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IF HE DOESN'T LIKE YOU, YOU'LL BE CONFUSED, AND IF HE LIKES YOU, YOU'LL KNOW IT.

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DEAR YOUNG GIRLS,

NEVER FEEL PRESSURED TO COMPROMISE YOUR SELF-RESPECT TO PROVE YOUR LOVE.

FIND SOMEONE WHO SUPPORTS AND CARES FOR YOU.

SOMEONE WHO BUYS YOU SAFETY PADS, NOT CONDOMS.

BE WITH A PERSON WHO VALUES BRINGING YOU HOME, NOT TO HOTELS.

CHOOSE SOMEONE WHO GENUINELY CARES ABOUT YOUR WELL-BEING, ASKS ABOUT YOUR PERIOD PAIN, AND VALUES YOUR HEART AND SOUL, NOT JUST YOUR BODY.

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YOUR ANXIETY WON'T RUIN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THE RIGHT PERSON. REMEMBER THAT.

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YOU CALLED HER PRETTY,

BUT DO YOU KNOW HER BACKSTORY WITH HER PARENTS?

DO YOU KNOW WHY SHE DOESN'T LIKE HER BIRTHDAY?

WHY SHE HATES THAT CERTAIN MONTH OF THE YEAR?

WHY SHE CARES SO MUCH ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS?

WHY IT'S HARD FOR HER TO OPEN UP ABOUT HER EMOTIONS?

IS SHE 'PRETTY ENOUGH' FOR YOU TO TAKE THE TIME TO GET TO KNOW HER?"

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WHY MEN COME BACK: THE REAL REASONS

MEN OFTEN COME BACK WHEN THEY SEE YOU THRIVING WITHOUT THEM. THEIR EGO TAKES A HIT, PROMPTING THEM TO REACH OUT AND REGAIN CONTROL OVER YOUR EMOTIONS TO BOOST THEIR SELF-WORTH.

WHEN THEY NOTICE YOU MOVING ON, THEIR FEAR OF LOSING THEIR INFLUENCE PUSHES THEM TO RECONNECT. THE MORE YOU DISTANCE YOURSELF, THE HARDER IT BECOMES FOR THEM TO RETURN. THEY'RE AFRAID OF LOSING THE POWER THEY ONCE HAD OVER YOU.

SOMETIMES, HE'S SIMPLY TESTING THE WATERS, SEEING IF HE CAN LEAVE AND RETURN WHENEVER HE PLEASES. THIS IS A SETUP FOR AN EMOTIONAL ROLLERCOASTER. IF HE KNOWS HE CAN HURT, DISRESPECT, AND ABANDON YOU—THEN COME BACK ON HIS TERMS—HE WILL KEEP DOING IT. THE MORE OFTEN YOU LET HIM BACK IN, THE HARDER IT BECOMES TO MOVE ON.

IN OTHER CASES, HE'S BORED OR THE PERSON HE LEFT YOU FOR NO LONGER HOLDS INTEREST. MEN OFTEN USE RELATIONSHIPS AS A FORM OF OWNERSHIP, AND EVEN AFTER THINGS END, THEY MENTALLY LIST THE WOMEN THEY'VE BEEN WITH. HE’LL CHECK THIS LIST TO SEE WHO HE STILL HAS EMOTIONAL CONTROL OVER. THE ONLY WAY TO REMOVE YOURSELF FROM THAT LIST IS TO REFUSE TO LET HIM BACK INTO YOUR LIFE.

YES, SOMETIMES MEN RETURN BECAUSE THEY GENUINELY REGRET LOSING YOU. BUT REMEMBER WHY THINGS ENDED IN THE FIRST PLACE. WHY ALLOW HIM BACK INTO YOUR LIFE IF YOU SPENT MOST OF THE RELATIONSHIP QUESTIONING HOW MUCH YOU MEANT TO HIM? YOU'RE HERE READING THIS FOR A REASON. I HOPE THIS MESSAGE REMINDS YOU THAT YOU DESERVE SO MUCH MORE.

