = jQuery(this); img.attr("src",img.data('src')); img.addClass( 'swiper-lazy-loaded' ); img.removeAttr('data-src'); ); ); );

jQuery(document).ready(function($) var data = action: 'polyxgo_products_search', type: 'Product', keywords: 'e', orderby: 'rand', order: 'DESC', template: '1', limit: '4', columns: '4', viewall:'Shop All', ; jQuery.post(spyr_params.ajaxurl,data, function(response) var obj = jQuery.parseJSON(response); jQuery('#thelovesof_e').html(obj); jQuery('#thelovesof_e img.swiper-lazy:not(.swiper-lazy-loaded)' ).each(function () var img = jQuery(this); img.attr("src",img.data('src')); img.addClass( 'swiper-lazy-loaded' ); img.removeAttr('data-src'); ); ); );

jQuery(document).ready(function($) var data = action: 'polyxgo_products_search', type: 'Product', keywords: 'i', orderby: 'rand', order: 'DESC', template: '1', limit: '4', columns: '4', viewall:'Shop All', ; jQuery.post(spyr_params.ajaxurl,data, function(response) var obj = jQuery.parseJSON(response); jQuery('#thelovesof_i').html(obj); jQuery('#thelovesof_i img.swiper-lazy:not(.swiper-lazy-loaded)' ).each(function () var img = jQuery(this); img.attr("src",img.data('src')); img.addClass( 'swiper-lazy-loaded' ); img.removeAttr('data-src'); ); ); );

jQuery(document).ready(function($) var data = action: 'polyxgo_products_search', type: 'Product', keywords: 'o', orderby: 'rand', order: 'DESC', template: '1', limit: '4', columns: '4', viewall:'Shop All', ; jQuery.post(spyr_params.ajaxurl,data, function(response) var obj = jQuery.parseJSON(response); jQuery('#thelovesof_o').html(obj); jQuery('#thelovesof_o img.swiper-lazy:not(.swiper-lazy-loaded)' ).each(function () var img = jQuery(this); img.attr("src",img.data('src')); img.addClass( 'swiper-lazy-loaded' ); img.removeAttr('data-src'); ); ); );

jQuery(document).ready(function($) var data = action: 'polyxgo_products_search', type: 'Product', keywords: 'u', orderby: 'rand', order: 'DESC', template: '1', limit: '4', columns: '4', viewall:'Shop All', ; jQuery.post(spyr_params.ajaxurl,data, function(response) var obj = jQuery.parseJSON(response); jQuery('#thelovesof_u').html(obj); jQuery('#thelovesof_u img.swiper-lazy:not(.swiper-lazy-loaded)' ).each(function () var img = jQuery(this); img.attr("src",img.data('src')); img.addClass( 'swiper-lazy-loaded' ); img.removeAttr('data-src'); ); ); );

[ethelbertpaul444-blog]

25 Health “Facts” That Are Totally Wrong

There are some health “facts” that many people have heard so many times that they just assume they are true, theories like “juice is healthy” or “gum will stay in your belly for years . strong>

But many of these “facts” are actually myths about health . strong>

Here’s what the social sciences genuinely adds about these health illusions . strong>

There’s something about state and nutrition folk wisdom that’s resistant to truth.

Common health “facts” include the ideas that MSG will determine you sick, that a juice detox is just what you need after a week of gratification, and that sports alcohols like Gatorade are absolutely penalize since you need the electrolytes.

None of these things are true. They, like many other kinfolk sayings and tips-off, fall into the category of health illusions that are totally — or at least chiefly — inaccurate.

Here’s the truth behind some of those health claims you’ve discovered all your life, but might not hold water at all.

MSG in Chinese food will impel you sick . strong>

Will Wei, Business Insider

The myth that MSG is bad for you comes from a character a doctor wrote to the New England Journal of Medicine in 1968, where he coined the call “Chinese restaurant syndrome” to describe a variety of manifestations including numbness and general weakness.

But though medical doctors accused these tenderness on monosodium glutamate, MSG, studies and research doesn’t back it up. The technical consensus according the American Chemical Society is that “MSG can temporarily alter a hand-picked few when downed in huge quantities on an empty stomach, but it’s perfectly safe for the great majority of beings . strong> “

And this procreates appreciation — MSG is nothing more than a common amino battery-acid with a sodium atom included. The placebo impact is more than strong enough to account for the negative effects sometimes associated with MSG.

