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Do you think talk with people is easy?

Communication is not about speaking what we think. it is about ensuring others hear what we mean. Thus emotional awarness is necessary so you can properly convey your thought and feeling to the other person.

Human forget that we are talking to the people. When we talk to the people, this person has very complicated and complex life background that is difficult for us to understand 100% . Just imagine talking to the someone who we have no idea about their background at all. Then we ask that person to understand our background. There is a huge gap in the lives of these two people. They only met of a percentage of the time, for a long time of their lives.

And then this person expects to understand his/her way of thinking. That's the problem. So, make sure that the person can understand, grasp and understand the information that we convey.

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Self Impression

Choose what you share about yourself carefully - especially the extent to which you share it in the first place, as that is what will create people's first impression and image of you.

Even more important than that is how you take care of yourself in general and your energy. What do you value most about yourself and what do you attribute your worth to?

That's what others will appreciate about you without you saying anything - they'll be able to feel it.

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Some things in life are not meant to be measured, but just to experienced it, right?

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People say that you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory.

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Loving is fun, it's even more fun when it's reciprocated.

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What I appreciate is that you are willing to listen to understand.

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Live your life and your choices, everyone has different priorities, if you're just looking for happiness, don't get married!"

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Compassion to our stress

The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another." William James

Mood swings are part of human life. But there are things we can control:

1. Mental Exercise:

Taking a few minutes to be aware of your breath can help you be mindful and reduce stress. I sometimes stand up, look around, and do some slow, deep breathing.

2. Physical Exercise:

A brisk walk, some stretching, or a few reps of an exercise (push-ups, plank, jumping jacks) can release endorphins, making you feel better instantly.

I start almost every morning with 20-30 minutes of yoga. Working on your mind or body first is a great way to feel productive.

3. Eat Right:

A balanced diet isn't just good for the body; it's fuel for the mind. Being present and mindful when choosing and consuming food is a great way to start.

I look at the ingredients and when in doubt, simple, whole foods will not disappoint.

4. Social Support:

A chat with a good friend or mentor can often provide a new perspective that brightens your mood.

When I am in need, I think of positive people, I call them, and I ask them to cheer me up!

5. Routine:

Having a daily schedule can provide a sense of predictability and control, thus reducing mood instability. Creating some structure around priorities can reduce unnecessary stress.

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To be the best version of ourselves, we must understand how to communicate so that we can be perceived the way we want to be seen heard and valued

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Relationships are mirrors reflecting our inner selves, suggesting that we attract energies Similar to our own. The importance of believing in the authenticity of love is emphasized, along with a caution against the constant need for proof, which can divert us from true self-awareness. As individuals undergo personal transformations, some relationships may face challenges or even end.

There are special people, often thought of as "angels on earth," who provide unconditional support through these times of change. The message encourages reciprocating the love and support we have received by healing, forgiving, and valuing our unique contributions to the world. The overarching theme affirms our self-worth and the importance of persistence in love and self-acceptance.

source : quora

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Break from the dot

How do you want to make the routine to be awesome ? The key is within us. If we are willing and keep practicing it. Fill the routine in a different way. For example, if you go for a walk to the park, when you go out on a street, and when you are going back to your house try a different way.

Try different things, explore new things, take a break from your routine activities, learn something new. Take a break from your habit.

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Penampilan itu bisa menimbulkan persepsi, tapi gak selalu jadi repersentasi sifat. You may judge a book by its cover. But if you want to validate your judgement, read it.

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Lonelines

Loneliness occurs where there are childhood issues (inner child wounds and wounded parents) and not being ourselves and thus not connecting with others in any relationship.

To have a healthy relationship with anyone, have a healthy relationship with yourself. Because we will like to see the reflection of others from ourselves. If we don't like ourselves crying, then we won't like others crying. If we don't like ourselves being tired, then we won't like others being tired. Listen to what your mind and feeling tell you. Feel your feeling. And respond kindly to every part of it. So that we can connect with ourselves.

