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Random pop in to gush about how much I LOVE the ace spec and aro spec flags. They’re just so aesthetically pleasing!! The green and blue for the arospec flag is like a sea foam feel and the ace spec purple and pink is so soft to look at

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Hey, I hope you're doing well. If you would be able to share my emergency commissions/donation post it would make my day! https://lifeisfullofsimplepleasures.tumblr.com/post/679628550656196608/help-out-a-trans-dude-recovering-from-top-surgery

Of course, king!!

It’s been a while since I’ve posted but I’m always up to help,, so I’m sending my support to you!!

https://lifeisfullofsimplepleasures.tumblr.com/post/679628550656196608/help-out-a-trans-dude-recovering-from-top-surgery

[just-a-demi]

So, does aromantic count as part of LGBTQ+? I have tried looking it up, but no real answers.

hi,

I'm going to assume that you're pretty new to the queer community - aromantic absolutely counts as part of LGBTQ+. The plus, among other things, includes QIA - questioning, intersex, and asexual/aromantic/agender.

that said, there is a portion of this community who believe that the LGBT (or, some of them will use LGB, or strictly gay) community should be more exclusionary than it is. These folks often are... frankly, not arguing that in good faith. They typically will argue that same-sex attraction defines being part of the queer community, that queer itself is actually a slur and shouldn't be used (nevermind how gay, likewise, is historically a slur), and that trans individuals shouldn't be part of the community. The goal is to cut everything down back to a gay/straight dichotomy (some new to the movement will argue that they include bi women; this is a genuine belief for some, but most will move to what is called "lesbian separatism"). This movement is old, and extremely disliked and outright hated by basically everyone outside of their often cult-like system. Notably, it is largely run by white women who view the patriarchy as the sole source of all bigotry and problems. They call themselves many names, often depending on how far into this they are-

typically, "anti-pan", exclusionist, radfem (radical feminist), 2nd wave feminist, TERF (trans-exclusionary radical feminist), and lesbian separatist is the current order. They find whomever they believe has the weakest support in the queer community and try to force them out via death threats, suicide bait, and "discourse" that is often carried out only within their circles, creating reasons to hate their targets.

I hope this explanation helps. To make my opinion clear, I think any position except full inclusionism is a fantastic sign to leave that space fast, and block them.

- mod kee

[just-a-demi]

Demisexual culture is not having a preference but also technically having a preference (my "preference" is "people that would be easier to feel closer to")

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hi as pride month draws near for june reminder: aces/aros belong in our spaces

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More LGBTeas~ 🏳️‍🌈🧋

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It’s always a good time to find ways to connect with other ace and aro people! 

[ID: A light orange square with black text and the TAAAP logo in the upper right corner. On the right side is a graphic of a group of people hugging and facing forward, all wearing green or purple clothes. The text reads “Why Join an Aspec Group? To compare experiences and learn more about the identities that you share, as well as the variety of experiences within ace and aro spectrums to gain greater understanding about them. To bask in the wonderful presence of other aspec people who won’t try to set you up with someone for amatonormative reasons.To discover how to create a life that you want, rather than one dictated by social norms To meet some of the coolest people you’ll ever know!” End ID.]

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Polyamorous demisexual culture is like, "Yeah, I can love more than one partner. You know. Eventually. In theory. When I can be bothered."

jbxdsfghjhgf I used to id as demiromantic so yeah

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I need this pin

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demi culture is being awesome as fuck

(i'm not demi but my best friend is and she is awesome as fuck so shoutout to her)

Heck yeah we are all awesome af

[just-a-demi]

Made a demisexual flag bracelet! My cousin and my friend both came out as demisexual recently, so I made them both bracelets. I'm going to put it on my Etsy (the Rainbow String) if anyone wants one!

This pattern has so many backward-forward and forward-backward knots. I kinda hated it while making it but also the texture is pretty cool and I did eventually manage to do a complete iteration of the pattern without having to unpick anything.

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Demisexual culture is telling your mom you’re Demi and her saying “isn’t that how all people are” like mom got something to tell us

Almost no one talks about the asexual spectrum so the first time I explained demisexuality to my best friend she was like “wait... there’s a name for this?” Maybe there are loads more acespec people out there, but they just don’t know it even exists. Which is sad

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Sorry for the lack of posts! My schedule is getting pretty full rn (now that summer’s over) so my attention isn’t on this blog as much! I will get a queue started tomorrow!

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I now have pride flag themed toads available in my shop!!! There are lots of different flags to come, but for now here are 5 different ones!

If you can’t purchase from me, a like and reblog is a great way to help support my small biz for free!

Check out my etsy below to snag one!!

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Some Bi and Pan positivity to end the week on a high note

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Bisexuals in f/m relationships are still 100% queer

Pansexuals in f/m relationships are still 100% queer

Polysexuals in f/m relationships are still 100% queer

Omnisexuals in f/m relationships are still 100% queer

Asexuals in f/m relationships are still 100% queer

Aromantics in f/m relationships are still 100% queer

Trans people in f/m relationships are still 100% queer

Your queerness doesn't depend on your relationship!!

[just-a-demi]

Hello! So recently I have figured it out that I am ace but its still confusing to me which part of the spectrum i might belong to ,now I think I might be a demi or a sec favorable ace ,but I have never connected to anyone on a emotional level so I am not sure ,any advice ? Also how do you know if you are a demi if you haven't been in a relationship or had an emotional relationship

Hello,, I want to start off saying that I'm a demi who has never been in a romantic nor sexual relationship, so I kind of understand the boat you're in.

Labels are some of the most confusing things, and you don't always have to know. Hell, it took me many labels to find the ones for me- and they're still open to change.

Try to find those emotional connections and relationships. If you don't feel sexually attracted, then maybe demi isn't the term for you. But remember that learning and discovering your sexually isn't a one-and-done thing; experiment with labels, and don't be afraid if one isn't working. Plus those relationships you build with others are important, maybe you'll make a friend for a lifetime

💜

(feel free to add on)