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Hey! I saw that you are a design student too. What type of designing are you doing? And most importantly, how do you get on top of it? How do you remain creative? I feel like I burn out a bit too fast these days.

Hello! I apologize for answering so late, work called.

I'm leaning towards more towards product design. I might go into human-centred product design, but I'm still undecided, it's still early days. We aren't supposed to choose a specialization yet, so honestly it could shift towards communication design too if I want.

I run on pure passion. I absolutely love the field I'm going to. Initially, in design, the work can be slightly boring, especially because we're working on strengthening foundations. But I honestly don't care if it's boring. Like sure, I'll complain, but you will only get top-notch work from me. I don't do half-assed work.

Creativity is a tricky thing, yes, but the answer is recharging. You have to find coping mechanisms for stress. I crochet, read, or sing to destress. Writing poetry is also a fantastic outlet. Talking to friends helps too. Ultimately, creativity is what our field runs on, so you have to nurture it.

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Do not blame me for who I am. The doctor prescribed me 20 mL of #self love twice a day.

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Tara

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Do you know how to fake a smile?

If you don't, learn.

The biggest lesson I've had in 2023 was to learn how to pretend everything was perfect with me when it wasn't. I had to go to class with two girls who had completely isolated me and then hurt me. I had to sit next to them and work and pretend as though I didn't care, when really, I was burning up with anger.

Learning how to present a calm and happy front is incredibly important. People don't like to see your messy feelings. That's for your mom and your best friend to see. The moment you show an ounce of weakness, especially to someone who has it out for you, they pounce on it and use it to their advantage. You'll be labeled hysterical, emotional, too sensitive because you can't take a joke Rachel made about you to everyone in class including your crush.

There are places where you cannot give any cutting replies to the people who bully or hurt you, like your workplace. You have to smile, and sit down, or plot revenge where nobody can blame you (my favourite tactic).

But in situations where if you try to show how you were hurt and it's only going to backfire for you, learn to make peace with the fact that all you can do is make the situation better for yourself.

So,

Big smile. Keep the peace. Take your revenge in silence.

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Mara Lafontan

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Vivienne Westwood

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Let's talk about friendships.

Company matters. If your friends are out smoking during work, bunking classes and partying, you will either

a) break under peer pressure and follow them

b) be miserable if that isn't the lifestyle you want

I want to say I've never been in that situation, but I was. This is why I can empathize with you, and tell you that you need to leave friendships like these ASAP.

My "friends" did not respect me. Because I let them. They would talk over me, make plans without me, leave me behind at gatherings, had absolutely NO boundaries. It took me a painful experience to wake the fuck up and leave them.

In my room, I cried. I screamed. I raged about how unfair all of this was. But the issue wasn't them it was me. I was the one who didn't set the boundaries. I was the one who let them disrespect me over and over. The moment you do not stand up for yourself, it's over. Its hunting season, and people will tear you to shreds.

It took me a while to heal, but when I did end up making new, better friends, I realised the vast difference between my friend groups. When I was with my old friends, I was constantly stressed, I had incomplete assignments, I would go out all the time, and I'll be honest I was really bitchy. With my new friends, my god how things changed. New study habits, healthier choices, laughter, love.

I didn't realise how long I hadn't been myself. The people who you surround yourself with have a huge effect on you and your life. And trust me when I say if you feel the need to hide parts of yourself and fake shit to be around them, you will NEVER be happy around them. True friendship flourishes around authenticity and confidence.

Company matters. Know who your real friends are.

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blog upgrade who?

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Could you make a glow up series for men please 🙏🙏

Interesting idea. I'll look into it for sure!

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eternal sunshine is the album for spring and summer for me this year. the airy tones and bright melodies are just perfect, and the layering and harmonies are beautiful.

it reminds me of pineapple and summer storms, and lying in bed as this vaguely melancholic feeling washes over me as i melt into the sheets.

lovely.

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