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Name this

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~ my shade of red ~

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~ Soft Furr ~

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~Soft Dark~

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It's ShowTime!

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Another uninspiring study session

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Uninspiring study session

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~Romanticize you life~

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~Retro Anime Aesthetic~

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~Darkness~

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~Dark Retro Anime~

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Goals for 2024

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2024 is here. You are again setting your goals wishing for the best, saying that this year will be different form the previous one, that you will follow a list of healthy habits etc. My goals are prepared for the new year, I’m excited but there is another problem, 2024 goals are the goals I’ve set for many years and yet I’m still here.

Glow up, wongyoungism, becoming that girl, clean girl aesthetic are the same shit. It’s all about improving, becoming better or becoming the same person because we tend to set the same goals without customizing them for our needs. I only have to explore to know what I actually want. Setting goals is personal. My goals are not my sister’s goals nor my favorite influencer’s goals nor my friend’s goals nor worldwide. It’s perfect if I try some stuff, but I’m going to stick to what I really want. When setting goals you have to be specific, you have to align your goals to your actual situation to make progress, but no, it doesn't mean that if I'm a C student I can't be an A+ student by the end of the year ~ timing is important in setting goals.

Let’s assume that I know what I want but I don’t know how to accomplish a specific goal. I will start searching for information, I will find different resources, inspiration, probably I will buy something that I think will help but doesn’t. I will probably make an action plan that will probably not be following. Make it realistic and followable. Prepare.

You have to answer some questions to make an actual plan for achieving something. Identify the problem. What stops you from getting there? Is something triggering there? Look at your past. What went wrong? What worked? If I do the same thing over and over again why do I expect a different result? Record your journey, you will see the progress.

Now, I assume that I know how to accomplish that goal but I’m still not ‘starting’. I’ve started actually (in the previous step), but I’m not taking action, I’m not following the plan, I’m not even getting out of my bed. I’m sitting there like a couch potato asking myself what’s wrong with me. Am I scared of something? Has self-sabotage something to do with this? Am I comparing to others? I mean that’s still a problem, humans love to compare themself. Comparing makes us see how far have others reached and how behind we are in life. It motivates us to give up. Comparing it’s very important in developing insecurities. We compare because we are jealous. Do I actually want to be ‘the best version of myself’ or do I want to be better that someone I know? I would lie myself, I would tell that I love myself and I will never compare myself to others. I will lie because that will make me feel a little bit better, not too much, but enough to stop my negative self talk. It will backfire. I know, and it will backfire many times until I actually find and fix the real problem. Reflect.

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Word of the day

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can I invite you to the ball ?

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Today I was blessed. This little lady came for petting.

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today a girl called me ''baby'' ~ I feel cute now - adopt me please

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Female Rage