#label fluid

[io-archival]

[ID: a rectangular flag of 5 even horizontal stripes, the colors go from top to bottom as yellow, cream white, green, dark turquoise, and blue./end ID] ID by accessibilitea

[PT: Label Fluid /end PT]

Label Fluid

a gender for people who dont like to use consistent labels for their gender, or feel like the label for their gender is constantly changing.

colors: yellow, cream white, green, dark turquoise, blue - colors do not have individual meanings, but are based off of the gender fluid flag

[inkskinned]

you're grabbing lunch with a nice man and he gives you that strange grimace-smile that's popular right now; an almost sardonic "twist" of his mouth while he looks literally down on you. it looks like he practiced the move as he leans back, arms folded. he just finished reciting the details of NFTs to you and explaining Oppenheimer even though he only watched a youtube about it and hasn't actually seen it. you are at the bottom of your wine glass.

you ask the man across from you if he has siblings, desperately looking for a topic. literally anything else.

he says i don't like small talk. and then he smiles again, watching you.

a few years ago, you probably would have said you're above celebrity gossip, but honestly, you've been kind of enjoying the dumb shit of it these days. with the rest of the earth burning, there's something familiar and banal about dragging ariana grande through the mud. you think about jeanette mccurdy, who has often times gently warned the world she's not as nice as she appears. you liked i'm glad my mom died but it made you cry a lot.

he doesn't like small talk, figure out something to say.

you want to talk about responsibility, and how ariana grande is only like 6 days older than you are - which means she just turned 30 and still dresses and acts like a 13 year old, but like sexy. there's something in there about the whole thing - about insecurity, and never growing up, and being sexualized from a young age.

people have been saying that gay people are groomers. like, that's something that's come back into the public. you have even said yourself that it's just ... easier to date men sometimes. you would identify as whatever the opposite of "heteroflexible" is, but here you are again, across from a man. you like every woman, and 3 people on tv. and not this guy. but you're trying. your mother is worried about you. she thinks it's not okay you're single. and honestly this guy was better before you met, back when you were just texting.

wait, shit. are you doing the same thing as ariana grande? are you looking for male validation in order to appease some internalized promise of heteronormativity? do you conform to the idea that your happiness must result in heterosexuality? do you believe that you can resolve your internal loneliness by being accepted into the patriarchy? is there a reason dating men is easier? why are you so scared of fucking it up with women? why don't you reach out to more of them? you have a good sense of humor and a big ol' brain, you could have done a better job at online dating.

also. jesus christ. why can't you just get a drink with somebody without your internal feminism meter pinging. although - in your favor (and judgement aside) in the case of your ariana grande deposition: you have been in enough therapy you probably wouldn't date anyone who had just broken up with their wife of many years (and who has a young child). you'd be like - maybe take some personal time before you begin this journey. like, grande has been on broadway, you'd think she would have heard of the plot of hamlet.

he leans forward and taps two fingers to the table. "i'm not, like an andrew tate guy," he's saying, "but i do think partnership is about two people knowing their place. i like order."

you knew it was going to be hard. being non-straight in any particular way is like, always hard. these days you kind of like answering the question what's your sexuality? with a shrug and a smile - it's fine - is your most common response. like they asked you how your life is going and not to reveal your identity. you like not being straight. you like kissing girls. some days you know you're into men, and sometimes you're sitting across from a man, and you're thinking about the power of compulsory heterosexuality. are you into men, or are you just into the safety that comes from being seen with them? after all, everyone knows you're failing in life unless you have a husband. it almost feels like a gradebook - people see "straight married" as being "all A's", and anything else even vaguely noncompliant as being ... like you dropped out of the school system. you cannot just ignore years of that kind of conditioning, of course you like attention from men.

"so let's talk boundaries." he orders more wine for you, gesturing with one hand like he's rousing an orchestra. sir, this is a fucking chain restaurant. "I am not gonna date someone who still has male friends. also, i don't care about your little friends, i care about me. whatever stupid girls night things - those are lower priority. if i want you there, you're there."

he wasn't like this over text, right? you wouldn't have been even in the building if he was like this. you squint at him. in another version of yourself, you'd be running. you'd just get up and go. that's what happens on the internet - people get annoyed, and they just leave. you are locked in place, almost frozen. you need to go to the bathroom and text someone to call you so you have an excuse, like it's rude to just-leave. like he already kind of owns you. rudeness implies a power paradigm, though. see, even your social anxiety allows the patriarchy to get to you.

you take a sip of the new glass of wine. maybe this will be a funny story. maybe you can write about it on your blog. maybe you can meet ariana grande and ask her if she just maybe needs to take some time to sit and think about her happiness and how she measures her own success.

is this settling down? is this all that's left in your dating pool? just accepting that someone will eventually love you, and you have to stop being picky about who "makes" you a wife?

you look down to your hand, clutching the knife.