Coffee stunts your swelling . strong>

There isn’t a whole lot of prove on this, but most research determines no equivalence between caffeine consumption and bone increment in minors.

In adults, researchers have seen that increased caffeine consumption can very slightly limit calcium absorption, but potential impacts is so small that a tablespoon of milk will more than adequately offset the consequences of a goblet of chocolate.

Interestingly, advertising seems to be chiefly responsible for this myth. A breakfast cereal manufacturer referred C.W. Post was trying to market a morning liquid called “Postum” as an alternative to chocolate, so he ran ads on the “evils” of Americans’ favorite hot liquid, announcing it a “nerve poison” that should never be served to children.

Bundle up or you’ll catch a freezing . strong>

Being physically cold isn’t what comes you sick; revelation to a cold virus does. There’s no proof that going outside with wet hair when it’s freezing will oblige you sick by itself — stipulated you bypass hypothermia.

But there are some scientifically sound explanations for why people catch more freezings in winter. Because we deplete more time in close quarters indoors, it is more likely that we’ll cross routes with a cold-causing virus spread from another person during the winter. And for various rationalizations, we may have a harder duration pushing off freezing and flu virus specks in winter.

But being freezing itself isn’t what induces sick, and some argue that cold exposure can actually improve your health.

The compound tryptophan in goose obligates you sleepy . strong>

Another Pint Please …/ Flickr

Who doesn’t adoration the post-Thanksgiving nap? We regularly consider those naps inescapable, since goose contains tryptophan, an amino acid that is a component of some of the intelligence compounds that help you relax.

But plenty of foods contain tryptophan. Cheddar cheese has even more than turkey — and cheddar is never pointed out as a sleep inducing meat. Experts say that instead, the carbs, alcohol, and general size of the Turkey-day feast is the reason for those delicious anniversary siestas.

Taking your vitamins will maintain you healthy . strong>

Vitamins definitely sounds like a great impression. One lozenge that can provide you everything “youve got to be” health!

If exclusively they toiled. After decades of research on vitamins, most reviews don’t find any reasons for our multivitamin wont, and in some cases, vitamins are really been associated with an increased risk of various types of cancers. Malnourished beings might benefit from some complements, but most of us should just get our vitamins naturally from food.

Beer before liquid, never sicker; liquor before brew, you’re in the clear . strong>

We’re all heard it: “beer before liquid, never sicker; liquor before brew, you’re in the clear.”

But while it’s very true that overdoing it with booze might leave you praying to the porcelain gods, there’s no need to lieu the accuse under the orders you deplete the refreshments in — booze is alcohol, and too much of it will make anyone feel sick.

However, there are some strange highways this section of suggestion can make sense. Beings who swap from beer to mixed drinks( with abilities and judgment once gloomy) may be less likely likely to monitor their booze uptake and thus suck more.

And some research registers that your mas metabolizes mixed drinks faster than higher-concentration alcohol( a shot of whiskey, reply ). So computing liquid to a stomach-full of beer could, in theory, create a kind of mixed drink that they are able to metabolize faster than one or the other on its own.

We’ll call this one partly true, but chalk up the “never sicker” segment mostly to bad decision making.

You lose 90% of your body heat through your brain . strong>

Flickr/ hounombrellonelculo

Not consequently. You lose body heat through anything uncovered, according to Dr. Aaron E. Carroll and Dr. Rachel C. Vreeman, writers of “Don’t Swallow Your Gum !: Myths, Half-Truths, and Outright Lies About Your Mas and Health.”

Your head is not special in that behavior — it’s merely more likely to be exposed.

“Most of the time when we’re outside in the coldnes, we’re robed, ” Richard Ingebretsen, MD, PhD, told WebMD Magazine. “If you don’t have a hat on, you lose heat through your head, just as you would lose heat through your legs if you were wearing shorts.”

Wait an hour after snacking to dive or you’ll drown . strong>

Some parents say no swimming for 30 hours after eating, some speak an hour, but many of u.s. may remember waiting out the clock before returning to the consortium or sea. The belief behind this seems to be that accepting food will draw blood to your tummy, meaning that less blood is available for your muscles, constituting them most likely to cramp.

