#this could also include non-binary people too

[nogodsinfoxholes]

yeah ive seen this discourse before but i’m just genuinely wondering how many trans people, that you can verify are actually trans* (see what i mean below before jumping down my throat), were uncomfortable with these jokes. like, even you didn’t say these jokes ever made you uncomfortable.

i did not see a problem with these jokes at all until about a year, two years ago. and i have primarily see trans men and mascs complaining about it. that’s pretty interesting to me because it’s no coincidence that radfems repeatedly infiltrate trans masc communities, under the disguise of being one themselves or a detransitioner who’s “gender critical”. it’s no coincidence to me that a lot of blogs i’ve looked at with this claim — even those who claim to be trans — the blogs are filled with repackaged radical feminism. radfems share tips with eachother on how to disguise propaganda in progressive spaces, including trans spaces.

i’d say also if someone is trans taking their discomfort about these jokes at face value is kinna odd to me too. maybe they’re uncomfortable because they’re still grappling with their own identity.

maybe we’re having a definitional problem that’s making me really confused why this is even rude at all and how it would affect anyone but cis people. i’m deeply confused by what exorsexism is because when i looked it up:

imo non-binary is trans. trans to me does not mean the gender binary. an egg joke to me does not have to be about the gender binary, but i will contend it frequently is. altersex refers primarily to fictional characters who are totally irrelevant to this discussion but it does mention real people, and i’d argue that’s also… trans. i dont get why intersex people need to be here at all, as we have very specific terms for this discrimination already (intersexist or perisexist). i see a case for why egg jokes could be offensive to intersex people who prefer to identify as cis.

"You can't be a tomboy anymore because 'they' (trans people?? The government who hates trans people??) force tomboys to transition to men" "Butches transition because they're insecure about their womanhood, trans men aren't really a thing."

Meanwhile every tomboy, butch or gnc woman I've talked to: "Nobody accepts how I present myself as a woman, so they (largely cis people) constantly try to feminise me and make assumptive statements about my gender. I'm perfectly happy being a woman and largely face no pressure to become a man from the trans community or otherwise, focus is instead on rejecting my masculinity entirely to be a 'real woman'."

Guess who I'm going to believe.

[argentum-fox]

Ok as a trans masculine guy I feel the need to share this au/concept/scenario/whatever it is

Imagine the MC is actually a guy who looks feminine, or is transmasc and intentionally cross-dresses to get Kaito on his side. The plot kinda falls short if the MC isn’t a girl, because that’s the only reason Kaito wanted to help in the first place.

The first part goes the same, maybe with some additional commentary about how mc feels bad for deceiving them or how badly it triggers their dysphoria. But they’re probably gonna die, they can deal with being misgendered if it means they make it out alive.

Then imagine the confession at the end. Idk I think it would be funny for Kaito to find out he was actually flirting with a guy.

[leikeliscomet]

Asexual theory 101

Right I keep getting asked on most of my asexual posts 'What does this mean OP? Where's the sources?' so imma make a quick ace theory 101 post so if anyone says they don't get it I can say I tried. Let's go:

'What does being ace have to do with race/racism?/There's racism in the ace community???'

Pretty much everything as people of colour experience various forms of sexualisation and desexualisation at the same time, which is why POC are rarely included in asexual representation:

Asexuals of Color Still Seek to Validate Their Asexuality by Ebony Purks

Stereotypes & media about Black masculinity made it harder to come out as asexual by Tyger Songbird

Your Assumptions About Black Queer Masculinity Are Erasing My Asexual Identity by Timinepre Cole

It's Time To Start Celebrating Black Asexuality in Media By Tyger Songbird

Yasmin Benoit: ‘People had a hard time believing that I could be Black and asexual and at Pride’ by Alastair James

Brown and Gray: An Asexual People of Color Zine

'What do TERFS/transphobia have to do with asexuality?'

There's a growing TERF conspiracy theory that asexuality is the side-effect of transitioning. The LGB movement believes the community is exclusively for 'same-sex attracted persons' and so identities that don't involve attraction e.g. the TQIA should be removed. Most backlash towards Yasmin Benoit, aroace activist, is from white TERFs and conservatives:

Acephobic conspiracy theories have transphobic and fascist roots by Sherronda J Brown

Anti-trans movement has a new target: The asexual community by Yasmin Benoit

'But how can conservatives hate asexuality if they hate sex?'

Because they don't and never did. If the term 'puritan' was used correctly in modern internet discourse, it would be known Christian puritans believe heterosexual sex for reproduction is a gift from god and mandatory so being asexual doesn't exactly fit with that worldview. Their beef is with any form of sex and sexuality that falls outside of cis heterosexual marriage, including asexuality. They're not anti sex but anti sexual autonomy:

"Anti-Sex" and the Real Sexual Politics of the Right by Lee Cicuta (ButchAnarchy)

The religious right is now targeting sexless marriages as “selfishness.” They Want to Ban Those Too by Tyger Songbird

Asexual people targetted by right-wing pundits following landmark report by Harriet Brewis

'What does being ace have to do with gender?'

It's commonly assumed that because patriarchy shames women's sexualities and considers all men's sexuality as biological and unavoidable, that ace women only and exclusively experience desexualisation whilst ace men only and exclusively are pressured into being sexual beings. This can true as a broad overview but it can vary based on race, disability, class etc. This also becomes complex for asexuals that exist outside the gender binary. This is known as 'gender detachment'.

Impossible for Men, Unremarkable for Women by Canton Winer

My Work on Gender Detachment and Asexuality Strikes a Nerve by Canton Winer

'There's asexual studies now?'

Yup. On the general experiences of asexual people in the UK, including discrimination in education, the workplace and healthcare:

The National LGBT Survey (2018)

Ace in the UK Report (2023)

Asexuality in the UK: Public attitudes towards people who experience little to no sexual attraction (2025)

Specific names:

Asexual theorists: Ianna Hawkins Owen, Michael Paramo, Julia Sondra Decker, Canton Winer (non-ace), Sherronda J Brown, Angela Chen

Asexual activists: Yasmin Benoit, Tyger Songbird, Marshall Blount (TheGentleAce)

Asexual artists: Kimberly Butler (TheAsexualGoddess)

And I'm gonna update this with more if they're worth adding. I don't wanna hear any excuses anymore or blame towards aces of colour, gay aces or trans aces for not being specific enough anymore. Read!

[nonbinarynow]

I am black. I am nonbinary. To any other enben of colour,

I see you.

I know how you are treated in your ethnic culture, in your family. How they tell you "it's a white thing" even though it was your vibrantly-gendered culture that was steamrolled into a binary by Western colonisers. I know how it feels to not be able to use your correct pronouns in your mother tongue because no one knows the neopronouns you have to use in your binary gendered language. I know how you try to mix and explore sides of your native culture that you have never explored before. That you never knew you could blend so euphorically back when you used to live under the binary. I know the guilt you feel for not fitting in, for not being able to pass up your racialised binary gender experience. The ethic sisterhood, the racialised brotherhood. I know how it feels, to be able to pass as something amongst white people, but then the sweetness of that is taken from you as you remember that it is rooted in the racist binarism that continues to subjugate the binary members of your race. I know how to feels to feel invisible in the non-binary community, when most of our representation is white. I know how it feels to view androgyny or gender neutrality as impossible unless you are white; it was the same feeling you felt towards masculinity and femininity when you were binary gendered. I know how it feels to want to transition in a masculine or feminine way, but remembering those who pass as men or women in your ethnicity get killed and sexually assaulted at random by the system. I know how it feels to not want to risk it, to want to hide forever. I see you. I. See. You.

But I do not only know your struggle. I know the beauty of finding other enben of colour, who understand the intersections, the history. I understand the joy that is uncovering that history before colonialism, of the many different genders and modalities of you ancestors gone by. I know the smile that comes on your face when your chosen family (which can include blood relation) uses the right pronouns, the right neopronouns. I know the understanding that it's okay to still understand your racialised binary experience will forever be a part of you that white trans people might not understand. I know the joy of expression through hair, and the absolute ecstasy that comes when you too will realise that androgyny and gender neutrality is not just for white people, not just in white expression. It works in your ethnicity too. I know the feeling of peace that comes from being gendered in your desired way by a member of your race, realising you are surpassing the binarist system.

I know the feeling of great pain that comes from being an enban of colour, a black enban to be specific, but I also know the feelings of great beauty that you get from that intersection. It gets dark sometimes, but there is joy to be found. There is community to be found. There is unity to be found. There is life to be found as an enban/enby of colour. We are strong and we shine brighter than the sun.

[desperatelyseekingcannibals]

Telling Hugh Dancy about trans masc Will and more...

As some of you already know by now, I went to Boston Fanexpo this past weekend for another stop on the unofficial Hannibal 2024 Reunion Tour.

I had planned to do autographs on the Friday before the Hannibal panel and had brought some gifts for Hugh which included a copy of Adapt. Evolve. Become: The Genderqueer Fandom of NBC's Hannibal, which I compiled and edited last year. I also got him to sign my own copy (above).

