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where is "someone dropped their picrew hand ideas"

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a secret third thing

well that's nice

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was asked to make a transmasc version of the meme

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I had a friend who is cishet and on the aroace spectrum. They had trouble knowing if they were queer/ welcome in the queer community because of others judgement upon them, they felt they were being judged for being cishet.

I had mentioned to another queer friend, how this friend was feeling, and their response was that they didn't believe the cishet person was aroace. Didn't believe they were queer and claimed they were just trying to invade the space, and even if they were aroace, it didn't matter, because they were cishet, and cishets cant be in the community.

A cis queer said that. It was perplexing for me to hear, because ...what?

Thats what peoples excuse is. The person is cishet (or even just het.)

But that's of course not all it boils down to.

It's aphobia.

It's ignorance to the split attraction model, something that a lot of aspec people find helpful and validating for expressing their experiences and self.

It's ignorance and denial to the struggles aspec people face.

(and I think something should be said about how allo people dismiss this discrimination and act like its not a thing while being in a position of favour in an allo/amatonormative world.)

I don't know if anybody needs to hear this, but:

What makes somebody else queer might not be what makes you queer. That is completely okay. Nothing is wrong with that.

When people gatekeep queerness, you know what comes to mind? That one saying about how 'somebody will pick on you because they're insecure in themself'.

I think that can be applied to a lot of these situations.

I get the impression some people believe if a person whos identity contradicts their own in some way is valid then theirs must be invalid. They invalidate the others in order to validate themself.

But the truth is they don't invalidate each other. Their identity is theirs and yours is yours. It's completely personal and if you feel you're being effected by theirs for no other reason other than because its there, that's not their fault.

Your priority should be validating yourself, not invalidating others. Identity is a personal experience, not a wrong or right one.

Marginalized groups can contribute to the oppression of other marginalized groups, your status as a minority does not cancel out your ability to cause harm and it doesn't make what privileges you do have obsolete. Everybody has biases to some extent, it's too embedded to avoid, but it is possible to unlearn.

Having privilege is also not something to disassociate yourself from. It's a lack of oppression. It isn't an indication of your morality. What you do with it is what matters. You can use it not just for yourself but to help others who don't have that.

Your privileges also don't cancel out oppression you may face.

Cis queer people are obviously welcome in the community, and people seem to forget that trans het people exist and they are welcome too.

There are queer people who are cis, there are queer people who are straight. That's a fact. (even though some people seem to completely forget about trans het people)

So I dont believe people who gatekeep aspec cishets from the community are doing so solely because they are cis/het. It's because they don't view aro/ace people as queer.

If we can acknowledge that sex and gender are different and a spectrum, We can acknowledge sexual and romantic orientation is that way as well. It's not a straight line.

no facet of ones identity invalidates another part of it. They can co-exist as well.

Aspec people are queer.

Being cishet does not take away that queerness either.

They are all queer enough.

Aphobia is queerphobia

Asexual folks are no “less Queer”.

Aromantic folks are no “less Queer”.

Bi/Mspec folks are no “less Queer”.

We’re all just as Queer as any other Queer person.

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walter white boob check

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no way...

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why is the best DID representation in media always accidental. the moment they try to do it on purpose its just the evil alter trope again but the moment theyre not trying its like wow. how did you manage to get that accurate accidentally?

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mamma mia!

not really comparing but more admiring and i SWEAR EVENTUALLY ILL DRAW IT REVERSED BUT THIS WAS EATING MY BRAIN

requested by @gaypornluvr420

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Bc of a video that went around on tumblr I’ve been referring to bruce campbell as “white man jumpscare”.

Like evil dead starring Mr. Whiteman Jumpscare. That’s his name.

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An old thing I never posted of Travis with glasses. Enjoy!

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Lauramax is so gay idk how else to explain it they are so sapphic.

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this is shocking

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the them!!!!

!!!!! Lauramax enjoyers !!! Hi !!!