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Just to be clear: When I, an aromantic person, call another human person "cute", I mean it in the way you'd call a puppy or a kitten cute. It doesn't mean I'm having a crush on this person. I didn't suddenly turn alloromantic. All it means it that I took a look at this person and probably thought, "Aww!" That's it. No intention of dating at all.

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sometimes i doubt the aro half of me and then ill have a childhood friend slide back into my dms and catch me up to date on all the romance tea i've missed and holy shit the doubt goes away so quick because what the fuck

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The pain of being an aroace but knowing you could lie through your teeth and be seen as “normal” but at the same time not being able to do it

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[ID: A screenshot from the j-drama "Koisenu Futari". It shows the character Sakuko Kodama, a young Japanese woman with neck-length black hair. She is wearing a colourful, crocheted(?) top. She is standing in a corridor, next to a bookshelf, and appears to be talking to someone off-screen. / End ID]

Do you know this queer character?

Sakuko is Aromantic and Asexual, and uses she/her pronouns!

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Do you ever think about how you see the aroallo flag more often than the alloace flag which is likely because you can just say you're asexual and people probably won't assume you're aromantic as well whereas if you say you're aromantic they'll automatically assume you're asexual, so it makes sense that aromantic allosexuals would be more likely to use the flag specifically for them rather than the one for all aromantics because with the specific flag it'll be more obvious that they're not aroace?

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an aro experience i have is seeing many other aro people get asked out and say they feel gross about it while for me i’ve never had someone interested in me like that so i don’t know what i’d feel like, i know i’m not into people romantically but maybe i would want to be in a relationship with someone? the thought of it doesn’t sound so appealing, but maybe i’m just confused?

Only you can decide what is best for you. Just do what feels right :)

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In hindsight, maybe an early sign that I'm allon't was viewing romance as a somewhat equivalent to dragons in fantasy. Yes I love the hypothetical of taking a dope flying fire breathing beast out for a joy ride, yes I would have a literal heart attack and facking die if I was inserted into the situation. Yes this is basically also my stance on romance, your point being?

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i pity people who say “yeah it’s nice to see these two characters as friends but their relationship becomes so much more meaningful if you see them as romantic.” how has the dredges of the amanormative world poisoned you this bad? have you never had a friend or wanted a friend who changed your life for the better? or if you do i feel bad for them because of so obviously little you value them

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i like seeing aros who have totally different experiences with attraction and relationships <3 rejoice in a diversity of perspectives and a collaborative and respectful community

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We don't talk about platonic marriages enough

I am bisexual. My partner is aroace. We are in a queerplatonic relationship. We have been together for around 4 years and got engaged a little over 1 year ago. We don't do romantic things (we do sometimes, but not usually.) and we don't do sexual things. There's no romance, but we love each other. It is 100% platonic. But I ALWAYS feel the need to clarify this with people we meet that, it's not "oh haha we were best friends for so long we just decided to get married teehee" NO It's still love. We live for each other. We would die for each other. We are attached at the hip. We are each others most important thing in the entire world. Just because we don't kiss or have sex doesn't mean it's not love. I LOVE my fiance in ways words can't explain. And they love me just the same. Just because it's not romantic doesn't make it any less of a relationship. Just because it's not sexual doesn't make us any less engaged. I am going to marry my fiance, my best friend, the love of my life, and I need people to know that it's not because we couldn't find anyone else. It's not because we said we would if we were still single at X years old. It's not a trend or a phase or anything like that. I'm going to marry them because I LOVE them.

@skittlescripts <3

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I've been trying to explain my Sherlock is ace headcanon to my friend and they're just like NOOOO he had sex with that person when he was pretending to date them

and I'm like exactly!! he had sex JUST because he had to fool her into thinking he liked her so he could take advantage of her (questionable morals but yk)

which means he had literally no feelings for her and therefore he didn't care abt the sex

okay and this woman made sexual advances towards him but he looks at her eyes rather than her boobs and is just totally chill

I'm not saying allos can't ignore boobs but like I genuinely believe Sherlock couldn't care less abt sex

I'm trying to explain that he can have sex and make sex references and act sexy and joke abt sex without being allo??!?!!????!

(anyway this is the same friend who told me I'd find someone eventually and has a lot of internalised aphobia despite ace questioning themselves so I understand why they don't get this)

(I'm really sorry if you don't care abt Sherlock whatsoever lol I just needed to prove a point to a fellow aspec person)

I have no knowledge about this man (not in the fandom) but from what you've said, I say an ace headcannon is completely acceptable and understandable :)

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I finished watching BBC's Sherlock yesterday (I'm very late to the party, I know) and today I went in the fandom tags for the first time. I'm disappointed that there's absolutely zero aroace Sherlock content out there?!

People headcanon him as gay and while that does make kinda sense, him being aromantic and asexual makes just as much sense. I'm not surprised the gay headcanon is the more popular option, but really? Zero?

He's so aroace coded. It seems like the writers wanted to imply him being gay by not giving him an ounce of attraction to women but wanted to keep it vague and ambiguous enough for conservative people to keep watching so they don't show him being actually attracted to men. Well, I guess y'all queerbaited too close to the sun because he's aroace now!

But really, I need more aroace Sherlock content.

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Sorry to all the A's I couldn't fit on here!

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Once again, I do not jive with terms like platonic attraction, familial attraction, etc, etc. The word "attraction" has such Specific Connotations attatched to it that I don't think transfer well to situations other than romantic or sexual feelings.

I don't know, maybe I'm making a mountain out of a mole hill, but it makes me uncomfortable to have those feelings almost foisted off on me because so much of the aro community has decided that it's a feasible term.

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As a wheelchair user I'm trying to reframe my language for "being in the way."

"I'm in the way," "I can't fit," and "I can't go there," is becoming "there's not enough space," "the walkway is too narrow," and "that place isn't accessible."

It's a small change, but to me it feels as if I'm redirecting blame from myself to the people that made these places inaccessible in the first place. I don't want people to just think that they're helping me, I want them to think that they're making up for someone else's wrongdoing. I want them to remember every time I've needed help as something someone else caused.

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i just saw someone describe a disabled person as "someone with beautiful abilities" i cannot do this anymore

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yes there are the horrors but at least im aro