It all moved quite quickly, but I did have the chance to explain that it's a volume by and about trans, non-binary, and genderqueer Fannibals that includes art, fics, essays, and personal pieces. He seemed intrigued and I said I hope he'd have the chance to read it and that the art isn't explicit/sexual but some of the fics are - he laughed and said he appreciated the warning.

It was all quite the whirlwind, especially after coming all the way from the UK, so I was absolutely mortified when I remembered the next morning that I had talked with a few trans Fannibals who had specifically asked me to let him know that he/Will is a trans icon. So I went back up to see him again on the Saturday morning when it wasn't too busy (and get more stuff signed) and this is what happened:

[I wrote notes down right after so this is as close an account I can get without having filmed it!].

Me: I saw you yesterday Hugh: I remember (smiley-friendly) Me: I gave you a book Hugh: I remember (smiley-friendly) Me: well, I forgot to tell you. A few trans Fannibals reached out to me to tell you that Will is a trans icon to them and we all love you for it. Hugh was surprised (in a nice way) and I was pretty much going to walk away then - job done and feeling like time for me to stop bothering Hugh lol. But before I could walk away he sort of held out his hand to stop me and said something along the lines of - I don't mean this in a disrespectful way, don't take it the wrong way... I'm genuinely curious- I get that it can be about identity- but what is the connection to Will and being trans? Luckily - my essay in the book is exactly about how Will can be read as trans, so I sort of gave him a summary of that. I explained that (obviously) both Will and Hannibal can be read as queer, and that - especially as both characters have dominant masculine and feminine traits, it's also easy to read them both as trans or in some way genderqueer. He was nodding and agreeing, so I further explained that with Hannibal, he is fully formed - he's already whatever he is - which Hugh also agreed with. But that Will is still becoming, still transitioning and therefore can be more relatable to trans fans who see that journey in themselves. So although it's not necessarily the same journey - there is enough to it that it resonates with trans people. I said that in the show there is also the added bonus of Will being seen and accepted for who he is, just as trans people wish to be. He was nodding along and agreeing with me and then he thanked me for explaining that. It was pretty quiet previously but I'd been there a few minutes so the queue was building up a little but he was so focused on me - so genuinely intent on hearing what I had to say and learning more. SO I CARRIED ON. (lols) I explained to him that it goes further than the show, that we have found a community in the fandom and that many trans people have a catalyst in their life that sparks their journey - like Will had in his friendship with Hannibal. For us it might be a person, an event, or even a TV show. I explained how the fandom are so supportive of trans people - that we are SEEN. That I for one wouldn't have been able to afford top surgery without the kind donations of Fannibals back when I was not in a good place (mentally or financially). That we all help each other and for some of us that has been life-saving. He did the hand on heart thing and said "wow" and was clearly moved. I said to him that so much of this is in the book, that I completely understand if he doesn't want to read the fanfic, but I really hope that he will at least read each of the personal pieces - that each of the fics and art also have a little write up from their creator about what the show and/or fandom has meant to them and their gender journey - how important this has been in our lives. He repeated a couple of times that he would definitely read it. I thanked him and he held out his hand and gave me the most genuine hand shake I've had in my life.

I want to really stress here how much this was instigated by Hugh. That he really wanted to know more and understand and didn't even look at the slowly growing queue but was instead intently focused on knowing more about the trans Fannibals and about why this show and the characters mean so much to us.

I then went off and spoke with a few Fannibal friends in the queue before getting around the corner to another Fannibal friend and having a bit of an emotional moment/breakdown. I can't even explain how grateful I am that he gave me the opportunity to explain all this to him. And I was especially glad I got to tell that Will is a trans icon because I'd have felt terrible if I'd have not done that after people had asked!! Thank you for trusting me to pass that message on for you!

💖

I know for many of you Adapt. Evolve. Become: The Genderqueer Fandom of NBC's Hannibal might have gone a little under the radar. So here is some more about that >>

It was compiled last year for Trans Hanni Day, edited by Max Turner of (and in conjunction with) A Coup of Owls Press - and published under Max's ACoO imprint.

It features essays, personal pieces, fanart and fanfic by and about trans, non-binary, genderqueer and otherwise non-cis Fannibals.

IT IS FREE TO DOWNLOAD, however we ask that if you do that, please consider donating to one of the linked trans orgs if you can afford to (or a similar organisation/charity of your choice).

It can be purchased on Amazon, however, as the proceeds go to charity, and Amazon only gives royalties, more is earned/given if bought directly via Max's shop.

Dearest trans Fannibals, please know that YOU ARE SEEN!

[genderqueerdykes]

hello, i have a question concerning one of your recent posts talking about trans men, ftm and other male or mspec people being lesbians. i mean this in the most respectful way possible, but how could a trans man be a lesbian? isnt the whole point non men loving non men? im sorry if youve got this question before and thanks for answering in advance if you do

i get this question all the time lol but i don't mind answering. thanks for taking the time to ask!

that is radfem rhetoric that you've picked up from other people inadvertently- lesbian does not mean "non man loving non man," as gay does not mean "non woman loving non woman". "gay" is a form of queer attraction, so is lesbian. if we don't define "gay" by who we leave out, why are we doing so with lesbianism? we do not define who we are attracted to by who we leave out, that makes no sense. lesbian is a form of queer attraction that can include as many people as an individual feels is right for them. if we say "non men" to include nonbinary people why are we excluding nonbinary and other trans people who also happen to be men as well? some people are "non men" and men at the same time, so do we exclude them, too, or do we include them?

the logic falls apart instantly the second we remind ourselves that multigender, genderfluid, gender non conforming, genderqueer, (masc) nonbinary, genderfuck and other people who completely break the gender binary. and a lot of them are men and mascs. lesbians should not have to be shoved inside of a cis butch woman - cis femme woman dichotomy and nothing else. we've been tricked into thinking like radfems by viewing "proper" lesbian relationships as relationships between cis lesbians and feminine afab nonbinary lesbians (who are being viewed as cis women in this scenario) and nobody else. we need to allow lesbianism to be diverse, otherwise, we will continue this radfem echo chamber that has been going on for decades!

we must also consider that lesbian is a form of queer attraction, so it can include lots of experiences, just like gay can. nonbinary people, genderqueer people, trans people of all genders can use "gay" how they see fit, whether it means they're attracted to men, women, nonbinary people, intersex people, genderfluid people, and so on. people of all genders are allowed to do the same thing with dyke, sapphic and lesbian as well! the most common useage of the word lesbian is to mean wlw, but that doesn't mean every single lesbian, dyke and sapphic explains it that way. some lesbians, dykes and sapphics experience multiple modes of attraction! some are bi, pan, poly, omni and so on

lesbianism and men are not polar opposites. lesbians can be multigender or genderfluid. lesbians can be transmascs and trans men and guys and boys and men. lesbians can be boydykes and guydykes. many trans men and mascs start out in the lesbian community and find their home there. some find they never stop feeling like lesbians or butches or dykes. there are two-spirit lesbians who are also men. this is totally okay. this sort of thing can hurt intersex lesbians. this kind of thinking can hurt transfem lesbians and lesbian trans women as well if transphobic people consider them "men". we need to stop trying to exclude as many people as we can from lesbianism, and focusing on including people instead. lesbian is not and well not ever be an exclusive term that only applies to women and women only. let's be real, "non men" just means very feminine nonbinary people and ""women-lite"" enbies. this doesn't apply to masc enbies and trans people, because where does the line between "non man" and "man" begin? it doesn't exist

hope that helps! thanks for taking the time to ask! have a wonderful day you can also search the tags on this post on my blog as i talk about this a lot! :) this works best in desktop or in a browser on mobile.

[aetherograph]

Redesigned Pride Flags Masterpost

All of these are free to use and reproduce in any variation as long as you can blazon it the same way (I will include the blazon, or formal heraldic description, under each flag). The shades of colours and the execution of the blazon can all be variant. As long as you can recognise it at the size of a postage stamp OR twenty yards away in the rain, it is correct.

Leather/Kink General:

A field chevronny sable and azure, a pale argent, on it three hearts gules.

I re-arranged the stripes of the leather flag, and made it three hearts instead of one because of the many triplicate concepts in kink: top/versatile/bottom, dominant/switch/submissive, safe/sane/consensual (nb: there is criticism of ssc by the Mad community, as well as those with kinks that cannot be made safe. However SSC is still a part of the community and the discussion about it is a good thing!)

Polyamory/Non-Monagamy:

Blazon: A field per fess azure and sable, a fess or, upon it a pi symbol gules.

As you can see, all I really had to do with this one was flip the colours of the fess, or middle stripe, and the pi symbol. Now it has higher contrast and is easier to see!

Transgender Flag

Blazon: A field per pale azure and argent. To dexter, a sea-horse rampant sinister or. To sinister, a butterfly volant gules et rose.

