#how to cope

[muyru-iru]

Commander Fox: I was rejected too, Bly. It happens to everyone once in a while. Commander Bly: HOw?! You never loved someone out of your range! Commander Fox: I tried to send a decommission request for myself. It was denied right away. Bly (as a brother): ...Fox. Why.

[daniel-is-me]

i always forget that theyre the same person

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Autistic Burnout

Neurodivergent_lou

[manilovedinosaurs]

NEIL PERRY IN DEAD POETS SOCIETY 1989 IS CANONICALLY DEAD??? IT WASNT A JOKE??? SERIOUSLY GONE??? NEVER RETURNING BACK???

[mossy-petrichor]

Mossy Petrichor's healthy coping 101

Do you always dissociate from distressing situations, repress strong emotions or deal with stress by self harming? Do you have 0 idea what it means when people talk about "coping"? This post is for you!

I usually see this happen a lot in people who were emotionally neglected (like yours truly), which is unfortunately really common, but no less traumatizing

Psa: all of this is based off my own experience, as someone who also had no idea how to cope and learned it by themselves. This isn't medical advice!

So, what does coping mean?

When you go through a stressful situation, you can feel your emotions at a 10/10. To cope is to bring this down so you don't lose your mind. This can apply to anger, sadness, hopelessness, fear

I like to separate coping into two ways:

Expressing the emotions in a healthy way

Calming yourself and bringing the emotions down (when you can't express them, or when those emotions do more harm than good)

I usually go by 1, but 2 can be used for when, for example, feeling angry at someone who can't change. So you keep feeling this anger that you can't do anything about, and it'll just make you feel worse to keep feeling it whenever you look at this person

Here's some things to make sure to do if you're feeling shitty:

Drink water

Eat a meal

Shower/bathe

Take a nap

Move your body (go outside if you can)

Socialize, talk to friends

(think of yourself as an animal in the zoo. If you noticed them feeling bad, what would you do to make them feel better?)

Here's some examples of how to express emotions healthily:

Singing loudly, screaming, humming, stimming verbally, talking to yourself out loud about what made you feel bad

Acting, drawing, painting (it doesn't have to be perfect! Just express whatever those emotions feel like, in whichever way feels right)

Writing poetry, visual poetry, making playlists, writing (like projecting into a character, make them do the things you wish you could do to cope)

Writing about how you feel, crying, venting (can be counterproductive, so if you feel like venting is just making things worse, try something else!)

Dancing, jumping, running/walking, exercising, cleaning, stimming physically

Ripping paper, chewing on something

Baking or cooking, going outside, playing with animals, gardening, taking pictures

Here's some examples of how to calm your emotions when you can't express them:

Watch something that makes you laugh

Consume comfort media (make a list! Videos, series, movies, books, songs)

Play a chill game

Make a list of things that make you happy and read it

Listening to music

Taking deep breaths, tensing and relaxing your muscles

Engage with things that make you happy (a hobby, art, an interest)

Meditation, sitting and thinking about your emotions

This isn't an extensive list! Coping is a very personal thing, and all of these are suggestions if you don't know where to start! In the beginning, it can (and will) feel like it doesn't do anything, because you're used to immediate solutions to make you stop feeling unpleasant emotions, and healthy coping mechanisms don't work immediately - it's a long term thing

Some of these can make you feel worse, in which case you should just try something else. As I said, they won't immediately make you feel better until you're more used to coping healthily

Eventually, you'll reach a point where it feels more intuitive and less forceful and uncomfortable, but you have to get past this first phase! It's like building a muscle, and it takes work. With practice, you'll figure out what works best for you and what doesn't

I promise it gets easier :•)

[ruinix]

I miss quinn

[my-crown-is-covered-in-blood]

Gosh I feel so overwhelmed by this finale...

I will miss this show so much

[windswept-shapeshifter]

gotta stop thinking about eating raw meat alakaldjakskxjakdjxmskfjcnkshrchjshenfkxjahrmxkajdnxksjdk

[alien-ontheinternet]

Listing all my good coping skills!

Hope this helped!

[lacyfide]

currently crying cs I found out my gf followed the guy she talked to before me on her main AND priv and didn't tell me

[scoldingdarjeeling]

On the topic of fandom interaction…

I wish I had the courage to join Discord groups—or any online communities, really. I crave interaction with like-minded weirdos who obsess over literature, video games, and movies, because I don’t have that in my offline life. I don’t have a support system or a beta reader eager to dive into pages of rough drafts, and I’ve made my peace with that.

But something I’ve learned about myself in recent years is how deeply I feel the sting of being left on read. Rejection dysphoria is common for people with ADHD or on the spectrum (and beyond), and I think many kind, generous souls can relate to that sharp, irrational ache of perceived abandonment. And I realize—that’s nobody’s responsibility but my own.

So while I long to find my tribe online, I need to do it in a way that doesn’t leave me raw and disillusioned—or unintentionally place that burden on someone else.

[theartistaslisalee]

Happy 2025...???

I hope everyone have stayed safe and warm with your loved ones on the rather chaotic start of this new year.

I mean is this the sign of what we can expect from now on?

Yeah every new year has had it rough start but this really takes the cake...

There is only one thing I can think of to cope with this and for possibly the unforseeable future...

[melouthechalk]

[vanalex]

[rlovergirl]

"You talk and people listen. I'm not like that."

[lenalovesreading]

this gave me a visceral reaction I'm telling you

STOP STOP DON'T DO THIS TO ME PLEASE