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Reblong to give someone an ice cream sanditch.

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A lot of people including asexuals really don't understand that asexuality is really the only form, or at least one of the very few forms of nonsexuality that exists outside of puritanism. It's one of the few forms of nonsexuality that isn't enforced or mandatory in a religious, spiritual, physical or mental sense. Its one of the few forms of nonsexuality that doesn't involve an active restriction or repression of desire or attraction but instead simply not having certain desires or attractions in the first place for people who never had them or no longer have them. It's one of the few forms of nonsexuality that is naturally occurring instead of being mandatory and enacted by a larger system. I know there's some feminist reworkings of celibacy and abstinence but those usually have an expiry date in the sense that after sexual conditions improve for women then sex can start again (with men). Asexuality does not. Whilst ethical celibacy or abstinence is usually in the context of women not participating in sex until certain conditions are met and improved, asexuality offers the ability to not participate ever. With no pressure to rejoin or join, no moral stigma. And I think that's pretty neat.

So when the forefront of liberal ace activism is to distance itself from nonsexuality completely, to constantly assert that asexuals aren't frigid prudes, asexuals aren't virgins, asexuals aren't vanilla, asexuals aren't ugly and unfuckable, asexuals have libidos like normal people, asexuals are never scared or uncomfortable with sex at all or have any not 100% enthusiastic opinions about it, that there's 0 trace of any sexual trauma or negative sexual experiences or anxieties because we're not damaged goods, essentially focusing on our hypothetical sexual potential more than the nonsexual realities a lot of us have, to say I'm confused and disappointed would be a massive understatement.

Yes asexuality is a spectrum and everyone's valid blah blah blah but not all of these experiences are the same and the community hasn't and doesn't want to prepare for that. We've advocated for how aces can still take part in (hetero)sexuality but what are those of us who don't supposed to do? There's no guide for what childless aces are gonna do in the next few decades when they have no biological descendants. There's no guide on how to have an asexual romance without sex apart from 'just cuddle' or basically just saying do 'normal' romance without the sex bit. There were no guide to QPRs until we made them. There's no guide on how to build an ace community in real life and how to deal with any loneliness or isolation that comes from not having a local community. There's no guide on how to be a nonsexual being apart from 'just don't have sex/do sexual things' which apart from being backhanded as hell for those of us who didn't get a choice, it doesn't go beyond that. We have this unique form of nonsexuality and nothing is being done with it, apart from ignoring, erasing or blatantly attacking it. Where are all those "harmful stereotype" asexuals supposed to go? There's no one around to help but us.

I care more about supporting asexual people's nonsexual needs than proving asexuals fit into some type of sexual normalcy.

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Happy ASAW to all you cool people

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Heyy, nice to see you back :D I don't have anything to say in particular, but I think Brian and Freddie's dynamic is so overlooked it's actually sad. There's isn't a whole lot of crazy stuff like for example with mclennon, so it's easy to miss it, but when you look deeper those two have so much Narrative Potential™ it's actually a goldmine for fanfic writers

Thank you <3 I'm glad to be back.

I agree! Though I will say there is a lot to talk about in terms of Freddie and Brian's dynamic — most people just don't know about it because it's too obscure. Also, people don't think too much about it. Here are some of my favorite "Oh, this isn't fanfic?" aspects of their dynamic:

Brian dedicating Love of My Life to Freddie for 30 years, starting when he was clinically depressed in '92.

Freddie calling Brian his Jimi Hendrix and telling him "You're what I want" when he was still trying to make a name for himself as an artist.

Brian writing Fat Bottomed Girls about Freddie's taste in men. Just because.

Both of them being emotionally affected by the queer-coded movie Women in Love the year that they met.

Brian, as an agnostic person, wanting there to be an afterlife so he can see Freddie again...

... and Brian saying he'd say, "I love you," to Freddie if he could speak to him again.

This is just the tip of the iceberg. I mean, in my opinion, they should be put in the same "league" as McLennon based on their stage interactions and musical partnership alone. But maybe I'm alone in thinking so.