YOU ARE RARE, YOU ARE MAGIC. DON'T SETTLE FOR LESS.

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I DON'T DESERVE YOU; YOU DESERVE BETTER" IS A RED FLAG.

MEN SAY THIS TO CREATE AN EMPTY CHALLENGE, A FALSE OPPORTUNITY FOR YOU TO PROVE HIM WRONG AND CHANGE HIS MIND.

HOW OFTEN HAVE YOU GONE THROUGH HELL FOR A GUY WHO KEEPS SAYING HE DOESN'T DESERVE YOU, YET EXPECTS ACCESS TO YOU BOTH PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY?

"I DON'T DESERVE YOU; YOU DESERVE BETTER''' IS A WARNING.

HE'S TELLING YOU THAT HE DOESN'T INTEND TO BE WHAT YOU NEED OR TO PROVIDE WHAT’S NECESSARY FOR YOU TO FEEL AT PEACE IN PURSUING HIM.

THE MAN WHO SAYS THIS WILL BREAK YOUR HEART EVERY STEP OF THE WAY, TESTING YOUR TOLERANCE AND SEEING WHAT HE CAN GET AWAY WITH.

THE ONLY WAY TO HOLD HIM ACCOUNTABLE IS TO WALK AWAY FOR GOOD.

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IF A MAN DOESN'T ADD VALUE TO YOUR LIFE, HE DOESN'T NEED TO BE IN IT.

IT'S BETTER TO BE SINGLE THAN TO BE WITH AN INCOMPATIBLE MAN.

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SIGNS THEY ARE NOT READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP:

THEY CRAVE TOO MUCH VALIDATION AND ATTENTION FROM OTHERS.

THEY ARE STILL HURT BY A PAST RELATIONSHIP, WHICH LEADS TO TRUST ISSUES.

THEY DON’T PRIORITIZE GETTING TO KNOW YOU AND ARE ALWAYS "TOO BUSY."

THEY ARE JUST LOOKING FOR SOMEONE TO HAVE A GOOD TIME WITH.

THEY CAN’T COMMUNICATE WHAT THEY WANT AND ARE NEVER 100% SURE.

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THREE PEOPLE WHO WILL STAB YOU IN THE BACK:

SOMEONE WHO FLIRTS WITH YOUR PARTNER.

ANYONE WHO IS ONLY HAPPY WHEN YOU LET THEM WIN AT EVERYTHING.

A PERSON WHO MAKES YOU FEEL WORSE AFTER GIVING A COMPLIMENT.

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I WAS BORN WITH SOMETHING INSIDE ME THAT REFUSES TO SETTLE FOR AVERAGE.

I DON'T KNOW WHAT IT IS, BUT I'M GLAD I HAVE IT.

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I'VE BEEN BURNED BEFORE, AND IT'S MADE ME WARY. IT'S NOT THAT I DON'T WANT TO LOVE AGAIN, BUT IT'S HARD TO TRUST AFTER BEING HURT. SO, UNTIL I FIND SOMEONE WHO PROVES THEY'RE WORTH THE RISK, I'LL REMAIN SINGLE.

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I DECIDED TO STOP EXPLAINING MYSELF TO PEOPLE. YOU KNOW WHY? BECAUSE PEOPLE WHO LOVE ME, DON'T NEED AN EXPLANATION AND PEOPLE WHO DON'T LOVE ME DON'T CARE FOR EXPLANATION.

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NEVER RE-FRIEND SOMEONE WHO TRIED TO DESTROY YOUR CHARACTER.

FORGIVE THEM AND LOVE THEM FROM AFAR

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AND IT MADE ME REALISE I DON'T CARE ANYMORE WHAT ANYBODY GOTTA SAY I'MMA DO ME I'MMA DO ME.

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PLAYING IT SAFE IS THE RISKIEST CHOICE YOU CAN EVER MAKE.

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NEVER BEG FOR FRIENDSHIP OR A RELATIONSHIP IF YOU DON'T RECEIVE THE SAME EFFORTS THAT YOU ARE GIVING; CUT THEM OFF.

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