But there’s no attest to support this claim. In actuality, many sources say there are no documented cases of anyone ever drowning because they’ve had a cramp related to swimming with a full stomach.

Cramps do happen often when swimming, but they aren’t can be attributed to what’s in your tummy. If you do get one, best available policy is to hover for a minute and give it pass.

It makes 7 years for gum to grasp if you swallow it . strong>

When it came out that Trump press secretary Sean Spicer chewings and withdraws two and a half packs of chewing gum by midday every day, many people had the same interrogate: Couldn’t that maybe do some distres?

Probably not. Gum is mostly indigestible, meaning that it frequently surpasses through your bowels and outlets the other side, like the majority of what your mas doesn’t necessary and can’t digest.

“On uncommon moments, large quantities of swallowed gum combined with constipation have blocked intestines in brats, ” Dr. Michael Picco of the Mayo Clinic writes. Still, he announces swallowing gums generally isn’t harmful.

When you’re liquor on gin, you get aim . strong>

There are plenty of alcohol-related superstitions out there, and the idea that different alcohols have differing impacts on you is a big one. Some people claim wine procreates them sleepy while whiskey attains them want to argue.

In short, experts say this is bunk. “Alcohol is alcohol whichever way you slice it, ” pharmacologist Paul Clayton, a colleague of Oxford’s Institute of Food, Brain& Behaviour, told The Guardian.

So why do parties insist that tequila constructs them crazy?

One very strong possibility is that we experience the effects we expect when we booze( or deplete most substances ). Scientific experiment going back to the 1960 s demonstrate that we “learn” how to behave while drunkard, and that our actual drunken action is a direct reflection of our hopes.

Although many beings may become violent while intoxicated, people who have never associated drunkenness with conflict don’t support the same demeanor. So by that same sign, if we expect that vodka will impel us want to sing karaoke, we can perhaps curve that into a self-fulfilling prophecy.

A juice cleanse will ‘detox’ you after an unhealthy eating orgy . strong>

The myth of the juice cleanse is a stubborn one — and one frequently promoted by fames — but it’s both bad and harmful.

First of all, your body naturally removes injurious chemicals through the liver, kidneys, and gastrointestinal parcel — there’s anything about juice that will hasten that process along.

Secondly, juicing is mainly a route of removing supportive fiber from fruits and vegetables — countless sugary fruit juices are as bad for you as sodas. You’re preparing the outcome little health by “juicing” it.

Everyone should booze eight glasses of water per day . strong>

Hydration are key, but the idea that eight glasses of spray is crucial is a strange one.

In healthful people, researchers haven’t felt a connection between flowing intake and kidney canker, cardiac infarction, sodium levels, or skin quality.

People get a lot of their sea from menus and other beverages in the first place, but there is a good reason to booze more sea. It’s a calorie free alternative to other beverages( especially sugary ones ), and people who drink water instead of those beverages consume fewer calories overall.

But in general, booze when “you think youre” thirsty — you don’t is a requirement to count the glasses.

It’s fine to eat something if it’s been on the flooring for less than five seconds . strong>

Flickr

It’s the worst when something you really wanted to eat falls on the flooring. But if you grab it in five seconds, is it okay?

Sorry, but the five-second-rule isn’t a real thing. Bacteria can infect a nutrient within milliseconds. Moist nutrients attract more bacteria than cool meat, but there’s no “safe duration.” Instead, refuge depends on how clean the surface you plummeted the menu on is.

Whether you eat it or not after that is up to you, but if the people that amble on that storey are also walking around New York City, for example, we wouldn’t recommend it.

Vaccines can be risky . strong>

This idea comes from a now thoroughly-debunked( and retracted) learn of 12 brats that appeared in 1998 in The Lancet and claimed there was a link between the MMR vaccine and autism.

It turned out that investigate wasn’t exclusively flawed, the committee is also contained false information that was necessary to make its point.

Since then, several subjects that have analyzed data regarding more than a million children have shown that there’s no connection between inoculations and autism.

But panics about that connection have persisted, partially stimulated on by public figure inducing spurious pretensions about inoculations. This contribute to shocking infections like measles coming back here.

