#platonic attraction

[dangerous-fighter-fairy]

Being aroace with a squish is really like. You look so nice and cute and pretty (not like that), I’d like to snuggle up in bed with you (not like that) and play with your hair (not like that) and lay there for a while (not like that) and hold your hand all the time (not like that) and hang out with you one-on-one (not like that) and get to you know you on a deep and personal level (not like that)

[wonder-and-wildflowers]

I think not realizing that I was aromantic until I was like 19 is kinda mental in retrospect.

Not just because of the way I used to 'assign' crushes to myself. Or would genuinely become heartbroken when very specific best friends (who I now realize were squishes) would date someone and that person would become a priority over me.

Or when I would start mourning when one of said very specific people (the squishes) would confess romantic feelings for me.

But, if for no other reason, because I have literally always treated friendship rings/ necklaces/ bracelets with a level of reverence mirrored primarily in allo's comitment to their weddings/ engagement rings.

I wear those things until they break and then become genuinely completely devastated when they do.

[arielthedaydreamer]

Normalize other types of attraction that are not romantic or sexual. Normalize non sexual touching, normalize being a cuddly little mf, normalize being aesthetically obsessed with someone, normalize being so in love with your friends you would make the earth spin backwards for them. This is the beauty of aroace people, this is how we love, where is the love is love crowd to help us now??

[lgbtqtext]

[tremendously-crazy]

Pov: You've never had a good, proper friendship before, so the moment you have one with a boy, you convince yourself that you like him, and then you do all the things people do when they like someone, (complimenting them, trying to spend time with them, talking to them, thinking about them 24/7), only for things to get stressful and anxiety enducing when you both confess to each other because you don't REALLY know what its like to love/like someone romantically and everything he does grosses you out and now you're just texting him for hours but he won't even look at you in real life and LOOK NEW HYPERFIXATION!! GOODBYE KID MY NEW LOVE IS SHERLOCK HOLMES

[blackholemojis]

could you make some symbols/emojis for different kinds of attraction/relationships? i really like the fire and rose motif you did for the hypersexual and hyperromantic symbols

specifically: romantic, platonic, sexual, aesthetic and alterous?

Yes I can! I chose to represent relationships with two clasped hands, and attraction with two hands with a colorful blob between them, but of course attraction and relationships come in all sorts of ways :)

Romantic relationship: two clasped hands with a red rose above them.

Romantic attraction: two hands held near each other, connected by a red blob, and a red rose above them.

Sexual relationship: two clasped hands with an orange flame above them.

Sexual attraction: two hands held near each other, connected by an orange blob, and an orange flame above them.

Platonic relationship: two clasped hands with a yellow rose above them.

Platonic attraction: two hands held near each other, connected by a yellow blob, with a yellow rose above them.

Aesthetic relationship: two clasped hands with a rainbow disk above them.

Aesthetic attraction: two hands held near each other, connected by a rainbow blob, with a rainbow disk above them.

Alterous relationship: two clasped hands with a yellow, grey, pink, and red fluid shape above them.

Alterous attraction: two clasped hands with a yellow, grey, pink, and red blob connecting them, and a fluid shape above the hands.

[lovesick-coining]

Intusplatonic / Intraplatonic

[pt: Intusplatonic or Intraplatonic /end pt]

Intusplatonic / Intraplatonic - A term for when you only feel platonic attraction to those in your own system.

(No spoons for ID, sorry!)

Self indulgent coining

The flag layouts used are the ones I saw in this post made by @extranthaeic

The colors used for this are from this Aplatonic Spectrum flag made by @acore-ballt

One does not need to identify as being aplspec to use this term/flag, our headmate we made this for just happens to identify as aplatonic/aplspec so we went ahead and used that flags color palette for this term

We are anti-syscourse, keep syscourse related tags off of this post if you reblog this. Thank you.

