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Shit House

Here I am, perpetually cleaning up after the roommates. My dear husband wants to work on the yard so we spent yesterday clearing up the tumbleweeds and I shoveled a year's worth of dog shit from the back yard.

No more poop. My roommates are never going to clean up after their dog, but I'm hoping they will if we plant grass.

We also tore out a stump from the front yard. My husband rented a dumpster so we got rid of the mountain of tiles we tore out of the living room. My roommates never house trained their dog and she RUINED the floors in the living room/kitchen. It's disgusting.

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I was cursed with a car

At the risk of sounding ungrateful, I'm going to vent about my dad a little. I don't like asking him for anything because gifts have strings but he wouldn't leave me alone about what I wanted for christmas. I told him I wanted floors. My husband got upset about the house smelling like dog shit all the time so we tore out the old floors but I don't have money for new floors. The house smells better but we've just been walking in the subfloors for months.

So I told my dad I wanted floors because I'm tired of my house being unliveable. He proceeded to buy me a car so he could yell at me about cleaning my garage. A grand gesture that looks impressive to anyone on the outside but it's really a way of controlling me and what I do with my own house even though his is a nightmare hoarder house worse than mine

Anyway, he bullied me into cleaning out my garage. There's barely enough space for the car and it's nearly impossible to open the doors. But I guess I can drive myself to work now instead of making my husband wake up at 5am to drive me, so that's good I guess.

For the record, I had a car but the transmission went out. It's been in my dad's garage for the past 4 years (along with a new transmission that needs to be installed) because he refuses to let anyone else fix it but is procrastinating fixing it himself. His house is a hoarder mess and he won't let anyone over to help him. He'd rather just buy a whole another car than just fix mine. It would cost way less to get my car towed and pay someone else to put in the transmission.

But he rather act insane and controlling about the new car than fix mine. He keeps buying things for the new car to customize it. He bought the car because he thinks it's cool and he wants to customize it. It's not about what I needed.

(The new car isn't new new. It's used. A 2009.)

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It never ends

Okay, so husband and I started tearing out the floors on the main floor because my roommates' just let their dog defecate on the floor and it soaked through to the sub floor.

So of course nothing can ever stay clean because now their cats started shitting pissing upstairs. I feel like everything is pointless and any work I do to make the house livable gets sabotaged by my roommates' neglect.

My husband cleaned it up and I bought another litter box for the main floor so I'm hoping it helps. All I want is for the house to not smell like animal shit all the time 😭😭😭😭

I've been cleaning the subfloors to get the cat piss out. It smells better. I'm planning on putting in cheap peel & stick flooring in because there's no point in putting in good floors while the roommates live here. We co-own the house so I can't evict them.

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the front yard

I didn't get any before pics of this before, but it was full of grass and weeds. I've been using a scuffle hoe for weeding and it's been making my life so much easier as far as yard work goes.

I planted some flowers here and built some DIY olla pots. I had to dig them up and move them closer to the plants and I think what I really needed was bigger pots. I know better for next year though.

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yard work

okay, so I didn't get before photos but imagine the entire yard if fill of like 3 to 4 ft tall tumbleweeds, like this shit we piled in this corner. But it's the whole yard.

My husband wants to build a garden back here. The entire yard (front and back) is just weeds, sand, and rocks. Everything is weird and lumpy so we'll have to buy dirt and level it out. He got off work earlier than I did yesterday and started clearing the weeds out of the yard. He made a lot of progress!

We still have the back and other side of the yard to go but it's looking better!! My yard is huge 🥲 the stuff in this portion of the backyard is shorter at least.

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Room Update

I got married last week. And my husband had a trip planned out to visit his grandma because she was getting old and he was worried about her. His flight was scheduled for tomorrow but she passed two days ago, from covid.

He's still going on the trip, along with one of his friends. His friend is staying the night at our place because it's closer to the airport so I've been cleaning all day. I still have 2 hours to clean the bathroom but the "old bedroom now hangout room" is good enough.

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I have one room I feel happy in

we finished the floors! We still need to install the base boards and paint trim but it looks so good! Doesn't smell like piss! Not full of junk!

We're gonna finish and move the bed in over the weekend. This is our room!

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also he cut his hair in the backyard and just left it there like a fucking monster

I'm stressed & trying not to lash out on my roommates so I'm posting here

Okay so I came home from work to my partner being upset about my roommates leaving trash all over the kitchen so he asked me to text them. Which I did and this is what I got back:

Why would that be the assumption? Last week they just left a bag of trash on the the kitchen floor, even though the bins were already in the garage.