Yogurt will help put your digestive plan back in order . strong>

This is one of our modern health beliefs. Yogurt is frequently marketed as having benefits for digestion and as something that’ll keep parties skinny because of probiotics, or the “good bacteria” that’s living inside it.

Researchers have found that the bacteria in our figures are exceedingly connected to our metabolism and obesity frequencies, among other things, so it seems like there’s a logical tie here.

But we don’t more understand how the trillions of bacteria in our figures work well enough to influence them in this way. Despite the facts of the case that the probiotic business was value $23.1 billion in 2012, we can’t clear yogurt that will amend our internal bacterial balance.

That’s not to say that yogurt is harmful, just that its benefits are oversold. Plus, a lot of yogurt is parcelled with sugar, which we do know contributing to obesity and other questions — so if you experience yogurt, find a version that isn’t full of added wasteful calories or it might have the opposite of the intended effect.

An apple a date keeps the doctor apart . strong>

Apples are good for you, bundled with vitamin C and fiber, both of which are important to long-term health, but they aren’t all you need.

And if specific viruses or bacteria get into your plan, an apple will regrettably do nothing to protect you. So plow ahead and get that influenza shot, even if you dine apples.

Eating ice cream will build your cold worse . strong>

roboppy/ Flickr

If you’re home sick with a cold, you can totally go ahead and solace yourself with some ice cream.

The idea that dairy increases mucus yield is very fortunately absolutely no truth to the rumors, according to investigates and a medical doctor at the Mayo Clinic, who tells “in fact, frozen dairy commodities can allay a absces throat and require calories when you otherwise may not eat.”

Praise be.

Cracking your knuckles will give you arthritis . strong>

Fortunately, this isn’t genuine either.

Cracking your knuckles may irk the people around you, but even people who have done it often for many years aren’t any more likely to develop arthritis than those who don’t.

Starve a delirium, feed a cold . strong>

There’s a good reason you may have heard this said various paths, either “starve a cold, feed a fever” or “starve a delirium, feed a cold.”

Despite a slew of headlines claiming that starving a delirium wasn’t a story in response to a tiny and chiefly misjudged consider in 2002, there’s no real prove to back this up. Restraint your caloric intake may actually hurt your immune organization more than facilitating it, and it would certainly be a bad theory to not feed during the course of its 6-8 daytime duration of a cold.

Instead, physicians say to go ahead and devour if you are able. The more precise idiom, as Scientific American notes, would be “feed a cold, feed a fever.” And make sure to get batch of fluids.

It’s penalize to imbibe athletics sips to rehydrate . strong>

We all know that soda and similarly sugary sips like lemonade are poor for us( right ?), but what about athletics sucks like Gatorade or Powerade? Sports-focused promote has successfully convinced a whole lot of beings that downing a bottle of this trash is fine, extremely if you’ve started for a trot recently — it’s replacing electrolytes, after all.

But actually, for most people the amount of sugar in these imbibes is far more than is needed — even if you’ve been activity. Lower calorie options, which many of the same firms have created in recent years, are much better options. Or just drink water.

Drinking liquid can assist you avoid a sunburn . strong>

New England Patriots quarterback Tom Brady desires hydration and has said that clean drinking water facilitates him shun getting a sunburn.

There’s nothing wrong with hydration. But there’s no ground whatsoever that being hydrated can prevent you from getting burned by ultraviolet radiation in any way. Only sunscreen or attire will do that. Vanish onward and drink enough irrigate to quench your yearning. But if you’re going to get out in the sunbathe for a while, don’t forget to cover up.

Coffee and beer dehydrate you, since caffeine and alcohol are diuretics . strong>

In ample quantities, caffeine and booze can have a diuretic gist. But the quantity of caffeine in a normal goblet of chocolate or booze in a brew isn’t enough to really have this gist, according to one recent study. A moderate extent of either coffee or brew hydrates beings just about as well as spray does.

Milk does a figure good( and safeguards your bones )! strong>

Guy Montag/ Flickr

This is an improbably successful fleck of publicizing that has wormed its nature into our mentalities and policies — the US Department of Agriculture tells us that adults should suck three beakers of milk a day, primarily for calcium and vitamin D.