[humbuns]

For pride requests, like, Shu has something going on. Something dysphoria, maybe ace too but maybe he moves past repulsion once he figures out the gender thing, I don't know, what's your read?

oh i 100% agree, i have always seen shu being a little uncomfortable with their existence because it reminds them that they are a little too human (in his heart and in his mind) so it will probably take them a while to realize anything in some form without layers and layers of deflections but they're getting there (this is the sole reason why i like to see shu as a gem slowly being polished, they were always brilliant but it takes time to see it and accept it yourself)

[moonlightsapphic]

Reasons why someone may identify as bi lesbian (a valid identity!):

a bi woman who experiences rare attraction to men but never enough to date one.

a bi woman who was attracted to a man only once in her life, so he is like an exception.

a woman who is bisexual but monoromantic towards women, or biromantic but monosexual towards women.

a bi woman who is only attracted to non-men and occasionally fem men.

a bi woman who doesn’t date men and doesn’t intend to ever do so.

a lesbian who formerly was bisexual and now her identity has shifted, and she wants her label to reflect both.

a late-in-life lesbian who is married to a man but is comfortable staying with her husband because of their unique love/companionship.

a poly lesbian whose partner’s partners (whom they may rendezvous with) may rarely include men.

a lesbian who does not identify as “monosexual” or “monoromatic” despite only being attracted to non-men, since she feels that she is attracted to multiple non-men genders.

a lesbian in a relationship with a trans man.

a “straight” trans man who formerly identified as a masc lesbian and remains in a relationship with a lesbian.

a bi transmasc who prefers to date other transmascs as well as women.

a transfem bi woman who strongly identifies with centering her life around womanhood and wlw love.

a genderfluid lesbian.

a bisexual woman using the pre-separatism meaning of “lesbian”, back when it was an umbrella term for all sapphics.

… and many more!

*I use “woman” and “she/her” in these examples but this may apply to any genderqueer sapphics as well!

Yes, many of these experiences can be described by using one of “bi” or “lesbian”, rather than both in combination. Lesbianism includes many non-men genders and trans women! Bisexuality includes all genders including trans folks! Lesbianism is considered monosexual identity, but also in some ways multisexual, and “bi lesbian” is often used by those who strongly identify with being mspec. Labels are for our comfort in identifying ourselves and our lived experiences, as well as to accurately communicate our identities to others. We shouldn’t police them! Queer people are deviant and complex by nature! Rigid rules are for the patriarchy, not us. Labeling conventions are fully arbitrary and we should prioritise what will maximise queer folks’ happiness.

Folks spend a lot of (misplaced) energy hating on the label “bi lesbian” and want to eradicate it by claiming it is TERF propaganda—however that’s not very nuanced. There are queer elders who use this term—should we really have the audacity to tell them how to live? Ironically it’s gender essentialist in and of itself to try to put people in a box. We should remember that bisexuals and lesbians originally were all just “lesbians” (ie in the same way we use “sapphic” as an umbrella term today), and it was TERF rhetoric in second-wave feminism that resulted in lesbian separatism. A simple label used by a tiny minority can’t cause all kinds of scary lesbophobia, biphobia, and transphobia (as it is, endosex allocishetero people can barely tell bisexuality from lesbianism anyway and don’t know a thing about trans people either ;n;)—If it is a possibility, that’s our job as a community to fight back misinformation. :)

[coinger]

batteryflux / -tery

Definition ( 🔋 ) - a gender system where your social energy determines how much of a specific identity you feel.

Ig; cattery, where your social energy determines how much of catgender you feel.

Flag meaning: grays for neutral, white and black for high and low, and battery for social energy. Feel free to make your own or color your own of this identity / system, just tag me in it.

Flag coined by @coinger ( 🪫 )

tagged - batterygender , battery , -tery

[contradictory-label-culture-is]

Why are exclusivists scared of using more than one label to describe one thing? Like the "just choose one" attitude! Bi and a lesbian? Nope, choose one, you're abrosexual/have a fluid sexuality between these things and still identify as them "separately"? Nope just be abrosexual! You can't be all of them even though you are! (And one specific one I heard) "Why not be a genderfluid lesbian and not lesboy?"

[elizakai]

Reminder that Dreamtale Twins are canonically sexless beings who identify with male pronouns.

yk what that means troops~💫

[leona-florianova]

Has to be said, that while I do think that Jack and Stephen love each other vey very very much and that they are in some kind of symbiotic and queer relationship.