Oh. And when I wasn't here to clean up after them it looked like this:

The assumption is that they WON'T pick up their trash if I don't say anything about it but go off I guess.

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I'm stressed & trying not to lash out on my roommates so I'm posting here

Okay so I came home from work to my partner being upset about my roommates leaving trash all over the kitchen so he asked me to text them. Which I did and this is what I got back:

Why would that be the assumption? Last week they just left a bag of trash on the the kitchen floor, even though the bins were already in the garage.

Oh. And when I wasn't here to clean up after them it looked like this:

The assumption is that they WON'T pick up their trash if I don't say anything about it but go off I guess.

ETA: literally NOTHING was stopping either of them from putting the bins in the garage. I even already pulled them off the street and they were right next to the garage door. I fixed the garage door like 6 years ago so if you push the button the garage door just opens. Like magic.

I feel like he was blaming the trash on me because I didn't put the bins in the garage but he could have. I'm the only one who takes the bins out on trash day. They could help out a little bit and bring them in. But Noooo.

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I started cleaning the kitchen over the weekend

Everything in the sink was covered in mold. Black slime?? The bottom of the sink was thick with it. I had to use s scraper to get it out. It was pretty gross. I'm not doing their dishes so I just put them in a big tote on the floor.

When I lived here before, I just started cooking in my bedroom because everything downstairs smelled like dog pee. When I stopped cleaning up after my roommates it got like this downstairs. (Actually it was worse)

My partner wants to get the kitchen usable again. It's bullshit that I was confined to one room of the house for so long and I'm slowly trying to regain space again instead of hiding away. I haven't tackled the cabinets yet. There's nowhere to even put clean dishes because the cabinets are full of their food now :(

I think my stove top may be ruined forever because I couldn't get the 5 years worth of burnt on food to come off :(

Got this text from my partner while I was at work last night, which.. . I really need to figure out what to do for the long term. I might call my real estate agent and ask for advice so I can find a way to move out in the future. Or kick them out. We've put so much money & effort into fixing the upstairs but I don't want to keep the house because I'm terrified of what they've done to the basement.

We have to stay here for now, for financial reasons. Rent is crazy high everywhere, buying a different house is unattainable with the current market. But I don't want to live with these people.

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we painted the floor!

we also pulled out the base boards. We're hoping to paint the walls and start installing the new floors on Sunday.

It's been a few days and the room smells pretty strongly of paint. We had to use oil based primer because that's the best thing for getting rid of bad smells.

I do not have money for this but what else can I do? We need the house livable. I still haven't gotten to the kitchen. We're eating out way too much. Living here is a nightmare and it's been so expensive to fix. My roommates have not helped out at all, not with cleaning or paying for supplies to clean up their mess.

I'm about to get a pay cut at work and I'm so stressed out about it. We've been watching a lot of Caleb Hammer's Financial Audit and I've been feeling guilty about eating out constantly and having so much debt and now I'm going to have to use credit cards to pay for new flooring 😭 I don't have an emergency fund yet.

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it actually smells better

this is the room my roommates locked their dog in when she was a puppy and let her pee all over the carpet. My partner and I tore out all the carpet and have been trying to get the pee smell out.

Our first attempt was with Nature's Miracle. It just made everything smell like perfume for a while and the pee smell kept coming back. I got it because it was readily available locally at stores.

But then someone recommended My Pet Peed (only available online) after I was complaining about my roommates' dog peeing on my tile floors on Facebook. (Yeah, they also let the dog pee all over the tile downstairs so it's not just this carpet)

It took two applications but the smell is gone!! It hasn't gotten any of the stains out of the wood (all their ads say it will) but we're painting it over with oil based primer (I wanted Kilz but I bought a different brand because it came in a bigger bucket) and then putting new floors in anyway so I don't care about the stains. It also got rid of the perfume smell from the Nature's Miracle!

I think we are going to fix this room up as a bedroom now. My partner didn't believe we'd ever get the smell out fully but we did!

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reality check

I was planning on using the spare room as our bedroom and my old room more like a living room/kitchen area but I talked about it with my partner and he was just like "why?" And I really had to rethink it.

My partner wants to use my old room as our room because it's the one room in the house that doesn't smell like pee and wants to fix up the kitchen so we can use it. We're still trying to get the urine smell out of the small spare room. I just sprayed the walls and floors with My Pet Peed so well find out soon if it lives up to the hype.

I'd been isolating myself in my bedroom for so long I forgot how fucked it is that I can't use the rest of my house. I shouldn't have to cook in my bedroom. What the fuck. My roommates ruined the house.