And improve our communication so that we can be heard and understood:

Express our grievances:

1. I feel...

2. After what happened...

3. I wish....

source : dr. Jiemi Ardian

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For a moment, the importance of smartphone detox

I have been using a smart phone since 2013, my first phone was an lg optimus phone with a small and handy touch screen. Instagram Facebook, twitter, instagram and other applications at that time and my interest in exploring the world through the internet.

So enjoy it internet entertainment and can interact with people outside the city and abroad. The difference in time and region does not seem to be a barrier to getting to know each other and exchanging news and information. Know everything that happens in the International and domestic world, politics, news, finance, showbizz, cinema, culture, language, food, health, and many other things.

But over time, I realized something different was happening. From addiction, addiction, anxiety, and fears themselves caused by smart phones. Anxiety that arises when away from a smart phone. Anxious because the entertainment we get instantly through social media platforms is replaced by Real-World Entertainment. Like being present and enjoying all the activities we do.

The distraction of social media account application notifications, preaching through the air and my attention was distracted and focused on the sound of my smart phone notification.

Because with the ease and presence of smart phones in addition to helping human access, which brings human social interaction closer and keeps social interaction close.

The real annoyance in this day and age is that we hang our needs and happiness on our smartphones.

As reported by various studies and websites, the emergence of anxiety, addiction to gadgets and smart phones, increasing mental health issues in children, adolescents and adults. Nomophobia is when someone is away from their smartphone. Whether it's the concern of other people will ask how we are, or we are worried about not updating and losing information and other up to date news.

Fomo (Fear of Missing Out) where the fear of losing news from friends and others whether it's scrolling social media and the latest news from anyone we follow on various social media platforms.

These drugs,addictions and more became a real nuisance to me. Therefore, I think I need to pay attention to mental health and other things related to my dependence on smart phones. The time that I spent and the real attention that I was able to divert from the world of the internet to the world that I'm facing right now. Returning full awareness of my thoughts, feelings and things that I can control to things that are real and anchored in my limbs.

Present fully the soul, mind and heart in the present moment, this moment and now. So that my mind doesn't wander to things that are out of my control.

The step I will do during the smartphone detox is to switch to my old nokia phone, which can only be switched to sms and my phone can still communicate.

As for related to projects or emails that I still use and whatsapp or others, I can go to internet cafes once a week to just open messages and reply to incoming emails and check other things that are closely related to work or if there are urgent things, then the choice is to borrow my mother's cellphone related to other important things that are needed.

Entertainment such as scrolling social media can I switch to other things such as gaining new skills through non-internet activities, such as going to the library, meeting friends and taking them home, reading books, cooking new dishes, exercising more often, learning new languages, journaling by bringing notebooks and pencils. Practice new skills and evaluate habits that need to be changed or improved. As well as being able to connect with yourself and others in a fully conscious and more productive and not anxious anymore

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Merasa istimewa!

Jangan menganggap dirimu mempunyai tempat istimewa dihati siapapun. Jangan mengambil ruang yang terlalu besar dihatimu untuk berharap dan percaya. Sisakan sedikit ruang untuk kecewa, dan sedikit ruang untuk memahami semuanya.

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Sejenak Pentingnya Detox smartphone

Halo, perkenalkan saya ucai. Saya berasal dari indonesia, saat ini sedang berusaha menemukan cara agar bisa berhenti dari ketergantungan ponsel pintar dan adiksi lainnya yang terdapat didalamnya.

Saya menggunakan ponsel pintar semenjak 2013, ponsel pertama saya yaitu hape lg optimus dengan touch screen yang kecil dan handy. Saya termasuk pengguna aktif sosial media dari facebook, twitter, instagram dan aplikasi lainnya pada kala itu dan ketertarikan saya menjelajahi dunia lewat internet.

Saking menikmatinya hiburan internet dan bisa berinteraksi dengan orang diluar kota dan diluar negeri. Perbedaan waktu dan wilayah seolah tidak menjadi penghalang untuk saling mengenal dan bertukar kabar dan informasi. Tahu akan segala hal yang terjadi di dunia internasional dan dalam negeri, politik, berita, keuangan, showbizz, perfilman, budaya, bahasa, makanan, kesehatan, dan masih banyak hal yang lainnya.