I also firmly believe that Jack is just... The most vanilla, heterosexual leaning and disappointingly bad at sex guy to ever exist.. BUT... Hes also deeply bi romantic and so so so friendship-eager that hes dangerously capable to quickly form a friendship/ fall in love with just about anyone who seems nice and shows him a bit of decency n affection... especially if they share a meal with him.

Which...Combined with his inability to notice any queer activity and more subtle advances at all (anything compareble to less than a direct attack with a sledgehammer)...makes him extremely confusing to all the sodomites... and tbh to everyone else too...

Meanwhile Stephen is... Even putting anything like a label on him feels wrong.. he could decide on something else on a whim or when the drugs wear off ... or kick in ... but he seems like some flavour of kinky acespec to me (demi?)...

An extremely secretive acespec whos waaaay more into taking people and animals apart and studying them than anything else (both bodies and minds)..... except maybe the idea of being mauled (body and especially mind... bonus if the person tormenting him is a beautiful powerful independant woman comparable to some carnivorous beast)....Oh yeah... and also chasing a concept..

..

Anyway...

The thing is, if Stephen actually proposed anything....(and he would have to be the one to initiate, because for all of Jacks repetitions of the "Go straight at them", he rarely does, does he? More often He waits and surveys untill they "Go straight at Him")

He would propose it in such a roundabout and awkward way that it would necessarily include at least about two hours of detailed descriptions of mating habits of some amphibians.

And if Jack didnt zone out through all that and actually caught the drift... Hed probably go tomato red and be like "Haha what a lewd chap you are, Stephen. Anyway I have to do something very important elsewhere, excuse me" and hed promptly walk into a door frame because his whole mind would be occupied by some hardcore compartmentalizing.

But if they get to something after that I think it should be only right if it keeps with the theme of the books.. A sort of monkey paw situation

-> Sex so awkward and disappointing they dont mention it again, but Stephen doubles down with his castration jokes/genuine suggestions....But they still love each other.

*i do like when they suffer

[mewfortress5]

New opinion- instead of Scout being called Roo, he should be called anything thats shorthand for kookaburra, bc he's loud and annoying and you can tell when any kind of noise is made by him specifically by how annoying the noise is

..... also, Kooka sounds cute and lowkey like a jab if you're not in the know like he and Sniper are :]

[ingydar-phan]

Sometimes i feel like some phannies have zero critical thinking. Shaking yall by the shoulders and saying. Dan is gay. Dan is gayyyy. Dan is GAY! Dan is a homosexual man!!!!!!!!!!

[whump-polls]

interested in some demographics, so

[omegamoo]

actually what they don't tell you about life is that when a cute boy who talks to you about whether or not robespierre from the french revolution would smoke weed asks you if you're single, your soul sort of falls out of your body

[boygirlfemme]

𐙚 ﹐wisterifluid

someone who is genderfluid, but their fluidity never encompasses genders that are not connected to femasculinity (femininity and masculinity) in some way. people who are wisterifluid may still be fluid between genders that are neutral, null, xenine, etc. but are still connected to femininity and masculinity in their gender while also experiencing that other gender.

i named the gender after wisteria because wisteria flowers have both male and female organs, the shade of the flowers match the color pallete, and theyre my favorite flower :3

my coined term/flag ꒱

[skeletonh0e]

the boys personal opinion on genders (dating)

Has no real preference, ppl are just pretty: Classic, Ace, Blue, Killer, Dust

Prefers femme leaning individuals, but nothing is off the table: Red & Axe

Bro what even is gender?: Fresh & Nightmare

If you're asking for sexuality headcanons tho?

Bi/Pan Disasters: Blue, Ace, Red, Killer, Axe

Demisexual & Demi Romantic: Classic & Dust

Asexual, Panromantic (possibly Aroflux?): Fresh

Nightmare is somehow all of these and none of these, will probably call you cringe for asking

[chronicallyqueercoining2]

BiGayLesflexible

[Pt: BiGayLesflexible end pt]

A label for someone who has an identity that is flexible between bi, gay, and lesbian. This may be a subset of abrosexual/abroromantic or related to it, but it does not have to be.

COINING POST

Triflexible beings may connect with these labels to different degrees at different times, and the fluctuating may be influenced by various factors.

[u5eername]

Uh first coining post! I am a little scared, hello mogai fellows and fae

brainfluidic

A gender for someone who feels like their brain is liquid. Xenogender that can be used by anyone, edit the flag as you will

Color explanation ⬇️

Dark red: blood

Pink: Brains are often depicted as pink, hence this color in the flag. Could also be interpreted as blood

Light pink: Brains are often this color, made pink for aesthetic reasons

Beige: brains can also be this color, could also be interpreted as equality

Brown: equality in race and gender

Yeah

DNI nsfw / mogai antis / homophobes / therian or otherkin antis, i will also openly block aswell so keep that in mind