I've been way too forgiving because I know they struggle with mental illness. But it's fucked that they made the house unhealthy for their pets and me to live in. We should have called animal control. My partner says they're abusing me by neglecting their pets and making the house a biohazard. I never thought of it that way and I'm having a major paradigm shift.

I struggle with mental health too and I NEVER made my dog & cat live in their own piss and shit.

Anyway, I gotta get on clearing out my room so we can use it as a bedroom. It's still so full of stuff.

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well shit

Our lease ended yesterday, I didn't finish cleaning the house. I feel like such a failure.

I've been packing and moving for the past three days. We stayed in a hotel last night and I have to make room for a bed so we can sleep in the house tonight. My partner couldn't get time off work so we were up until 3am every night moving and he's basically dying of sleep deprivation. This has been one the most stressful weeks of my life.

We tore the carpet out of the room I want to use as our bedroom. I sprayed it down with enzyme cleaner and we need to paint the subfloor with kilz before we put new carpet in.

We also have a giant lizard cage in the room I need to temporarily set the bed up in (my old room is the only one that doesn't smell like pee because I don't let my roommate's dog in there) so I'm struggling to make space for the bed.

Our entire two bedroom apartment is in the garage right now.

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I finally got back to the house

I went through the massive pile of books on top of my dresser. I had two trash bags of hardcovers to throw out (can't recycle hard covers), two bins of paperback that went to recycling, and one box that went to donation to the library.

A lot of the books I got rid of were either damaged or outdated. Everything that was good quality went to the library.

My partner and I also tore out the carpet my roommate's dog pissed on out of the first spare room that we want to use as our bedroom. I want to hire someone to install the new carpet so it gets done before we move in but he's very insistent on doing it himself. His only day off is Tuesday and I'm on night shifts this week & working on his day off. Next week we move in. When are we going to get this carpet done??

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I basically didn't do anything

I went to the house for the first time in about 3 weeks. I got stressed out and felt sick so I ended up just going back to the apartment to play video games.

I moved a few things around but didn't get rid of anything. I did get my mail that I needed at least.

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I'm having a bad mental health day

I'm really struggling to do anything. I'm not even going to the house today because I need a break. I'm trying to take it easy so I can calm down. I did some Journaling when I woke up. I stopped by my partner's work to visit with him and bring him lunch and I did some shopping. I thought getting out and doing stuff would help me feel less depressed but it didn't. I took a shower and I'm gonna nap after I post this. Maybe that will help.

CW: angry rant after the cut

I was up all last night and couldn't sleep because I was thinking about how angry I am with my roommates.

This entire floor was covered in piss & shit with paper towels cemented to the tile. My roommate kept saying he would clean it up. Did he? No!! My partner and I did. I spent like $200 on cleaning supplies, he had everything he needed to clean. He said he was going to but days went by and nothing. He said he would clean on Tuesday and we came back Sunday and nothing was done. My partner couldn't be in the house because of the smell so we cleaned it ourselves. It still smells like urine but not as overpowering as it was 😢

I'm just tired of being the one doing 95% of the cleaning. I did ALL of the cleaning the first two years we lived together. After I stopped cleaning up after them everything went to shit. I haven't used the kitchen in 5 years because it smells like urine. And they never cleaned it.

The basement was flooding last year and the plumber refused to come in the house. I wasn't even living there, I was with my partner in his apartment. And I'm still the one that cleaned the kitchen and the laundry room.

The other roommate always says thank you and tells me how great it looks and I HATE that. I don't care that you're grateful. I don't want to always be the one doing the cleaning. I work more hours and have a harder job. I haven't lived in the house for the past two years. Clean up your own fucking mess. I don't want praise. I want them to clean up their own shit.

Talking to them does nothing. They say they'll clean up but they DON'T. I swear I'm gonna start charging them $75/hr to clean up after them and just take the money from the household account idc.

I'm scared to live in the house again. I was so depressed living there before, things got REALLY bad. It'll probably be better this time because my partner will be there to support me. My partner keeps telling me it will be okay. But I'm still scared. I keep having break downs and crying if I think about it too much.

And my partner's mad too. He thinks my roommates shouldn't have a dog if they can't take care of it. But the dog is extremely reactive and wouldn't be able to be rehomedso he's not going to say anything to my roommates about that. My partner is going to try to work with training the dog since my roommates haven't. He feels absolutely terrible that this dog has been forced to live in her own urine and feces. It's unsanitary and cruel. My partner is also worried that the urine soaked through the grout and damaged the foundation of the house.

I don't even know how my roommates' cats are because they stay in their room. But my roommates always smell like cat pee and it's a little bit embarrassing for me to be around them in public.

I don't even know what to do except keep cleaning. Next week. Not today.