Namun seiring waktu pula, saya merasakan ada hal yang berbeda yang saya alami. Dari mulai kecanduan, adiksi, cemas, serta ketakutan-ketakutan sendiri diakibatkan ponsel pintar. Cemas yang muncul ketika berada jauh dari ponsel pintar. Cemas karena hiburan-hiburan yang kita peroleh secara instan melalui sosial media platform tergantikan dengam hiburan dunia nyata. Seperti hadir dan menikmati segala aktifitas yang kita lakukan.

Distraksi notifikasi aplikasi akun sosial media, berkabar lewat udara dan perhatian saya teralihkan dan tertuju pada bunyi notifikasi ponsel pintar saya.

Karena dengan kemudahan dan kehadiran ponsel pintar selain memang membantu akses manusia, dimana mendekatkan interaksi sosial manusia yang jauh dan menjauhkan interaksi sosial yang dekat.

Gangguan yang nyata di zaman sekarang adalah karena kita menggantungkan kebutuhan dan kebahagiaam kita pada ponsel pintar.

Seperti dilansir berbagai penelitian dan website, munculnya anxiety, adiksi gadget dan ponsel pintar, meningkatnya isu kesehatan mental pada anak-anak, remaja dan dewasa. Nomophobia dimana dikatakan cemasnya seseorang saat berada jauh dari ponsel pintarnya. Entah itu kekhawatiran oranglain akan menanyakan kabar kita, atau kita khawatir terhadap tidak updatenya serta kehilangan informasi dan berita-berita up to date lainnya.

Fomo (Fear Of Missing Out) dimana ketakutan akan kehilangan kabar berita dari teman dan lainnya entah itu scrolling social media dan kabar terbaru dari siapapun yang kita ikuti di berbagai platform social media.

Candu, Adiksi dan lainnya ini menjadi gangguan nyata yang saya hadapi. Oleh karena itu, saya berfikir untuk perlu memperhatikan kesehatan mental dan hal lainnya terkait ketergantungan saya akan ponsel pintar. Waktu yang saya habiskan serta perhatian nyata yang saya bisa alihkan dari dunia internet kepada dunia yang saya sedang hadapi saat ini. Mengembalikan kesadaran secara penuh fikiran,perasaan dan hal-hal yang bisa saya kendalikan kepada hal-hal yang nyata dan berjangkar pada anggota tubuh saya.

Menghadirkan secara penuh jiwa, fikiran dan hati pada momen saat ini, detik ini dan sekarang. Sehingga fikiran tidak terbang menjelajah ke hal-hal diluar kendali saya.

Langkah yang saya akan lakukan selama detox smartphone adalah dengan berpindah ke ponsel nokia lama saya, yang hanya bisa dipakia untuk sms dan telepon setikdanya saya masih bisa berkomunikasi.

Adapun terkait dengan projek atau email yang saya masih gunakan serta whatsapp atau lainnya saya bisa pergi ke warung internet seminggu sekali untuk sekedar membuka pesan dan membalas email yang masuk serta mengecek hal lainnya yang ada erat kaitannya dengan pekerjaan atau jika ada hal yang urgent, maka pilihannya adalah meminjam hape ibu saya terkait hal-hal penting lainnya yang saat itu diperlukan.

Hiburan seperti scrolling social media bisa saya alihkan kepada hal lainnya seperti mengali keahlian baru lewat kegiatan non internet, seperti pergi ke perpustakaan, bertemu teman dan mengajak main kerumahnya, membaca buku, memasak masakan baru, latihan olahraga lebih sering, belajar bahasa baru, journaling dengan membawa buku catatan dan pensil. Melatih kemampuan baru dan mengevaluasi kebiasaan yang harus diubah atau diperbaiki. Serta bisa terhubung dengan diri dan oranglain secara penuh sadar serta lebih produktif dan tidak cemas lagi.