However, multiple analyses show that there isn’t an association between imbibing more milk( or taking calcium and vitamin D complements) and having fewer faultings.

Milk is fine, but it’s not a mystical health suck. Amazingly, however, milk is specially hydrating — similar to pedialyte, both even more hydrating than water.

You shouldn’t eat too many eggs , since it’ll collect your cholesterol . strong>

Eggs have lots of cholesterol in them. For the majority of members of us, that’s not an issue, since a growing figure of research pictures that dietary cholesterol( from meat you gobble) doesn’t certainly have much of an effect on blood cholesterol in the vast majority of people.

Thank goodness.

Eating fat will make you fatty . strong>

The tide has started to swaying back the other lane on this one, but recommendations regarding low-fat meat remain common.

The decision to demonize fatty for its caloric concentration and heart-clogging consequences was mainly the result of crooked discipline influenced by a carbohydrate transaction group. It turns out that the society-wide decision to cut saturated fatty from nutritions led to increased intake of sugar and handled trans obesities, all of which were most likely little healthy overall.

We necessary a moderate amount of overweight — specially health solid — in our nutritions.

Read the original clause on Busines Insiderer. Follow us on Facebook and Twitter. Copyright 2018.

Read next on Business Insider: 10 delicious and healthy dairy-free milk alternatives to try — whether or not you’re lactose intolerant

Read more: http :// www.iflscience.com/ health-and-medicine/ 25 -health-facts-that-are-totally-wrong /

[talabib]

How To Stop Being Average And Start Being Awesome

If you’re tired of being like everyone else and are ready to start being awesome, the following describes a path to get you there. Importantly, you’ll learn how to get past the most difficult block to your amazing new life’s journey

You will also find out how to overcome the fear that holds you back from living your dreams and start your own personal journey to being awesome!

Escape the average and become awesome by punching your fear in the face.

Do you dream of escaping the average? Do you want to become awesome and exceptional, but don’t know where to start? Here’s a tip: If you want to become awesome, you have to punch fear in the face.

Fear can alienate you from your dreams. It goes without saying that you shouldn’t let it, but to beat fear, you have to understand how it works. Fear prevents you from chasing your dreams by convincing you that they’re impractical or unattainable.

But don’t buy into that kind of defeatist thinking. Instead, write down your fears and then exaggerate them ridiculously, to show yourself how silly those fears actually are.

For example, if you’re afraid that starting a new project will cause you to lose your job and stay unemployed, write that down. And then let yourself go farther. Imagine you’ll end up on the street with a scraggly beard, sleeping on top of garbage bags and talking to stray cats. Does that seem likely? Probably not, which is why you need to write it down. That way you can see how illogical your fears really are, and thus prevent them from controlling you.

Luckily, there’s one more effective way to deal with fear’s mind games: Just start doing whatever you’re scared of. You have no control over the eventual result, but that won’t ever change. You’ll never know how things will end up, but at least you can control the outset. If you want to do something, do it!

For example, consider the Segway. When it was first introduced, people thought it might spark a transportation revolution. And yet, since its launch the Segway hasn’t been such a great success. Still, the Segway people deserve respect. They risked failure and pursued their awesome dream of developing weird, two-wheeled electric transporters.

Be realistic about where you are now, but dream big to figure out where you want to go.

If you want to be awesome, you have to get comfortable with tension. You have to be a realist and a dreamer, practical and impractical, logical and illogical – all at the same time.

To start your journey, you need to find out which parts of your life feel average. Do this by examining key areas of your life – social, intellectual, professional – and writing down which ones you want to improve.

Here’s where the tension comes in. Although you should dream big, it’s also important to be realistic. List current debts, responsibilities (are you a husband, a father, a coach?) and assets (university degrees or social connections) that would affect your ability to pursue your dream.

For example, Gary wanted to start an ad agency with a friend. They agreed to build a website for their first client, a church. After a few months of effort, Gary faced some tough realities: He had no idea how to run a business. Also, he’d never built a website before, and neither he nor his partner had any programming skills. In the end, they decided to quit the project and refund the church.

