#green flags

[theamoristwriter]

“I can even travel halfway around the world for you”

( Im Sol was so real for this)

🎥 : Lovely Runner (2024)

[manincaffeine]

"how was ur day?" "how are u?" "i missed u today" "call me when u get home" "im proud of you"

[honeypleasejustkillme]

“what’s wrong, talk to me”

“let’s fix this, i can’t lose you”

“we’ll work it out together”

[theambitiouswoman]

Green Flags in Communication 💚💬

"I want to know when I hurt your feelings."

This shows they are willing to understand and acknowledge the impact of their actions.

"I don't want you to feel alone in this."

This shows empathy and indicates that the person is supportive and does not want the person to deal with issues alone.

"I've been struggling with ___”

This demonstrates vulnerability and trust, as the person is open about their struggles.

"How have you been feeling about ___? I know it's been on your mind a lot."

This shows concern for the other person's issues or worries, showing that they are listening and care about what's important to the other person.

"I feel __ when you __; are you open to trying __ next time?"

This is an example of constructive communication.

"What do you need from me when this happens with your family?"

This shows awareness and sensitivity to the persons family dynamics and a willingness to provide support.

"I appreciate when you ___.”

Expressing appreciation is vital for positive reinforcement and acknowledging the efforts and qualities of the other person.

"I didn't handle that well."

This is a sign of self-awareness and accountability, recognizing one's own mistakes and being open to learning and growth.

"I'm sorry, I was wrong to say that. I'll try to be more mindful in the future."

Shows you are able to apologize genuinely and a commitment to improving behavior.

"Tell me more about that; I'm really interested in hearing your perspective."

Indicates a genuine interest in the other person's thoughts and feelings.

"I noticed you seemed a bit off today. Is everything okay?"

It shows you are attentive to the other person's emotional state and a readiness to provide support.

"I'm here for you, no matter what you need."

Offers unconditional support, creating a sense of security in the relationship.

"I love how passionate you are about your hobbies. It's inspiring to see."

Expresses admiration for the other person's interests.

"Let's work on a solution together. What do you think would be fair?"

Focusing on collaboration rather than conflict.

"I trust your judgment on this."

Trust and respect for the other person's decision-making abilities.

"Your happiness is important to me. Let's make sure you're taking time for yourself."

Prioritizes the other person's happiness and emphasizes the importance of self care.

"It's okay to feel that way. Do you want to talk about it more?"

Validates the other person's feelings.

"I appreciate how you handled that situation. You're really good at ___."

Praises specific strengths or skills, boosting the other person's self-esteem.

"I know we disagree, but I respect your point of view."

Acknowledges differences in opinion while still maintaining respect and understanding.

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[thatstolenpayal]

ngl but if i were a boy i would have been the best boyfriend

[classycookiexo]

[alastor-simp]

FIZZ X OZZIE ARE TOO ADORABLE I CAN'T!!!!!!!!!

Helluva boss new episode has me squealing like crazy. Not only that but the songs from this episode were BANGING, I'm gonna be listening to Glitz and Glam song plus Fizz song on repeat XD. So happy FizzxOzzie were able to come out as a couple with no one judging them. This was hands-down the best episode of Helluva Boss (second best being Oops)

[roselandsrl]

[decolonize-the-left]

"Stay with them through ups & downs."

Downs are NOT:

cheating

disrespect

abuse: verbal, mental, physical, spiritual

manipulation

gaslighting

control

Downs are:

financial hardships

health issues

tragic death/injury

Arough points in a relationship (arguing, lack of intercourse, losing the "spark")

trouble keeping/finding individuality in a relationship

Stop normalizing putting yourself through trauma trying to prove to somebody that you love them.

[odinsblog]

Running from all those green flags like

[luxuriouslifelover]

I love these two 🥰❤️ They are truly a healthy example of what a relationship should be like for lgbtq+ couples and straight couples all around the world.

[mymidwestheart]

No matter the type of relationship. 🫶

[nepentheseeker]

i just realised we never saw Seongji's happy Smile ಥ⁠╭⁠╮⁠ಥ

and I love it when Sinu smiles, Love him .

They are like greenest flags ever , well we can add more characters like Jichang and Jake but these two are my fav .

[tulipsforvin]

William James Moriarty's

Green & Red Flags:

Green Flags:

William is always in tiptop shape and has excellent hygiene. Expect him to have a spare handkerchief that he doesn't use for himself in one of his inner pockets.

He's a coolheaded, collected man. He would deal with stubborn whims, tantrums and demands with ease, I think he'd find it mildly amusing — watching his beloved get all sulky and grouchy if they didn't get what they wanted. He'll tease them for it, too.

Dates would probably be high-end luxury restaurants with five to four star ratings, stargazing, picnics and library dates.