Okay, so I have a Thing about the proliferation of Stripes In A Gradient flags. I hate them, to put it lightly. I think queer people deserve Creatures and Beaſtes. In fact, transwomen picked out the butterfly and transmen picked out the seahorse long before my time! I discovered our mascots as a baby transboy way back in 2007 and was delighted. All I did was 'translate' the sea-horse into heraldic depiction, because I think hippocampus is a fun creature. For the joined flag, I swapped the field colours so the butterfly could be colourful, as butterflies should be, and added pink that way.

Transmasc and Transfem Flags

Transfem Blazon: A field per pale sable and gules, a butterfly volant argent. Transmasc Blazon: A field per pale azure and sable, a sea-horse rampant.

The individual banners are more heraldic. I took the colours of the trans flag and made the colours basic heraldic ones, and added the black of flux and spring and transformation, as well as adding gold because many seahorse species are mostly yellow, including the most famous and well-recognised one. The sea-horse is facing the blue side to signify transmasc people going from a state of flux toward masculinity. I would have done the same with the butterfly but butterflies are symmetrical!

Non-Binary Flag:

Blazon: A field per pale purpure and or, two werewolves rampant dexter; one argent langued or, one sable langued purpure.*

Werewolves are neither human nor wolf, no matter what they look like; they are always werewolves, and shift freely between shapes. Also, my best friend who is non-binary loves werewolves and wanted a werewolf to be the non-binary Creature. Heraldically speaking, a "werewolf" actually is a "wolf with human hands instead of feet, and human ears", so if you wanna get real correct, you could draw it that way too! These flags are not set in stone bc of how they look in this post!

Aromantic Flag

Blazon: A field counter-ermine. A saltire argent, upon it five pine trees proper.

I chose the saltire because it makes an X and that symbolises how aromantic people "X-out" of the idea of romantic stuff. I chose pine trees because my mother, who is aro, loves evergreen trees the most in the whole world; trees are also green, like the green stripes of the flag, so I thought it fitting. Trees are also not living beings that have any kind of pair-bonding, and yet also have sexual relations with other trees to make more trees. I used counter-ermine because it's more visually distinct and interesting. I wanted to also show that these flags can be made into any shape of shield or banner and still work.

Asexual Flag:

Blazon: A field semy pique purpure and sable. A saltire argent, upon it five dragons rampant sable and purpure.*

Another saltire, this time because asexuals do not interact with sex in the usual way or at all. Piques (i.e. the spade symbol) and dragons because in my long years in the community, I have seen these two symbols used the most for our community. Having a semy means I can include both the pique and the dragon without cluttering up the flag. This one is probably the most intricate and difficult to draw, but again, the dragons can be as detailed as this or can be like, trogdor or something. As long as they're recognisably dragons with four legs and two wings, and only one foot on the ground, you're good!

Bonus: Monsterfucker Flag:

Blazon: A field per saltire tenné and or. A saltire sable.

The X is for Xeno, or 'strange', and X is also used for the Unknown, as is the black of the void. The orange is because Halloween is a monsters' holiday. The yellow is for joy and both moon and sunlight, for monsters encompass all possibilities. Yellow is also because I don't see it that much in pride flags, so using it here makes it distinctive.

Orange (Tenné, which can also be depicted as tan or brown) is, like pink (rose), a very late addition to heraldry--as indeed it was to the English language!

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*I am still a student, I don't know if these blazons are fully correct; if you know more about how to blazon, please feel free to correct them!

[yourfaveisintersex]

asking from a place of humility and genuinely wanting to know better/more, what does better care for intersex people look like? what actionable items can those of us who aren’t as directly affected by medical intersexism push for to increase quality of life for intersex people? if i were to have a child who came out intersex, are there safety plans i could put in place with our birth care team to prevent my baby from suffering genital mutilation? i don’t want my allyship to start and stop with “ur valid uwu,” i want to really meaningfully help intersex people, and i just feel lost on where to even start. i have really mild PCOS and aside from having more masculine features and some pain from cysts i otherwise function as a perisex person, but i want to do more to help.

(i also don’t mean to act like you the operator of this blog specifically have all the answers, i’m very open to hearing the opinions of other people, you just came across as knowledgeable and i thought you might possibly have some insight.)

Hoohkay this is gonna be a long one, especially because I asked for some help from InterACT's Discord server InterSpace to make a comprehensive answer! I'm also going to tag @interactyouth and @dhddmods as recommended by 'em for you to possibly check out, the first being... well. Duh. It's THE intersex youth advocacy group in the US of A, and the latter because I was told they're really passionate about ending all forms of IGM— and doing general activism. Hope y'all don't mind!!

Here's some more InterACT specific resources before I start getting into the meat & potatoes under a cut, to fill this out a little and make sure in case I miss anything, you might find it in any of these links.

Advocating Health Equity for Intersex Individuals by the HHS (link), hosted by InterACT as Trump's administration has removed it from the HHS's website

The Fight Must Include Intersex Rights brochure (link)

Know Your Rights: A Guide For Parents (link)

InterACT Legislative Toolkit (link) — In regards to legislation, InterACT recommends you work with an organization instead of doing so independently, as they've been doing it longer knowing the right arguments, and you can get the right context and support from an organization.

Obligatory "PLEASE add onto this post if you have something you want to share" especially because anon invites others' opinions, and I do too because I'm not a monolith nor do I know everything.

Claps my hands together, alright! Now that those have been dumped, let's get into a more personal answer, what I would say.

BODILY AUTONOMY! A LOOOOOOT OF ADVOCACY FOR BODILY AUTONOMY!! Would probably be my first point. It's something that's often ignored or disrespected in intersex populations, whether that be IGM as mentioned, but also just being able to choose what treatment you do or don't get. This should not only be applied to intersex people too, as this overlaps with those who are disabled and or have chronic illnesses (or anyone else who deserves a say in their medical treatment, which might as well be everybody!), especially when less-educated people believe most if not all intersex variations are disorders, and "disorders need to be fixed".

And in lieu of that bodily autonomy bit and choosing your treatment, I have a personal note that I believe people should be able to choose their hormones— both transgender and intersex people, or hell people not of either group and just want a different hormonal profile for whatever reasons. It's depressing that people assigned female are forced on estrogenizing treatments and assigned males forced on androgenizing treatments even if it makes them feel physically miserable, with no choice unless you do some finaggling about it or you go through the rigamarole of gender-affirming HRT treatment, IF that's even possible in your locale! I vividly always recall an intersex person on here, dabwax, how she was rejected on testosterone BY A NON-BINARY DOCTOR because she identifies as a cisgender woman, and had to struggle to get postmenopausal testosterone medicine. That's not okay, and shouldn't happen to anyone!

As another point to help, DO NOT SHUT UP ABOUT INTERSEX EXISTENCE!! We are often pathologized as mentioned above, as being disordered, broken, in need of "fixing" (which just means looking as perisex as possible). Or people spreading falsehoods on what intersex is. Learn what common misconceptions and stereotypes are and challenge them! Challenge the use of the H-slur and fu-slur, challenge the "um actually intersex people prefer DSD and are still male or female" TERF brainrot! Be loud and be an asshole about your advocacy and make people aware WE EXIST! (and you exist too. you'd be welcome into the InterSpace server for your PCOS as a variation (yes, even if its mild) and they could help you more with advocacy if you'd like 🫶 I link the discord server in my FAQpost!)

The more people know about intersex existence in its truth the more people who can fight for our rights, to not have our bodily autonomy violated as patients, to challenge false assumptions about others' bodies, to have more people realize they may fall under the catagory of intersex (because a lot of intersex people don't know it, even if they have a diagnosis, due to the pathologizing of intersexuality as a "problem needing to be fixed" and the sheer erasure of it), to BELIEVE OUR VOICES AND OUR EXPERIENCES AND NOT DISMISS US!! which is honestly another point to be brought up because oh my god perisex people erase and dismiss us so fucking much it's Unreaaalll you correct someone about their intersexism and they get mad at you like YOU'RE the unreasonable one. Like stop using AGAB as progressive versions of male or female. Stop that. Annoys the shit out of me AGAB doesn't inherently imply someone's body parts or life experiences I keep correcting people on it and they get pissy at me if I keep seeing people do that I'm gonna go crazy insane PLEASE call more people out on these misconceptions and not let people brush off intersex folks as an afterthought pleaseplease please

[vivid-bluez]

I didn’t realize it at first, but do you feel like Allan could be a stand in for nonbinary people?

BARBIE MOVIE SPOILERS:

He’s not a Ken, He’s not a Barbie, he’s just Allan He’s the only Allan and he doesn’t really understand it. He moves more like the Barbies do, but he’s not brainwashed by the Kendom. His appearance is similar to the Kens, but he’s not a part of the Kendom. He’s something else, somewhere in the middle.

Also they kinda show Allan not fitting into a gender binary. We see femininity and masculinity represented in Barbie and Ken, both going through the extremes of them. We see this in every Ken and every Barbie, but not Allan. He even works with the Barbies when dismantling the Kendom since it effects him negatively too and he doesn’t like it. Like how the patriarchy also effects non binary people and people outside the gender binary negatively.