What went wrong here? Well, Gary’s thought had been wildly unrealistic. Learn from his mistakes. Your current reality doesn’t have to be a cage, but it is a jumping-off point. If Gary had been realistic about his lack of experience, maybe he would have started a smaller project and managed to complete it successfully.

Still, acknowledging your reality shouldn’t prevent you from dreaming big! Write down every crazy dream you have – even if you’ve never played an instrument, but want to rock a major festival. Next to your dreams, write down a list of first steps that could get you there. Then pick one and get going!

Stop waiting around to find your purpose in life and start living with purpose instead.

What is it with people needing to find their purpose? Most people use finding their purpose as a smokescreen to avoid doing anything.

Don’t be like them: Forget about finding a purpose. Think about all the pressure you put on yourself when you say that you want to find your one and only, true reason for being. That much pressure is going to prevent you from doing anything, much less what you were meant to do.

This is especially important advice if you’re young. Many teenagers and twenty-somethings freak out because they haven’t figured out a life path. They shouldn’t worry.

Scientists believe that our brains continue developing well into our twenties, so how is a not-yet-fully-formed teenager or a fresh college graduate supposed to figure out a purpose to guide the rest of his or her life?

Besides, waiting around until you find your purpose later will only prevent you from living with purpose today. So stop waiting for some big epiphany. Wherever you happen to be now, start living with purpose.

When you go to work, for instance, do it with purpose: Write those thank-you notes for employees and colleagues by hand today.

Love your partner with purpose: Buy tickets for a show you’ll both enjoy, and make dinner reservations for your favorite restaurant beforehand.

You can even vacation with purpose by only checking your email once a day. Do you really need to be available for emergencies around the clock? Instead of living for someone else, take your vacation into your own hands!

Try many new things to gain experience.

How do you get to the magical land of awesomeness? There are five steps, and the first one is all about learning – that is, trying many different things and gaining experience. After all, how can you know what you want to do if you haven’t tried a bunch of different things?

Think about it like this: When a scientific experiment fails, the scientist isn’t deemed a failure. We understand that even if the experiment didn’t work, the scientist still learned something valuable.

This gradual learning process is what allows people to become awesome. After all, no one is born an expert.

Consider Tiger Woods: He won the Masters when he was only 21 years old. That might seem young, but remember, he had been practicing for 18 years to get to that point!

So, to start the learning process, ask yourself this question: If you died tomorrow, what would you most regret having never done? Are you doing that thing now? Why not? And then just start doing it! But start small. For example, if you want to learn Chinese, find 30 minutes a week to sit down and get a feel for the basics.

Studies have shown that taking these kinds of small steps will prevent you from getting exhausted and giving up. Take Roy Baumeister’s famous 1998 experiment. Participants were divided into two groups – one group had permission to eat delicious cookies and the other was only allowed radishes.

Then both groups were given a tricky geometry exercise. The group that had eaten cookies made a concerted effort to solve the puzzle; meanwhile, the group that was only allowed radishes quickly gave up, because they had used up all their willpower denying themselves cookies..

Stay away from things that wont bring you joy

Now that you’ve mastered the art of learning, you have to focus on something. This second stage of success is all about editing your life.

As we’ve seen, learning is all about trying many different things. In fact, learning is a way of gaining possibilities and options. Unfortunately, you can’t be an expert in everything. So start editing: Look at all the different things you’ve learned, and then choose one you want to develop.

For example, if you have a passion both for writing and for giving speeches, you have to decide which skill you want to spend more time developing. The other one you can pursue as a hobby, or come back to it later in your life. In fact, make your own “later list” with possible future paths.

But in the meantime, ask yourself: What gives you the most joy? It’s important to phrase the question exactly that way.

Normally, we ask different kinds of questions – we ask result questions: What will earn us more money? Which industries are growing? Where does my experience lie?

And although these are important questions, asking them isn’t the right way to start. Just because certain jobs will allow you to earn money doesn’t mean they’ll deliver you to the magical land of awesomeness.

That’s because being awesome means doing something that inspires you. And once you’ve figured out what does, you’ll have plenty of jobs from which to choose.

For example, let’s say that you’ve edited your life and realized that you absolutely love sharing ideas. You can apply this in so many ways: You could become a blogger, an author, a podcast host, a counselor or a copywriter.