He's very soft with his loved ones - very gentle, very vulnerable. He's a clingy one once the majority of his walls have been broken down, for sure.

Forehead kisses, kisses on the back of your hand, cheek kisses, top of the head kisses, on the inner part of your wrists, kisses & kisses.

He'll restrain himself quite alot in public since PDA (Public Display of Affection) was quite frowned upon during his lifetime so he'll make up for it when the two of you are in a more intimate and private space.

When in private, I assume he'd like kissing more intimate parts of his s/o such as their neck, collarbones, their earlobes & such.

Feel like, if sanitary pads or well, fabrics for menstruation were a thing during his time, he'd carry them just incase of an emergency had his lover been a woman.

He has a dozen scrap books and albums of his love and likes keeping little things of them in a little intricately designed box.

Well groomed hands and healthy fingernails because he wants to use them to please his darling when in bed.

Doesn't mind spending money on his sweetheart. Rather, he'd probably encourage them to use his income on themselves as freely as they want.

Red flags:

I feel like since with his busy schedule of constant assassination, scheming and living his other life as a nobleman who's taken up the job of a mathematics professor, William wouldn't be around home much. In a week, he'd probably only be around for three to four days.

Would come home late. Probably slouch against the doorframe or fall asleep on a chair or a couch - still in his bloodstained cloak.

At the beginning, once he'd begun to realize the extent of his romantic feelings towards his love interest, he would be one to push them away and act distant towards them since he wants to focus on his lifelong project and being in a relationship with his partner, knowing his end, would only hurt them.

Suicidal. Obviously. Can be quite draining on the two.

William has major trust issues. Breaking down all of his walls or well, most of it, would take years on end.

Has a saviour complex.

William would always be weary and exhausted thus making time for his lover would be difficult since he'd either be in bed or doing something (trying not) to get him killed.

Wouldn't touch his s/o for days after he's assassinated some corrupt noble. He'd think he'd be staining his beloved, even though he's always scrubbing at himself to rid himself of the blood on him (would still imagine the blood on him even after he's removed it off his skin).

Can't take compliments. Asking him to accept your compliments would be equivalent to talking to the wall.

[littleesister]

Tickle rp - green and red flags

Hello dears, I’ve recently had a few conversations with my new lers and lees. And I wanted to make a checklist on how to stay safe during rp

Remember consent is given before, after and during all types of intimacy, so here are a few examples:

Before:

Age and pronouns

What names and nicknames may be used

Ask about boundaries

Decide what spots are going to be tickled

Spots that are gonna be avoided

What tools to use or avoid

Restraints, pinning and how close the lee and ler should be

If both parties should have a safe word

During:

ONLY tickle or mention spots that have been chosen

ONLY use tools and nicknames that have been chosen

Regularly check in and ask questions

Give options for breaks and changing position or technique

Respect safe words and boundaries

If someone changes their mind about a spot stop and talk about it

After:

Cuddles and reassurances

Relax and talk about calming things while both parties recollect themselves

Don’t evaluate instantly since both parties are still full of dopamine and the brain needs time to come down from a high and flustered mood

After a few minutes or even the next day evaluate how the session went for both parties

Stay in contact and don’t just disappear after you’ve gotten what you wanted

Tips for the ler:

Remember you are in a position of power and it’s your responsibility to be in charge since your lee is in a different headspace at the moment. Be carful not to go with the flow. The lee might say yes or keep giggling if you ask them something but afterwards they might regret it. In a flustered headspace you can’t think straight nor consent to a new thing. So that’s why boundaries were sett before. Stick to the script!

Tips for lees

Be on the lookout is your ler asking for boundaries, checking in and staying on track. Are they prioritizing your wants and needs? Do you feel safe to be vulnerable or does it feel forced? If you at any point get an icky or uncomfortable feeling, use a safe word and speak out. You can change your options before, after and during. But remember it’s harder to change something afterwards so speak up. And if you feel like you can’t be open with your ler, then why are you with them!

Please stay safe and rember people lie all the time online and in real life about their age, personality and intentions. If at any point someone feels disingenuous you have two options:

confront them

or

ignore them

A few last tips

Don’t laugh at or make an overstepping of a boundary into a joke, you’re valid to sett a stop and guidelines so don’t discredit yourself.

If an apology is mostly self centered and not taking your feelings into account it’s not genuine.

You don’t owe anyone anything: no pictures, no roleplay, no reactions and no time.

Be aware of gaslighting, manipulation, narcissistic and psychopathic tendencies and how to spot these actions.

Say no, use safe words, speak up, ignore, ghost, leave behind and move on, you deserve only the best

If someone makes you feel uncomfortable they aren’t worthy of your time and that’s period!