You could say he leans masc/is masc and that’s true, but the Kens don’t really seem to accept him or include him as one of them. He has Barbie-like mannerisms but he’s not included with the Barbies ever, he’s not invited to girls nights. He’s just, Allan.

[r0manceplanet]

okay yipee yay!! haven’t done these in a hot minute so apologies if this isn’t that great… i’m trying >_> !

fandom: forsaken plz!!

pronouns: they them

gender/sexuality: non-binary androsexual (best way i could put ittt ^^)

personality: ummm… i think i’m generally a pretty nice person, i’m rlly empathetic and i luv to talk yap yap i like to run my mouth! i cannot keep it shut and i’m rlly bad at keeping secrets oops. i’m kindaaa stubborn and a big over thinker but i try reallyyy hard not to be;;; i just wanna have fun and b chill ^^

hobbies: ummum arts! anything artsy! like graffiti. baking is sooo awesome and fun doing things with your hands is great. i love music a LOT (specifically rock/metal/alt) and enjoy going to concerts!! i’m also big on conspiracy theories & psychological philosophy :3

likes & dislikes: i generally like weird/creepy things, any sort of horror media! & being outside & doing things, like exploring or looking for bugs. like i said i <3 philosophy but i also love the unknown!! and theorizing!! and debate!! collecting/hoarding things i like is fun too, like knives & license plates. oh and rubber ducks. photography!!! pictures are everything to me!!! i don’t dislike much but i guess umm… the dark! i hate that. strong smells & loud noises freak me out. ppl who are mean to animals babies and old people are a different kind of evil.

mbti & zodiac: enfp 4w5, gemini!!

love languages: acts of service above all but i also adore words of affirmation!! i don’t care much for gift giving.

what i look for/want in a partner: someone who can keep up w/ me, i guess! i get bored quickly, i usually wanna always go do something. i hate silence and i hate distance, i need to be able to vibe & have fun with them always!! i’d also prefer someone who isn’t shy ^_^ .

thank youuu my goat please take your time!!! 🧡

FORSAKEN MATCHUP #1

A/N: Ahhh my first request for a matchup!! And to whoever sent this ask to me thank you so much!! And I hope you enjoy who you get! And, matchups for forsaken are open to everyone!

Press “Read More” to see who you have been matched with!

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You have been matched with… Chance!

• It took me some time to think about who to match you with, and I did have a few characters in mind before I thought of him, and when I did he seems to match you the most, I feel like you two would function so well together.

• Chance is a really calm dude, he can work under pressure and is able to talk to anyone really, I mean, who wouldn’t like him? He’s never fallen in love before you, he was always focused on gambling and the casino he owned. Before meeting in forsaken, you would’ve met him in his casino while you were hanging out with your friends.

• When he met you he was immediately focused on you, why? something about you made him interested in you, maybe it’s because of how much you love to talk with him, and he’s always listening to you yap and adding into the conversation, it’s refreshing for him to find someone to match his energy.

• When you guys start dating, he would spend ALL his money, which you would have to stop him before he goes broke. But he would buy an entire store if you wanted one thing, that’s how devoted he is to you.

• He would definitely bring you to concerts, I can see him as someone who would go to concerts of bands he likes, you guys always have a blast whenever you’re at a concert to see your favorite band, and as a surprise he’s arranged an appointment for you to meet with your favorite idols.

• He always compliments your artwork, he’s in awe whenever he sees your paintings or drawings, he’s someone who would point out the smallest details in your art, and he LOVES it whenever you bake, and if you bake anything that he likes he’s gonna eat it all in 1 minute and ask for more.

• He loves hearing you talk, including if it’s about theories you bring up, he’ll love to theorize with you and debate, you can get him to talk about ANYTHING, off topic but, whenever you guys are chilling at home or out on a date, he would take pictures of you that have amazing views.

• Whenever you’re overthinking about something, or anything that’s bothering you, he’ll always make sure to tell you that you can go to him for anything, and he is of course… He’ll be your emotional support animal if you want. No matter what situation you happen to be in, you’ll always have him, and he’ll always have you.

Round-Ups:

Shedletsky, John Doe

[green-enby]

Don't mind me, I saw a similar attempt at an "uimate progress pride flag" a long time ago on Reddit and I wanted to see if I could do better. I left this project dormant for many months but I came back to it and finished it just now.

I call it:

The X Progress Pride Flag!

Disclaimer: it's just for funsies, I don't expect anyone to fly this or anything! I'm very well aware that it's an eyesore haha.

I also know that the rainbow flag already covered every identity, but the newer Progress Pride flag was made to shine a light on the trans, intersex and QPOC communities that were (and still are) being targeted in a particularly strong way, even within the queer community itself. That's the sentiment that inspired me to make this.

My stylistic decisions into the making of this flag were also influenced by what I feel were the most prominent (inner)discriminations that certain queer identities experience. Some of them have simply stayed stuck in the background because on top of that, they are invisibilized and as such there is little research on what they face.

(But it was also just a challenge to see how many flags I could fit onto the rainbow lmao.)

Anyway: can yoy guess what every bit of this monstrosity means? It's basically a riddle lmao.

Here's the image description, which doubles as an explanation:

The background is the regular rainbow flag—six horizontal stripes, from top to bottom: red, orange, yellow, green, blue, purple.

This doubles as a symbol for gay and lesbian people. I did not include their specific flags because LG people have been using this one for decades as their specific identity flag, especially gay men, although I'm well aware that being gay or lesbian can be much more complex than just homo attraction (e.g. lesbian as a gender identity) and that having a flag just for them matters. However, in the making of this flag, I had to weigh out which identities are more vulnerable to their fights being left in the dust by the movement, and I felt that gays and lesbians are basically never excluded from the conversation and therefore "including them" explicitly wasn't really a priority.

Over the background, there is a chevron on each of the 4 sides, pointing towards the center, which leave the rainbow flag taking the shape of an X.

Each chevron contains diagonal stripes parallel to its borders, and is split into two halves; top with bottom, for the side chevrons, and left with right, for the top and bottom chevrons.

Let's start from the left chevron, which overall stands for the a-spec community:

The top half represents the asexual flag through the first four colours, and the asensual flag through the orange stripe, while the yellow stripe stands for both the aplatonic flag and the first half of the queerplatonic attraction/relationship flag—six stripes, from top to bottom: black, gray, white, purple, orange, yellow.

The bottom half represents the aromantic flag, while the very first stripe stands for the other half of the queerplatonic flag, and for the (a)aesthetic attraction flag—six stripes, from top to bottom: pink, green, light green, white, gray, black.

Here's the aplatonic flag I used (I know it's not the most common), and the queerplatonic flag, for reference:

And here's the asensual flag—I actually picked the shade of orange from the demisensual flag, because it was too light:

Sadly I couldn't find a way to represent alterous attraction or the analterous flag (I personally use it almost interchangeably with queerplatonic but ymmv).

Moving onto the right side chevron, directly influenced by the original intersex-inclusive Progress Pride flag, and therefore standing for AIDS awareness, QPOC, the trans umbrella, and the intersex community:

The top half represents QPOC, and the trans and agender flags—six stripes, from top to bottom: black, brown, white, light green, baby blue, light pink.

The bottom half represents the non-binary and intersex flags—four stripes, from top to bottom: yellow, white, purple, black. The yellow stripe has triple the thickness as the other stripes, and inside of it there is a purple ring.

Of course, the black stands for both QPOC and AIDS awareness.

(For those wondering why I explicitly included agender even though it's technically included under the non-binary umbrella: many agender people see their identity as separate from it since the experience of having no sense of gender can feel different from having a non-binary gender. Many, in fact, see themselves more as being under the a-spec umbrella.)

Now, the top chevron, standing for fluid identities and the label "queer":

The left side represents the abro- orientation flag, and the last stripe is one half of the queer chevron—six stripes, from top to bottom: green, light green, white, light red, red, dark lavander.

The right side represents the genderfluid flag, and the last stripe is the other half of the queer chevron—six stripes, from top to bottom: pink, white, purple, black, blue, light lavander.

I felt the need to explicitly include genderfluid, even though, again, non-binary technically covers for it, because I've seen fluidphobia even from staticly-gendered non-binary people, so perhaps it is not as implicit as it should be. Same for abro within the m-spec community.

And here's the "queer chevron" I'm referring to, for those who've never seen it:

The V shape is also a direct reference to the way this flag looks.

This can also stand to represent all queer attractions not otherwise explicitly included, e.g. mono attractions like trixic, toric, feminamoric, viramoric… literally anything. Plus those who identify as genderqueer but not non-binary can refer to this!

And finally, the bottom chevron—probably the most cryptic of the four. It overall stands for plurian identities, using colours from the polyamorous, multigender, and multi-spectrum orientation (aka m-spec) flags:

The left side represents the polyamorous flag for the first three colours, and the multigender flag for the last three—six stripes, from top to bottom: blue, hot pink, dark purple, orange, blue, dark blue.

The right side represents the m-spec flag, combining the colours from the bi, omni, pan, and ply flags—six stripes, from top to bottom: pink, purple, dark purple, yellow, green, blue.