Whatever it is that you want to learn, just start working on it. And if halfway through, you realize that it’s not your way to awesome, simply edit it and move on to the next thing!

Build your expertise and ignore the haters in the way.

Now that you’ve figured out what you want to focus on, it’s time to take the next step, to mastery. The trick is to start simple. Volunteer somewhere; that is, trade your time for expertise. You’ll need to do this in order to get better at whatever you’re passionate about.

For example, if you want to become an awesome blogger, start by checking out and commenting on a lot of different blogs. Eventually, you can offer to write guests posts for free. This will allow you to improve your blogging skills while simultaneously connecting with the blogging community.

The first step? Create a list of people who are already doing what you’d like to do. How did they get where they are? What schools did they go to? What books have they read? What can you do to follow in their footsteps?

Next, prepare yourself for the inevitable feedback you’ll get as you pursue your passion. This is crucial, because no matter who you are or what you’re working on, you’ll encounter haters. Thus, you’ll need to understand the difference between sheer hatred and constructive criticism.Constructive criticism is there to help you improve; hatred, on the other hand, is just meant to hurt you.

Once you’ve identified hatred, you can deal with it by asking yourself two questions:

Where did the hurtful comment come from? If it’s from a stranger, especially online, let it go. You probably wouldn’t tolerate it if a random person yelled at you in real life; why would you listen to a stranger online?

Why did they say it? Just thinking about the other person’s perspective might allow you to feel better. Sometimes haters simply want attention; other times, they’re lashing out because they’re struggling with something in their own life.

When the finish line is in sight, it’s crucial to stay focused and not lose momentum.

Harvest all the great things you’ve been working on.

This is actually a tricky time, because the closer you get to something, the more you realize how much is still left to do. Deal with any loss of motivation by creating small finish lines for yourself. That way you’ll reach a goal each week and keep the momentum going.

For example, writing a book can take months. The best way to tackle such a big project is to divide the work into chapters, each with its own deadline. Alternately, you can set a goal with the number of words you want to write each day or each week. When you meet these smaller goals, you’ll stay motivated to keep going.

It’s also important to keep your focus. Once you start reaching big goals, people around you might tell you to start aiming for more. This can be an enticing message. For example, if you’ve started a business that’s not earning a profit, “more” could mean making your venture profitable.

But be skeptical. Whenever someone encourages you to pursue “more,” ask them why you should. Think of the entrepreneur who sacrifices time with his family to chase ever-bigger profits. Is he really so awesome? Figure out what matters to you, and stick to it.

To stay on track, think about what you did to get to this stage and figure out what’s no longer necessary for your path. For example, if you’ve started a blog, you probably spent a lot of energy attracting followers at first. Maybe you spent lots of time commenting on other people’s blogs to draw people to your site.

Well, now that your blog is popular in its own right, you don’t have to spend so much time commenting on other people’s sites. Instead, dedicate yourself to delivering what your readers want.

Share the love and help people on their own way to awesome.

Now that you’ve found something you love, you can guide others to follow their own version of the path. As it turns out, helping other people is incredibly satisfying.

How does this process work? Well, guiding others starts with a conversation. When you’re helping someone, it’s not about you, so ask questions! The only way to give good guidance is to be a good listener, so practice asking questions and listening to what people say.

To ensure you actually stick to the guiding path, connect it to something that’s already important in your life. For example, Tom and his friend sought mutual guidance from each other. They tried to meet for breakfast regularly, but they were both too busy, and only managed to see each other sporadically. Then they realized they both like to work out, so they decided to start going to the gym together. Now they meet, chat and guide each other three times a week, while they’re working out.

Guiding is great, but don’t get stuck doing only that. Always look for aspects of your own life that you want to develop, and then go all the way back to step one – to the learning stage – and start the journey to awesomeness all over again.

For example, let’s say you improved your career prospects and training, and finally landed a fantastic new job. Congrats! But don’t let your success make you lazy. Remember the “later list” you made during the editing stage? Pick something you haven’t done yet and get to it. Now’s the time to start!

You can stop being average and start being awesome, but first you have to know where to start. It’s all about overcoming your fear, living with purpose and following these five steps : learning new skills, editing to find your passion, mastering an expertise, harvesting the results and then guiding others.