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Sex repulsed people are awesome, that is all. And that includes people who experience romantic and other types of attraction too!

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Freddie and Brian live on the North American A Day At The Races Tour in early 1977.

Photo by Michael Ochs.

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My dear friend drew this, and gave me permission to share.

Important note: Ivan Franko is one of most famous and important people to ukraine's history. His queer identity however is not commonly discussed.

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thinking about creatures.

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we need some more Brian May appreciation on this blog methinks so here’s Things About Brian May That Just Make Sense

Owns Groot pajamas

Once apologized for being straight to a guy who asked him out in a hotel lobby

Broke protocol talking to Queen Elizabeth because he couldn’t take the awkward silence

Noticed guys following Freddie into his dressing room and was basically just like “….huh. That’s new” and apparently went about his day (the correct reaction)

Commissioned a second giant statue of Freddie due to being jealous of Roger’s for like a solid decade 

Said his cat was the closest thing he had to a sibling, wrote a song about her when she died

Took a video of himself with the EMTs in an ambulance while LITERALLY HAVING A STROKE

Moved houses, forgot about the whole entire life-sized News of the World robot he had in his attic, was gifted another one by a fan, now has robot in his house somewhere

Once spent entirely too long trying to plug in a completely acoustic instrument

Once turned up to a sound check having forgotten his guitar, didn’t notice until far later than he should have 

Split his head open throwing up in a toilet 

Broke his arm after “losing a fight with a skateboard” 

Tried to get back at Crystal for pranking him, just ended up accidentally buying him breakfast

Bought land, planted trees, made it to be a haven for wildlife

Recorded actual thunder for a song, credited god for it on the album 

Low-key speaks Spanish

Brian: Roger and I used to argue about everything you can think of Also Brian: “special thanks to my most enduring partner, Roger Meddows Taylor—“

Clogs

Volunteered to play on top of Buckingham Palace, was absolutely unimaginably terrified the entire time

Dressed up as a penguin and tried to bond with the penguins on the IGSM video

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The members of Queen were photographed during the Hyde Park concert in London, UK on September 18, 1976.

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"John and Roger were very close, being the youngest ones in Queen. In the early days they would always make fun of the stupidest things and laugh constantly. They were best friends, and they grew closer as Queen got older."

-Brian May (unsourced)

underrated duo

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will forever love the story Ratty told about the time during the ANATO era where he and Freddie were driving to pick something up or whatever, hit black ice, and crashed the car

like they crash the car and no cell phones obviously so Ratty sends FREDDIE. MERCURY—man who had to ask Roger how to boil eggs. Man who tried to make tea and forgot the tea—To walk into town to find help

Ratty waits. And waits. And it’s kind of been a while. turns out Freddie has knocked on someone’s door to ask to use their phone and the people inside recognize him and invite him in for tea, which for some ungodly reason he accepts

except the people have run out of sugar so they all go next door to ask the neighbors for sugar and then the neighbors also recognize Freddie so there’s like this big tea party going on and EVENTUALLY Freddie is able to use their phone to call back to I believe Ridge Farm

cut back to the totaled car with Ratty and now Freddie has managed to rejoin him and here comes a car on a rescue mission carrying a very concerned Brian, Roger and John, as well as roadies/assistants etc. because Freddie has informed them of what happened quite over-dramatically and made it sound like they almost died or something

I love it lol

story I believe from Queen Unseen

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the early 70s are just called Brian May because this was HIS era oml

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Brian May Being His Wonderful Self On Instagram: Highlights

Check the notes for part 2!!

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"Of course, then I get Freddie."

"Suddenly, I have Roger and John."

There's just something lovely and adoring about how Brian calls his bandmates his 🥰 then continues to gush in detail about how wonderful they are in their ways 💖

From the nicely upgraded Queen The Greatest special series, so far so insightful!

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Source deakycheaky on Instagram.