Here's the polyamorous and multigender flags I used for reference, for those who've never seen them:

(The latter isn't that widely spread, as it is mostly used as an umbrella term to talk about identities like bigender, trigender, polygender, and pangender, and not that often as a personal identification term.)

For m-spec, the pink and blue I used are a combination of the shades used for them in the bi, pan, ply, and omni flags. Ply would also cover every other m-spec attraction that excluded some genders (such as neptunic and uranic).

It was inspired by this m-spec flag (on the left), but I also added the dark purple stripe from the omni flag (on the right):

That's all! Hope this entertained you, and feel free to tell me what you think.

[highlordofkrypton]

CHAPTER 1 SUMMARY:

Tamlin has always had simple, vanilla relationships with women. Tamlin also can't stop watching hardcore gay BDSM porn, so much that he doesn't know if he can get off to anything else anymore. One day, he decides to join the fetish and kink dating app mastr to see if this is really what he wants or just a fantasy. The last thing he expects is to meet his dream man... who hasn't been online in 2 years.

AUTHOR'S NOTE: I decided to change up the format of Johan Week 2025 @bloodyjohan and instead of starting/dropping fics on that week, I'm going to aim to finish them by that date. Most of what I'm sharing so far is already complete or nearly complete anyway! Hopefully, this helps inspire people who want to participate in the week get inspired 🙂‍↕️

TAGS: I was so insufferable the past few months about this, so I am tagging all of you who were teased. If anyone wants to be added/removed, lmk! @matrixsss @geniemillies @yaralulu @witch-and-her-witcher @trash-shrike @missbeehavior and I forget who else!!

READ UNDER THE CUT OR ON AO3

Create your account.

Tamlin’s thumb hovers over the link. All he has to do is click. Nothing difficult or scary about it. Everyone uses dating apps. Not like this. An account doesn’t commit him to anything, right? He just wants to look. A little peek never hurt anyone and well, fuck, with the shit he’s been watching lately, there’s nothing he can find here that he hasn’t already seen.

You’re overthinking this, he reprimands himself and just clicks.

His name is stupid, and he hopes no one he knows is on this app. FullBareBack is his username. Dumb as hell, but he thinks it’s on theme. He tells himself that anyone who appreciates his sense of humour is worth responding to. He opts not to put a photo, too shy to invite anyone to actually match with him.

What are you looking for?

More hovering.

Tamlin has only even been with women, but his browser history indicates a vested interest in the opposite sex. You don’t even have a picture. No one’s going to know it’s you. He selects ‘men’ and flips to the next page, as if that would allow him to continue living the lie. As soon as his profile is set up, Tamlin tosses the phone aside. It bounces on the sofa, innocuous, as if it didn’t hold his deepest, darkest secret. He scrubs his face with a groan. What if he found someone he was interested in? What if he found someone he knows? A friend? A classmate? Oh god, what if he found one of his brothers there? His father ? He scrubs his eyes. He’s losing his mind and he hasn’t even done anything yet. He could just forget the account and the app, like the hundred other junk accounts he has on random websites he’d signed up on for a measly ten percent discount.

He leaves the phone where it is for the next two hours. Tamlin cleans his small apartment, cooks a well-balanced meal that meets all his nutritional needs and helps him make weight for the season and when all is said and done, he just sits and stares . Not a single person in the world is pushing this onto Tamlin; the obligation is of his own making. Tamlin bounces his leg nervously, then grabs his phone as if it’ll get up and run from him at a moment’s notice.

There are all kinds of people on this app: men, women, non-binary, trans, singles, couples, married people trying to fulfill a need their partner won’t, people of all ethnicities and seemingly different backgrounds. Most of the photos include paraphernalia pertaining to the… app’s nature —gimp masks cover faces, chastity belts or full on… Tamlin can’t fight the blush on his face, but he can’t look away either. These people are more courageous than he is, and he envies them for being able to just give in.

Signing up for Mastr had been such a big step, but Tamlin doesn’t think he can cross the rest of that bridge. There are expectations placed on his shoulders. His parents are the picture perfect couple—beautiful, rich, blonde and conventional . He refuses to entertain any ideas of them in the bedroom, but just by the nature of his parents, how prim and proper they always are, he knows that they’re nothing but normal. What would they say if they found Tamlin yearning for a collar around his neck? If they saw his near-obsessive fascination of men tied to a St. Andrew’s cross, moaning as their backs are painted red with the kiss of a whip. 

His older brothers are equally flawless. Enfys is set to inherit their father’s business and his wedding was the social event of the year. Iolin doesn’t have time for a relationship, not with the innovations he is making in the medical field, or so, he says. Tamlin has seen the furtive glances between his brother and his research partner. On paper, Tamlin isn’t even that much of a black sheep. He took a year and a half sabbatical for philanthropic reasons, an idea his mother vehemently approved. He spent the other half of the year acclimating to coming back home, and now he’s finishing his last year in university by taking his team to the collegiate football championships. In all honesty, not a bad track record.

One wrong move and his entire world collapses the second this secret is out. On second thought, maybe his username is dumb because it’s so obvious.

He keeps swiping, slowly growing numb to the overt sex on the screen. Little by little, Tamlin realizes he may have been worrying about nothing. While he envies the people on his screen, he isn’t enticed. The submissives are too overt, and most of the doms have Tamlin cringing whenever he reads their bio, except—

This one. His heart skips a beat. Yes, he’s… everything.

The picture on the screen is nothing more than a man, from the neck down, in a crisp white button down shirt, glass of whiskey hanging from his fingers, and black slacks. The fit of the shirt is immaculate and Tamlin can tell that he’s in decent shape. The man is leaner than Tamlin, but his forearm is well defined and his chest looks… uh, solid . His eyes shift to the bio, praying for the worst. Johan, 42, hardcore D/M, casual only. Simple. Straight to the point. Tamlin should be sighing in relief, but instead his heart is hammering harder in his chest. He wasn’t planning to find someone he was actually interested in. He doesn’t know what to do. His leg starts bouncing with worry again.

Last online 2 years ago.

Tamlin frowns—wait, no, he shouldn’t because this is good . ‘Johan’ probably already found a partner and uninstalled the app. Maybe he could use this as… practice? He doesn’t expect a reply, but if ‘Johan’ was still around, what would he say? He clicks the message with the confidence of a man who knows no consequences.

Hi. Are you still looking for a partner?  

Equally simple, Tamlin thinks someone with that kind of straightforward bio would appreciate this a lot more than some kind of come on. He smiles to himself, hitting send. He sits there, smug, because he’s done something terribly naughty and daring.

The gray status bubble blinks bright green. The colour drains from Tamlin’s face.

JOHAN

I don’t date children.

Tamlin blinks, reading the message. It’s not—it’s not what he expected?

I’m twenty-five. That’s way over the legal age, Tamlin types back quickly, mildly offended.

JOHAN

To me, you are a child. What do you want?

TAMLIN

I was just checking if you were still looking for a partner. Guess not.

JOHAN

Send pics.

Oh, this is getting worse by the minute. Tamlin panics and starts moving around the apartment trying to find the right spot to take a picture. He’s not good at taking pictures. All the ones he has are either professional—too formal—or family photos—too personal. He could take one now, but the only pose that comes to mind is shirtless in front of the bathroom mirror and that can’t possibly be what a guy like Johan is looking for.

“Fuck!” He shouts. 

An idea strikes him as he furiously texts the group chat with his friends, the one he never replies to. I need help, he says, and everyone immediately starts making fun of him. Please. Don’t ask why, but I need a good picture of me. Cassian starts asking why, and Lucien just isn’t answering. The only photos Feyre has are group photos or photos with her. Even if they dated years ago, Tamlin doesn’t want to give this guy the wrong idea. 

His phone chimes, a private text from Lucien with a single attachment.

LUCIEN

This one. It’s you in a nutshell, and you look great in it.

In the picture, Tamlin is grinning, holding a football in hand. He seems like he was on the cusp of throwing the ball, and he recognizes the location from last summer’s barbecue at Lucien’s family estate. He looks good, dressed in casual wear. Most importantly, he looks comfortable. Happy. It’s perfect.

TAMLIN

Where do you get this?

LUCIEN

I took it. Figured you might need some candids when you finally got on the apps. That’s why you’re asking, right?  

Lucien has always been so damn perceptive, but for some reason, that doesn’t scare Tamlin. He trusts Lucien completely.

TAMLIN

Thank you.

LUCIEN

If it works out, do I get to meet them?

TAMLIN

Let me start with the first step, please.

LUCIEN

Haha, you got this. Just be yourself.

He saves the photo and sends it over to ‘Johan’, afraid that he might have wasted so much time that this feels like a scam. What if he’s mistaken for a bot? Tamlin waits impatiently, staring at the screen and waiting for ‘typing…’ to appear. When it does, Tamlin can’t breathe. 

JOHAN

When can we meet?