Tags - @radiomogai @wanderingdevotee

If anyone would like to be tagged in this post or future coining/flag posts please let us know <3

[woodbyne]

   ＠ Reciplatonic

One who does not experience platonic attraction unless they know that the other individual wants to befriend with them first.

Request from anon.

Vibrant versions of the flag under the cut!

[Plain text start: Reciplatonic. One who does not experience platonic attraction unless they know that the other individual wants to be friends with them first. Request from anon. Vibrant versions of the flag under the cut! .Plain text end]

[dangerous-fighter-fairy]

For anyone who’s aspec and doesn’t know what term to use for someone they like because “I don’t know if it’s a crush or a squish or something else” then worry not and use my chosen term: POI which stands for Person Of Interest. It’s literally just someone you’re interested in in some way and I generally don’t specify which way I find them interesting because eh sometimes I don’t know and it’s easier to say POI. It also makes them sound like a murder suspect or something if you’re into that lol

[lgbtqtext]

[naptimeneos]

���⸝ FICTOPLATONIC REDESIGN - image id in alt id & under cut

a redesign / alternate flag for fictoplatonic

requested by anonymous ! flag by plush !

📮 ─ THE LETTERBOX ✦ @smilepilled @septick

( alt id ; a flag with 9 stripes following a black-blue-black gradient. the middle stripe is yellow. in the middle, there is an explosion symbol in beige and yellow. on top of that, there is a symbol of a pen merging into a heart. )

[aroaceyamum]

Let’s normalise no types of attraction or love to be more important than any other!

[our-aroace-experience]

My aroace experience is thinking I have a crush on someone and then realizing that I just really wanna be their friend

platonic attraction can be super confusing

[sortingmyideas]

Do you ever feel like romance averse aroaces are pressured to be one of the "horny kinky aces who fuck nasty with dozens of people" to make up for our romance aversion, and then if we turn out to be also sex averse then we get "PURITY CULTURE" screamed at us? 'cause I see this happening a lot. This is not "fighting sex negativity" this is just straight up aphobia. I also feel like romance and sex averse aroaces are pressured to act on any tertiary attraction that we might feel. Like what if I don't want to be with other people in any kind of way actually. What if I don't want to have tons of crazy sex and also don't want to be in a qpr with someone else. What then. Why tf do I need to "compensate" for my lack of attraction and romance aversion?

Yeah, I get this.

A lot of "sex positive" and "purity culture" conversations really seem to enjoy bordering or straight up running across the line of aphobia (which is ironic as hell).

And unfortunately, there are a lot of people with the mindset of 'Oh, you don't feel sexual/romantic attraction? Well, that's okay! you can still get into a QPR or something! Aros and aces can still date and have sex!"*

I love my friends a lot. I feel an obscene amount of platonic love for people. I get squishes all the time. That doesn't mean I wanna fuck them or get married. Even platonically.

I also feel like people keep making the mistake of equating any tertiary attraction to romantic or sexual attraction. You like how a person looks ascetically? You're platonically attracted to someone? Then why won't you fuck them? Why won't you date them? They're the same thing, right?

Really, it just boils down to the fact that a lot of people cannot wrap their heads around people who don't wanna date or fuck and so they try to make it seem as 'normal' as they can. 'Well, some of them do, so those ones are normal enough.'*

Also there are people who don't feel any tertiary attraction so. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

*Yes, some of us do for a variety of reasons, but it is not everyone and the people who say this have no right to use parts of our community to dismiss the rest.

*This isn't support. The people who do this view aro/aces who do fuck or date as allos, regardless of the nuance. This is because they're assholes.

[umbrecrunch]

OMNIPLATONIC

platonic attraction to all genders with a preference, or other forms of non-romantic attraction. someone who regularly experiences squishes or “friend crushes”. this is mostly used by aro/aroace people or people in QPRs.

[Pt: platonic attraction to all genders with a preference, or other forms of non-romantic attraction. someone who regularly experiences squishes or “friend crushes”. this is mostly used by aro/aroace people or people in QPRs. End Pt.]