[brotheramberland]

Hello I was wondering if you could do a platonic relationship with Zuko Levi Kakashi , Gojo with their child that’s like a totally a daddy’s kid(?😭) that wants be like them when they grow up and just looks up to them so much and just mimic the things they do and just follows them+how would they feel about it 🥹🫶

Anime characters as fathers with a child!reader.

Characters include: Zuko, Kakashi Hatake, Levi Ackerman, and Satoru Gojo.

Summary: The character's reaction to their child who looks up to them and aspires to be exactly like them.

Please keep in mind: All character and reader interactions are purely platonic. There is NO romance. The reader is somewhere below the age of twelve and is portrayed as non-binary. These drabbles are meant to be platonic, fluffy and comforting.

Notes: For @bellhella. Hi las, I hope you're doing grand. Cute request too, I enjoyed writing it. I added a tiny splash of angst but everything is still pretty fluffy. I try to make each individual drabble unique and different so that viewers can experience a variety of emotions. I hope that's alright. Remember to keep your head up, stay safe and stay awesome!

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Fire Lord Zuko

Ever since you were an infant, you had always clung to him and taken after him, claiming that you wanted to be just like him when you grew up. It was an attitude that Zuko found endearing and it made him beam with pride. After all of his past mistakes, a part of him was against your aspirations, but he wouldn't let his own insecurities get in the way of your dreams.

At a surprisingly young age- barely over your toddler years- you had requested to train. And train you did. Constantly you were trying your hardest to learn new maneuvers, techniques and skills. When you mastered something, you always sought his approval and praise. Zuko was impressed by how well you accepted constructive criticism and fought to grow.

During meetings or speeches, you would always sit back quietly and observe him. Then later Zuko would have to clear out rooms so that you could pretend like you were the fire lord giving hundreds of people a big, inspirational speech. Just like him.

Zuko, to say the least, was extremely proud of how you were growing and exceeding in life. He was just as attached to you as you were to him, and he would do anything to help you grow up to be healthier, happier and safer than he ever got to be during his childhood.

Today you had been training outside. Your father had been teaching you how to spit fire by using the strength of your stomach. Despite how strict and serious he could be, Zuko loved how you displayed your own ways of having fun. You say you want to be just like him, but you were also just so unmistakably 'you' and he loved that.

But today you did something that he didn't quite like.

"Daddy," You turned towards your father on the bench you were sitting on, "Will you... Will you burn my eye? The left one."

And the way your question made Zuko feel on the inside was far more painful than any lightning strike could ever be. He dropped his goblet and froze, unable to believe that you could ask such a thing. You wanted him to 'burn' you? Burn you in such a way similar to how he had been burned?

"Dad?" You asked in light concern.

Zuko shot up, his hair swishing as he went to stand in front of you, "You- don't you dare ask for something like that ever again. Do you hear me?"

Flinching, you gape and stutter in fear at his sudden outburst of anger, "I..." You didn't know what to say, "I-I'm sorry, I... I just wanted to be like you-"

"By wanting me to burn you? That's how you justify yourself right now? Nonsense. I will not tolerate this irrational behavior. If you ever ask me or anyone else to burn you again, then I swear on my life you will regret it, do you understand me?"

You couldn't believe he was so angry. You stiffened up, tears pouring out your eyes.

Zuko nearly shouted, his arms shaking, "I said 'do you understand me'?"

"Yes," You cried, burying your face in your hands, "I'm sorry, ok. I'm sorry. Please don't be mad, daddy, please-uhh... I'm sorry."

Breathing fast, Zuko stared at you and felt a sudden cloud of guilt envelope him, and he frowned in regret. He didn't mean to be so harsh, nor did he want you to cry. He just... He just couldn't stand the thought of you suffering in any of the ways he himself had to.

Calming down, Zuko took in a deep breath and went to kneel in front of you. He reached out, grabbed your hands and gently coaxed them away from your face, "I'm sorry."

Using a spare handkerchief, Zuko gently cleaned your teary eyes and running nose, "I didn't mean to get so angry with you. I was just... You have to understand, (y/n), not all parts of me are honorable, and that includes this mark. My father gave me this mark because he despised me, and... Well... I don't despise you, so even if I did burn you it wouldn't be the same. It would never be the same."

Zuko cupped your face and stroked his thumb over your left cheek, "Please know that I am grateful that we are not the same in this way, and I hope that we never will be."

"I'm sorry..." You croak, still ashamed of yourself, "I didn't know."

"It's okay," Zuko lifted his arms out, "It's okay. I'm not angry."

Standing up, you go to bury yourself into the divine safety of your father's arms, sadness still beating within your heart, "I love you, daddy."

Zuko smiled and hugged you close, "I love you too, (y/n), and I can't wait to see what an excellent fire lord you're going to become one day. Even greater than me."

You whimpered, still upset but lifted by his faith and understanding. You had made a mistake today, but it was okay. You would never do it again. And while you would like to be just like your father in every way that counts, there were some things that could never be the same no matter how similar the situation.

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Levi Ackerman

He woke up to the obnoxious sensation of someone's hand shaking his shoulder, and he groaned grumpily in irritation. "Wake up, daddy," Your ridiculously energetic voice called, "Daddy, come on, it's time to get up."

Levi creaked open his eyes and glared at you, "Hey, wanna know how you can be just like me?"

"How?" You instantly beamed.

"By being tired and going back to sleep," Levi grumbled, grabbing the blankets and yanking them up over his head.

You weren't having any of it though, and you crawled on top of him and began wrestling to get the blanket off. Technically this was how Levi used to have to get you out of bed when you were smaller, but the more you grew the more you wanted to be 'just like him'.

Yay...

By the time you both had playfully wrestled each other out of bed, Levi yawned multiple times while being drug to the bathroom. Darn thing, you were getting good at locating his ticklish spots... In the bathroom, you both brushed your teeth, washed your faces and combed your messy hair.

Although half asleep, Levi still adored how you continously glanced at him to see how he was dressed, what he was doing and how he was doing it. You were always mimicking silly little things he did, exclaiming that you were practicing to be just like him.

Deep down, Levi had nothing but adoration for you. He loved the way you stood to be like him. It made him feel a sense of pride inside that he had such a strong, brave, loyal pipsqueak for a child, and you had no idea how much he loved you.

The only thing Levi disliked about you aspiring to him was how you ranted about joining the Survey Corps and going over the wall to fight titans. Now that... That made his overprotective, paternal instincts scream in disagreement. In no way did he want you going anywhere near the wall. So many people died out there all the time. If he lost you?

Levi wouldn't be able to handle it.

Before breakfast, you got dressed in nearly the exact same outfit as him (courtesy of Hange). "Daddy, can I wear your cape-thingy?" You asked, already wrapped up in his cape.

"Well what do you expect me to wear?" Levi asked, soaking in the endearing display of you all twisted up in his cape.

"I don't know..." You mumble innocently, smiling, "A blanky?"

"Ha... ha... Very funny, squirt," Levi bent down to untangle you from his cape, bopping you on the nose and pinching your cheek, "Why don't I wear this and 'you' go wear the blanket."

"Mmm..." You pouted at him, "But daddy..."

Levi hid a smile and patted your head fondly, "What if I told you that I used to do the same thing when I was your age?"

"Really?" You asked in surprise. If he wore blankets when he was your age, then that meant that you could do the same thing- follow in his footsteps, "Yay!"

"I never said 'yay' though," Levi rolled his eyes, teasing you.

Your arms dropped as you sneered at him, reacting in a manner he would approve of, "Booo..."

"That's more like it," Levi chuckled and went to make some food.

After breakfast, you held your father's hand while walking to the training grounds, a small blanket secured around your neck to thus act like a cape. When you saw the leader of the Survey Corps, you instantly brightened and cheered, "Erwin!"

Erwin looked in your direction and smiled warmly, "Ah, there's my finest cadet."

Levi watched as you sprinted happily up to his leader, his heart skipping beats when Erwin picked you up and lifted you into the air a bit. Your smile and the sound of your laughter was the inspirational fuel that powered his life.

Blindly joining you and his leader, Levi shrugged and gave you a disapproving look, "Just so you know... I've never hugged that imbecile- not once."

Erwin raised a brow, "On the contrary, I remember once when-"

Levi gave him a death glare, "Dont. Even."

You giggled and said joyfully, "Daddys silly. He loves hugs."

"Yes, that is correct," Erwin chuckled and turned briefly to grab something out of the satchel on his horse. "Come, fellow cadet, I brought you something."

"What is it?" You asked.

Levi felt his chest nearly implode at the sight of a miniature cape. The cape itself was plain with no logo, but yet was perfect enough in size that it would fit you for years to come. He watched as Erwin helped replace the blanket you were wearing with it.

Once he was done, you hugged Erwin, thanked him a dozen times, and then ran over to your father, "Daddy, daddy look! I have a cape, an-and it's just like the one you have. Do you like it, daddy? Do I look like you?"

'The spitting image.' Levi smirked and knelt down, "What're you talking about, squirt? You've got way too much energy to be like me."

"Booo," You pouted at him.

Levi laughed and pulled you into a big hug, "It looks good on you, kid. Now, let's get training."

You would be like him one day. Only Levi believed that you would be better.

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Kakashi Hatake

It was night time; five hours after the Chunin Exams were declared over. You were currently hiding in your little tree-bungalow, isolated, quiet and shut-off from the rest of the world. Ever since you lost the exam, you hadn't moved from your hidey-hole nor spoken to anyone.

It broke Kakashi's heart to see you this upset. He knew how hard you had been training to keep up with him, following him in his footsteps and mimicking specific personality traits like his attire and the way he fought. At first it was a habit Kakashi thought was pretty adorable, but as the seriousness of your obsession grew over the years, the more he began to grow concerned.

Kakashi didn't mind you taking after him, but there was a limit. You didn't understand it because you envied him too much, but he saw it. You weren't like him- at least not when it came down to your fighting spirit. See, Kakashi developed a cold heart at a young age. Anger, hatred and determination pushed him to become stronger.

But you weren't cursed with anger, hate and sadness. You weren't a natural born fighter. If anything, Kakashi could see you becoming a strong-willed medic or a superior ginjutsu artist, but definitely not anyone who wants to hurt another person physically. It just wasn't how you were. And Kakashi was grateful for that.

Sighing softly, Kakashi jumped up to the ledge of your tree-bungalow, crouching as he waved, "Hey, dongo."

You didn't say anything from where you laid on the wooden floor. Kakashi frowned at the sight of your multiple bruises and bloody bandages. He really shouldn't have let you take that exam. "Can I come in?"

You nodded.

Kakashi moved a ways in further, finding himself a spot against the wall and leaning against it, "How are you feeling?"

For a few seconds you didn't answer. Kakashi tilted his head in concern when he noticed that you were shaking, the sound of sniffles soon filling the air, "I... I... I'm a failure, daddy."

You looked at him, your mask a mess as you sobbed behind it, "I'm a failure-uh! I-I-I just wanted-uh- t-to be like you..."

"Whoa, hey, it's okay," Kakashi leaned forward, placed a hand on your shoulder and squeezed softly, "It's okay, (y/n). You're not a failure."

"Yes I am," You whined, "You passed the Chunin Exams when 'you' were six, b-but I? I... How am I supposed to be like you now, daddy?"

This? This is what broke Kakashi's heart. You getting upset all because you failed to amount to a broken monster like him. "Oh, dongo, come here," Kakashi lifted his arms out.

You still cried as you crawled into your father's lap and leaned against the warmth and safety of his chest. He slipped a finger up and tugged your mask down to your chin thus making it easier to breathe. You whimpered, clinging to him as shame blurred your heart.

"I wanna talk to you about something," Kakashi held you securely while going to wipe your nose with his sleeve, "I understand why you're trying so hard to follow in my footsteps, but I believe that your ambitions are misguided."

"What... What do you mean?" You ask him sadly, confused, "I wanna be like you."

"I know, but perhaps you are trying a little too hard? I mean, you've even gotten to the point you won't eat the food 'you' love anymore all because it's not my preference."

"But... That's how I be like you, daddy," You exclaim.

Kakashi sighed, looking you in your big, teary eyes. He couldn't believe that it had come down to this, but he couldn't hold it in any longer, "(y/n)... I don't want you to be like me. I want you to be like you."

You jerked at that, gaping hurtfully, "What?"

"I know it sounds harsh, but I want you to know that what I'm saying to you right now is in no way meant to hurt you. I just want you to stop pushing yourself so hard to be something you're not. Yes, we are alike in many ways, but we're also different. And those differences are what make us unique- they define who we are and how we grow. And if you continue to grow ignoring all those important things about yourself, pretending to be something you're not, then I fear that you'll never be completely happy. "

You blinked at him, fiddling slowly with your hands and bowing your head, "I..."

Kakashi cupped your face, lifted your chin and wiped away your tears, "You failed the exams today because you weren't ready, (y/n). You're using fighting techniques that don't suit you because they're 'mine'. You haven't even tried to discover your own fighting skills yet. Haven't you ever been curious?"

"But..." More tears began leaking out of your eyes as you looked at him, "I-I love you so much and I... I wanna be just like you-huh."

"(y/n)," Kakashi said lovingly as he pressed your foreheads together, "You can still be just like me by doing the things that make 'you' happy. I'm a great ninja, and you can be one too if you simply try to be more like you instead of me. No matter what, just know that I'll always, always be proud of you and love you till the day my chakra runs out."

You sniffed at him, still upset by your failure but relieved that your father still loved you despite it all. Yes, you wanted to be just like him, but maybe being yourself sometimes too wasn't such a bad thing either.

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Satoru Gojo

When people looked at you, they felt as if they were looking at a miniature Gojo but with a different hair color. You were quite literally the spitting image of your father, and anyone who knew you or Gojo personally would know that you two were practical besties.

Ever since you were born, you magically seemed to take after Gojo- not that it was your fault because Gojo had a really bad habit of dressing you up like him and pretending that you were the world's greatest sorcerer... Besides him, of course. He couldn't help it. You were his little pal and he loved you more than anything.

As you grew, you pretty much wore identical outfits to that of your father. You had even acquired a pair of reflective sunglasses that you wore almost ninety-percent of the time. But outfits weren't the only areas where you excelled in being like him.

Gojo, even as a parent, wasn't afraid to push people to their limits, especially when they genuinely wanted to become stronger. Ever since your powers developed, he had trained you constantly in order to help you learn and grow. You were exceptional like him, and he knew that there was no time to waste.

Your father pretty much took you everywhere and that even included trips on his most dangerous missions. He would carry you on his hip or back while you watched and listened to him explain how to observe and take down enemies. Later he would quiz you, tossing toys or pieces of candy at you in reward.

Some say that Gojo wasn't so much a father to you as he was a best friend. Especially on days when he didn't have to work or train. He happily expressed his childish side, playing games with you, playing dress-up, going to carnivals, riding on miniature scooters, cooking or coloring pictures. He did it all. It was almost as if he loved being like you as much as you loved being like him.

Every time you expressed your admiration and love for him, Gojo's ego was stroked and his confidence boosted. Of course you wanted to be like him. Why wouldn't you? Narcissistic nature aside, Gojo had to admit that there was a sense of self-worth that he felt deep inside at the fact that you loved him and took after him so strongly. It made him happy. He was always proud of you.

And today he was even more proud of you.

You had just successfully made your very first domain expansion- it was rough, unstable and destructive, and it only lasted a few tiny seconds, but it was still a success. A success... That nearly destroyed the house.

Fushiguro, his cereal now all over the floor in ruins, sat in his chair with a frustrated glare on his face, "What kind of monster have you created?"

Gojo was practically dancing like a feather in the wind, singing excitedly, "One that can make domains at (age) years old."

"Oh brother..." Fushiguro rolled his eyes, gesturing to your unconscious body, "Shouldn't you be helping them?"

"Eh?" Gojo blinked ignorantly, concern flooding his body at the sight of you laying unresponsive on the floor, "Aw, we can't be having any of that now, can we?"

Teleporting over to your body, Gojo scooped you up and took you to the medical bay. It was soon confirmed that the force of your actions had merely knocked you out and given you a bloody nose. With a good lecturing from Nanami about "being a better parent", Gojo carried you back home with an endless grin on his face.

"Daddy?" You groaned in his arms.

Gojo gave you no time to talk as he leaned down and nuzzled your cheek, singing again, "Oh my incredible, amazing, talented, devilishly striking, little sorcerer, I'm so proud of you. You did your first domain expansion. Ohhh, I could cry I'm so happy."

Albeit exhausted, you still grinned in his arms and nuzzled his cheek back. It was always a good feeling to witness your father this excited after one of your successes went through. Still though, that move had taken a lot out of you. "Sleepy."

"I bet," Gojo chuckled, maneuvering you to his hip so that he could properly make his way through the mild debris of the house, "You've rightfully earned yourself a nice bath, a delicious meal, and a warm bed."

"With the heated blanky?" You softly croak.

Gojo stuck his thumb up, "Especially with the heated blanky. You've earned it."

"Thank you, daddy," You whimpered, hugging him and pressing the side of your face against his chest. His heartbeat was fast but comforting, his figure safe, warm and protective. You were so happy that you had managed to pull off such an advanced technique.

Prepping you a bath, Gojo let you wash while he was forced to clean up your mess by the ever fussy Fushiguro- aka: the real adult of the house. After you were both done, he fed you something that would soothe your tummy, and then carried you to bed.

Wrapping you up in your heated blanket, Gojo knelt down and caressed your head, "Good job today, my little jujutsu sorcerer. You really made daddy proud."

You whimpered happily and mumbled, "I hope I can do better. I wanna be just like you one of these days."

Gojo smiled, all the love he felt for you fueling his desire to keep moving forward in this cruel world, "You already are, (y/n)... You already are."

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I know, I know, the audacity I have barging into Czech Tumblr speaking English... (I have lost the ability to express myself comfortably in my native language) BUT this might come in handy to someone!

It'sssss... ✨ DOCTOR REVIEW ✨ time! (The trans kind. Of the sexologist sort.)

The subject of this review is MuDr R. Mužný (must be one of the top names for someone who can prescribe you T) of Fakultní nemocnice Ostrava. He's a sexologist currently accepting new patients.

My experience: I have only visited him once so far, so I have a concrete idea of his requirements to let you transition and his general attitude, but if something to add comes up in the future, I'll update and reblog the new version. It's also important to mention that I'm an adult transmasc, transfems or minors might have different experiences.

Attitude: The doctor's very young and seems laid-back and very friendly. He was affirming to me, and apologetic for some of the more sexual questions. He assured me that he didn't want to complicate my transition.

He didn't have any comments, derisive or supportive, when I mentioned having identified as non-binary in the past.

He thinks that even non-intersex people can transition. (yes, I was also surprised to learn about sexologists who don't)

He accepted a vague response to his question about sexuality. No need to pretend you're hetero if you aren't with this one.

He didn't seem to be against my ability to transition even though he was made aware I was autistic and had OCD.

Requirements: When making my first appointment, I mentioned to the nurse that I had spoken with a clinical psychologist about transsexuality before, and it led to them wanting a gender-related report from a different professional. I don't know to what extent is that a necessity, or if you can just come without any "recommendation" whatsoever.

Now here's the kicker: Dr. Mužný asks you for an essay (he calls it "životopis") in which you describe your relationship to your gender identity throughout your life, minimal length 3 A4s, written by hand. On top of that, it should include a written testimony from your PARENT. He also offered to invite the parent to come with me next time instead. I reiterate that I am not a minor, I'm in my mid twenties. The parental voice having to basically fact-check you if what you're writing about your childhood is true is, in my opinion, more than demeaning and terrifying. I voiced my disapproval and concern to him, to which he assured me that if the parent seems dismissive, unaccepting or simply transphobic, he won't give their words much weight. So at least there's that.

As for something positive, he doesn't do any violating, archaic physical examinations. (no physical examinations at all, actually) I was not asked to strip down.

The length of the real life test with him is 1 year. When he was answering this question of mine, he seemed to pause and ponder my case, since I came already fully socially transitioned (and had been for more than half a year), so there's a chance that it could be even shorter, if it turns out he takes your initiative into account.

The other doctors he sends you to are, as expected, an endocrinologist, a gynecologist (transmasc special, I don't know if transfems get sent for a "your genitals seem fine health-wise" paper somewhere, too, I'm sorry), but also a geneticist. (He told me that it was to complete a general patient anamnesis, but also to determine whether I was intersex. When I asked whether the result impacted my ability to transition, he said no.)

You may notice I didn't mention a psychiatrist. Neither did he. Whether that was because I already came armed with a paper saying that a clinical psychologist finds me sane enough to make medical decisions, or because he just doesn't do that (or forgot to tell me), I have no idea.

Oh yeah, and be prepared for the auto[insertgender]philia question. He will ask you whether transitioning turns you on and you will say no, because [even if you low-key think being trans is hot], your sexologist is not your friend and could only use it against you.

My conclusion so far: You could probably do worse with a sexologist, just make sure you have a functioning relationship with at least one parent and hope. My opinion might be object to change.

[genderqueerdykes]

when i call myself a lesbian and state that i am not (just) a woman, i am not insisting we must replace the current definition of lesbian, but expand it. when i say i'm a lesbian, i mean that i am attracted to and want to be in community spaces with queer women, yes, but i also want other people to be a part of this space as well, because their experiences are identical or near identical to those that queer women face, and/or they are attracted to those women.

i'm not saying that women who are attracted to women only and not in the wrong for saying that's what they mean by lesbianism means to them. there will be many people with that belief and its fine, but when they start to say that no one else can have their own lesbian experience that doesn't line up with theirs perfectly is when there's an issue. even 2 cisgender lesbians can have wildly different takes on what lesbianism means to them.

many lesbians are butchphobic. many lesbians are biphobic. many lesbians will not date or sleep with a queer woman who has dated and/or slept with men or people with penises. many lesbians reject butches who are also men. many lesbians in general reject trans women and other trans lesbians. that doesn't mean that they are 100% correct about lesbianism on the whole... that's just what they've defined it as, for themselves.

my definition of lesbianism includes all dykes. i'm attracted to people who identify as lesbians, dykes, sapphics,, intersex dykes, lesboys, transfem dykes, trans lesbians, lesbian trans women, boydykes, mtf butches, guydykes, butches, femmes, bi/pan/mspec lesbians, transmasc & ftm dykes, male lesbians, bisexual lesbians, multigender dykes, genderfluid sapphics, non binary dykes anyone who identifies as a lesbian sapphic and or dyke. yes i am also attracted to queer women in general, but i am mostly attracted to other lesbians, sapphics and dykes, because there is a culture that is present in these identities that are unique, which is why these terms exist to begin with. we have a nebulous shared experience that spans across many individual identities.

trans men are treated like butch dykes and lesbians regardless of how they identify. theyre bullied out of womanhood. intersex women and people receive this treatment throughout our lifetimes. transmascs, transfems, trans women and queer women in general get treated this way as well. any woman and/or femme who is even remotely gender non conforming gets hit with dyke and lesbian and butch and all kinds of slurs and insults. a lot of people relate to this experience. we're all judged for the same traits, people don't know our AGABs and our identities. many of us share exact experiences despite totally different individual experiences

lesbianism is broad. it's not narrow. it encompasses many forms of transness, from transmasculinity, transfemininity, transneutrality, bigenderism, multigenderism, two spirit, genderqueer, genderfluid, non binary, gender non conforming and many other identities. it's not simply cis woman loving cis woman. or cis woman loving non binary person, which is even worse- conflating non binary people with being women. this definition of lesbianism could not be more transphobic of it tried.

the rejection of butches who are Too Butch only makes this worse, but we can change this by allowing people who have these experiences to express themselves and engage in lesbian, dyke and sapphic spaces. our community is so vast and varied. we have unique experiences from all over the queer community that intersect with lesbianism and dyke identities. we have to celebrate and include these things and expand what we currently know about lesbianism- not replace anything, but build upon the history that came before us, and the people who are coming out as lesbians, sapphics, and dykes today.

[agirlwithnoface]

(CW: transphobia, mention of suicide and SA)

The Equality and Human Rights Commission has released ‘guidance’ on how organisations should interpret The UK supreme court ruling and it’s completely useless.

It states that:

"trans women […] should not be permitted to use the women's facilities"

But also:

"in some circumstances the law also allows trans women […] not to be permitted to use the men's facilities, and trans men […] not to be permitted to use the women's facilities".

However:

there "should never be a situation where a trans person is left without a toilet to use"

So…trans people can be lawfully prevented from using either facilities, but they should never be in a position with no facilities to use…how is this clearing things up?

Which facilities should trans people use? You should use those that match your biological sex, unless someone decides you look too masculine or feminine in which case you can still be kicked out. Should I use the women’s on days I look more feminine and the mens on days I look more masculine? All this does it make it more likely that trans people don’t use any facilities at all.

How the hell is anyone going to enforce this? Are they going to install security guards outside every public toilet in the country? Should workers be challenging anyone who they perceive as too masculine or feminine to be using their toilet of choice (which of course includes cis people who don’t conform to gender stereotypes)? Are they going to check the genitals of everyone who goes in? Or are we all going to have to carry around proof of our biological sex at all times?

They’ve also encouraged having both single and mixed sex facilities when possible…do they think every restaurant, school, gym and train station in the country is going to fork out the cash to create extra toilets and changing rooms?

The guidance suggests a ‘case by case basis’ which just means every organisation and individual must judge whether someone can use facilities based on their own views and biases.

And more importantly than toilets, trans people can be turned away from rape crisis services and are not permitted to join single-sex associations, abandoning and further isolating vulnerable people.

How is this protecting anyone? How did we get to the point of making this much fuss about toilets anyway? Trans women in women’s spaces is not an issue. It has never been an issue, not until these people made it one. Misogyny is an issue. Male violence is an issue. Domestic abuse is an issues. Men murdering women is an issue. A lack of rape prosecutions is an issues. This ruling is not a win for women, it will not make things better for women, it will not make women safer. What it will do is make the world less safe for a minority all ready at risk. What it will do is drive an already marginalised group further out of society by telling them ‘there is no space for you’. Whilst it will not result in any change for women it will result in more trans, intersex, gender non-conforming people, butch lesbians and anyone who could be perceived as not conforming enough to the gender binary, being challenged when just trying to go about their day, being made to feel uncomfortable, asked invasive questions, threatened, or even prevented from using spaces. It will result in more hate crime. It will result in more trans suicides.

The ruling is pointless and harmful and this ‘guidance’ is useless, dangerous and unworkable and should be ignored. Trans people, keep using whatever spaces make you feel safe and comfortable. Cis allies, if you see someone being harassed, stick up for them. If you run a business, encourage trans people to use whatever facilities they want. If you run a single sex space or organisation, accept trans people. Division and hatred do not have to win.

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